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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Stands on our phone line. We've been taking calls all
afternoon four O two, five, five, eight to eleven ten, Dan,
welcome to the show today.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
What's on your mind?
Speaker 3 (00:07):
Hey, Emory? How you going today?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I'm great, man. What's going on with you?
Speaker 3 (00:11):
No? Nothing, hey man. I've never done this before. I
never called in. I'd love to say that I was
a longtime listener, but I haven't been.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
That's okay.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
But anyway, so I was just thinking, I'm not my
political acumen isn't that great. But I'm trying to boil
it down. And I was thinking, if there's some way
that we could have like a selective lobotomy for the
entire country and take away all knowledge of Trump and
all knowledge of Kamala Harris and you literally go in
(00:38):
November fifth or whatever voting day is, right, and it
just says, hey, select which years do you like better?
Twenty sixteen to twenty twenty or twenty twenty one to
twenty whatever, twenty twenty four, right right? And like I
feel like it'd be a landslide.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Yeah, well that's the thing, Dan, Unfortunately, selective lobotomy. I mean,
if we could be doing that, you could be doing
that on people all over the place for all sorts
of stuff, right, like you, well, all those terrible memories
of all those stupid things they did in high school.
I'd love to have those removed that I'm still thinking
about every single day of my life.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
But no.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
But the thing Dan about about what your idea is
is the whole point of why we do this election. Right.
It like for an independent voter, they're going to be
pulled from the right by policy. The people on the
right are going to say, hey, the policy is just
better it is. You can look at twenty seventeen versus
twenty twenty two. For instance, In twenty seventeen, there was
(01:29):
a lot better stuff for you. Your pocketbook was more full.
We weren't in any like, there weren't foreign wars, we
had to worry about stuff like that. Right, the people
on the left are going to pull you by saying, hey,
our personalities are better. You won't have to worry about
voting for a convicted felon, because that's what they're going
to say. They're gonna use the fell anything. They're going
to talk about the fact that they're better people and
(01:51):
the cool kids are all voting for them, and we
are in the middle of a lot of our plans,
and if you get rid of us now, you're going
to have a hard time because Donald Trump's going to
have to undo a bunch of Biden stuff to put
in his stuff again, right, all that stuff to try
to tell you it's just easier and you're gonna feel
better about yourself if you vote for our better personalities.
And that's just what an election is, right because they understand,
(02:13):
as much as you want to talk about dumb, a
lot of the stuff that Democrats do, they understand that
vote like running on policy, especially specific policy right now,
is a bad move. They have to talk about how
much the other side is toxic and how much healthier
America is when there's just a positive personality as the
leader of the country, regardless of what their policies are.
(02:34):
And that's the danger that we exist in dan is. Unfortunately,
there's a lot of people out there that they just
don't even understand what policy is, but they still get
to vote, and their vote counts the same as ours does.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
I agree. The one thing though, is we do have
that unique opportunity to compare both administrations, even for people
like me that don't really pay attention to politics. That's
something I wish we could push and be like, which
one did you like better?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Do you want four more years but the last one?
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Or so? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
I don't know. I wish people did that, but we
are divided and it just sucks.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
It's okay, Dan, you know why, because we at least
get to talk about things. And I'd hope that you
enjoyed your time on the show and you would call
us but again someday about anything that's on your mind.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
You know what I mean, Man, I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Hey, you have a good day, man, love it. A
lot of first time calls today. Gotta love that. Hey,
Matt Keith, let's say you you've been pretty quiet over there.
What do you think? What do you think? Selective lobotomy?
First thing that you have. Go. You can pick one
thing you just forget about and you never think about
it ever again.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Oh man, that's a tough one. I'd really have to
sit down and think about that.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
You know.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
One of my favorite movies of all time is Eternal
Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. What an interesting concept, Eternal
Sunshine of a Spotless Mind. So the premise is what well,
the premise of that movie beautiful movie is uh. The
lead character, Jim Carrey, is romantically involved with the gal
(03:57):
that they have kind of on again off against situation
going on, and Okay, he's fallen hard for her, but
she's kind of, you know, playing hard to get at times.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
You know.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
It's it's very, uh, very back and forth. And then
they break up and then he goes into this service.
