Foot In Your Mouth

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, guys, it's been a minute. Let's do a tangent.
Hit the intro P if you would, or Bella, whoever
hits the intro, hit the intro.

Speaker 2 (00:06):
I'll hit that.

Speaker 1 (00:07):
It's the tangent giving you all this shit we couldn't
talk about on the air. All right, good, thanks for
hitting that. Have you guys, ever had a I know
the I know the answers you ask. I think everybody has.
But can you think of a time where you really
have put your foot in your mouth, like a moment
where because it happened to me the other day and
I felt terrible.

Speaker 3 (00:27):
It's happened to me a lot.

Speaker 1 (00:27):
I feel like I feel like I'm pretty good at
putting my foot in my mouth and looking stupid. But
I was I was traveling for work, and I was
talking with a group of people that I used to know.
I used to work with them back in Charlotte at
this TV station. We're all just sort of catching up
as a big group of us standing around and and
I don't live in Charlotte. So one of the people said, Hey,

(00:50):
do you need to ride back to your hotel? And
I said, I said no. The company sprung for this
crappy nise On Ultima out there, and she goes, well,
I was going to drive you a crappy niss On Ultimate.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
Because that's that's the car.

Speaker 1 (01:03):
That's her car, that's the car she that's what she has.
And I was just making a joke that, Like, you know,
the joke I was trying to make was like, you know,
big time over here, they got me a fancy rental car,
you know, and versus like a BMW or a Porsche.
I didn't mean it, like, but I think Nissan Ultimate's
a crappy but anyone laughed. I mean, she knew what
I meant, but it was just like I look, I'm

(01:25):
just like, you know what I mean, And she's like,
I know, the joke is fine, like but it wasn't.

Speaker 2 (01:30):
Yeah, but I was.

Speaker 3 (01:31):
Like, what a dick. I'm such a dick. Like I
didn't mean it.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
I wasn't like I wasn't dissing anybody's stuff. Again, I
would have no way of knowing that the exact car
that she has, literally, and I just felt like a
fucking asshole, And I guess got me thinking, I'm sure
other people in this room might be able to make me.
Thank God, this person has a sense of humor and
knows me well enough to know that I wasn't actually
dissing her car or anyone's car for that matter, because

(01:57):
I just wouldn't. But what comes to mind immediately when
when you think of times that you put your foot
in your mouth come off me?

Speaker 3 (02:04):
Yeah, but in mouth never. I can't really think, so
stop it.

Speaker 2 (02:10):
I'm so serious.

Speaker 3 (02:11):
Did you guys all have.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
One out of my mind? When it happens?

Speaker 4 (02:15):
I have, so you can't think of one.

Speaker 5 (02:18):
I have so many, But the most recent one was
on that bachelorette I was on.

Speaker 4 (02:23):
We we finally got to the house. I was delirious.

Speaker 5 (02:25):
I had set up all the decorations and everything and
everyone finally got there. I was making it special and nice,
and we got a drink and we went to cheers
and someone said, like, you know, cheers to the bride.

Speaker 4 (02:38):
This like savor this.

Speaker 5 (02:40):
It only happens once, and I went, well, hopefully the
first toast, and I was.

Speaker 4 (02:46):
Just like I was making a joke.

Speaker 5 (02:48):
You guys know my humor, but like I was like,
oh shit, like the first toast of the weekend. I
really like I flew close to the sun with that one. Luckily,
everyone like looked at me. They got quiet for a
second and then everyone started laughing. That is funny, But
I felt my heart in my ass because I didn't
know how it was going to be received, because like,
you shouldn't say that if you're the maid of honor.

Speaker 1 (03:04):
Yeah, but that was that was funny, though, like it
was that was I felt awful I did something like
that one It's almost the exact same thing. I went
to a wedding destination wedding with someone I was dating
at the time, and they were kind of like he
had he didn't have there were no there was no
wedding party, so he had like designated guys that would
be groomsmen, And I always thought that was kind of strange.

