December 11, 2024 • 22 mins
In this heartfelt solo episode of Wildly Wealthy Life, Kat shares a transformative experience at Business by Design Live and unpacks the core of living a truly wealthy life. From tackling self-worth issues to building confidence in children through life coaching, Kat reflects on her personal journey of healing, growth, and purpose. She reveals how embracing unconditional self-love and aligning with a higher purpose can empower us to live authentically and help others thrive.
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00:00 Kat introduces her solo episode and reflects on the day at Business by Design Live
01:38 What it means to build a business by design
2:32 Redefining a wildly wealthy life: unconditional self-love and self-worth
05:55 Struggles with imposter syndrome and seeking validation
07:38 Lessons from Catherine Zankina on self-perception and energy frequency
09:55 Connecting self-worth issues to childhood experiences
12:32 Why life coaching for kids starts with teaching self-worth and confidence
18:00 Running towards God as a source of healing and unconditional love
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Kat (00:02):
Hey, my name is Kat.
And I'm Lee.
And welcome to the WildlyWealthy Life Podcast.
In this show, we explore the journeyof what it means to live a truly
exceptional and fulfilling life.
Each episode focuses on how afoundation of brilliant minds and
brave hearts, nurtured through thearts, leads to lifelong success.
(00:22):
Get inspired with actionabletips to foster a growth mindset,
leadership values, and more.
And creativity and children and adultsturning their potential into lasting
contributions for their communities Wehope you embrace the challenge to shift
your perspective as we equip you and thenext generation for a wildly wealthy life
(00:49):
Hey, it's kat coming to you todaysolo and I mean tonight Uh right
now i'm recording this episode fromphoenix, arizona It is currently 10.
04 p.
m.
I am in my Airbnb in thelobby of my Airbnb spot.
And I just came back from an all dayevent called Business by Design Live.
(01:10):
This is my little pin right here.
For those who are listening inaudio, I have a little pin that
says, My first BBD Live 2024.
My little badge right here,Katrina Dinkong, my name with
digital CEO at the bottom.
And, um, he was an incredible event thathad me pretty much crying the entire day.
(01:30):
And if you are seeing me from YouTube,you can probably tell that my eyes are a
little, um, swollen from crying all day.
Um, business by design is truly whatit means in every sense of the word.
It is.
Building a business that is out ofyour own design that matches your
(01:50):
lifestyle, that matches what youreally want to do and the purpose
that you want to live out and the giftthat you want to leave in this world.
You know, for the longest time, gosh,I'm doing this literally off the cusp.
I'm just thinking about the day.
I'm kind of debriefing my dayand sharing this with my wildly
(02:12):
wealthy life podcast listeners.
Because to me, I think thatas we go through life, we.
We're going to have differentexperiences where we think of a wildly
wealthy life in different ways, right?
My definition of a wildlywealthy life maybe years ago is
completely different from today'sdefinition of wildly wealthy life.
(02:34):
And what I realized is that a wildlywealthy life to me truly means that
you Have a deep unconditional love foryourself and who you are as a person and
that you have such this This deep senseof self worth that you love all of who
(02:57):
you are your uniqueness your quirks yourweirdness your You know what what repels
people from you that you love that too.
What what attracts people to you thatyou love that too um Because we're not,
we're not meant to be for everyone, right?
And so you have to love allof who, all of who you are.
(03:21):
And I think the reason why it comesup is because when you are building
a business by design, especiallyin my case, I'm building a business
where it's life coaching for kids.
In any business anyway, I think it bringsup a lot of stuff about you internally.
And what happens is when you'rebuilding a business, it literally
(03:44):
mirrors everything that's coming outis all of your insecurities, all of
your unworthiness, all of your impostersyndromes are coming out all at once.
And what I've realized is thateverything that I actually ever
want in life is on the other side.
(04:04):
Of me believing who I am andthat I am worthy full stop.
