When You Have Gone As Far As You Can Go with Dr. Dorothy Jeffries

It's Relationship Day topic of conversation "When You Have Gone As Far As You Can Go" with Dr. Dorothy Jeffries, Behavioral and Relationship Consultant on The Bev Johnson Show on WDIA Radio.

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Morning, and welcome into w d i A The Bed
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with us once again on this Friday, Friday, June twenty seventh,
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is relationship Day where we a talk about relationships to
help make yours healthy, happy, wholesome, wonderful and most of
all loving between consenting adults. We'll do that with our expert,
our expert, our behavioral relationship consultant, doctor Dorothy Jeffries, will

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be talking with us this morning.

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Topic of conversation, put it down so you'll put your
ears on. I have gone as far as I can.

Speaker 4 (02:38):
Nothing seems to help or change, am I doomed to
these thoughts and feelings.

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Think about it.

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We'll talk about it with doctor Dorothy Jeffries in a
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Speaker 4 (05:33):
Good morning, I had, I said, let me bring on
doctor Jeffery. Try I'm getting emotional now. Oh my goodness,
doctor Jeffreys. I forgot about that.

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Oh my lord.

Speaker 1 (05:43):
Oh, I'm telling you that was so beautiful. And you
know I was saying to you earlier. I always remember
when he would come in, you know, and walking down
the hall, he would always stop and say hello and
ask how everything was going. It was just he is
just he's just such a wonderful, wonderful man. And I
am so proud, you know, to be a part of

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wd I and haven't been there as long, but to
have the opportunity to just be around and to say
I know him, Yeah, I met him. You had conversations
and stuff. That's is I know how you feel that.
I got tearing myself, you know what that?

Speaker 4 (06:20):
And when he's and I hadn't really forgotten. I had
forgotten about the interview. And then I was thinking I
interviewed him he was turning ninety three. Then yesterday he
turned one hundred. Oh my gosh, and w d I
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The girl we're getting up there?

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Who Yeah, that was good.

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But you know what, I'm glad, I said, said the lords.

Speaker 8 (06:47):
I found that.

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I'm glad I found that.

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I'll tell you. It's no telling what you have in
your treasure troths on this.

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I know, no telling, no telling, no telling.

Speaker 4 (06:59):
Well, Jefferies, well let's get it so for both of
us were getting emotional.

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Happy birthday to brother Ford Nelson one hundred years actually
happy happy birthday.

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That's happy birthday.

Speaker 4 (07:14):
That's right right, Well, doctor Jeffries, our topic of conversation today.
I have gone as far as I can and nothing
seems to help or change. Am I doomed to these
thoughts and feelings? What are we talking about, doctor Jeffries?

Speaker 9 (07:31):
Well, I tell you where this one came from.

Speaker 10 (07:33):
And it struck me this this came as an email
from a listener, and and it's a woman, and she
was talking about all of the losses.

Speaker 1 (07:47):
That she seems to have experienced, you know, just in
the last few years or so, you know, children, parents,
change in lifestyle, because you know, she was active workers,
she traveled and and all.

Speaker 11 (08:04):
Of that, and then to retire, and you know, when
you retire, you started thinking in terms of now's the
time for quote, we lived the life that that I've
been working so hard to do, and then all of
these things just seem to just start pounding down on you.

Speaker 1 (08:23):
How do you how do you cope with that? How
do you have you been prepared to deal with something
overwhelming like that? But what struck me about it that she.

Speaker 9 (08:33):
Was not the first person to raise that issue.

Speaker 1 (08:36):
And so when she brought topic up, I had started
researching some information on spiritual.

Speaker 9 (08:44):
Emptiness because a lot of people now seem to be
struggling with how do how do I fit my belief blind.

Speaker 1 (08:57):
Belief that you know, did they delay? Is not a denial?

Speaker 12 (09:02):
And you know, we got to.

Speaker 1 (09:04):
Suffer before we and make sacrifices before we reap the reward.
And is my only reward going to be in heaven?
Or what does this all mean to me? And so
when you start dealing with philosophical questions like that, and
a lot of us are not prepared for that because
philosophy is very straightforward. Once you start digging in for

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the deeper meaning, you will also discover where you're connected
into that. Philosophy is about life. We are about life,
and so we can't separate ourselves from life and kind
of stand back and say, everything that's going on in life,

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you know, I am not a part of you know,
we kind of put we do that their self isolation.
But what when we start wanting to understan staying and
we want to go deeper and we want to find
a deeper connection to life, we always have to do
what there We have to go backwards, yes, because it

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all starts in the beginning. And I think the thing
too that's very concerning to me right now is with
the political landscape, the social landscape, and the impending economic landscape,
where do we fit in all of that. We pride

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ourselves on being star worth and ready to face everything
every adversary, and we don't.

Speaker 9 (10:40):
Deal with mental illness.

Speaker 1 (10:42):
We are resilient, we're strong, we live through. That was
once upon a time, but it's not necessarily true now
because we do not still have the preparation or the
foundation to deal with this. Some of us have been duped,
some of us still want to believe, some of us,
you know, sidetracking over creating other kind of beliefs and

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fantasies and what have you. And so we're not really
dealing authentically with ourselves. And so then when we hit
this period where we experience emotional emptiness or spiritual emptiness,
or social emptimis or family disengagement and emptiness, we have

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to turn down that and decide what does this mean
about me?

Speaker 8 (11:31):
For me?

Speaker 1 (11:32):
And what is it I have to do to address
So I want to have that conversation, and I invite
the callers who may have something to share on this,
who may be going through this, to come in and
share their situation, and then we'll bring up some causes,
you know, how do we get to this point? And

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then last, how can we begin to address it and
probably and being on it so we can fix it.
Awareness first, knowledge, next, application of new skills and things,
and we can fix it.

Speaker 4 (12:09):
H Okay, So I've gone as far as I can
and nothing seems to help or change. Am I doomed
to these thoughts and feelings. We're gonna talk about that.
We're gonna take a break and when we come back,
we'll continue our conversation. If you do have a question

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or two four doctor Jeffries, we do invite you to
call nine zero one five three five nine three four
two eight hundred five zero three nine three four two
eight three three five three five nine three four two.
If you can't call you have a question for doctor Jeffries,

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you can email me at Bev Johnson at iHeartMedia dot com.
Bev Johnson at iHeartMedia dot com.

