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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's tang time, tange time, tange time sing us a song,
Kiki sing a song about the tangent.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Tange time tan time. Look at this tangent.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Yeah, it's gonna make you laugh.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Maybe come and if you don't, then you're on crack.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Come on, yes, and crack is wack.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And don't fall flat on your big back.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
And don't eat a mat because that's not a food
that shoplifted. What the hell is on? Joey said, yes, okay,
never mind, I hit the thing.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
It's the tangent giving you all this shit. We couldn't
talk about on the air.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
I don't know we tried. So what do we think
about this? This is on the New York Post today.
I mean, I think I know what we're all going
to think. But why not? So there's a woman who
was reported to HR because she didn't invite her coworker
to her wedding. So it's in the post. It's from Reddit.
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As a woman in my office I'm friendly with, but
not close to, explained the anonymous woman. We have had
small talk here and there, nothing deep, no lunches together,
no real outside of work connection. She found out that
I was getting married and asked when the wedding was,
and then she straight up asked if she was invited.
I laughed and said, oh, well, it's really small, just
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close friends and family. I didn't think anything of it.
So she got quiet and cold after that, and I figured, okay,
awkward moment whatever. Fast forward a few days later, I
get a meeting invite from HR. It turns out that
she filed a complaint saying that I was being exclusive
and creating a hostile environment by leaving people out. So
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weddings are I truly don't think you're of any obligation
to invite anyone to your wedding under any circumstances.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Really, I mean, it's your day.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
You may have to pay some consequences for, you know,
not inviting certain friends or family, but no one is
entitled to be invited to anything. So she had to
sit in this HR meeting and explain that I am
not required to invite coworkers I barely know to my
literal wedding. It's a personal event, has nothing to do
with worker who is in the office. And the HR
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representative agreed and closed the case, but her colleague remains
openly offended. Now she acts super passive aggressive towards me,
like side eyes, little digs when I walk by, still
bringing it up in these weird sarcastic comments, like some
people are so inclusive these days. I can't believe she
actually thought hr could what make me invite her?
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Yeah? Like what was going to be the outcome?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Like was she going to get fired because she didn't
invite this random coworker at her wedding? Did she think
she would be reprimanded? Did she think she'd have to apologize?
Did she thinks she would have to? Is it like
when you were I guess we can't do this anymore, really,
But back when I was in school, if it was
Valentine's Day, you could bring a Valentine and candy, but
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you had to make sure everybody got one. But that
was not that was just teaching people rules about being kind.
You know. I wasn't like I wasn't gonna get kicked
out of kindergarten if I didn't bring enough Valentine's for everybody.
Or if it's your birthday, you could bring cupcakes. I
know you can't bring food any more, allergies all this stuff,
but but you know, everybody got one. That was the
only rule. But that's different. That was I was doing
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that in public. It was it was something I was,
you know that you would offer to someone like if
I I wouldn't say on the show, everyone gets breakfast,
but Jason, you know, I mean I wouldn't. I wouldn't
do that again. I mean I used to do that
all the time, but I wouldn't do it anymore. But no,
no one is, no one is no no one gets
to say they're coming to your wedding, Like, what was
the outcome?
Speaker 2 (03:38):
What does she think HR was gonna do?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Go?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Hey, you know what, if you don't invite her, then
you know you don't work here anymore?
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Is something? And then would you even want it? Right?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Would you even want to be there if someone had
to finago? Like I wouldn't even want to be there
as the coworker if I wasn't invited and then somehow
somebody forced my way in.
Speaker 5 (03:57):
No way, if I have to force my way in anywhere,
I don't want to be there. I want to be
somewhere where I'm wanted and that I like, you know,
deserve and earned to be, not like make myself like
be somewhere that's ver weird.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
It wasn't like she invited everyone in the office but her.
But even if she did, that would be her right
to do that. And yeah, there's you may face some
backlash for that. You may hurt people's feelings, but that's
that's interpersonal. That's not professional. You know, that might be rude,
but but that's you're right, And if that person's mad
at you, then they're mad at you. But going to HR,
I mean, you're the only person who's planned to wed
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or abandon. It's your wedding.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
I was there.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I know Caitlin and Jason are wedding planners. Yeah, but
as far as you know, being your day and you
having complete control over it, did you run into this
at all where there were people?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Have you?
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Have you Has there been any backlash because someone wasn't
invited to your day?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I don't think so. I'm trying to think.
Speaker 6 (04:51):
I know I over invited because I just felt like, well,
we're going to a whole different city, like it's fine,
you know what I mean, But nobody.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Was like not invited.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
I'm trying to think I have had a piece people,
not that I shouldn't have invited them, but I did
it out of obligation, I'll tell you off the air.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
But they didn't go.
Speaker 6 (05:06):
But I was like, this is an obligation, and they
were very rude to not even like RSVP or say
anything about it.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
And I still think they're rude. Okay, yeah, I still see.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
Them read no I'm not gonna do it, but like
they're very rude. At least just be like, hey, I
can't attend. Yeah, I can't attend, but this person is
just so busy and so you know a lot of other.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Things, not even like hey, I'm not going to be
able to make it.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Nope, nope.
Speaker 6 (05:27):
And I don't expect gifts, but I've heard of people
at least like doing that party.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
I would have sent a gift of some kind.
Speaker 6 (05:32):
Yeah yeah, someone else did in this office to someone
else who got married. I thought that was really nice,
you know what I mean. That person was even invited
to that person's wedding, but they still sent a gift.
I'm like, that's really kind. That is so sweet. I
don't think I even got an acknowledgment, wow, of my wedding. Yeah,
it just shows a lot, but.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
No, but I just I don't know who thinks about
this still not.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Me Jase's I don't want to be somewhere where I
don't want it, and I guess I really wouldn't take
it personally if if if I work with someone and
they didn't I mean, I talk about this sometimes, I've
said it on the air before, but I'm at this
age of my life. I think there are a lot
of people if I got married, who would expect to
be invited. They would expect it, and some of them
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might be right, you know, people who have been influential
in my career or people who I've you know, I
think it would obviously you guys would be invited. But
then I think there are people just outside the circle
that might think they should be invited, and I don't
think I would, but and there might be some bitterness,
but it's like I don't know. But then really what
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it gets into is the extended Like when you start
to really branch out, it's like, well, I'm going to
invite this person, that I should invite this, And before long,
I have a seven thousand person wedding and I don't
really keep up with seven thousand people. I don't really
keep up with ten people. So that's why I would
be more inclined to just elope and then my parents
if they got involved.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
We have to invite this person.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
And at this point, I'm probably paying for the wedding,
so that's not happening, like we're I'm sorry, you're not
inviting your neighbors and friends to the thing.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
I'm paying for not doing that.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Which is why I feel like if I ever got married,
it would probably just happen, and I don't know, maybe
I'd call my parents and my sister and say, hey,
it's happening this weekend and that's that, and maybe you
guys and a couple of friends, and maybe the other
person would do that too, But the day I would
be huge. It would have to be a whole fucking thing,
I think in order for me not to offend people,
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because people will, because people can be a little moody
about stuff like that.
