March 19, 2025 • 19 mins
Ashlee details a cheating scandal that is diabolical
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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I want to tread.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Really lightly here on this because I don't and I
certainly don't want to say names, but I don't know
what's in the water, and I don't know if it's
just me or if anybody else is kind of going
through this with their friends group.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I'm thirty eight years old. I've been married for four
years now.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
You know, I don't ever think that there's a an
eight you know, you hit that age where you're like, oh, oh,
my friends are getting married.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I never thought that I hit an aide.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I'd be like, a ton of my friends are getting divorced,
and I've seen it.
Speaker 4 (01:06):
You have, yes, because I think you get to a
certain point with the relationship, espcially when it comes to marriage,
where you it's like a breaking point is going to
make it or not. And they say it's around the
seven years for some people. I don't know if that's
an average, but I've heard of that.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yes, the Volcered is definitely on the up and up.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Yeah. I I am friendly with this girl.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I would She's certainly not like something crazy in my
life is happening. I'm not picking up the phone to
call her. But her and I we we have similar schedules.
We have kids that are damn near the exact same age,
So her and I have always kind of bonded on
that level with oh my god, the kids are doing
this at.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
This point, and we're up, we're working like it's you know.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
And she reached out to me over the weekend and
I she tells me the story, and I said to her,
she tells me the story, and then she says the
line of like just you know, wanted you to know
like that I'm living this nightmare, like this is what
I'm going through right now. And I said, are you
telling me this because you want me to talk about
(02:06):
it or you're comfortable with me talking about it?
Speaker 3 (02:08):
And she's like absolutely, like you can talk about it.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
She's like, I just I think getting it off my
chest makes me feel a little bit better.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
But I just wanted you to know type of thing.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
So I hit her up again this morning, being like,
are you positive because this.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Story is.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Insane, like it sounds. I'm going to tell you, guys,
what's going on with this poor woman, and it kind
of will sound like I'm making it up.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
You told me the story, and there are elements of
the story that are so dirty that I've never heard before.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
There this is like.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Diabolical type stuff. Okay, so she's married.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
And she has I don't want to go too me details,
but let me just say she has stood by this
man through times where I don't know if any everybody would.
She has stood by that man through through thick and thin. Okay,
we'll say that. I'm going to cut some details out,
but basically, she had a weird feeling in her stomach
like something was going on. He was staying out late,
(03:03):
weird hours, doesn't have a job right now, and so
things just like kind of weren't adding up. She got
the feeling like it might be time for me to
check his phone, because when I ask him what's going on,
I'm getting fed answers that I just don't know if
I necessarily believe. And we have two little babies in
the house, Like I said, same exact ages. Damn near
(03:24):
spot on to Leyla and Daisy, so little kids, you know,
under three. He falls asleep, She takes his phone, she
puts it over his sleeping face.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Gets the face ID gets in.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Finding out what she found out in the bathroom of
her home while her two little kids were sleeping. I
can't even put myself in it or imagine what it
would feel like, because it's it's that sickening. But not
only was he having an affair with a twenty two
year old woman behind his wife's back, but do you
know or the affair was happening in their home while
(04:05):
she and the two kids were sleeping. He would sneak
her in and he would bring her down.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
To their bace.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
What no stop what for him? You said?
Speaker 2 (04:15):
While they were home, while my friend was sleeping, what
and her two babies were sleeping, He would sneak the
twenty two year old into the home, take her downstairs
to the basement, and they would live out their little
love affair in his office.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Imagine doing that like the works to do that.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
A child wakes up, the wife.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Wakes up like, no, you can't even And by the way,
the messages were like I'm at the corner, I'm hiding
behind the car, Go hey, go outside, put the dog out,
so the ring camera goes off and I can sneak
in the back like like it. It makes me want
to vomit, even saying it's I just couldn't. I just couldn't.
