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Speaker 1 (00:03):
The Breakfast Club.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Morning everybody. It's DJ V just Hilarius Charlamagne the guy.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
We are the Breakfast Club.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We got a special guest in the building. Indeed, she's
in season three A Reasonable Doubt, which starts on September eighteenth,
So it's out right now.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Brandy Evans, Welcome.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
I'm in New Yorker. I love New York. You do, yes?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
I do?
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Like literally now, I'm trying to figure out how I
can be like in the l A Coast and in
the in the East Coast. You're from Memphis, I am
wanting raised. Yes, okay?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Cool? And so you you you like New York? I do?
I feel like, you know, New York.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
People keep it real, and I feel like sometimes I
love you, La, but sometimes you'll be a little sensitive.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
So I think that's what I like about New York.
That's what up.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
We don't kind of keep it fake real, fake real
to each other.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Really.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Yea, he from New York?
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Okay? He from so you around? Oh you Southern like me?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
You already know?
Speaker 4 (01:03):
So what does that mean that you're just you're trying
to figure out folks out here.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
No, I've been figuring them out.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
And the.
Speaker 5 (01:11):
Figure about a long time ago. That's not long time ago.
Queens Okay, Okay, we were just talking about going to Queens.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Okay, that's me.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
If you've been to a Didty party, what he's gonna
lie and say, no, ask him.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
I've not been to Okay, Okay, if I have, it
was way do you see what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
There'm no judgment.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
I used to dance for Diddy, so she was.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Lori and Gibson all that. I never saw the things.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
People.
Speaker 6 (01:47):
You missed the lie because the lie was so good.
First of that, I ain't never been in no Didty party,
and if I did, it.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Was way way way back in. I was joking, joke.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I never been no damn Diddy party party.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
I ain't never been on one.
Speaker 5 (02:05):
I went home, got my mama down the stage.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I feel good. I feel amazing.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
It's caregiver appreciation months, spiking up taking care of my mama.
So this is my respite break too, just being out
here in New York doing what I want to do,
seeing some art, enjoying some cold weather. Because I feel
like we don't really get that in LA.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Who's all the caregivers out there? Man? Break down?
Speaker 6 (02:26):
What exactly do caregivers do because it's such an unappreciating
service that they that they provide.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
That's a good question.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
Everything there like for my for me, my mom Diana Harrington,
she has multiple scorosis, she has Alzheimer's and she's paraplegic.
So basically, it's like having my newborn with me at
all times.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
And it just depends on what you're dealing with.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
It could be from feedings, the doctor's appointments, emotional support,
just sitting with them, taking them out.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
You just never know.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
But caregivers need love and check on us too because
we ain't all right all the time.
Speaker 6 (02:58):
And you know, people, I'm sure I don't know if
you're through the system. You know, people get paid for
that not everywhere.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
That's I'm glad you mentioned that New York is a blessing.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
La is a blessing.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
I think I heard Florida has a little bit, But
everywhere else it's been frustrated. And that's why I had
to move Mama from Memphis.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
So and then I moved into Atlanta season one when
I was filming Pea Valley and had to move a
back because I lost all my benefits. So it is
that's that we just did care Fest out here, and
that's what we were talking about, getting the care because
people aren't doing that, and either all of us are
either going to be caregivers for somebody, or somebody's gonna
care for us at one time in our lives. So
I don't know what's up with the government. Who does
care for you?
Speaker 6 (03:33):
Then?
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Because you've been doing this for a long since, you
take care your friend. No, But I've.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Watched your journey just over the years, even before I
met you, and you are like your mom is your
baby in between rolls, and I even shot a project
with you and on a break you on the phone Mama,
making sure everybody is in place while you're doing the
things that you have to do to keep making the
money right, And then as soon as you finished shooting,
you go you with your mom, You wake up, you go.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
Back on set.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
That's right, because during Pretty Stone, I had Mama in
the hospital. So I was on the phone with doctors
and they were like cut and I was like holding
the doctor stayed while I did a scene on the
phone and came back. So yeah, rehearsing lines and remembering
the script and everything like that. I write my friends
and family, I will say more so my friends. No,
not to my family, but my friends are the ones
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that are out there with me, people like Ivri, who's
with me here? When I'm filming season one A p.
Valley had a caregiver walk out and I checked the
live camera stream. I'm like, what's going on? What's what's
going on in Mama's room. He had connected all of
my friends together. Then they took turns taking care of
my mother while I filmed because the caregiver walked out.
So my friends on my ride or dies Sasha, you
(04:43):
know my best Descia. Sasha's at the house of Mama
now like they, I just have a good village, a
good chosen family, which is a blessing.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Would you ever put your you know, a lot of
people talk about putting their moms or parents in the home.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Would you do that?
Speaker 4 (04:55):
And the Actually I promised my mom I never would
and she did go in one.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
So that's my story.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
On her birthday in twenty and fourteen, she had a fall.
I was dancing background for Lettercay at the time. My
little brother called me. He was like, Mama failed. She
has to be in a rehabilitation center, and I'm like
the one promise I made to Mama, which is never
put in a nurse home.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
She had to be in it, but never again.
Speaker 4 (05:17):
So that's when I fought for my life to start
teaching dance classes all over the country and asking every
celeb I knew, like, I don't need your money, but
just a repost is a blessing. And we raised fourteen
thousand dollars in four days, and I got my mama
out of that nursing home when that was December twenty first,
and be nine years I've had her since that day.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
The reason I ask is, you know, sometimes parents will say,
you know what I don't want to, you know, be
a problem with you, Like I don't want to, you know,
you know, mess up what you have, So put me
in a home so that way there is help. And
then there's some people that say, you know, I'll never
put my mind in a home. But having that kid
twenty four to seven, I mean, I'm sure you know
(05:53):
it's almost impossible.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
Right then, it's nine thousand dollars a month, right to
be exact.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
So my wife's mother had Demni in all times, and
we had a full day, and if we didn't have
a nanny helping. It would be almost impossible because you know,
there's been times when she didne walked out the house
and just kept walking. There was times where you know
she didn't know where the toilet was. So you know,
it's like having a newborn at times. There's been times
when you know there's so much going on. So how
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do you deal with that twenty four seven and still
work and still take care of God?
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Because at this point it's just got to be all
God because I'm so exhausted.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
In New York.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
That's the first time I don't have the baby monitor
a bout my ear, and so when you hear that cough,
you don't know, just like with your baby, are you
choking or are you coughing? So then you're getting up,
running to the room trying to have that rest. It
is exhausting. It is very exhausting. But I also don't
knock people that have to do that because everybody's situation
is different. I think that if you have to put
(06:51):
them there, you got to stay on top of them.
I was stalking the home like I was showing up.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
I was popping up.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
At one point, they was like, we feel like you're
watching us I am, AM, I am, because it's my
mom and that where she was. My mom probably wouldn't
be alive right now if I wouldn't have gotten her.
