May 8, 2025 • 13 mins
The Strawberry Letter for Thursday, May 8th, 2025: "Why Can't She Realize The Marriage Is Over?"
A woman writes in because her boyfriend's wife showed up on their vacation. You really need to hear Steve Harvey & Shirley Strawberry's responses to this one...
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for my Strawberry Letter for today,
and if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARBFM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Thank you nephew. Subject why can't she realize the marriage
is over? Dear Stephen Shirley, My boyfriend and I went
on a couple's trip with two of his friends and
their girlfriends. His friend is dating one of my girlfriends,
so we were having a ball, hanging out at the
beach and relaxing. Most of us are married, but not
(00:50):
to each other. My boyfriend's wife showed up at our
resort and tried to mess up our weekend. She knows
about me and hasn't had an issue with me being
with her husband until he decided to go on a
trip with me. She started messaging me on Instagram again
to tell me that she knows about the trip and
that she might pop up. I ignore all of her
(01:14):
crazy messages because I refused to entertain that old, bitter
woman that ran off her husband. I planned our trip
and I did not think twice about her. Days before
our trip, I told my boyfriend about his wife's messages,
and he found out that she had taken off work
around the dates of our trip, and he warned me
(01:34):
that she might really pop up on us. I told
him that he gives her too much freedom and access
to his personal information. He agreed, but he refuses to
change his email password and he doesn't have a passcode
on his cell phone. He says he has nothing to hide.
So there we were at our resort with his wife
(01:54):
following us around in the background to all of our
dinners and excursions on the island. She had her broke
sister with her, and the sister was clearly there for
a free vacation and no drama because she went out
with us on our last night. So I want to
know this, Why do women stick around to make their
husbands miserable when they know the marriage is over. Why
(02:16):
won't she divorce him and move on? Well, you know
we could ask you the very same question why don't
you wait till they get a divorce and then get
with him. I mean you've heard that saying, you know,
if I can't have him, no one else can. Well,
that's kind of what's happening here. You may think the
marriage is over, but WiFi is not giving up so easily.
(02:38):
She's still hanging on. As long as she's got those papers,
She's going to fight for her man or make you
guys miserable in the process, one or the other. You
want to know why she can't realize it's all over.
Why can't you realize it's not over? Not yet? Anyway?
There's some unfinished business between the two of them as
far as she's concerned, and and it's really up to
(03:01):
the husband to take care of that, not you. What
is the rush for you anyway? I mean, he's not
a free man. Why can't you wait, like I said,
until they're officially divorced, because having her stalking you on
your vacations and still being so very much in the
mix is probably not going to change until they're legally done.
(03:23):
So I think you should let this go until then.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Steve, First of all, let me clear something up for
everybody listening to this. There's no mention of paperwork or
divorce in the process. There's no talk of separation, nothing,
he has no no one has filed for divorce in
(03:47):
this letter.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Here how crazy it is? Letting is Come on.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
My boyfriend and I went on a couple's trip with
two of his friend and their girlfriend. One of his
friends is dating one of my girlfriends. So we having
the ball, hanging out the beach and relaxing.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Here's the key to this whole letter.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Most of us are married, but not to each other.
What now, let's just take this line. Most of us
are married but not to each other. So it's a
couple's trip. Six people is on this couple trip. I've
(04:36):
done the math. If them and two of his friends
and they girlfriends, that's six people who are married but
not to each other. Here's the question, who are these people?
And where y'all.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
Find each other?
Speaker 3 (04:56):
At it?
Speaker 4 (04:57):
Because this is amazing.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
Now, my boyfriend's wife, this is so crazy.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
My boyfriend's wife come on, showed up.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
At our resort and tried to mess up our weekend.
She knows about me and hasn't had an issue with
me being with her husband until he decided to go
on the triple. Now. The way she found out was
the woman the wife started messaging her on IG to
tell me she knows about the trip and she might
(05:38):
pop up now right here, I'm not gonna be on
this trip.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
As the husband. I'm not going now, she said.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
I ignore all her crazy messages because I refuse to
entertain that old biddle rooman. So now I know all
these people is old that ran off of hers. I
planned our trip. I didn't think twice about her days
before our trip. I told my boyfriend about his wife's messages.
