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May 30, 2022 13 mins

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a divorced, 44 year old single mom.  As an attractive, curvy, and educated woman, I have no problems meeting men, it’s keeping them that’s the issue. The last man that I dated, we were together for almost 3 months before we had sex. I made him wait for a reason, and here’s why… When we had sex for the first time, he passed out afterwards. He was only out for a short time and when he came to, he said his blood sugar was low, but I think he was lying, because this has happened to me before, with another man. The next time we made love, I toned down the intensity and I cut out the extra stuff that I normally do...........

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time for the Strawberry Letter. If you need
some advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more,
please please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey
FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, buggle up and
hold on tight. We got it for you. Here. It
is the Strawberry Letter. Subject Thundercat is on the Prowl.

(00:25):
Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a divorced, forty four year
old single mom. As an attractive, curvy and educated woman,
I have no problems meeting men. It's keeping them that's
the issue. The last man that I dated, we were
together for almost three months before we had sex. I

(00:45):
made him wait for a reason, and here's why. When
we had sex for the first time, he passed out afterwards.
He was only out for a short time, and when
he came to, he said his blood sugar was low
Anthony Barnett. But I think he was lying because this
has happened to me before with another man. The next

(01:07):
time we made love, I toned down the intensity and
I cut out the extra stuff that I normally do.
He told me it was too much for him and
he ended up breaking up with me. My crazy ex
husband was the same way. Whenever I would try to
do something new with him, he got mad and accused
me of cheating on him, which was one of the

(01:29):
reasons we got divorced. So lately, I had been dating
a nice Southern gentleman, and two nights ago we had
sex for the first time. I warned him that I
was about to put it on him, but he must
have thought I was just playing well Shirley during the act,
see right there, well Shirley during the act, he started

(01:51):
screaming like a little girl, and he was begging me
to stop, so I did. He just he just stared
at me for a while. He just stared at me
for a while, and then he told me that I
was way too much for him. He accused me of
being some kind of loose woman because of my skill set.

(02:13):
I was so offended that I left his house and
we have not communicated since Saturday. I can't help but
think there's a man out there that can handle me,
that can handle me. My friend's nickname me Thundercat, and
they told me I should teach a sex class for women.
I like to keep it tight and right, and I
really do enjoy sex. So what should I do, Tommy,

(02:34):
you hush. I want to hear from Stephen. Shirley, please advise,
Okay I first, Shirley, I will see I will because
I know you think this letter is about you, right, No,
but I I just got to ask you. I mean,
what are you doing? Really? Not not what are you

(02:58):
doing to the guys? Just what are you doing? From
a thinking position? Okay, you cannot put all this stuff
that you're doing on someone that you're having sex with
for the first time, especially a man. You can't do this.
You can't pull all the tricks out of your bag
on the first you can't. All right, You gotta slowly

(03:20):
roll the stuff out, if you know, so they can
get used to it. You gotta spoon feed them, so
to speak. Because I mean you, I mean, and look
at your track records. You got a man who passed out,
a man who is screaming like a girl, a man
who broke up with you, your husband accused you of cheating.
I mean, you gotta look at what's going on here

(03:42):
and realize that maybe, just maybe, you know, slow it
down a little bit. Come on, you just you're forty
four years old, you enjoy sex, you like it. Perhaps
you should teach a class. But listen, you gotta take
it easy. You know, you tell somebody, I'm gonna put
it on you. I mean, come on, just relax, okay,

(04:06):
relax a little bit and and and ease into these
I mean, have you lost your entire mindil Yeah, I'm
just trying to help. Yeah, we're gonna take that out.

(04:27):
Don't even worry. Yeah. But when I first read the letter,
I thought you were saying you you were you waited
for three months to have sex because you know, like
in Steve's book, act like a lady, think like a man.
He's telling you, you know, to wait for ninety days.
So you but that's to get to know the person

(04:49):
and all of that. You know, you waited because what
you didn't want to kill the man on the first time.
But I just say you, you need to take your time,
ease into this stuff. Lighting up a little bit. I mean,
you know, I get you. You like it in your serious.
This other man his blood sugar was low. You're gonna
kill somebody. Relax, Steve, it's your turn. Come on, I am.

(05:19):
It's a lot of key stuff in here. I'm gonna
point it out to you all through the damn letter
opening line, I am a divorce. This means this, this
has been over with. Somebody said enough farty, four year
old single woman, good and grown. Yeah, I am an
attractive that's what she's said. Curvy that could be anything,

(05:45):
you know, that's what they call him. It's other words
for heaven, So you could be curvy and educated. I
have no problems meeting me in. It's keeping them that's
an issue. Last man in our dated we asked. We
used together for three months before we had sex. I
made him wait for a reason. Here why When we

(06:06):
had sex for the first time, he passed out. He
was only out for a short time, and when he
came to, he said he had his blood sugar was low.
He't know what the hell happened. Yeah, and you said
that happened to you. Yeah. But he when he woke up,
he woke up as a dive beatty. She gave him diabeting.