One time I popped up and Mama was like laid
over with a fever and I had to break her fever.
By the way, you can break her fever with alcohol,
just rub it on the baby's back. Mama taught me
that when I was a little girl, rubbed rubbing alcohol
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on the back. But yeah, I honestly don't know. I'm
still trying to. I'm working through it with therapy and
just trying to find my peace and taking more vacations
and things for myself too. And that's hard too, because
now Mama had a meltdown about me coming to New
York because she was like, why are you leaving me?
And I can you know with kids. I know y'all overstanding,
you don't want to leave the babies, but we gotta work.
(07:37):
We got to have some time for us because I
came for from the empty cup.
Speaker 6 (07:40):
I love this conversation so much because years years and
years years years ago, God bless the dead, Andre Herrel
called me and had a whole conversation about this exactly
and introduced me to the world of caregivers and introduced
me to a woman named Gina Lisa Montecero. And she's
the founder of the Medicated Advisory Group and they're a
consulting company who assists elders and family caregivers.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
And so, you know, she helped.
Speaker 6 (08:02):
My family with some stuff, and she helped a lot
of my friends. I think it's just something that people
don't know about it and we.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Don't think about it until we have to be in
that situation. Because I never thought about it, and then
I realized, oh, this medicare, Medicaid all the different things
like it's hard and if you don't have it, you
can't get your supplies, you can't pay and paying for
these supplies at the house is very expensive if you
don't have that help.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
That's what Gina Lisa does.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
She helps you just navigate the help get system because
it's complex, yes.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
And they don't want us to know about it at all.
They definitely don't want us to know about it.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
So, yeah, we got more with Brandy Evans when we
come back. You know her from Reasonable Doubts. She also
plays Mercedes on Pea Valley. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning,
(09:06):
it is so.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Silly, indeed, and let's go in need you beg.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Went all I can think about it, sis, I say
you least I.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Know I didn't have to walk away.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
All I had to do us ask for space.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I'm telling you beyond your way when I told Judiph
Bob back, so can you.
Speaker 7 (09:32):
Come back up your coup warning everybody d J Indeed,
just hilarious, Charlamagne God, we are the Breakfast Club.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Were still kicking with Brandy Evans. You know her from
Reasonable Doubt season three. Also she plays Mercedes on Peace Valley.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
Yes, and so you said therapy, so you are currently Yes,
I gotta find a new therapist though the last one
I had, I'm like, it's been a minute and she
ain't really answer to that phone, So.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
I need to find me.
Speaker 4 (10:08):
But then it's finding the right people, and they're trusting
people too, because I'm like, it's like, I don't really
want you to talk about what I.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Do, but I just want to.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
I want to be Brandy. I don't want to be
the actor. I just want to be Brandy the caregiver
and just talk about things. What about y'all?
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Is that hard for y'all to do when you go
to therapy. Y'all go to therapy.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
I'm on my.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
Yeah, trying to find that right fit. It's like, yeah,
I haven't I heard it. It's like I haven't started
therapy yet. I would like to, but I just I
haven't started yet. But I hear that a lot in
people like my son's father. He's like, yo, I just
can't find the right person, you know what I mean?
And then he also battles with trusting, like no, how
can this person tell me anything? How can he fix
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me if he never been through what I've been through,
if they don't look like me or you know. So
he's battling like trying to find a black man to talk.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Well, I got a good one for him.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
We need to share. Talk about that.
Speaker 6 (11:03):
My first my first therapist, I wanted somebody that was
completely opposite, so I was looking. I actually was looking
for like an Asian woman, but I ended up with
a white woman and she was cool. But it is
something about having a black male therapist who's culturally competent.
You don't got to explain too much a lot of
things he already understands. Yeah, yeah, now, but you as
gonna be kind of hard because he had to deal
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with you. So I needed to, you know what, excuse me.
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Like how I'm doing.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
I'm doing good.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
I'm very better now, anyway, better next year.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
Any season three? Reasonable Doubt.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
I'm so proud of you. What drew you to the
character Monica? Well, first of all, I wasn't drawn at
all to the character Monica because she's a mess. But
I was drawn to the show total opposite. So I've
always wanted to be on Reasonable Doubt. I've been watching
the show. It was on my vision board, and I
want to do something different than Pa Valley. So but
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then when Ramula called about the director session, I was like.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Oh, my lord, Monica.
Speaker 4 (12:09):
And I didn't find out till after I auditioned what
was happening. They gave me the storyline in the arc
of this and I was like, Oh, this is gonna
be good.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
And they finish drag.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Me and these internet streets. But that's when I knew
it was gonna be worth it. And it's a great story,
not a great, but an important story to tell. Because
have y'all seen it yet? It's okay if you have
no okay, all right? So I'm playing an agent and
there's this child star named Ozzie Edwards. And just like
most child stars they growing up with, you know, they
got the money, the fame. But the gag is I'm
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his agent who's been molesting him since he was thirteen
years old, which is terrible. But a lot of times
people let that pass with boys because they think, you know,
it's dope that there's an older woman trying to turn
him on.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
But it's not cool. So he kept it hiding.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
The secret comes out and it's a gag. And I
have six nephews trying to be funny.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
I can't share nothing. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 6 (13:10):
I'm asking, Yeah, some fun are you?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
No? No, But I didn't want to make sure he
wasn't triggered.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
That's what happened to him. He was blested by an
older woman. Yes, but the reason he wanted it to whitt.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Because she had a Jerry.
Speaker 6 (13:28):
I didn't like to smell her, that's so. But I
actually didn't like what she was doing to me. Okay,
but I told myself he was just smelling her Jerry
Crow when I was eight.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
Okay, yes, you know what different things to cope this
this young man. On episode nine, the younger version of
me says to him, Oh, I'm sorry to know you
were gay, which is terrible.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
And that's what I feel like some.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Women will do to young boys too, to try to
push them off and make them feel like, you know,
that's why you want. Yeah, they do all types of stuff.
And and she was wrong, not you. Well, he was
talking about drink girl, then.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Your therapist.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Okay, but then when he got old it happened again.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
He would sit on laps.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
It was just.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
This isn't much work. It was and you gonna say
you like it? You would have been ugly too, And
I'm doing all this work. What well? The finale dropped
last week. Okay, okay.
Speaker 4 (14:27):
And at the end because his his attorney Jacks, who
is Amiazi, she plays the star in the show. Well,
she finds out what happened. She puts Monic on the
stand and it comes out to the family everybody, and
then at the end Monica decides to go in and
shoot the place up.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
And we don't know who she shot.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
So the emotional place you've ever had to go to
for a role with it.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
That probably that absolutely.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
I got six nephews and so just to think about
my baby boys, like i'd be in jail.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
Or hell, did you think I got that? Absolutely not, because.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
I think it's my job as an act to tell
the stories, even the ones that are difficult. And I've
had fans that are like, I can't believe you do that.
