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Letter subject they want equal Treatment. They're Stephen Shirley. I'm
in my late forties and my sister in law is
my best friend. My brother is cheating on her, and
she found out from their six year old son. I
was keeping their son, and we went to visit my mother,
his grandmother. Well, my stupid brother had his girlfriend over there,
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having a fish fry in the backyard. My mother was
in the house mad as heck, but my dad was
outside with them because the woman has a.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Really nice body.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
My nephew didn't see the woman, but my mother was
so upset that she unleashed a rant and the boy
heard it from the other room. He could not wait
to tell his mom, and she called me and lit
into me about it. I told her that I was clueless,
and she didn't believe me. My brother blames me for
bringing his son over to our parents home. My brother
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ended up moving in with my parents temporarily and continued
to date this side chick even though he was trying
to work things out with his wife. I am stuck
in the middle because he has me counseling the side chick,
begging her to be patient while he figures out how
to leave his wife. He's not leaving his wife, and
I want to tell his side chick that, but that
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would be even messier. The side chicks want the side
chick wants equal treatment as his wife. His wife wants
it all. If he wants to go back home, she
wants a new ring and a recommitment ceremony with a big,
fancy honeymoon. The side chick said, if she's going to
stay with him, she wants a commitment ring and a
big vacation to a romantic island to prove he's all her.
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I told him he's in way too deep and he
needs to get his affairs in order. I've been living
with this guilt for almost a year. My therapist said
I should come clean and be honest with both women.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Should I do this to my brother? Okay?
Speaker 1 (02:14):
No, no, don't do this to your brother.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Okay, but you.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Got to look at what it's doing to you, and
way more importantly, you can't do this to yourself.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
You just can't.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
You got to get out of the middle of this.
This is a mess, and this has nothing to do
with you. You're not cheating on anyone. You innocently took
your nephew to see his grandparents, and now you're getting
it from all sides. Your brother's mad at you, your
bestie's mad at you, and the side chick even has
something to say, and she shouldn't have anything to say
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about any of this.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
It's amazing to me, though, that a six.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Year old, a six year old little boy couldn't wait
to tell his mom about the side chick. I mean,
he must be really advanced, because when we were kids,
you know, constantly heard the phrase stay out of grown
folks vis But his mom probably.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Put them up to it. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Listen, you've got to stop blaming yourself in all of
this and stop letting your brother punk you, and his
side chick and his wife, your bestie. They're all using you.
You got to stand up for yourself. Tell them all
to kiss your behind. You could have, you had a choice,
kiss your behind, Tell them to work it out, and
tell them to leave it. Leave you out of it.
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You can tell one. You could tell them one of
those or all of those. All it is is misplaced
anger on the wife's part and trying to place blame
on the brother's part, and trying to get something out
of it on the side chicks part. I mean, your
brother's manage you, yet he's the one cheating. Your best
friend is managed you, although it's her husband that's a
fault here.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
I mean, I think you should get you some.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Business immediately, because clearly you have none because you're in this.
You got to stop feeling guilty and thinking you cause
this and get on with your life. I mean, you've
been going through this for a whole year now, feeling guilty.
You're the one that needs to get away. They need
to all pay for your trip, not them. They don't
need to go anywhere. And as far as your therapist goes,
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fire him whichever.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
You're the one that gave you this bad advice about
coming clean.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
Steve's excellent response, I think what you said is spot on.
I agree one thousand percent with everything you said. I
can't really add nothing to this except a very unique
perspective because there are some lies being told anything, and
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that's where I come in.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I love it.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Now.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
This woman that wrote the letters is writing because she's
stuck in the middle. Obviously, I'm in my late forties
and my sister in law is my best friend.
Speaker 5 (04:55):
Okay, there you go.
Speaker 4 (04:57):
My brother's cheating on her, and she found out from
the si son. So the aunt was keeping her nephew,
which is a six year old, went by to visit
her mother with her nephew, which is the mother's grandson.
Your dumb brother had his girlfriend over his mom and
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daddy house, having a fish fry in the backyard.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
My mother was in the house mad as heck, as.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
Most women would be, but my dad was outside with
him because the woman had a really nice body.
Speaker 5 (05:42):
I don't know if that's the reason.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
I think the daddy was out there because for her,
the daddy was just being the daddy. See the problem
in this letter is now you say your nephew didn't
see the woman, but your mother was upset and was written,
and the boy overheard in the other room, and he
couldn't wait to go tell his mom. And she called
me and lied into you about it, and I told
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her you was clueless, and she.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
Didn't believe me. Well, why would you take the boy,
the nephew over.
Speaker 4 (06:15):
To your mother's house if you knew your brother was
over there with another woman. That's no way you would
have done that. Because you're a nice aunt. You wouldn't
have done that to the boy. But your dumb brother
over there. You know what the problem with your brother is,
He got too much support.