I'm worthy No questions.
I'm worthy.
That's it.
Not I'm worthy because not I'm worthy.
If not, I'm worthy.
(04:26):
A, B, C, D, E, F, G.
And I realized that everythingthat I've done in life,
all of my insecurities, all of myoverworking and overachieving, All of my
(04:50):
need to be successful and desire to besuccessful has come, has been rooted in
the fact that I've always felt unworthy.
I've always felt like I'm not.
Enough and so I always do so much morebecause I don't feel like I am enough
(05:15):
I always so work so much harder becauseI feel like I am enough You know this
whole thing with life coaching with kidsThe story about me not being able to be
pregnant and and my struggle with withwith infertility It's a real story It's a
(05:35):
real struggle, but I guess I realized thatI always share it from a place of like,
I feel like I need to prove to peoplethat I am enough as someone who just
loves kids and loves to work with kids.
And that, that in itself is enoughwithout me having to prove that while
(06:00):
I've done all of these things, andeven though I'm not a mom, you should
trust your kids with me becauseI know what I'm doing with kids.
I think there's this imposter syndrome inme that I just realized that I think the
reason why I always have to share, or Ifeel like I have the need to share that,
that wow, um, You know, I want to, I wantto coach your kids through life and yeah,
(06:24):
I'm not a mom, but, but, but, but, but,but, but, you know, but I've done this,
I've done this, I've taught kids for 15years, blah, blah, blah, all these things.
And, and I guess part of that is just,you know, presenting credibility.
I understand that, that there is a sensewhere if you're asking people to work
with you, no matter in what industry,what, what niche it is that you do
have to present yourself as credible.
So there is a sense.
(06:44):
a sense, an aspect to that, that,um, I do have to, you know, say
the credentials, my experiences,because that's just how it is, right?
Like when you go to a job interview,you tell people about your experiences
and your, your degrees and all of thatstuff, because you do have to sort
of prove that you are, um, up, youare worthy of the position, right?
(07:07):
But I guess in this sense, I justrealized that That, yeah, that the
reason why I always share that storyis because I have this, this fear
that parents won't trust me withtheir kids because I don't have kids.
It's almost like looking at someone that,oh, you want to be a life coach for kids?
Like, okay, like, do you even knowanything about having children?
You don't even have your own children.
(07:27):
Why would you be a life coach for kids?
Like, there's so many of these, like,negative, Thoughts in my mind of not
being enough and today what happenedwas I heard Catherine Zankina speak
today and if you guys don't know whoshe is, she's built an incredible.
It's crazy.
She's she's had like an incrediblelike 30 million business.
(07:49):
Over the last, I think, like seven yearsor something like that, she started in
her grandmother's couch working as asecretary, um, being paid 15 an hour.
And then she's built this business, thisempire that's now, you know, has a revenue
of 30 million in the last seven years.
And she talked about how.
(08:11):
We all come with a certainfrequency, our energetic vibe, right?
Our energetic frequency.
And, you know, that could sound alittle weird for some people, but
what that really just means is thatyour frequency is how you frequently
see yourself and the way you presentyourself to people and the way you
(08:33):
present yourself to the world is reallya reflection of how you see yourself.
See yourself internally.
And so when you see yourself constantlyas you're not enough, and you don't
have this deep sense of self worth, itshows in everything that you do, whether
it is outrightly like direct or, or.
(08:56):
Like subconsciously, right?
Because what we put out therein the world is truly What is
energetically inside of us?
And so What I've realized is thatover my entire life the main struggle
i've always had has been self worthissues because of the abandonment
that I felt when I was a kid And thishas nothing to do with You know, my
(09:20):
parents, like, they're not bad parents.
My parents are amazing parents.
I love them so much, andthey're amazing parents.
But, when they left, when Iwas a kid, everything changed.
Every pain that I've had, I've realizedthat I've actually rooted it back
(09:41):
to that moment that I was left asa young seven year old little girl.