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Speaker 4 (14:13):
Welcome back to wud i A, the Heart and Soul
of Memphis. Before I go to our phone lines, I
forgot to say, we're gonna say, oh my condolences out
to the family of Walter Scotty. You're probably saying, who
is Walter Scott? He is one of the whispers. Yeah,
we lost Walter yesterday. Walter Scott. I think that's Scotty

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eighty one. They called him Scotty eighty one yesterday. And
we lost Walter of the Whispers, one of my favorite
singing groups. Oh my goodness, we leave in here, y'all,
as I say, celebrate your life. You better, you better. Yeah,
into the Whispers and the Scott family and his brother Wallace, Wow,

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his twin brother. Y'all know the Whispers. I want to
say that we're going to our phone lines. Doctor j
talked to our listeners to see what they have to say.
Brother Bernard, Hey, Michean, and I are you.

Speaker 2 (15:14):
I'm doing well today, Brother Bernard, how about you.

Speaker 16 (15:18):
Doing well?

Speaker 8 (15:19):
Doing well? I you know, we thank you for sharing
the uh that insert from an insert from brother brother
Ford Neilson, Brother Neilson, Yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am. That was
because when Stan had shared the the broadcast earlier, I
was sort of hoping to hear his voice because I'm,

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you know, one of those new bloomers per se.

Speaker 15 (15:46):
But on that note with doctor doctor Jaffers, and that
was pretty interesting because marl degree is in philosophy, and
as I was listening to doctor Jeffy's sort of bring
up bring up that topic and I know that that's

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not the main point, but the person's question, you know,
I listened on it. It sort of pointed out, you know,
am I doomed? And all these thoughts are pretty much
you know what I am going to grow go through
for that right.

Speaker 8 (16:23):
And I can remember when Matt Acklin, who's a passionate.

Speaker 3 (16:30):
When he found out that I was declaring my degree
is in philosophy, he sort of opposed that. And I
didn't know immediately the reason why, but I later learned
and while studying philosophy kind of how that can be
sort of somewhat contrary to the source of of of

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our salvation because and I'm going somewhere because the email
reads you know, am I do? And it's it's so important,
you know, when we talk about Jesus Christ and being
our source of salvation, because when it says that the
Lord you know, forgives us, that's that's serious business. And

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those thoughts and those guilts, those feelings of shame and
resentment and things that nature that can sort of plague
us if we if we don't have any source of
being forgiven, and if we don't have any source of
salvation from that, then we simply put it in our
own hands as as oftentimes philosophers sort of promote that

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that type of behavior, and so then it's just solely
upon ourselves. But I believe, just finishing on this note,
there has to be a way out of as ways
of forgiveness and the way of being saved from our
own selves sometimes.

Speaker 8 (17:57):
But miss Johnson, thank you for taking my call. I
enjoy listening to you. And thank you doctor Jefferson.

Speaker 4 (18:03):
Thank you, brother Bernard. That's interesting. Let me let me
go to doctor Jeffries and kind of piggyback on some
of the things that brother Bernard was saying, and I
know asking the question am I doomed to these thoughts
and feelings? Doctor Jeffries? What about shame and forgiveness?

Speaker 1 (18:22):
You know, brother Bernard raised some interesting port and he's
absolutely right. Philosophy is a mind's discussion, a mental discussion,
a cognitive discussion where you talk about the will of
man or will of people, and the ability to make
decisions based on your development, your set of values, your attitudes,

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your intentional behaviors, etc. And religion particularly in my opinion,
So don't start calling in about if it differs from you.
In my opinion. Religion that is known today is a
very personal thing where people tend to gravitate towards a

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group belief about their spiritual nourishment, you know, and then
they may be labeled by sex and sect and different
groups about the differences and the things that they believe
and how they interpret the Bible, the scriptures, you know,

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the Quran, and whatever religion they choose to service. I
believe that we as individuals have a right because if
life was created, as we have been trained to know it,
all is one and one is all anyway, and we
all came from the same source of life. So whatever

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it is you want to call yourself, and that's just
the human the humanness and us that we got to
put something different on our is to try to make
it better or to show we not like them and
what have you. We seek our differences to be better,
as opposed to some of the more primitive groups who

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believe in centraatrism, that we are all as want because
no matter what you believe, how you want to worship,
how we come into this world the same way we
all leave out the same way. We all believe if
we have any sense of spirituality that there is something
that connects us to a higher power, universal creator, something

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bigger than I am, that gives us hope. And believe
that I am just this person here, but I have
a connection with all that the creator has. And believe
whether I worship trees, the ocean, worship Christianity, or worship Buddhism,

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whatever it is, if it brings you solace, if it
brings you comfort, if it keeps you connected to your
humanity and your spirituality, it is not accidental that those
lessons are here. So I don't think we need any
more separatism or differences. We got plenty of that some

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other you know. Anyway, it's another show. But the point is,
and I do believe that even in Christianity, we yes,
we are forgiven, and it was a generous and it
was an enormous covenant that the thing was created, somebody came,

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somebody was returned home, and as opposed to them being
still walking on the earth, we were granted universal forgiveness.
Now have we owned it? Have we claimed it? Do
we wear it?

Speaker 9 (21:57):
Do we recognize it, do we appreciate it?

Speaker 1 (22:00):
We know that that's not realistic. So we are people,
we are humans, that we are going to sometimes go
on default to our human realities, to the breath and
the depth of by awareness and knowledge, to our ability
to believe in anything. Some people don't believe in anything,

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and you know, we may have some feelings about that.
So I think that the thing that I invite people
to do, don't block out what you don't understand or
don't know or don't agree with. When you engage with
people who feel different, see things different, or believe different,

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you are constantly in enhancing your knowledge base when you
can ask calm, collected questions to increase your understanding. And
because you increase your understanding, it doesn't mean you have
to change anything.

Speaker 11 (23:01):
It just means you've.

