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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, or more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEYFM dot com. All
you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter. We
could be reading your letter live on the air, just
like we're going to read this one right here, right now,
and you never know it could be yours. So write us,
Please write us, Buckle up and hold on time. We
(00:23):
got it for all you hear it in Strawberry Letter
subject thanking nephew. You get what you pay for. You
get what you pay for. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a
twenty eight year old executive and I have all that
I need because I learned at an early age that
I have a money maker below my waist. I was
raised by a single mother and a real fly auntie
(00:45):
that has always been for the streets. I used to
stay with my aunt after school and she always had
a different man around fixing up her little raggedy house.
She always got fresh flowers into her and she always
had nice things. When I was twelve years years old,
my grandma told me that my aunt got whatever she
wanted from men. And I could too. I had the
(01:06):
body of a grown woman by my eighteenth birthday, so
I started using it to get the things I wanted
and need it in my life. When I moved into
my first place, I had this older man by me
a washer and dryer, a sofa, and a patio set
after he paid my rent for three months. He didn't
require much for me, but I gave myself to him
(01:28):
because I felt like I owed him that. As I
got older, I wanted to settle down. I cut off
all my sugar daddies and I set up an online
dating profile. Two years ago, I met a doctor and
we had been dating for almost two years. Lately, he
stopped doing the nice things he used to do for me.
He started out taking me to the best shops and restaurants,
(01:50):
and he would send flowers to my job and shower
me with gifts. Now he treats me like we're an
old married couple. He's got a high sex drive, and
so do I, but I told him we're putting sex
on hold for now. He flipped out on me, and
he called me a gold digger because I switched things
up on him. I told him, you get what you
pay for. Is it gold digger ish to handle him
(02:14):
like this since we're in a relationship. What did I
do wrong? Well, you did everything wrong. I mean, this
sounds like pay for play. This sounds like prostitution. This
sounds like a whole what this letter is crazy right here?
I think you got caught up with the doctor as well.
You can say that you use men to get what
(02:34):
you want, because you know you got a moneymaker below
your waist and all of that. But this time I
think he's got you. I mean, I guess your mom
and your auntie or your grandmother whoever the auntie that
was for the streets didn't tell you about that part
that sometimes you can get caught up as well. You're
never supposed to catch feelings for these guys, because before
(02:54):
you know it, they'll flip it on you and do
just what you're doing to them. They'll do that to you.
And now you're looking for him and wondering about him
and what he's doing and why he's not buying you
stuff like before you cutting him off and telling him
you get what you pay for. It sounds like prostitution
on your part. I mean, I'm sure it also means
he's mad. And he's starting to take you for granted.
(03:17):
He probably thinks you shouldn't have to he shouldn't have
to buy you stuff anymore. It's been two years because
you guys have been together for a while now now
he's calling you a gold digger so he won't have
to continue paying for you. This is kind of how
this goes. You know, it started off one way, but
two years later it's into a whole another different situation.
(03:37):
And by you saying you get what you pay for,
I mean, what does that make you? Come on, think
about it, Steve, I got this letter figured out right away.
This ain't gonna take me long, and I don't know
if I'm gonna take my time doing this. So here
we go. Pay attention, ladies. Anybody need to hear this,
especially if you feel like this young lady does. Twenty
eight year old executive. I have all that I need
(04:00):
because I learned at an early age, and I have
a money maker below my waist. Well do you know
that that's not new information? Do you know that every
single living female has one? Do you know that? But
the fact that you referred to it as a money maker,
(04:24):
this is the mistake you making because what you have
is valuable. But when you refer to it as a
money maker, well we're talking about something else. Now. That's
the holdest profession in the world. I was raised by
a single mother and a real fly aunt that always
has been for the streets. I used to stay with
(04:46):
my un after school, and she always had a different
man around, fixing up her little raggedy house. I'm gonna
come right back to that in a minute. She always
got fresh, fresh fly I was sent to her. She
always had nice things. But see you said something a
(05:07):
minute ago that was key fixing up her little raggedy house. Oh,
we got money from flowers. We give your couch, we
give things to go in your little raggedy house. But
you know what a man ain't gonna do. He ain't
(05:30):
gonna put you in the home because you got to
show a different type of value to get a home
out the deal saying nobody fit to make a home
with you. They're just gonna keep putting little stuff in
your aunt's raggedy ass house. And watch this. My grandmama
told me that my aunt got whatever she wanted from me,
(05:52):
and I could too. I had the body of a
grown woman by the time my eighteen birthday. So I
started using it to get things I wanted and needed
in my life. When I moved into my first place.