After Mercedes, we love mistakes, Why would you come do this?
Maybe they'll make you pay attention to your baby boy
when they come home. Maybe they'll make you ask different
questions or if you see him shifting. So that's why
I always want to take on roles that tell important stories. Yeah,
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we work out. I love working out, going hiking. Honestly,
I'd be with Mama so much that I just have
to just tap away from it. But yeah, just stay
in touch with who I am and Step twelve of
the actor the actor Handbook for me is let it go.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
So it's not real.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
I was gonna ask, so, how are you with your nephews?
Do you have different conversations with them now, like, hey,
let me talk for a second.
Speaker 4 (15:40):
Oh, always, because I know DJ, because I know you listening. Yes,
that my nephews are cute too, So I've already had
that situation with them with older women, and I pick
up the phone and call.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
I told one girl. I was like, I will find
you and.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
You will go to jail, and I'm just gonna leave
it at that.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
So they try to hol money enough, Absolutely, Jesus.
Speaker 4 (16:01):
Said, absolutely, they do it all the time. I mean,
so I'm not crazy so seeing this, I also did
my research on it.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
But I've also seen it.
Speaker 4 (16:10):
I'm the only girl, so I've seen how the women act.
Speaker 3 (16:13):
You know.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
You know your brother find he's married and he's younger,
you know, so, yeah, do you.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Look at people?
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Sorry, do you look at people differently when you see
like so not a big thing in our community is
you'll see like a thirty year old dating an eighteen
year old or a forty year old dating a twenty
year old. Do you look at people differently now because
of that, because of the role you play?
Speaker 4 (16:31):
No, I don't think so long as they are of age.
I need them to be of age, because I mean,
as long as they've grown, that's their business.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
I stay out of it.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
But longer but under age, I'm absolutely, yes, I'm snitching.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
I think I snitch.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
Is very important that you did bring up the fact
that when it's like a double standards.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yeah. When when it's a woman, right, who is older
going after a guy?
Speaker 4 (16:54):
I mean, you know, a young guy, people tend to
like leave that.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Yeah it's okay, Oh you did that, that's what you
told her. It's not okay.
Speaker 4 (17:01):
The whole time you don't even know how the young
person is thinking. These young men, their minds are not
even like they trying to be cool at the end
of the day, and the whole time it's like, damn,
I was really less what I was.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
That's you wouldn't even make jokes about it if it
was a woman.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
No, that's that's a point. That is a huge point.
Speaker 4 (17:19):
No one's making a joke about it when it's someone.
Why are we joking about it when it's man. No,
that's a wonderful question.
Speaker 5 (17:24):
No, for sure, don't try to figure it even now, Yo,
you make fun of yourself.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Are you cold? I'm really hurting on the inside. No.
Speaker 6 (17:37):
When Brandy, when you think about your evolution from dancer
the actress, what part of your past shows up the
most in your your acting today?
Speaker 4 (17:45):
I think as a dancer, we learned how to take direction.
We learn how to take direction quick because you ain't
got time for that and if you if you were
Laurie and Gibson, she said, I need you to point
that toe and get to the end of the stage
by the next eight count.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
You're gonna figure it out.
Speaker 4 (17:57):
So I feel like I took that, especially with the
on p Valley because we had to do dancing and
things of that sort. I was able to take that direction.
So I think directors enjoy that. And I've always heard
that dancers are the best actors because they can take
direction easily, and we're not.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
We're not. We have thick skins.
Speaker 4 (18:13):
So you literally could yell at me and be like
that sucks, and be like, for real, what you need
on the next tape to make it not? Yeah, Like
I just it's real hard for me to get in
my feelings about that.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
We got more with Brandy Evans when we come back.
You know her from reasonable doubts. She also pleased Mercedes
on pe Valley. It's the breakfast club, Good morning, running.
Speaker 8 (18:32):
Bat You going up, They're not going up. They're not
you going up. They're not she going up. The night
she going up, They're not she going up. They're not
she going up.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
They're not she going up there night start calling our phones.
Speaker 8 (18:49):
She going up good night, blowing not.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
Lining you the bus to type, knowing that you're lying.
Speaker 7 (18:55):
We go for the height.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Catch up.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
I'm behind.
Speaker 8 (19:00):
Ye ain't know how much you know?
Speaker 3 (19:02):
When I drive?
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Made me know what I like? And then I said,
why let me go for you?
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Who going up? You going morning?
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Everybody is DJ Ving, Jesse, Hilarius, Charlamagne, the guy we
are the Breakfast Club. Were still kicking it with Brandy Evans,
you know her from Reasonable Doubt season three. Also she
plays Mercedes on p Valley. Charlamagne.
Speaker 6 (19:30):
You know, people talk about the physicality of Pea Valley
all the time, but what's something mental about that role
of Mercedes that people don't realize.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
Oh that's a really good question. My back is still
in the workman's comp though right now.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
But I think mentally for me, let me just say,
because I talked to high school English, so then I
jumped into that accent so hard back home that a
lot of times on my friend be like, you can
you get out of chuck atleasta because what happened to
your like what happened to your dialect? So I feel
like it shifted that. But mentally, we were filming so
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late at night, you almost like you almost felt like.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
You were a part of that world so much.
Speaker 4 (20:09):
You're going to bed when the when the sun is up,
and then you're going to work and we're we're literally
on set at two three in the morning and then
going to bed at seven am, like you were really
immersed in that world. So I think that this season
you're gonna see some things and you'll understand when you
see it that it took a lot for me to
get some of those things out of my head. Season
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two was tough because of my daughter and the abortion
scene and all of that information. But I also my
daughter passed away, so I had a steel birth and
so she would have been the same age. Lyric would
have been the same age as Azaria or Cherika on
p Valley. So that part, you know, mentally for me
was tough because I felt like Azaria, it was like
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my daughter in real life, so things like that, detaching
from that at times so that those scenes were emotion
Those were the most emotional, but they were the most
beautiful to me because it felt like I got my
baby in a sense. It's like God gave me a
Zaria who played Terika in that same age.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
So it was like I was able to have my
baby girl in season two of pe Valley.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Now that you say that, yeah, you were more your
Mercedes definitely was more emotional, and there was a lot
more scenes where the sis crime to trying to think
all the steaks at hand of trying to save her baby,
and that was the whole thing, just trying to make
life better for herself and her child and then her
mother exactly exactly.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
It was very tumultuous, and that was my real life
a little bit not like that.
Speaker 4 (21:37):
And now she wasn't Patrice Woodbine, but me and my
mom had a tumultuous relationship.
Speaker 3 (21:41):
So I was able to And who was that in life? No,
not just in life. I think it was just that
mother daughter dynamics. Sometimes that could just be like that.
Speaker 4 (21:53):
But when I start caring for her, you know that
had to because you gotta forgive.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
But I was able to use Pee Valley season.
