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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:08):
Split Holidays.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
You know one thing that's happened in my family that
has uh, it's like kind of bummed me out in
a way. Right, So, my parents live in Michigan, like
West Bloomfield, Michigan. The only reason why I'm going to
say these things is like they kind of live if
they lived here. They live in Tampa, right, Okay. My
brother goes to college if you went to college distance wise,
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he goes to UCF. Okay, kind of across the state.
My I do actually live in Florida. I live in
Saint Pete. So there you go. There's the distance. And
then my other brother, there's three brothers in my family,
me Luke who goes to Michigan State, and then Jacob
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lives in Chicago, Illinois. As we've got older, holidays now,
it's tough to get everyone together. A couple of weeks ago,
the five of us were together for the first time
in a year, a full year we were all together.
That's a big deal for my family. We're very close.
I call my mom every day, I call my dad
every day. I text my brothers all the time. They
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don't text me back because they're a holes, but I
text them every day. This year, we've kind of run
into a thing that I think has really bummed my
mom out, and it's definitely bummed me out because I
like when we're all together. So I have a fiance.
We're at that point now where we got to split holidays.
My brother and his boyfriend have been together for just
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as long as Alyssa and I have been together. They
are now splitting holidays. Our holidays don't match. So Thanksgiving
I'm with Alyssa's family, Christmas we're with my family. Jacob
has flipped it.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Now.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
My mom called me and she was like, you know,
it's not gonna happen. And at the end of the day,
I talk to your dad all about it, and this
is just what we have to accept. And my mom
does one of those things where I'll say like, hey,
Alissa is super understanding. She wants to be with everyone,
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she doesn't want to not see Jacob. We'll just switch.
We can't do it this year because it's way too late.
These flights for Thanksgiving are ridiculous, But next year we'll
flip it. We'll do Thanksgiving again, Christmas Michigan perfect? And
I was like, no, no, no, no, this is just
the way it needs to be. Eight four ninety three
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ninety three. Anyone else in this situation, any moms, any dads,
any siblings, anyone in that spot now where you know? Holidays?
To me, it's very important to be with my family.
Love family, but I also love Alissa's family, So it's
very important for me to be with family.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
What do you do?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Like? What happens? Matter of fact, we call my mom
right now too. Eight hundred four oh nine ninety three
ninety three. That's eight hundred four oh nine ninety three
ninety three. Whenever I give out that number and I
try to dial my mom, I always screw up.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
The uh cool.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
But let's see if my mom will pick up right now,
we can have a full conversation, Ashley. I know that
your's your family's grown. Hello, Hey mom, Hi, Hi? Whoa?
Why are you in the car? Where are you going?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
I'm going in the Starbucks to get my coffee.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Oh good friend, holiday drink?
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Am I drinking?
Speaker 2 (03:44):
No holiday drinker? Are you getting a holiday or winning
one of those sugary gross drinks?
Speaker 5 (03:49):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (03:49):
No, no, no, no, no, no, good friend, it's my regular, it's
my regular.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Hey, I'm talking about our conversation about how Jacob's going
to do Christmas with his boyfriend. And then you guys
are here and Thanksgiving. I'm not there, but Jacob's there.
And you said that you talked to dad and you
guys basically were like, well, listen, this is just the
way adulthood is now and this is the way that
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life is going to be. And I told you, and
by the way, I talked to a lista about it
last night and she agreed. I told you that we're
just going to cater, not cater in a bad way,
but we'll hear what Jacob's doing and then we will
match that. And you kept saying no, no, no, no no,
but that is what we're going to do. So my
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question is, why are you giving up on the family.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
I'm not giving up on the family, but you have
to do what's right and what's fair. And you guys
have already established you know this year, you're this year
you're going to do both where so you're doing Christmas
there are with us, and then Thanksgiving with a loss
of family. And Jacob, he's opposite sul So it's just
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it's sometimes that's just, it is.
Speaker 6 (05:04):
What it is.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
And I you know, you get to have your kids
in your house as long as they're young, but once
they start and relationships with you know, you have been
home for Christmas since you've dated Alyssa.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
So it's that hold on, that's not my fault.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Well I don't know whose felt that is and it's
not your fault.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Well that's fair enough. I should I shouldn't have said
that it is my fault.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
But it is your fault.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
But it's okay, I mean it is ok Yeah, you.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Also could have come and visited me, but whatever. So
maybe it's your we.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Did when you're but it is I also have your
brother who you came home every year, you and Jacob
when you guys were in college. And Luke that's his
home base in Michigan, and so I think it's only
fair to him that you give him the first choice
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of where do you want to go? Yeah, and you
did a good job of guilty and him into going
to Florida for gris Well.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Let you tell me. Can he golf in Michigan right now?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
No?
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Can he golf here? Do we have great golf courses. Yes,
I have Disney World. He wants to go to Disney World.
He's like me, he wants to go to Disney.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
All right, Well, I collected people to call in mom
and have a conversation with all of us, so you
can see that we are going to set everything the
same date, and you're gonna be okay with that. I'm
calling the shots now. I'm calling the shots now, mom.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
Ah right, yeah, right, okay?
