March 25, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 57 and my boyfriend is 62. His grown children live with him and my father lives with me. We can’t catch a break when it’s time to be intimate. I’ve tried to sneak out to the garage late at night and have my boyfriend meet me there, but if my dad hears the alarm chime, he’s up and at ‘em, trying to see what’s going on..........................................................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEFARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one. Yeah, that's for you, Jake, this one right here,
right now. You never know it could be yours yet
(00:24):
can be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you. Here it Strawberry Letter thanking. If
your subject your place or mine. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm
fifty seven and my boyfriend is sixty two. His grown
children live with him, and my father lives with me.
We can't catch a break when it's time to be intimate.
(00:44):
I've tried to sneak out to the garage late at
night and have my boyfriend meet me there, but if
my dad hears the alarm chime, he's up and adam
trying to see what's going on. I snuck my man
into my bedroom one night, and the next morning my
dad burst into the door to tell me that he
had cooked breakfast. I can't put him out because my
(01:08):
mom did. I don't want to hurt his feelings because
I've always been a daddy's girl, but at my age,
it's time for him to cut me loose so I
can have some fun. I was married forever, and after
my divorce, he became overprotective of me. This drives my
boyfriend crazy because he wants to be mister wonderful in
(01:28):
my life. He and my dad have talked about my
dad stepping back, and my dad told him if he
stepped up and asked me to marry him, then that
would solve everything. My dad knows that neither of us
wants to be married again, and we're content in our relationship.
My boyfriend's children are thirty and twenty eight years old,
(01:50):
and they've both moved back home because they're still trying
to find employment and they blame COVID for not working.
I can't spend time over at his house because his
order doesn't keep a clean house, and quite frankly, the
kids don't want me over there. So here we are,
and there's always the question your place or mind when
(02:10):
we want to be together. He tells me to talk
to my dad, and I tell him to talk to
his grown children. Please help us settle this because I
love my dad and he loves his Sorry, grown children,
Why is he letting his children come between us like this?
All right? Two grown people ages fifty seven and sixty
two can't have company in their own homes. I mean
(02:33):
they're grown. Okay, this is a major problem. Your house
guests are running your houses. I just think they're not
supposed to be setting the rules for your house. Unless
you guys can't afford or to go to a motel
or a hotel on a regular basis. Something's got to
give at this point. I mean, I just you know,
(02:57):
I guess you're so called boyfriend hasn't figured this out.
Maybe he's not as into you as you think, because
I would think a man would find some kind of
way to see you, some kind of way, and it
wouldn't be sneaking around in the garage late at night.
I mean, I don't know why he doesn't just tell
his grown kids chill and clean up the house because
(03:18):
he's having a guest over. Unless he isn't trying to
do all of that. That's just what it seems to me.
He doesn't want to do all of that with you.
Your father already told him to marry you, step it
up and marry you, and he hasn't. That just doesn't
sound like a mister wonderful to me. I think you
need to figure that out and maybe break up with
this guy, because if he wanted you, I think he
(03:39):
find a way to have you. Steve, Oh, this letter
to me reeks with ignorance. Let me start with the
ages of the people in the letter. You got a
sixty two year old man and you got a fifty
seven year old woman. If you told that up, that's
(04:02):
one hundred and nineteen years of living. Damn, damn. Now,
my wife and I if you told our age. As
a matter of fact, let me look at that you're
looking at y'all got one hundred and nineteen years of
(04:23):
living experience. Me and my wife got a total of
one hundred and twenty two years of living experience. You are,
as surely said, are too old to be having to
have company. I just don't understand this. Too old ass
(04:46):
people asking permission can they have company? So you two
old fools have reverted into your life. I know as
we get older, some things go back to the way
they used to be. You used to pee on yourself
(05:07):
as a little boy, you pee on yourself as an
old man, I see it happening. You ain't got that
much hair when you're a baby. Your hair go away
when your ass get out. Somebody got to help you
up and down the steps when you're a baby. Somebody
(05:28):
got to help you up down the steps when your
ass is old. So I got that part. But you
should own more in your older age than you do
in your younger age. See, you can't be living at
your mama house as a baby and then be living
(05:50):
at your mama house as a grown ass man. You
can't be. I guess you can be a daddy skirl
your whole life. Because this woman claims that she's a
daddy's girl, you're actually or daddy's old woman. That's actually
what you are. You're not daddy's girl no more. Your
(06:14):
daddy's an old woman girl. So when I come back,
we'll get into the particulars of this conversation about these
two old ass people. This sixty two year old man
that has his grown kids living with him, and I
fifty seven year old woman has got her old ass
daddy living with her and found out the old ass
(06:34):
daddy's got to live with her because the mama put
him out. Why because she put him out and your
ass take him in. We'll be back with all of them,
Yes we will. Steve. Coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour, we'll have part two of your response
today's strawberry letters, Your place are Mine. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,
(06:57):
Let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject You're place or mine?
