Good Love What It Means To You with Dr. Dorothy Jeffries

Good Love What It Means to You with Psychologist and Mental Health Specialist Dr. Dorothy Jeffries on The Bev Johnson Show on WDIA Radio.

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Still your good will and good timeStation ten seventy w d I A listen
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around when Ridle pegging out them jozingshow, because Bell got talking, get

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heaving a fucking in here every day. Indeed, I ain't so lad my
bell got me a missed talking gay. Good morning, good morning, good

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morning, Good Friday, and welcomein to wd IA the Rev. Johnson
Show. It is indeed a pleasureto have you with us once again on
this Friday. It's good Friday,March twenty ninth, twenty twenty four.
Enjoyed this fabulous day to day.It is Relationship Day where we talk about

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relationships to help make yours healthy,happy, wholesome, wonderful and most of
all loving between consenting adult. We'llbe doing that with our expert psychologist mental
health specialists, said Dorothy Jeffries.We'll be in to talk with us.

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I'm going to talk about good loveand what that means to you. We'll
talk more about that when it's yourturn to talk. You know you can't.
Here is the number to dial eightthree three five three five nine three
four to two eight three three fivethree five nine three four two. We'll

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get you in to us. Andif this day, this day, Friday,
March twenty ninth, twenty twenty four, is your birthday. Happy birthday,
each and every one of y'all outthere who may be celebrating a birthday

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on this day on Saturday, Marchthirtieth, Sunday Easter March thirty first,
Happy birthday, y'all go out andcelebrate your life, y'all better, you
better. When we come back,we'll do some WDI goodwill announcements and we'll

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talk to our psychologist mental health specialists, doctor Dorothy Jeffries in me Bev Johnson
on The Bev Johnson Show only onDouble D. I am good morning and

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welcome back to wd I A TheBev Johnson Show. You are always on
my mind. Good morning to youon this good Friday. Hey Friday,
March twenty ninth, twenty twenty four. Enjoyed this fabulous day to day wherever
you are, hope that your goodFriday is a good Friday. It is
a beautiful Friday in Memphis, Tennessee. If you just tuned in on Fridays,

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we talk about relationships to help makeyours healthy, happy, wholesome,
wonderful, and most of all lovingbetween concerning adults. We'll do that with
our expert, our psychologist, doctorDorothy Jeffries, will be in. We'll
be talking a little bit about somegood love, so stick for that.

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And before we get to doctor Jeffries, let me get in so you all
know what's happening this weekend. Afew d I a good will announcements,
and don't forget Tonight at the BenjaminL. Hook Central Library, they got
that jazz going on. They havemy friend mister Michael Townsend will be there

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with special gifts Alvin McKinney. Theyhave that jazz. This is the last
Friday four Jazz. They've been doingit the five Fridays in the month of
March, so tonight will be thisevening rather starting at six thirty until eight.
It is absolutely free and people havebeen loving the jazz. It's a

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nice, nice quiet evening. Goget here's some jazz. They have vendors
over there. You can get beverages. Oh, it's just sit back and
relax and hear some jazz at theBenjamin L. Hooks Central Library over there
on Poplar, y'all and tell Michael. I said hello, Michael Townsend.

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Michael is good saxophonist. He willbe there this last jazz series this evening
at Benjamin L. Hooks Library.Also, don't forget on tomorrow, the
House of Prayer Evangelistic Ministries Church ofGod in Christ will host a Easter and

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Easter festival. It is located atfifty nine twenty six Whisper Valley Drive.
They will have fun, food,face painting, bouncers, Easter egg honeting,
all that good stuff over there atthe House of Prayer Evangelistic Ministries,

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Church of God in the Christ wheretheir past is Verdil Jackson and their first
lady, Candra Jackson will be there, So going overtake the kids has some
good, clean fun. They're startingat ten o'clock in the morning, y'all,
ten to twelve, fifty nine twentysix Whisper Valley Drive. That's the

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House of Prayer Evangelistic Ministries Church ofGod in Christ. They will have a
Easter festival. I like that.And also and oh the white Haven,
Oh, white Haven will have anEaster egg hunt on Saturday, March second,

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March. March Lord have mercy Marchthirtieth. I'm looking at something else
March thirtieth, and bring out thekids, let the run around for a
while. It's a free community event. Starts at ten o'clock Blue Cross the
David Carnes Park right there at whiteHaven Lane at Auduburn and it is being
sponsored by GK. Price Foundation andDistrict three City council Woman Pearl Walker.

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The white Haven Easter Egg Hunt that'shappening on Tomorrow beginning at ten am.
They're gonna have music and food andface paintings the David Carnes Park, white
Haven Lane and Auburn Road. AndI know I left my other there's an
East ex hunt at Grace And I'llget you that information. I'll get that

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information to you when we come back, so you'll know about that Easter egg
hunt out there out there in NorthMemphis. So you will be able to
know about that. So please youknow. And that's good clean fund for
the children. Those Easter egg hunt. I like it, I like And
the weather is going to be beautifultomorrow. Do you hear me? The

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weather is going to be beautiful tomorrow. So take a heed to all of
that and go get some of thisvitamin D out there. All right?
All right? When we come back, we will talk with our expert psychologist

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and mental health specialists, doctor DorothyJeffries. We're gonna talk a little bit
about some good love. Yeah,y'all like that, don't you. Yeah,
you'll be able to talk. Letme give you the number so you
will be able to dial in andask your questions. Eight three three five
three five nine three four two eightthree three five three five nine three four

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two will get you in to us. You're listening to the Rev. Johnson
Show on this good Friday right hereon w DA. Hi, this is

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David Porter, and you are listeningto the Queen of Talk, Bev Johnson.
She is the one and only.No one can top her, no
one can stop her, and I'min love with her. You're listening to
Bev Johnson at w d I AHello, working hard to bring you Hoday

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never saving fordayvery dye off Monday Relationsday. It's good morning, and welcome back

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to w d I A the BEBJohnson Show Relationship Day on this good Friday.
It's March twenty ninth, twenty twentyfour. Enjoy this fabulous day to
day. Before I get to doctorJeffries, let me get this last WDI
A good will announcement and Grace MissionaryBaptist Church is having a Easter egg hunt