Speaker 6 (07:28):
I don't really understand that either, like if we aren't
that cool anymore, or maybe like this coworker situation was
just crazy, by the way, But if I just like
see you at your desk, you know what I mean,
we say hi, might get a coffee here and there
once in a while. I don't know, like if I'm back,
if I was that cool that you would know because
you'd have an invitation, you know what I mean, if
I wanted you there, and if I thought that we
were actually good friends. But just because you see someone
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every day at work doesn't mean they're obligated to be invited.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
No, maybe that's mean.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
But we had a coworker get married a couple of
years ago, and I think some people in this room
were invited and some people weren't.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I I wasn't invited.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
I took no off that I didn't either, I didn't
take a same I didn't either.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Honestly, it didn't bother me at all. I think that
they were probably people who went who were like, why
I'm not me, but they I think when you go
to something like that, it's like it does sort of
enunciate who you're cool with and maybe who you're not
as cool with. But I mean that's that, I mean,
it's not untrue. So but no, that person was not
obligated to invite the entire staff of the radio station
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because he or she got married.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
That's not an obligation exactly.
Speaker 6 (08:28):
Once you start making that list too, it's just you
gotta start narrowing it down. People make honestly, people make
the list at first and then get cut as we
go before the invites get sent. No, it sounds bad,
but like you have to otherwise you have a seven
thousand person wedding easily if you invite the neighbors and
invite their cousins that you met a couple of times.
You know, it's everyone things that they deserve an invite,
or like, you know, you just talk to them a
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little bit here and there, and.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
It's like this is an expensive thing. It's kind of
a big thing.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
I don't know, or like, if I was invited to
your wedding, do you I have to invite you to mine?
Speaker 3 (08:59):
That's a good question.
Speaker 7 (09:00):
That's very interesting.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
If I was in your wedding, do you have to
be in mind?
Speaker 5 (09:07):
That?
Speaker 8 (09:07):
I wonder because I have been in some weddings that
were not as cool anymore, and I wouldn't want them
in mind, but I would feel like an a hole.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
But I also it's your day, and I don't I
don't think anybody should should be able to take it
out on you if.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
You you know, I don't know, I will do. I
want to, I definitely do.
Speaker 7 (09:24):
We'll expect to be invited everywhere.
Speaker 8 (09:25):
I think that's so weird, Like, why do you think
you should be invited every single place?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
I don't get that. I don't want to go anywhere, right, yeah, same.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Yeah, I don't either. I don't need I.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Always want to be invited somewhere.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
I don't want to go, but I always would.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I used to get that.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
I used to be that guy. I used to be
the guy that wanted to be invited to everything and
wasn't going to go. And because I don't go, I
don't get invited to as much anymore. And that's fair.
That's fair. Now if it's important to one of like
if it's if I can go and it's important to
one of you, then I'll go. But if I can go,
but otherwise I get it. You know, it's fine. I
probably deserve not to get invited to a lot of
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extra stuff because I typically sick to myself and I
don't really know. I can't be offended by that anymore.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
It's a good point. Do you guys get offended?
Speaker 6 (10:10):
Like if you know someone's having something, but like nobody's invited.
I'm not saying no one's invited, but for example, I
had my block party this weekend. But I knew every
single person in this room was booked, bleats and busy,
so I didn't really say anything. I wasn't like, hey,
guys coming to my block part because I already knew
A everyone's gonna say, I really can't do it. And
number two, I don't want to put that pressure on
you or make you feel bad, you know what I mean, because.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
You had that, Kaitlin had something. You guys all had
some you's had stuff before. And it's like, if I'm
not in town, obviously I can't go. And I you
know what I do is I wait. I wait for
you to tell me you're having something, and then I
leave town. So that's because it's really convenient for me
to leave town and miss something rather than just drive
down the road and go to your thing. But like,
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I don't really hang out here on the weekend, so
I'm not if it's on the weekend, i't really go.
And you guys are kind enough to say, hey, do
you want to come, knowing that I may not be around,
and that's.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Yeah, And you know I'll start with that.
Speaker 6 (11:00):
I'll be like, I know you're not here, but I
know it's all the Pullu's a weekend and Caylen's birthday weekend.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
By I'm having this, I don't know.
Speaker 6 (11:07):
I just like this time was the one time I
didn't really say anything because I just knew everyone was busy.
So I didn't like if you guys saw my videos,
I was nervous, like, oh are they going to think?
Speaker 3 (11:14):
I don't want them at my block party? Like I
don't know.
Speaker 8 (11:16):
Now, it is rude to say you're going and then
not go, yeah, last minute.
Speaker 7 (11:20):
I can't stand that that it's not a directed that
keep get out of here. I think that's so rude.
Speaker 8 (11:24):
I think you need to be grown enough to know
if you can go to something or not and give
the proper answer. We can't just last minute, not go
and not say anything.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
That's why if I don't if I if I don't
know the answer, I'll usually say I can't, I'm going
to RSVP no because I don't know. And then like Kylen,
for example, like my flight was coming back, I you know,
customs and whatever. It was like, if I can move it,
then I'll be there, but I'm going to tell you
no for your pound. But like and then you said
to me, well, if you can if it changes, then
you're in. But that's up to you to say that,
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Like it's not for me to go yeah, I'll be
there only knowing that I can't go yeah, or say no,
I can't go and then text you fifty ten minutes
before and go, no, actually I'm coming. Yeah, you know,
I guess i'd rather if I don't know for sure,
I'll just say I can't and then and then it's
up to the person to be like, well, you can
drop in if you want anyway.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Sometimes people will do that.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
But yeah, I feel like I feel like I'm going
to get in trouble if I have If I ever
have like a wedding or something big like that and
I or some kind of big birthday party or something,
I think they are going to be people from the
outside who would take it out on me for not
being invited. But then you kind of have to do
an inventory, you know, like when someone has a party
I'm not invited to, I kind of take an inventory
and I'm like, well, I guess I wouldn't have expected to.
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I probably shouldn't have been invited to that because I
haven't exactly really you know, talked to that person or
really done my part of that relationship, you know what
I mean?
Speaker 2 (12:41):
So I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
And then the other thing that gets complicated is when
like people that you care about have parties and they
invite people that you don't particularly care for, and it's like, shit,
I don't want to go to that and be around that,
But I can't tell you who to invite and who
you can't invite. But like, if someone's done me dirty
and you' all still friends with them, like that's totally
you're right, and totally you're right to invite them, but
like I don't particularly want to go hang out with them.
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But then I'm the asshole who gets who winds up
I wind up being on an island trying to avoid
the people that you know that we have in common
that I don't really you know what I mean. So
it's like you got to kind of suck it up,
but then you don't want to. This is what happens
when you get grown, when you get when you're grown,
When you get grown, get grown, I feel like things
get a little bit more complicated.
Speaker 8 (13:22):
Yeah, I mean, your feelings can be hurt, of course,
if you're not invited somewhere, but work, let's work through
that privately, you know what I mean, Like, really, look
in the mirror, figure it out.
Speaker 7 (13:30):
Why does this offend me?
Speaker 8 (13:32):
And don't make it like, don't gossip about it or
make it other people's issues.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Well, Cale, and I'm going to bring this up now.
I think that it's a good time. But I wasn't
invited to your romantic birthday dinner with your boyfriend last night.
I actually went ahead and I called hr for you.
And it's going to be a scenario in our next
training video. What would you do in this situation? Right?
Speaker 7 (13:51):
Okay, next time, I'll invite you.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Thank you. I want to be the third wheel on
your romantic birthday dinner.
Speaker 7 (13:57):
More the merrier.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
And I know that we shouldn't we have to do, Britt.
I think that most people. I think it's the law.
