Why Is My Man So Childish

 

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m too old to be playing games with my husband. He’s 60 and I’m 58 years old. He’s a coach and loves to line dance so he’s usually at a game or down at the lounge for a dance. I used to dance with him but I injured my knee, so I get to enjoy my quiet time when he’s gone because he’s a hand full. He just started being a jokester lately and he acts like he was raised by wolves now....................

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Subject Why it's my man so childish? Why, Dear Stephen Shirley,
I'm too old to be playing games with my husband.
He's sixty and I'm fifty eight years old. He's a
coach and loves to line dance, so he usually he's
tally at a game or down at the lounge for
a dance I used to dance with him, but I
injured my knee, so I get to enjoy my quiet

(01:08):
time when he's gone. Because he's a handful. He just
started being a jokester lately, and he acts like he
was raised by wolves. Now. He undresses and leaves his
clothes right in front of the dirty clothes bin instead
of putting them in it. He will not do anything
around the house unless it benefits him. If he needs
to soak his old bones after dancing, he'll wash the tub.

(01:32):
If he wants to eat a certain thing for dinner,
he goes and gets it without offering me anything. He
leaves a drop of milk, juice, mayo, or whatever it
is and puts it back in the refrigerator. I realized
that he reverted to his childhood after our last son
moved out. In addition to cleaning up behind him, I

(01:52):
have to deal with the other childish stuff he does.
He falls asleep with gum in his mouth and has
gotten all over his pillow, in our bed, and on
the cushions of our sofa. He has at least eight
different types of cereal just for him. If we're making love,
he'll crack jokes at the worst times. He faked a

(02:14):
Charlie horse once and had me panicking thinking I had
hurt him during sex. So now I'm reluctant to be
intimate with his silly behind. When he's driving, he likes
to hit the brake and then the accelerator so he
can laugh at my head bobbing back and forth. I
swear this man is on my last nerve with his childishness.

(02:34):
His football team loves him because he's youthful and fun
to be around, but it's too much for me at
the house. How can I get my husband to change
his childish ways? Ooh, what is your man doing? Is
what's happening? Who has time for all of this? I mean,
we're really grown up in here, we really are. And yes,

(02:57):
the things he's doing are very child He's doing the
kind of stuff that can truly get on your lad's nerve.
And it must have something to do with him hanging
out with the young football team and getting caught up
with them, you know, maybe that's what they do, and
he started thinking he's one of them. He's old enough
to be their grandfather at sixty years old, and he's

(03:20):
pranking you during sex. Wow, and the stopping and going
while driving. Lord, have mercy, you didn't tell us what
it was like before, you know, he started doing all this,
But I'm assuming it was the polar opposite of this.
Maybe not, you know, but I'm assuming it was the
polar opposite because you're just complaining about it now. So, um,

(03:42):
he knows what to do. I mean, he's he's just
not doing it anymore. Maybe he thinks his youth is
fleeting and it's you know, he wants to try and
keep infusing that into his life. Since he's around the kids.
They like him, they think he's fun, they think, you know,
he's one of them. Probably, but I think it's time
to have that talk with him and let him know

(04:03):
that he needs to stop it, and he needs to
stop it now. It's not a twenty year old, so
please quit acting like it. I mean, he could pull
that stuff with the kids, but you're way too grown
for his shenanigans now, and you gotta let him know that.
I really hope for you that your knee heels, so
you guys can get back to doing what you used
to do, going out dancing and having fun. Maybe that

(04:25):
will help steve this marriage is over. Yeah, I'm not
gonna try to say this, right, Hell, yeah, I think
you should leave him, you know, you know, you know,
sometimes man, I don't really she don't want a divorce. Yeah,
that's why I'm suggesting a divorce because obviously it's not

(04:47):
entered her mind, because she wants me to help her
get her husband to change his child. This way, if
you just look at the stuff he's doing this child now,
taking the clothes off in front of hamping, leaving them now,
I don't know if there's childless. That's just trifling. Yeah.
Then he don't do nothing around the house unless it

(05:08):
benefits him, And I don't do much around my house either.
I can't understand you. But if he needs to soak
his old bones after dancing, he'll wash the tub. If
he wants to eat a certain thing for dinner, he
go get it without offering me nothing. This dude, right Hill, Yeah,

(05:30):
he leaves a corner of milk in the cotton. He
drank all the damn kool aid, ain't but a sipper juice,
and ain't no mayonnaids down there, but at the bottom.
We get in trouble for that as kids. And then
he put it back in refrigerator, and you realize all

(05:54):
this after your son moved out now into now also
be in a dish to clean it up after him.
Here's what she says, I gotta deal with other childish
stuff he does. He fall assleep with gum in his mouth,
and he get all over his pillow bed and on
the cushions on the sofa. Damn dog. So when you

(06:16):
when the gum fall out your mouth, you roll in it.
It stick to your face and then you roll to
the other side. You don't live with a child, You
live with a faux legged animal. This ain't gotta to
do with your childhood. What I'll have more? Oh, oh,
we're gonna get to that right there, yes, please, all right,

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all right, we'll have part two of Steve's response to
this strawberry letter coming up at twenty three minutes after
the hour. The subject today is why is my man
so childish? We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap
today's strawberry letter. I know you don't like this one.