And no matter how good the reason isof my parents leaving, that the feeling
of abandonment, that feeling of, um,
Well, I'm not worthy because, you know,I'm not loved and all of these things
(10:05):
has been literally the root of all of myissues, you know, all of all of my issues
and everything, like every big, big,big mistake I've ever done in my life.
If I really, truly look back, it'sbecause I didn't think I was enough.
It's because I didn't think I was worthy.
And so the mistakes that I've donein the past has always been, well,
(10:30):
I need to prove myself or I need todo something right to just basically
fill that need of feeling worthy,feeling wanted, feeling loved.
And so as of today, What is today?
December 5, I think 2024.
I just really realized that the definitionof a wealthy, wealthy life for me is
(10:52):
when you have a deep, unconditionallove for yourself and you are fully,
fully believing that you are worthy.
No matter what, no matter what theworld says, no matter what anyone says
and that you really believe it andit's not based on your achievements.
(11:13):
It's not based on your success.
It's not based on yourphysical physicality, what you
look like, what you can do.
It's not based on the money inyour bank account and that you are
just really truly worthy simplybecause you're a human being.
(11:34):
And so bringing that back,what I realized is that.
Bringing that back to my, my business,which, um, Katz Case Company is my company
that I founded teaching piano and I'mtransitioning into life coaching for kids.
What I really realized is that
(11:57):
It doesn't matter, I think, howstrong an individual you are.
I think that all of ustruly struggle with this.
That all of us, in some stage in our life,struggle with self worth issues, right?
Like, all of us.
Whether you, Know it or not,whether you admit it or not.
(12:18):
I think all of us struggle with selfworth issues and Because I realized that
that that's been the the root issue ofeverything that i've ever faced in my
entire life um what it actually reallyIs for me is the reason why I want to
coach these kids with the life skillsthat I want to teach them Is because
these life skills Start with them knowingwho they are and their thoughts and,
(12:45):
and how they navigate their thoughts.
And, and through, through the lifecoaching sessions for the kids, I get
to really teach them their self worth.
I get to teach them just thisunshakable confidence and a soaring
self esteem that at a young age,that they would believe that they
are worthy and that they are enough.
(13:07):
Because if you think about it, youknow, like, I, I, yeah, as I said
already, like, I don't have kids, butI do know that what kids do at the
very young age, Mom, look at this.
Mom, look at that.
Mom, look at what I can do.
Mom, look.
Every, every child I'veever taught, right?
What gives them, what gets them excited,it's them showing you who they are.
(13:31):
Showing you, they're like, you know,every time I, if I go to someone's
house, like every child, they're like,look at my room, look at my room.
This is where I do my studies.
This is where I do my play.
This is, look at my toys.
Look at, it's, it's everything as a childis look at me, look at me, look at me.
And what that is, is the child.
(13:54):
Just seeking validation is the childseeking love and acceptance and
belongingness and over time, youknow, and we all know this right as
we as we get older, um, that need.
never goes away.
We still want to be loved.
We still want to belong.
We still want to be validated, right?
(14:17):
And today it was such a powerfulmoment when I realized that the
reason why I'm doing this lifecoaching for kids is because I want
to serve that little child in me.
That as a child didn't know how toprocess the feelings of abandonment
(14:42):
that I had, the feelings of unworthinessand being unloved that I had, that I
just didn't know how to process that.
And maybe, Maybe if I knew howto process that, maybe, maybe I'd
be in a different place today.
You know, who knows, right?
I mean, I'm happy with whoI am and where I am in life.
(15:05):
But what would it look likeif, if a child had the tools to
understand how their minds work?
And, and be able to develop such a deepsense of self worth at such a young age,
not that they're never going to strugglewith self worth issues because they will,
(15:28):
but that when they do, they have a betterstarting point, they have a better, you
know, like diving board, if you, if youthink about it, that they can just stand a
little taller, you know, in who they are.