This is a sci fi movie because this doesn't exist
a sure life and its goes into a service where
Mark Ruffalo puts on some nice spectacles and looks inside
his brain and goes through his brain neuro links and
maikes what he doesn't want? Yeah, picks out the memories
he doesn't want anymore and takes him right out and
(04:28):
then what happens well inside, Yeah, I don't want to
spoil the whole movie, but there's a really clever story
storytelling a device throughout this throughout the movie that I
makes me love it. And yeah, I think that it's
an interesting idea. But is it true? You know, would
you really would you?
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Really? Would you? Would you like to lose knowledge of things?
Ignorance is bliss is what they say? I mean, it
could be at the same time. Part of life is
just picking up those memories so you can utilize them
as fuel, utilize them as a lessons that you've learned,
or maybe they're good memories that you're just like, you
know what, even if there were some negative things about it,
(05:05):
it was actually a totally positive thing. And I like
reminiscing and like having that nostalgia trip thinking about that stuff.
I do that all the time, even the tough times.
The dumb decisions, the lessons you learn are what make
you who you are today. And I think it's all
about how you file it. If you sit there and
you ruminate on things, which I do and I think
(05:27):
a lot of people do. But let's face it, man,
you ever sat around and thought, Man, how could I
make such a dumb decision?
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I do it all the time. Did you know what
you know now?
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Then? No?
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Then why are you being so hard on yourself? Because
it stilf makes it feel stupid? It was like, man,
that girl was right there and watch that happen.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Hey, I've been I've been in that exactly.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Why why did I I've gotten in one car accident
that was my fault. I can't stop thinking about it.
I was driving a company van when I was nineteen
years old going to a baseball game. I didn't know
where the field was, and I was looking at my
map Quest directions, which was on a piece of paper.
I picked it up and I looked at it while
I was driving through a busy intersection and the person
in front of me just like slammed the brakes for
(06:05):
some reason, and they just happened to be driving a convertible.
It's okay, and get a little kiss to the bumper,
But it was just like, I felt so stupid afterwards,
just like what are you doing? Like why are you
paying why aren't you paying attention to the road. But
I learned from that. I've gotten better, and obviously I
haven't gotten in a car wreck that was my fault
since So that's good for whatever that's worth.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
You learned from it. It's a life lesson that you
moved on from. So I think the approach there is,
how do you stop the rumination? Might have to going
to a place you know where they can just find
those little memories in a race.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Here's okay, here's one, here's a personal one. You ready
for this girl I was incredibly attracted to in seventh grade. Okay,
seventh grade crush. I really liked her, definitely had a
couple of shots I could have shot there, and I
didn't too scared, didn't know what to do, didn't know
what I was doing. There was one day we were
after school working on like projects, and it was me,
her and a few other people, and she played violin
(06:56):
and she needed to leave to go to her violin lesson.
Her parents were picked her up from outside the front
of the school. So I voluntarily grabbed the violin and said,
I'll carry this downstairs for you. This could have been
a big moment for me, because if I just take
it downstairs, hand with the violin and wish her well
the next day, maybe there's a little bit of you know,
maybe I've given enough hints that maybe I would be
(07:16):
receiving enough hints. Maybe we could, you know, do the
little seventh grade dating thing right. Well, guess what happened.
I grabbed the violin. I decided to take it downstairs.
I noticed her and another girl kind of like giggling
and like following behind, as if, oh, now Amory, Well,
now we know Amory really likes her kind of thing,
and I refuse to give her the violin essentially for
three or four minutes, just holding on to it and
(07:37):
refusing to give it to her, while she was growing
angrier and angrier, eventually to the point where one of
her parents came out of the car and came walking
towards the door to come and get her. And instead
of potentially having the ability to build a good relationship
or who knows what would happen, thirteen year old me
just wanted to play stupid, you know, as boys do,
be like a little meani or something for attention of
(07:58):
some kind, scoring no points in the process whatsoever. And
then she was met at me for like three weeks.
Now we of course we were fine eventually and all
that stuff. But any chance I had of being on
that girl's good side and having a chance to build
a relationship with her in some way out the door,
just by like five minutes of absolute stupidity. Thirteen year
(08:20):
old me. An idiot, truly an idiot. This stuff happened
twenty years ago. My man, can't shake it, cannot shake it.