I know in Chicago there's a certain amount of corporate
training that's required, which means that we have to basically
do double the corporate training because there's the company stuff
and we have to watch these videos and like, what
would you do in this situation? And I it's harassment
and bullying, and I mean, I can't say it's not
important stuff. I kind of wish we could just take
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a little test every year and if we remember the
foundation of it, then we don't have to watch the
same video again. But I will say, they really and
I'm sorry if this is something that you've done for
a living at some point in your life, but they really,
they really just use kind of anybody for the acting
in those things. And Jason and I were doing our
training at the same time and sending each other pictures
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from the Have you guys done it yet? There's one
guy is a snitch. He is a snitch. That dude,
that dude was he was. He was that guy he was.
He was that guy in school that had to follow
the rules and sat in the front row and raise.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
His hand and he was a snitch. You know.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
I mean, if someone is acting up in the office
and acting inappropriately something, I might say something to them.
But it's going to take a lot for me to
go to HR. It's gonna take a lot for me.
Like if I see somebody acting stupid and someone's uncomfortable,
I might intervene or do something they talk about like
what was it the RS. It's like you can redirect
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or you know, there's like things you could do to
d d's that's what it was. You could diffuse the situation.
You can you know delay you can do it. There's
different things you can do, like to break it up
and and save your coworker who's in an awkward situation.
Like I would absolutely do that, but I would go
to the person myself and be like, hey, man, I
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don't do that unless it was like gross, like if
it were the boss, and the boss were like if
I overheard like a if you bang me, I'll promote
some really bad shit. But if it's just like it's
if it's just a weird interaction or a bad joke
or something, I think I would try and go to
the person and be like, hey, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (16:04):
I don't do that. Before I would go behind there.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
It's not even about loyalty to the to the creeper,
it's just like I don't It would take a lot
for me to go to HR. And I guess that's
what you're supposed to do because like it insulates you
from legal stuff, But I don't know. It would have
to be really because because once I had.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
To be really bad.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
I think, and I'm not saying this is good advice,
you don't follow whatever you're supposed to do, but I
don't know, Like even Jason, you're the rule follower.
Speaker 4 (16:30):
Yeah, I don't even know how to get to HR.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Yeah I don't either.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Actually they don't tell us that they train us, but
they don't really tell us where HR lives or exists.
But I mean, I certainly wouldn't want anyone to like
get abused or something at work. I wouldn't allow that
to happen. But I don't know it would take that
would be the.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
Bar might still work in an odd industry like we're
not in like you know. A lot of that was like, well, i've,
you know, work on this spreadsheet to send these graphs
to our client, right, like she wants to take me
to this concert and Zeke is definitely gay, but.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
You know what, that ship was fine as fun though that.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
I was like, fine, fine ass chick that's trying to
get Zeke, the gay guy who's playing a straight guy,
trying to get him to go to a concert with her.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
And the boss is like, dude, you should go if
we really help business that you guys are learning a lot,
and I was I was like, dude, what are you doing? Bro?
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Like I'll go with you hot ass sexual assault lady.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
As sexual assault lady.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
You need you need it need to be more real
life situation. We need more realistic situations in these videos.
Don't do not have a hot chick hitting on a
gay guy. None of that is real all the time,
none of how it happened. There are not hot women
in this office constantly asking me to concerts.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Okay, it did not happen.
Speaker 5 (17:55):
And it's the slow turn for me, Like after something
bad happens, there's like the thin the slow turn, and
then the stair like at the camera like, oh, what
did I go wrong here?
Speaker 1 (18:05):
I also wonder like how do they find the people
to be the real life people giving testimonials in.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
The life people?
Speaker 1 (18:11):
You think, well, they claim to be they claim to
be real life people, But like, are these people who
went to HR and they were like, you know, got
somebody fired and they go back to them and go, hey,
would you like to talk about your experience or like
do you think that you're gonna get Do you think
you'll be viewed more favorably in the office if you
if you star in an HR video. I don't I
don't really know, but I mean we need There was
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one on TikTok, and I think it was a real
from these real trainings, but I don't. I want to
believe it was a joke, but I don't. I actually
think it was a real HR training video. But it
was a large woman complaining to HR about or to
her manager about how there's a guy at the conference
that keeps asking her to go to dinner and the
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dude's response.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
And I really think it.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
Was real because it looked it was like shot with
that same like filter that they use, like that Oprah
filter on all the HR videos, and so they were acting.
But the manager's response was, Dude, the guy doesn't want
to hook up with you. He just wants to take
you to do your favorite thing.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
Oh no, whoa yeah, And I'm just like, oh my god.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
Yeah, Like some of them are like two on the nose.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
That makes me uncomfort Yeah yeah, don't you can take
you to two hours of your life will never get back.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Or there was the guy that was standing next to
the private jet and he was like, Hey, you want
to go get a drink the Apple Martinis? I know
a place that makes it. No one has ever said that.
No one in the history of the world has ever said,
I know just a place to get you an apple martini,
Like I don't want to know, bro, might that might
appeal to Kiki?
Speaker 4 (19:50):
I mean that would work for if the drink is.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
The color of a highlighter, then then Ki would like
to drink it. But I mean, dude, like, let's can
we can we fix the writing a little bit here?
Like I mean, at least make realistic, Like I know
a place that makes a great you know, dirty martini
or old fashioned, so a drink that takes some nuance, guys,
like you know what I'm saying, Like, I know the
place that makes the best blue fucking whatever drink blue
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Tahiti or whatever. What are those drinks that are blue hurricanes?
Are those green?
Speaker 4 (20:19):
Blue?
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Are they blue?
Speaker 3 (20:21):
Have you had that?
Speaker 2 (20:23):
Ever?
Speaker 4 (20:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (20:24):
A blue mother It's a blue motherfuckers.
Speaker 3 (20:27):
Very strong drink and it's blue with highlighter blue.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Oh wow, what I forgot about?
Speaker 8 (20:32):
I don't know if you guys did this under your
twenty first and we talked about it off air. But
my sister's turning.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Okay, hold on, yeah, no, you're good, you're good. Deep breath,
it's a tangent. She's turn one's listening it's fine.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
She's turning twenty one this record.
Speaker 8 (20:44):
Ah, And I remember in college we would make people
who are turning twenty one do the what's it called, Jason,
the leftover shot?
Speaker 4 (20:51):
Oh yeah, the match shot, the bar.
Speaker 7 (20:53):
Map, Yeah, all the liquid leftover in.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Each shot, lasts shot. Yeah, basically black in color.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Yeah, inevitably turned and you got to imagine it's it's
remnants of alcohol but also probably cleaning product. And god
knows what else is in a bar mat at the
end of the night.
Speaker 8 (21:13):
I think you're thinking of a blue Hawaiian.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Fred is a blue Hawaiian. That's what I was like.
I was thinking about the blue motherfucker drink. I don't
know what.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
And I think they put like every liquor.
Speaker 4 (21:21):
In it, Coraco or curraca, yeah.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Vodka, tequila, gin ye, vodka.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
That's like a Long Island iced tea. It's every alcohol
like and somehow it tastes okay, and you're going.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
Like it hates to see Kiki coming.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Vodka and what else?
Speaker 3 (21:43):
Tequila.
Speaker 5 (21:45):
It's basically like a Long Island but with blue instead
of like.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
I'm sweet and sour mags.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Dude, Like, tell me you're trying to molest me. It's fine,
just say it like I mean honest. If someone's like, hey,
you know what, they make great Long Island iced teas here,
I don't. If Jason's like, hey, they make great blue
hurricanes here, I'm.