Speaker 1 (23:02):
Increase your pocket of wisdom. And what is wisdom. Wisdom
is a good thing because it keeps us from acting
like food and hurting each other and separating and doing
segregating and doing all the suppressive stuff. So we've got
to learn how to have civil conversations about things that
we feel very sensitive and emotional about. That's our immaturity

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that if you don't agree with me, I don't want
to hear what you have to say. How are you
going to be duly informed?

Speaker 2 (23:30):
Right? God.

Speaker 1 (23:33):
So I thank you, brother Be and I for those questions.
You always always being I think where you got to
go down a little bit deeper to make it clearer,
and I appreciate that.

Speaker 4 (23:41):
Right, all right, doctor Jeffries, hold on, We're going to
go back to our phone lines to talk with you.

Speaker 2 (23:48):
W D I a high caller.

Speaker 4 (23:52):
Bell?

Speaker 17 (23:52):
Hey, I called you?

Speaker 2 (23:54):
All right, hey, lose that.

Speaker 1 (23:57):
Good.

Speaker 17 (23:58):
I'm sure I want to figure this out. I've been
listening to doctor Jeffries over the years. I hadn't experienced
this morning about one time they overturned the Supreme Court
is gonna let Trump get away with this stuff he's doing.
He seems to have been lost our train of fault

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in the world. Everything there's a lie, and like I said,
nothing but a giant lie. I want to make a
restaurant in white even this morning fast food in between
change and from breakfast lunch. I'm in line, nobody behind me,

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and that there's assignments left. They tell me what you
can't see, that that you have to drive around and
come back later. To me, that was the most stupidest
thing I ever heard. And I've done that, am I
The only one is seeing all the stupid that's going on,
and it's been propelled by these younger kids, not the.

Speaker 4 (24:59):
Only Okay, all right, I'll ask doctor Jeffery. Thank you, Luther.

Speaker 2 (25:07):
Okay, bye bye, w D I a unforgetful.

Speaker 12 (25:13):
Bell got a great show again. I just want to
say brother FORO and Nelson. God bless you.

Speaker 7 (25:18):
Man.

Speaker 12 (25:18):
I'm telling you, I thought I would never hear the
voices of a first generation.

Speaker 8 (25:24):
Man.

Speaker 12 (25:25):
I wish I could sit down and talk to you
when you were seventeen or eighteen or twenty something back
in the old days. Man, you could tell me some stories.
I one day you can talk to Beth Johnson. Let
us know idea. Now you know, I'm a baby boomer
by the way, but you're a first generation I'm telling you, man,
you've sing a lot. All right, doctor jeff for this

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is what I will understand and dealing with compassion and
all that stuff there. You know, what is it you
don't understand?

Speaker 4 (25:56):
What is it, unforgetful that you don't understand about compassion?

Speaker 16 (26:02):
M hm forgiveness?

Speaker 8 (26:05):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (26:05):
What what is it that you What is it that
you can't understand about compassion?

Speaker 12 (26:10):
I mean you can feel it bad? Do they deserve it?
You know, because back in the day when I be
reading about the Bible and these stories, that's right there,
and you know people don't learn from them. I mean,
did God forgive the people in solumonal? Mind?

Speaker 1 (26:28):
Know?

Speaker 12 (26:28):
Did he forgive the woman who turned around when he
warned them?

Speaker 1 (26:32):
No?

Speaker 12 (26:34):
So it's the stories that we can look at and understand.
You know, some people deserve forgiveness and some don't.

Speaker 1 (26:43):
It's so simple.

Speaker 12 (26:44):
I mean, you can feel this stuff there, okay, you
know you can feel it. You can understand things when
when things going on, you know, do they deserve that
or not?

Speaker 2 (26:53):
I got you.

Speaker 4 (26:54):
That's the way I listen, all right, deserving unforge forgiveness.

Speaker 12 (26:59):
I got that junk, yes, sir, when they come to
the street, all this stuff for everything. I'm just talking
about me. Can I tell you a story or something? Jump?

Speaker 2 (27:10):
Is it a long story?

Speaker 12 (27:13):
It's real simple.

Speaker 2 (27:14):
What's the story? That's simple?

Speaker 12 (27:16):
The story is when I had my stroke, Beth Jumper,
I had a real devastate I mean girl, I fell
out on the porch and they had rushed me to
the hospital. My girlfriend at that time, she did passed away.
And it's so sad the way it happened. Because she
saved my life and I wasn't there to save her.

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But I'm just gonna skip that bar. But the part
was when I was up in there bath dunking. It
got me a little stabilized. I finally got my eyes
over and it was two ladies that come up in
there and they was talking to a man that I
was in the room with, you know, talking to him
and each other. I'm not lying, I'm telling the truth.
God is my witness. These lady said, do you want

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us to pray for you? Okay, yeah, of course, and
they said, what's.

Speaker 18 (28:04):
Wrong with you?

Speaker 12 (28:06):
I couldn't help their way now, Miss Jumps. I just
mumbo self out because my half, my faith was kind
of you know, beck and everything would kind of myself.
So they pray, understand, okay, yes now, And when they
did that, Miss Johnson, I was able to move something,
you know, once I saw that, Miss Johnson. And what's

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and what's that story that you just messing? Will you?
I mean say it again the top of the shelf?
Which story the sentence that you just said at the
top of the show.

Speaker 2 (28:40):
Oh the topic.

Speaker 4 (28:42):
I have gone as far as I can, and nothing
seems to help or change am I doomed to the.

Speaker 19 (28:49):
Okay, I had gone as thus that train. They're jumping
open that door, and I see the light, I'm stop it.
And that's what I did, baby girl, I thought, and
I never give up. I will keep fighting till my
last breath.

Speaker 12 (29:10):
There, y'all my purpose.

Speaker 4 (29:12):
All right, thank you, thank you, and forgetful. He shared
that story with us doctor jefferys Well. One of the
things that he talked about is people deserving forgiveness, and and.

Speaker 1 (29:26):
You know, the thing that makes me uncomfortable about that is, yeah,
is who are we to say who deserves forgiveness? That
we're all humans and we have opinions about people like
I wouldn't forgive this person, and some of us don't
forgive people.

Speaker 18 (29:43):
And we go on.