(06:13):
He found out that she had taken off work the
dates of our trip and won me that she might
really pop up on us.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
This is crazy, yeah, and everybody still win.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Then, she said, I told him he give her too
much freedom and access to his personal information.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
We come back the rest of his ignos.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, Steve, We'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry Letters
subject why can't she realize the marriage is over? We'll
get back into it right after this. You're listening, Steve
Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Folks, there are a lot of reasons to like Hyundai.
Hyundai's done a lot to support American consumers. I mean,
they announced their investment of twenty one billion dollars in
the United States over the next three years that will
expand manufacturing and create more jobs for Americans.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
And they just announced that they will not be raising
MSRP through June second.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
No matter what.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Call five six' two three one four forty six zero
three for more.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Details all, right come, On, steve let's recap Today's strawberry.
Letter the subject why can't she realize the marriage is?
Speaker 4 (07:33):
Over?
Speaker 3 (07:34):
All, right the title is why can't she realize the
marriage is?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Over?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Now sheirley made a great, point why don't you realize?
It ain't hop because they still? Married And shirley, said
why don't you waiting until they're? Divorced the problem, is
ain't nobody mentioned filing in this? Letter the six people
that's on the, trip nobody has.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
Filed they've accepted this as normal.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Behaving so you and your, boyfriend who is married to
this woman decided to go on the.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Trip she found out about. It now she knows about
her and said that she.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
Ain't never had an issue with her being with her
husband until he decided to go on the trip with.
Me now six people that's on this, trip, him two
of his, friends and two of her. Girlfriends most of
us are, married but not to each. Other lord her,
Mercy who are these?
Speaker 4 (08:29):
People? Are where you find them at?
Speaker 3 (08:31):
Now she says the woman the wife started messaging her
on ig to tell her that she know about the
trip and she might pop.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
Up the lady ignored the.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
MESSAGES i don't know how you did, that BUT i
refuse to entertain that old bit of woman that ran
off her.
Speaker 4 (08:47):
Husband so she says she planned the, trip she ain't
think twice about.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
It then before the, trip she told her boyfriend that
about her wife's, messages and then he found out and
she had taken off work around the dates of our
trip and won me she.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Might really pop up on. Us is no Way i'm
at this. Trip but they wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
ANYBODY i told him he give her too much freedom
and access to his personal. Information he, agreed but listen to.
This he refused to change his email. Password that's because
old people don't like, change because then they got to
try to remember that one. Too and he doesn't have
(09:31):
a pass code on his cell phone because he ain't
gonna remember.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
That so his phone just. Rang you can pick it,
up check messages. Everything he.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Said he ain't got nothing to. Hide he wired, open
he opened book. Me he been doing this like he
want to do, it and he ain't got nothing to.
High so there we were at our resort with his
wife following.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
Us around in the. Background who is this? Woman, baby
y'all at the.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Pool i'm at the. Pool i'm on the other side
looking y'all get, dressed go to. Dinner i'm, Dressed i'm
going to. Dinner i'm in the same. Restaurant i'm. Crossing
i'm in the booth cross from. Y'alls, now they don't
say nothing about her making a scene or. Nothing she
just followed them around at the resort to all our
(10:27):
dinners and excursions on the. Island so y'all went to
see the. Waterfall she in the truck behind. Y'all she
had the waterfall. Too, boy you're going you went on
the little nature hike with the. Picnic she got a picnic.
Basket she crossed the road watching y'all eating for middle,
(10:51):
sandwiches and then.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
She had a broke sister with, him and the sister.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Was clearly there for a fever few free vacation and
no drama because she went out with us on our last.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
Night SO i want to know.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
This why do women stick around to make their husbands
miserable when they know the marriage is?
