June 1, 2026 • 6 mins
I Told Him No… Without Telling My Daughter
What would you do if someone asked for your blessing… and your heart told you they weren’t ready?
In this powerful and emotional Dirty Little Secret, one father shares a decision that could change his relationship with his family forever.
When his daughter’s boyfriend did things the “right way” pulling him aside and respectfully asking for permission to propose he was faced with a moment every parent imagines…
And he said no. Now he’s stuck holding a secret that could blow up at any moment. As Billy the Kidd, Candice Lopez, and Producer Pooh react in real time, the conversation dives deep:
Listen Now for a Dirty Little Secret that will have you questioning love, timing, and how far you’d go to protect someone you care about.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Get it off your yost to comments, you'll feel better.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Welcome to the Dirty Little Secret. The chance to go
to Disney World coming up next, vacation on us. It's
Mix one or two point nine. Good Morning, Bill at
a kid Candicelow Pets producer Pooh is here.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
It's gonna be hot today. Heads up? You said it's
a onready like eighty five out right?
Speaker 4 (00:16):
Now?
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Yeah, all sticky. I like it because the pools finally
get warm. Okay, you know what I mean. Keep get
in and actually enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Now.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Who you want to come over and swim? Yes? I do,
all right?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Nice, Okay, we gotta wear clothes though, don't get too excited. Okay,
all right, Dirty Little Secret eight three three seven eighty
seven one oh two nine?
Speaker 3 (00:34):
What is your secret? It's time you confess? Go ahead,
how are you I?
Speaker 4 (00:38):
I'm good. I've got a secret that I haven't even
told my wife yet because I'm not sure how she's
gonna feel about it.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Okay, all right, that makes me nervous if wife he
doesn't even know when we're gonna know.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
So what's your secret?
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Well, my youngest daughter is twenty one and her boyfriend
who's twenty five. It came to me the other day,
a man, the man, and he ask for my permission
to marry her, and yeah, my secret is I told
him no. Oh, I know that's harsh, you know, but
(01:13):
trust me, I know as a father, I just couldn't
say yes.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Right, what's going on with him? You don't like him?
Speaker 4 (01:21):
No? I like him? You know, he's he's a good kid,
you know. I mean, the guy works part time as
a bartender, and yeah, maybe he makes decent money. But
in my opinion, that's not stability, that's not a plan,
and that's not a husband material for my daughter right now.
So I just told him if he wants to marry
(01:42):
somebody's daughter, especially mine, he needs to figure out his
career path and honestly grow up a little first.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Do you so you think that it's just he's not
he's not ready with his career path that he's in.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
So it's just not I mean reasonable.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I know people who are bartenders for years that make
good money and that's just what they do. And I
don't know, I mean but anyway, so she wouldn't be
too happy about this.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
But but you like them, yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
Do, you know, honestly, I do, And maybe part of
this comes from me watching my oldest daughter make this
exact mistake. She got married young after only being with
the guy for a couple of years, and now she's
divorced with a toddler, trying to hold everything together by herself. Man,
you know, you know watching watching one of your kids
(02:32):
go through that, you know that changes you so But
the crazy part is, you know, my youngest would say
yes immediately if you ask her. You know she's in
love with him. But they fight all the time, and
I just don't think they understand what marriage actually is. Yet.
That's where that's where I am. And you know, I
(02:53):
just figured I'm going to stop it before it even happened.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
I don't know if you did the wrong thing.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
I mean, I'm not who like, there's people out there
who would probably be like, I wish my dad would
have said that. I wish someone would have told me I.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Was just about to say the same thing. I mean,
how many understand honestly something He's right now? So I
don't know if it's because people are rushing a lot
of factors.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Yeah, there's a lot of factors, but people, there's so
many people I know who go even not me back
in the day.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Yeah, I mean, I was just too young. I didn't
know what was going on. I thought I did.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
I wasn't motionally mature, you know, for any relationship, much
less a marriage.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
So you stopped it.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
What did he do?
Speaker 4 (03:32):
Well? Honestly, he handled it way better than I expected.