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on tomorrow, y'all. They're gonnahave candy, prizes, and now y'all
gonna like this fifty dollars golden eggs. What fifty dollars golden eggs, five
dollars purple eggs giveaway. It allstarts at ten o'clock in the morning,
free entry for all. The churchis located at twelve O three Menanzas Street,

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twelve O three Menanzas Street. That'sGrace Missionary Baptist Church. They will
have their Easter egg hunt. They'regiving away money, y'all, fifty dollars
golden eggs, and they're gonna havecandy and prizes and food for all.
So I'll go by and tell PastorRonnie King, I said hello, he

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is the pastor of that church,Grace Missionary Baptist Church. Twelve o three
North Nanzas Street. Tomorrow they startat ten o'clock as well, So it's
gonna be a beautiful day tomorrow forall the Easter egg hunts. Well,
let's say good morning to our psychologistmental health specialists in the house today,

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doctor do it the Jeffries. Goodmorning, doctor Jeffries. How are y'all?
Good morning, Beverly. I amwell, it's a beautiful day.
I'm sitting in my chair. I'min Memphis. Hey, what else is
there to say? Hey? Youknow what? And you know you picked
a good Friday? Yeah I did. You picked a good Friday to come

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in today. So I am gladto see your beautiful face this morning.
Sister. Isn't she sweet? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Well, doctor Jeffries, this morningour topic of conversation, let's talk
about good love. You don't talkthat often about that and what that means
to you. Do y'all have it? Do you want it? Can you

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find it? And can you keepgood love? That's the question? Can
you can you keep good love?Right? Absolutely right? And what better
day to talk about good love?Yes than good fr Yes, ma'am,
Because if we're here and we areable to have the sun shine on our

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face. Then we ought to beappreciative of being love and having been shown
the greatest love right. And soif that is true, then we need
to honor that gift by doing thebest that we can to make sure that
we enrich our own lives with goodlove. And the reason this topic is

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also so important I think that thereare far too many of us, and
I hate to say it, butquite a few young people, a lot
of older people too, have givenup on love period. And so it's
a betwixt and not getting what youneed. And it shows. It shows

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in our interactions with each other,It shows on our faith, shows in
our health, and it shows inour spirit. So we're all in search
and in need of good love.The first one being and this is where
we always start with is self.Yes, if you do not present yourself

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or feel that you are a personwho is experienced in being loved, giving
love, receiving love, and deservinglove, it will show. And what
is also truth with that statement isit is reflected in the people you surround
yourself with, the people you inviteinto your lives, the situations you find

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yourself encumbered with, and the meansand manner of which you allow and encourage
people to treat, use or misuseyou. So if you have a poor
perception of yourself and you have undervaluedyourself today, we want to stop that.
Stop it. We want to stopthat. Yes, and we're going

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to take stock because every person breathinghas something that they have to offer themselves,
if nothing more, then you knowI'm here. So if you're here
and you are in good health,and you are in your good mind,
and you have the ability to reason, and you are self independent, if

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you can take care of yourself orwhatever, whatever your status is right now,
I invite you to take stock ofthat and inventory what it is that
is an asset and a blessing toyou, because many times we have a
blessing basket over here that gets cobwebson it because we're too busy over here

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either comparing ourselves to other people orsaying what's missing in our lives, or
bitter about false hopes or lost opportunitythat we never eat even bother to position
ourselves to pursue. So, ifeverything begins and ends with us, the
way we come into this world andthe way that we go out of this

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world, it begins and ends withus. And so while we're on this
journey, we should and I veryrarely tell you things that you should do,
but you owe it to yourself andeverybody else who has crossed your path,
including your ancestors, that have attributedto your still being here and given
you every reason and rhyme that youshould feel blessed and that you're still standing.

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So we're gonna take stock of ourassets. And once we take stock
of our assets, then we keepthose where we're visibly reminding ourselves of that.
Do you have a talent that youdon't acknowledge? Do you have an
interest that you have thought about maybegrowing up, or that you enjoy doing.
There are people with artistic ability won'tpick up a pen. There are

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people who are great photographers, They'repeople who have beautiful voices, They're people
who master teachers. I mean,there's so many things that they can do.
And I'm not talking about people whohave been professionally trained. These are
God given gifts that you have.And I do believe that there's something that

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everybody has within their being that youhave to acknowledge or to discover, even
for yourself, try things that younever thought about. If you're just curious
about it, you know, dabblein some painting and see what you come
up. Try to sew something ifyou want to do. Try your hand
at garden and see what happens.I've been killing flowers every year, trying

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to get that green thumb that's supposedto run in my family. But apparently
my thumb is really brown. ButI keep trying because it just gives me
pleasure, just hoping they're gonna getsomething to grow. But whatever it is
that speaks to you, and theway that you discover what that is,
find some space, private time andjust be quiet and say, you know,

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help me see here or learn aboutmy gifts so that I can use
it with purpose. When you dothat, you know, and you may
have to do it because we're notin practice to opening ourselves up to the
universe and being able to hear thingsthat are messages to us through our intuition,

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and just that, you know,when a thought comes to you,
your intuition shows up or desired thatyou squash or I can't do that,
or i'm this, or I'm that. We shut down opportunities for self fulfillment
and what have you. So youmay have to practice it and do it
over and over again and then justbe expectant to hear it. So the

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self love part comes in. Yeah, So I just wanted to say that
self love, that's the first thingyou need to work the core. That's
the core, that's the core.I think that's the fertilizer that opens up
the opportunities for the others. Becausewhen you're thriving and flourishing and showing you

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know how in tuned you are tothe world and how excited you are about
your life and how you're working onin purpose, and how you have goals
and you have expectations. And we'vetalked about wants, wishes and dreams.
If you are in the process ofwanting something, wishing for it, and
trying to make your dreams manifest,then that shows that you are actively in

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God and engaged with living and youare spiritually connected to seeking ways to fulfill
that. And it doesn't matter whateverit is, because we have been blessed
to live long enough to see possibledreams come true. Why not for you?
Why not for you? So don'tmiss that opportunity to do that.