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Hey, Avery, Hello, Hi, Avery, Hold on one second, Avery,
real quick, Hey Mom, how long have you been in radio.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
I've been in radio. Gosh, thirty four years.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
And in thirty four years, you haven't realized that the
speakerphone is literally the worst thing.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
You can do.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
I'm driving, not gonna get in a car accident for you.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Sorry, all right, We'll make the exception only for my mom.
Everyone else follow the rule from now on. Avery, Go ahead.
Speaker 6 (07:17):
Hey, So I have a similar situation, and we're we
are lucky to have almost everybody in Florida, so at
least there's that, But we have you know, I have
several siblings and blended families, and we have a really,
really hard time, you know, everybody getting together on the
same day through. What we've established over the last couple
of years is set a date outside of the actual holidays.
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For instance, for Thanksgiving, we're all going to go our
separate ways, and then on the Saturday after we'll all
meet at my mom's house to our family Thanksgiving, where
nobody's allowed to go anywhere but my mom.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Oh.
Speaker 6 (07:52):
I know that you can't really sole late this year,
but maybe establishing something like that for the holidays, especially
once you and Elsta have Piers, It's going to be
a whole new world for you, So you know, kind
of making it. It doesn't have to be on Christmas
or on Thanksgiving, but something special for your you and
Alyssa's family separately, if you have to, so that you
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still are all together at the same time.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
I've thought about this a lot because we're gonna get
married next year and then the plan is to have
kids and all of that. I thought about this a lot.
No chance my brothers, well unless Luke F's up, no
chance they have kids before me. Avery, Will I become
the favorite kid once that happens, because I'll be gifting
my mom with grandkids.
Speaker 6 (08:33):
Yes, you will, because I am now the favorite kid
because I'm the one with kids, So thank.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
You, and my mom then only want to spend the
holidays with me because I have grandkids.
Speaker 6 (08:43):
I can't speak for your mom, but probably thank you.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
You can't speak for her. She allowed it, right Mom? Well,
well same, I like the way this is going. I
know my mom, I know my Yes, I don't want
to be around them, Lindsey, yet, go ahead.
Speaker 7 (09:03):
We have the same situation. There's three sisters in the
family and we all have two to four kids, so
there's eighteen of us for the holidays and it's really
really hard.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
So we did.
Speaker 7 (09:14):
We actually have that situation this year. We're having our
Thanksgiving on Sunday with my parents' family and all my sisters,
and then we're all going to visit our other families
on Thanksgiving because we couldn't be together on actual Thanksgivings.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Here's my issue with that though, and I've said this before,
the most overrated holiday is food goes is Thanksgiving. I
just think it's the same meal as Christmas, and I'd
rather have it with Christmas. Does that mean I then
have to have the worst meal twice? No?
Speaker 7 (09:44):
Because well, I mean I'm lucky because my husband's family's
from Texas.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
So we always eat text next at their house Thanksgiving, so.
Speaker 7 (09:53):
You know we get two different kinds of foods.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Well, look at that text Max.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
I'm sure Mom, what if we had Jake Coastal CANTEENA
for Thanksgiving?
Speaker 2 (10:03):
We're not Thanks for the laugh, Jed. Very funny today.
Speaker 7 (10:12):
Mom.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
By the way, you missed the Gouchra was on a
little bit ago. Oh he was, yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Not a good moment for Jed. Let's do last one
with Kennedy. Kennedy's in clear Water.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Hey Kennedy, Hey.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Listen, I'm fantastic because I'm learning I'm really right in
this conversation.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
I think I'm proving a point to my mom right now.
Go ahead, Kennedy.
Speaker 5 (10:39):
I mean, I'm on the other girl's side. I would
say the same thing. I'm one of ten kids. We're
all in relationships, all have significant others with lots and
lots of kids, and we all get together on a
different day. We actually don't even pick around Thanksgiving our Christmas.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
It's usually towards like February of next year, and then
we'll all just get together then and make up like
our own kind of mixed holiday holidays, celebrate everything all
together at.
Speaker 5 (11:10):
The same time.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
You got to make your own holiday, bro, So you
did all be together. No, exactly, Kennedy, thank you so much.
Speaker 6 (11:19):
Mom.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Yes, are you willing to admit I'm right?
Speaker 4 (11:25):
Well, you know, I think if you're willing to admit that,
I was right too. I did tell you that once
you had start, once you guys start having kids too,
you have to understand the dynamic changes as well. And
we're okay with that. Like we know, listen, we have
not spent Christmas with your dad's side of the family
since you were a baby.
Speaker 6 (11:48):
That's not true.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
That's not true. Not true. We always went to Arizona,
you know. Until then it was just too hard for
me to take all three of you. And then we
just stayed at our house. And that's just how this goes,
you know. And I'm okay, Dad and I are just
going to start traveling out of the country.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
You should, girl, it's that time.
Speaker 6 (12:10):
We have a couple flights, and then you got to
post about it on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Then Joe's gonna be like, whoa, I kinda want to
be there. I want to go to Greece.
Speaker 7 (12:20):
Yeah, well, we're travel at Luke.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
I told him.
Speaker 6 (12:24):
Oh, my god, that'd be fun as the as the youngest,
as the baby of the family.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
I think he will love it.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
I do too, Yeah, all right, all right, Well, I
love you.
Speaker 4 (12:36):
Mom, I love you more. I'll talk to you later,
all right,