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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:26):
Thank you for you subject. The kids saw the whole video.
Dear Stephen Shirley, I am a mother of three boys,
and I just got remarried less than two years ago.
I have a thirteen year old son and an eight
year old son from my first marriage. My new husband
and I have a seven month old son, and I
had some complications after the baby, and I really I
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haven't really been able to give my husband what he's
used to in the bedroom, so I take care of
his needs other ways. He and I always have had
great chemistry in the bedroom and we do all of
the things that are necessary to keep the sparks flying
between the sheets. Before we got married, one of my
old friends joined us at a hotel for an amazing experience.
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My husband said he had to film it since I
told him it was a once in a lifetime experience.
I had no idea that he still had the video
until my thirteen year old son asked me about it.
I had a follow up appointment with my doctor and
I had to take my eight year old with me.
It was a long wait time, so I let him
watch videos on my phone. I went to the back
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to be seen by the doctor, then my son and
I left. I wasn't even thinking about my phone because
I was ready to pick up my baby from my
sister's house and go home. When I got home, my
thirteen year old said there was a sad video with me,
his stepdad and a woman on it. I could feel
my heart racing as I asked him to show me
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the video. It was the threesome video, and he said
his brother sent it to him while I was at
the doctor office. My husband's silly behind and had texted
it to me as a joke, so he can't wait,
saying he can't wait to make me holler like that again.
He didn't know my son had my phone. I was
so ashamed. What do I tell my sons. Should I
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be honest or act like it's nothing. Oh my gosh,
I just can't begin to imagine how you must feel
right now. I mean, adults do what adults do. In
your case, threesomes no judgment here. But when you do
what you do, or in your case, when you did
what you did, it ends up in the hands of
your kids, that's got to be a whole new level,
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new level of embarrassment and shame, especially when you're thinking
it's just the three of you. And I know your
older son said his little brother send him the video,
but he probably didn't know what else to do but
send it to his big brother. I'm sure they were
both traumatized after seeing mommy and daddy in the act.
No one, and I do mean no one wants to see,
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wants to hear, wants to think about their parents doing
it at no time ever in life. I think both
you and your husband should talk to the boys together,
and honestly, I don't know exactly what you should tell them,
I really don't. What you can't do, though, is try
to lie your way out of this. When you gotta
you gotta tell some kind of truth. You gotta get
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them some kind of understanding here, because I mean they're
young boys, because they've seen the video. They've seen the video,
and they know their parents when they see their parents.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
Steve, well, well, well, well Sherley.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Yes, Steve, you like me, have nothing you can say
to these damn people. No nice try you say it nothing,
It's nothing we can say.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
What do you want us to do? I don't even
got to go through this letter.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
You and your husband, it's just this simple made a
sex tape with another woman. Y'all always trying to do
something to keep everything sparks flying between the sheets. And
then your dumb ass husband said, since it's a once
in a lifetime thing, he got to.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Record it, with his stupid ass.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
This right here, he had to record it, since it
was a once in a lifetime and y'all set up
there and let him.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
This what you get. I don't know what to tell you.
This what you get.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
We ain't got nothing for you. We can end this
strawberry letter right now. We don't know what to tell you.
We don't know what you're supposed to say to these boys.
But I do know when you went back there to
see your doctor, and your dumb ass husband texted to
you and said, I can't wait to hear you holler
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like that again. That eight year old got it. When
the eight year old got it, he got mad. I
got to bring my brother into this because I don't
have the band within my mind to process none of this.
Maybe my big brother can help me. Hey, bro, look
at him. I just saw this. I have no idea
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even what they doing.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
I'm a I'm eight.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Now.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
I heard you talking the other day about this girl
you was liking up at the school.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
Have y'all ever done this? Wow?
Speaker 3 (05:35):
It's this our mama? Where is our real daddy? At
end this damn video? We didn't have this problem when
she was married to our father.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Now this other man in him, I told you I
ain't like him.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Why he got mama like her? Put this other woman
in him. And they don't look the same either. Now
this boy had seen everybody naked.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
God, though, who you see your father in law naked? Stepdad?
But in the ready set gold position.
Speaker 3 (06:15):
God, Now you in here looking down, you're looking at
yourself trying to figure out, Man, am I ever gonna
be this?
Speaker 2 (06:24):
What is he in here doing?
Speaker 3 (06:25):
This little boy, this little eight year old boy, When
he got there at the doctor's office. He sent it
to his brother right away because he needed some questions answers.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Hang on, Steve, and we'll have part two of yours
to today's strawberry Letters. Come up twenty three minutes after
the hour. Today's subject the kids, saw the whole video.
We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
Steve Hard Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's
recap today's strawberry letter. This one's a crazy one. The
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subject the kids, the whole video.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
This lady's remarried. She has two sons from a previous marriage.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Her new husband, they got a seven month old son,
you know, and she had some complications after the baby
and ain't really been able to give her husband what
he's used to in the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
So I take care of his knees otherways.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
I don't know what that mean, but he and I've
always had great chemistry in the bedroom, and we do
all the things.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
That necessary to keep the sparks flying.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
And before we got married, one of my before we
got married, now, one of my old friends, this was
before the last.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Baby, before the complications.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
One of my old friends joined us at a hotel
for an amazing experience. My husband said he had to
film it since I told him it was a once
in a lifetime experience. His dumb ass had to film it,
and YO, dumb behind leddy, Yeah, I had no idea
that he still had the video on two. My thirteen
year old son asked me about it. So she had
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a follow up appointment with a doctor and the long wait.