Speaker 4 (22:00):
Wanted to get out everything I'd never say to my mama,
and oh I get to say what now? Okay, So
just healing, healing through p Valley. I feel like that
was a very healing.
Speaker 6 (22:10):
That'd be a great segue because I was going to
have to playing that dynamic change how you see generational trauma.
Speaker 4 (22:17):
Absolutely absolutely, I was just talking to someone about that
certain things isn't necessary, isn't necessary to get that whooping
isn't necessary to beat them? Can you actually talk to
them and tell them what's going on? You know?
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Can we can we communicate better?
Speaker 4 (22:30):
So I do think playing those different roles, you don't
have to yell and scream and and be little, you know,
because the hope this is the same person that you're belittling.
It's the same person you want to come to you
and trust that you can. They can tell you their
deep secrets.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
Come to me, come to me. We don't want to
be scared.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
So that that, to me made me pay attention to
you know what, if I'm I'm blessed to be able
to be a parent, I would parents so differently. But
I also the older I get, I also know we
all do the best we can because I feel like
all of us, you know, our kids could probably say
the same thing like.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
When you did this, you did that. You're doing the
best you can.
Speaker 4 (23:05):
And the older you get, you start realizing, you know what,
my mam Mama really did.
Speaker 6 (23:09):
The best she could, But I do realize is a
parent every child challenges you do. Absolutely, Like you think
you're gonna parent all of them the same, You can't. No, No,
I mean there's a core foundation of love, right, I
know you love them, but no, they all will challenge
you in.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
A different way.
Speaker 3 (23:26):
Yeah. Absolutely, words, did you challenge your mother? I don't know.
Mama will swing on me so quick.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
I don't.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
I don't know that I got that challenge. I might
have tried to challenge one time and never again. Yeah,
I still to this day.
Speaker 4 (23:40):
But I also love that healthy respect because to this day,
I don't care if she in that wheelchair I'm not
going to go talking crazy to her at all. That's
my mama, And I feel like you only give one
you respect your parents. Yeah, so how does she feel
about your success? If you ever to just sat down
and just talk to her about it, how does she
I'm not gonna cry, I'm not. I don't know that
she knows. Yeah, the Alzheimer's of it all, Yeah, I
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don't know that she knows. Almost every day I'm reminding her.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
Of who I am.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Does she remember? Does she remember you? I was gonna
ask her at.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
A days yes.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
Sometimes she doesn't, and I go and hide in the closet,
and that's the biggest acting job I've ever done. I'll
go put myself on speakerphone and I'll go call her daughter, Brandy,
and then I'll hide in the room and talk to her,
and I'll come back and it's like almost like the notebook.
Sometimes like she'd remembers sometimes sometimes she doesn't. I'll say,
you know, where do we live? She'll say Memphis because
she remembers Memphis. But then I'll point to myself on
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the screen and like she saw reasonable down and had
an attitude.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
She was so upset. I was like, Mama, it's not real.
I really did not touch that boys. But then then
I'll come back and then she'll be like, I was like,
that's me, and she was like really, you know.
Speaker 4 (24:45):
So it's just I've learned to not not make them
confused more by it and just be like, yeah, you
know what, it's okay, it's okay.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
That was one of the toughest things I've ever seen
my wife deal with. We were actually on the plane.
We were coming back from overseas Dubai, and we were
first class, and she got up and she was trying
to go downstairs because she said she had to go
to work, and they're like, go to work, this is work.
So she woke up. I was like, no, mom, just
standing up. But then she did not know who her
daughter was, and my wife started crying. Of course, she
was like how does my mom not know who she was?
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And then when I got up, she knew who I was,
and it was the weirdest. It was the weirdest thing,
like she knew me. Here was showing I'm just trying
to go to work, and I'm like, no, mama, this
is We're in the plane, but she didn't know who
my mom was, and but when we landed she did.
But it was just it hurts so much because I
was like, this is my mother, Like I'm her carregive,
I'm the one that makes her take a medicine.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Watch it and where on a plane.
Speaker 4 (25:36):
It's very My mom asked me for car keys the
other day. I just want to lay them on her lap,
like you just got it. At this point, we just
smile and played again. I said, where you're going, She's
not about to dry to turl from She's from Turrel, Arkansas.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
I was like okay.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Then it's like, well, it's a little late right now,
but I'm put the keys right here, I'm gonna go
to bed, you know, like I've learned.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
To play with it.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
But then I go back in that room and cry.
You know, I try not to cry in front of her,
but it is. It is the hardest thing ever. Like Mama,
I don't remember me when she asked me that time,
like what's your mama name you?
Speaker 3 (26:04):
And I was like Brandy. She's like, oh, me too,
and I was like, oh my gosh, she doesn't know
it's me.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
That's a question. What if you just keep her that
car crank.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
Up, listen, I've probably been happy. I would have been happy,
like girl getting getting the passion seats over.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Yes, what's the lesson from real life? Brandy? That Mercedes
that's really neat?
Speaker 3 (26:26):
Oh oh, that's a good question. Mercedes is pretty dope.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
Maybe that even when things look like they aren't gonna
go the way you want them to keep going, don't
let it break you. Because I feel like at times
you saw Mercedes break a little, but she always picked
herself back up. But I think I've gotten better with
as of late, just being like all right, it's gonna
have to work out because we a lot of times
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we freak out first and then we circle back.
Speaker 3 (26:55):
I'm getting better. Ain't there yet, but I'm getting better
with just being like, it's just what it is. It's
gonna work out.
Speaker 6 (27:01):
Yeah, So let's flip it. What's the lesson from Mercedes
that real life Brandy.
Speaker 3 (27:05):
Needs that hustle. Oh that's good.
Speaker 4 (27:10):
You know what, don't be afraid because I think about,
you know, Mercedes going after her gym, and I want
to write my book. So as you as you called
me out on this in this moment, why what you're
so scared of Brandy write your book? Yes, Brandy, okay,
all right, yeah she went after it anyway when things
and I always keep saying, yeah, I know why I
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got time to write.
Speaker 3 (27:33):
I got mom, I got this and that Mercedes figured
it out.
Speaker 6 (27:38):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
That was my girl.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Thank you so much. Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
That's right, it's Brandy Evans. Thank you for joining us.
Thank you so much everything.
Speaker 4 (27:48):
Thank you, thank you, and y'all make sure y'all get
y'all some caregiver merch. I have a caregiver strong Mercher
shop dot Brandyevans dot com and I have one that
say as a shirt that says I don't have the
capacity because it's not had a capacity sometimes, and one
that says Caregiver Strong, because it's a different type of
strength when you're a caregiver.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
All right, Brandy Evans is the Breakfast Club.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Good morning,
The Breakfast Club.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Morning everybody. It's DJ V just Hilarius Charlamagne the guy.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
We are the Breakfast Club.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
We got a special guest in the building. Indeed, she's
in season three A Reasonable Doubt, which starts on September eighteenth,
So it's out right now.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Brandy Evans, Welcome.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
I'm in New Yorker. I love New York. You do, yes?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
I do?