Speaker 7 (22:05):
To be catered. I would do it differently for each
of you.
Speaker 8 (22:07):
Hey, Jason, I know the best spot for Mexican food
in town.
Speaker 3 (22:11):
That's how I.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Would get right.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
And these these trainings have gotten smart now where they
like pop up these activities in the middle of it,
so you can't even kind of like ignore it.
Speaker 8 (22:23):
Yeah, and then I get them wrong because I have
it on mute, and then they're probably writing me up somewhere.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I think maybe we should take over this task because
I think we could get the job done in a
way that really resonated with people. I think we could
because again I'm not saying this isn't an important topic,
and I'm not saying there are on people that you
know have unfortunately encountered a lot of these things. It's
just they really make a mockery of it with these scenarios.
It would never happen, like who's casting, you know, Like
let me like I need I need to do a
(22:49):
table read here like I don't know, like that guy
should Okay, so we got ten actors, right, I realized
there's probably a limited crop of actors trying to do
HR training videos. But like that guy, it's not believable
in that role. It's just not like cut you know,
get get Fernando in here, because that's you know, the
guy with the lisp getting hit on by the there's
(23:11):
a little zesty getting hit on by the really hot
Latina girl, Like, I'm sorry, the girl's got to be
not hot.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
It's not believable.
Speaker 4 (23:21):
Hey, I know i'd be hitting on Zeke. I work there, Jason.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
We could just we could probably just film real life interactions.
It's probably trust me, I see something every day that
makes me cringe. But you know it's fine. A lot
of it happens here in this room. Actually, they just
filmed the show for a couple of days and then
make a video out of that. What did Fred do
wrong in this scenario?
Speaker 2 (23:45):
Everything? What did Jason do wrong in this scenario?
Speaker 1 (23:49):
All of the above select D and then I also,
are you going to I know that they say that
they don't like look at the answers, but I'm also
paranoid about like does it show up?
Speaker 2 (23:59):
So I'm wearing some report if I got them all wrong, me.
Speaker 7 (24:02):
Too, And I get them wrong because I have it
on mute.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
And I don't think it does. I don't because I
don't even think anyone's keeping track. I really don't. But
like I worry about that. I'm like, does someone look
at work day and go like Fred doesn't?
Speaker 2 (24:15):
Like didn't.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
And then there's the one part, Oh my god, there's
the one part where it's like a quiz game where
you have to type in and protected class. And so
I'm like, I'm like gender sexual orientation, but is it
sexual orientation? I'm like typing this handy camp, I'm like,
I don't know. I don't.
Speaker 5 (24:36):
Like, I don't want to type these things you did
I missed military?
Speaker 1 (24:42):
Oh my god, Like I don't want to be typing
this stuff. I don't want this like on my record,
and it times a score and then no matter what
score you get, you get it.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
That's excellent work. I'm like, I got it one, I
got it. What's an excellent words? Terrible work? All right?
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Anyway, So maybe you guys are excited about that. Get
you excited about the training?
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Now?
Speaker 3 (25:04):
Yes, I can't wait to take it.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
I'm gonna call hr if I can find him, and
I'm gonna volunteer. I would like to be in. I'd
like to start one.
Speaker 4 (25:10):
It's way better than the in person ones they used
to make us do. Remember we used to go on
then for hours.
Speaker 7 (25:15):
That backfire, That backfire quick.
Speaker 5 (25:17):
I'm forever changed, Like I will never heal from that.
Speaker 8 (25:21):
I will never look at some people they did that.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
They had like a company come in and we did
like in person group activities to talk about bullying and
harassment and like gender orientation and any controversial topic you
can imagine. And they would like be like, Okay, well,
what's worse to be game or a crackhead? Honestly, honestly, basically,
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it was what's worse being a crackhead living in your
car or.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
To be a gay person?
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Job?
Speaker 2 (25:54):
And if you think it's going to the side of
the room that you think.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
And people were like walking over there saying it was
like terrible to be gay, and like I'm looking at
Jason going I'm looking at them doing homeless with a
child leaving out of my car, or a gay millionaire
and people are like, certainly not the gay guy I.
Speaker 3 (26:16):
Just want to be a gay millionaire.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
Honestly, you're telling me if.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
If I'm game, I'm not telling you that.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
But no, it actually that's not It really happened. We
saw that, like what seriously the scenario was, what is
worse being a crack addict, homeless, homeless.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Woman with no support living.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
In your car with their child being a successful gay
man go to the side of the room that you
think is no And people were like, and it wasn't
a lot of people, but a couple of people were like, no,
I am, it is terrible to be getting. They go
over there and you're like, oh, well, you're in leadership.
Speaker 7 (27:00):
Take it for the fake scenario is real?
Speaker 8 (27:02):
Hens Like, it's not going to actually turn you gay.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
And like even if even if somehow deep down that's
what you think, you don't actually show that. No, I mean,
I can't believe there are people to still think that.
But even if you did not the venue, surprisingly we
never did that again was one year contract wasn't renewed. Yeah,
(27:27):
that was eye opening. That was really wild.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Yes, ma'am, there's a lot of things we got to go.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
But the other thing that's always very eye opening at
a company events is if there's a company event with
a bar, it is extremely eye opening because there's always
a couple of people that go zero to four hundred.
Speaker 7 (27:44):
It's always the same people.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
It's like, dude, it's four o'clock on a Wednesday, we're
having like a little we're having a couple of beers,
maybe in the oftene, and you got somebody over there
and that's like freebasing.
Speaker 3 (27:58):
Like literally we've got that.
Speaker 4 (28:00):
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
People like they can totally ship faced, and it's like, dude,
it's it's like one drink and we go home like
it's not and then people over there like pounding shots
and somebody found it ever clear and they're absolutely ship
face and you're like, oh my god, right, like you
can do this.
Speaker 7 (28:21):
On your own time.
Speaker 5 (28:22):
You know, sometimes it gets you, like it just sneaks
up on you.
Speaker 7 (28:27):
You never do like what we're speaking of.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
There's a difference between.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
Like having a good time at an event and then
every single time there's alcohol and a function your ship faced.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
It's like, oh my god.
Speaker 7 (28:37):
Right, Like let's seem to look in the mirror.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Or you kind of you kind of see the people
the way that people I don't either, I do go
but like the podlock. I don't go to the podlo
like you know this because I see the way that
people present themselves and I'm worried about their hygiene. You
want me to eat food that you made in your
home that I can't see like, No, I think the
only way that we should be able to have a
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pot like is if the health company goes over there.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
Health the health people. I need to know what your
There needs to be a score.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Right next to your dish, next to your fucking cheese casserole, chicken, whatever.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
There needs to be a health score.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
I want to see a I want to see a
ninety five or higher, and then maybe I'll consider eating
your your gumbo that you made with tofa with it
or whatever it is. Yes, all right, and we covered
a lot today. That's a true tangent. Have a nice
day if you would, if you listen this far, check
us out on YouTube and all the socials and make
us a preset and the iHeart thing and that Fred
(29:39):
show on demand, all the ship We fucking pound into
you every day.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Thank you bye. You heard hit pounding.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
Oh
It's tang time, tange time, tange time sing us a song,
Kiki sing a song about the tangent.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Tange time tan time. Look at this tangent.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Yeah, it's gonna make you laugh.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Maybe come and if you don't, then you're on crack.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Come on, yes, and crack is wack.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And don't fall flat on your big back.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
And don't eat a mat because that's not a food
that shoplifted. What the hell is on? Joey said, yes, okay,
never mind, I hit the thing.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
It's the tangent giving you all this shit. We couldn't
talk about on the air.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
I don't know we tried. So what do we think
about this? This is on the New York Post today.
