November 25, 2021 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, my best friend and I have been really close for 17 years but now we are constantly bickering over her twisted ideas of love and marriage. She has always taken an interest in reading books about male and female relationships, but her favorite book is Steve Harvey’s “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” and she has twisted each chapter to fit how she chooses to live. In the past, she has dated great guys, but she would break up with the guys if they didn’t have any desire to take care of her financially....................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.
If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more. Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna
read this one right here today. Okay, buckle up, hold
long type. We got it for you here. It is
(00:22):
the Strawberry Letter subject. That's not what Steve Harvey wrote
in that book. Dear Stephen, Shirley my best friend, and
now you're gonna like it. Steve, my best friend and
I have been really close for seventeen years, but now
we are constantly bickering over her twisted ideas of love
and marriage. She has always taken an interest in reading
books about male and female relationships, but her favorite book
(00:45):
is Steve Harvey's Act like a Lady, Think like a Man,
and she has twisted each chapter to fit how she
chooses to live. In the past, she has dated great guys,
but she would break up with the guys if they
didn't have any desire to take care of her financially.
She brings nothing to the table and she lives paycheck
to paycheck. She has a new guy that she is dating,
(01:08):
and he has a great job, so she's happy. She
brags about how he helps her with her bills and
he gives her money to shop. She has told me
that he makes comments about her current living conditions because
she lives with her parents and she uses their car.
I told her that he is making those comments for
a reason, because she maintains that she will not move
(01:29):
out or buy her own car, because if a man
has an issue with it, he will get her a
nice place of her own and buy her a new car.
She said that Steve Harvey's book says that mails are
hunters and that all all the women do need to
do is stay pretty with her hair together, nails and
toes done, and a man will come in and take
(01:50):
care of everything else. What gir up right now? Whoa
Carla Leslie? Okay, we're doing this all wrong, of course
to her? All right? Uh the lady, the letter writer
says um. She said that Steve Harvey said that it's
(02:10):
a woman's role to take care of her man, raise
the kids, and keep the house together. I read Steve
Harvey's book, and nowhere in there does it say that.
I need you to clear this up because she listens
to the show every day. So do men want women
to bring something to the table or is it really
the man's role to step in and do it all? Well,
(02:31):
let me start by saying, you're so right a letter writer.
You're so right, so on point. It's not so much
about a woman bringing something to the table, you know,
it's about the attitude of your bestie thinking that men
owe her something just because that's what she's sang in
(02:53):
this letter. I mean, that's where she's she's got it
all twisted. A man will do that, they'll they'll do
that and more for her if she has the means,
if he has the means and the desire to. But
that's up to him, all right, that's not up to her.
My advice to her would be save some of her
money while she's staying with mom and dad, just in
case her man, you know, doesn't move her out and
(03:16):
doesn't buy her a car. At least then she'll be
able to afford her own place, in her own car
with her own money. And you know, of course it's
nice to have someone buy and give you gifts and
stuff like that. Take care of you, and all you
have to do is sit there and look pretty. That's nice.
But just sitting around and waiting for a man to
do that, it's just not very smart. Okay, get out,
(03:37):
get your own, be your own boss. Whatever the man
does for you, that's gravy. That's extra. He owes you nothing, okay,
absolutely nothing. And Steve said, nothing of the kind. What
book did you read? What book did you read? He said,
nothing of the kind? Did you Steve? She helped me
write a book. Yes that ain't in now, No, ain't
(03:58):
nobody told you that somewhere, and sit on your ass.
Just look pretty, and that's it. I don't even want
to be in this left. That's not what Steve Hard
wrote his book. I appreciate saying that, lady, but your
friend is seventeen years got all these twisted ideas about
love and made she interested in reading books about male
(04:19):
and female relationships. But her favorite book is the one
I wrote. Act like a lady, Think like a man. Now.
In the past, she didn't data some good guys, but
she break up with them if they didn't have any
desire to take care of her finance. Girl, Well, this
day two, you let me show you this I bought
(04:39):
in my purse. You see these stack of bills. Now
we're going back to your place or what, But we
need to go through these bills. You know you ain't.
