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Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thanking if you subject. We did it and he's trying
to do me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty two
year old married woman and I've got a problem with
my district manager. For years, we flirted with each other
and it made work fun and interesting. He's married, too,
so I never imagined we'd ever fool around, but we did.
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Here's how it happened. I've been married three years and
my husband was being distant and staying out more than
he usually does. I asked if he was okay, and
he said he was stressed at work, but that he's fine.
Right after that, I ran into one of his female
friends he went to college with, who I never really
clicked with.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
She told me that she.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Is praying things work out with my husband at work
because she's not used to seeing him so depressed. She
went on to say that my husband confided in her
about an issue with his boss and how he resolved it.
I could hardly breathe. I went home and he confessed
to confiding in her and having dinner with her a
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few times to talk. He swore to me that it
was nothing major, just two friends talking. I went to
work the next day and I lost it. I couldn't
stop crying, and my manager came in to check on me.
He took me out for coffee and we sat in
his car talking. My rap dress had all of my
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goodies on display, so he reached in and rubbed a
few things. He kept on rubbing until I left his
car with blurred vision. Now he wants more, and I
can't give him more. What my husband did was very wrong,
but I honestly do not think my husband would cheat
on me. My district manager is using what he knows
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about my marriage in his favor. He is trying to
coerce me into having an affair by saying my husband
doesn't my husband doesn't appreciate me, and revenge. Sex always
makes a person feel better. Is this man crazy or
just being manipulative?
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Well, you're the.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
One that's crazy if you do let this man manipulate
you into having an affair with him, because that is
exactly what he's doing right now. You say, you haven't
gone all the way with him, so you can walk
away with something of a clear conscience. So please let
that go and make sure it goes no further with
your boss, Okay, because he's on ready set. He's on
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ready set right now. All you have to do is
give him the go and he's waiting for that. So
now your husband, your husband, on the other hand, what
is he doing? You say, you honestly don't believe he
would cheat on you. So what were the dinners for?
If it was just with the friend? Why didn't he
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tell you? Why did you have to make him confess
it to you? And he went out with her, this
other woman, not just once or twice, but a few times.
And she's a female friend from college that you don't
even these are your words click with.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
This is not adding up.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
It's not looking good at all, because surely she knows
she's not one of your favorite people. Surely she knows that.
She still decided, though, to tell you about what happened
between her and your husband. That was just messy. Don't
you think that was messy? She knew it would throw
you into something, and it did. And what does she
have to gain from all this? I'm thinking your husband,
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So you know, I just say, definitely tell your boss
it's a no for you, and then turn your attention
to the more pressing issue of your husband his job
and these dinner dates with this college friend of his.
I think there's definitely something going on between them, and
you need to get to the bottom of it.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
Steve, That's not what this letter is about to me.
Ah read these letters. See Shirley be really trying to
help y'all.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
You know. And there's a difference between me and Shirley.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Because I might try to help you sometimes I might not,
but I'm always here for entertainment. And that's the difference
between me and Shirley's response.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
So in the entertainment, I always peel.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
This onion back to you, tear up. We did it,
and he's trying to do it. And this thirty two
year old married woman, she's got a problem with her
district manager. For years, we flirted with each other and
it made work fun and interesting.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
Right there, that just tells you everything.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
She went to work flirting with her district manager, and
she said because it made it fun and interesting. Her
husband didn't know nothing about this. This was her doing.
She didn't come in out and tell her husband. You know,
I go to work and I have so much fun
with my district man. We flirt with each other, and
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it's just made the years fun and interesting.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Keep that in mind, ladies.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
He's married too, so I never imagine we fool around,
but we did.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Here's how it happened. I've been married three years now.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
For them three years, she was still flirting, having fun
with the district manager.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
Keep this in mind now.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
And I've known my husband being distance, staying out more
than he usually does.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
I asked he was okay.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
He said he was dress at work true statement will
find out later, but that he's fine.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Right after that, I ran into one.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Of his female friends he went to college, which who
I never really clicked with. She told me she is
praying things work out with my husband at work because
she's not used.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
To seeing him so depressed. Let's pump your breaks.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Whenever a person comes to you saying they're preying for
you or your situation. God don't dig at you and
pray for you at the same time, and neither do
real friends.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject
for today's Strawberry letter, we did it and he's trying
to do me. We'll get back into it right after this.
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Speaker 1 (07:27):
Right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The
subject we did it and he's trying to do me.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
Well, this thirty two year old woman been flirting with
this district manager for years and it's made work fun
and interesting. She's married for three years now, but she
been doing this without her husband knowing. Okay, didn't notice
her husband standing out more than use your answers.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Everything fine? He said he was stressed out at work.