You know, what he said, he understood and he respected
what I said. And maybe in a few months we
could talk again if things changed. And I respect him
for that, I really do. Yeah, but I still haven't
told my daughter or my wife because I know they're
both gonna think I'm being overprotective, and maybe I am.
(03:56):
You know. I can just see this train wreck coming
from a mile away, guys, you know, And if I
can protect her from making a life changing mistake too early,
I gotta do it. Yeah, I just feel like I
have to do this.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
This is why I'm thankful I don't have a little girl,
because if I had a girl, I would be doing
the same thing.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I don't care how to do. I'd be like, Nope,
not yet, bro.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
And being married at twenty one, you steel like you're grown,
and yeah, you can do some certain things you couldn't
do before. But like you're still not even't lived enough
to me, I know.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
But people back in the day would get married when
they were twenty and be together still.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Other than that, like I see they would get married
at like eight.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Yeah, it's what is going on, but it was different times,
and it almost makes me respect this kid more.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
That he was like.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Okay, first of all, do people even do that? A
lot of people don't even ask for the dad's.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Permission as more old school stuff. I don't think it's old.
I don't think that should be old school.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
No, I don't either.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I love it. Yeah, right, so I would tell my
son before you do it.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
You're going to ask the father, Yeah, get his blessing,
but you never really think what if he's has No,
it's not like.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
You said never.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
You didn't say not yet.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Yeah, I'm just saying not now.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Yeah, just pump your brakes a little and it probably
honestly made you like this kid even more when he
handled it.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
Well, well, yeah, I have more respect for him now
than what we did coming into the conversation for sure.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Well, then you tell your wife and your daughter that,
and I think they'll respect you.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
I wouldn't tell daughter. Yeah, Well, I tell wife I
wouldn't tell the daughter gonna rush out and let's let's
go a lower.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Because then she's going to know too that it's coming.
So you can't. You can't blow that. Ye can tell them.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
I would tell knew that no secrets that place in
their relationship.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
She finds out, she can be mad.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Yeah, wife got to know.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
She just wants to be in the loop.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
You know.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Well, let us know what happens.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
And yeah, I'm going to ask people to see what
they think about this because it's it's an interesting secret.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Good luck with everything, and let us know what happens.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Oh, thanks, guys, I appreciate you.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Nothing wrong with being a bartender, But I did you
know part time bartender. Yeah, like you're was listening and
said part time barton, it might be a little bit different. Yeah,
for sure, And that's true. Part time anything. If you're
trying to get married, yep, I don't know about that.
Get it off your yost to comments, you'll feel better.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Welcome to the Dirty Little Secret. The chance to go
to Disney World coming up next, vacation on us. It's
Mix one or two point nine. Good Morning, Bill at
a kid Candicelow Pets producer Pooh is here.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
It's gonna be hot today. Heads up? You said it's
a onready like eighty five out right?
Speaker 4 (00:16):
Now?
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Yeah, all sticky. I like it because the pools finally
get warm. Okay, you know what I mean. Keep get
in and actually enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Now.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Who you want to come over and swim? Yes? I do,
all right?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Nice, Okay, we gotta wear clothes though, don't get too excited. Okay,
all right, Dirty Little Secret eight three three seven eighty
seven one oh two nine?
Speaker 3 (00:34):
What is your secret? It's time you confess? Go ahead,
how are you I?
Speaker 4 (00:38):
I'm good. I've got a secret that I haven't even
told my wife yet because I'm not sure how she's
gonna feel about it.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Okay, all right, that makes me nervous if wife he
doesn't even know when we're gonna know.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
So what's your secret?
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Well, my youngest daughter is twenty one and her boyfriend
who's twenty five. It came to me the other day,
a man, the man, and he ask for my permission
to marry her, and yeah, my secret is I told
him no. Oh, I know that's harsh, you know, but
(01:13):
trust me, I know as a father, I just couldn't
say yes.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Right, what's going on with him? You don't like him?
Speaker 4 (01:21):
No? I like him? You know, he's he's a good kid,
you know. I mean, the guy works part time as
a bartender, and yeah, maybe he makes decent money. But
in my opinion, that's not stability, that's not a plan,
and that's not a husband material for my daughter right now.