You ain't fend to pay these bill Oh you get
your ass out of here. Yeah, I ain't sleeping with
(05:01):
you no more. She brings nothing to the table, and
she lived paycheck to paycheck, and she's dating this new guy.
Got a great job, so she happened. She brags about
he helps her with her bills and gives her money
to shop. Now, she's not telling you what she's doing
to get these little car notes in the shopping's free.
(05:23):
She up in hell or her back what she and hell?
Letting it go. She don't bring nothing to the table.
She is the table. I'm telling you right now, y'all
(05:48):
quick looking at these letters without seeing was in hell?
He a new guy, pay her bills, gives her money
to shop all this hill because she up in hill back,
I thought, keep her hair down now putting it down.
She keep her head hanging off the edge of the bed.
(06:09):
That's how she keep her head always going down up
in here. It's going down up in hill, and she
knows what she's doing too. It's just so when men
get tired of it and get you all these reading
all these bills while eating, just putting out all kind
(06:30):
of bill fail, phone bill, grocery bill. Yeah, look what
I had to help. I help my mom Knil with
the rench. You don't want to do nothing for that? Wow? Wow,
All right? Hang on. Part two of Steve's response is
coming up at twenty three after the hour of today's letter.
The subject that's not what Steve Harvey wrote in that book.
(06:50):
We'll be back right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve.
We're ready to recap the Strawberry letter. Now, subject that's
not what Steve Harvey wrote in that book. Let's recap.
This woman been dating using my book all wrong. Anybody
told her due none of this hit. So she don't
want no man. Everybody she date a man if they
(07:13):
don't start taking care of her financially, she break up
with him. Once she got a new guy. Now he
got a good job and everything. So she bragging about
how he helps her with her bills and he gives
her money to shop. Before we left, I explain to you,
why are you getting money for your bills? And why
you can go shot. Why because you ain't here on
your back or she's not just looking pretty with her
(07:39):
hair nails backup? Raise your role? Okay, she said that.
Steve Harvey said it's a woman's role to take care
of her man, raise the kids, and keep the house
together all the where did I tell you your job
is to take care man? All the women need to
do is stay pretty with our hair together, nails and
toes done. And that's not in my book and everything else.
(08:02):
Ain't nobody for to do that? And you bring nothing
to the table. According to this latter told me that
this man now been making comments about her current living
conditions because she lives with her parents and she uses
their car. The lady wrote the latter saying, I told
her that he's making those comments for a reason. But
she maintains that she will not move out or buy
(08:25):
her own car because if a man has an issue
with it, he will get it got an issue with it,
he will get her nice place on her own and
buy her a new car. Okay, are you crazy? See baby,
let me explain to you where you're going wrong. Just
hold that. First of all, you had several men, good
man and the moment they don't want to financially take
(08:48):
care of you want to break up with. Well, let's dude,
right here's taking care of some stuff like it. But
now he hadn't bought up the fact that you live
with your mom and you're using their car because he
can he trying to figure out, okay, where we're in
there Now, you say, if he really loved you, hear
him help you get your place and buy a new car. No,
he's not. Now you haven't been on your back with
(09:11):
these men before and it ain't produced a house or
call or nothing. To hell else when you fitting to
learn that this don't work. I got this your requirement,
but you keep passing out cooking before you get call's apartment,
rents and money. And then the dude, that dude give
(09:33):
you this money. He started asking you why are you
still living with your mom and you and you're driving
that car? So does that mean he's getting sick of her?
He's getting because he thought he had something. He got food,
he thought he had something, found out he didn't. Now
she said that Steve Harvey books said that males are hunted.
(09:54):
I've always said that, and all that women need to
do is stay pretty what I had together, nails and
toes done, and a man will come and take care
of everything else. What carlt girl, Let's leave now because
y'all ought to have a lock on it? You calling
Monica can go now? Y'all have done your nails, and
(10:16):
does y'all ought to be good? What y'all in here for? Exactly?