Here you go, just like ya on her little ragged
ass house. Guess what you had to do? You had
to get your own first place. I had this older
man by me, a washing and drive, a sofa, a
(06:18):
patio set, and he paid rent for three months. You
know what he did. He put things in your little
raggedy ass house. But guess what he didn't do. He
didn't get you no home. You see where I'm going
with this when I come back. The rest of the
heartbreak story is on New Way. All right, Steve, We'll
(06:40):
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject you
get what you pay for it. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letters
subject you get what you paid for? Yeah, you do,
and you're gonna pay for what you get. See that's
(07:02):
part you listen missing long day. You get what you
pay for, but you forgot though you got to pay
for what you get, and so here you go, because
you got this banging body. By time you was eighteen,
you should go over to your aunt's house and stay
y'aunt was all the ways about them streets. You say,
So your aunt had a different man over there all
the time, and they was giving her things, and you said,
(07:26):
fixing up her little raggedy house. Oh, they put flowers
in it. They did all types of nice things for her.
But they didn't give a no home a man a
slick see see see once he finds. Once a man
find out you tricky, and he know you tricky, you're
not fit to trick him. So let's give the tricker
(07:49):
some trink cats. So your aunt had a bunch of
trink cats, never had a real man, never had a
great house, because you lived in a ragged ass house
and they just put a little stuff in it. Then
your grandmama told you that you could be like yo,
aren't get whatever you want because you had a grown
woman body. So you started using it to get things
you wanted and needed in your life. Then here we go.
(08:09):
Here you go repeating just like y'ah, when I moved
into my first place, ain't nobody buy that for you,
so you moved into your little ragged ass house. Then
I had older men buy me a washing dry. I
had this older man buy me a washing dry, some things,
a sofa, some things. Bought you a patio set, some things.
(08:32):
See you think you're doing something. See old men got
money because they've been alive for a long time. So yeah,
older man gonna have more money than thirty year old do.
He got a little extra expendable income because he probably
got all out of his house. So buying you a
little patio set down that sun patio that he's song selfer.
You know, one hundred and eighty nine dollars. You get
(08:53):
the umbrella, the table, the folk chairs, a chase cloth, Matt, welcome, Matt.
Yeah he got that for you. You thought your hand something,
but go back and look at it. That's that son patio.
They throw themselves every weekend doing it something. And then
but I gave myself to him because I felt like
I owed him that. Yeah, because that's what you was
trained to do with your grown woman body. You exchange
(09:15):
your precious body for trinkets. As I got older, I
wanted to settle down. Oh but watch how this worked
on I cut off all my sugar daddies and set
up an online dating profile. Two years ago, I met
a doctor. We've been dating for almost two years, two
years now, and now lately he stopped doing the nice
things he used to do for me. He started out
(09:37):
taking me to the best shops in restaurants. He was
sending flowers to him my job, showering me with gifts.
Now he treats me like we're an old manned couple.
He got a high sex drive, and so do I.
But I told him were putting sex on hole for now.
He flipped out on me. He called me a gold digger.
Excuse me, excuse me? He called you, what a gold digger?
(09:57):
What's the problem? You use your body to dig for gold?