So she had the eight year old with us, so
she left the eight year old with her son, left
her phone with the eight year old. You don't ever
do that. You don't ever give your phone to some kids.
And you ain't right there. You went back in to
see the doctor, then your son, you the eight year old,
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y'all left. You wasn't even I wasn't even thinking about
my phone because I was going to pick up the
baby from my sister's house when.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
I got home.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Now, the thirteen year old said, that was a sad
video with me, his stepdad and a woman on it.
I could feel my heart racing as I asked him
to show me the video. It was I be damn
the threesome video. He said his brother sent it to
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him while I was in the doctor's office. God dog
the baby to see it. God dog. The eight year
older seene yea god dog, and he said his brother
send it to him while I was at the doctor's office.
You know why the brother sent it to it because
he ate I can't process what I'm looking at, big brother.
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I'm gonna send this to you because I know you,
my big brother. You know a lot.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
So tell me what the hell going on in here?
Speaker 3 (09:24):
Who is all these people? What is this man doing
to my mama? What is my mama doing to this
other woman? Why is this other woman in here doing
this to my mama? Why is my mama acting.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Like she like it now?
Speaker 3 (09:35):
The thirty year old say, it's a sad video. Yeah,
my husband silly behind texted to me as a joke
why she was at the doctor office, saying, I can't wait.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
To make me holler like that again.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
He didn't know my son had my fuck godd. I
was so ashamed. What do I tell my sons? Should
I be honest? Act like it's nothing?
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Be honest? This ain't the time for honesty.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
What what did you honestly fit to say? I don't
really see you? Now? Do I act like it's nothing? Well,
I don't know if you could do that, But honest,
what did you honestly fit to say? Listen, it's a
time doing my life. What are you finna tell these
two boys? That's your sons. Listen, Mama was going through
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some things. And me and your new daddy stop calling
him my daddy. Mama and me and your new daddy,
we want our old daddy back.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
We didn't have none of this with our old daddy.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
We don't like our new daddy no more. What do
I tell my son, Shirley? I was waiting on Shirley's
response because I could not imagine what.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Shirley could say.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
But you know what, I can't imagine what I'm gonna say.
I don't know what the hell to tell you. See,
I'm gonna lie now. I don't know what you're gonna do.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
I don't know. Listen, that is not me, That is
not your daddy.
Speaker 3 (11:11):
You know, they got this stuff out here now called AIY,
and they don't put some people together. You know what,
Me and your daddy is suing this woman that's in
this video right now.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
That's because you.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
Know the woman that's in this video, that's Kim Kardashian,
and she put a lot of makeup on and made
herself look darker.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
The whole body. Yeah, come on, we got we got
to do some type of line. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Look listen, I don't even have a good one for you.
But lying is essential at this point.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
But what you.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
Must do is immediately get into the now that that
ain't you.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Now. They not gonna believe you because they saw it. Yeah,
and one thing about kids, they believe what they see. Now.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
What you really need to do is get these boys
in some type a damn therapy because these boys is
traumatized because your they mama been in here just wildly.
And I don't know how hard you was hollering in
that damn video, but your husband had, your new husband
made a special note of that. And a boy's feelings
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for his mother, it's different than any other woman you are.
A boy's first love is their mama. That's why boys
will kill you about their mama because that was their
first love as a woman. And now you've scarred that
love because you've you've damaged it all right. See all
I know about mama and me and your new daddy,
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we want our old daddy back.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
We didn't have none of this with.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Our old daddy.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
We don't like our knew daddy no more. What do
I tell my son, Shirley? I was waiting on Shirley's
response because I could not imagine what Shirley could say.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
But you know what, I can't imagine what I'm gonna
say either, because.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
I don't know what the hell to tell you. See,
I'm gonna lie now. I don't know what you're gonna do.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Listen, that is not me, that is not your daddy.
You know, they got this stuff out here now called
AIY and they don't win and put some people together.
You know what, me and your daddy is suing this
woman that's in this video right now.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
That's because you.
Speaker 3 (13:23):
Know the woman that's in this video, that's Kim Kardashian,
and she put a lot of makeup on and made
herself look darker.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
The whole body. Yeah, come on, and we got we
got to do some type of life. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
Look, listen, I don't even have a good one for you.
But lying is essential at this point.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
But what you.
Speaker 3 (13:44):
Must do is immediately get into the now that that
ain't you. Now, they not gonna believe you because they
saw it. Yeah, And one thing about kids, they believe
what they see. Now, what you really need to do
is get these boys is some type of damn therapy
therapy because these boys is traumatized. They mama been in
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here just wildly. And I don't know how hard you
was hollering in that damn video, but your husband had.
Your new husband made a special note of that. And
a boy's feelings for his mother's different than any other woman.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
You are.
Speaker 3 (14:21):
A boy's first love is their mama. That's why boys
will kill you about their mama because that was their
first love as a woman. And now you've scarred that
love because you've you've damaged.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
It all right.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
See all I know about my mama, you loves Vir
Harvey scriptures and going to church.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Now.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
I know she had five kids, but I have no
idea how they got it because I know her my
daddy not have had sex.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
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