Y'a I'm trying to take care of y'allself. Oh, y'all,
y'all trying to be independent? That's dumb, she says. Steve
Harvey said it's a woman's role to take care of
her man. How are you gonna take care of man
(10:38):
if you ain't working? See why would I say that
and you ain't working? Yeah? I ran Steve Harvey's book
and nowhere in there doesn't say that. I need you
to clear this up because she listens to the show
every day. So do men want women to bring something
to the table? The answer to that is yes. Now,
let me help you understand. It's a little bit better.
(10:58):
If a man is wealthy, his requirement may not be
for you to have a job. But now, if he
has the means, let me tell you what he do
on he wants a woman that he can put on
his arm and take places. He wants a woman who
looks good, I mean that founds good in meetings and
social setting. He wants a woman that's able to classly
(11:20):
mingle in and out of all different situation. He wants
a woman that's stylished. So what may want a woman
who's really good with kids, because he may have children.
He's also looking at a woman where if she has kids,
what type of mother she is, and how can he
fit in there and be provided for her and all them.
(11:41):
He also looking for a woman who can better him,
who can help him be a better him. Now, if
for a woman can do those things, that becomes your job.
And your job is very simple, it has a great
reward to it. But if you bring nothing to the table.
See at one point in time, this is what happens
(12:03):
to people who bring nothing to the table. You're gonna
pull your champ one time. It ain't gonna be nothing.
Oh it's not gonna be a table. Yeah, you're gonna
pull your champ and ain't gonna be nothing to eat. Oh,
you at the table, but ain't a damn thing gonna
there for you to eat? Because he didn't eat and left.
You've got to bring something to the table, and in
(12:23):
this last swaggered elegance under wisdom of something, you know,
watch his back. Yeah, baby, listen to me. I don't
like him because when you're not looking, he looking upside
your head. Yes, loyalty, Yeah, Steve, Steve, his name is Sawyer.
Stop calling this man seem you've done that a few times.
(12:51):
Steve that Al Burns. Don't say hey, Samas I said
hell boy should be behind me. All Right, we gotta
get out of here. Email us our Instagram us your
(13:12):
thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at Steve Harvey f M.
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
All right time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.
If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more. Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna
read this one right here today. Okay, buckle up, hold
long type. We got it for you here. It is
(00:22):
the Strawberry Letter subject. That's not what Steve Harvey wrote
in that book. Dear Stephen, Shirley my best friend, and
now you're gonna like it. Steve, my best friend and
I have been really close for seventeen years, but now
we are constantly bickering over her twisted ideas of love
and marriage. She has always taken an interest in reading
books about male and female relationships, but her favorite book
(00:45):
is Steve Harvey's Act like a Lady, Think like a Man,
and she has twisted each chapter to fit how she
chooses to live. In the past, she has dated great guys,
but she would break up with the guys if they
didn't have any desire to take care of her financially.
She brings nothing to the table and she lives paycheck
to paycheck. She has a new guy that she is dating,
(01:08):
and he has a great job, so she's happy. She
brags about how he helps her with her bills and
he gives her money to shop. She has told me
that he makes comments about her current living conditions because
she lives with her parents and she uses their car.
I told her that he is making those comments for
a reason, because she maintains that she will not move
(01:29):
out or buy her own car, because if a man
has an issue with it, he will get her a
nice place of her own and buy her a new car.
She said that Steve Harvey's book says that mails are
hunters and that all all the women do need to
do is stay pretty with her hair together, nails and
toes done, and a man will come in and take
(01:50):
care of everything else. What gir up right now? Whoa
Carla Leslie? Okay, we're doing this all wrong, of course
to her? All right? Uh the lady, the letter writer
says um. She said that Steve Harvey said that it's
(02:10):
a woman's role to take care of her man, raise
the kids, and keep the house together. I read Steve
Harvey's book, and nowhere in there does it say that.
I need you to clear this up because she listens
to the show every day. So do men want women
to bring something to the table or is it really
the man's role to step in and do it all? Well,
(02:31):
let me start by saying, you're so right a letter writer.
