January 2, 2026 • 8 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Listen.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
Sometimes we have super happy conversations sometimes maybe not necessarily.
This isn't like a sad conversation. This is more so
like I need help in my relationship type of conversation.
Just in case I didn't say it, We're live on
ninety three three FLZ help me out eight hundred four
O nine ninety three ninety three. So this has been
(00:24):
kind of a tough, like last week and a half
with my fiance and I Alyssa, and we sent each
other a lot of text messages this morning and we
we kind of got in a little bit of a
big argument over the weekend. And she's stressed and I'm stressed.
But her biggest thing, and I totally see her problem
(00:47):
with me, is that like she feels like I don't
listen to her. She feels like when she comes home,
she's got like eight thousand things to tell me about
her day and work and all all of that, and
I just sit there on my phone the all third time,
or I'm playing video games and I'm like oh uh, huh,
oh oh, I make a lot of noises oh uh,
(01:13):
And then she'd be like what did I just say.
I'll be like, oh, I know what you say you
know what I'm why And then I get mad at her.
What do you mean you think I'm not listening? I
know what you said, Well tell me what I said.
I'm not repeating you. That's redundant. We're wasting time. Don't
you want to tell me about your day? She'd keep
put the game down. I'm in the middle of the game.
I can't pause it. I feel like I'm not really
(01:35):
present lately.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Yeah, why can't you just put your phone nor? I
don't know you need to.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
You know that she come home at the same time
every day, Yeah, okay, so you should know. Like I
have between maybe three and four, I can be on
my phone, but when my fiance comes home, let me
at least give her an hour and a half of
my undivided attention. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Yeah, And I get that. And I love her also,
by the way, can't wait to marry her. Like this
week has kind of sucked. Like we had a really good,
uh like weekend in some moments, but then on like
a kind of an ssie weekend, and like last night
I kind of like was like a little mad, and
then I realized, like I think I'm the problem, and uh,
(02:22):
and I don't like that because I feel bad because
I feel like, too, she's having like a really stressful
week with like work already, so when she's coming home,
I feel like I'm probably causing her to not really
have a uh.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Break of the stress.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
The good thing about it is yourself aware. You're You're
very aware of like not giving her that attention. So
now you're working on trying to get her attention when
I need to figure it out.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Hey, Jocelyn, Hey, you say that you relate to this
very much.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
So, yes, I work in healthcare and my boyfriend does
not work in healthcare, and I come home, Man, I'll
have a very hard day at work and it's like
I just want to vent and we sometimes have a
disconnection with that. But you find different outlets too, You
find different outlets, especially in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
What do you mean by that?
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Like, I'll have a crazy story of something absolutely nuts,
and all I can think about is coming home and
talking to someone about it. And I can't cannot talk
about it with him because he gets very he gets
very grossed out with some of it he's and some
of it is very intense.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
So yeah, unfortunately I don't have that excuse she works.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Yeah, exactly. Maybe she needs an outlet.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, well, and I feel like I need to be
that outlet. And I don't know what's necessarily going on
right now where I just like, I don't know tired.
I'm not tired of her, I'm not tired of the stories.
I'm not tired of anything other than I'm tired. Does
that make sense?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (03:57):
I get it.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Yeah, So I got to work on it because at
the end of the day too, Like I don't look
at it as like I'm right, she's wrong. I genuinely
believe that I am like kind of like super in
the wrong Luna. Yes, Hi, you've gone through this as well.
Speaker 5 (04:12):
Yeah, sometimes you gotta sacrifice something. And it sounds like
you are in a part in your life where you're
trying to figure things out maybe and you just don't
want to express that out loud.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Oh yeah, for sure. I think about all the time.
Like with the show, they do this weird thing where
we have to like define ourselves. I don't even know
who I am, Like, I still feel like I have
no idea who I am, Like I know the things
that I want and like I want her and I
want to have a family with her and all that.
But then when I think about the family, I go like,
oh God, like that freaks me out. Oh I'm freaked out.
(04:50):
The unknown life scares right well.
Speaker 5 (04:55):
I mean, if sometimes you gotta eat, I mean, if
you're taking a break, your take in a break, but
let it be a break of rebuilding. Don't don't let
it go or just let it go past. You gotta
invest like the game. You're so investing, you like, you'll
play the game. Just that's your outlet. Her outlet is
talking to you. So maybe you might have to find
(05:17):
another outlet or try talking to her when you you
know you're feeling some type of way, just take a
moment to talk to her. Maybe she can help you
figure that out. You love her so much. She could
be your person to help you figure out who you are.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Could be Yeah, but.