That's it.
If they could just stand a littletaller in who they are, if they
could just believe a little bit morein who they are, because they had
(15:51):
the tools, because someone taughtthem the tools of how to do that.
And I realized that's,that's why I'm doing this.
That's why I'm doing this is becausethe child in me that really needed
that when I was seven, Didn't get it.
I didn't get that kind of help.
(16:13):
And that's why I want to do this.
I want to, I want to help kids.
Um, I have a student in piano.
This boy, this boy, he told me that,um, he doesn't have friends at school
because all his friends think thathe's just too loud and he's too much.
You know, what would that look like whenyou're always being told that you're
(16:35):
too much, you're too loud, you know?
It will make you want to shrink, it willmake you do either one of the two things.
It will make you either shrink or it willmake you even rebel and do crazy things.
Because it's like, you know,all you say is too much.
Well, watch this.
I'm going to be even more, you know,if you think that's too much, well
watch this because what you thoughtwas too much is not that much now.
(16:59):
I'm really going to show you, youknow, like it could go that way or
it could go the other way where it'slike, well, I guess I'm just going
to shrink and hold back and not sayanything because apparently I'm too much.
And I think of that student ofmine and my heart just breaks,
you know, my heart breaks.
And, and.
Gosh, like, and this is in a piano class.
(17:21):
So I haven't like, you know, when hesaid this, I haven't like fully really
gotten the tools yet because I haven'tgone through the whole certification yet.
But now that I have with like mylife coaching for kids, like, now
I have more of the tools that Ican really help with the kids, but
I don't want it to be reactive.
I don't want to give them the toolswhen, It's happening in the moment,
(17:42):
you know, because when it's happeningin the moment, it's harder for
them to receive the tools and toactually put it into implementation.
But, but when you give them tools beforethe things happen, right, they've had
practice with the tools before it actuallyhappens, then they can be more prepared.
And so, yeah, that's,that's what I want to build.
(18:02):
I want to build.
A life that is wealthy,wealthy for myself.
And that means that the growth of mybusiness is going to come from me really
just truly believing who I am and whatI do to serve families and people and
kids and, and believing in that so much.
And I believe in it.
(18:23):
I've already believe in it a hundredpercent, but I think I just realized that
I still have, I still have some self worthissues that I have to have to still nip in
the butt and, uh, you know, um, Still haveto constantly check myself and just submit
and actually someone asked me today.
(18:45):
Well, how did you heal from that?
You know, and I realized that the waythat I've really healed from that.
And this is from a perspectiveof someone who loves the Lord.
I love, I love God.
I love Jesus.
Today, when we weregoing through this whole.
(19:05):
Meditation in the event, I justrealized that the only way I heal
from it is to run towards God.
That's it.
The moment, the moment I drop intothat child in me who just believes
that a father, a father in heavenloves her so unconditionally.
(19:31):
That's when I'm the most, I'mthe most sure of who I am.
Because to me, just realizing that,you know, the God who created this
whole universe, the God who createdearth, the God who breathed life
into me, The God who created allof me, loves me unconditionally, no
(19:54):
matter what I've done, no matter,
no matter my success, my failures, noneof that matters, He just loves me for
who I am, and that I need to grab ahold of that, I just need to grab a hold
of that and believe that for myself.
You know, and that to me is how I, youknow, every time, every single time,
(20:16):
and I've realized every single timeI run away, I've run away from God.
That's when the self worth issues takeroot even more, you know, and every time
I run towards him, it just melts away.
And it's incredible.
And it can happen in an instant too.
It's just so instantaneous.
Like the moment I dropin it, it's just like,
(20:38):
I don't have to do so much.
I don't have to prove myself.
I can just be.
And, uh, yeah.
That's a wildly wealthy life to me.
And what I want is for the kids that Iget to work with to start off with that.
(20:59):
To start off with that.