(05:02):
Couldn't believe it when she was telling me it, especially
because again she has stood by this man for so long,
And of course I asked her, I said, when you
know he was caught. He ended up waking up because
the dog barked and he realized that his phone was gone.
Mind you, she's she's so smart, because she said she
she has read enough stories and seen enough things that
(05:23):
she knew not to go into his regular text messages
but to go into his deleted messages.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
So she never even hit the text.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Message, and she went right to deleted messages, and there
were thousands of exchanges between them, because I would have
gone right to like the regular text.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
And be like, oh, there's other here.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
She found out how long it was going on for.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
Months and what's the age difference? Because you mentioned that
she's twenty something, right, she's only two.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
They're probably our age in their in their day thirties.
Speaker 4 (05:48):
She's not gonna work out.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Yeah yeah, hey, she fait oh wait wait wait wait
wait wait she facetimed. Her girl answers yeh off his phone,
off his phone?
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Hey baby, and then basically it's like I don't know.
She calls her out.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
She's like, you you ruined a family. You understand that,
like you, you've ruined our family. You're coming in my
house and having sex with my husband while I'm asleep
in our bedroom upstairs. Like this is diabolical level type stuff.
And the girls like, I don't know what you're talking about.
I don't know what you're talking over and over and
over again.
Speaker 4 (06:20):
Yeah at twenty two, you don't understand what you've just done.
You don't understand you say that this marriage has been over.
If this guy's brave enough to sneak somebody in the crib.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Why are you sneaking?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Why They sit her down when it starts like and
just say, listen, I can't do this before you. Let's
delete her. Let's delete that she's sleeping in the home.
You're you're your AMA's just cursed your kids, Like, yeah,
this is disgusting on the next level, like you say,
your three year old wakes up, gets out of her bed,
and comes downstairs to look for you.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
What are you going to say.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
This?
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Like, fired me up?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Man?
Speaker 1 (06:57):
This man been checked out, because.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
That's what I mean.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
I'm hiding behind the car. Let me in, Like I'm
down the street. Where should I park? Like and by
the way, shame on him because she's twenty two years
old and she's very easily going to be persuaded.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
She's a baby.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
And I'm not saying that there is a way to
cheat a respectful way, because it's disrespectful, right, but there
is a better way to cheat than do it at
home with your family upstairs.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Right, Some Sum's not right, bro, there's more to this story.
Sum's not right. This guy, this guy cannot be this
d I've not met a man in life who would
do it this way wait for the kids to leave,
which is still savagery, but to do it while people
asleep in your house.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
I know what you're saying that it seems almost unbelievable.
This is what it is.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
This is what this man like you don't care about
the kids, like don't you don't.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
And that's probably an element of this too that he
wanted to because that's entire world, the world up there.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Yes, yeah, it's like I'm gonna do it. There's so
much I almost feel like they were already split and
she knew. I don't know, I don't know. This is crazy,
I did say to her.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I said, like, you know, leading up to this now
I know, I again, two little kids at that age,
I'm going through it myself, like it's hard to prioritize,
like your relationship and your marriage.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
You have to really work at it.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I get that, but this is the mother of your children,
and no matter what, that is the mother of your children.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Who's busting her. He doesn't have a job.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
She's paying for everything, to the point where like she
would say to him, can you grab yogurt for the
for the kids?
Speaker 3 (08:35):
And he's like, no, I can't have money like that type.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
He must have been walking all over this woman for
years and he's just like, I'll do whatever I want.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Were they still intimate like him and the wife did
not ask, because that's a whole.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Nother thing that it opens up and do for years,
even saying it again. It just doesn't feel really. I've
said it to her a million times and she goes
she like it choked me up. Talking to her yesterday,
She's like, cause, I'm living a nightmare because I think
about now trying to raise your two kids by yourself
because he's gone, he does you know, he's moved on now.