Speaker 5 (05:36):
The game, the game got you.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I appreciate you. Yeah, I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Yeah, it's kind of just been a it's been a
kind of a bad week in my relationship, and I
just think it's it's the me thing.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
I'm kind of a problem.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Hey, Beca, I said, just in case people are turning
on the radio, I just uh, you know, I don't
feel like I've been the best fiance lately. Yeah, I
definitely don't think I've been like really like actively listening
to everything that's going on.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
You know.
Speaker 6 (06:11):
Okay, Joe with me and my husband always been married
eleven years, and we kind of fall into this trap
a lot. And so we recently were going through like
this couple's group and someone mentioned, and I don't know
if you've heard it before, the cycle of love and respect.
So men want to be respected and women want to
feel loved. And so if you're not showing her your
(06:35):
love by putting her phone down and just listening to
her for that little bit of time, she's going to
feel like she doesn't respect you, and so it kind
of breaks the cycle of she wants to feel loved,
you want to feel respected, but you're breaking that and
so it makes it really tricky. So if I think
if you spend that time just making her a priority
(06:57):
and making her feel loved, when she comes home, she's
going to show you all that love and respect back.
And so just trying to be mindful and make sure
that you're respecting her and showing her love, and she'll
do that in the same and you return.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
You know, my problem is too, I'd throw money whatever
that happens, like, well, here, take my credit card and
go get a massage.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
You deserve a massage. And then finally last night she
was like, why.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Do you keep doing that same thing?
Speaker 6 (07:23):
Yeah, and I feel like when I get mad at you,
I have to I have to do all these good
things to make up for it. And I'm like, but really,
what's important is that you don't do it again. Is
that you show me that you love me so much
that we're not going to have this conversation again. I
don't want you to buy me flowers or a massage.
I want to not have this talk again. And I
want you to show me that you love me so
(07:44):
much that I'm worthy of not having this happen. Mean,
it's just something to keep in mind. You know, you're
going to get married. It's the rest of your life, man,
So maybe.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Hell yeah, And this is supposed to be like the
super happy time. H Yeah.
Speaker 6 (08:01):
You gotta you gotta prioritize things. And it's she's important
to you, make her, make her no doubt.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Yeah, well she is. She's my favorite. She's my favorite.
I need to act like it. But we're gonna go
on a little vacation, so I think it's well, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
He doesn't do that thing that I like. Anything stops
ever since I started seeing Rodina.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
But I think that thank you guys for letting me
be a little selfish with that time
Speaker 1 (08:31):
For all of us.
Listen.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
Sometimes we have super happy conversations sometimes maybe not necessarily.
This isn't like a sad conversation. This is more so
like I need help in my relationship type of conversation.
Just in case I didn't say it, We're live on
ninety three three FLZ help me out eight hundred four
O nine ninety three ninety three. So this has been
(00:24):
kind of a tough, like last week and a half
with my fiance and I Alyssa, and we sent each
other a lot of text messages this morning and we
we kind of got in a little bit of a
big argument over the weekend. And she's stressed and I'm stressed.
But her biggest thing, and I totally see her problem
(00:47):
with me, is that like she feels like I don't
listen to her. She feels like when she comes home,
she's got like eight thousand things to tell me about
her day and work and all all of that, and
I just sit there on my phone the all third time,
or I'm playing video games and I'm like oh uh, huh,
oh oh, I make a lot of noises oh uh,
(01:13):
And then she'd be like what did I just say.
I'll be like, oh, I know what you say you
know what I'm why And then I get mad at her.
What do you mean you think I'm not listening? I
know what you said, Well tell me what I said.
I'm not repeating you. That's redundant. We're wasting time. Don't
you want to tell me about your day? She'd keep
put the game down. I'm in the middle of the game.
I can't pause it. I feel like I'm not really
(01:35):
present lately.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Yeah, why can't you just put your phone nor? I
don't know you need to.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
You know that she come home at the same time
every day, Yeah, okay, so you should know. Like I
have between maybe three and four, I can be on
my phone, but when my fiance comes home, let me
at least give her an hour and a half of
my undivided attention. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Yeah, And I get that. And I love her also,
by the way, can't wait to marry her. Like this
week has kind of sucked. Like we had a really good,
uh like weekend in some moments, but then on like
a kind of an ssie weekend, and like last night
I kind of like was like a little mad, and
then I realized, like I think I'm the problem, and uh,
(02:22):
and I don't like that because I feel bad because
I feel like, too, she's having like a really stressful
week with like work already, so when she's coming home,
I feel like I'm probably causing her to not really
have a uh.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Break of the stress.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
The good thing about it is yourself aware. You're You're
very aware of like not giving her that attention. So
now you're working on trying to get her attention when
I need to figure it out.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Hey, Jocelyn, Hey, you say that you relate to this
very much.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
So, yes, I work in healthcare and my boyfriend does
not work in healthcare, and I come home, Man, I'll
have a very hard day at work and it's like
I just want to vent and we sometimes have a
disconnection with that. But you find different outlets too, You
find different outlets, especially in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
What do you mean by that?