Wildly wealthy mindset that they areenough, that they are loved and valued,
and their uniqueness and who they are isexactly the way they are because they,
there can be no one else like them.
And, and they have this uniquenessthat they can bring into the world
(21:22):
that only them can bring, you know?
And I just want them to embrace that.
I want them to, to love themselves.
That's, I guess it.
Tomorrow is another early day at, uh,BBD Live and I will record, hopefully
record another episode for the podcast.
(21:45):
And, uh, yeah, that's my soloepisode for Wildly Wealthy Life.
I hope that you got blessed by that.
And, um, Yeah, thanks for listening.
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Hey, my name is Kat.
And I'm Lee.
And welcome to the WildlyWealthy Life Podcast.
In this show, we explore the journeyof what it means to live a truly
exceptional and fulfilling life.
Each episode focuses on how afoundation of brilliant minds and
brave hearts, nurtured through thearts, leads to lifelong success.
(00:22):
Get inspired with actionabletips to foster a growth mindset,
leadership values, and more.
And creativity and children and adultsturning their potential into lasting
contributions for their communities Wehope you embrace the challenge to shift
your perspective as we equip you and thenext generation for a wildly wealthy life
(00:49):
Hey, it's kat coming to you todaysolo and I mean tonight Uh right
now i'm recording this episode fromphoenix, arizona It is currently 10.
04 p.
m.
I am in my Airbnb in thelobby of my Airbnb spot.
And I just came back from an all dayevent called Business by Design Live.
(01:10):
This is my little pin right here.
For those who are listening inaudio, I have a little pin that
says, My first BBD Live 2024.
My little badge right here,Katrina Dinkong, my name with
digital CEO at the bottom.
And, um, he was an incredible event thathad me pretty much crying the entire day.
(01:30):
And if you are seeing me from YouTube,you can probably tell that my eyes are a
little, um, swollen from crying all day.
Um, business by design is truly whatit means in every sense of the word.
It is.
Building a business that is out ofyour own design that matches your
(01:50):
lifestyle, that matches what youreally want to do and the purpose
that you want to live out and the giftthat you want to leave in this world.
You know, for the longest time, gosh,I'm doing this literally off the cusp.
I'm just thinking about the day.
I'm kind of debriefing my dayand sharing this with my wildly
(02:12):
wealthy life podcast listeners.
Because to me, I think thatas we go through life, we.
We're going to have differentexperiences where we think of a wildly
wealthy life in different ways, right?
My definition of a wildlywealthy life maybe years ago is
completely different from today'sdefinition of wildly wealthy life.
(02:34):
And what I realized is that a wildlywealthy life to me truly means that
you Have a deep unconditional love foryourself and who you are as a person and
that you have such this This deep senseof self worth that you love all of who
(02:57):
you are your uniqueness your quirks yourweirdness your You know what what repels
people from you that you love that too.
What what attracts people to you thatyou love that too um Because we're not,
we're not meant to be for everyone, right?
And so you have to love allof who, all of who you are.
(03:21):
And I think the reason why it comesup is because when you are building
a business by design, especiallyin my case, I'm building a business
where it's life coaching for kids.
In any business anyway, I think it bringsup a lot of stuff about you internally.
And what happens is when you'rebuilding a business, it literally
(03:44):
mirrors everything that's coming outis all of your insecurities, all of
your unworthiness, all of your impostersyndromes are coming out all at once.
And what I've realized is thateverything that I actually ever
want in life is on the other side.
(04:04):
Of me believing who I am andthat I am worthy full stop.
I'm worthy No questions.
I'm worthy.
That's it.
Not I'm worthy because not I'm worthy.
If not, I'm worthy.
(04:26):
A, B, C, D, E, F, G.
And I realized that everythingthat I've done in life,
all of my insecurities, all of myoverworking and overachieving, All of my
(04:50):
need to be successful and desire to besuccessful has come, has been rooted in
the fact that I've always felt unworthy.