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Like literally now, I'm trying to figure out how I
can be like in the l A Coast and in
the in the East Coast. You're from Memphis, I am
wanting raised. Yes, okay?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Cool? And so you you you like New York? I do?
I feel like, you know, New York.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
People keep it real, and I feel like sometimes I
love you, La, but sometimes you'll be a little sensitive.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
So I think that's what I like about New York.
That's what up.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
We don't kind of keep it fake real, fake real
to each other.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Really.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Yea, he from New York?
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Okay? He from so you around? Oh you Southern like me?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
You already know?
Speaker 4 (01:03):
So what does that mean that you're just you're trying
to figure out folks out here.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
No, I've been figuring them out.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
And the.
Speaker 5 (01:11):
Figure about a long time ago. That's not long time ago.
Queens Okay, Okay, we were just talking about going to Queens.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Okay, that's me.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
If you've been to a Didty party, what he's gonna
lie and say, no, ask him.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
I've not been to Okay, Okay, if I have, it
was way do you see what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
There'm no judgment.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
I used to dance for Diddy, so she was.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Lori and Gibson all that. I never saw the things.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
People.
Speaker 6 (01:47):
You missed the lie because the lie was so good.
First of that, I ain't never been in no Didty party,
and if I did, it.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Was way way way back in. I was joking, joke.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I never been no damn Diddy party party.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
I ain't never been on one.
Speaker 5 (02:05):
I went home, got my mama down the stage.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I feel good. I feel amazing.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
It's caregiver appreciation months, spiking up taking care of my mama.
So this is my respite break too, just being out
here in New York doing what I want to do,
seeing some art, enjoying some cold weather. Because I feel
like we don't really get that in LA.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Who's all the caregivers out there? Man? Break down?
Speaker 6 (02:26):
What exactly do caregivers do because it's such an unappreciating
service that they that they provide.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
That's a good question.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
Everything there like for my for me, my mom Diana Harrington,
she has multiple scorosis, she has Alzheimer's and she's paraplegic.
So basically, it's like having my newborn with me at
all times.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
And it just depends on what you're dealing with.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
It could be from feedings, the doctor's appointments, emotional support,
just sitting with them, taking them out.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
You just never know.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
But caregivers need love and check on us too because
we ain't all right all the time.
Speaker 6 (02:58):
And you know, people, I'm sure I don't know if
you're through the system. You know, people get paid for
that not everywhere.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
That's I'm glad you mentioned that New York is a blessing.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
La is a blessing.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
I think I heard Florida has a little bit, But
everywhere else it's been frustrated. And that's why I had
to move Mama from Memphis.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
So and then I moved into Atlanta season one when
I was filming Pea Valley and had to move a
back because I lost all my benefits. So it is
that's that we just did care Fest out here, and
that's what we were talking about, getting the care because
people aren't doing that, and either all of us are
either going to be caregivers for somebody, or somebody's gonna
care for us at one time in our lives. So
I don't know what's up with the government. Who does
care for you?
Speaker 6 (03:33):
Then?
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Because you've been doing this for a long since, you
take care your friend. No, But I've.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Watched your journey just over the years, even before I
met you, and you are like your mom is your
baby in between rolls, and I even shot a project
with you and on a break you on the phone Mama,
making sure everybody is in place while you're doing the
things that you have to do to keep making the
money right, And then as soon as you finished shooting,
you go you with your mom, You wake up, you go.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
Back on set.
Speaker 4 (04:03):
That's right, because during Pretty Stone, I had Mama in
the hospital. So I was on the phone with doctors
and they were like cut and I was like holding
the doctor stayed while I did a scene on the
phone and came back. So yeah, rehearsing lines and remembering
the script and everything like that. I write my friends
and family, I will say more so my friends. No,
not to my family, but my friends are the ones
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that are out there with me, people like Ivri, who's
with me here? When I'm filming season one A p.
Valley had a caregiver walk out and I checked the
live camera stream. I'm like, what's going on? What's what's
going on in Mama's room. He had connected all of
my friends together. Then they took turns taking care of
my mother while I filmed because the caregiver walked out.
So my friends on my ride or dies Sasha, you
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know my best Descia. Sasha's at the house of Mama
now like they, I just have a good village, a
good chosen family, which is a blessing.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
Would you ever put your you know, a lot of
people talk about putting their moms or parents in the home.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Would you do that?
Speaker 4 (04:55):
And the Actually I promised my mom I never would
and she did go in one.
Speaker 3 (05:01):
So that's my story.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
On her birthday in twenty and fourteen, she had a fall.
I was dancing background for Lettercay at the time. My
little brother called me. He was like, Mama failed. She
has to be in a rehabilitation center, and I'm like
the one promise I made to Mama, which is never
put in a nurse home.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
She had to be in it, but never again.
Speaker 4 (05:17):
So that's when I fought for my life to start
teaching dance classes all over the country and asking every
celeb I knew, like, I don't need your money, but
just a repost is a blessing. And we raised fourteen
thousand dollars in four days, and I got my mama
out of that nursing home when that was December twenty first,
and be nine years I've had her since that day.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
The reason I ask is, you know, sometimes parents will say,
you know what I don't want to, you know, be
a problem with you, Like I don't want to, you know,
you know, mess up what you have, So put me
in a home so that way there is help. And
then there's some people that say, you know, I'll never
put my mind in a home. But having that kid
twenty four to seven, I mean, I'm sure you know
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it's almost impossible.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
Right then, it's nine thousand dollars a month, right to
be exact.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
So my wife's mother had Demni in all times, and
we had a full day, and if we didn't have
a nanny helping. It would be almost impossible because you know,
there's been times when she didne walked out the house
and just kept walking. There was times where you know
she didn't know where the toilet was. So you know,
it's like having a newborn at times. There's been times
when you know there's so much going on. So how
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do you deal with that twenty four seven and still
work and still take care of God?
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Because at this point it's just got to be all
God because I'm so exhausted.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
In New York.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
That's the first time I don't have the baby monitor
a bout my ear, and so when you hear that cough,
you don't know, just like with your baby, are you
choking or are you coughing? So then you're getting up,
running to the room trying to have that rest. It
is exhausting. It is very exhausting. But I also don't
knock people that have to do that because everybody's situation
is different. I think that if you have to put
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them there, you got to stay on top of them.
I was stalking the home like I was showing up.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
I was popping up.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
At one point, they was like, we feel like you're
watching us I am, AM, I am, because it's my
mom and that where she was. My mom probably wouldn't
be alive right now if I wouldn't have gotten her.
One time I popped up and Mama was like laid
over with a fever and I had to break her fever.