Speaker 20 (29:44):
But if you and this is a struggle, if you're
going to be, you know, just black and white on
what it is you believe, that means you cannot deviate
from the belief to make it accommodate something you don't
want to do.

Speaker 1 (30:00):
Because the script also says judge not less, d.

Speaker 16 (30:03):
Be judge right.

Speaker 1 (30:05):
So none of us are in a position to birds.
None of us have made the supreme sacrifice.

Speaker 10 (30:12):
And that yet that's what.

Speaker 16 (30:13):
We struggle with.

Speaker 2 (30:14):
Yeah, we do struggle with that.

Speaker 4 (30:17):
HM And and when I've got and I wrote this
down as in the topic, it's it's talking about, you know,
our thoughts and feelings and my dooms do our doctor
jeffries do our thoughts and feelings mess us up a

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lot of times?

Speaker 1 (30:41):
Well I don't know that they mess us up again.
But we plant our own thoughts. Okay, we plant our
own thoughts, and our thoughts feed our feelings. And based
on the reverse of that, we can experience something and
experience an emotion attack to something that we have experienced.

Speaker 20 (31:04):
Happiness, We feel good, we feel loved, we feel cared for.

Speaker 1 (31:08):
So naturally, your thoughts are going to be light airy.
You know, you're just I feel valued. You know people
care about me. I'm important. On the opportunity, you've been rejected,
you've lost something. We feel dark, we feel negative, we
feel why mean? Why is it always mean? And so

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we feed that.

Speaker 20 (31:31):
So the thing that we have to keep in mind
and the mind is like, if you want.

Speaker 1 (31:37):
To put it in terms of now, it's like Alexa always,
whatever you into it is going to come back to
you at some point in time. And if you only
put in things that are impromptu, like what you're experiencing
now or what it is that you're experienced it for,

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that's what you're feeding in, that's your diet. And once
you consume that type of negativity, then your behavior is
going to change. And once your behavior changes, the mood changes,
which is where the emotions come from. They're not gonna
be very many light every thoughts coming out of that

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type of environment.

Speaker 20 (32:21):
In fact, you will.

Speaker 1 (32:23):
Then find yourself, and you may not be aware of it,
attracting like minded thoughts, which means you're going to attract
situations that create dock or more despairing types of experiences
for you. Why is that Because you've painted this picture
and the mind follows the picture that you put in

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your head, you know whatever, You then put that and
you hit print. It's not gonna If you put in
a lot of given Google stuff in your computer and
then hit print, you are not going to have a
well organized docu men coming down, highly written. You're gonna
get googleish. But we get upset, Well, we don't get

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that well presented document coming out, and we disconnect from
the that I put it in there. I typed it.
We excuse ourselves and we make it everything around us.
But we are part of everything around us. We are
part of life. Life is not over here with us

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just being warriors or observing what's going. We absolutely communicate
and contribute to what occurs in ideally life. And so
when you hear people and we call those goodie two shoes,
people that act like they so happy all the time
and what have you, and some people are exting us

(33:48):
about that, but some people take that.

Speaker 12 (33:50):
Great to heart.

Speaker 1 (33:51):
You have a choice of being in one or two lines,
and you're gonna be half empty or you're gonna be
half full. If you half empty, you're going to be
very cautious about willingness to share whatever is in your glass.
You're going to constantly be watching it that he has
any of it evaporated. Have you stealed any did anybody

(34:12):
steal any other? Because your assumption is there is no
more coming to you you're half empty. On the other hand,
if you're half full, then there's the openness to say,
if you come along in your part, I'll share now
what you because more is coming.

Speaker 12 (34:32):
I'm a good.

Speaker 1 (34:33):
Person, I practice, I share, I'm doing all these positive things.
I believe in reciprocity. It's gonna come back. So you're
setting the tone. We're not passive people in our own lives.
And one of the worst things that I hear young
people picking up they've done something just crazy, hating us,

(34:56):
just totally irresponsible as they simply say, I made a
bad choice. Did more than a bad choice. You thought
about it, you considered it, you actualized it, and you
committed the behavior. You did the behavior, and now these
are consequences. Yes, you know, so we're just like that.

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If you are in a situation, and especially if this
has been your mindset, you're probably more prone to feelings.
I'm doomed, you know. I'm always going to be denied
whatever it is I play for, whatever I asked for.
I'm never going to get fill in the black. Whatever

(35:38):
it is, do one of two things, you will find
ways to escape. And that's when we have all the
addictions and the negative habits. We sin, we smoke, we
have commissiysis, we have affairs. We gamble, we stay on
video games, we live on Facebook and create our own world.

(35:59):
You know, just name the list of things that are
available to us. We pay money on a phone to
play to get corns. May believe corns to play games
that remain.

Speaker 9 (36:11):
And to make the world.

Speaker 1 (36:13):
We're playing that. But on the other hand, if you
are seeking, searching and trying to find realistic answers, and
your goal is to decide at this point, what I
believe is is I deserve what is best for me.

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I deserve to be treated and valued and respected and
cared for and loved life.

Speaker 12 (36:42):
I believe I am.

Speaker 1 (36:43):
I'm a lovable car and respectable person. But you have
to start planning those seeds too, And that's a very
hard thing to do unless you begin to take a
chance on opening the windows, letting, raising the curtains, and
going outside and people and asserting yourself around situations and

(37:04):
environments that look and feel like where you would like
to receive the light and to grow. And the news
is you have a choice, No, madam, what's your situation is?
You have a choice how you will respond to it?

Speaker 4 (37:20):
That's right, all right, hold on, doctor Jeffries, We're gonna
take a break.

Speaker 2 (37:25):
We'll get back to our phone lines. We are talking
this day.

Speaker 4 (37:29):
I have gone as far as I can. Nothing seems
to help or change. Am I doomed to these thoughts
and feelings nine zero one five three five nine three
four two is our number eight hundred five zero three
nine three four two eight three three five three five
nine three four two will.

Speaker 2 (37:49):
Get you in to us.

Speaker 4 (37:52):
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Speaker 4 (39:00):
Doctor Jeffries were going to our phone lines to talk
with Linda.

Speaker 7 (39:03):
Hi, Linda, Well, hello, I'm the fab Jefson and doctor Jeffrey.