I've always felt like I'm not.
Enough and so I always do so much morebecause I don't feel like I am enough
(05:15):
I always so work so much harder becauseI feel like I am enough You know this
whole thing with life coaching with kidsThe story about me not being able to be
pregnant and and my struggle with withwith infertility It's a real story It's a
(05:35):
real struggle, but I guess I realized thatI always share it from a place of like,
I feel like I need to prove to peoplethat I am enough as someone who just
loves kids and loves to work with kids.
And that, that in itself is enoughwithout me having to prove that while
(06:00):
I've done all of these things, andeven though I'm not a mom, you should
trust your kids with me becauseI know what I'm doing with kids.
I think there's this imposter syndrome inme that I just realized that I think the
reason why I always have to share, or Ifeel like I have the need to share that,
that wow, um, You know, I want to, I wantto coach your kids through life and yeah,
(06:24):
I'm not a mom, but, but, but, but, but,but, but, you know, but I've done this,
I've done this, I've taught kids for 15years, blah, blah, blah, all these things.
And, and I guess part of that is just,you know, presenting credibility.
I understand that, that there is a sensewhere if you're asking people to work
with you, no matter in what industry,what, what niche it is that you do
have to present yourself as credible.
So there is a sense.
(06:44):
a sense, an aspect to that, that,um, I do have to, you know, say
the credentials, my experiences,because that's just how it is, right?
Like when you go to a job interview,you tell people about your experiences
and your, your degrees and all of thatstuff, because you do have to sort
of prove that you are, um, up, youare worthy of the position, right?
(07:07):
But I guess in this sense, I justrealized that That, yeah, that the
reason why I always share that storyis because I have this, this fear
that parents won't trust me withtheir kids because I don't have kids.
It's almost like looking at someone that,oh, you want to be a life coach for kids?
Like, okay, like, do you even knowanything about having children?
You don't even have your own children.
(07:27):
Why would you be a life coach for kids?
Like, there's so many of these, like,negative, Thoughts in my mind of not
being enough and today what happenedwas I heard Catherine Zankina speak
today and if you guys don't know whoshe is, she's built an incredible.
It's crazy.
She's she's had like an incrediblelike 30 million business.
(07:49):
Over the last, I think, like seven yearsor something like that, she started in
her grandmother's couch working as asecretary, um, being paid 15 an hour.
And then she's built this business, thisempire that's now, you know, has a revenue
of 30 million in the last seven years.
And she talked about how.
(08:11):
We all come with a certainfrequency, our energetic vibe, right?
Our energetic frequency.
And, you know, that could sound alittle weird for some people, but
what that really just means is thatyour frequency is how you frequently
see yourself and the way you presentyourself to people and the way you
(08:33):
present yourself to the world is reallya reflection of how you see yourself.
See yourself internally.
And so when you see yourself constantlyas you're not enough, and you don't
have this deep sense of self worth, itshows in everything that you do, whether
it is outrightly like direct or, or.
(08:56):
Like subconsciously, right?
Because what we put out therein the world is truly What is
energetically inside of us?
And so What I've realized is thatover my entire life the main struggle
i've always had has been self worthissues because of the abandonment
that I felt when I was a kid And thishas nothing to do with You know, my
(09:20):
parents, like, they're not bad parents.
My parents are amazing parents.
I love them so much, andthey're amazing parents.
But, when they left, when Iwas a kid, everything changed.
Every pain that I've had, I've realizedthat I've actually rooted it back
(09:41):
to that moment that I was left asa young seven year old little girl.
And no matter how good the reason isof my parents leaving, that the feeling
of abandonment, that feeling of, um,
Well, I'm not worthy because, you know,I'm not loved and all of these things
(10:05):
has been literally the root of all of myissues, you know, all of all of my issues
and everything, like every big, big,big mistake I've ever done in my life.