By the way, you can break her fever with alcohol,
just rub it on the baby's back. Mama taught me
that when I was a little girl, rubbed rubbing alcohol
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on the back. But yeah, I honestly don't know. I'm
still trying to. I'm working through it with therapy and
just trying to find my peace and taking more vacations
and things for myself too. And that's hard too, because
now Mama had a meltdown about me coming to New
York because she was like, why are you leaving me?
And I can you know with kids. I know y'all overstanding,
you don't want to leave the babies, but we gotta work.
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We got to have some time for us because I
came for from the empty cup.
Speaker 6 (07:40):
I love this conversation so much because years years and
years years years ago, God bless the dead, Andre Herrel
called me and had a whole conversation about this exactly
and introduced me to the world of caregivers and introduced
me to a woman named Gina Lisa Montecero. And she's
the founder of the Medicated Advisory Group and they're a
consulting company who assists elders and family caregivers.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
And so, you know, she helped.
Speaker 6 (08:02):
My family with some stuff, and she helped a lot
of my friends. I think it's just something that people
don't know about it and we.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Don't think about it until we have to be in
that situation. Because I never thought about it, and then
I realized, oh, this medicare, Medicaid all the different things
like it's hard and if you don't have it, you
can't get your supplies, you can't pay and paying for
these supplies at the house is very expensive if you
don't have that help.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
That's what Gina Lisa does.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
She helps you just navigate the help get system because
it's complex, yes.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
And they don't want us to know about it at all.
They definitely don't want us to know about it.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
So, yeah, we got more with Brandy Evans when we
come back. You know her from Reasonable Doubts. She also
plays Mercedes on Pea Valley. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning,
(09:06):
it is so.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Silly, indeed, and let's go in need you beg.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
Went all I can think about it, sis, I say
you least I.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Know I didn't have to walk away.
Speaker 3 (09:22):
All I had to do us ask for space.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I'm telling you beyond your way when I told Judiph
Bob back, so can you.
Speaker 7 (09:32):
Come back up your coup warning everybody d J Indeed,
just hilarious, Charlamagne God, we are the Breakfast Club.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Were still kicking with Brandy Evans. You know her from
Reasonable Doubt season three. Also she plays Mercedes on Peace Valley.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
Yes, and so you said therapy, so you are currently Yes,
I gotta find a new therapist though the last one
I had, I'm like, it's been a minute and she
ain't really answer to that phone, So.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
I need to find me.
Speaker 4 (10:08):
But then it's finding the right people, and they're trusting
people too, because I'm like, it's like, I don't really
want you to talk about what I.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Do, but I just want to.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
I want to be Brandy. I don't want to be
the actor. I just want to be Brandy the caregiver
and just talk about things. What about y'all?
Speaker 3 (10:23):
Is that hard for y'all to do when you go
to therapy. Y'all go to therapy.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
I'm on my.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
Yeah, trying to find that right fit. It's like, yeah,
I haven't I heard it. It's like I haven't started
therapy yet. I would like to, but I just I
haven't started yet. But I hear that a lot in
people like my son's father. He's like, yo, I just
can't find the right person, you know what I mean?
And then he also battles with trusting, like no, how
can this person tell me anything? How can he fix
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me if he never been through what I've been through,
if they don't look like me or you know. So
he's battling like trying to find a black man to talk.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Well, I got a good one for him.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
We need to share. Talk about that.
Speaker 6 (11:03):
My first my first therapist, I wanted somebody that was
completely opposite, so I was looking. I actually was looking
for like an Asian woman, but I ended up with
a white woman and she was cool. But it is
something about having a black male therapist who's culturally competent.
You don't got to explain too much a lot of
things he already understands. Yeah, yeah, now, but you as
gonna be kind of hard because he had to deal
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with you. So I needed to, you know what, excuse me.
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Like how I'm doing.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
I'm doing good.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
I'm very better now, anyway, better next year.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
Any season three? Reasonable Doubt.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
I'm so proud of you. What drew you to the
character Monica? Well, first of all, I wasn't drawn at
all to the character Monica because she's a mess. But
I was drawn to the show total opposite. So I've
always wanted to be on Reasonable Doubt. I've been watching
the show. It was on my vision board, and I
want to do something different than Pa Valley. So but
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then when Ramula called about the director session, I was like.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
Oh, my lord, Monica.
Speaker 4 (12:09):
And I didn't find out till after I auditioned what
was happening. They gave me the storyline in the arc
of this and I was like, Oh, this is gonna
be good.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
And they finish drag.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Me and these internet streets. But that's when I knew
it was gonna be worth it. And it's a great story,
not a great, but an important story to tell. Because
have y'all seen it yet? It's okay if you have
no okay, all right? So I'm playing an agent and
there's this child star named Ozzie Edwards. And just like
most child stars they growing up with, you know, they
got the money, the fame. But the gag is I'm
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his agent who's been molesting him since he was thirteen
years old, which is terrible. But a lot of times
people let that pass with boys because they think, you know,
it's dope that there's an older woman trying to turn
him on.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
But it's not cool. So he kept it hiding.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
The secret comes out and it's a gag. And I
have six nephews trying to be funny.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
I can't share nothing. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 6 (13:10):
I'm asking, Yeah, some fun are you?
Speaker 1 (13:14):
No? No, But I didn't want to make sure he
wasn't triggered.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
That's what happened to him. He was blested by an
older woman. Yes, but the reason he wanted it to whitt.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Because she had a Jerry.
Speaker 6 (13:28):
I didn't like to smell her, that's so. But I
actually didn't like what she was doing to me. Okay,
but I told myself he was just smelling her Jerry
Crow when I was eight.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
Okay, yes, you know what different things to cope this
this young man. On episode nine, the younger version of
me says to him, Oh, I'm sorry to know you
were gay, which is terrible.
Speaker 3 (13:47):
And that's what I feel like some.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
Women will do to young boys too, to try to
push them off and make them feel like, you know,
that's why you want. Yeah, they do all types of stuff.
And and she was wrong, not you. Well, he was
talking about drink girl, then.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Your therapist.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Okay, but then when he got old it happened again.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
He would sit on laps.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
It was just.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
This isn't much work. It was and you gonna say
you like it? You would have been ugly too, And
I'm doing all this work. What well? The finale dropped
last week. Okay, okay.
Speaker 4 (14:27):
And at the end because his his attorney Jacks, who
is Amiazi, she plays the star in the show. Well,
she finds out what happened. She puts Monic on the
stand and it comes out to the family everybody, and
then at the end Monica decides to go in and
shoot the place up.
Speaker 3 (14:44):
And we don't know who she shot.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
So the emotional place you've ever had to go to
for a role with it.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
That probably that absolutely.
Speaker 4 (14:50):
I got six nephews and so just to think about
my baby boys, like i'd be in jail.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
Or hell, did you think I got that? Absolutely not, because.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
I think it's my job as an act to tell
the stories, even the ones that are difficult. And I've
had fans that are like, I can't believe you do that.
After Mercedes, we love mistakes, Why would you come do this?