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The thing about people who are livingin that process and who are trying to
fall in love with themselves and gettingto know themselves better. There is an
aura about them, there's an animationabout them. There's something about their personality
that draws other people to them.And what you don't realize when you're focused

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on those types of things, youpresent with more confidence, you present with
more competence. You sound and looklike you're secure within yourself and guess what
you are because you're no longer lookingoutside of yourself, comparing yourself with what

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somebody else has, how they look, what they do, what they didn't
get, or how mistreated. Youare looking forward with expectation for a positive
response, and so that makes youcome together where there's nothing out there that's
beyond your reach, and there's noone out there that you have to compete

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with. You're competing with yourself tobe better tomorrow than I am today.
And when you're doing that and you'rethe only contender in this race, you
can only lose if you quit.So as long as you're moving, whether
you're just taking ten steps a day, you're moving forward. And the Chinese
says Confucius says, the journey ofa thousand miles begins with what one step.

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That first step, So thinking aboutthat that all of your possibilities reside
within you, and when you arecreating this, then you'll find yourself rejecting
things that are negative to you becausethat lowers that animation that you have,
or it becomes tiring, or it'scounter productive to the time you want to

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devote to learning and doing this.If you're someone with children, it's manifested
in younger and earlier ways because yourchildren see you doing things and moving forward
with hopes and goals, so thatthey what you're doing is modeling for them
how to dream and make things happen. You're teaching them individually and collectively that

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each one of them have the capacityfor greatness, each one of them have
the ability to learn and do whateverit is they set their hearts to because
when you set your heart to it, then it doesn't feel like drudgery or
work. They are persistent like athletes. Athletes love what they do. They
love their bodies, and they usetheir bodies like machines. So they don't

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think about the fact that you getup at four thirty in the morning and
you go out and you work outor you go out and you practice whatever
you do, or you know,you hit a ball three thousand times a
day and what have you. Becausetheir goal is greatness, and when you
do that, you may not reachthe pinnacle of greatness, but it's greatness

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that's designed for you, so youcan still feel good about that. Now,
when you have that kind of stuffgoing on within you, you draw
people who are attracted to that.So that means that's people who are coming
to share the cup with you byadding what they're bringing to the table,
not somebody coming to empty your cupor to suck all of you what's in

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your cup out. And you candiscern between the two because you know how
you feel this person coming in tooffer friendship, to offer love, to
offer companionship, to offer parenting,to teach you. The people that come
into your life you welcome there becausethere's a sense that these people are important

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to that goal that you have forbeing the best that you can be.
When people love and nurture themselves withthe idea that I'm here for a purpose
and I don't want to waste thatopportunity, then that energy that they have,
I mean, that's intoxicating enough.But people can light their own energy

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from that. And so when yousee people like that, you always see
people who want to be around them, who want to listen to them,
who want to model them and whathave you. But they're giving and what
they're sharing replenishes them, so it'snot again like they're going to end up
with an empty vessel. And that'swhat's important. When you feel love and

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you feel comfortable with yourself and competentwith what and how and who you are,
then when you see someone who saysI'm attracted to that, you don't
get caught up into those petty thingsabout you know, is it somebody else
so I can do? I trustyou and all of that. You know,

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why would you want anybody else whenyou are trying to engage with me?
You know, right? What couldbe? Who could be a better
friend to you when I'm your friend? Who could be a better partner for
you when I'm your partner? Andwhat have you. When you operate with
that, you provide stability, security, and peace of mind for yourself,

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And it also raises the stakes forthe person who says, what this is
a person of value, This isa person I don't want to mess up
with. This is a person.I need to find out what is what's
their covenant, what's their expectation,so that we have an understanding and we
don't mess this up. I don'twant to mess it up. This may

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be a good thing for me,you know. And when people look at
you like that, they treat youdifferent, you feel differently about the person.
And as somebody once said to me, if I love you enough and
I show you and you understand howI'm showing you, then you know I

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never intend to hurt you. Andthat's the good meaning of when human beings,
because anybody in a relationship have thecapacity to hurt you once you allow
them to love you. And whenyou allow them to love you and they
hurt you, then you can dealwith that hurt. You can talk about

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that hurt because the thing that's deepestin your heart is what they're human and
it was not intentional, so wecan work through that. It's when people
do things over and over again andthey know the things that they do will
hurt you, then you have totake pause and say, why am I
dealing with somebody who's intentionally going outof their way to disregard my feelings,

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disrespect me, take me for grantedand show that they are careless with my
love. I'll stop, all right, We'll take it. That's a good
praise. Take a break. Weare talking this day, on this good
Friday. We're talking good love.What does that mean to you? Do
you have it? Do you wantit? Can you find it? And

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can you keep it? And alsoif you have a relationship question for Dr
Dorothy Jeffries, he's here, goodopportunity to get in eight three three five
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good love today. Doctor Dorothy Jeffriesis here good love. What does that
mean to you do you have it? We want to know if you have
it, do you want it?We also want to know if you want

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it, can you find it?That's a good question, and can you
keep it? Doctor Jeffries. We'regoing to our phone lines to talk with
George. Hi, George, HeyBob, how you doing? How you
doing? Happy reservation to doctor Jeffries. Thank you, George. How you

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I am black testing? I gota quick question, Doctor Jeffries. Okay,
I was born on you. Iwas born on Bill Street in nineteen
fifty four. And my daddy,I know he loved me because as soon
as I could walk, at twoyears old, he took me from Bill

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and fourth Street, where we hada little house at Bill and Forth.
He walked me down the handy park, right down the street where dog c
handy statue. The statue had atruppet in his hands, and they had
music playing out of that statue.And I heard it when I was two

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years old, and I told Daddy, when I get a big boy,
I want to blow the trumpet likethe man on his statue. And Daddy
took me to see the parade rightthere at the same corner at building Hernander,
and I grew up watching people blowthe trumpet's live like W. C.

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Handy had the trumpet in his handon his statue, and I fell
in love with the sound of thattruppet and I wanted to do that as
soon as I got the school.And when I got to school in nineteen
sixty seven, Harry Winfield taught meto blow that trumpet. And am I
in love with blowing the trumpet?Because when I blow the trumpet people clapped.