(09:08):
He wants to be with this other girl and he
wants to live that life. Yeah, he can't give her
any money because he has no money to give. And
she's like, here, I am like trying to figure this
out all out by myself.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
And she's done with him, like completely right, completely.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Done, done, done done, because like I said, they have
a history where she has stood by him through thick
and thin.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
I'll say that.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
And it was it cheating or was it like no
something else?
Speaker 1 (09:32):
No infidelity? This was the first time of infidelity she
knows of. Yeah, Yo, this story is not adding up.
It doesn't. This guy, this guy jumped out the window
first time cheating and he went right to the crazy.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
Well, he probably cheated before, but the level that he
went with this one was.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Like the comfortability you have to have and then no care.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I just again feel like the brazen, disrespecial and beyond her,
like you don't care that she catch you fine, but
like you're little bit.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
He is upstairs.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
That's what I'm saying. He's way too comfortable with the
disrespect for it to be the first time.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
She feels so alone. And I don't blame her.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
She just feels like she's she kept saying to me
over and over, I feel like I'm living a nightmare.
And then she has to go to her job and
act like everything's okay, and you know, go home, and
then mom immediately and she said to me, she's like,
you know how it is, Ash, It's like you put
one kid down and the other one's like, pick me up,
pick me up, pick me up, And they don't know
why Dad isn't there. And there's there's so many like
levels to it, and it just it makes me feel
(10:32):
so awful because I try to tell her, I'm like,
not not that somebody's gonna be like, oh, same thing
happened to me, But I'm like, you're not alone, like
this happens to other people at this store.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Like again, the level, the levels of this, like he's
he's the scum of the earth.
Speaker 4 (10:47):
Yeah, I had a friend who got caught cheating uh
in his own home multiple times by his wife. She
took him back, but I think the wife felt so
hurt that he was doing it in their family.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Yeah, that's a big no. That's stat not saying that
cheating is good and driveway, doing down the street, doing
on the block. But in the crib while.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Your babies are sleeping in your wife, in your in
your marrital bed above you.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
It seems like a weird, crazy fetish type thing.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
I'm telling you, yes, something about he's nuts bro, because
he likes that.
Speaker 6 (11:25):
I do.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
I do think I think he's think he's an Yes.
I think he just thinks he's above you all of it.
Like Amy is in Wooster, Hi, Amy, good.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
Morning, Hi, good money.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Obviously she my friend's going through right now. I keep
telling her over and over. You're not alone.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
This happens to other people. Maybe not this exact same story, obviously.
What are your thoughts when you hear it?
Speaker 6 (11:51):
Men always chop woman with kids, and I sit around
talking about woman chapped men with kids. But men come
and go, they get women and they leave, and then
the woman shopping the kids to try to raise thembody
myself and they're out taking the grass of green and
someone else, building a family with someone else, or thinking
that life is great because they get to thrill. Like
you said, I was that little. Oh my god, I
get this attention. I'm this, I'm down, I'm cool. I
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think I'm the man. I think I can put my
king and any woman that walks by.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
Yeah, are you obviously? Are you in this situation?
Speaker 6 (12:22):
I have been in this situation before. Yes, I was
going to man for twenty years and I had a
baby and he got up and left it off the
way and thought the grass was green and somewhere else,
And I got left to friend from my son by myself,
and I figured it out. It was very hard, but
I'm here standing those tall with my son.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
He wanted to kill with.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
You, Amy, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
He said he wanted to kill with you and you
had his kid or you just so happen.
Speaker 6 (12:46):
Yeah, we went together for twenty years since I was
sixteen years old. Once we had a baby and all
things got a little bit rocky and he just got
up and left and thought grasses being everywhere else gotcha crazy?
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Amy.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
I'm so sorry you went through that, but you're right
I said the same thing to her. She will figure
it out just like you did. And thank you for
this very.