I mean, I think I know what we're all going
to think. But why not? So there's a woman who
was reported to HR because she didn't invite her coworker
to her wedding. So it's in the post. It's from Reddit.
(01:02):
As a woman in my office I'm friendly with, but
not close to, explained the anonymous woman. We have had
small talk here and there, nothing deep, no lunches together,
no real outside of work connection. She found out that
I was getting married and asked when the wedding was,
and then she straight up asked if she was invited.
I laughed and said, oh, well, it's really small, just
(01:22):
close friends and family. I didn't think anything of it.
So she got quiet and cold after that, and I figured, okay,
awkward moment whatever. Fast forward a few days later, I
get a meeting invite from HR. It turns out that
she filed a complaint saying that I was being exclusive
and creating a hostile environment by leaving people out. So
(01:43):
weddings are I truly don't think you're of any obligation
to invite anyone to your wedding under any circumstances.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Really, I mean, it's your day.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
You may have to pay some consequences for, you know,
not inviting certain friends or family, but no one is
entitled to be invited to anything. So she had to
sit in this HR meeting and explain that I am
not required to invite coworkers I barely know to my
literal wedding. It's a personal event, has nothing to do
with worker who is in the office. And the HR
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representative agreed and closed the case, but her colleague remains
openly offended. Now she acts super passive aggressive towards me,
like side eyes, little digs when I walk by, still
bringing it up in these weird sarcastic comments, like some
people are so inclusive these days. I can't believe she
actually thought hr could what make me invite her?
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Yeah? Like what was going to be the outcome?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Like was she going to get fired because she didn't
invite this random coworker at her wedding? Did she think
she would be reprimanded? Did she think she'd have to apologize?
Did she thinks she would have to? Is it like
when you were I guess we can't do this anymore, really,
But back when I was in school, if it was
Valentine's Day, you could bring a Valentine and candy, but
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you had to make sure everybody got one. But that
was not that was just teaching people rules about being kind.
You know. I wasn't like I wasn't gonna get kicked
out of kindergarten if I didn't bring enough Valentine's for everybody.
Or if it's your birthday, you could bring cupcakes. I
know you can't bring food any more, allergies all this stuff,
but but you know, everybody got one. That was the
only rule. But that's different. That was I was doing
(03:19):
that in public. It was it was something I was,
you know that you would offer to someone like if
I I wouldn't say on the show, everyone gets breakfast,
but Jason, you know, I mean I wouldn't. I wouldn't
do that again. I mean I used to do that
all the time, but I wouldn't do it anymore. But no,
no one is, no one is no no one gets
to say they're coming to your wedding, Like, what was
the outcome?
Speaker 2 (03:38):
What does she think HR was gonna do?
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Go?
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Hey, you know what, if you don't invite her, then
you know you don't work here anymore?
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Is something? And then would you even want it? Right?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Would you even want to be there if someone had
to finago? Like I wouldn't even want to be there
as the coworker if I wasn't invited and then somehow
somebody forced my way in.
Speaker 5 (03:57):
No way, if I have to force my way in anywhere,
I don't want to be there. I want to be
somewhere where I'm wanted and that I like, you know,
deserve and earned to be, not like make myself like
be somewhere that's ver weird.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
It wasn't like she invited everyone in the office but her.
But even if she did, that would be her right
to do that. And yeah, there's you may face some
backlash for that. You may hurt people's feelings, but that's
that's interpersonal. That's not professional. You know, that might be rude,
but but that's you're right, And if that person's mad
at you, then they're mad at you. But going to HR,
I mean, you're the only person who's planned to wed
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or abandon. It's your wedding.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
I was there.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I know Caitlin and Jason are wedding planners. Yeah, but
as far as you know, being your day and you
having complete control over it, did you run into this
at all where there were people?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Have you?
Speaker 1 (04:45):
Have you Has there been any backlash because someone wasn't
invited to your day?
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I don't think so. I'm trying to think.
Speaker 6 (04:51):
I know I over invited because I just felt like, well,
we're going to a whole different city, like it's fine,
you know what I mean, But nobody.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Was like not invited.
Speaker 6 (04:58):
I'm trying to think I have had a piece people,
not that I shouldn't have invited them, but I did
it out of obligation, I'll tell you off the air.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
But they didn't go.
Speaker 6 (05:06):
But I was like, this is an obligation, and they
were very rude to not even like RSVP or say
anything about it.
Speaker 3 (05:11):
And I still think they're rude. Okay, yeah, I still see.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
Them read no I'm not gonna do it, but like
they're very rude. At least just be like, hey, I
can't attend. Yeah, I can't attend, but this person is
just so busy and so you know a lot of other.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Things, not even like hey, I'm not going to be
able to make it.
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Nope, nope.
Speaker 6 (05:27):
And I don't expect gifts, but I've heard of people
at least like doing that party.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
I would have sent a gift of some kind.
Speaker 6 (05:32):
Yeah yeah, someone else did in this office to someone
else who got married. I thought that was really nice,
you know what I mean. That person was even invited
to that person's wedding, but they still sent a gift.
I'm like, that's really kind. That is so sweet. I
don't think I even got an acknowledgment, wow, of my wedding. Yeah,
it just shows a lot, but.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
No, but I just I don't know who thinks about
this still not.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Me Jase's I don't want to be somewhere where I
don't want it, and I guess I really wouldn't take
it personally if if if I work with someone and
they didn't I mean, I talk about this sometimes, I've
said it on the air before, but I'm at this
age of my life. I think there are a lot
of people if I got married, who would expect to
be invited. They would expect it, and some of them
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might be right, you know, people who have been influential
in my career or people who I've you know, I
think it would obviously you guys would be invited. But
then I think there are people just outside the circle
that might think they should be invited, and I don't
think I would, but and there might be some bitterness,
but it's like I don't know. But then really what
(06:34):
it gets into is the extended Like when you start
to really branch out, it's like, well, I'm going to
invite this person, that I should invite this, And before long,
I have a seven thousand person wedding and I don't
really keep up with seven thousand people. I don't really
keep up with ten people. So that's why I would
be more inclined to just elope and then my parents
if they got involved.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
We have to invite this person.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
And at this point, I'm probably paying for the wedding,
so that's not happening, like we're I'm sorry, you're not
inviting your neighbors and friends to the thing.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
I'm paying for not doing that.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Which is why I feel like if I ever got married,
it would probably just happen, and I don't know, maybe
I'd call my parents and my sister and say, hey,
it's happening this weekend and that's that, and maybe you
guys and a couple of friends, and maybe the other
person would do that too, But the day I would
be huge. It would have to be a whole fucking thing,
I think in order for me not to offend people,
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because people will, because people can be a little moody
about stuff like that.