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Is that's showing me love when theyclap for me, Oh, love
and appreciation for your gift. I'mglad to hear that you can play the
trumpet. That that's the perfect example, George. Is that what made me
fall in love with traveling anyway justto get that crumpet and the people clap
for me. George, We're gonnajust stick with the people who hear you

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play it, appreciate it, andthey're showing you love. We can't add
everything that you do with to getto play it in it. Okay,
okay, okay, thank you,I thank me in love with blowing their
trumpet? I agree, and George, and be in love and share that
music wherever you get an opportunity.Okay, thank you, have a good

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weekend, you too, take careyou too. When we're talking, doctor
jeffries about good love. One ofthe things that that people may ask and
I'm thinking a lot of times,I know we've talked about this, that
people give up on it because maybethey've had a bad relationship or bad relationships

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and they say, you know,this is not for me. I can't
find nobody wants to love me exactly. But you know what, there are
some people who have bad relationships andthey are devastated by the relationship because they
may have put their whole heart andsoul into that relationship and then the person

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betrayed them. And there are alot of different ways people can betray you.
But if you really want to findlove in life, a couple of
things that you have to do isthat you can take all of your energy
and put that into hating that personwho betrayed you. And you can hate
that person so long until it itfreezes into cold anger and so you don't

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feel the throb of you know,like that hatred every day. But cold
anger freizes everything about your emotions withit. You put that wall up,
you distance yourself. There's a disconnectfrom people who reach out to you,
and you also have locked you You'velocked yourself in to protect yourself. I'll

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give you that, but you alsolock out every opportunity for somebody to come
in and show you a different experience. Now, the other piece of that
is that goes with that, andthis is where the courage the courageous part
has to come to. You haveto write out on paper what that person

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did to betray you. Write thatout first, and then write and continue
writing. And you're gonna write backwardson this case where you write out what
they did at the end that betrayedyou, that finally ended the relationship.
Then go back and talk about inthe middle of the relationship, what kinds

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of things started happening that made youfeel anxious, that raised questions in your
mouth, but you decided I lovethem, I'm gonna hang on in there
with you. Okay. So that'syour second paragraph. Then the last paragraph,
When you first met the person,you saw them, somebody introduced you
to them. How did you meet, how did you feel, what did

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you see in that person? Whatdid you feel about that person? What
was your hopes and dreams about thatperson. And then when you write all
that down, then I want youto write in red ink, what were
some of the signs that you noticedin the very beginning that made you take
pause. Something that was said thatwas dead, something that wasn't done,

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something that you wish that they haddone, or what have you. But
you took pause long enough and thenyou consciously decide I'm gonna let this slide
or I'm gonna ignore that. Sonow what you have is you've got your
story from the bottom up to whereit ended, and you've got it from
the bottom down to where it began. And this is where you can free

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yourself go through that story. Andthen in another column write down everything that
you had an opportunity to protect yourself, to change the story, to end
the experience, or to not moveforward, and you didn't. And also
right beside that why you didn't,what that gives you is a it's a

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chain of opportunities to be accountable forchanging the script of what you have invested
in this person. See everybody thatyou meet, whether it's a friend,
whether it's it's a job, whetherit's a lover, whether it's a spouse.
You know what, and sometimes it'seven with relatives. You have to

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be able to hold yourself accountable becauseguess what, nobody can use you unless
you make it accommodating for them.People can't walk on you unless you lie
down. Once you stand up,if somebody can walk on you, then
that's a different story. But ifyou're standing up, nobody can walk on

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you. Nobody can look down onyou. If you're looking them in the
eye, straight in the eye,with the eyes that say, how dare
you talk to me like this?How dare you try to treat me like
that? Those are stop signs.When you can, when you can be
honest with yourself about what you didor didn't do, or what you could

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have done or might have done,then you can begin to free yourself and
forgive that person because they had someissues, there was something wrong where they
chose to hurt you. But youcan also not be angry with yourself and
with the other person for not beingable to do what you needed to do

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to take care of yourself, andthen make a promise that I'm going to
change that. And if you makethat decision, then you can do some
of the things that we talked aboutat the beginning. Of the show,
because you need to make amends toyourself. You need to show some love
to yourself, some kindness to yourselfbecause what you've done, and some people

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will do this for years, theywill deny themselves the opportunity to love somebody,
to be intimate with somebody, tobe affectionate with somebody, or close
to somebody, because somebody that theycan barely remember what they look like or
what the circumstances were, did nottreat them right. So you have to

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make a conscious change. So whathappened, doctor Jefferies, is if if
you've done that with one person,but then you realize, I've had several
people this has happened to me thesame thing. You haven't changed anything.
You have not changed anything, andnine times out of ten that person left

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you. Okay, not you sayingenough for this reason, this reason,
this reason, because when the personmistreats you and you said you will not
do this to me anymore. Ideserve better. There's a shift there.
And what you're saying about yourself,you're protecting yourself, You're standing up for
yourself. You're saying I don't deserveto be treated like that. If you

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have a pattern of people. Yes, you know, and then you go
to the next person. They dothe same thing. So you have not
taken care of yourself. You're justreplacing the person. Remember when I give
their exercise, when I said,right, the top three people, put
them in a column and see whatyou find in common. Okay, Yeah,
until something shifts within you, You'regonna pick the same thing over and

(41:00):
over again until you recognize this isnot for me. This is not for
me, And why is it I'mdrawn to this? Why am I drawn
to this type of person? Itcould be an unfulfilled relationship with a parent,
It could be an opportunity well,you know, for example, and
parents do not realize the power oftheir voice and the words that they use.

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A parent can non chalantly be talkingabout you and assume you're too young
to hear what they're saying. Well, little Jane is very, very smart,
and that's good because she's not apretty child. She looks just like
her daddy, and so she's gonnahave to be smart in order because nobody's

(41:45):
gonna want to marry her. LittleJanie playing over there in the corner.
You think she's not paying attention tothat? That goes into her. So
then now she's on a thing.Who does she want men or love people
or loved ones who do not vyou hurt because she's already been given a
hole. There's nothing you can doabout how you look, so you gotta

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be smart. So she's gonna pickone or two ways. I'm gonna be
the smartest person in the world andI'm gonna have the worst social skills ever
because nobody can like me because I'mnot attracted, you know. Okay,
So the patterns are there, thebeliefs are there until there's a paradigm shift.