Speaker 6 (13:04):
Hard, it's very hard, but you know you just got
to put one in front of the kids.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Yeah, thank you for the call.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
The Morris code that was going on the back wash,
that's how we were saying, no, this is again. It's
one of those things where I think she needed to
get it off her chest. Is she feels better talking
about it, and I again, I can't. I can't say
it again and again and again. She will figure it out.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Yeah, everything happens for a reason.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
She's going to be but I you know, I think
about the days where the fireman's working at twenty four
and I'm home by myself, and I'm like counting down
the seconds until he gets back, so that it's a
like we can tag team. The thought of two kids
by yourself, that young full time, it's a lot. Yeah,
it's it's a lot. Because you do this as a
as a as a team effort, and then the team is.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
Gone, you're unpacking the baggage of how you got to
that point too, which is a whole nother thing she's
gonna deal with for years.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
I wish I could just I wish I could say names.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
I wish I could go off because I have there's
so many there's so many things, they're so so so
many things.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
Good will she be the last person.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
To amazing mother. She's in she has an amazing career,
she's insanely talented.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
If she if she just reaches out, even on Facebook
or some you'll find a lot of women will support you.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
If anybody's listening and been through a similar situation, I
know she's listening. Maybe you could pump her up a
little bit. Six one seven nine three one one nine
four five. That is six one seven nine three one
one nine four five. Good morning, Hi everybody, Good morning.
It's actually in the gym in morning show. I again
very careful because this this situation is it just happened.
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And when I was talking with my friend who's kind
of going through it, she was like, I want you
to talk about it because I feel so alone in it.
I feel like I'm living out a nightmare every single
day of my life. I had these two kids, under
this preconceived notion that we were going to be happily married,
and you know, raise these these two babies, and he
was having a whole affair the twenty two year old
woman in.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
Our home.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
While I was asleep, Like, honestly, think I didn't get
this detail, But I bet you there was nowhere else
for them to go because she's twenty two and he
has no money.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Where they're gonna go a car? The car she rode in.
Speaker 4 (15:13):
But then I guess he can't really leave and go
do it the way he was.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Guys, he was like faking out the ring camera to
sneak her in, Like it's it's sickening. We don't have
a ton of time, but I know she's listening, and
I just want her to feel a little less alone
in this.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
Sarah is in Lowell.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
Sarah, you had a two and a three year old,
almost identical to what she has in her house, and
also pregnant at the time.
Speaker 6 (15:41):
Yes, I was.
Speaker 5 (15:44):
I was fourteen weeks pregnant. I was living in Florida.
I came to Massachusetts for the holidays. He had stayed
to work, and this woman flew from Texas to Florida
and slept with him in my house. God, I had
had my third child, not knowing I got pregnant again
(16:07):
with my fourth child. All my kids all four of
my kids were within five years. When I was pregnant
with my fourth child, papers for child support came from
Texas and I found out that he had a child
that's fourteen weeks younger than my third child.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Oh wow, because I was about to say, how did
you end up finding out that she was at the house?
But that's how you found out she wanted money from them?
Speaker 5 (16:35):
Yes, So it ended up getting really bad and I
ended up leaving him in Florida and I moved back
to Massachusetts to be closer to family. With all four
that all four, I just died what I did?
Speaker 4 (16:52):
Truck?
Speaker 3 (16:53):
Oh my god? And where are you at today? With everything?
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Did?
Speaker 3 (16:56):
How long ago is this?
Speaker 5 (16:59):
This was the big getting up COVID. So we moved
from Florida to from Florida to Lowell and then two
weeks later COVID hit. So it was right around the
beginning of twenty twenty.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
Yeah, so March of twenty twenty.
Speaker 5 (17:15):
Yes, And it took a long time to get over it. Yeah,
but now, I mean, we're friends, but he lives in Washington,
I live in Lowell, so we don't see each other.
He sees the kids once a year, but I'm mentally
in the best place I could be.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Yeah, that's amazing, And I think she needs to hear
stuff like this because I think I'm sure you felt
the same way. Everything is dark right now and she's like,
there's no light at the end of the tunnel for me, Like,
I don't know how I'm going to do this.