(06:29):
He didn't know what was wrong, so he invented a disease. Yeah,
too much, she told his ass Paul. Yeah, yeah, all right,
we can come back. You're gonna want to hear this.
Hang on, we'll have part two of Steve's response coming
up the letter, the subject ThunderCats on the prow Right

(06:49):
after this the twenty three after, We'll be back. You're listening, right, Steve.
Let's go. Let's recap today's strawberry letters. Here a woman
again sleeping with men and can't keep them, and it's
all because of her sexual acts. First man she told
us about. They had been waiting three months. When she

(07:11):
finally gave him something. He passed out, and when he
came to, he said his blood sugar was low. He
had never said that before ever in his life. But
she gave him diabetes. He woke up with diabetes. He
didn't have it for that. It just something happened to

(07:32):
him and he didn't know what it was. But I
think he was lying because that happened to me before
with another man. Because next time we made love, I
toned down the intensity and cut out the extra stuff
I normally do. What the hell is you in here doing?

(07:52):
When a woman tells you I tuned down the intensity
and cut out some of the normal stuff I do.
Do you know what the hell happened in the hill?
What's going on? This happened to the intensity? Is the pherocity?
The Pherocity? This hell for too much for any damn body.

(08:16):
Let me tell you what's going on. Let me read
a little bit more than lever and she cut out
the extra stuff she normally do. Okay, let me tell
them if you cut out the extra stuff that you
normal I'm tolled down the intensity and he still fell
out that hell is you do stuff. I'm gonna tell
you what she's doing in a minute, though. He told
me it was too much for him, and he ended

(08:39):
up breaking up with me. Then my crazy ex husband
now seeing now people crazy now na na now to
me and crazy with her crazy. He was the same way.
Whenever I would try to do something new with him,
he got mad, accused me of cheating, which one of
the reasons we got divorced so late. I've been dating

(09:00):
a nice Southern gentleman. Two nights ago we had sex.
You have a lot of sex. How many men were
already over the three limit? I told y'all to talk
about it. We way over the three limits. I told
y'all your max number three. She way out the three balls.
She just had sex for the first time another night,
a southern gentleman, I warned him, told him before we

(09:22):
went in I'm about to put it on you see
you in here. You your your cage match. You're in
that m m A love it mixed, marshaw Art. You
must he must have thought I was playing well, Shirley
doing the act. He started screaming, You took a grown

(09:50):
ass man got him screaming like a white girl. He
was begging me to stop. I was too much for him.
He accused me of being some kind of a loose
woman because of my skills. Said, I was so offended.
I left his house and were in communicate. He glanced
you left. Yeah, and you really ain't communicating since sanity
because he ain't calling your ass. He don't wan't no

(10:13):
more what you got. It's too damn much. Let me
tell you. First of all, she's doing it way too hot,
and she making noises, and and she's slamming into men.
She climbed on me back. She making her voice change,

(10:35):
uh yeah, sounding like a man. Huh man, you're hitting it.
I'm talking about man. It ain't even supposed to be
doing it right here. It's getting slung around that damn

(10:56):
but hu choke your part, Shut up, take this, take
take talking the whole time, voice changing you come up

(11:27):
and I told you what happen. You thought I would playing,
but I'm being this bearsons up in here in the park.
You bring up parkam. These men is in here going Yeah,
they're scared. What the hell have I got myself into?
I'm gonna tell you something else to she she won't

(11:49):
even do the normal stuff she do. It's some apparatus
is in there. Okay, that's what I wanted. Its swaying,
she swain cross the bed. Listen to me. She using
her teeth. There's some teeth involved here, Okay, he said.

(12:11):
He begged me to stop. It's some teeth. Yeah, yeah,
it's what I do. This do what I do because
of her skill set. Yeah, but her skill set is painful. Yeah,
her skin. Yeah, she turned me in. Yeah, it's to
me and walking out there need medical attention. What happened

(12:33):
to that point where she spent this one dude his
pockets passed, said he had died. Beat But Steve, is
it like she's threatening them because she said I warned
him that I was about to put it on. I'm
fitting to do something to you ever had done before.
And in the middle of all of it, I'm gonna

(12:53):
sucker punch your pocket. She hits, moved like a she
on top of a man, and she putn't she punched
him in the soap Listen, we gotta get out of here.
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