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When the paradigm shifts and you're saying, wait a minute, I keep
getting on this same merry go round. Right when the paradigm shifts, then
you have the opportunity to change thebehavior. Once you change the behavior,
then you can change the expectations forthe outcome. Got it like trying to

(42:52):
wear six an chills and you knowyou can't walk in them. So it
doesn't matter if you have red,brown, and black, right, you're
gonna falling all three of them,all right, I like it. I
like it. We're gonna go toour phone lines. If you have a
question of two for doctor Jeffries yourturn to talk eight three three five three
five nine three four two eight threethree five three five nine three four two

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high caller is in my time.It's your turn. Shorty dog, Hey,
shorty dog, how are you?I'm blessed that to expel. Okay,
a lot of the comments coming inabout the female side of things.
You know what I'm saying, uhhuh. But what happens is two things

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I ain't never seen a ul voteand a female that won't go. You
got a lot of me and Iwho have been dropped and betrayed for by
a woman who he may not beable to provide for what she used to.
He may have got laid off,he might have something that has happened

(43:59):
to him at it and he needsthe help in the and and and supports
the woman. But because his posativeguys grow, because he hadn't been able
to provide the on the way heused to provide, she's off. That's
your things. Ain't never seen aUFO and a female that won't go.
You'll they'll go when the guy comein with a little bit more money,

(44:21):
a little back, with more orsomething that she's looking for. She feels
like she got she she can bebetter taken care of by this guy.
What happens to the man? Well, wait a minute, Wait a minute.
I hear your point, but Ibut I have to say you're saying
all females are capable of that,But there are plenty of women and men

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who stick with their partners when thingsget back. But that's a stereotype.
That that's a stereotype. That isone possibility. The other thing is did
the man get the woman knowing thatthat was the attached of what he could
do to provide for her or viceversa. The same thing could happen if

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a woman gets a man and sheprovides for him when she can no longer
provide for him, that's the endof the contract that they have. Well
understanding that money exactly. Yeah.Yeah, I'm saying that works both ways,
but that's human behaves. In mostways, it works, it works

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against the man. In most cases. Women are raised up. I'm old
school. To find you a manthat's gonna take care of you, To
find a man that's gonna to thathas to be you know know what,
That had to be longer than fiftyor sixty years ago, because not at

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all I was. I wasn't taughtthat. I'm gonna tell you that.
I'm gonna tell you what I wastaught. Surety, dog, I was
taught. My folks taught me.We're gonna teach you, gonna give you
an education, girl. So youyou so you can find for yourself.
You know, the old folks sayyou can find for yourself. So my
grandmother and mother and my father didn't. They didn't say, uh, look

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for you a man that's gonna providefor you. Hell, you be able
to provide for yourself in case thatman does leave, you get somebody.
You be able to provide for yourself. And I hate to tell you,
I hate to tell you short adog, Yeah, but I hate to
wait that man. I gotta putthis part in. You gotta put this

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dog. I hate to tell you. That is the old patriarchal Caucasian standard
for how to get a wife.A wife was never a potential wife,
was never sent to school to beeducated to do anything with that. She
was said to finish in school.She was taught to dance, to do

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our to take care of her home, and then she was a good candidate.
And what would happen if something happenedto the man. She was out
of luck, you know. Andin some and in some societies then they
would get a relative, a brotheror somebody to come along and marry her
because she's a responsibility just like property. But that in the last fifty or

(47:22):
sixty years, there's a whole differentmessage that's given to that. That's I
was on the side of marble.They had a time to have had to
have so many women I players,and they get a job that men you
need. The it's been messed upin this country ever since. The man

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wasn't under a female that she cancome get a job that a man's suppot
had had in the past, blackpolice female And well, you know what,
I really am disappointed. But letme tell you something. I am

(48:06):
really disappointed to hear that in twoentytwenty four. No, let me think
because I have to say this notto you, but it is not the
know that's your opinion, But Ihave to say that for all of the
other listeners so that they do notnot not understand that women make up fifty

(48:30):
percent of the human race and inthis society with all the disparities and things
that go along with it. I'mnot listening to you right now, all
the things that go along with thatmeans if you deny and fail to use
fifty percent of the population who cancontribute in the livelihood and the sustainability,

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and the only thing you want todo is produce babies by them that may
not be taken care of. That'signorant and antiquated stupidity. You have to
use all your available resources now tosay that any job is a man's job,
and the only job that is aman's job is to impregnate the woman

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to make the babies. But interms of caring for the individuals, the
family, the country, and theworld, that's everybody who lives and breeds
here. I'm just so sorry youdon't see that, I really am.
But also what should I say this? But also see in training of fire
women a police officers, they haveto modify the strength tests everything because a

(49:37):
female is not strong as a man. But sometimes why does a man have
to jumble six foot cent and thewoman has to jump a four foot sense?
In the testing for firemen and policeofficers, the training is modified for
the weakness of a female. Soare we just talking about firemen and police

(49:58):
officers now? Well, okay,well, so you're upset about women being
placed in those jobs. I'm notupset about it because I know it's like
they're minority and and and and theykilled they killed two birds in one stone.
They didn't have a black man inmy class. They have a black
female who who who met with incourt? They had they had two minorities

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in one Well, let me askyou this. Don't you have to take
a test of aptitude test first?Yes, yeah, you do. You
have to take the aptitude test.What do you want to say now,
is that the black woman passes thetests before the black man because she knows
she has more to lose with it. She probably prepared for it. And
the expectation of it is is thatif you go in there and you're a

(50:45):
big, burly man, then theydefinitely want you. But but the other
part that really disappoints me and makesme feel sad is that part of the
problem that we have, particularly asblack women, is and black men start
counting us as the other minority.When you can dissect us like that,

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that's a big part of the problem, rather than us being a black collective
and utilizing those resources to work together. The third thing is you call in
on Thursdays and talk to doctor Harperabout these things that he can talk about
these these kind of issues with youmuch better than that. I love,
I love women, I love mymother and all the I love. Well,

(51:30):
you lost points with a lot ofthem today. I'm sorry to say
that, but I'm really disappointed.I really am. I know that I
don't mean anything, but you're disappointeda lot of the women. I know
a lot of black men who wantedposition today they couldn't get well right now.