(03:27):
I've been to more than one wedding like that, and
I have to tell you, I speculate that it's because
she didn't have any friends, because in both cases, I
think the issue was that she couldn't there was no
one that was going to stand up there with her
because this dude, like in both cases I can think
of and you know, one of the people, this dude
could have had fifty people stand next to him, like
there were a lot of people there that and so

(03:48):
he said beforehand, like I want you and you and
you and you to give a speech at the UH
or say something, give a toast at the rehearsal dinner.
But I got the sense and it was almost like
disproportionate at both weddings, people sitting on one side then
the other. In fact, at one point they were like, hey,
let's even this out and you guys can go over there.
But I sense that there was no wedding party because
there weren't this well, but I don't know that I

(04:08):
feel bad.

Speaker 3 (04:09):
I have to say, like.

Speaker 1 (04:11):
When I when I see that, I don't like a
person that can't get two or three people to stand
there next to him at their wedding? Is that about
is that? Do we feel bad for them? Or is
it about them? You know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (04:23):
Like I feel sad if.

Speaker 4 (04:24):
You don't have anyone that would be up there with you.

Speaker 1 (04:27):
But like that also says to me, like why don't
you like, yeah, I think you have to look introspectively
there too and say, and maybe I'm wrong about this,
but I just I know that both of these men
could have had a lot there were any of us
would have stood up there next to him. He had
a lot of people that were close to him, and
then I and you kind of just looked at the
crowd and the disproportion. You thought, why wouldn't you have

(04:48):
a wedding party if you had a bunch of people
there anyway, So there was no wedding parties. So I
was sort of like an honorary groomsman. And it's in
Mexico and everyone's drinking and giving speeches. And I went
up there and said, hey, something to the effect of, hey,
cheers to Grant, you know, getting married. I'm not gonna

(05:10):
shit talk him, but lord knows, he'll never give one
of these speeches for me because it's never happening, like
I'm never getting married. And everyone just looks at the
girl that I'm with, and she was mortified, and she
and I was in deep fucking shit for the rest
of the trip, like no words, like no words spoken. Ye,
she was so fucking mad at me. We'd only been
dating for like six weeks two months, so like, I.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
Didn't we find it right?

Speaker 1 (05:34):
And I sort of and it's a tongue, it's a joke,
like it's it's a joke.

Speaker 4 (05:37):
Because she could say by yourself all the time, like.

Speaker 1 (05:39):
Right, like and this was a long time ago, but
like I've I've always been the guy to say like
I'm never getting married or whatever. And everyone laughed, but
like she immediately took that as they were laughing at her.

Speaker 5 (05:49):
Yeah, I was gonna say, in those situations, it's never
about like what you actually say, it's about usually the
people's reaction around. So if she feels embarrassed, then she
probably is like, oh.

Speaker 3 (05:58):
I'm pissos, which I realized I was.

Speaker 1 (06:00):
You know, I was fucked on that one. And I
but I didn't mean it like it was. It was
just as stupid. And my friends, these are my friends,
like fraternity brothers, and they're all like, yeah, you know,
he's the guy that will probably never get married. But
I also it wasn't like we've been dating for years
and she's been begging for a ring and then I
go up there and you.

Speaker 3 (06:17):
Know, i'd known her for two months.

Speaker 1 (06:19):
Yeah, and we never we never the topic had never
come up. The topic had never come up.

Speaker 2 (06:27):
When you do it, though, you really do it, when
you put your.

Speaker 3 (06:30):
Off with some ship, you really put your Kiki's over here,
Like she's never done it. That's bullshit. You're just not
telling us.

Speaker 2 (06:35):
I can't remember. Not that not that bad.

Speaker 1 (06:40):
I'm sorry, but that girl had no claim to us
getting married and everybody knew it. Again, if it were
like I don't know, and I'm not picking on you,
but if it were Big Tim and he gives that
speech after eight years, right, but he should you live together.
You've been together for a long time and he knows
that you would like to marry him, so that would

(07:00):
be an insensitive thing.

Speaker 3 (07:01):
I didn't know this girl's middle name.

Speaker 6 (07:03):
No, you know, if I was her in that case,
I can't. And then let me say justice for her.
I do feel her if she doesn't have the quick comebacks,
because I would have stood up and said, right, and
I'm looking for another man tonight, I would responding, we
would have laughed.