All right, here we go. Now, we got a fifty
seven year old woman that's got a boyfriend to sixty two.
Both of them are divorced. His grown children live with him,
and the lady's father lives with her. She fifty seven
got her daddy living with her. He's sixty two, got
his two grown kids, and they can't catch a break
(07:17):
when it's time to be intimate. That's what this whole
damn thing is about. She said. I tried to sneak
out to the garage late at night, and I had
my boyfriend and had my boyfriend meet me there. I
don't know who in the sixties like to be in
the garage. It don't sound that attractive to me, you know,
(07:38):
I'm not gonna be able to hold you up on
a car like I used to. If you slide off,
you're probably gonna hit the ground. And I just had
this car wax Now we got some problems. We are
just got this car waxing. You can't keep ye ass
(08:00):
upon it no more like I used to. If I
was knew you wasn coming out of head and rubbed
out and put some prime on it, if I knew
he was gonna be out here, and we need to
get up on this carp anyway, h and I tried
to sneak out into the garage. But if my dad
hears the alarm chime, he's up and at him, trying
(08:21):
to go see what's going on. So this woman, this
old ass woman, doesn't snug her boyfriend into her bedroom
one night and the next morning, your daddy busts through
the door to tell me that he had cooked bracket. Y.
I'm so daddy walk in and see daddy, Girl indn't
(08:41):
help in that, being a grown ass woman. So now
I can't put him out because my mom did. Let's
stop right here. So now we found out where her
daddy lived with her because her mama put him out.
So your daddy did something sixty too to get put out.
Most people don't put sixty old people out. Most people
(09:04):
trying to find somewhere for sixty year old people to stay.
So what did your old ass daddy do the restaurant
and get his ass and put out a sixty two
done something dumb like he was twenty two. Yeah, I
can't put him out because my mom did. I don't
want to hurt his feelings because I've always been a
daddy's girl. Once again, if you damn it's sixty, you
(09:26):
can call yourself a daddy's girl if you want to,
but you really daddy's an old woman. But at my age,
it's time for him to cut me loose so I
can have some fun. See, it's not him that's hanging
on to you. It seems to me like it's you
that's hanging on to him. You didn't have to put
him in your house. He can go back over that
(09:48):
and beg his way back up on your mama. I
was married forever and after my divorce he became overprotective
of me. This drives my boyfriend crazy because he wants
to be mister wonderful in my life. Now Here my
dad have talked about my dad stepping back, and my
dad told him if he stepped up and asked me
(10:09):
to marry him that I would solve everything. See, you
can't be mister Wonderful, but you don't want to act wonderful.
That's what the old school player is saying. My dad
knows that neither of us wants to be married again.
Why that is, I don't know, and we're content in
our relationship. My boyfriend's children are thirty and twenty eight,
and they both moved back home because they're still trying
(10:32):
to find employment, and they blame COVID for not working.
I can't spend time over his house because his daughter
doesn't keep a clean house. And quite frankly, the kids
don't want me over there. That's because you ain't they mama.
But they two damn old to be using that as
an excuse because you ain't there, mama. You they daddy's
(10:53):
side piece, and they know that, and they're probably blaming
you for the reason somebody getting blamed for the reason
that the man ain't with a mama. It's very confusing.
This is all stupid. Let me just tell you what
you need to do. Please help us settle this because
(11:16):
I love my dad and he loves his sorry grown
ass children. Whise he letting his children come between us
like that? Well, the reason he's letting his kids come
between y'all like that, it's because you're letting your daddy
come between y'all like that. And y'all old and stupid people.
So you doing it, I'm doing it. You don't want
to get mad. I ain't getting mad. You got some
people at your house. We have some people at my house.
(11:38):
You want to sneak out to the garage. I want
to lay in your bed. You see what I'm saying.
It's just on it on and on and on. The
reason y'all's old ass is divorced and don't want to
get mad again because you don't know how to be married.
So now you to rote us and you want to
stay answer the question that we can't answer for you.
(11:59):
Your daddy staying with you because your stupid ass daddy
did something to your mom and your mama put him out.
He over, there's your old, stupid, old ass man. And
when it had done so dumb got his ass put out.
Who get put out his sixty two? You get put
out when you're in your twenties and thirties, early forties.
Once you're in your fifties, it's too late that you
(12:20):
put out your dumb ass to d Now his kids
is thirty and twenty eight coming back home cause of COVID.