Speaker 6 (07:28):
I don't really understand that either, like if we aren't
that cool anymore, or maybe like this coworker situation was
just crazy, by the way, But if I just like
see you at your desk, you know what I mean,
we say hi, might get a coffee here and there
once in a while. I don't know, like if I'm back,
if I was that cool that you would know because
you'd have an invitation, you know what I mean, if
I wanted you there, and if I thought that we
were actually good friends. But just because you see someone
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every day at work doesn't mean they're obligated to be invited.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
No, maybe that's mean.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
But we had a coworker get married a couple of
years ago, and I think some people in this room
were invited and some people weren't.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
I I wasn't invited.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
I took no off that I didn't either, I didn't
take a same I didn't either.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Honestly, it didn't bother me at all. I think that
they were probably people who went who were like, why
I'm not me, but they I think when you go
to something like that, it's like it does sort of
enunciate who you're cool with and maybe who you're not
as cool with. But I mean that's that, I mean,
it's not untrue. So but no, that person was not
obligated to invite the entire staff of the radio station
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because he or she got married.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
That's not an obligation exactly.
Speaker 6 (08:28):
Once you start making that list too, it's just you
gotta start narrowing it down. People make honestly, people make
the list at first and then get cut as we
go before the invites get sent. No, it sounds bad,
but like you have to otherwise you have a seven
thousand person wedding easily if you invite the neighbors and
invite their cousins that you met a couple of times.
You know, it's everyone things that they deserve an invite,
or like, you know, you just talk to them a
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little bit here and there, and.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
It's like this is an expensive thing. It's kind of
a big thing.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
I don't know, or like, if I was invited to
your wedding, do you I have to invite you to mine?
Speaker 3 (08:59):
That's a good question.
Speaker 7 (09:00):
That's very interesting.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
If I was in your wedding, do you have to
be in mind?
Speaker 5 (09:07):
That?
Speaker 8 (09:07):
I wonder because I have been in some weddings that
were not as cool anymore, and I wouldn't want them
in mind, but I would feel like an a hole.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
But I also it's your day, and I don't I
don't think anybody should should be able to take it
out on you if.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
You you know, I don't know, I will do. I
want to, I definitely do.
Speaker 7 (09:24):
We'll expect to be invited everywhere.
Speaker 8 (09:25):
I think that's so weird, Like, why do you think
you should be invited every single place?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
I don't get that. I don't want to go anywhere, right, yeah, same.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Yeah, I don't either. I don't need I.
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Always want to be invited somewhere.
Speaker 3 (09:39):
I don't want to go, but I always would.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
I used to get that.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
I used to be that guy. I used to be
the guy that wanted to be invited to everything and
wasn't going to go. And because I don't go, I
don't get invited to as much anymore. And that's fair.
That's fair. Now if it's important to one of like
if it's if I can go and it's important to
one of you, then I'll go. But if I can go,
but otherwise I get it. You know, it's fine. I
probably deserve not to get invited to a lot of
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extra stuff because I typically sick to myself and I
don't really know. I can't be offended by that anymore.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
It's a good point. Do you guys get offended?
Speaker 6 (10:10):
Like if you know someone's having something, but like nobody's invited.
I'm not saying no one's invited, but for example, I
had my block party this weekend. But I knew every
single person in this room was booked, bleats and busy,
so I didn't really say anything. I wasn't like, hey,
guys coming to my block part because I already knew
A everyone's gonna say, I really can't do it. And
number two, I don't want to put that pressure on
you or make you feel bad, you know what I mean, because.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
You had that, Kaitlin had something. You guys all had
some you's had stuff before. And it's like, if I'm
not in town, obviously I can't go. And I you
know what I do is I wait. I wait for
you to tell me you're having something, and then I
leave town. So that's because it's really convenient for me
to leave town and miss something rather than just drive
down the road and go to your thing. But like,
(10:51):
I don't really hang out here on the weekend, so
I'm not if it's on the weekend, i't really go.
And you guys are kind enough to say, hey, do
you want to come, knowing that I may not be around,
and that's.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Yeah, And you know I'll start with that.
Speaker 6 (11:00):
I'll be like, I know you're not here, but I
know it's all the Pullu's a weekend and Caylen's birthday weekend.
Speaker 3 (11:05):
By I'm having this, I don't know.
Speaker 6 (11:07):
I just like this time was the one time I
didn't really say anything because I just knew everyone was busy.
So I didn't like if you guys saw my videos,
I was nervous, like, oh are they going to think?
Speaker 3 (11:14):
I don't want them at my block party? Like I
don't know.
Speaker 8 (11:16):
Now, it is rude to say you're going and then
not go, yeah, last minute.
Speaker 7 (11:20):
I can't stand that that it's not a directed that
keep get out of here. I think that's so rude.
Speaker 8 (11:24):
I think you need to be grown enough to know
if you can go to something or not and give
the proper answer. We can't just last minute, not go
and not say anything.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
That's why if I don't if I if I don't
know the answer, I'll usually say I can't, I'm going
to RSVP no because I don't know. And then like Kylen,
for example, like my flight was coming back, I you know,
customs and whatever. It was like, if I can move it,
then I'll be there, but I'm going to tell you
no for your pound. But like and then you said
to me, well, if you can if it changes, then
you're in. But that's up to you to say that,
(11:53):
Like it's not for me to go yeah, I'll be
there only knowing that I can't go yeah, or say no,
I can't go and then text you fifty ten minutes
before and go, no, actually I'm coming. Yeah, you know,
I guess i'd rather if I don't know for sure,
I'll just say I can't and then and then it's
up to the person to be like, well, you can
drop in if you want anyway.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Sometimes people will do that.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
But yeah, I feel like I feel like I'm going
to get in trouble if I have If I ever
have like a wedding or something big like that and
I or some kind of big birthday party or something,
I think they are going to be people from the
outside who would take it out on me for not
being invited. But then you kind of have to do
an inventory, you know, like when someone has a party
I'm not invited to, I kind of take an inventory
and I'm like, well, I guess I wouldn't have expected to.
(12:32):
I probably shouldn't have been invited to that because I
haven't exactly really you know, talked to that person or
really done my part of that relationship, you know what
I mean?
Speaker 2 (12:41):
So I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
And then the other thing that gets complicated is when
like people that you care about have parties and they
invite people that you don't particularly care for, and it's like, shit,
I don't want to go to that and be around that,
But I can't tell you who to invite and who
you can't invite. But like, if someone's done me dirty
and you' all still friends with them, like that's totally
you're right, and totally you're right to invite them, but
like I don't particularly want to go hang out with them.
(13:04):
But then I'm the asshole who gets who winds up
I wind up being on an island trying to avoid
the people that you know that we have in common
that I don't really you know what I mean. So
it's like you got to kind of suck it up,
but then you don't want to. This is what happens
when you get grown, when you get when you're grown,
When you get grown, get grown, I feel like things
get a little bit more complicated.
Speaker 8 (13:22):
Yeah, I mean, your feelings can be hurt, of course,
if you're not invited somewhere, but work, let's work through
that privately, you know what I mean, Like, really, look
in the mirror, figure it out.
Speaker 7 (13:30):
Why does this offend me?
Speaker 8 (13:32):
And don't make it like, don't gossip about it or
make it other people's issues.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Well, Cale, and I'm going to bring this up now.
I think that it's a good time. But I wasn't
invited to your romantic birthday dinner with your boyfriend last night.
I actually went ahead and I called hr for you.
And it's going to be a scenario in our next
training video. What would you do in this situation? Right?
Speaker 7 (13:51):
Okay, next time, I'll invite you.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Thank you. I want to be the third wheel on
your romantic birthday dinner.
Speaker 7 (13:57):
More the merrier.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
And I know that we shouldn't we have to do, Britt.
I think that most people. I think it's the law.