Speaker 5 (06:32):
For his bs. That's what's wrong. And when we come back,
I'll explain it. All right.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the our thank you Steve subject
of today's Strawberry Letter. They want equal treatment. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey
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Speaker 1 (07:29):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter
and finish up with your response. The subjects they want
equal treatment.
Speaker 5 (07:37):
Yeah, you know, this is kind of crazy.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
This woman got a brother that's cheating, and she was
keeping the brother's son.
Speaker 5 (07:46):
Who is her nephews.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
Her best friend is her brother's wife, which is her
sister in law.
Speaker 5 (07:53):
She go over to the house.
Speaker 4 (07:54):
Her brother got a chick over there having a fish
fry in the mom and daddy backyard's ignorant to begin with. Now,
the mama in the house mad as heck, But you
say your daddy was outside with him because the woman
got a really nice body. My nephew didn't see the woman,
but your mama was so upset she unleashed the ranch.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
The little boy heard it.
Speaker 4 (08:14):
He couldn't wait to go back home and tell his mama.
Your girlfriend, who is your best friend, the sister in
law to your brother's or brother's wife, who was your
sister in law, and your best friend lit into you
because she thought you was in on it. You told
her you was clueless, and she didn't believe me. I
said before, why would you take the boy over to
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the house and expose your nephew to some god? But
you had no idea he was over here and you
didn't take the boy in the backyard. You he just
overheard the grandmother talking. So now, what didn't happen? Because
it is your brother that ended up moving in with
your parents because Hee got put out, and he's continued
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to date the side chick with the banging body, even
though he trying to work things out with his wife.
Now you say you're stuck in the middle because he
got you counseling the side chick, begging her to be
patient while he figured out how to leave his wife.
Then you say he ain't leaving his wife, and I
want to tell the side chick that, but that.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
Would be even messier.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Your brother is the one that's that fault in this
whole thing, first of all, cheating on his wife. Second
of all, he took the side chick to his parents' house,
having a fish fry in the backyard, the daddy out
there supporting the son and Now he got you counseling
the side chick. The best way to do people who
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bring BS to you is let them lay in their BS.
Get out of the support system business. You don't ever
help nobody do wrong unless you're a man. Unless you're
a man, and this is your boy, it is our
obligation to help.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
You whatever man.
Speaker 5 (10:09):
Different rules.
Speaker 4 (10:12):
If because I got news for you, Okay, now here
what okay? Hold on, now, let me help you understand this.
If your girl gets in trouble, you're gonna help her
because that's your color. Now, y'all don't ever talk about
that side of this. But y'all comes to each other's
rescue because.
Speaker 5 (10:32):
I've heard it. What does that have to do with
the letter? Nothing. It's just don't get mad at me
when I tell you that.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
The only way you're supposed to get involved in this
is if y'all was boys. You should stay out of
this because your best friend is your sister in law. Right,
so you definitely shouldn't be counseling the side chick because
your brother got everybody involved in his BS. Now, the
side chick wants equal treatment as your wife.
Speaker 5 (11:03):
Now listen to this. His wife, won't it all.
Speaker 4 (11:06):
If he wants to go back home, she want a
new ring and a recommitment ceremony and a big fancy honeymoon.
That ain't just to show re commitment. She just really
wants some stuff. She didn't want some stuff really, because
you're gonna take a man back and do that, knows
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this is some themes. You're considering taking him back because
you want him back, but you want some themes with it. Recommitment,
bigger ring, fancy honeymoon. Yeah, but now here the problem
is the side chick said. If she gonna stay with him,
she want a commitment ring, a big vacation to a
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romantic hollary to prove that he's all hers. I told
him he in way too deep and to get his
fans in order. Let me explain to you what's wrong here.
Your brother is telling both women the same thing.
Speaker 5 (12:09):
That's what's wrong, yep.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Because if he was telling them the truth, both of
them would might not be demanding the same. But he's
telling both of them, I want to be with you.
Give me a minute to work this out. Getting the
divorce's difficult. Give me a minute. I'm working this out.
I gotta get this chick out my life. She tripping
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this what or nothing? This wasn't even about her, right, Baby?
I want you because here what Bruh can't do. He
don't have the money for an apartment. That's why he'd
have had to move back in with his mom and dad.
Ain't no where in the hell. He got two rings
and he go on two.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
Vacations romantic getaway.
Speaker 4 (12:56):
So as soon as y'all quit supporting this BS, it's
gonna all come to a head.
Speaker 5 (13:02):
Now.
Speaker 4 (13:02):
You say you've been living with this guilt for almost
a year, that's because he got too much help. Your
therapist says, I should come clean and be honest with
both women. Your therapist is.
Speaker 5 (13:12):
A woman, because the man would never say that.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
Ain't no way the only way a man would say
that if he wanted to sleep with you.
Speaker 5 (13:23):
Your therapist is a woman.
Speaker 4 (13:25):
Yeah, and this ain't the time for that.
Speaker 5 (13:29):
Yeah all right?
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