COVID gonna be with us. You lost your job two
years ago when COVID first started. Your ass oudt of here,
put your mask on and get your ass out. That's
(12:42):
gotta ask permission so they can have a company. Daddy,
What you in that doing? We're in my house. Leave
your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Instagram and at
Steve Harvey FM, and check out feet Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand. Up next, it is Sports Talk with Junior
(13:04):
at forty six minutes after the hour. Right after this,
you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEFARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one. Yeah, that's for you, Jake, this one right here,
right now. You never know it could be yours yet
(00:24):
can be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight. We
got it for you. Here it Strawberry Letter thanking. If
your subject your place or mine. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm
fifty seven and my boyfriend is sixty two. His grown
children live with him, and my father lives with me.
We can't catch a break when it's time to be intimate.
(00:44):
I've tried to sneak out to the garage late at
night and have my boyfriend meet me there, but if
my dad hears the alarm chime, he's up and adam
trying to see what's going on. I snuck my man
into my bedroom one night, and the next morning my
dad burst into the door to tell me that he
had cooked breakfast. I can't put him out because my
(01:08):
mom did. I don't want to hurt his feelings because
I've always been a daddy's girl, but at my age,
it's time for him to cut me loose so I
can have some fun. I was married forever, and after
my divorce, he became overprotective of me. This drives my
boyfriend crazy because he wants to be mister wonderful in
(01:28):
my life. He and my dad have talked about my
dad stepping back, and my dad told him if he
stepped up and asked me to marry him, then that
would solve everything. My dad knows that neither of us
wants to be married again, and we're content in our relationship.
My boyfriend's children are thirty and twenty eight years old,
(01:50):
and they've both moved back home because they're still trying
to find employment and they blame COVID for not working.
I can't spend time over at his house because his
order doesn't keep a clean house, and quite frankly, the
kids don't want me over there. So here we are,
and there's always the question your place or mind when
(02:10):
we want to be together. He tells me to talk
to my dad, and I tell him to talk to
his grown children. Please help us settle this because I
love my dad and he loves his Sorry, grown children,
Why is he letting his children come between us like this?
All right? Two grown people ages fifty seven and sixty
two can't have company in their own homes. I mean
(02:33):
they're grown. Okay, this is a major problem. Your house
guests are running your houses. I just think they're not
supposed to be setting the rules for your house. Unless
you guys can't afford or to go to a motel
or a hotel on a regular basis. Something's got to
give at this point. I mean, I just you know,
(02:57):
I guess you're so called boyfriend hasn't figured this out.
Maybe he's not as into you as you think, because
I would think a man would find some kind of
way to see you, some kind of way, and it
wouldn't be sneaking around in the garage late at night.
I mean, I don't know why he doesn't just tell
his grown kids chill and clean up the house because
(03:18):
he's having a guest over. Unless he isn't trying to
do all of that. That's just what it seems to me.
He doesn't want to do all of that with you.
Your father already told him to marry you, step it
up and marry you, and he hasn't. That just doesn't
sound like a mister wonderful to me. I think you
need to figure that out and maybe break up with
this guy, because if he wanted you, I think he
(03:39):
find a way to have you. Steve, Oh, this letter
to me reeks with ignorance. Let me start with the
ages of the people in the letter. You got a
sixty two year old man and you got a fifty
seven year old woman. If you told that up, that's
(04:02):
one hundred and nineteen years of living. Damn, damn. Now,
my wife and I if you told our age. As
a matter of fact, let me look at that you're
looking at y'all got one hundred and nineteen years of
(04:23):
living experience. Me and my wife got a total of
one hundred and twenty two years of living experience. You are,
as surely said, are too old to be having to
have company. I just don't understand this. Too old ass
(04:46):
people asking permission can they have company? So you two
old fools have reverted into your life. I know as
we get older, some things go back to the way
they used to be. You used to pee on yourself
(05:07):
as a little boy, you pee on yourself as an
old man, I see it happening. You ain't got that
much hair when you're a baby. Your hair go away
when your ass get out. Somebody got to help you
up and down the steps when you're a baby. Somebody
(05:28):
got to help you up down the steps when your
ass is old. So I got that part. But you
should own more in your older age than you do
in your younger age. See, you can't be living at
your mama house as a baby and then be living
(05:50):
at your mama house as a grown ass man. You
can't be. I guess you can be a daddy skirl
your whole life. Because this woman claims that she's a
daddy's girl, you're actually or daddy's old woman. That's actually
what you are. You're not daddy's girl no more. Your
(06:14):
daddy's an old woman girl. So when I come back,
we'll get into the particulars of this conversation about these
two old ass people. This sixty two year old man
that has his grown kids living with him, and I
fifty seven year old woman has got her old ass
daddy living with her and found out the old ass
(06:34):
daddy's got to live with her because the mama put
him out. Why because she put him out and your
ass take him in. We'll be back with all of them,
Yes we will. Steve. Coming up at twenty three minutes
after the hour, we'll have part two of your response
today's strawberry letters, Your place are Mine. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,
(06:57):
Let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject You're place or mine?