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They are short of so many people. If they are saying, sober,
saying and sober and willing to dothe work, there are a lot
of places they can go, andthey would bump women right. Thank you,
shorty dog. We appreciate you havinga wonderful Easter weekend. Okay,
all right, you try to takeme back thirty seven years ago. All

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right, shorty dog, we're talkinggood love. Shorny Dog says, no,
because took that job, or orif the man can't provide for him,
the woman golds somebody. Anyway,what do you say, y'all?
We're talking this day. Hold on, y'all, you know what I'm gonna
need to call inn. I know, I know the ladies need to call
right exactly eight three three five threefive nine three four two eight three three

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make your d by here wond listento want to say you know Where's time
of the Bell Show. Let's goWow. Good afternoon, and welcome back

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to the second half of the BethJohnson Show here on w d I A.
We are talking good love this day. Are psychologists mental health specialist doctor
Dorothy Jeffries in the house. We'regoing to our phone lines to talk with
you. Lady p the Lamber One, the Lamber one. What's going on?

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Bill? You're doctor her lady.I know I don't see that.
Bill. I can listen not toall. It's how I got jelly you
boy. It's always good to hearyours too. I'm gonna say hello,
how you doing? Has Melvin andall that, because I won't get a
chance to say nothing else. Thedude like Bell was doing great. It

(55:01):
was doing great. Everybody's going byit. Look, I still want to
ask the question as this relationships,but I just this does my heart feeling.
I think I heard people talk aboutmarrying all the time, right,
I said, I'm gonna ask doctorJefferdy, how many times do you think?
Do you think like you're getting marriedthree times and it didn't work out,
so you think that you didn't giveup? Or what? What do

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you think about that? You know, I have to eat something. But
huh, okay, okay, happyEaster, and thanks to take my car
and doctor jeffer to tell me yourhonest opinion now because I need to know.
Okay, okay, all right,thank you, Lady P. Happy
East. Okay, Lady P.I know you're going that rocking chair getting

(55:43):
some of them chittlings I heard aboutyou over there, okay. Doctor Jeffery's
answer, lady pe outside, Idid want a lady peas nothing. Oh
she's gone now she wants she said, she wants to hear what you have
to say. She's gonna listen.I think that you know, what I
was talking about a little bit earlieris looking at what the three relationships were,
like, how did you meet them? Were they the same type of

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person that they in for the samereasons, and how were you with each
of them? Because you have toknow what did you do in the relationship
that caused it to fail and acknowledgethat before you can move on and be
aware of the things that you needto change or work on within yourself.
And I never give up on love. I think that when we put the

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work and the effort into it,and I'm talking about good love, I
never give up on good love becausegood love reflects hard work, commitment,
trust, respect, open communication,and a commitment to making the relationship the
best that it can be for bothpeople. When you have that type of

(56:52):
engagement, then you have the abilityto make it work. That's the best
advice I can give you. Besides, you know, talk to Melvin and
ask him you know, how hashe been there all of this time and
what it is about you that hereally loves and wants to be Because my

(57:13):
guess is, Melman probably wants toget married and you're the person who's avoiding
it. I know you wish youhad stayed on the line now right right,
that's all right, that's all right. You can tell me back next
time. W d I A hi, Bootsy? Yeah? How you all?
Happy? Issue to you and youboth, And I want to ask

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you that man that was talking aboutall that, all that about the woman
this and the woman that when Godmade man, just just when God,
babe man, don't you think whenGod made man, then he make man
and head the mean to take careof all the responsibilities when it comes to
love you. First, man supposedto take care of all the responsibility to

(57:58):
providers are the needs and the won'ts. And he's supposed to be already established
on a career job. So whenyou meet this woman, you married this
woman. There are different things thatyou is required in the marriage, in
the relationship and uphold your marriage anduphold your love and affection and all above

(58:24):
positive. So when that man gotto scream about uh, the woman is,
and a woman that, well,what the man is gonna be doing?
And you said, he said,well if the man lose his job,
well, uh, he's supposed tobe man enough to go get another
job. You don't rely on thewoman all the time for anything. Use

(58:45):
the head of the man. Youthe head. So you need to be
strong enough. And why is enoughto say, well, hey, look,
you know I'm gonna go get metwo jobs and make this him relationship
and his marriage work. That's consideredas being loved, your love and yourself
in order to love her as aprovider, and the knees and a wont

(59:07):
having a establishment and a career jobto uphold your marriage. Don't you think
they're supposed to be positive for aman to really do that? A real
man do that. So I wouldjust want to know that that's what the
requirement. Do you think that's thethat's a requirement for a man to send
up on his own tooth fee andbe a man and take care of the

(59:30):
knees and the wants of being aprovider. I think that a man should
stand up on his own two feetand be a man. But I think
that a real man, what Ithink a real man is smart enough to
understand that when he finds a womanthat he wants to spend the rest of
his life with, then he's alsosmart enough to see her as his partner.

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Because what we've learned nowadays is thatanything can happen. If you set
the dynas mix up the way theyused to be, and your spouse is
not skilled or able to work ormanage money, the whole family is gonna
collapse. But if you trust herenough to be your partner, and she's

(01:00:14):
strong enough to be your support,you two together can do anything. Yeah,
yeah, you can make the wholeworld go round. Exactly. My
mother and father. I watched mymother and father back then when they was
living. My father used to work. My father worked two jobs, but
he was a great man, andmy mama was a great woman. And

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I watched both of them how theysurvived together. And my mother didn't do
My mother didn't work, my fatherworked. But when she did work,
she worked at part town like downto Hounestee and Hazel downtown back in the
day. Or she worked at thecottony Change just to do something, you
know, to bring in the littlemoney in exactly. But my father worked

(01:00:59):
two jobs, and I never heardhim say anything negative about my mother or
so that's what made me started outjust like my father. So when I
got ready to get me a woman, I used my best Jeff and say,
well, you know, I don'twant to be like my dad.
And my dad got out there andworked two jobs and everything. You is

(01:01:19):
a great provider, where none said. You got a woman that you can
trust with the finance and maybe shegot something in her mind that she can
help you with as to make themarriage or more or positive and y'all to
live and be happy a long time. And that has worked for a lot
of families. That has truly workedfor a lot of family. Well that's

(01:01:43):
the way I think when it comestowards my spouse, that we work together
as a team. It's called teamwork. When you love that team work,
that means you can trust me andI can trust you with the finance,
whatever it is, I can trustyou with it, even with yourself,

(01:02:04):
and you know, and that's theyou know, And I'll ended with this.
When you are a partnership, youare one. And if you're one,
then the that's that's what you wantto do. You want to be
one in that partnership. We're bothresponsible, we're both capable, and we're
working that's right. We're working togetherfor the same thing, all right,
for the same goal. We're goingfor the same goal. It didn't like

