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May 14, 2025 13 mins

The Strawberry Letter for Wednesday, May 14th, 2025 "We Didn't Know The Kids Were Up"

A woman writes for advice after her kids and stepkids walked in on she and her husband in the middle of sex. Shirley tries to help, but Steve Harvey has a different idea...

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:26):
Subject, We didn't know the kids were up, Dear Stephen Shirley.
My fiancee and I are blending our families, and all
four of our children are under age twelve. It's a
hassle to get a little time for ourselves. So my
fiance turned his man cave into a kid's cave and
they have movie nights all the time. His kids beg

(00:47):
to stay at our house more than with their mom.
But after what we did on Friday, they may not
ever be allowed to come back to our house. I
had been to dinner and I had had a few margaritas,
and my fiance was out with his car club buddies.
We both were tipsy, so I told him, let's have
sex right quick before the kids got home. Just then

(01:08):
the doorbell rang. It was his kids coming for the weekend.
I went to the door with half a boob hanging out,
and his youngest son poked it with his little finger
so i'd know that he could see it. My fiance's
ex wife rolled her eyes so hard at me. My
kids got home right after that. I gave them chicken
nuggets and I sat up movie night for them. My

(01:30):
fiance waited until I got until he got quiet downstairs,
and we figured they were asleep. We started getting wild
and nasty and do what and doing what grown people do.
When we were almost done, his eight year old son
started screaming at our bedroom door. He had a bloody nose.
Then his brother was at the door, and so were

(01:53):
my two daughters. I don't know why my fiance didn't
lock the door. All of our kids will scarred for
life because we were both naked. My fiance could not
stop laughing and still thinks it's funny.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
The kids wouldn't look us in the eye.

Speaker 1 (02:09):
My daughter said, I'm disgusting, and I can't be mad
at her because I feel disgusting his boys told their
mom what happened, so now I have to deal with
her judging me. How can my fiance think it's funny?
How do we fix this fiasco?

Speaker 2 (02:26):
M I don't know.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
It's not like you guys were really doing anything wrong.
Like you said, you were doing what grown people do.
But when you have kids, See, here's the issue. Kids
do what kids do. They might burst into the room,
or they might be outside your bedroom door unannounced, crying.
You were careless and didn't check on them before you

(02:51):
started doing your grown people's stuff. And most importantly, you
did not lock that bedroom door. You knew you were
a little tough, tipsy, and he was a little tipsy,
and you guys wanted to get wild and nasty, like
you say, so in that regard, you were irresponsible with
the kids.

Speaker 2 (03:08):
That's not good. I mean, are you.

Speaker 1 (03:09):
Guys the first and last parents that have been walked
in on, you know, caught in the act by their kids.
Absolutely not. But this situation could have been avoided easily.
How do you fix it? I don't know how you
fix this one, I really don't. I mean, maybe you
should try to talk to all the kids, ask them,

(03:30):
you know, what they saw. And you know, I don't
know what you do in this situation what they saw?
Ask them, you know, are they traumatized by what they thought? Well,
we thought, No, I don't. But I don't honestly know
what to do in this regard. But you got to
tell your boyfriend to grow up and stop laughing so much.

(03:50):
This is not funny if it affected the kids in
a negative way.

Speaker 3 (03:53):
Steve, let me saw it.

Speaker 4 (03:55):
Just let it at the bottom, because this letter has
nowhere to go. No, I know, you can't fix this.
How do we fix this fiasco?

Speaker 1 (04:04):
You not.

Speaker 4 (04:05):
All the damage is done. This will show up years
later when these children are adults. This is what's called
in psychology. I don't know what it's called, but I'm
assuming this is called traumatized trauma. This is one of
them incidents that happened in families that don't send their

(04:27):
kids to the therapy. You cannot fix this. You cannot
undo what was done.

Speaker 1 (04:34):
Now.

Speaker 4 (04:34):
The first thing that started just off, though, was you
went out with your girlfriends, had some margarita's. He went
with his car club buddy, y'all came home homely, wanted
to do something pot the kids came over. Well, y'all
in the middle of doing something. The door bell rang
and it's his ex bringing the kids home. Here where
it all popped off. You go to the door with

(04:56):
half your boot hanging out one of them, I'm.