That's probably the one, if there was ever one, that's
one that I learned absolutely nothing from that didn't help
me at all in the future, and probably ruined a
lot of like sleeps at night just thinking about how
stupid and dumb that was. Even though I don't I
(08:42):
don't wish I was with that girl, you know what
I mean, Like even by high school, I was kind
of over that girl. It was just in that moment,
how stupid I felt that I did that. I would
like to dig deep into why you feel so stupid
for that. I just feel I hate feeling stupid, first
of all. Like the number one thing me and my
wife fight about is sometimes I'll do something or say
something and she'll look at me like I'm stupid. Oh
that fires me up. That's like the one thing I
(09:03):
struggle with as soon as somebody insinuates that or makes
me feel stupid. Oh, admit, I don't know everything, but
you don't have to demean me in the process. When
you demean yourself by being an absolute idiot in a moment,
it's hard to forgive yourself. You did it all to yourself.
There's literally no one in that moment to blame except
for me, and I can't shake it.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
We all do stupid stuff sometimes, I know, and there's
a myriad of reasons. You know, not every situation is
the same, right, but that one is in particular. It's
just it's been biting me for twenty years. You should
look her up and maybe you guys can can talk
it out and you can just apologize.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
I saw her at bars in Des Moines a couple
of times because she had moved up there after I
had moved up there, so we were both in the
same town. Again, were not hostile. We were actually really
good friends throughout high school and everything.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Well, what's this all about.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
It's just in that moment, Like, how different it could
life have been? Butterfly effected at thirteen years old. If
me and her become boyfriend girlfriend, then I don't learn
the lessons that I could have learned with the girlfriend
I needed getting half like six months later, when I
was still in middle school, I still learned some stuff
from that one.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Would I have.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Learned the same things if I was with that girl?
Does that girl and me all of a sudden, like
we have a long history and a long story, we
stay together for years and years and years. There's no
way to know. I'm okay with the way things ended.
But those five minutes of feeling like an idiot and
drastically changing my destiny with a person that at the
moment I cared about. You know, you can't forgive yourself
(10:26):
easily in those moments, even twenty years down the line.
So yes, if there was a thing like a selective
with lobotomy, that's the thing it would go go.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
I would that memory would be completely surpressed.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I might even have the entire like that arc of
me and that girl might just be not be like
I said, not because I miss I've seen her in
bars and stuff, like, we don't have a relationship now.
We were friends all the way through high school and everything.
She's a nice girl. She's doing well for herself. I
don't know what she's up to, but it's like I
don't care. I don't think about her like that. I
think about that moment though, about a stupid does they've
(11:00):
ever felt in my entire life that moment?
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Is it because you doubled down in the moment? Yes, yeah, yes,
and it made it worse. Yeah, And you almost like
didn't know how to get out of There was no
way to get out of it.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
It wasn't until I think it was Mom got out
of the car and took like three steps toward the
school and I was like, oh, this is serious now,
and so I forked it over and she just like
she looked at me when I handed her the violin.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
She looked at me.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
And I couldn't even tell you what those I said,
Like a thirteen year old girl like that doesn't look
at another person like that unless they're really hurt by
what you've done.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Oh, and that's probably, if I could guess, it's that
look that haunts you. It does.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
But I also feel stupid. I don't know how we
got here, but I'm glad I got that off my chest.
Jason emails in and tells me, hey, you should have
dropped this card on the mom when she came in
to try to help get her daughter in her violin
so she could go to her lesson possession is nineteenths
of the law, and it's an expression meeting that ownership
is easier to maintain if one has possession of something,
or difficult to enforce if one does not. Well, that's
(12:00):
the thing, Jason. Unfortunately, it was not my violin, and
I knew it wasn't my violin, and I didn't want
it to be my violin. I really just wanted this girl.
I wanted this girl to like me, but I also
didn't want her to know that I liked her, so
trying to balance that out, I made a couple of
horrific errors in that moment and probably greatly affected my
chances with that girl in that moment, those five minutes
(12:24):
of bad judgment. I don't think it could have been
much worse. Your idea probably would have made it worse.
If you got a thought on a story, or if
you could have a selective lobotomy performed on you, what.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
Would you think about.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
It would be something that you'd probably like to eject
from your mind.