(01:02:28):
me traveling across the country trying partentertaining. Now I'm way, I'm two
thousand miles away from home from her. I know, I know in my
heart and I know I got totrust myself out here on this road exactly
all right for her to trust me. That's that's a good man. Boots's

(01:02:50):
a happy Eastit to you, goodgood Boots, he said something, Yes
he did. Thank you very muchfor those wise words. W d I
a common the man. You don'tclick that hey hey yeah, hey hey
Bill, that's all right. Hey, how you doing do Jefferson? All

(01:03:14):
right, I'm doing fine. Heylisten, I'm responding to uh, short
that dollars coming Okay. I'm likereally just like blown out of the water
with the things that he said.Okay, what are you saying? In
some cases it is true, youknow, but Shorty, you first complained
about the woman sometimes leaving to seebetter from somebody else. If this man

(01:03:37):
here falls down or get on bad, getting into bad luck or whatever.
But then then you complain about thewoman getting a job that you say is
for a man. I mean,if the woman qualifies and can do the
job, shouldn't she be able toget the job. So let's flip the
script. Should we say that aman shouldn't be a cosmetologist because normally we

(01:03:58):
see women being cosmetics? I'm justshould we say that a man shouldn't be
a nurse because normally we see awoman being the nurse? Come on,
man, you come on, I'mtrure. Y'all get my point, Doctor
jefferis get your point. We getyour point. Go half the eastern to
y'all. Thank you coming man,Bye bye, w d I a hi

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caller, one little bell Johns.What's up? Climb? Yeah, your
big sister is right here. Iunderstand Shorty, still talking about it,
don't you don't don't don't don't don'tyou're talking about but see, you got

(01:04:44):
to you got to pick your wife. You got to really pick up.
Now if I want to pay littlewoman in Larry, I want to see
how she controlled her fanacy and thenshe controls us findational as well. She
she don't go out there just blowmoney. Then, uh, she a
good savior and stuff. And Idon't mind her keeping our on our money

(01:05:06):
because I know that she ain't gonnamiss out, and then she's gonna let
me mess out. Now, youdon't let yourself give up a dicament that
your wife get tired you, shegonna leave you because and go somewhere cast
you're gonna fail down because the mangonna pick yourself back up and get the
going. But Shore it stood soundslike he was a little bitter about women

(01:05:30):
working in men's job. Now Ifeel like I feel like if a woman
can do their job, didn't givethat job. You know, I don't
mind my woman making more money thanme. That's better for you. Right,
I show you more thing what wecan have, and she making more

(01:05:51):
money than me, then I ain'tgonna she ain't gonna ask me for no
money. I wanna be big.See, we can have a whole lot
that's putting my money yep, exactly. So like I said, I gotta
see and big. So you knowyou need to talk to John Tullis.
She ain't got to she ain't gotto keep running from Clyde. Tell me

(01:06:12):
I'm gonna give her one day,take care of Bell. Thank you heaving
Easter Clyde, Doctor Jeffers, Ididn't know I was running. I know
w D I a HI caller.Good morning Bell, Good morning, Good
afternoon brother. How are you rightright? Good afternoon? I'm doing good?

(01:06:33):
Can't complain good? What do yousay? I have a couple of
questions I want to ask doctor Jefferies. That's been on my mind, that's
been bothering my mind. Okay,I want to know should a woman have
a joint back account with her husband? And I just want to know should

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a woman marry a man almost halfher age and he's considered as an old
player? And then I was wantto know it was something, Oh yeah,
Should a woman believe her husband?Because I hope some DuPont work of
listenings is listening. Uh. Shoulda woman believe her husband when he tells

(01:07:24):
her that he's going to work onChristmas? Eve? No? No,
no? Do you hear what shesaid? She she said no to all,
but I think she wants you togive too much. No, that's
why she's asking those questions and directingit to DuPont. And what I'm saying

(01:07:45):
to you, if your intuition istelling you you should not mix your money
with somebody half your age. Ifyou know, the first one one half
the age, but the second onethey getting ready to get made married.
And uh, he's about half anage, and he already decided all bad,

(01:08:09):
you know, from the beginning,throwing a red plague and then he
uh, I guess he college.They are gonna apologize to get back in
with her, you know, butshe wants to get married. Yeah,
that's it. She wants to getmarried. And and that's one of the
biggest I guess that's one of thebiggest pitfalls is that a lot of women

(01:08:31):
have these romantic notions about having awedding, not about being married, but
having a wedding and all of that, and and so it cost him in
the long run. But you know, and the thing, the reason that
you're asking these questions is that youalready know that these things are like they're

(01:08:51):
gonna blow up in people's faces rightright right. And when people show you
who they are and what they youknow what they're about, and you can
tell and you can read behavior toknow if somebody is irresponsible as playing games
and stuff, why would you tieyour money up with them? You know,

(01:09:14):
your heart and money. And ifsomebody tells you, unless you know,
unless they're a nurse, a doctor, or somebody. Most people don't
work Christmas Eve. There may besome places that they do that I'm not
thinking of, But unless you're ina position like that, why why would
you believe that they're gonna work ChristmasEve? Specifically Christmas Eve? Right?

(01:09:41):
I gave a good talking, butI mean, she just thinks like you
believe everything you tell her, youknow, so, I mean, and
he's telling her that you're just jealousof her because she got a good man
and she getting ready to get married, right right, right, Well,
now this is the other one,you're one. Uh, this is the
other one that's already married. Andthen uh he you know, like he

(01:10:06):
uh try to make it look likehe the best thing she ever had,
you know what I'm saying, youknow, and uh, you know,
let me ask you, is hethe best thing she's ever had? No?
Not really, because I can seethrough him too. No, No,
No, What I mean is ifshe's only had really bad people and

(01:10:30):
and this is just another bad one, Well, she had one real bad
experience, okay, and then shemet him and then they got married.
But I mean, I can seethrough him. He's not right and then
he and I can tell he belying to her, you know, especially

(01:10:53):
with that big g lie he toldabout he had to work Christmas Eve.
And and you're her friend? DoI have friends? No? Are you
her friend? You're the person you'retalking about? You you're not her friend.
Well, I don't want to puttoo much out of Okay, Okay,