Speaker 4 (11:17):
Over why won't she divorce him and move?
Speaker 2 (11:19):
ON i don't.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
KNOW i can't answer that. QUESTION i don't know how
he pulling this. OFF i.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
DON'T i don't know what woman follows her husband on
a vacation and don't make a. SIN i don't know
what woman watches y'all go to dinner and sit over
there and let y'all eat in. PEACE i don't know
anybody who takes off work to go to the resort
and don't start, nothing to take her, sister and then
(11:49):
her sister go out with.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
Y'all what y'all doing? Tonight?
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Who they're having? Fun they're over there, laughing, Yeah And
i'm over, Herman i'm just going out that you CAUSE
i said she's. Tripping what y'all doing?
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Tonight y'all be? Drinking is? Yo you got any more?
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Friends SO i don't understand this, letter, MAN i have
no advice for. YOU i DON'T i don't know how
this this wife does it like. THIS i don't know
why she's accepted her husband treating her this? Way, now
why don't they get a? Divorce why don't he? Five
(12:29):
BUT i got the feeling he. Doesn't she done, Said
i'm not going. Nowhere i'm not giving.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
You, nothing the. Wife if you ain't gonna be with,
me you ain't gonna be with. Nobody but he clearly
he's with.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Somebody SO i don't have an answer for.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
You to just stop messing with this married. Man you're
having a. Ball, yeah that's not gonna, happen.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
But she.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
Should but your old boyfriend need to change his past
code cause she taking off days and everything popping up
at the same as on got a room, up probably.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
On the same.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
FLOOR i would love to hear the conversation with his
two friends and the other two. GIRLS i would love
to hear the conversation between the wife and her.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
SISTER i would love to hear these. Conversations, yeah all.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Right post your comments On Today's Strawberry letter That's STEVE
harveyfm On instagram And, facebook and check out The Strawberry
letter podcast on the Free iHeartRadio app for It never
sounded so. Good you can download it. Today you're listening
to The Steve Harvey Morning show
It is time now for my Strawberry Letter for today,
and if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARBFM dot
com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading
your letter live on the air, just like we're going
to read this one right here, right now, and you
never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Thank you nephew. Subject why can't she realize the marriage
is over? Dear Stephen Shirley, My boyfriend and I went
on a couple's trip with two of his friends and
their girlfriends. His friend is dating one of my girlfriends,
so we were having a ball, hanging out at the
beach and relaxing. Most of us are married, but not
(00:50):
to each other. My boyfriend's wife showed up at our
resort and tried to mess up our weekend. She knows
about me and hasn't had an issue with me being
with her husband until he decided to go on a
trip with me. She started messaging me on Instagram again
to tell me that she knows about the trip and
that she might pop up. I ignore all of her
(01:14):
crazy messages because I refused to entertain that old, bitter
woman that ran off her husband. I planned our trip
and I did not think twice about her. Days before
our trip, I told my boyfriend about his wife's messages,
and he found out that she had taken off work
around the dates of our trip, and he warned me
(01:34):
that she might really pop up on us. I told
him that he gives her too much freedom and access
to his personal information. He agreed, but he refuses to
change his email password and he doesn't have a passcode
on his cell phone. He says he has nothing to hide.
So there we were at our resort with his wife
(01:54):
following us around in the background to all of our
dinners and excursions on the island. She had her broke
sister with her, and the sister was clearly there for
a free vacation and no drama because she went out
with us on our last night. So I want to
know this, Why do women stick around to make their
husbands miserable when they know the marriage is over. Why
(02:16):
won't she divorce him and move on? Well, you know
we could ask you the very same question why don't
you wait till they get a divorce and then get
with him. I mean you've heard that saying, you know,
if I can't have him, no one else can. Well,
that's kind of what's happening here. You may think the
marriage is over, but WiFi is not giving up so easily.
(02:38):
She's still hanging on. As long as she's got those papers,
She's going to fight for her man or make you
guys miserable in the process, one or the other. You
want to know why she can't realize it's all over.