Ain't that what you're saying? Excuse me, why are you
writing this letter? What part of this is Sherlan and
I are supposed to help you with. I switched things
up on him. He called you a gold digger because
I switched things up on him. I told him, you
get what you pay for. So you told this to
(10:19):
a doctor that you get what you pay for. But
see the reason he changed because he started seeing signs
in you. He started seeing things about you. He started
discovering you wasn't about nothing, see because you don't realize it,
but you kept some of your ways. You always sitting
up at the night shop. Ain't putting nothing in the
table with him. He ain't see no future. You're a man,
(10:42):
a doctor. He ain't going to care you know where.
You don't know how to ask you here. You're spending
all his money. You accept everything. You don't get this
man a card or nothing. Is it gold digger rig
to handle him like this? Since we're in a relationship,
What are you stupid? All your relationships have been sugar daddies.
(11:04):
All your relationships have been you trading your body for things,
And now you want to know in a relationship? Is
it gold diggers to handle him like this? Since we're
in a relationship, What did I do wrong? You don't
you keep having arrangements. You don't have relationships, You have arrangements.
I'm gonna give you this for this banging body, this
(11:26):
moneymaker I got below my waist, and y'all give me
things now. Ain't fill up your little ragged ass apartment
just like they feel up your aunt's ragged ass house.
Every man you meet is willing to give you things
to make your house look better, and they now wanted
the man gonna give you no home. That doctor not
going to marry you. Are you crazy? Are you kidding me?
(11:47):
You think this man, this doctor, it's gonna marry you.
And then you verbally said it, you get what you
pay for. Once you say that to a man, I'm
you can't take that back because you are messing with
one of the two things that we are good at,
protection and provision. And once you start downplaying our provision ability. Yeah,
(12:13):
you're right, you get what you pay for, but let
them tell you something else. You're gonna pay for what
you get and now you find the pay Now you
need to go somewhere and sit your lord, find Dusty
behind down somewhere and let your little things settle down somewhere,
because right now I got too much activity on it.
Okay you at five coming out of Florida. Leave your
(12:37):
comments on today Drug Route on Instagram. At Steve Harvey
FM and check out the Strawberry Letters Train special coming
up next to the Sports Talk with Junior Rival and
departure times. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, or more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEYFM dot com. All
you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter. We
could be reading your letter live on the air, just
like we're going to read this one right here, right now,
and you never know it could be yours. So write us,
Please write us, Buckle up and hold on time. We
(00:23):
got it for all you hear it in Strawberry Letter
subject thanking nephew. You get what you pay for. You
get what you pay for. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a
twenty eight year old executive and I have all that
I need because I learned at an early age that
I have a money maker below my waist. I was
raised by a single mother and a real fly auntie
(00:45):
that has always been for the streets. I used to
stay with my aunt after school and she always had
a different man around fixing up her little raggedy house.
She always got fresh flowers into her and she always
had nice things. When I was twelve years years old,
my grandma told me that my aunt got whatever she
wanted from men. And I could too. I had the
(01:06):
body of a grown woman by my eighteenth birthday, so
I started using it to get the things I wanted
and need it in my life. When I moved into
my first place, I had this older man by me
a washer and dryer, a sofa, and a patio set
after he paid my rent for three months. He didn't
require much for me, but I gave myself to him
(01:28):
because I felt like I owed him that. As I
got older, I wanted to settle down. I cut off
all my sugar daddies and I set up an online
dating profile. Two years ago, I met a doctor and
we had been dating for almost two years. Lately, he
stopped doing the nice things he used to do for me.
He started out taking me to the best shops and restaurants,
(01:50):
and he would send flowers to my job and shower
me with gifts. Now he treats me like we're an
old married couple. He's got a high sex drive, and
so do I, but I told him we're putting sex
on hold for now. He flipped out on me, and
he called me a gold digger because I switched things
up on him. I told him, you get what you
pay for. Is it gold digger ish to handle him
(02:14):
like this since we're in a relationship. What did I
do wrong? Well, you did everything wrong. I mean, this
sounds like pay for play. This sounds like prostitution. This
sounds like a whole what this letter is crazy right here?
I think you got caught up with the doctor as well.