If I really, truly look back, it'sbecause I didn't think I was enough.
It's because I didn't think I was worthy.
And so the mistakes that I've donein the past has always been, well,
(10:30):
I need to prove myself or I need todo something right to just basically
fill that need of feeling worthy,feeling wanted, feeling loved.
And so as of today, What is today?
December 5, I think 2024.
I just really realized that the definitionof a wealthy, wealthy life for me is
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when you have a deep, unconditionallove for yourself and you are fully,
fully believing that you are worthy.
No matter what, no matter what theworld says, no matter what anyone says
and that you really believe it andit's not based on your achievements.
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It's not based on your success.
It's not based on yourphysical physicality, what you
look like, what you can do.
It's not based on the money inyour bank account and that you are
just really truly worthy simplybecause you're a human being.
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And so bringing that back,what I realized is that.
Bringing that back to my, my business,which, um, Katz Case Company is my company
that I founded teaching piano and I'mtransitioning into life coaching for kids.
What I really realized is that
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It doesn't matter, I think, howstrong an individual you are.
I think that all of ustruly struggle with this.
That all of us, in some stage in our life,struggle with self worth issues, right?
Like, all of us.
Whether you, Know it or not,whether you admit it or not.
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I think all of us struggle with selfworth issues and Because I realized that
that that's been the the root issue ofeverything that i've ever faced in my
entire life um what it actually reallyIs for me is the reason why I want to
coach these kids with the life skillsthat I want to teach them Is because
these life skills Start with them knowingwho they are and their thoughts and,
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and how they navigate their thoughts.
And, and through, through the lifecoaching sessions for the kids, I get
to really teach them their self worth.
I get to teach them just thisunshakable confidence and a soaring
self esteem that at a young age,that they would believe that they
are worthy and that they are enough.
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Because if you think about it, youknow, like, I, I, yeah, as I said
already, like, I don't have kids, butI do know that what kids do at the
very young age, Mom, look at this.
Mom, look at that.
Mom, look at what I can do.
Mom, look.
Every, every child I'veever taught, right?
What gives them, what gets them excited,it's them showing you who they are.
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Showing you, they're like, you know,every time I, if I go to someone's
house, like every child, they're like,look at my room, look at my room.
This is where I do my studies.
This is where I do my play.
This is, look at my toys.
Look at, it's, it's everything as a childis look at me, look at me, look at me.
And what that is, is the child.
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Just seeking validation is the childseeking love and acceptance and
belongingness and over time, youknow, and we all know this right as
we as we get older, um, that need.
never goes away.
We still want to be loved.
We still want to belong.
We still want to be validated, right?
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And today it was such a powerfulmoment when I realized that the
reason why I'm doing this lifecoaching for kids is because I want
to serve that little child in me.
That as a child didn't know how toprocess the feelings of abandonment
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that I had, the feelings of unworthinessand being unloved that I had, that I
just didn't know how to process that.
And maybe, Maybe if I knew howto process that, maybe, maybe I'd
be in a different place today.
You know, who knows, right?
I mean, I'm happy with whoI am and where I am in life.
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But what would it look likeif, if a child had the tools to
understand how their minds work?
And, and be able to develop such a deepsense of self worth at such a young age,
not that they're never going to strugglewith self worth issues because they will,
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but that when they do, they have a betterstarting point, they have a better, you
know, like diving board, if you, if youthink about it, that they can just stand a
little taller, you know, in who they are.
That's it.
If they could just stand a littletaller in who they are, if they
could just believe a little bit morein who they are, because they had
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the tools, because someone taughtthem the tools of how to do that.
And I realized that's,that's why I'm doing this.
That's why I'm doing this is becausethe child in me that really needed
that when I was seven, Didn't get it.
I didn't get that kind of help.
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And that's why I want to do this.
I want to, I want to help kids.
Um, I have a student in piano.