Speaker 3 (05:00):
Just over on the wrong side of the road. Get
over now.

Speaker 4 (05:06):
I don't have them, so I can't speak on it,
but I do have a question. If one of them
is out, you don't feel no draft.

Speaker 3 (05:17):
You don't feel a.

Speaker 4 (05:21):
Cool breeze in the area that don't normally get breezes
on it. This is an area that's covered most of
the time. It makes very few public appearances. So I'm
wondering when yours made that public appearance in front of

(05:43):
the kids and the fiance, when you was going through
the to the.

Speaker 3 (05:48):
Door, you didn't feel no draft.

Speaker 2 (05:50):
You ain't gonna what is that?

Speaker 3 (05:54):
See? I feel the draft.

Speaker 4 (05:56):
On any one of my body parts that don't be
out making public opinions.

Speaker 3 (06:01):
I can feel the drift.

Speaker 4 (06:02):
Yeah, Like I know, like if my T shirt ain't
took down in the back, because that part at the
top of my butt don't ever make public.

Speaker 3 (06:12):
I know, I know when my T shirt ain't in
the back.

Speaker 4 (06:16):
I'm very uncomfortable nothing, and that's just my butt.

Speaker 3 (06:22):
How your breastsouden? You don't know it.

Speaker 4 (06:25):
How many Margarinas you say you have because you need
you need to get that number and never do that again.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
She was tipsy.

Speaker 3 (06:33):
All right, I come back.

Speaker 4 (06:34):
I have more useless information on the hang on, it's crazy, man.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
We'll have part two Seem's response coming up in twenty
three minutes after the hour of today's Strawberry Letters. Subject
we didn't know the kids were up. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening hardy.

Speaker 2 (06:53):
Morning show.

Speaker 3 (06:59):
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Speaker 4 (07:03):
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Speaker 1 (07:16):
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Speaker 3 (07:22):
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Speaker 1 (07:24):
Four forty six zero three for more, details all, Right,
steve come, on let's recap Today's strawberry. Letter the subject
is we didn't know the kids were?

Speaker 4 (07:33):
Up, well after all this, happened the lady want to
know how they fixed, this And i've just said that
early on in this, letter you can't fix. This here
the problem it. Started they have a blended family that
his two kids stay with their.

Speaker 3 (07:48):
Mama she had been out drinking.

Speaker 4 (07:50):
Margarite as he was at the car club with but
they both came home drunk and they were supposed to
chiep the kids that, weekend so they decided to get
freaking before the kids come. Over in the middle of,
it the doughbell ring and his fiance, say with the,
kids you throw a robe one and go to the,
door and you throw the robe on in one of
your breasts is just. Out the whole breast just. Out,

(08:11):
now this has nothing to do with size or none of.
That it's just. Out you know when it's. Out, now
how you didn't feel no breeze is bothered?

Speaker 2 (08:20):
Me is that the point of the?

Speaker 4 (08:22):
Letter?

Speaker 2 (08:23):
Though NOW i just.

Speaker 4 (08:23):
Don't understand how you have a body part that don't
make public appearances and when it, does it don't know
it's in. Public, see you've got to explain to me
how your whole breast is. Out and you, know just
based on this, letter probably had a little weight on it,
Too so you got a breast out and it's kind
of heavy because you didn't know it until his little

(08:45):
boy reached out with his finger and touched, it which
is what i'd have, done you, not my. MAMA i
need to know what that. IS i Ate i'm gonna
touch it BECAUSE i have been wondering about.

Speaker 3 (08:55):
It, anyway.

Speaker 4 (08:57):
The fiance, say the ex roll her eyes at you.
Hard so now you started this whole. Thing Now i've told,
you AND i will reiterate this right. HERE i have
body parts that don't make public, appearances But i'm sensitive to.
Breeze if my shirt, tailed MY t shirt in the

(09:20):
back comes up out of my, PANTS.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
I feel that.

