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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:25):
Thank you for you subject. The kids saw the whole video.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a mother of three boys,
and I just got remarried less than two years ago.
I have a thirteen year old son and an eight
year old son from my first marriage. My new husband
and I have a seven month old son, and I
had some complications after the baby, and I really I
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haven't really been able to give my husband what he's
used to in the bedroom, so I take care of
his needs other ways. He and I always have had
great chemistry in the bedroom and we do all of
the things that are necessary to keep the sparks flying
between the sheets. Before we got married, one of my
old friends joined us at a hotel for an amazing experience.
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My husband said he had to film it since I
told him it was a once in a lifetime experience.
I had no idea that he still had a video
until my thirteen year old son asked me about it.
I had a follow up appointment with my doctor and
I had to take my eight year old with me.
It was a long wait time, so I let him
watch videos on my phone. I went to the back
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to be seen by the doctor, then my son and
I left. I wasn't even thinking about my phone because
I was ready to pick up my baby from my
sister's house and go home. When I got home, my
thirteen year old said there was a sad video with me,
his stepdad and a woman on it. I could feel
my heart racing as I asked him to show me
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the video. It was the threesome video, and he said
his brother sent it to him while I was at
the doctor's office. My husband's silly behind and had texted
it to me as a joke, so he can't wait,
saying he can't wait to make me holler like that again.
He didn't know my son had my phone. I was
so ashamed. What do I tell my sons, Should I
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be honest or act like it's nothing.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Oh my gosh, I.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Just can't begin to imagine how you must feel right now.
I mean, adults do what adults do. In your case,
threesomes no judgment here. But when you do what you do,
or in your case, when you did what you did,
it ends up in the hands of your kids, that's
got to be a whole new level, new level of
embarrassment and shame, especially when you're thinking it's just the
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three of you. And I know your older son said
his little brother send him the video, but he probably
didn't know what else to do but send it to
his big brother. I'm sure they were both traumatized after
seeing mommy and daddy in the act. No one, and
I do mean no one wants to see, wants to hear,
wants to think about their parents doing it at no
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time ever in life. I think both you and your
husband should talk to the boys together, and honestly, I
don't know exactly what you should tell them, I really don't.
What you can't do, though, is try to lie your
way out of this. When you gotta you gotta tell
some kind of truth. You gotta get them some kind
of understanding here, because I mean they're young boys, because
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they've seen the video. They've seen the video, and they
know their parents when they see their parents.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Steve, well, well, well, well Sherley, Yes, Steve, you like me,
have nothing you can say to these damn people.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
No nice try.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
You said nothing. It's nothing we can say. What do
you want us to do? I don't even gotta go
through this letter? You and your husband, it's just this
simple made a sex tape with another woman. Y'all always
trying to do something to keep everything sparks flying between
the sheets. And then your dumb ass husband, he said,
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since it's a once in a lifetime thing, he got
to record it with his stupid ass this right here,
he had to record it, since it was a once
in a lifetime and y'all set up there and let
him this what you get. I don't know what to
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tell you. This what you get.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
We ain't got nothing for you.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
We can end this strawberry letter right now. We don't
know what to tell you. We don't know what you're
supposed to say to these boys. But I do know
when you went back there to see your doctor and
and your dumb ass husband texted to you and said,
I can't wait to hear you holler like that again.
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That eight year old got it. When the eight year
old got it, he got marid. I got to bring
my brother into this because I don't have the band
within my mind to process none of this. Maybe my
big brother can help me. Hey, bro, look at him.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
I just saw this. I have no idea even what
they doing.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
I'm eight, I'm eight now. I heard you talking the
other day about this girl you was liking up at
the school.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Have y'all ever done this? Wow?
Speaker 3 (05:34):
It's this our mama? Where is our real daddy act
in this damn video? We didn't have this problem when
she was married to our father. Now this other man
in him. I told you I ain't like him. Why
he got mama like that? Put this other woman in him.
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And they don't look the same no more either. Nah.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
This boy had seen everybody niked.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
God, whoo you see your father in law naked, step dad,
but in the ready set gold position.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
God.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Now you in here looking down, you looking at yourself,
trying to figure out, Man, am I ever gonna be this? Oh?
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Goodness? What is he in here? Doing? This little boy,
This little eight year old boy.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
When he got there at the doctor's office, he sent
it to his brother right away because he needed some
questions answered.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Hang on, Steve, hey, we'll have part two. Yourse to
today's Strawberry Letters come up twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's subject, the kid saw the whole video. We'll get
back into it right after this.