Speaker 2 (07:17):
Off and moved on. But you know, she didn't. She
was probably filing out a place and just.

Speaker 1 (07:22):
You know, like I didn't point at her. Yes, so
I understood, but I was in trouble for the rest
of the trip. It was bad, and I was like,
it's a joke. It's like, come on, like are those
funny jokes you hear about it? It's just silly. I also
got in trouble with that same girl. Because this is

(07:42):
back in the MySpace days when you this is like
mid two thousands, when you would put a song on
your profile. And at the time, our friend Billy the
Kid was was assisting in managing a group called Forever
the Sickest Kids, and they had a song called She's
a Lady and the lyric that the chorus or the
intro of the song goes, I'm in love with a

(08:03):
girl I hate and it keeps going. And I posted
that on my MySpace because as to support Billy who
was managing, and she heard it and it was and
she was a radio person and it was a whole
bit on their show. How how could he post that
it's about it? So I got to be honest, I
really cared about this person. I like this person still.
I think we're still good. But both of those things

(08:24):
were very much me, me, me. They were very much like,
I'm going to make that I'm immediately going to take
that gesture and make it about me. And it had
nothing to do with her, like what She's a lady
and it's it but but but basically basically it's talking
about how he is crazy about a girl that.

Speaker 2 (08:46):
Right, and you put that on your provat.

Speaker 3 (08:48):
Page because my friend was managing the band, right.

Speaker 1 (08:53):
But you see what I mean though in both cases
it had nothing to do with you like it, and
the one I could understand because it was in a
public setting. The other one, I'm like, Okay, now we're
being dramatic because you know, you know my connection to this,
and you know why I'm posting it because I don't know.
I had a few more friends than most people, and

(09:14):
I wanted to help my friend get, you know, sustain
the record deal. And he was touring with Warped Tour
and they were all on the road together in a
van fir.

Speaker 4 (09:22):
Small humble brag that you had more MySpace.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
Friends I did. I had?

Speaker 1 (09:26):
Well, well, I think I think traditionally we have more
friends on social media than most because well, yeah, it
was kidding, yeah, because well we have this little this
whole thing here.

Speaker 4 (09:36):
How long were you dating that girl?

Speaker 1 (09:37):
Sorry, Kiki think the whole thing lasted three months? It
was long distance. It was you know her too, you've
met her.

Speaker 4 (09:45):
I know I need you to get off this. We
need to turn this off so I can hear all
these people you're talking about.

Speaker 1 (09:50):
There's a famous story about her gassing me up to
a group of people. Yeah. Yeah, it was very kind
of her. I got some great press from her.

Speaker 2 (09:57):
You did this.

Speaker 7 (09:57):
I wasn't the girl that you dated that was her. No,
I know I know who that is. If it's the
same story, I don't want to say the story.

Speaker 3 (10:05):
What have we been talking about? I would tell you
this is like.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
Times a day, like put the laptop away, like just
for the times that microphones are on?

Speaker 3 (10:18):
Can we close the laptop? Like, can we just at
least listen for.

Speaker 7 (10:20):
The friend the knocker pissing me off? A no, No,
they just need to talk to Karen or someone in engineering.
I'm not qualified for that.

Speaker 3 (10:28):
I'll none of us are qualified. I don't worry about that.

Speaker 2 (10:31):
They literally I can't talk to you.

Speaker 3 (10:32):
Were you present? Were you there for this? Because I
wasn't around. I was not present.

Speaker 5 (10:37):
I heard it from another party too, who was just
very excited for you.

Speaker 1 (10:40):
That's great, And we don't have to because I'm not.
I didn't bring it up to guest me up. But
essentially she said I've got Yes, I've got I got
the package to work with. I heard it too, and
it was a group of random people. If you before
I've been work to shop that who told you that?

Speaker 2 (10:56):
I can't tell you. Someone said he got a tripod,
you're I say, you're going to be there. I don't
know of his room in.