Speaker 4 (09:27):
If i'm in the gym lifting waiting MY t shirt come,
UP i stopped lifting and poor mine back down BECAUSE
i just don't like that, feeling AND i don't like the.
Look you didn't because you were. Struck fast forward there in,
there you decide he turned your, hood your fiance's man
cave into a kid. Cave so you sitting all four

(09:48):
of them downstairs to watch a.

Speaker 3 (09:50):
Movie you waited till they was good and sleep.

Speaker 4 (09:52):
And then y'all just went up in there and got
buck wile because you thought the kids would.

Speaker 3 (09:58):
Sleep little did you know they.

Speaker 4 (09:59):
Wasn't all of a, sudden his son at the, door
holling at the top of his lung with a bloody.
Note y'all in that nicked all of a, sudden all the,
kids all four of, them busting the, dough and you
and that nicked.

Speaker 3 (10:16):
Your.

Speaker 4 (10:17):
Fiance think it's, funny he. Laughing now your concern is
your daughter has told, you, mommy you're. Disgusting all four
of the kids is under, twelve so daughter know enough to, Go,
mommy you. Disgusted the lady that wrote the letter, said,
YES i feel. Disgusted the, fiance her husband is just.

(10:41):
Laughing and now you know that the kid he went
back home and told his mama what. Happened now you
got to deal with. Her so the question in this
letter all comes down to how DO i fix?

Speaker 1 (10:56):
This.

Speaker 3 (10:56):
Fiasca my answer to you is you. Can't your kids is.
Traumatized this will show up later in something in.

Speaker 4 (11:08):
Life give me a, Job, sureley And i'll show you
how this could show.

Speaker 3 (11:14):
Up let's give me a, job any JOB i don't.

Speaker 1 (11:16):
Know, okay you're an executive assistant to A, ceo.

Speaker 3 (11:20):
Executive assistant to a.

Speaker 4 (11:21):
Ceo he calls you into his office because of this
traumatic experience as a, baby and you saw. It every
time you get to your CEO's, though you look down
at your breast because you got to make sure that
it ain't popped out because of this traumatic.

Speaker 3 (11:41):
Experience you had her. Child give me another.

Speaker 2 (11:43):
Job you're A tv news, ANCHOR tv news.

Speaker 4 (11:47):
Anche you're coming ON Asp they count you in, five
four three. Two the word two makes you look down
so you can make sure THAT yo two ain't gonna
be ON tv. Today traumatized all because you was a.
Baby next, Job, sureley you're a, teacher school. Teacher you're

(12:10):
a teacher. Professor you up and there you're going through
lesson number. One it's all going, down but then you
get to what's, next lesson number. Two all of a,
sudden your chin is on your chest because you're looking
down to make sure that lesson number two is comforting

(12:31):
because you're.

Speaker 3 (12:31):
Traumatized you can work out a drive through window At.

Speaker 4 (12:36):
Wendy's people come around you scared to lean over and
take the change because the last time you leaned over
it fell.

Speaker 3 (12:42):
Out you're a.

Speaker 2 (12:46):
Nurse you a.

Speaker 3 (12:48):
Nurse uh, Huh.

Speaker 4 (12:49):
Somebody come in time for him to get a shot OR.
Iv they stick their arm, out you push it back
because you can't have that on touching your, breast because
if you're, scared it gonna pop.

Speaker 1 (13:08):
Out what.

Speaker 2 (13:11):
You sing lead in the, choir in the church, choir.

Speaker 3 (13:14):
You sing loud or. Choiet you can only sway to your.

Speaker 4 (13:17):
Right you don't sway to your left because that's the
breast that was. Out and you're scared, off you stump
and sway that that thing gonna come about that. Road,
see that's what's gonna happen with D key is. Traumatized
how do you fix this? Fiasco you cannot fix.

Speaker 3 (13:31):
This it's a. Wrap your babies is.

Speaker 2 (13:34):
Due leave your comments on today's.

Speaker 3 (13:37):
They can't be in the police department.

Speaker 1 (13:39):
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