So I just told him if he wants to marry
(01:42):
somebody's daughter, especially mine, he needs to figure out his
career path and honestly grow up a little first.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Do you so you think that it's just he's not
he's not ready with his career path that he's in.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
So it's just not I mean reasonable.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I know people who are bartenders for years that make
good money and that's just what they do. And I
don't know, I mean but anyway, so she wouldn't be
too happy about this.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
But but you like them, yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
Do, you know, honestly, I do, And maybe part of
this comes from me watching my oldest daughter make this
exact mistake. She got married young after only being with
the guy for a couple of years, and now she's
divorced with a toddler, trying to hold everything together by herself. Man,
you know, you know watching watching one of your kids
(02:32):
go through that, you know that changes you so But
the crazy part is, you know, my youngest would say
yes immediately if you ask her. You know she's in
love with him. But they fight all the time, and
I just don't think they understand what marriage actually is. Yet.
That's where that's where I am. And you know, I
(02:53):
just figured I'm going to stop it before it even happened.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
I don't know if you did the wrong thing.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
I mean, I'm not who like, there's people out there
who would probably be like, I wish my dad would
have said that. I wish someone would have told me I.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Was just about to say the same thing. I mean,
how many understand honestly something He's right now? So I
don't know if it's because people are rushing a lot
of factors.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Yeah, there's a lot of factors, but people, there's so
many people I know who go even not me back
in the day.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Yeah, I mean, I was just too young. I didn't
know what was going on. I thought I did.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
I wasn't motionally mature, you know, for any relationship, much
less a marriage.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
So you stopped it.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
What did he do?
Speaker 4 (03:32):
Well? Honestly, he handled it way better than I expected.
You know, what he said, he understood and he respected
what I said. And maybe in a few months we
could talk again if things changed. And I respect him
for that, I really do. Yeah, but I still haven't
told my daughter or my wife because I know they're
both gonna think I'm being overprotective, and maybe I am.
(03:56):
You know. I can just see this train wreck coming
from a mile away, guys, you know, And if I
can protect her from making a life changing mistake too early,
I gotta do it. Yeah, I just feel like I
have to do this.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
This is why I'm thankful I don't have a little girl,
because if I had a girl, I would be doing
the same thing.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I don't care how to do. I'd be like, Nope,
not yet, bro.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
And being married at twenty one, you steel like you're grown,
and yeah, you can do some certain things you couldn't
do before. But like you're still not even't lived enough
to me, I know.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
But people back in the day would get married when
they were twenty and be together still.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Other than that, like I see they would get married
at like eight.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
Yeah, it's what is going on, but it was different times,
and it almost makes me respect this kid more.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
That he was like.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Okay, first of all, do people even do that? A
lot of people don't even ask for the dad's.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Permission as more old school stuff. I don't think it's old.
I don't think that should be old school.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
No, I don't either.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I love it. Yeah, right, so I would tell my
son before you do it.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
You're going to ask the father, Yeah, get his blessing,
but you never really think what if he's has No,
it's not like.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
You said never.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
You didn't say not yet.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Yeah, I'm just saying not now.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Yeah, just pump your brakes a little and it probably
honestly made you like this kid even more when he
handled it.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
Well, well, yeah, I have more respect for him now
than what we did coming into the conversation for sure.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Well, then you tell your wife and your daughter that,
and I think they'll respect you.
Speaker 3 (05:21):
I wouldn't tell daughter. Yeah, Well, I tell wife I
wouldn't tell the daughter gonna rush out and let's let's
go a lower.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
Because then she's going to know too that it's coming.
So you can't. You can't blow that. Ye can tell them.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
I would tell knew that no secrets that place in
their relationship.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
She finds out, she can be mad.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Yeah, wife got to know.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
She just wants to be in the loop.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
You know.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
Well, let us know what happens.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
And yeah, I'm going to ask people to see what
they think about this because it's it's an interesting secret.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Good luck with everything, and let us know what happens.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
Oh, thanks, guys, I appreciate you.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Nothing wrong with being a bartender, But I did you
know part time bartender. Yeah, like you're was listening and
said part time barton, it might be a little bit different. Yeah,
for sure, And that's true. Part time anything. If you're
trying to get married, yep, I don't know about that.
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