Speaker 1 (11:02):
Story, I think they were referring to a different head.
I think they were referring to my ego. Now is
this somebody who knows for sure?

Speaker 7 (11:16):
I don't know.

Speaker 6 (11:17):
I don't know your hopeex Did you have showed them that?

Speaker 1 (11:23):
He said, God, there isn't a hope facts, Thank God.
Can you imagine? Can you imagine if you could log
into a website and see like an.

Speaker 3 (11:31):
Inventory for you like to review this.

Speaker 1 (11:34):
Yes, I was actually trying to figure it out yesterday.
Actually I was flying you know, flying back, and I
had two hours and.

Speaker 3 (11:42):
I had to go around this big clown.

Speaker 1 (11:44):
I'm just sitting there because there's nothing to do, you know,
thirty thousand feet I'm just sitting there. And I was like,
all right, because I was in Charlotte, where I used
to live. And the joke, the running joke for the
last few days was are you sure you want to resurface?
Like you had quite a run? Like are you sure
that this isn't good because I'm doing a TV show
there now, and it's like, yeah, it's we'll see it.
It might last a week, but maybe two. But but

(12:06):
it was the show I used to do it, and
the running joke was like, are you.

Speaker 2 (12:10):
Sure Charlotte's ready for Yeah?

Speaker 1 (12:12):
Right, Like you disappeared for a while, and you know,
have you got any calls from anybody you owe money
or anything? And it's not as though like they couldn't
find me if they wanted to. But I was like, yeah,
maybe I should have left, you know, let's sleeping dogs lie.
But I was like, I was trying to figure out
how many people I've had.

Speaker 3 (12:25):
Sex with, and.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
It's it's a high number, but it's not I don't
think like, what.

Speaker 2 (12:31):
Would you guess seventy two?

Speaker 3 (12:34):
It's less than that. Okay, it's less than that. Oh
you counted every single one.

Speaker 1 (12:38):
No, the problem is every time I played this game,
what'd you say you need.

Speaker 7 (12:42):
Like a scroll, like like a notebook, because otherwise you're
gonna lose count.

Speaker 3 (12:45):
Well, you're not wrong.

Speaker 4 (12:46):
You said there's some hoes in this house?

Speaker 1 (12:47):
Yeah, no, I you know the number, right, can't you
guys all know? Jason doesn't, thank god. No, I don't know,
and it's it's a lot.

Speaker 3 (12:57):
Oh yeah, yeah, I couldn't. I couldn't even could you remember, No, No.

Speaker 8 (13:03):
I couldn't even.

Speaker 1 (13:04):
I could get I could get plus or minus ten
I think. Okay, but some people are only ten or less.
But it's not as bad as I It's not as
bad as people think.

Speaker 4 (13:13):
Yeah, I mean I thought we could be in three digits.

Speaker 3 (13:16):
Well, no, we're not. We're not.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
We're not. We're not. You know, we can't be as
in jail like as you are.

Speaker 3 (13:26):
Never.

Speaker 1 (13:26):
We never put our we don't put our foot in
our mouth. You know, we don't fuck a lot of people. Sure,
we don't tell jokes ever.

Speaker 2 (13:33):
Sure, but my foot in my mouth all the time?
I'm sure.

Speaker 4 (13:39):
Was it when you asked if cydey Lauper was dead?

Speaker 2 (13:42):
Right? So that's you know, but I'm serious, Okay, all right.

Speaker 1 (13:49):
You have never said I don't believe you. You've never said
anything where you're like I.

Speaker 2 (13:53):
Would tell you. I just don't remember.

Speaker 6 (13:55):
That's the problem though, because I probably still everybody in
a room probably felt like I put my foot in
and I thought it was regular.

