834 - Dan & Andrea: Session One

• Promotion for MyEternalVitality.com and hormone therapy benefits for men and women
• Discussion of Andrea’s improved health through hormone treatment from Dr. Powers
• Explanation of bioidentical testosterone and its effects on energy, libido, and mood
• Mention of free consultation and paid blood tests at My Eternal Vitality
• Colette joins the show as a guest therapist and neighbor
• Colette shares details about her therapy offerings, including couple intensives
• Dan and Colette discuss the effectiveness of in-person therapy over telehealth
• Telemedicine's role during COVID and its ongoing benefits for access
• Dan jokes about doing multiple telehealth sessions simultaneously
• Crystal is surprised by Colette's appearance and frustrated by lack of notice
• Tom and Dan discuss the tactic of delivering uncomfortable news last minute
• Tom claims he uses this method to reduce long-term stress in others
• Andrea prefers being informed early to process and accept plans
• Dan jokes about controlling decisions for Andrea, including ordering food
• Colette comments on Dan’s appearance change and his personal challenge
• Story of neighbor mistaking Dan for a mailman due to his new look
• Daniel and Andrea have been married 15 years and together for 20
• Andrea was much younger when they met, leading to some initial judgment
• Andrea was an intern at a radio station when they met, and Daniel was already established
• The two met socially through mutual friends and wing house outings
• Their relationship started after Daniel drunkenly asked Andrea out
• The couple bonded over a shared love of the band Faith No More
• On their second date, Andrea blacked out from drinking and Daniel took care of her
• Andrea woke up in different clothes at Daniel’s house after the blackout
• Daniel sold his truck after Andrea puked in it
• Mutual friend Scott York helped carry Andrea down stairs during that incident
• Andrea was inexperienced and studious at the time they began dating
• Andrea was Daniel’s second girlfriend and had no previous sexual partners
• Their parents knew each other before they were born
• Andrea was very independent and emotionally resilient even as a young woman
• Andrea’s emotional independence made her more attractive to Daniel
• Andrea’s indifference made Daniel more interested
• Daniel admits he creates most of the bad moods in the relationship
• Andrea is logical, even-tempered, and avoids stewing in negativity
• Daniel tends to dwell and spiral, while Andrea prefers resolving issues quickly
• Daniel jokes that their work marriage mirrors their home marriage but with better sex
• Andrea prefers to move on from fights, while Daniel tends to circle around topics
• Dan admits he rehashes arguments when he feels unresolved emotional pain
• Colette identifies Dan’s behavior as protective coping rooted in past hurt
• Dan acknowledges his coping mechanisms are poor but is becoming more self-aware
• Andrea reveals Dan was cheated on in past relationships, influencing his current reactions
• Colette explains relational trauma and PTSD can resurface in secure relationships
• Dan discusses his lingering anger and fixation on not being taken advantage of
• Dan admits he tends to seek revenge and emotional intensity for a chemical high