Speaker 5 (39:10):
Are you doing.

Speaker 2 (39:11):
We're doing well, Linda. How are you today?

Speaker 6 (39:14):
I'm doing Okay.

Speaker 7 (39:16):
I'm in Texas on my way to When is my
Son Marriage?

Speaker 5 (39:20):
On Sunday?

Speaker 2 (39:21):
Okay, okay, Well be careful sister.

Speaker 1 (39:25):
Right.

Speaker 7 (39:27):
You know, I was listening to the the the questionaire
that she had and you know it's a funny. That's
funny because well she was talking about myself that way.

Speaker 1 (39:41):
The other day.

Speaker 6 (39:41):
You know, I was dealing with some issues and I
was like, I said, I keep pushing myself and pushing myself,
trying to get things done, trying to make things happen.

Speaker 5 (39:53):
And it was like the more I'm pushed forward, you like,
the more I'm going backwards. And you know, you get
to that point where you just overwhelmed with stuff, and
I'm like, maybe I should just throw it up, throw.

Speaker 2 (40:11):
My hands in the air and just give.

Speaker 4 (40:12):
Up on it.

Speaker 5 (40:13):
Because I said, well, I'm doing.

Speaker 6 (40:15):
This to try to make things better. I take away answer,
do this, and I do that.

Speaker 5 (40:20):
Please just don't seem like nothing work, and ask what
does it end?

Speaker 6 (40:26):
And I was trying to figure out it was I
just put here to work all my life and not
really enjoy life. And I said, where does this end?

Speaker 5 (40:35):
And I does they come up what answer?

Speaker 6 (40:39):
I went to bed with that question on my mind
and woke up with it. I said, I found a solution.

Speaker 2 (40:44):
Okay, let me ask this question.

Speaker 4 (40:46):
Let me ask this question, Linda, because I know your
truck driving doctor Jeffery's a truck drive Linda, you work
all the time.

Speaker 2 (40:52):
Why are you working so much? First, as that question,
why are you working so much?

Speaker 6 (41:02):
Because I'm the only income even though me and my
husband ain't own good terms what you may say, I
still try to help them out. I try to help
the kids and the grandkids out. And I still have
my own bills to.

Speaker 2 (41:24):
Deal with, Okay.

Speaker 4 (41:26):
So that's why you continue to work to help your
husband and your children and your grandchildren.

Speaker 6 (41:33):
Right, and for myself too that you know, like I
got Cardinals insurance and all these deals with myself because
like I said, I'm my only income, okay, And I'm like.

Speaker 7 (41:45):
When I give up this, to give up that.

Speaker 6 (41:48):
But it just be like the more I give up.

Speaker 8 (41:50):
There, the harder.

Speaker 6 (41:52):
It just seem like, I we're going back with your settle.

Speaker 7 (41:54):
Forward, okay, and I just try to figure out when does.

Speaker 6 (41:57):
This cycle lands. It's like I'm tired, okay, definitely driving
the truck for so yeah, yeah.

Speaker 4 (42:05):
Honey, you a good one driving that truck all across
all across the country.

Speaker 2 (42:11):
Linda. I don't know how you do it, but I
get it. I get it.

Speaker 4 (42:15):
Two years of a bath, thirty two years, wow, thirty
two years Linda. Now are you able to retire?

Speaker 2 (42:23):
Well, I guess you say you have to keep working, so.

Speaker 6 (42:27):
I have to keep working on the same So I
owe him a lot of money.

Speaker 4 (42:30):
Okay, So let me ask this question, Linda, do do
you have time for yourself? Do you enjoy any kind
of recreation?

Speaker 14 (42:37):
What do you do you do your husband?

Speaker 6 (42:43):
Most of the time, I don't because like when I
get out that truck, you get home, I don't want
to go anywhere. Okay, I don't want to drive. I
don't want to do nothing. That's what a land bad
relaxed six or something.

Speaker 1 (42:55):
You get back of the bed.

Speaker 2 (42:56):
Okay, I got.

Speaker 12 (42:59):
That's funny, relaxed, okay, okay.

Speaker 4 (43:02):
All right, Well, thank you for sharing, Linda. I'll talk
to doctor Jeffers. You'll be safe on the road, sister.

Speaker 7 (43:10):
Well, I will, all right.

Speaker 4 (43:11):
You you welcome by by it. Oh, doctor Jefferys. She's
been doing that for thirty two years.

Speaker 1 (43:16):
And I remember London.

Speaker 2 (43:18):
Yeah, oh my goodness her.

Speaker 1 (43:20):
She went and got her husband, they had it separated,
brought him back to her the way she won. Yeah,
you know, it didn't turn out the way she wanted.
But I was listening to Linda out of all these
all these things that's going on with her, and as
hard as she works in the hours that she works
with thirty two years of experience and I'm assuming she's

(43:43):
getting a very good salary because she's supporting a lot
of people. The question is, all these people are younger
than her yo. Why is it necessary that she is
the primary person and their dependent And it doesn't sound
like if she's still old his uncle fam so she

(44:03):
can even write any of them all. So, and what
is it like with the children and the grandchildren. Are
these problems or things they need money for because they
made bad decisions or bad choices or they were privolegued
and didn't manage their money. And with the ex husband,

(44:27):
if they're still living together, you know, a why is
it that she feels obligated because the father calls it
was not very nice or kind to her. So she's
being very generous at the time that she moved him
back in. Now I think she moved out, for why
is it she's still contributing to him. The key is

(44:51):
she's one person. She's to the point where either she's
in the truck or she's in her bed, only getting
up to fix food. And that's not a productive, fulfilling
life because she's working and making all this money and
she's not getting the benefit of any of the sacrifices

(45:12):
she's making now if she feel happy about just giving
the money to the children and the ex husband, my
question would be, what is your payoff? What's your payback something?
And there are people who want to just self sacrifice
so that they can feel, you know, like a martyr

(45:35):
if you will. I'm doing all of this and I'm
wearing myself out and blah blah. But the question is
what happens if something happens to you. It don't even
have to be anything final like death or anything. But
suppose when you retire, are you going to just cut

(45:55):
down what you're able to do? And obviously, if you're
just giving them the money, you don't have the expectations
of paying back they and you need no families that
don't pay bad. So what's the payoff for you? And
if you're going to retire at some point, are you
planning to continue to work in some level or I

(46:19):
would suggest at third two years, if you haven't made
a plan, what the statement needs to be to everybody else?
I need to start thinking about Linda, and I need
to come even though it's late, I've got to come
up with me a retirement plan. So I'm not gonna
be able to help you with this, and you know,

(46:39):
I know you'll work it out, and I'm gonna pray
for you whatever it is you need to say. But
the focus needs to come back on you because number one,
you're not helping to younger people period because they're not
learning how to get out of these situations for themselves
so that they can survive. Second, you're not helping the

(47:02):
ex husband and you're not getting anything out of it
or unless the emotional part of the relationship has changed
and he's there, And then dig real deep and decide
why am I keeping him here? You know, is it
a payoff if he should go first?