Stands on our phone line. We've been taking calls all
afternoon four O two, five, five, eight to eleven ten, Dan,
welcome to the show today.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
What's on your mind?
Speaker 3 (00:07):
Hey, Emory? How you going today?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I'm great, man. What's going on with you?
Speaker 3 (00:11):
No? Nothing, hey man. I've never done this before. I
never called in. I'd love to say that I was
a longtime listener, but I haven't been.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
That's okay.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
But anyway, so I was just thinking, I'm not my
political acumen isn't that great. But I'm trying to boil
it down. And I was thinking, if there's some way
that we could have like a selective lobotomy for the
entire country and take away all knowledge of Trump and
all knowledge of Kamala Harris and you literally go in
(00:38):
November fifth or whatever voting day is, right, and it
just says, hey, select which years do you like better?
Twenty sixteen to twenty twenty or twenty twenty one to
twenty whatever, twenty twenty four, right right? And like I
feel like it'd be a landslide.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Yeah, well that's the thing, Dan, Unfortunately, selective lobotomy. I mean,
if we could be doing that, you could be doing
that on people all over the place for all sorts
of stuff, right, like you, well, all those terrible memories
of all those stupid things they did in high school.
I'd love to have those removed that I'm still thinking
about every single day of my life.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
But no.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
But the thing Dan about about what your idea is
is the whole point of why we do this election. Right.
It like for an independent voter, they're going to be
pulled from the right by policy. The people on the
right are going to say, hey, the policy is just
better it is. You can look at twenty seventeen versus
twenty twenty two. For instance, In twenty seventeen, there was
(01:29):
a lot better stuff for you. Your pocketbook was more full.
We weren't in any like, there weren't foreign wars, we
had to worry about stuff like that. Right, the people
on the left are going to pull you by saying, hey,
our personalities are better. You won't have to worry about
voting for a convicted felon, because that's what they're going
to say. They're gonna use the fell anything. They're going
to talk about the fact that they're better people and
(01:51):
the cool kids are all voting for them, and we
are in the middle of a lot of our plans,
and if you get rid of us now, you're going
to have a hard time because Donald Trump's going to
have to undo a bunch of Biden stuff to put
in his stuff again, right, all that stuff to try
to tell you it's just easier and you're gonna feel
better about yourself if you vote for our better personalities.
And that's just what an election is, right because they understand,
(02:13):
as much as you want to talk about dumb, a
lot of the stuff that Democrats do, they understand that
vote like running on policy, especially specific policy right now,
is a bad move. They have to talk about how
much the other side is toxic and how much healthier
America is when there's just a positive personality as the
leader of the country, regardless of what their policies are.
(02:34):
And that's the danger that we exist in dan is. Unfortunately,
there's a lot of people out there that they just
don't even understand what policy is, but they still get
to vote, and their vote counts the same as ours does.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
I agree. The one thing though, is we do have
that unique opportunity to compare both administrations, even for people
like me that don't really pay attention to politics. That's
something I wish we could push and be like, which
one did you like better?
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Do you want four more years but the last one?
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Or so? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
I don't know. I wish people did that, but we
are divided and it just sucks.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
It's okay, Dan, you know why, because we at least
get to talk about things. And I'd hope that you
enjoyed your time on the show and you would call
us but again someday about anything that's on your mind.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
You know what I mean, Man, I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Hey, you have a good day, man, love it. A
lot of first time calls today. Gotta love that. Hey,
Matt Keith, let's say you you've been pretty quiet over there.
What do you think? What do you think? Selective lobotomy?
First thing that you have. Go. You can pick one
thing you just forget about and you never think about
it ever again.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Oh man, that's a tough one. I'd really have to
sit down and think about that.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
You know.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
One of my favorite movies of all time is Eternal
Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. What an interesting concept, Eternal
Sunshine of a Spotless Mind. So the premise is what well,
the premise of that movie beautiful movie is uh. The
lead character, Jim Carrey, is romantically involved with the gal
(03:57):
that they have kind of on again off against situation
going on, and Okay, he's fallen hard for her, but
she's kind of, you know, playing hard to get at times.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
You know.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
It's it's very, uh, very back and forth. And then
they break up and then he goes into this service.