You can say that you use men to get what
(02:34):
you want, because you know you got a moneymaker below
your waist and all of that. But this time I
think he's got you. I mean, I guess your mom
and your auntie or your grandmother whoever the auntie that
was for the streets didn't tell you about that part
that sometimes you can get caught up as well. You're
never supposed to catch feelings for these guys, because before
(02:54):
you know it, they'll flip it on you and do
just what you're doing to them. They'll do that to you.
And now you're looking for him and wondering about him
and what he's doing and why he's not buying you
stuff like before you cutting him off and telling him
you get what you pay for. It sounds like prostitution
on your part. I mean, I'm sure it also means
he's mad. And he's starting to take you for granted.
(03:17):
He probably thinks you shouldn't have to he shouldn't have
to buy you stuff anymore. It's been two years because
you guys have been together for a while now now
he's calling you a gold digger so he won't have
to continue paying for you. This is kind of how
this goes. You know, it started off one way, but
two years later it's into a whole another different situation.
(03:37):
And by you saying you get what you pay for,
I mean, what does that make you? Come on, think
about it, Steve, I got this letter figured out right away.
This ain't gonna take me long, and I don't know
if I'm gonna take my time doing this. So here
we go. Pay attention, ladies. Anybody need to hear this,
especially if you feel like this young lady does. Twenty
eight year old executive. I have all that I need
(04:00):
because I learned at an early age, and I have
a money maker below my waist. Well do you know
that that's not new information? Do you know that every
single living female has one? Do you know that? But
the fact that you referred to it as a money maker,
(04:24):
this is the mistake you making because what you have
is valuable. But when you refer to it as a
money maker, well we're talking about something else. Now. That's
the holdest profession in the world. I was raised by
a single mother and a real fly aunt that always
has been for the streets. I used to stay with
(04:46):
my un after school, and she always had a different
man around, fixing up her little raggedy house. I'm gonna
come right back to that in a minute. She always
got fresh, fresh fly I was sent to her. She
always had nice things. But see you said something a
(05:07):
minute ago that was key fixing up her little raggedy house. Oh,
we got money from flowers. We give your couch, we
give things to go in your little raggedy house. But
you know what a man ain't gonna do. He ain't
(05:30):
gonna put you in the home because you got to
show a different type of value to get a home
out the deal saying nobody fit to make a home
with you. They're just gonna keep putting little stuff in
your aunt's raggedy ass house. And watch this. My grandmama
told me that my aunt got whatever she wanted from me,
(05:52):
and I could too. I had the body of a
grown woman by the time my eighteen birthday. So I
started using it to get things I wanted and needed
in my life. When I moved into my first place.
Here you go, just like ya on her little ragged
ass house. Guess what you had to do? You had
to get your own first place. I had this older
man by me, a washing and drive, a sofa, a
(06:18):
patio set, and he paid rent for three months. You
know what he did. He put things in your little
raggedy ass house. But guess what he didn't do. He
didn't get you no home. You see where I'm going
with this when I come back. The rest of the
heartbreak story is on New Way. All right, Steve, We'll
(06:40):
have part two of your response coming up at twenty
three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject you
get what you pay for it. We'll get back into
it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.
All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry letters
subject you get what you paid for? Yeah, you do,
and you're gonna pay for what you get. See that's
(07:02):
part you listen missing long day. You get what you
pay for, but you forgot though you got to pay
for what you get, and so here you go, because
you got this banging body. By time you was eighteen,
you should go over to your aunt's house and stay
y'aunt was all the ways about them streets. You say,
So your aunt had a different man over there all
the time, and they was giving her things, and you said,
(07:26):
fixing up her little raggedy house. Oh, they put flowers
in it. They did all types of nice things for her.
But they didn't give a no home a man a
slick see see see once he finds. Once a man
find out you tricky, and he know you tricky, you're
not fit to trick him. So let's give the tricker
(07:49):
some trink cats. So your aunt had a bunch of
trink cats, never had a real man, never had a
great house, because you lived in a ragged ass house
and they just put a little stuff in it. Then
your grandmama told you that you could be like yo,
aren't get whatever you want because you had a grown
woman body. So you started using it to get things
you wanted and needed in your life. Then here we go.