I know in Chicago there's a certain amount of corporate
training that's required, which means that we have to basically
do double the corporate training because there's the company stuff
and we have to watch these videos and like, what
would you do in this situation? And I it's harassment
and bullying, and I mean, I can't say it's not
important stuff. I kind of wish we could just take
(14:20):
a little test every year and if we remember the
foundation of it, then we don't have to watch the
same video again. But I will say, they really and
I'm sorry if this is something that you've done for
a living at some point in your life, but they really,
they really just use kind of anybody for the acting
in those things. And Jason and I were doing our
training at the same time and sending each other pictures
(14:41):
from the Have you guys done it yet? There's one
guy is a snitch. He is a snitch. That dude,
that dude was he was. He was that guy he was.
He was that guy in school that had to follow
the rules and sat in the front row and raise.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
His hand and he was a snitch. You know.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
I mean, if someone is acting up in the office
and acting inappropriately something, I might say something to them.
But it's going to take a lot for me to
go to HR. It's gonna take a lot for me.
Like if I see somebody acting stupid and someone's uncomfortable,
I might intervene or do something they talk about like
what was it the RS. It's like you can redirect
(15:23):
or you know, there's like things you could do to
d d's that's what it was. You could diffuse the situation.
You can you know delay you can do it. There's
different things you can do, like to break it up
and and save your coworker who's in an awkward situation.
Like I would absolutely do that, but I would go
to the person myself and be like, hey, man, I
(15:43):
don't do that unless it was like gross, like if
it were the boss, and the boss were like if
I overheard like a if you bang me, I'll promote
some really bad shit. But if it's just like it's
if it's just a weird interaction or a bad joke
or something, I think I would try and go to
the person and be like, hey, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (16:04):
I don't do that. Before I would go behind there.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
It's not even about loyalty to the to the creeper,
it's just like I don't It would take a lot
for me to go to HR. And I guess that's
what you're supposed to do because like it insulates you
from legal stuff, But I don't know. It would have
to be really because because once I had.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
To be really bad.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
I think, and I'm not saying this is good advice,
you don't follow whatever you're supposed to do, but I
don't know, Like even Jason, you're the rule follower.
Speaker 4 (16:30):
Yeah, I don't even know how to get to HR.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Yeah I don't either.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Actually they don't tell us that they train us, but
they don't really tell us where HR lives or exists.
But I mean, I certainly wouldn't want anyone to like
get abused or something at work. I wouldn't allow that
to happen. But I don't know it would take that
would be the.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
Bar might still work in an odd industry like we're
not in like you know. A lot of that was like, well, i've,
you know, work on this spreadsheet to send these graphs
to our client, right, like she wants to take me
to this concert and Zeke is definitely gay, but.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
You know what, that ship was fine as fun though that.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
I was like, fine, fine ass chick that's trying to
get Zeke, the gay guy who's playing a straight guy,
trying to get him to go to a concert with her.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
And the boss is like, dude, you should go if
we really help business that you guys are learning a lot,
and I was I was like, dude, what are you doing? Bro?
Speaker 1 (17:27):
Like I'll go with you hot ass sexual assault lady.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
As sexual assault lady.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
You need you need it need to be more real
life situation. We need more realistic situations in these videos.
Don't do not have a hot chick hitting on a
gay guy. None of that is real all the time,
none of how it happened. There are not hot women
in this office constantly asking me to concerts.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Okay, it did not happen.
Speaker 5 (17:55):
And it's the slow turn for me, Like after something
bad happens, there's like the thin the slow turn, and
then the stair like at the camera like, oh, what
did I go wrong here?
Speaker 1 (18:05):
I also wonder like how do they find the people
to be the real life people giving testimonials in.
Speaker 4 (18:10):
The life people?
Speaker 1 (18:11):
You think, well, they claim to be they claim to
be real life people, But like, are these people who
went to HR and they were like, you know, got
somebody fired and they go back to them and go, hey,
would you like to talk about your experience or like
do you think that you're gonna get Do you think
you'll be viewed more favorably in the office if you
if you star in an HR video. I don't I
don't really know, but I mean we need There was
(18:33):
one on TikTok, and I think it was a real
from these real trainings, but I don't. I want to
believe it was a joke, but I don't. I actually
think it was a real HR training video. But it
was a large woman complaining to HR about or to
her manager about how there's a guy at the conference
that keeps asking her to go to dinner and the
(18:54):
dude's response.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
And I really think it.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
Was real because it looked it was like shot with
that same like filter that they use, like that Oprah
filter on all the HR videos, and so they were acting.
But the manager's response was, Dude, the guy doesn't want
to hook up with you. He just wants to take
you to do your favorite thing.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
Oh no, whoa yeah, And I'm just like, oh my god.
Speaker 4 (19:21):
Yeah, Like some of them are like two on the nose.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
That makes me uncomfort Yeah yeah, don't you can take
you to two hours of your life will never get back.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
Or there was the guy that was standing next to
the private jet and he was like, Hey, you want
to go get a drink the Apple Martinis? I know
a place that makes it. No one has ever said that.
No one in the history of the world has ever said,
I know just a place to get you an apple martini,
Like I don't want to know, bro, might that might
appeal to Kiki?
Speaker 4 (19:50):
I mean that would work for if the drink is.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
The color of a highlighter, then then Ki would like
to drink it. But I mean, dude, like, let's can
we can we fix the writing a little bit here?
Like I mean, at least make realistic, Like I know
a place that makes a great you know, dirty martini
or old fashioned, so a drink that takes some nuance, guys,
like you know what I'm saying, Like, I know the
place that makes the best blue fucking whatever drink blue
(20:13):
Tahiti or whatever. What are those drinks that are blue hurricanes?
Are those green?
Speaker 4 (20:19):
Blue?
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Are they blue?
Speaker 3 (20:21):
Have you had that?
Speaker 2 (20:23):
Ever?
Speaker 4 (20:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (20:24):
A blue mother It's a blue motherfuckers.
Speaker 3 (20:27):
Very strong drink and it's blue with highlighter blue.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Oh wow, what I forgot about?
Speaker 8 (20:32):
I don't know if you guys did this under your
twenty first and we talked about it off air. But
my sister's turning.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Okay, hold on, yeah, no, you're good, you're good. Deep breath,
it's a tangent. She's turn one's listening it's fine.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
She's turning twenty one this record.
Speaker 8 (20:44):
Ah, And I remember in college we would make people
who are turning twenty one do the what's it called, Jason,
the leftover shot?
Speaker 4 (20:51):
Oh yeah, the match shot, the bar.
Speaker 7 (20:53):
Map, Yeah, all the liquid leftover in.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Each shot, lasts shot. Yeah, basically black in color.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Yeah, inevitably turned and you got to imagine it's it's
remnants of alcohol but also probably cleaning product. And god
knows what else is in a bar mat at the
end of the night.
Speaker 8 (21:13):
I think you're thinking of a blue Hawaiian.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Fred is a blue Hawaiian. That's what I was like.
I was thinking about the blue motherfucker drink. I don't
know what.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
And I think they put like every liquor.
Speaker 4 (21:21):
In it, Coraco or curraca, yeah.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
Vodka, tequila, gin ye, vodka.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
That's like a Long Island iced tea. It's every alcohol
like and somehow it tastes okay, and you're going.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
Like it hates to see Kiki coming.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Vodka and what else?
Speaker 3 (21:43):
Tequila.