(07:00):
I don't either, but she needs help this woman does.
The subject is why is my man so childish? Well,
he's sixty. She's fifty eight here, coach, and he loved
a line dance, So he's usually at a game or
down at the lounge for a dance. The line dance

(07:22):
could be the electric side slap second line in this
New Orleans. Okay, So he could be anywhere now, Okay,
So it don't matter. He's sixty. If he wanted to
see the certain thing for dinner, he'll go get it.
Don't offer me nothing. He leave a corner milk juice,
mayo and thee and whatever there and put it back

(07:43):
in Refederate. He did all this when he reverted direct
to his childhood after your last son moved out. Then
she's mad because she got to deal with the other
childish stuff he does. Let's go. He fall asleep with
gum in his mouth, and he's getting all over the
pill and our bed, on the cushions on our sofa.
So what I said before break is he choose the

(08:05):
gum and falls out of his mouth. He rolled in it,
He gets stuck on his face. He rolled to the
other side. Now he getting caught up any gum like
a spider will. Now gum is everywhere. Okay. Then she
says he has at least eight different types of cereal

(08:28):
just for him, So listen. He got sugar Crisp, definitely,
he got cap'n crunch Uh, apple jacks, fruit loops. All
these is really kid ass seal because he liked colors,
apple jack, fruit loop tricks. Trick for sure. Cuckoo has

(08:53):
that one. He got Lucky Charms. He got count chocolate.
That's a baby ass seal and one I'll be damned
fruity pebble hell full blown baby. Now, all the different

(09:14):
colored rocks in my bowl, I ain't never wanted that.
I couldn't stay in there. I always been a cheery
old man myself, a lot of cheery old and wheatings
because I thought wheaties was gonna change for my life.
I actually ate wheaties because I thought they would get
me on the box. I didn't make the box, but
I did get on TV. Look at God. God would

(09:39):
do exceedingly and abundantly over all you think I had here.
I wanted on a seal box, and he put me
on TV. Looking God, Now, let's get down to it.
If we're making love, he'll crack jokes at the worst time.
What in the world is this food doing. Yeah, knock,

(10:00):
that's when you're down peppermint, peppermint? Who peppermint stick? This
is not knock knock. Fish? Who's there? Fishhoohoo? Long John

(10:24):
silver anyway? Stupid? Yeah, now he said he could have
gone right here. When he's driving, he likes to hit
the break and then accelerate it so he can laugh

(10:45):
at my head, bob back and forth. I'll wait till
you drag a coffin that boy. Let me tell you something.
If I knew that, if I did that, the magic,
I can't even play. I should look at me like
I lost my damn mind? Are you playing? But he
laughing though it you get anyway? I swear this man
is on my last nerve with his childis football team

(11:08):
loves him because he's youthfully fun to be around. But
it's too much for me at the house. How could
I get my husband to change his ways? Divorce? It's
childish way. This is divorce. There's no hope for it.
You don't think, well, you know he's on her nerves. Yeah,
and that's what the problem means. And when you sixty

(11:30):
and people on your nerves, it's worse because now you're
dating this this is not a good letter to me.
I don't know what to tell the shell. I don't
even have energy for this letter. I just don't, just
because you don't it's really anything you want to ask
me about the letter, Shelley, that I might be able
to respond, because I really don't. Well, okay, because I

(11:52):
did suggest that, um, you know, hopefully her knee will
heal quickly, maybe her going back to the club with him,
and then I want to go down clearly says it,
clearly says in the letter. Though I heard my knee,
so I can't. But I'm enjoying my quiet out him

(12:14):
because she can't stand him right now, because he's so childish,
right so she show ain't going down here the line dance,
he down there, putting their pants down, everything because he stupid.
He got that dumb ass sense of human Yes, this
is he's acting like a kid. I mean, I don't
know what would make a man do this, a grown man,
a sixty year old, unless he's trying to recapture his youth. Well,

(12:36):
this ain't leave him. Wow, we get paid, we don't
do this. Yeah, they pay us to be stupid, and
we don't do this. Yeah, I just don't think she
wants to leave it. But see, I don't know what
to tell you. When you got a stupid man, you
just in bad shape. Yeah. Yeah, you can have a
stupid son, but you can't have a stupid husband. Though.

(12:58):
It's like having a stupid son married to the sixty
year old man. All right, listen, um, Please leave your
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