Speaker 1 (14:01):
Yeah you know, yeah, I hear that I know Caitlin
has similar anxiety to mine. I think mine's probably worse.
But I am haunted to this day by something I said.
And I've told the story before, but to something that
I said to people thirty years ago, I am haunted
to this day. Yeah, the con can you relate the

(14:22):
context is it's a long story. I'll try and abbreviate it.
But we were on vacation somewhere and my dad was
a pilot. We had a little pop uplane and we
flew it there and so the day before we left,
the whole family was there. We went out and got
the airplane ready to go, and we were there and
it was a small airport and there was like an
airline crew. There was an airline, a little small airline

(14:44):
that flew in there, and I guess the deal was
they'd fly in there, they'd sit all day, and then
they would at the end of the day load up
and fly back to the big airport or whatever. And
there was a car there at the airport, because the
airport was far away from the city, that the crew
could use to drive in and eat a meal or
something and then come out. Well, the car was broken,
so we go back inside Low Airport and this this

(15:04):
flight attendant and two pilots were standing there and they're
kind of like, well, there's no uber or anything. It's
like well, and my dad was like, well, well we'll
drive you into the city so you can get something
to eat. And they're like, well we got to go
back afterwards. SAINK go, well that's fine, Like we'll just do.
We'll drive you, get your food, we'll eat lunch, and
then we'll bring you back to the airport. It was
a nice thing to do. So we're in the car
and so they knew we were pilots. I wasn't a
pilot yet. I was only like I think I was thirteen,

(15:26):
and and so the guy the crews in the back
seat our rental car were driving. And to this day
it haunts me. I can see it like it was yesterday.
And one of the guys goes, hey, so you'll make
a conversation. Hey, do you want to be a pilot
someday or do you want to be an airline pilot someday?
Was the question, and I instantly, without skipping a beat,
I go no, I kind of want to own the plane.

(15:51):
And what I meant was I want to be a
pilot with a plane, but I don't necessarily think it's
what I want to do for a living. And I
think they understood that, like there was no oh right, whatever,
But what I essentially said out loud was no, I
don't want to be a fucking poor chump like you.
I want to own the motherfuckers, right, and like that's
the way that it and no one my dad remembers
the whole thing and he's like, that's not how it landed.

(16:13):
But for some reason in my mind, I am haunted
thirty years later. Oh no, because I felt like I
belittled these people and I didn't mean to, and we
were doing a nice thing for them, so obviously, like
we didn't think any less of them, and yeah, fucking
airline palace make more than me, so I don't, you know,
and Owen planes and all the rest of it.

Speaker 3 (16:29):
But I.

Speaker 1 (16:31):
Felt like such an asshole and I still do. And
these guys don't remember that story. But yeah, basically what
I said to them was I don't want to be you.
I want to be rich. But like that's not what
I meant.

Speaker 6 (16:43):
Yeah, that was innocent, that one, wasn't that another one?

Speaker 2 (16:48):
I'm just kidding.

Speaker 3 (16:50):
You shit start there, Jason, can you think of anything? Yeah?

Speaker 8 (16:55):
I still feel like my palms are sweating just thinking
about this. But as you know, sometimes here I fly
off the handle and I say, when I'm stressed out
a bunch of shit that I don't mean, and I
was maybe I do sometimes, but I was doing I
was talking mad shit about one of the bosses that
we don't work for anymore. And I was in someone's
office and then he came in the doorway and he

(17:15):
heard like the whole thing, and like basically like confronted me.
And it was like mortifying, Like I'm getting chills just
thinking about like how bad I thought and I didn't
mean it all in the moment.

Speaker 3 (17:27):
How did you get out of it? I don't remember.

Speaker 8 (17:30):
I just remember he had like a couple of snarky,
like not snarky, but like gotcha comments, and then I
was just kind of like stunt, like I was too
stunned to speak, I think. And we never talked about it.
I never apologized, like we just like kept moving.

Speaker 3 (17:43):
Were you right, though?

Speaker 2 (17:44):
Probably? Yeah, I want to know what you're saying.

Speaker 4 (17:47):
I don't know who it was.

Speaker 3 (17:49):
Yeah, it was a little bald man oh yeah, and
he actually confronted you.

Speaker 8 (17:57):
Oh yeah, hm, no kidding, right outside the door.

Speaker 3 (18:01):
I didn't think he had the balls, Yeah he did.
What do you do?

Speaker 8 (18:05):
No, I just I remember it clear as day, like
he walked right in the doorway and was like wow, yeah.