Speaker 18 (47:22):
What is it?

Speaker 1 (47:23):
And get to be real honest with yourself and do
an inventory is why am I wearing myself out soul, body,
and spirit to do something for people? And the only
thing I'm doing is making them less resistant to being
independent because you're not modeling any of the behaviors that

(47:44):
you're using to earn all of this for them to
learn it. And you deserve After driving the truck and
you've got to be one of the first women out
there doing long haul driving as in thirty two years,
you deserve a retirement where you can lived in life
that you deserve. Talk to you somebody about how to

(48:05):
create you a financial plans. Pay off those bills, and
as you pay.

Speaker 12 (48:09):
Them off, whoever helps you make that bill, they.

Speaker 1 (48:12):
Don't get in line anymore. That's the plan. The goal
is for you to live comfortably in your retirement, and
the time to start is now.

Speaker 2 (48:23):
I like that, doctor Jeffers. Very good.

Speaker 4 (48:25):
Hope you heard it, Lenda, I hope you heard it.
Hold on, doctor Jeffries. I go to Frank, Hi, Frank,
how you doing.

Speaker 2 (48:32):
I'm doing well today? And yourself?

Speaker 8 (48:35):
I'm doing great?

Speaker 4 (48:36):
You know.

Speaker 16 (48:38):
I allst like how we as a home says that
want to to do Man, we you don't want to
do right, but you know, we caught up, and so
we let our life get caught up in so much

(49:00):
wrongdoing that as soon as we speak on that, we're
gonna do right and want to do right. I mean
even as we speak in it when we're doing somebody wrong.
I mean we we we have to always fix ourselves
to be able to receive what the what God have

(49:22):
us to receive, and that is the truth. We can
come out of anything only.

Speaker 1 (49:29):
If we hear the truth.

Speaker 16 (49:32):
And it's and and see we have to stop just talking.
We really have to sit all mine.

Speaker 8 (49:40):
But do you know not that's a real crazy person
to sit up.

Speaker 18 (49:44):
There and talk about we need to forgive a den
right then and there you're doing somebody wrong. Now that
that that that's a mind.

Speaker 16 (49:53):
That needs true to need some help. And and and
and and and and and we do you know, unstable
world is an unstable mind because the mind of the
world controls the world. And we look in every day.
How unstable we are is simply because we're not walking

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what we're talking.

Speaker 18 (50:17):
And it's bad that.

Speaker 16 (50:19):
We're doing it. And to anybody, I mean anybody out
there that forgiveness, it's the most easy thing to do
if you get yourself in your right mind, because people
don't owe you anything, and if people hurt you, God will.

(50:43):
And we can't keep sining.

Speaker 18 (50:46):
We know God, we love God, we believe in God,
and then we don't believe in his words.

Speaker 16 (50:53):
That don't make sense either. I mean, how you're gonna
call out God and you don't even believe in this word?

Speaker 1 (51:01):
You don't.

Speaker 16 (51:02):
Most of the people don't even know his words. It's
sad that we in a crisis right now, and no
one can figure out how to stop it. Why but
you know why they can't.

Speaker 12 (51:17):
Nobody figured it out.

Speaker 16 (51:18):
Don't nobody want to hear the truth? Everybody know the truth,
and nobody want to do the truth. Do you know?
It takes It takes a lot for some people to
do what's right because they don't want to lose what
they've got and they realize they already lost it. If

(51:39):
you got to lie and manipulate and and cheap and
be fearful of things just to keep it, it don't
belongst to you know way, because it belongs to whoever,
whoever you lie, manipulate or whatever, whoever you're doing that for.
That's where going because if it was yours, if it

(52:02):
was yours, you would do what's right no matter what.

Speaker 2 (52:05):
All right, I mean, thank you, Frank, We got it.
We got it. Doctor Jeffrey says that we Frank says,
we don't want to do right.

Speaker 4 (52:12):
And and forgiveness And I guess in the words you
were saying is forgiveness is for yourself absolutely.

Speaker 1 (52:19):
But what I like that Frank said was we have
to start with the truth. You first have to tell
yourself the truth. Yes, and so many of us. We
know our own truth, but we choose to live a
lie in order to stay in some of the pain,
some of the chaos, and some of the loneliness and

(52:42):
inkiness that we're living in because we believe that to
tell the truth and to live in that truth and
then expose that truth so that we can change, it's
better to do the other thing. And we know living
a liar is never gone to bring you the peace.

Speaker 4 (53:00):
Truth will mm hmmm, hold on, Doctor Jeffries, will take
a break and we'll come back as we continue to
talk our topic of conversation. I have gone as far
as I can and nothing seems to help or change.
Am I doomed to these thoughts and feelings?

Speaker 2 (53:19):
What do you say? We'll hear from you next?

Speaker 4 (53:22):
Right here on w D I a the Bethtsial.

Speaker 2 (54:00):
I mean, I'm telling everyone.

Speaker 14 (54:05):
Something now.

Speaker 4 (54:12):
Everyone, and we're back, Dr Jeffries. I'm going to the
phone line. Hi, Bootsy, what do you say?