This is a sci fi movie because this doesn't exist
a sure life and its goes into a service where
Mark Ruffalo puts on some nice spectacles and looks inside
his brain and goes through his brain neuro links and
maikes what he doesn't want? Yeah, picks out the memories
he doesn't want anymore and takes him right out and
(04:28):
then what happens well inside, Yeah, I don't want to
spoil the whole movie, but there's a really clever story
storytelling a device throughout this throughout the movie that I
makes me love it. And yeah, I think that it's
an interesting idea. But is it true? You know, would
you really would you?
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Really? Would you? Would you like to lose knowledge of things?
Ignorance is bliss is what they say? I mean, it
could be at the same time. Part of life is
just picking up those memories so you can utilize them
as fuel, utilize them as a lessons that you've learned,
or maybe they're good memories that you're just like, you
know what, even if there were some negative things about it,
(05:05):
it was actually a totally positive thing. And I like
reminiscing and like having that nostalgia trip thinking about that stuff.
I do that all the time, even the tough times.
The dumb decisions, the lessons you learn are what make
you who you are today. And I think it's all
about how you file it. If you sit there and
you ruminate on things, which I do and I think
(05:27):
a lot of people do. But let's face it, man,
you ever sat around and thought, Man, how could I
make such a dumb decision?
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I do it all the time. Did you know what
you know now?
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Then? No?
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Then why are you being so hard on yourself? Because
it stilf makes it feel stupid? It was like, man,
that girl was right there and watch that happen.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Hey, I've been I've been in that exactly.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Why why did I I've gotten in one car accident
that was my fault. I can't stop thinking about it.
I was driving a company van when I was nineteen
years old going to a baseball game. I didn't know
where the field was, and I was looking at my
map Quest directions, which was on a piece of paper.
I picked it up and I looked at it while
I was driving through a busy intersection and the person
in front of me just like slammed the brakes for
(06:05):
some reason, and they just happened to be driving a convertible.
It's okay, and get a little kiss to the bumper,
But it was just like, I felt so stupid afterwards,
just like what are you doing? Like why are you
paying why aren't you paying attention to the road. But
I learned from that. I've gotten better, and obviously I
haven't gotten in a car wreck that was my fault
since So that's good for whatever that's worth.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
You learned from it. It's a life lesson that you
moved on from. So I think the approach there is,
how do you stop the rumination? Might have to going
to a place you know where they can just find
those little memories in a race.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Here's okay, here's one, here's a personal one. You ready
for this girl I was incredibly attracted to in seventh grade. Okay,
seventh grade crush. I really liked her, definitely had a
couple of shots I could have shot there, and I
didn't too scared, didn't know what to do, didn't know
what I was doing. There was one day we were
after school working on like projects, and it was me,
her and a few other people, and she played violin
(06:56):
and she needed to leave to go to her violin lesson.
Her parents were picked her up from outside the front
of the school. So I voluntarily grabbed the violin and said,
I'll carry this downstairs for you. This could have been
a big moment for me, because if I just take
it downstairs, hand with the violin and wish her well
the next day, maybe there's a little bit of you know,
maybe I've given enough hints that maybe I would be
(07:16):
receiving enough hints. Maybe we could, you know, do the
little seventh grade dating thing right. Well, guess what happened.
I grabbed the violin. I decided to take it downstairs.
I noticed her and another girl kind of like giggling
and like following behind, as if, oh, now Amory, Well,
now we know Amory really likes her kind of thing,
and I refuse to give her the violin essentially for
three or four minutes, just holding on to it and
(07:37):
refusing to give it to her, while she was growing
angrier and angrier, eventually to the point where one of
her parents came out of the car and came walking
towards the door to come and get her. And instead
of potentially having the ability to build a good relationship
or who knows what would happen, thirteen year old me
just wanted to play stupid, you know, as boys do,
be like a little meani or something for attention of
(07:58):
some kind, scoring no points in the process whatsoever. And
then she was met at me for like three weeks.
Now we of course we were fine eventually and all
that stuff. But any chance I had of being on
that girl's good side and having a chance to build
a relationship with her in some way out the door,
just by like five minutes of absolute stupidity. Thirteen year
(08:20):
old me. An idiot, truly an idiot. This stuff happened
twenty years ago. My man, can't shake it, cannot shake it.