Maybe they'll make you pay attention to your baby boy
when they come home. Maybe they'll make you ask different
questions or if you see him shifting. So that's why
I always want to take on roles that tell important stories. Yeah,
(15:20):
we work out. I love working out, going hiking. Honestly,
I'd be with Mama so much that I just have
to just tap away from it. But yeah, just stay
in touch with who I am and Step twelve of
the actor the actor Handbook for me is let it go.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
So it's not real.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
I was gonna ask, so, how are you with your nephews?
Do you have different conversations with them now, like, hey,
let me talk for a second.
Speaker 4 (15:40):
Oh, always, because I know DJ, because I know you listening. Yes,
that my nephews are cute too, So I've already had
that situation with them with older women, and I pick
up the phone and call.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
I told one girl. I was like, I will find
you and.
Speaker 4 (15:55):
You will go to jail, and I'm just gonna leave
it at that.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
So they try to hol money enough, Absolutely, Jesus.
Speaker 4 (16:01):
Said, absolutely, they do it all the time. I mean,
so I'm not crazy so seeing this, I also did
my research on it.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
But I've also seen it.
Speaker 4 (16:10):
I'm the only girl, so I've seen how the women act.
Speaker 3 (16:13):
You know.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
You know your brother find he's married and he's younger,
you know, so, yeah, do you.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Look at people?
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Sorry, do you look at people differently when you see
like so not a big thing in our community is
you'll see like a thirty year old dating an eighteen
year old or a forty year old dating a twenty
year old. Do you look at people differently now because
of that, because of the role you play?
Speaker 4 (16:31):
No, I don't think so long as they are of age.
I need them to be of age, because I mean,
as long as they've grown, that's their business.
Speaker 3 (16:39):
I stay out of it.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
But longer but under age, I'm absolutely, yes, I'm snitching.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
I think I snitch.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
Is very important that you did bring up the fact
that when it's like a double standards.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yeah. When when it's a woman, right, who is older
going after a guy?
Speaker 4 (16:54):
I mean, you know, a young guy, people tend to
like leave that.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Yeah it's okay, Oh you did that, that's what you
told her. It's not okay.
Speaker 4 (17:01):
The whole time you don't even know how the young
person is thinking. These young men, their minds are not
even like they trying to be cool at the end
of the day, and the whole time it's like, damn,
I was really less what I was.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
That's you wouldn't even make jokes about it if it
was a woman.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
No, that's that's a point. That is a huge point.
Speaker 4 (17:19):
No one's making a joke about it when it's someone.
Why are we joking about it when it's man. No,
that's a wonderful question.
Speaker 5 (17:24):
No, for sure, don't try to figure it even now, Yo,
you make fun of yourself.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Are you cold? I'm really hurting on the inside. No.
Speaker 6 (17:37):
When Brandy, when you think about your evolution from dancer
the actress, what part of your past shows up the
most in your your acting today?
Speaker 4 (17:45):
I think as a dancer, we learned how to take direction.
We learn how to take direction quick because you ain't
got time for that and if you if you were
Laurie and Gibson, she said, I need you to point
that toe and get to the end of the stage
by the next eight count.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
You're gonna figure it out.
Speaker 4 (17:57):
So I feel like I took that, especially with the
on p Valley because we had to do dancing and
things of that sort. I was able to take that direction.
So I think directors enjoy that. And I've always heard
that dancers are the best actors because they can take
direction easily, and we're not.
Speaker 3 (18:12):
We're not. We have thick skins.
Speaker 4 (18:13):
So you literally could yell at me and be like
that sucks, and be like, for real, what you need
on the next tape to make it not? Yeah, Like
I just it's real hard for me to get in
my feelings about that.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
We got more with Brandy Evans when we come back.
You know her from reasonable doubts. She also pleased Mercedes
on pe Valley. It's the breakfast club, Good morning, running.
Speaker 8 (18:32):
Bat You going up, They're not going up. They're not
you going up. They're not she going up. The night
she going up, They're not she going up. They're not
she going up.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
They're not she going up there night start calling our phones.
Speaker 8 (18:49):
She going up good night, blowing not.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
Lining you the bus to type, knowing that you're lying.
Speaker 7 (18:55):
We go for the height.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Catch up.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
I'm behind.
Speaker 8 (19:00):
Ye ain't know how much you know?
Speaker 3 (19:02):
When I drive?
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Made me know what I like? And then I said,
why let me go for you?
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Who going up? You going morning?
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Everybody is DJ Ving, Jesse, Hilarius, Charlamagne, the guy we
are the Breakfast Club. Were still kicking it with Brandy Evans,
you know her from Reasonable Doubt season three. Also she
plays Mercedes on p Valley. Charlamagne.
Speaker 6 (19:30):
You know, people talk about the physicality of Pea Valley
all the time, but what's something mental about that role
of Mercedes that people don't realize.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
Oh that's a really good question. My back is still
in the workman's comp though right now.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
But I think mentally for me, let me just say,
because I talked to high school English, so then I
jumped into that accent so hard back home that a
lot of times on my friend be like, you can
you get out of chuck atleasta because what happened to
your like what happened to your dialect? So I feel
like it shifted that. But mentally, we were filming so
(20:04):
late at night, you almost like you almost felt like.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
You were a part of that world so much.
Speaker 4 (20:09):
You're going to bed when the when the sun is up,
and then you're going to work and we're we're literally
on set at two three in the morning and then
going to bed at seven am, like you were really
immersed in that world. So I think that this season
you're gonna see some things and you'll understand when you
see it that it took a lot for me to
get some of those things out of my head. Season
(20:31):
two was tough because of my daughter and the abortion
scene and all of that information. But I also my
daughter passed away, so I had a steel birth and
so she would have been the same age. Lyric would
have been the same age as Azaria or Cherika on
p Valley. So that part, you know, mentally for me
was tough because I felt like Azaria, it was like
(20:54):
my daughter in real life, so things like that, detaching
from that at times so that those scenes were emotion
Those were the most emotional, but they were the most
beautiful to me because it felt like I got my
baby in a sense. It's like God gave me a
Zaria who played Terika in that same age.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
So it was like I was able to have my
baby girl in season two of pe Valley.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Now that you say that, yeah, you were more your
Mercedes definitely was more emotional, and there was a lot
more scenes where the sis crime to trying to think
all the steaks at hand of trying to save her baby,
and that was the whole thing, just trying to make
life better for herself and her child and then her
mother exactly exactly.
Speaker 3 (21:33):
It was very tumultuous, and that was my real life
a little bit not like that.
Speaker 4 (21:37):
And now she wasn't Patrice Woodbine, but me and my
mom had a tumultuous relationship.
Speaker 3 (21:41):
So I was able to And who was that in life? No,
not just in life. I think it was just that
mother daughter dynamics. Sometimes that could just be like that.
Speaker 4 (21:53):
But when I start caring for her, you know that
had to because you gotta forgive.
Speaker 3 (21:57):
But I was able to use Pee Valley season.