Why can't you realize it's not over? Not yet? Anyway?
There's some unfinished business between the two of them as
far as she's concerned, and and it's really up to
(03:01):
the husband to take care of that, not you. What
is the rush for you anyway? I mean, he's not
a free man. Why can't you wait, like I said,
until they're officially divorced, because having her stalking you on
your vacations and still being so very much in the
mix is probably not going to change until they're legally done.
(03:23):
So I think you should let this go until then.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Steve, First of all, let me clear something up for
everybody listening to this. There's no mention of paperwork or
divorce in the process. There's no talk of separation, nothing,
he has no no one has filed for divorce in
(03:47):
this letter.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Here how crazy it is? Letting is Come on.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
My boyfriend and I went on a couple's trip with
two of his friend and their girlfriend. One of his
friends is dating one of my girlfriends. So we having
the ball, hanging out the beach and relaxing.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Here's the key to this whole letter.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Most of us are married, but not to each other.
What now, let's just take this line. Most of us
are married but not to each other. So it's a
couple's trip. Six people is on this couple trip. I've
(04:36):
done the math. If them and two of his friends
and they girlfriends, that's six people who are married but
not to each other. Here's the question, who are these people?
And where y'all.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
Find each other?
Speaker 3 (04:56):
At it?
Speaker 4 (04:57):
Because this is amazing.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
Now, my boyfriend's wife, this is so crazy.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
My boyfriend's wife come on, showed up.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
At our resort and tried to mess up our weekend.
She knows about me and hasn't had an issue with
me being with her husband until he decided to go
on the triple. Now. The way she found out was
the woman the wife started messaging her on IG to
tell me she knows about the trip and she might
(05:38):
pop up now right here, I'm not gonna be on
this trip.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
As the husband. I'm not going now, she said.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
I ignore all her crazy messages because I refuse to
entertain that old biddle rooman. So now I know all
these people is old that ran off of hers. I
planned our trip. I didn't think twice about her days
before our trip. I told my boyfriend about his wife's messages.
(06:13):
He found out that she had taken off work the
dates of our trip and won me that she might
really pop up on us.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
This is crazy, yeah, and everybody still win.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Then, she said, I told him he give her too
much freedom and access to his personal information.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
We come back the rest of his ignos.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
All right, Steve, We'll have part two of your response
coming up at twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry Letters
subject why can't she realize the marriage is over? We'll
get back into it right after this. You're listening, Steve
Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
Folks, there are a lot of reasons to like Hyundai.
Hyundai's done a lot to support American consumers. I mean,
they announced their investment of twenty one billion dollars in
the United States over the next three years that will
expand manufacturing and create more jobs for Americans.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
And they just announced that they will not be raising
MSRP through June second.
Speaker 4 (07:20):
No matter what.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Call five six' two three one four forty six zero
three for more.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Details all, right come, On, steve let's recap Today's strawberry.
Letter the subject why can't she realize the marriage is?
Speaker 4 (07:33):
Over?
Speaker 3 (07:34):
All, right the title is why can't she realize the
marriage is?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Over?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Now sheirley made a great, point why don't you realize?
It ain't hop because they still? Married And shirley, said
why don't you waiting until they're? Divorced the problem, is
ain't nobody mentioned filing in this? Letter the six people
that's on the, trip nobody has.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
Filed they've accepted this as normal.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Behaving so you and your, boyfriend who is married to
this woman decided to go on the.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Trip she found out about. It now she knows about
her and said that she.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
Ain't never had an issue with her being with her
husband until he decided to go on the trip with.
Me now six people that's on this, trip, him two
of his, friends and two of her. Girlfriends most of
us are, married but not to each. Other lord her,
Mercy who are these?
Speaker 4 (08:29):
People? Are where you find them at?
Speaker 3 (08:31):
Now she says the woman the wife started messaging her
on ig to tell her that she know about the
trip and she might pop.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
Up the lady ignored the.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
MESSAGES i don't know how you did, that BUT i
refuse to entertain that old bit of woman that ran
off her.