(01:11:13):
we got you, we got you, we got well. The reason
why I was saying this is thatif you're her friend or not her friend,
if you just know about the situation, because most people, if she's
gotten to planning a wedding, youknow, you can tell her what you
think and how you feel about it, and in order for her not to
deal with it, she'll probably getangry with you. And sometimes you can

(01:11:35):
only tell people, tell people whatyou think and say, and just try
to be there for him when it, you know, it falls apart or
hopefully something will happen before then thatshe doesn't go through with it. If
you could absess to her, suggestto her, have a long engagement,

(01:11:56):
you know before because doing and youknow, yeah, so sooner or later
it'll show up some type of wayright right now. This is the second
one that's not married yet, butshe's engaged, you know. But the
first one that with the back oftown, she already she's already married to

(01:12:19):
him, you know. And it'sbothering me because I can see through this
man. Okay, she is aprincipal at a school, and I don't
want to put too much out ofright, don't put too much out caller.
Yeah, and and and then too, you know. Uh, it's

(01:12:40):
just bothering me. So uh sooneror later, I said, like this,
God is gonna show them up,you know that on the bron doing
that they're doing right, Okay,Well, thank you right there, you
gave people something to think about.I hope you help somebody. Well,
let me ask you this. Sothree nos. That meant no, no,

(01:13:01):
no for all of them, right, that's what I That's what I
think. My first reaction to itis yes, no, no, no,
right right right right, that's right. That the same thing I said,
I don't know, okay, souse, I'm not gonna put my money,
my hid on Burney with no man. I don't care if he is

(01:13:21):
my husband, you know, I'mputting my money stare up because my cousin
always told me a long time ago, to keep you some mad money.
And I told my door, Ohmy god, I told her, I
told her to keep us some madmoney, you know, and stuff like
that. But you know, alot of people, Yeah, but a

(01:13:41):
lot of people, a lot ofpeople were told that. Uh. That
used to be what they tell youall the time, that you always put
you some money aside because you didn'tknow how things were going. But my
point is this, It depends onhow long you've been married and what type
of person you're married to, andwhether you trust them or not. But
if you've got a lot of redflags, then that's the last thing.

(01:14:04):
And I find too that the olderpeople are when they get married, the
less time. They may have athird bank account where they put common builds
and things that they're gonna share.But everybody manages their own money, and
that avoids that avoids any possibility ofthat because you never know what could come

(01:14:26):
up with people. That's right,And if you're married, you can't get
it back. People. All right, sister, great, great weekend.
Rest of the weekend, and youtwo, thank you, You're welcome,
right, all right, bye bye, we're talking. Do you know what
good love. Hold on, callers, I'm gonna get to you. Nixt

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yeah, we are. Doctor Jeffriesis here. Get your questions together.
Eight three three five three five ninethree four two eight three three five three
five nine to three four two.Your listening to double D I A.

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It's your girlfriend Bev Johnson on doW D I A Edwards in your home

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election or Google home. She's gotMemphis talking. You're listening to the Bev

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Johnson Show. Here's Bev Johnson andwe're going back to our phone lines to
talk to Jewel. Hi, Jewel, Hey Bell, par you I'm doing
well, Jewel and you I'm fine. How you doing, Doctor Jeffrey,
I'm doing well. Thank you forasking? All right now, I love
that topic. Man, Just makeme just want to get on the go

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and say, let me check outsomethings. What Boosey was talking out.
Now, that's what you call it, real man. And you want to
and Juli, you want some goodlove? Don't you sure know what to
say? If I can put itout, they should be able to put
it out too. Be a twoways not a one way street. That's

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right, Jewel, that's right,that's right. Jewel, and we also
be on the same page. ButI don't think that a good idea of
putting no money together like that,uh uh uh, because he can change
on you the next thing, youknow, you go to the bank,
you ain't got nothing because it's allgone, and then you got last situation.

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That's right, Jewel, Yeah,that's why you. But always saved
money because you never know. Y'allshowed right that anything can happen. And
I always have been like this.I should appreciate the topic. And you
ladies have a good Eastern and y'allbe safe and you show jul bye bye,
all right by doctor Jeffries. We'vebeen talking about good love and kind

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of wrap things in things up andgood love and what that means to you.
To you all, y'all, doyou have it? Do you want
it? Can you find and moreimportantly can you keep it? Absolutely?
And you know, we talked alot paper to pen, pen to paper,

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doing some reflection on your love life, your relationships, and this includes
the relationships that you may have beenin for a long time. A lot
of times we tend to take ourrelationships for granted. If we've done it,
you know, check in and seeif you're still giving good love,
if you if your partner is stillreceiving good love from you, and if

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you're not getting the love that youwant in need, have that conversation so
that you can add some spark andfly. We don't have to sit around
wishing and hoping and dreaming about whatit is we want in need. We
have to stand up and advocate forthat. And I will leave you with
a quote from one of my favoriteheroes, James Baldwin. The longer I

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live, the more deeply I learnedthat love, whether we call it friendship
or family or romance, is thework of mirroring and magnifying each other's light.
It's gentle work, it's stead fedwork, life saving work. And
the moments when life and shame andsorrow block our own light from our view,

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but there is a clear eyed person, loving person to beam it back,
and in our best moments, weare that person for ourselves and for
one another. I like it.Thank you, doctor Jefferson and also doctor
Jeffries. Are people emailing you aboutit? There? It's just saying to

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retreat. Give that email address thatpeople if you're interested in doing a retreat
right and I have gotten some requestsand we've added those two our lists and
that if you're interested. The emailis heart Talk h E A R T

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T A l K the number tenat gmail dot com. We're planning a
women's reunion, women's retreat, andwe want to do that fairly soon,
so next week. I'm thinking aboutpossibly next Sunday or Saturday that we can
have a virtual retreat to give someinformation about it. So if you call

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in and leave your name and yeahand email, I mean you email in
and leave your name and your emailaddress, then we'll send you the dial
in information for that. And againthat's heart Talk ten at gmail dot com
for the women's retreat. Night soundsgood. Thank you, doctor Jeffries as

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always, hope you have a happyEaster weekend. Sister, Thank you and
same to you all right. Thankyou callers, Thank you listeners for joining
us this day on the BEV JohnsonShow. We do, we really do
appreciate you. So until tomorrow,please be safe, keep a cool head,

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