Hannah's 1 Big Thing - Monday August 5th - Keeping Score In Relationships

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's time for Hannah's one Big Thing. I have one
more thing to do.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
On Madison's Classic Rock one A one point five IBAFM.

Speaker 3 (00:09):
I wish I always only had one more thing to do.
I feel like the moment I crossed something off the list,
Ben the ten more get added.

Speaker 2 (00:15):
Yeah, not only at work, but also at home with
your daughter too, right, all of the above. Oh, speaking
of that, I don't have kids yet, but I do
have a nephew who turned one over the weekend. We
had a nice little baseball theme party for him on Saturday,
which was a lot. Yeah, it was a lot of fun.
And you know, at first I was a little weirded
out by this. So his parents, my brother, their whole

(00:39):
idea was, we don't want gifts. Here's a link to
a college fund you could donate money too. And I'm like,
I don't want to give the kid money yet, Like
he probably wants toys. But the more I thought about it,
I'm like, should I go buy you know, I don't
know x x amount of dollars on toys, or should
I actually put money in this account because I think
that may actually help him down the road.

Speaker 3 (01:00):
You know what I say, I'll be honest with you,
I kind of liked that idea because at one, like,
first of all, they already have tons of toys, right,
I like, my nieces have so many toys, it like
pains me to buy them more, but like you can't,
not right, Yeah. So actually, and at one they don't
really know what's going on anyways in regards to like presence.
So actually, you know what, I kind of liked that idea. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:18):
I came around due too after this weekend, so I
like that a lot. But yeah, it was.

Speaker 2 (01:22):
It's just it's so cool when you have, like obviously
I don't have kids yet, but having a nephew, just
watching them grow, it's crazy that he's one years old,
and I know you've gone through this with your daughter
so fast. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:32):
Crazy. Let's let's dive into one big thing and a
back to work Monday.

Speaker 3 (01:37):
Okay, So I wanted to talk about Reddit.

Speaker 1 (01:41):
God love it.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
A woman had asked if she's wrong for keeping score
of everything she's done for her husband in their thirty
plus year marriage. And when I first read the like
that article title, I'm thinking to myself, I thought it
was along the lines of, oh, you mean so for
everyone time I tell my husband, Jime, hey, can you
please instead of putting the recycling on the counter, just

(02:04):
put it directly into the bin which is right outside
the door. For every one time I've told him that
thirty times before that, I put it in the bin
for him.

Speaker 1 (02:11):
Right, I thought, that's what this meant. Okay, it doesn't.

Speaker 3 (02:15):
So she basically shared that her husband built his business
with a lot of help from her. She was the
quote unquote traditional housewife who raised their now adult kids,
and their son wants her to talk to his wife,
so her daughter in law about doing the same thing.
The daughter in law does not want to do that
because she doesn't want to depend on her husband for money. Sure,

(02:36):
and so that's when get this this woman, the mom.
The wife told her family that she has kept a
meticulous record of all contributions she has ever made to
the family business in case the worst happened.

Speaker 1 (02:51):
Wow, yes, she's going to get some money in court. Right.

Speaker 3 (02:57):
So that's basically how the people on Reddit responded, being
like oh my god, praising her legal savbiness, like that's genius.
People don't think about all the stuff that happens in
the household that allows the people outside of the household
to do their thing, and she basically pointed out that
him calling it his business is why she had kept
those records in the first place. But her husband and
son are freaking out. They got so mad, saying it

(03:18):
shows a lack of trust, and the husband felt like
she had one foot out the door of their entire marriage.

Speaker 1 (03:23):
WHOA wow, do you imagine?

Speaker 3 (03:27):
Well?

Speaker 2 (03:27):
Do you also sometimes think to yourself, like, why do
people go to Reddit with these things?

Speaker 1 (03:31):
Like? Right, thank god they do? But I know it's
good content.

Speaker 2 (03:36):
But and also I'm kind of curious about what state
they lived in, because here in Wisconsin this is what
is it a communal property state community. I don't know
exactly the correction.

Speaker 3 (03:45):
Don't ask me, because I hope I don't have to
go down that route.

Speaker 2 (03:47):
But well, essentially, all that means is, no matter what
you think you own, Hannah, I may own it's fifty
percent of that, no matter what son.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
Of a gun.

Speaker 2 (03:56):
Yes, yes, so yeah, I mean things like that you should,
I mean, just have a healthy Marriag's like you could
say it's our business.

Speaker 1 (04:03):
You don't have to say it's your business, you know,
come on.

Speaker 3 (04:05):
Right totally, And I mean she's like not wrong, Okay,
Like I get it because there's a lot of stuff
that goes into it, but I understand their side as well.
It's like, hey, why are you doing this? But yeah,
I thought that was really funny, Like thirty plus years
of meticulous.

Speaker 2 (04:20):
Notes, one of these topics that are kind of male
female husband wife, Hannah, you and I are going to
be on polar opposites and it's going to be a
big debate.

Speaker 1 (04:28):
I'm waiting for that day. I'm waiting for that. I'll
try to find a good one. This sounds good, and
joy the rest of your Monday.

Speaker 3 (04:34):
You too.