You're so right, so on point. It's not so much
about a woman bringing something to the table, you know,
it's about the attitude of your bestie thinking that men
owe her something just because that's what she's sang in
(02:53):
this letter. I mean, that's where she's she's got it
all twisted. A man will do that, they'll they'll do
that and more for her if she has the means,
if he has the means and the desire to. But
that's up to him, all right, that's not up to her.
My advice to her would be save some of her
money while she's staying with mom and dad, just in
case her man, you know, doesn't move her out and
(03:16):
doesn't buy her a car. At least then she'll be
able to afford her own place, in her own car
with her own money. And you know, of course it's
nice to have someone buy and give you gifts and
stuff like that. Take care of you, and all you
have to do is sit there and look pretty. That's nice.
But just sitting around and waiting for a man to
do that, it's just not very smart. Okay, get out,
(03:37):
get your own, be your own boss. Whatever the man
does for you, that's gravy. That's extra. He owes you nothing, okay,
absolutely nothing. And Steve said, nothing of the kind. What
book did you read? What book did you read? He said,
nothing of the kind? Did you Steve? She helped me
write a book. Yes that ain't in now, No, ain't
(03:58):
nobody told you that somewhere, and sit on your ass.
Just look pretty, and that's it. I don't even want
to be in this left. That's not what Steve Hard
wrote his book. I appreciate saying that, lady, but your
friend is seventeen years got all these twisted ideas about
love and made she interested in reading books about male
(04:19):
and female relationships. But her favorite book is the one
I wrote. Act like a lady, Think like a man. Now.
In the past, she didn't data some good guys, but
she break up with them if they didn't have any
desire to take care of her finance. Girl, Well, this
day two, you let me show you this I bought
(04:39):
in my purse. You see these stack of bills. Now
we're going back to your place or what, But we
need to go through these bills. You know you ain't.
You ain't fend to pay these bill Oh you get
your ass out of here. Yeah, I ain't sleeping with
(05:01):
you no more. She brings nothing to the table, and
she lived paycheck to paycheck, and she's dating this new guy.
Got a great job, so she happened. She brags about
he helps her with her bills and gives her money
to shop. Now, she's not telling you what she's doing
to get these little car notes in the shopping's free.
(05:23):
She up in hell or her back what she and hell?
Letting it go. She don't bring nothing to the table.
She is the table. I'm telling you right now, y'all
(05:48):
quick looking at these letters without seeing was in hell?
He a new guy, pay her bills, gives her money
to shop all this hill because she up in hill back,
I thought, keep her hair down now putting it down.
She keep her head hanging off the edge of the bed.
(06:09):
That's how she keep her head always going down up
in here. It's going down up in hill, and she
knows what she's doing too. It's just so when men
get tired of it and get you all these reading
all these bills while eating, just putting out all kind
(06:30):
of bill fail, phone bill, grocery bill. Yeah, look what
I had to help. I help my mom Knil with
the rench. You don't want to do nothing for that? Wow? Wow,
All right? Hang on. Part two of Steve's response is
coming up at twenty three after the hour of today's letter.
The subject that's not what Steve Harvey wrote in that book.
(06:50):
We'll be back right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve.
We're ready to recap the Strawberry letter. Now, subject that's
not what Steve Harvey wrote in that book. Let's recap.
This woman been dating using my book all wrong. Anybody
told her due none of this hit. So she don't
want no man. Everybody she date a man if they
(07:13):
don't start taking care of her financially, she break up
with him. Once she got a new guy. Now he
got a good job and everything. So she bragging about
how he helps her with her bills and he gives
her money to shop. Before we left, I explain to you,
why are you getting money for your bills? And why
you can go shot. Why because you ain't here on
your back or she's not just looking pretty with her
(07:39):
hair nails backup? Raise your role? Okay, she said that.
Steve Harvey said it's a woman's role to take care
of her man, raise the kids, and keep the house
together all the where did I tell you your job
is to take care man? All the women need to
do is stay pretty with our hair together, nails and
toes done. And that's not in my book and everything else.