This boy, this boy, he told me that,um, he doesn't have friends at school
because all his friends think thathe's just too loud and he's too much.
You know, what would that look like whenyou're always being told that you're
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too much, you're too loud, you know?
It will make you want to shrink, it willmake you do either one of the two things.
It will make you either shrink or it willmake you even rebel and do crazy things.
Because it's like, you know,all you say is too much.
Well, watch this.
I'm going to be even more, you know,if you think that's too much, well
watch this because what you thoughtwas too much is not that much now.
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I'm really going to show you, youknow, like it could go that way or
it could go the other way where it'slike, well, I guess I'm just going
to shrink and hold back and not sayanything because apparently I'm too much.
And I think of that student ofmine and my heart just breaks,
you know, my heart breaks.
And, and.
Gosh, like, and this is in a piano class.
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So I haven't like, you know, when hesaid this, I haven't like fully really
gotten the tools yet because I haven'tgone through the whole certification yet.
But now that I have with like mylife coaching for kids, like, now
I have more of the tools that Ican really help with the kids, but
I don't want it to be reactive.
I don't want to give them the toolswhen, It's happening in the moment,
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you know, because when it's happeningin the moment, it's harder for
them to receive the tools and toactually put it into implementation.
But, but when you give them tools beforethe things happen, right, they've had
practice with the tools before it actuallyhappens, then they can be more prepared.
And so, yeah, that's,that's what I want to build.
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I want to build.
A life that is wealthy,wealthy for myself.
And that means that the growth of mybusiness is going to come from me really
just truly believing who I am and whatI do to serve families and people and
kids and, and believing in that so much.
And I believe in it.
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I've already believe in it a hundredpercent, but I think I just realized that
I still have, I still have some self worthissues that I have to have to still nip in
the butt and, uh, you know, um, Still haveto constantly check myself and just submit
and actually someone asked me today.
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Well, how did you heal from that?
You know, and I realized that the waythat I've really healed from that.
And this is from a perspectiveof someone who loves the Lord.
I love, I love God.
I love Jesus.
Today, when we weregoing through this whole.
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Meditation in the event, I justrealized that the only way I heal
from it is to run towards God.
That's it.
The moment, the moment I drop intothat child in me who just believes
that a father, a father in heavenloves her so unconditionally.
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That's when I'm the most, I'mthe most sure of who I am.
Because to me, just realizing that,you know, the God who created this
whole universe, the God who createdearth, the God who breathed life
into me, The God who created allof me, loves me unconditionally, no
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matter what I've done, no matter,
no matter my success, my failures, noneof that matters, He just loves me for
who I am, and that I need to grab ahold of that, I just need to grab a hold
of that and believe that for myself.
You know, and that to me is how I, youknow, every time, every single time,
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and I've realized every single timeI run away, I've run away from God.
That's when the self worth issues takeroot even more, you know, and every time
I run towards him, it just melts away.
And it's incredible.
And it can happen in an instant too.
It's just so instantaneous.
Like the moment I dropin it, it's just like,
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I don't have to do so much.
I don't have to prove myself.
I can just be.
And, uh, yeah.
That's a wildly wealthy life to me.
And what I want is for the kids that Iget to work with to start off with that.
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To start off with that.
Wildly wealthy mindset that they areenough, that they are loved and valued,
and their uniqueness and who they are isexactly the way they are because they,
there can be no one else like them.
And, and they have this uniquenessthat they can bring into the world
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that only them can bring, you know?
And I just want them to embrace that.
I want them to, to love themselves.
That's, I guess it.
Tomorrow is another early day at, uh,BBD Live and I will record, hopefully
record another episode for the podcast.
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And, uh, yeah, that's my soloepisode for Wildly Wealthy Life.
I hope that you got blessed by that.
And, um, Yeah, thanks for listening.
Alright friends, that's a wrap ontoday's episode of Wildly Wealthy Life.
We hope you're feeling fired upand ready to take on the world with
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