Speaker 4 (03:14):
Like, I'll have a crazy story of something absolutely nuts,
and all I can think about is coming home and
talking to someone about it. And I can't cannot talk
about it with him because he gets very he gets
very grossed out with some of it he's and some
of it is very intense.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
So yeah, unfortunately I don't have that excuse she works.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Yeah, exactly. Maybe she needs an outlet.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, well, and I feel like I need to be
that outlet. And I don't know what's necessarily going on
right now where I just like, I don't know tired.
I'm not tired of her, I'm not tired of the stories.
I'm not tired of anything other than I'm tired. Does
that make sense?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 4 (03:57):
I get it.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Yeah, So I got to work on it because at
the end of the day too, Like I don't look
at it as like I'm right, she's wrong. I genuinely
believe that I am like kind of like super in
the wrong Luna. Yes, Hi, you've gone through this as well.
Speaker 5 (04:12):
Yeah, sometimes you gotta sacrifice something. And it sounds like
you are in a part in your life where you're
trying to figure things out maybe and you just don't
want to express that out loud.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Oh yeah, for sure. I think about all the time.
Like with the show, they do this weird thing where
we have to like define ourselves. I don't even know
who I am, Like, I still feel like I have
no idea who I am, Like I know the things
that I want and like I want her and I
want to have a family with her and all that.
But then when I think about the family, I go like,
oh God, like that freaks me out. Oh I'm freaked out.
(04:50):
The unknown life scares right well.
Speaker 5 (04:55):
I mean, if sometimes you gotta eat, I mean, if
you're taking a break, your take in a break, but
let it be a break of rebuilding. Don't don't let
it go or just let it go past. You gotta
invest like the game. You're so investing, you like, you'll
play the game. Just that's your outlet. Her outlet is
talking to you. So maybe you might have to find
(05:17):
another outlet or try talking to her when you you
know you're feeling some type of way, just take a
moment to talk to her. Maybe she can help you
figure that out. You love her so much. She could
be your person to help you figure out who you are.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Could be Yeah, but.
Speaker 5 (05:36):
The game, the game got you.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I appreciate you. Yeah, I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Yeah, it's kind of just been a it's been a
kind of a bad week in my relationship, and I
just think it's it's the me thing.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
I'm kind of a problem.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Hey, Beca, I said, just in case people are turning
on the radio, I just uh, you know, I don't
feel like I've been the best fiance lately. Yeah, I
definitely don't think I've been like really like actively listening
to everything that's going on.
Speaker 3 (06:09):
You know.
Speaker 6 (06:11):
Okay, Joe with me and my husband always been married
eleven years, and we kind of fall into this trap
a lot. And so we recently were going through like
this couple's group and someone mentioned, and I don't know
if you've heard it before, the cycle of love and respect.
So men want to be respected and women want to
feel loved. And so if you're not showing her your
(06:35):
love by putting her phone down and just listening to
her for that little bit of time, she's going to
feel like she doesn't respect you, and so it kind
of breaks the cycle of she wants to feel loved,
you want to feel respected, but you're breaking that and
so it makes it really tricky. So if I think
if you spend that time just making her a priority
(06:57):
and making her feel loved, when she comes home, she's
going to show you all that love and respect back.
And so just trying to be mindful and make sure
that you're respecting her and showing her love, and she'll
do that in the same and you return.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
You know, my problem is too, I'd throw money whatever
that happens, like, well, here, take my credit card and
go get a massage.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
You deserve a massage. And then finally last night she
was like, why.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Do you keep doing that same thing?
Speaker 6 (07:23):
Yeah, and I feel like when I get mad at you,
I have to I have to do all these good
things to make up for it. And I'm like, but really,
what's important is that you don't do it again. Is
that you show me that you love me so much
that we're not going to have this conversation again. I
don't want you to buy me flowers or a massage.
I want to not have this talk again. And I
want you to show me that you love me so
(07:44):
much that I'm worthy of not having this happen. Mean,
it's just something to keep in mind. You know, you're
going to get married. It's the rest of your life, man,
So maybe.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Hell yeah, And this is supposed to be like the
super happy time. H Yeah.
Speaker 6 (08:01):
You gotta you gotta prioritize things. And it's she's important
to you, make her, make her no doubt.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Yeah, well she is. She's my favorite. She's my favorite.
I need to act like it. But we're gonna go
on a little vacation, so I think it's well, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
He doesn't do that thing that I like. Anything stops
ever since I started seeing Rodina.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
But I think that thank you guys for letting me
be a little selfish with that time
Speaker 1 (08:31):
For all of us.
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