Speaker 21 (54:23):
I want to give a come in. I want to
give my hats off to missus Lennon truck drivers and
got thirty thirty two years across the country, and I
wanted to say, does she ever think about talking to
her children, grandchild about getting doing something for themselves instead
of everything falling on her because whatever it might be,

(54:45):
the issue might be by end or whatever, and she's
doing for him and while they can't go and do
something for himself and take the pressure off of Linda. Okay,
while she driving me in trucks telling that road because
driving on that road I do for a year across
the country. Well, why she driving thirty years across the country.
Don't she every thinks about talking to them and discussing

(55:10):
the matter of them getting out and doing things for
themselves and still alid and depending on her.

Speaker 4 (55:16):
Okay, Well, hopefully she heard you, Bootsy, and she'll take
what you said to heart.

Speaker 2 (55:20):
Thank you, Bootsy. Bye bye, Doctor Jeffries.

Speaker 4 (55:25):
As as we talk and about going too far, and
people may say nothing seems to help out, nothing's changed.
Am I doomed? But no, I would say, doctor Jeffries. No,
they're not doomed, are they.

Speaker 8 (55:39):
No?

Speaker 1 (55:40):
I don't believe that we're doomed. People have people have
an I mean, it's like an unbelievable capacity to tolerate
miss to tolerate pains, to tolerate abuse, to tolerate misuse
to tolerate this respart, and that comes from those early

(56:04):
seeds that were planted that you're not lovable, you're not wanted,
you're not needed, and nobody's ever going to care about you.
People are always going to leave you. Adults around young
children plant seeds like that, some of it directly, some
of it indirectly, but they pick that up. And so

(56:25):
the children then try to figure out how what do
I need to do to get along.

Speaker 22 (56:31):
With other people in this family, and then later other
people in the community, other people at school, then ultimately
with somebody else because they've received the messages.

Speaker 1 (56:43):
And when you receive those messages and hold on to them,
you can't hold on to them. Some people, unfortunately, hold
on to them for a lifetime and nothing changes. Other
people have situations that change them to the point they
have a moment of enlightenment where they feel like, I
can't hear this anymore, I can't do this anymore. Whenever

(57:05):
those whenever those moments occur in my mind, it's like
a prison door opening and it's saying you've got a
five minute delay on this, take what you need and
get the hell out, or once the door closed back
I don't know when it's gonna open the camp for you.
And there's some people who sit there either freading or
what I didn't have time to pack and all that.

Speaker 12 (57:25):
Run, you know, just run through the door.

Speaker 1 (57:28):
You can get what you need on the other side.
But because of all the insecurity and the fear and
the shame and the guilt that has been built up,
we hold ourselves hostage and it's too late by the
time we figure out nobody's coming to rescue you. Nobody
white horse, white hat, none of that. That's not gonna happen.

(57:51):
So you have to be the liberator. You have to
be the one to look yourself in the eye and says,
I don't know what's wrong with us, I don't know
what cousing is, but we're gonna fix it. And when
you begin to think along those times, then you do
what we call possibility thinking okay, and allow yourself to

(58:13):
imagine if if I, if I could be really, really happy,
what would my life look like? And write that down.
Just allow you don't sense it the first first few
times you try, you're going to sense it. You know,
if you say I want this, I want that, I
would be doing this. I would have that, and then

(58:36):
the mindset you can't get that you're too old for that.
How you gonna cut that voice out? That's your critic,
that's the one that's kept you there at five them.
But you allow yourself to imagine what it would what
your world, what your life, just your world would be
like if you were truly authentically happy, and then allow

(59:03):
yourself to imagine, what would I need to do to
begin creating that world? We would I need to do?
Sometimes it may mean I need to go to school.
I've always wanted to learn how to do this. I
wanted to always open my own business. I always wanted

(59:24):
to whatever it is, allow yourself to yourself doing that
and jot that down there, this is what I need
to do to start. And what you're going through, what
you're talking about doing, is then revamping your life plan.
And let me tell you, nobody on this earth who
is still breathing has an end date that they know.

(59:47):
Doctors may speculate if you're sick and stuffing and said,
well you're in dated this. They're still speculating on.

Speaker 9 (59:53):
Something that they have no control overs because.

Speaker 1 (59:55):
People surprise them every day. Going beyond that, but the
commitment you make to yourself is as long as I'm breathing,
as long as I'm able to use my mind, as
long as I'm able to do anything for myself, This
is what I'm going to do for myself. And it
doesn't matter if you do it for one week and

(01:00:16):
don't finish it. At least allowing yourself to begin to
see possibilities of what it is you put like for
your working towards that, and if you should happen to
be five, ten, fifteen, twenty twenty years of that, think
of what it cost you if you it would have
cost you if you hadn't done that. The other thing,
when we're able to take charge of the things that

(01:00:40):
we want to happen, what we're beginning to realize is
that most emotions are charged are charged by action birds.
When you say you love somebody, it's their passive to
say I love them. You said it out loud down?
What does that mean? Love is an action? Verd you know,
how do you love them? When do you love? And

(01:01:01):
what kind of love do you show?

Speaker 17 (01:01:03):
What kind of love do you want to show?

Speaker 1 (01:01:05):
How do you grow your love? How do you sustain
your love? Action verbs? If you what respect? What does
respect mean to you? How do you show respect? How
do you want to be shown respect?

Speaker 21 (01:01:18):
What is it that you want to let people do when.

Speaker 1 (01:01:21):
They are respecting you? What is it that you want
them not to do when you feel you're being disrespected?
Your understanding? Now that things that I'm feeling, these things
that I'm holding on them, that's hurting, that's keeping.

Speaker 14 (01:01:34):
Means changed down and what have you.

Speaker 12 (01:01:37):
These are action.

Speaker 14 (01:01:38):
Verbs and I'm dealing with them passively.

Speaker 1 (01:01:40):
I'm letting them live inn and knowing my life like
parasite the predator. So now we're going to change this.
How do I show care to myself?

Speaker 14 (01:01:51):
See if you're the person who feels that I'm unloved,
I'm worthy, unwanted, unneeded, and nobody will ever be in.

Speaker 1 (01:01:58):
My life that I can belie to me and who
can belong to me? You have to start with yourself
in order to know what it feels like when you
are showing your self love, so that if somebody else
comes along and shows you needed something remotely similar, you
will understand it.