Speaker 3 (18:11):
And so what were you like? Well, I mean I
think he was.

Speaker 8 (18:15):
More of like a mic drop moment, like he was
just kind of like, well, you know, like we do this, this,
this and this, and like just kind of like walked away,
and I was like too stunned to speak.

Speaker 1 (18:23):
Yeah, So that was amazing. I don't worry about that.
I think that I think that's hard eating so fast
thing about that situation corrected itself. So you know, it's
sometimes it happens if you wait long enough, if you
can just have what I've you know, I've learned in
my career Jason, is sometimes you can outlast your own stupidity.

(18:45):
And I'm not saying I've always been right in a
lot of those situations, but if you can just and
it's hard to remember in the moment, but if you
can just hang on, yeah, sometimes you will outlast the problem.

Speaker 8 (18:55):
And we went on for like some time after that,
so and work together. So I feel like he either
doesn't remember or he just like kept it moving.

Speaker 1 (19:02):
But yeah, I've certainly not always been perfect in my
interaction with a lot of people, but sometimes those people
have not been perfect either, And.

Speaker 3 (19:10):
Sometimes people push me so far that I lose it.
I agree.

Speaker 1 (19:14):
You know, there's a lot of gas lighting that goes on,
you know, where it's I'm going to treat you like shit,
and then when you react to that, then it's there's
a lot of corporate gaslight.

Speaker 8 (19:22):
Ageah, And I think, like I take it.

Speaker 3 (19:23):
I take everything very personally. I do too, and so.

Speaker 8 (19:26):
I feel like when people make decisions or make moves
or say things like I take it as like you're
saying this to me or doing this to me when
it's not.

Speaker 3 (19:35):
Really that, like my Achilles seal work.

Speaker 8 (19:38):
But like so I feel like it's something I'm learning
to like differentiate between, like, Okay, this is business and
this is you know whatever.

Speaker 1 (19:45):
It's my Achilles seal, but I'm with you. Someone makes
a decision and it doesn't involve us, and I like
that was an attack that was personal, And sometimes I
think it is, but sometimes it's because they don't have
to think of us. Every time they make a decision.
I think they should, but I I don't know.

Speaker 3 (20:01):
Yeah, yeah, so yeah foot in mouth didn't taste.

Speaker 1 (20:05):
Good, except you're probably right. Yeah, I go with you
on this. I wouldn't feel bad.

Speaker 3 (20:11):
About Oh no, I definitely feel bad.

Speaker 1 (20:14):
We'll go call the network Operations Center back and make
sure we're networking operationally.

Speaker 3 (20:19):
And they hate to see me coming.

Speaker 7 (20:22):
I just like I talk to them a lot in
the mornings, like we do a whole good morning routine
or do a little skit.

Speaker 1 (20:27):
So for the show, it leaves Chicago and it goes
to Sherman Oaks, California via some form of fucking hardwire
solder ship that I didn't Yeah, that doesn't work very often,
and then it gets beamed out to you know, wherever
they can hear us. So we have to check in
with them every day. They're like fucking NASA base control
or whatever and you know, Shuttle control, and they're going

(20:49):
to make sure if it's all working. And then if
anything doesn't work, they immediately call you correct and they're
like fix it. And it's like, but I'm not an engineer.

Speaker 7 (20:57):
Yeah, that's really fun when they're telling me to like
change server and I'm like, what, oh, no, they've been
pretty good lately though. We'll just chat it up how
my weekend was, you know, how the weather is. We
do a little like routine in the morning though. Yeah,
they're like my morning people, and they wake up with them.

Speaker 1 (21:12):
Well because they're the only other ones that are awake
at that time of the day. Crazy not cone Wood though.
I think we've been on the air, you know, mostly
I think I don't really know. But my favorite one
when somebody calls and complains about something only to find
out that we weren't on the air.

Speaker 3 (21:25):
I was like, whoa, Well, what do you want me
to do about that?

Speaker 1 (21:32):
Anyway, It's all good, it's all good, just just hanging
on your life over here, just trying to do my lamas.
Every time we sign, somebody says something to me. All right, guys,
there's the tangent. Have a good day.