(08:02):
Ain't nobody for to do that? And you bring nothing
to the table. According to this latter told me that
this man now been making comments about her current living
conditions because she lives with her parents and she uses
their car. The lady wrote the latter saying, I told
her that he's making those comments for a reason. But
she maintains that she will not move out or buy
(08:25):
her own car because if a man has an issue
with it, he will get it got an issue with it,
he will get her nice place on her own and
buy her a new car. Okay, are you crazy? See baby,
let me explain to you where you're going wrong. Just
hold that. First of all, you had several men, good
man and the moment they don't want to financially take
(08:48):
care of you want to break up with. Well, let's dude,
right here's taking care of some stuff like it. But
now he hadn't bought up the fact that you live
with your mom and you're using their car because he
can he trying to figure out, okay, where we're in
there Now, you say, if he really loved you, hear
him help you get your place and buy a new car. No,
he's not. Now you haven't been on your back with
(09:11):
these men before and it ain't produced a house or
call or nothing. To hell else when you fitting to
learn that this don't work. I got this your requirement,
but you keep passing out cooking before you get call's apartment,
rents and money. And then the dude, that dude give
(09:33):
you this money. He started asking you why are you
still living with your mom and you and you're driving
that car? So does that mean he's getting sick of her?
He's getting because he thought he had something. He got food,
he thought he had something, found out he didn't. Now
she said that Steve Harvey books said that males are hunted.
(09:54):
I've always said that, and all that women need to
do is stay pretty what I had together, nails and
toes done, and a man will come and take care
of everything else. What carlt girl, Let's leave now because
y'all ought to have a lock on it? You calling
Monica can go now? Y'all have done your nails, and
(10:16):
does y'all ought to be good? What y'all in here for? Exactly?
Y'a I'm trying to take care of y'allself. Oh, y'all,
y'all trying to be independent? That's dumb, she says. Steve
Harvey said it's a woman's role to take care of
her man. How are you gonna take care of man
(10:38):
if you ain't working? See why would I say that
and you ain't working? Yeah? I ran Steve Harvey's book
and nowhere in there doesn't say that. I need you
to clear this up because she listens to the show
every day. So do men want women to bring something
to the table? The answer to that is yes. Now,
let me help you understand. It's a little bit better.
(10:58):
If a man is wealthy, his requirement may not be
for you to have a job. But now, if he
has the means, let me tell you what he do
on he wants a woman that he can put on
his arm and take places. He wants a woman who
looks good, I mean that founds good in meetings and
social setting. He wants a woman that's able to classly
(11:20):
mingle in and out of all different situation. He wants
a woman that's stylished. So what may want a woman
who's really good with kids, because he may have children.
He's also looking at a woman where if she has kids,
what type of mother she is, and how can he
fit in there and be provided for her and all them.
(11:41):
He also looking for a woman who can better him,
who can help him be a better him. Now, if
for a woman can do those things, that becomes your job.
And your job is very simple, it has a great
reward to it. But if you bring nothing to the table.
See at one point in time, this is what happens
(12:03):
to people who bring nothing to the table. You're gonna
pull your champ one time. It ain't gonna be nothing.
Oh it's not gonna be a table. Yeah, you're gonna
pull your champ and ain't gonna be nothing to eat. Oh,
you at the table, but ain't a damn thing gonna
there for you to eat? Because he didn't eat and left.
You've got to bring something to the table, and in
(12:23):
this last swaggered elegance under wisdom of something, you know,
watch his back. Yeah, baby, listen to me. I don't
like him because when you're not looking, he looking upside
your head. Yes, loyalty, Yeah, Steve, Steve, his name is Sawyer.
Stop calling this man seem you've done that a few times.
(12:51):
Steve that Al Burns. Don't say hey, Samas I said
hell boy should be behind me. All Right, we gotta
get out of here. Email us our Instagram us your
(13:12):
thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at Steve Harvey f M.
You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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