Speaker 14 (01:02:18):
Because what the mind has never experienced is foreign to
the touch, the care, the caress, the attention. If your
body your soul, you know has never experienced it.

Speaker 1 (01:02:30):
You don't know what it mean.

Speaker 14 (01:02:31):
So it's like unless you learn the language and figure out.

Speaker 1 (01:02:35):
What your love language is and what your health language
is for you and what your wellness those are for you,
you will not know them even if they showed up.
So we have to start to work with what self
self and one of the things that absolutely truth, uh

(01:02:55):
like I think it was thank you we said. Start
first with being true to yourself. The things that people
told you that continue to hurt you. Ask yourself, looking
in the mirror, do you believe that what they said
was true? I know you've accepted it.

Speaker 20 (01:03:16):
I know you've internalized it.

Speaker 1 (01:03:18):
But looking yourself in the eye, say to yourself, am
I really unlovable? I don't believe that? When ain't so
and so said that to me? She was always me
and didn't like me? Why did I believe her? Or
why did I take that to heart when I felt
left out? And what have you did? I am I

(01:03:39):
supposed to be left out? Why do I believe that?
Why have I held onto that? Tell yourself the truth,
because you will not be able to continue to lie
to yourself because I know you never looked in there
else to say you're unlovable, you're wanted, you are needed,
you deserve it. You need to be by yourself, you

(01:03:59):
need to be you miserally need to feel empty. We
don't do that. We just do it to ourselves. But
we can't face ourselves and say what it is that
other people have planned and we just carry out the task. Now,
some of this, uh, you know, you're doing prep work here.
Some of us have such heavy things that we're struggling with.

(01:04:23):
I strongly encourage you find you a good certified license
mental health professional that you trust, feel comfortable with, and
that you can be truthful with and and give yourself
several meetings with that person before you're ready to do

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the deep work to see if there's some compatibility there.
Are you able to establish a relationship with that person,
because you have to build a bridge of trust in
order to lead from where you are to go over
to where you want to be when you start doing
this kind of foundation work. Because I'm gonna tell you,

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people who invest in treatment for what ails them, for
what's killing them, for what's hurting them, for what's hurting
their families, what's taking away from them, those people are
showing and introducing into their lives. I deserve something more.

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I deserve something better and I am the only one
who can do this for myself. And it starts today.
And just like you want somebody to commit to you,
create a covenant with you, make a promise to you,
belong to you, Embrace you. After you've looked in yourself

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and shared the truth, you know wouldn't hurt to make
a few apologies, like I'm sorry it took me this
line to get here, but I'm ready to three us. Okay,
we're gonna do these things together. And promise you that
if you stick with me while we're going through this,
I'm gonna do everything I can to show that you

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are a beautiful person. You are a loving person. You
deserve love, You deserve to be cared for, You deserve
to give someone your love. You deserve to belong to someone,
and you need to find the person who has been
waiting on you to belong to them. I promise you
we're going to do the work. That's when you're ready

(01:06:28):
to change what you've been dealing with into action. Verbs
And so when I say that I'm talking about you're
beginning to think, Okay, there's possibility here. So that means
I'm planting some seeds of hope here. No hope has
been planted in your guard, so I'm planting some seeds

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of hope. So if I start planting seeds of hope,
what am I doing? I'm inviting change into our existence.
Change means it's going to be different, and change becomes
our mantra. It changes what we're going to believe. Then
then what I'm telling both of us, you and me

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and the person in the mirror, things are going to
get better. They can't get better because we're working together now.
And if we believe on that and we do something
every day to make that a real event in our life,
then faith is available.

Speaker 12 (01:07:26):
To us now.

Speaker 1 (01:07:27):
Not just religious faith, not your spiritual faith, but faith
in the possibility that we are deserving of all these
things that we want and hope to find, and that
there does exist a higher power, universal creator of God,
whatever you want to call your being, that is over

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and guiding us through this journey. Faith is possible. You
don't have to see it, you don't have to name it,
you don't have to do whatever it is. But you
can't claim that there's a unib versal power working into
your life that will sustain you. And when that happens,
when you've put all hope and change and faith together. Now, baby,

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we have movement. And movement is what if you've been
living in pain, pain can stay with you as long
as you can take it as well, and they will
dial up the heat. You say I can deal this,
They'll keep guiding up the heat until it paralyzes you.
But pain can also make you move when you decide

(01:08:31):
no more. So if you've got movement, pain is about
to be changed. We're going to move now. We've got goals,
we've got a support system in place, we've got hope,
we've got faith, we have more awareness about who we are,
we have some acknowledgement as to how we got here.
We're taking away the blame and the shame and the

(01:08:53):
guilt for staying in it so long. We're fleeing ourselves
up to do what, to fly to sore, to become
the people that we want to be. And with each
one of these lessons, you're learning to put action into
your life. And like all emotions are action, you want
positive emotions in there so that the activity that's going

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on in your life continue, and change will be invited
in and your seeds of hope will continue to flourish.
And it all begins with you having that talk with
the person in the mirror that's been going through all
of this with.

Speaker 4 (01:09:32):
You, all right, doctor Jeffries. Good words of wisdom, good
way to end. Thank you, thank you, Thank you, sister.
It's not all of it, all right, doctor Jeffries, Thank
you so much. Look forward to next week, sister.

Speaker 1 (01:09:50):
I will be here and I will see you on
the radio.

Speaker 4 (01:09:52):
All right.

Speaker 2 (01:09:53):
I like that, all right, Doctor Jeffries. Be saved, sister.

Speaker 1 (01:09:57):
All right, you take care of now and behave yourself
the baby girl. I will bye bye.

Speaker 4 (01:10:05):
That is our behavioral Relationship consultant, Doctor Dorothy Jeffreys.

Speaker 2 (01:10:17):
It's been a good week this week.

Speaker 4 (01:10:20):
Thank you callers, thank you listeners for joining us this
day on the BEB Johnson Show. We do, we really
do appreciate you. So until tomorrow, please be saved. Keep
a cool head, y'all, don't let anyone steal your joy

(01:10:40):
until tomorrow. I'm Bob Johnson, and y'all.

Speaker 2 (01:10:43):
Keep the faith. Mark Baker, take me Home, boyfriend.

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