Then you ran up.
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Been one of his female college friends who you don't
really like, never click with.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
She told you she's praying everything.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Works out for your husband at work because she's never
used to seeing him so depressed. A woman comes to
you tells you that they praying for you. People always
be waaring. People come to you telling me, I'm praying
for you in your situation. But then it comes in
the form of a deed.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
No you not no you, No, you ain't praying for me.
That ain't how prayer works. We ain't friends.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
And then she went on to say that your husband
confided confided in her about an issue with his boss
and now and how he resolved it.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
I could hardly breathe.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
I went home and he confessed to confiding in her
and having dinner with her a few times, a talk.
He swore to me that nothing major, just two friends talking.
I went to work the next day, and I lost
and I couldn't stop crying. Now, wait a minute, ain't
you the same woman? You can't believe he confided in her.
I bet your husband wouldn't believe that you be with
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your district manager for years at work and it's been
fun and interest this time. See now, all of a
sudden he'd had confided in this college girl, and they'd
had dinner a couple of times. Now, you can't you
crying at work? I bet your husband would have been
crying if he'd have known you was at work flirting
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with your district manager. See, you can't have your cake
and eat it too. You can't do one thing. And
then when it happened to you, and now it's all
messed up now a whole letter? Is you think your
man cheating on you? I couldn't stop crying. And then
my manager came in to check on me. He took
me out the coffee. We sat in his car talking.
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Now you at work, now you're thirty two. My rap
dress had all my goodies on display. It was the
size of the rap dress that had your goodies on display.
And the way you were sitting in the car, you know,
how rap dress is fit? They wrapped, they unwrapped, so
when you sat in the car, it wasn't wrapped no
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more because it wasn't enough fabric in the first place.
He reached here and he rubbed a few things. He
kept on rubbing until I left his car with blurred vision.
Now he done rubbed you all between your thighs and
all on your cleavage in this rap dress.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Till you had blurred vision. Well, what kind of rubbing
was going on in this car?
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Woll I bet your husband would have been amazed to
find this out. You've been flirting for years. Now you
in the car rubbing till you got blurred vision. Oh,
I know what he was doing. I know how to
rub and win. I know how to induce blurred dishes.
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I crossed your eyes. Yeah, I hear you sitting in
that car cock eye.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
That's right. I had yall blip in the back of
your head. If you let me rub like, I know
how to rub. See that.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
What district managed to we was rubb until you got
blurred vision. You don't get blurred vision from somebody running
across his hand across your chest. That ain't how you
blur your vision. You got to get into one of
the creases of him where that rap dress open up
at me, and it opened in two parts.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
It opened up.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
At the thighs in the rap dress, and it open
up in the cleavage at the rap dress. He in
both him at it cut your vision blurred. Now he
wants more and I can't give him more. You ain't
say you didn't want to. You said you can't. What
my husband did was very wrong. But honestly, I don't
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think my husband would cheat on me. I bet your
husband don't think you being the car getting rubbed on
till your bleasing, till your vision got blurred, either, But
you did. My district managers using what he knows about
my marriage and his favor.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
But you told him.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
He's trying to coerce me into having an affair by
saying my husband doesn't appreciate me, Well, you should ask him,
does he appreciate he his wife? Because it's a lot
of non appreciative people on in this letter right now.
Then he says, and revenge sex always makes a person
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feel better. Revenge sex, that's the stupid approach, your district manager, dumb.
You don't use revenge sex as.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
The approach to getting yours. You got to, you got to,
you got to.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
You got to make a person feel like you can
be there for him. Let's talk about this some more.
Let's get somewhere and get in the consolation part. You know,
that's the stupid approach. Revenge sex always make a person
feel better. That's a dumb approach. He should be more
consoling so he could do more rubbing if that's what
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he wants. Now is this man crazy or just me
and manipula? He bote he crazy for using the stupid
approach that he used. He was almost home with the
goodies with just rubbing. Now he talking about revenge shick
and is he being manipulated?
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Yes? And are you willing yes? Have you been flirting
for years? Yes?
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Have you been in a car with him getting rubbed onto?
Your vision got blurred?
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Yes? Did your husband go to dinner with this woman? Yes?
Did he talk about his problems? Yes?
Speaker 3 (13:16):
Everybody in this letter wrong? And you want us to
tell you how wrong your husband is. I think you
the wrong person in the letter, and I think you
get what you put out.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Blame.
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