Speaker 4 (22:00):
Wanted to get out everything I'd never say to my mama,
and oh I get to say what now? Okay, So
just healing, healing through p Valley. I feel like that
was a very healing.
Speaker 6 (22:10):
That'd be a great segue because I was going to
have to playing that dynamic change how you see generational trauma.
Speaker 4 (22:17):
Absolutely absolutely, I was just talking to someone about that
certain things isn't necessary, isn't necessary to get that whooping
isn't necessary to beat them? Can you actually talk to
them and tell them what's going on? You know?
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Can we can we communicate better?
Speaker 4 (22:30):
So I do think playing those different roles, you don't
have to yell and scream and and be little, you know,
because the hope this is the same person that you're belittling.
It's the same person you want to come to you
and trust that you can. They can tell you their
deep secrets.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
Come to me, come to me. We don't want to
be scared.
Speaker 4 (22:46):
So that that, to me made me pay attention to
you know what, if I'm I'm blessed to be able
to be a parent, I would parents so differently. But
I also the older I get, I also know we
all do the best we can because I feel like
all of us, you know, our kids could probably say
the same thing like.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
When you did this, you did that. You're doing the
best you can.
Speaker 4 (23:05):
And the older you get, you start realizing, you know what,
my mam Mama really did.
Speaker 6 (23:09):
The best she could, But I do realize is a
parent every child challenges you do. Absolutely, Like you think
you're gonna parent all of them the same, You can't. No, No,
I mean there's a core foundation of love, right, I
know you love them, but no, they all will challenge
you in.
Speaker 1 (23:25):
A different way.
Speaker 3 (23:26):
Yeah. Absolutely, words, did you challenge your mother? I don't know.
Mama will swing on me so quick.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
I don't.
Speaker 3 (23:34):
I don't know that I got that challenge. I might
have tried to challenge one time and never again. Yeah,
I still to this day.
Speaker 4 (23:40):
But I also love that healthy respect because to this day,
I don't care if she in that wheelchair I'm not
going to go talking crazy to her at all. That's
my mama, And I feel like you only give one
you respect your parents. Yeah, so how does she feel
about your success? If you ever to just sat down
and just talk to her about it, how does she
I'm not gonna cry, I'm not. I don't know that
she knows. Yeah, the Alzheimer's of it all, Yeah, I
(24:03):
don't know that she knows. Almost every day I'm reminding her.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
Of who I am.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Does she remember? Does she remember you? I was gonna
ask her at.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
A days yes.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
Sometimes she doesn't, and I go and hide in the closet,
and that's the biggest acting job I've ever done. I'll
go put myself on speakerphone and I'll go call her daughter, Brandy,
and then I'll hide in the room and talk to her,
and I'll come back and it's like almost like the notebook.
Sometimes like she'd remembers sometimes sometimes she doesn't. I'll say,
you know, where do we live? She'll say Memphis because
she remembers Memphis. But then I'll point to myself on
(24:32):
the screen and like she saw reasonable down and had
an attitude.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
She was so upset. I was like, Mama, it's not real.
I really did not touch that boys. But then then
I'll come back and then she'll be like, I was like,
that's me, and she was like really, you know.
Speaker 4 (24:45):
So it's just I've learned to not not make them
confused more by it and just be like, yeah, you
know what, it's okay, it's okay.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
That was one of the toughest things I've ever seen
my wife deal with. We were actually on the plane.
We were coming back from overseas Dubai, and we were
first class, and she got up and she was trying
to go downstairs because she said she had to go
to work, and they're like, go to work, this is work.
So she woke up. I was like, no, mom, just
standing up. But then she did not know who her
daughter was, and my wife started crying. Of course, she
was like how does my mom not know who she was?
(25:14):
And then when I got up, she knew who I was,
and it was the weirdest. It was the weirdest thing,
like she knew me. Here was showing I'm just trying
to go to work, and I'm like, no, mama, this
is We're in the plane, but she didn't know who
my mom was, and but when we landed she did.
But it was just it hurts so much because I
was like, this is my mother, Like I'm her carregive,
I'm the one that makes her take a medicine.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Watch it and where on a plane.
Speaker 4 (25:36):
It's very My mom asked me for car keys the
other day. I just want to lay them on her lap,
like you just got it. At this point, we just
smile and played again. I said, where you're going, She's
not about to dry to turl from She's from Turrel, Arkansas.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
I was like okay.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Then it's like, well, it's a little late right now,
but I'm put the keys right here, I'm gonna go
to bed, you know, like I've learned.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
To play with it.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
But then I go back in that room and cry.
You know, I try not to cry in front of her,
but it is. It is the hardest thing ever. Like Mama,
I don't remember me when she asked me that time,
like what's your mama name you?
Speaker 3 (26:04):
And I was like Brandy. She's like, oh, me too,
and I was like, oh my gosh, she doesn't know
it's me.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
That's a question. What if you just keep her that
car crank.
Speaker 4 (26:11):
Up, listen, I've probably been happy. I would have been happy,
like girl getting getting the passion seats over.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Yes, what's the lesson from real life? Brandy? That Mercedes
that's really neat?
Speaker 3 (26:26):
Oh oh, that's a good question. Mercedes is pretty dope.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
Maybe that even when things look like they aren't gonna
go the way you want them to keep going, don't
let it break you. Because I feel like at times
you saw Mercedes break a little, but she always picked
herself back up. But I think I've gotten better with
as of late, just being like all right, it's gonna
have to work out because we a lot of times
(26:53):
we freak out first and then we circle back.
Speaker 3 (26:55):
I'm getting better. Ain't there yet, but I'm getting better
with just being like, it's just what it is. It's
gonna work out.
Speaker 6 (27:01):
Yeah, So let's flip it. What's the lesson from Mercedes
that real life Brandy.
Speaker 3 (27:05):
Needs that hustle. Oh that's good.
Speaker 4 (27:10):
You know what, don't be afraid because I think about,
you know, Mercedes going after her gym, and I want
to write my book. So as you as you called
me out on this in this moment, why what you're
so scared of Brandy write your book? Yes, Brandy, okay,
all right, yeah she went after it anyway when things
and I always keep saying, yeah, I know why I
(27:32):
got time to write.
Speaker 3 (27:33):
I got mom, I got this and that Mercedes figured
it out.
Speaker 6 (27:38):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
That was my girl.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Thank you so much. Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
That's right, it's Brandy Evans. Thank you for joining us.
Thank you so much everything.
Speaker 4 (27:48):
Thank you, thank you, and y'all make sure y'all get
y'all some caregiver merch. I have a caregiver strong Mercher
shop dot Brandyevans dot com and I have one that
say as a shirt that says I don't have the
capacity because it's not had a capacity sometimes, and one
that says Caregiver Strong, because it's a different type of
strength when you're a caregiver.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
All right, Brandy Evans is the Breakfast Club.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Good morning,
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