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Speaker 1 (07:21):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.
This one's a crazy one. The subject the kids saw
the whole video.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
This lady's remarried. She has two sons from a previous marriage.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Her new husband, they got a seven month old son,
you know, and she had some complications after the baby
and ain't really been able to give her husband what
he's used to in the bedroom, so.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
I take care of his knees otherways.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
I don't know what that mean, but he and I've
always had great chemistry in the bedroom and we do
all the things that necessary to keep the sparks flying.
And before we got married, one of my before we
got married, now, one of my old friends. This was
before the last baby, before the complications. One of my
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old friends joined us at a hotel for an amazing experience.
My husband said he had to film it since I
told him it was a once in a lifetime experience.
His dumb ass had to film and you're dumb behind letty, Yeah,
I had no idea that he still had the video
on till my thirteen year old son asked me about it.
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So she had a follow up appointment with the doctor
and the long wait, so she had the eight year
old with us, So she left the eight year old
with her son, left her phone with the eight year old.
You don't ever do that. You don't ever give your
phone to some kids. And you ain't right there. You
went back in to see the doctor. Then your son.
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You the eight year old, y'all left. You wasn't even
I wasn't even thinking about my phone because I was
going to pick up the baby from my sister's.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
House when I got home.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
Now, the thirteen year old said, that was a sad
video with me, his stepdad and a woman on it.
I could feel my heart racing as I asked him
to show me the video. It was, I be damn
the threesome video. He said, his brother sent it to
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him while I was in the doctor's office.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
God dog, the baby has seen it. God dog.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
The eight year older seen it, yea god dog, And
he said his brother sent it to him while I
was at the doctor's office. You know why the brother
sent it to him, because he ate I can't process
what I'm looking at, Big brother. I'm gonna send this
to you because I know you, my big brother, you
know a lot. So tell me what the hell going
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on in hire? Who is all these people? What is
this man doing to my mama? What is my mama
doing to this other woman? Why is this other woman
in here doing this to my mama? My mama acting like.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
She like it. Now, the thirty year old say, it's
a sad video.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Yeah, my husband silly behind text it to me as
a joke. Why he was She was at the doctor
office saying, I can't wait to make me holler like
that again. He didn't know my son had my fuck.
I was so ashamed. What do I tell my sons?
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Should I be honest or act like it's nothing? Be honest?
This ain't the time for honesty. What what does you
honestly fit to say?
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I don't really see you?
Speaker 3 (10:41):
No?
Speaker 2 (10:41):
No? Do I act like it's nothing?
Speaker 3 (10:44):
Well, I don't know if you could do that, but honest,
what did you honestly finish?
Speaker 2 (10:48):
Say? Listen? It was a time doing.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
What are you finn to tell these two boys that
your sons Listen, Mama was going through some things. And
me and your new daddy stop calling him my daddy.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Mama and me and your new daddy, we want our
old daddy back. We didn't have none of this with
our old daddy.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
Yeah, we don't like our new daddy no more. What
do I tell my son, Shirley? I was waiting on
Shirley's response because I could not imagine what Shirley could say.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
But you know what, I can't imagine what I'm gonna
say either, because.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
I don't know what the hell to tell you. See,
I'm gonna lie now. I don't know what you're gonna do.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
I don't know. Listen, that is not me, That is
not your daddy.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
You know, they got this stuff out here, now call
aid and they don't win and put some people together.
You know what, me and your daddy is suing this
woman that's in this video right now, right.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
That's because you.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
Know the woman that's in this video, that's Kim Kardashing
and she put a lot of makeup on it made
herself look darker.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Her whole body. Yeah, and we got we got to
do some type of life. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
Look listen, I don't even have a good one for you.
But lying is essential at this point. But what you
must do is immediately get into denial that that ain't you. Now,
they not.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Gonna believe you because they saw, yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
And one thing about kids, they believe what they see. Now,
what you really need to do is get these boys
in some.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Type of damn therapy therapy.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Because these boys is traumatized because your they mama been
in here just wildly and I don't know how hard
you was hollering in that damn video. But your husband
had your new husband made a special note of that.
And a boy's feelings for his mother, it's different than
any other woman you are. A boy's first love is
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their mama. That's why boys will kill you about their
mama because that was their first love as a woman.
And now you've scarred that love because you you've damaged
it all right. See all I know about my mama
elves V. Harvey scriptures and going to church. Now I
know she had five kids, but I have no idea
how they got because I.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Know my daddy is not have had sex.
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