Speaker 5 (21:45):
It's basically like a Long Island but with blue instead
of like.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
I'm sweet and sour mags.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
Dude, Like, tell me you're trying to molest me. It's fine,
just say it like I mean honest. If someone's like, hey,
you know what, they make great Long Island iced teas here,
I don't. If Jason's like, hey, they make great blue
hurricanes here, I'm.
Speaker 7 (22:05):
To be catered. I would do it differently for each
of you.
Speaker 8 (22:07):
Hey, Jason, I know the best spot for Mexican food
in town.
Speaker 3 (22:11):
That's how I.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Would get right.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
And these these trainings have gotten smart now where they
like pop up these activities in the middle of it,
so you can't even kind of like ignore it.
Speaker 8 (22:23):
Yeah, and then I get them wrong because I have
it on mute, and then they're probably writing me up somewhere.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I think maybe we should take over this task because
I think we could get the job done in a
way that really resonated with people. I think we could
because again I'm not saying this isn't an important topic,
and I'm not saying there are on people that you
know have unfortunately encountered a lot of these things. It's
just they really make a mockery of it with these scenarios.
It would never happen, like who's casting, you know, Like
let me like I need I need to do a
(22:49):
table read here like I don't know, like that guy
should Okay, so we got ten actors, right, I realized
there's probably a limited crop of actors trying to do
HR training videos. But like that guy, it's not believable
in that role. It's just not like cut you know,
get get Fernando in here, because that's you know, the
guy with the lisp getting hit on by the there's
(23:11):
a little zesty getting hit on by the really hot
Latina girl, Like, I'm sorry, the girl's got to be
not hot.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
It's not believable.
Speaker 4 (23:21):
Hey, I know i'd be hitting on Zeke. I work there, Jason.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
We could just we could probably just film real life interactions.
It's probably trust me, I see something every day that
makes me cringe. But you know it's fine. A lot
of it happens here in this room. Actually, they just
filmed the show for a couple of days and then
make a video out of that. What did Fred do
wrong in this scenario?
Speaker 2 (23:45):
Everything? What did Jason do wrong in this scenario?
Speaker 1 (23:49):
All of the above select D and then I also,
are you going to I know that they say that
they don't like look at the answers, but I'm also
paranoid about like does it show up?
Speaker 2 (23:59):
So I'm wearing some report if I got them all wrong, me.
Speaker 7 (24:02):
Too, And I get them wrong because I have it
on mute.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
And I don't think it does. I don't because I
don't even think anyone's keeping track. I really don't. But
like I worry about that. I'm like, does someone look
at work day and go like Fred doesn't?
Speaker 2 (24:15):
Like didn't.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
And then there's the one part, Oh my god, there's
the one part where it's like a quiz game where
you have to type in and protected class. And so
I'm like, I'm like gender sexual orientation, but is it
sexual orientation? I'm like typing this handy camp, I'm like,
I don't know. I don't.
Speaker 5 (24:36):
Like, I don't want to type these things you did
I missed military?
Speaker 1 (24:42):
Oh my god, Like I don't want to be typing
this stuff. I don't want this like on my record,
and it times a score and then no matter what
score you get, you get it.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
That's excellent work. I'm like, I got it one, I
got it. What's an excellent words? Terrible work? All right?
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Anyway, So maybe you guys are excited about that. Get
you excited about the training?
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Now?
Speaker 3 (25:04):
Yes, I can't wait to take it.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
I'm gonna call hr if I can find him, and
I'm gonna volunteer. I would like to be in. I'd
like to start one.
Speaker 4 (25:10):
It's way better than the in person ones they used
to make us do. Remember we used to go on
then for hours.
Speaker 7 (25:15):
That backfire, That backfire quick.
Speaker 5 (25:17):
I'm forever changed, Like I will never heal from that.
Speaker 8 (25:21):
I will never look at some people they did that.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
They had like a company come in and we did
like in person group activities to talk about bullying and
harassment and like gender orientation and any controversial topic you
can imagine. And they would like be like, Okay, well,
what's worse to be game or a crackhead? Honestly, honestly, basically,
(25:47):
it was what's worse being a crackhead living in your
car or.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
To be a gay person?
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Job?
Speaker 2 (25:54):
And if you think it's going to the side of
the room that you think.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
And people were like walking over there saying it was
like terrible to be gay, and like I'm looking at
Jason going I'm looking at them doing homeless with a
child leaving out of my car, or a gay millionaire
and people are like, certainly not the gay guy I.
Speaker 3 (26:16):
Just want to be a gay millionaire.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
Honestly, you're telling me if.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
If I'm game, I'm not telling you that.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
But no, it actually that's not It really happened. We
saw that, like what seriously the scenario was, what is
worse being a crack addict, homeless, homeless.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
Woman with no support living.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
In your car with their child being a successful gay
man go to the side of the room that you
think is no And people were like, and it wasn't
a lot of people, but a couple of people were like, no,
I am, it is terrible to be getting. They go
over there and you're like, oh, well, you're in leadership.
Speaker 7 (27:00):
Take it for the fake scenario is real?
Speaker 8 (27:02):
Hens Like, it's not going to actually turn you gay.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
And like even if even if somehow deep down that's
what you think, you don't actually show that. No, I mean,
I can't believe there are people to still think that.
But even if you did not the venue, surprisingly we
never did that again was one year contract wasn't renewed. Yeah,
(27:27):
that was eye opening. That was really wild.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
Yes, ma'am, there's a lot of things we got to go.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
But the other thing that's always very eye opening at
a company events is if there's a company event with
a bar, it is extremely eye opening because there's always
a couple of people that go zero to four hundred.
Speaker 7 (27:44):
It's always the same people.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
It's like, dude, it's four o'clock on a Wednesday, we're
having like a little we're having a couple of beers,
maybe in the oftene, and you got somebody over there
and that's like freebasing.
Speaker 3 (27:58):
Like literally we've got that.
Speaker 4 (28:00):
It's fine.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
People like they can totally ship faced, and it's like, dude,
it's it's like one drink and we go home like
it's not and then people over there like pounding shots
and somebody found it ever clear and they're absolutely ship
face and you're like, oh my god, right, like you
can do this.
Speaker 7 (28:21):
On your own time.
Speaker 5 (28:22):
You know, sometimes it gets you, like it just sneaks
up on you.
Speaker 7 (28:27):
You never do like what we're speaking of.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
There's a difference between.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
Like having a good time at an event and then
every single time there's alcohol and a function your ship faced.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
It's like, oh my god.
Speaker 7 (28:37):
Right, Like let's seem to look in the mirror.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Or you kind of you kind of see the people
the way that people I don't either, I do go
but like the podlock. I don't go to the podlo
like you know this because I see the way that
people present themselves and I'm worried about their hygiene. You
want me to eat food that you made in your
home that I can't see like, No, I think the
only way that we should be able to have a
(29:01):
pot like is if the health company goes over there.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
Health the health people. I need to know what your
There needs to be a score.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Right next to your dish, next to your fucking cheese casserole, chicken, whatever.
Speaker 2 (29:14):
There needs to be a health score.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
I want to see a I want to see a
ninety five or higher, and then maybe I'll consider eating
your your gumbo that you made with tofa with it
or whatever it is. Yes, all right, and we covered
a lot today. That's a true tangent. Have a nice
day if you would, if you listen this far, check
us out on YouTube and all the socials and make
us a preset and the iHeart thing and that Fred
(29:39):
show on demand, all the ship We fucking pound into
you every day.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Thank you bye. You heard hit pounding.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
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