That's probably the one, if there was ever one, that's
one that I learned absolutely nothing from that didn't help
me at all in the future, and probably ruined a
lot of like sleeps at night just thinking about how
stupid and dumb that was. Even though I don't I
(08:42):
don't wish I was with that girl, you know what
I mean, Like even by high school, I was kind
of over that girl. It was just in that moment,
how stupid I felt that I did that. I would
like to dig deep into why you feel so stupid
for that. I just feel I hate feeling stupid, first
of all. Like the number one thing me and my
wife fight about is sometimes I'll do something or say
something and she'll look at me like I'm stupid. Oh
that fires me up. That's like the one thing I
(09:03):
struggle with as soon as somebody insinuates that or makes
me feel stupid. Oh, admit, I don't know everything, but
you don't have to demean me in the process. When
you demean yourself by being an absolute idiot in a moment,
it's hard to forgive yourself. You did it all to yourself.
There's literally no one in that moment to blame except
for me, and I can't shake it.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
We all do stupid stuff sometimes, I know, and there's
a myriad of reasons. You know, not every situation is
the same, right, but that one is in particular. It's
just it's been biting me for twenty years. You should
look her up and maybe you guys can can talk
it out and you can just apologize.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
I saw her at bars in Des Moines a couple
of times because she had moved up there after I
had moved up there, so we were both in the
same town. Again, were not hostile. We were actually really
good friends throughout high school and everything.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Well, what's this all about.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
It's just in that moment, Like, how different it could
life have been? Butterfly effected at thirteen years old. If
me and her become boyfriend girlfriend, then I don't learn
the lessons that I could have learned with the girlfriend
I needed getting half like six months later, when I
was still in middle school, I still learned some stuff
from that one.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Would I have.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Learned the same things if I was with that girl?
Does that girl and me all of a sudden, like
we have a long history and a long story, we
stay together for years and years and years. There's no
way to know. I'm okay with the way things ended.
But those five minutes of feeling like an idiot and
drastically changing my destiny with a person that at the
moment I cared about. You know, you can't forgive yourself
(10:26):
easily in those moments, even twenty years down the line.
So yes, if there was a thing like a selective
with lobotomy, that's the thing it would go go.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
I would that memory would be completely surpressed.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I might even have the entire like that arc of
me and that girl might just be not be like
I said, not because I miss I've seen her in
bars and stuff, like, we don't have a relationship now.
We were friends all the way through high school and everything.
She's a nice girl. She's doing well for herself. I
don't know what she's up to, but it's like I
don't care. I don't think about her like that. I
think about that moment though, about a stupid does they've
(11:00):
ever felt in my entire life that moment?
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Is it because you doubled down in the moment? Yes, yeah, yes,
and it made it worse. Yeah, And you almost like
didn't know how to get out of There was no
way to get out of it.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
It wasn't until I think it was Mom got out
of the car and took like three steps toward the
school and I was like, oh, this is serious now,
and so I forked it over and she just like
she looked at me when I handed her the violin.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
She looked at me.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
And I couldn't even tell you what those I said,
Like a thirteen year old girl like that doesn't look
at another person like that unless they're really hurt by
what you've done.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Oh, and that's probably, if I could guess, it's that
look that haunts you. It does.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
But I also feel stupid. I don't know how we
got here, but I'm glad I got that off my chest.
Jason emails in and tells me, hey, you should have
dropped this card on the mom when she came in
to try to help get her daughter in her violin
so she could go to her lesson possession is nineteenths
of the law, and it's an expression meeting that ownership
is easier to maintain if one has possession of something,
or difficult to enforce if one does not. Well, that's
(12:00):
the thing, Jason. Unfortunately, it was not my violin, and
I knew it wasn't my violin, and I didn't want
it to be my violin. I really just wanted this girl.
I wanted this girl to like me, but I also
didn't want her to know that I liked her, so
trying to balance that out, I made a couple of
horrific errors in that moment and probably greatly affected my
chances with that girl in that moment, those five minutes
(12:24):
of bad judgment. I don't think it could have been
much worse. Your idea probably would have made it worse.
If you got a thought on a story, or if
you could have a selective lobotomy performed on you, what.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
Would you think about.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
It would be something that you'd probably like to eject
from your mind.
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