All right, here we go. Now, we got a fifty
seven year old woman that's got a boyfriend to sixty two.
Both of them are divorced. His grown children live with him,
and the lady's father lives with her. She fifty seven
got her daddy living with her. He's sixty two, got
his two grown kids, and they can't catch a break
(07:17):
when it's time to be intimate. That's what this whole
damn thing is about. She said. I tried to sneak
out to the garage late at night, and I had
my boyfriend and had my boyfriend meet me there. I
don't know who in the sixties like to be in
the garage. It don't sound that attractive to me, you know,
(07:38):
I'm not gonna be able to hold you up on
a car like I used to. If you slide off,
you're probably gonna hit the ground. And I just had
this car wax Now we got some problems. We are
just got this car waxing. You can't keep ye ass
(08:00):
upon it no more like I used to. If I
was knew you wasn coming out of head and rubbed
out and put some prime on it, if I knew
he was gonna be out here, and we need to
get up on this carp anyway, h and I tried
to sneak out into the garage. But if my dad
hears the alarm chime, he's up and at him, trying
(08:21):
to go see what's going on. So this woman, this
old ass woman, doesn't snug her boyfriend into her bedroom
one night and the next morning, your daddy busts through
the door to tell me that he had cooked bracket. Y.
I'm so daddy walk in and see daddy, Girl indn't
(08:41):
help in that, being a grown ass woman. So now
I can't put him out because my mom did. Let's
stop right here. So now we found out where her
daddy lived with her because her mama put him out.
So your daddy did something sixty too to get put out.
Most people don't put sixty old people out. Most people
(09:04):
trying to find somewhere for sixty year old people to stay.
So what did your old ass daddy do the restaurant
and get his ass and put out a sixty two
done something dumb like he was twenty two. Yeah, I
can't put him out because my mom did. I don't
want to hurt his feelings because I've always been a
daddy's girl. Once again, if you damn it's sixty, you
(09:26):
can call yourself a daddy's girl if you want to,
but you really daddy's an old woman. But at my age,
it's time for him to cut me loose so I
can have some fun. See, it's not him that's hanging
on to you. It seems to me like it's you
that's hanging on to him. You didn't have to put
him in your house. He can go back over that
(09:48):
and beg his way back up on your mama. I
was married forever and after my divorce he became overprotective
of me. This drives my boyfriend crazy because he wants
to be mister wonderful in my life. Now Here my
dad have talked about my dad stepping back, and my
dad told him if he stepped up and asked me
(10:09):
to marry him that I would solve everything. See, you
can't be mister Wonderful, but you don't want to act wonderful.
That's what the old school player is saying. My dad
knows that neither of us wants to be married again.
Why that is, I don't know, and we're content in
our relationship. My boyfriend's children are thirty and twenty eight,
and they both moved back home because they're still trying
(10:32):
to find employment, and they blame COVID for not working.
I can't spend time over his house because his daughter
doesn't keep a clean house. And quite frankly, the kids
don't want me over there. That's because you ain't they mama.
But they two damn old to be using that as
an excuse because you ain't there, mama. You they daddy's
(10:53):
side piece, and they know that, and they're probably blaming
you for the reason somebody getting blamed for the reason
that the man ain't with a mama. It's very confusing.
This is all stupid. Let me just tell you what
you need to do. Please help us settle this because
(11:16):
I love my dad and he loves his sorry grown
ass children. Whise he letting his children come between us
like that? Well, the reason he's letting his kids come
between y'all like that, it's because you're letting your daddy
come between y'all like that. And y'all old and stupid people.
So you doing it, I'm doing it. You don't want
to get mad. I ain't getting mad. You got some
people at your house. We have some people at my house.
(11:38):
You want to sneak out to the garage. I want
to lay in your bed. You see what I'm saying.
It's just on it on and on and on. The
reason y'all's old ass is divorced and don't want to
get mad again because you don't know how to be married.
So now you to rote us and you want to
stay answer the question that we can't answer for you.
(11:59):
Your daddy staying with you because your stupid ass daddy
did something to your mom and your mama put him out.
He over, there's your old, stupid, old ass man. And
when it had done so dumb got his ass put out.
Who get put out his sixty two? You get put
out when you're in your twenties and thirties, early forties.
Once you're in your fifties, it's too late that you
(12:20):
put out your dumb ass to d Now his kids
is thirty and twenty eight coming back home cause of COVID.
COVID gonna be with us. You lost your job two
years ago when COVID first started. Your ass oudt of here,
put your mask on and get your ass out. That's
(12:42):
gotta ask permission so they can have a company. Daddy,
What you in that doing? We're in my house. Leave
your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Instagram and at
Steve Harvey FM, and check out feet Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand. Up next, it is Sports Talk with Junior
(13:04):
at forty six minutes after the hour. Right after this,
you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show
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