(08:09):
Here you go repeating just like y'ah, when I moved
into my first place, ain't nobody buy that for you,
so you moved into your little ragged ass house. Then
I had older men buy me a washing dry. I
had this older man buy me a washing dry, some things,
a sofa, some things. Bought you a patio set, some things.
(08:32):
See you think you're doing something. See old men got
money because they've been alive for a long time. So yeah,
older man gonna have more money than thirty year old do.
He got a little extra expendable income because he probably
got all out of his house. So buying you a
little patio set down that sun patio that he's song selfer.
You know, one hundred and eighty nine dollars. You get
(08:53):
the umbrella, the table, the folk chairs, a chase cloth, Matt, welcome, Matt.
Yeah he got that for you. You thought your hand something,
but go back and look at it. That's that son patio.
They throw themselves every weekend doing it something. And then
but I gave myself to him because I felt like
I owed him that. Yeah, because that's what you was
trained to do with your grown woman body. You exchange
(09:15):
your precious body for trinkets. As I got older, I
wanted to settle down. Oh but watch how this worked
on I cut off all my sugar daddies and set
up an online dating profile. Two years ago, I met
a doctor. We've been dating for almost two years, two
years now, and now lately he stopped doing the nice
things he used to do for me. He started out
(09:37):
taking me to the best shops in restaurants. He was
sending flowers to him my job, showering me with gifts.
Now he treats me like we're an old manned couple.
He got a high sex drive, and so do I.
But I told him were putting sex on hole for now.
He flipped out on me. He called me a gold digger.
Excuse me, excuse me? He called you, what a gold digger?
(09:57):
What's the problem? You use your body to dig for gold?
Ain't that what you're saying? Excuse me, why are you
writing this letter? What part of this is Sherlan and
I are supposed to help you with. I switched things
up on him. He called you a gold digger because
I switched things up on him. I told him, you
get what you pay for. So you told this to
(10:19):
a doctor that you get what you pay for. But
see the reason he changed because he started seeing signs
in you. He started seeing things about you. He started
discovering you wasn't about nothing, see because you don't realize it,
but you kept some of your ways. You always sitting
up at the night shop. Ain't putting nothing in the
table with him. He ain't see no future. You're a man,
(10:42):
a doctor. He ain't going to care you know where.
You don't know how to ask you here. You're spending
all his money. You accept everything. You don't get this
man a card or nothing. Is it gold digger rig
to handle him like this? Since we're in a relationship,
What are you stupid? All your relationships have been sugar daddies.
(11:04):
All your relationships have been you trading your body for things,
And now you want to know in a relationship? Is
it gold diggers to handle him like this? Since we're
in a relationship, What did I do wrong? You don't
you keep having arrangements. You don't have relationships, You have arrangements.
I'm gonna give you this for this banging body, this
(11:26):
moneymaker I got below my waist, and y'all give me
things now. Ain't fill up your little ragged ass apartment
just like they feel up your aunt's ragged ass house.
Every man you meet is willing to give you things
to make your house look better, and they now wanted
the man gonna give you no home. That doctor not
going to marry you. Are you crazy? Are you kidding me?
(11:47):
You think this man, this doctor, it's gonna marry you.
And then you verbally said it, you get what you
pay for. Once you say that to a man, I'm
you can't take that back because you are messing with
one of the two things that we are good at,
protection and provision. And once you start downplaying our provision ability. Yeah,
(12:13):
you're right, you get what you pay for, but let
them tell you something else. You're gonna pay for what
you get and now you find the pay Now you
need to go somewhere and sit your lord, find Dusty
behind down somewhere and let your little things settle down somewhere,
because right now I got too much activity on it.
Okay you at five coming out of Florida. Leave your
(12:37):
comments on today Drug Route on Instagram. At Steve Harvey
FM and check out the Strawberry Letters Train special coming
up next to the Sports Talk with Junior Rival and
departure times. You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show
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