Speaker 4 (08:47):
Husband so she says she planned the, trip she ain't
think twice about.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
It then before the, trip she told her boyfriend that
about her wife's, messages and then he found out and
she had taken off work around the dates of our
trip and won me she.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Might really pop up on. Us is no Way i'm
at this. Trip but they wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
ANYBODY i told him he give her too much freedom
and access to his personal. Information he, agreed but listen to.
This he refused to change his email. Password that's because
old people don't like, change because then they got to
try to remember that one. Too and he doesn't have
(09:31):
a pass code on his cell phone because he ain't
gonna remember.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
That so his phone just. Rang you can pick it,
up check messages. Everything he.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
Said he ain't got nothing to. Hide he wired, open
he opened book. Me he been doing this like he
want to do, it and he ain't got nothing to.
High so there we were at our resort with his
wife following.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
Us around in the. Background who is this? Woman, baby
y'all at the.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Pool i'm at the. Pool i'm on the other side
looking y'all get, dressed go to. Dinner i'm, Dressed i'm
going to. Dinner i'm in the same. Restaurant i'm. Crossing
i'm in the booth cross from. Y'alls, now they don't
say nothing about her making a scene or. Nothing she
just followed them around at the resort to all our
(10:27):
dinners and excursions on the. Island so y'all went to
see the. Waterfall she in the truck behind. Y'all she
had the waterfall. Too, boy you're going you went on
the little nature hike with the. Picnic she got a picnic.
Basket she crossed the road watching y'all eating for middle,
(10:51):
sandwiches and then.
Speaker 4 (10:55):
She had a broke sister with, him and the sister.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Was clearly there for a fever few free vacation and
no drama because she went out with us on our last.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
Night SO i want to know.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
This why do women stick around to make their husbands
miserable when they know the marriage is?
Speaker 4 (11:17):
Over why won't she divorce him and move?
Speaker 2 (11:19):
ON i don't.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
KNOW i can't answer that. QUESTION i don't know how
he pulling this. OFF i.
Speaker 3 (11:28):
DON'T i don't know what woman follows her husband on
a vacation and don't make a. SIN i don't know
what woman watches y'all go to dinner and sit over
there and let y'all eat in. PEACE i don't know
anybody who takes off work to go to the resort
and don't start, nothing to take her, sister and then
(11:49):
her sister go out with.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
Y'all what y'all doing? Tonight?
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Who they're having? Fun they're over there, laughing, Yeah And
i'm over, Herman i'm just going out that you CAUSE
i said she's. Tripping what y'all doing?
Speaker 4 (12:02):
Tonight y'all be? Drinking is? Yo you got any more?
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Friends SO i don't understand this, letter, MAN i have
no advice for. YOU i DON'T i don't know how
this this wife does it like. THIS i don't know
why she's accepted her husband treating her this? Way, now
why don't they get a? Divorce why don't he? Five
(12:29):
BUT i got the feeling he. Doesn't she done, Said
i'm not going. Nowhere i'm not giving.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
You, nothing the. Wife if you ain't gonna be with,
me you ain't gonna be with. Nobody but he clearly
he's with.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Somebody SO i don't have an answer for.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
You to just stop messing with this married. Man you're
having a. Ball, yeah that's not gonna, happen.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
But she.
Speaker 3 (12:58):
Should but your old boyfriend need to change his past
code cause she taking off days and everything popping up
at the same as on got a room, up probably.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
On the same.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
FLOOR i would love to hear the conversation with his
two friends and the other two. GIRLS i would love
to hear the conversation between the wife and her.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
SISTER i would love to hear these. Conversations, yeah all.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Right post your comments On Today's Strawberry letter That's STEVE
harveyfm On instagram And, facebook and check out The Strawberry
letter podcast on the Free iHeartRadio app for It never
sounded so. Good you can download it. Today you're listening
to The Steve Harvey Morning show
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Dateline NBC
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