Speaker 5 (17:46):
Yeh, she just has to do it for her and
the kids. Don't worry about what he's doing. He's going
to continue doing what he's doing. She might even find
out about more people and that's going to be the worst.
But the best thing that she can do is single
the kids. And if it's gonna be harder for her
to see him, then she needs to take time away
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from him all together.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
Wow, Sarah, thank you so much for this. I appreciate it.
I said it to my friend and I'll say, like
I I would have to be like institutionalized, Like I
don't know how I would handle it. I couldn't imagine,
like again, her hiding in a bathroom, finding this out,
that this was happening with it.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Alone will drive people to do some crazy things. Because
you're in my house that we build together. You're sneaking
you know that kids are right there. I'm right here,
like you don't even got no respect like that. The
betrayal is next from.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
By the way, who you think is your best friend?
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Yeah, the betrayal is crazy. To do it in the crib,
to do it in front of me, basically even though
I was asleep, to do it in front of the kids,
and to you know, to be doing it for all
these months and sneaking about it, and you ain't got
no job and you can't even pick up.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
Pouches.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
This crazy. I know it's it's diabolic.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
It's gonna be tough, but you dodged the big bullet
over there.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
For real.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
If you're somebody going through this and you and again,
we ran out of time because I see the phones
are going crazy. You can message me at Ashley Feldman
two e's on the Ashley. I will pass the messages
on to her. I'll say this, everybody knows her. She's extremely,
extremely successful. I was on the Yeah, get off my Instagram.
Then you won't find her.
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Speaker 3 (00:21):
He's going to do that in the three pm hour.
I want to tread.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Really lightly here on this because I don't and I
certainly don't want to say names, but I don't know
what's in the water, and I don't know if it's
just me or if anybody else is kind of going
through this with their friends group.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I'm thirty eight years old. I've been married for four
years now.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
You know, I don't ever think that there's a an
eight you know, you hit that age where you're like, oh, oh,
my friends are getting married.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
I never thought that I hit an aide.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
I'd be like, a ton of my friends are getting divorced,
and I've seen it.
Speaker 4 (01:06):
You have, yes, because I think you get to a
certain point with the relationship, espcially when it comes to marriage,
where you it's like a breaking point is going to
make it or not. And they say it's around the
seven years for some people. I don't know if that's
an average, but I've heard of that.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yes, the Volcered is definitely on the up and up.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Yeah. I I am friendly with this girl.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I would She's certainly not like something crazy in my
life is happening. I'm not picking up the phone to
call her. But her and I we we have similar schedules.
We have kids that are damn near the exact same age,
So her and I have always kind of bonded on
that level with oh my god, the kids are doing
this at.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
This point, and we're up, we're working like it's you know.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
And she reached out to me over the weekend and
I she tells me the story, and I said to her,
she tells me the story, and then she says the
line of like just you know, wanted you to know
like that I'm living this nightmare, like this is what
I'm going through right now. And I said, are you
telling me this because you want me to talk about
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it or you're comfortable with me talking about it?
Speaker 3 (02:08):
And she's like absolutely, like you can talk about it.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
She's like, I just I think getting it off my
chest makes me feel a little bit better.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
But I just wanted you to know type of thing.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
So I hit her up again this morning, being like,
are you positive because this.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Story is.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Insane, like it sounds. I'm going to tell you, guys,
what's going on with this poor woman, and it kind
of will sound like I'm making it up.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
You told me the story, and there are elements of
the story that are so dirty that I've never heard before.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
There this is like.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Diabolical type stuff. Okay, so she's married.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
And she has I don't want to go too me details,
but let me just say she has stood by this
man through times where I don't know if any everybody would.
She has stood by that man through through thick and thin. Okay,
we'll say that. I'm going to cut some details out,
but basically, she had a weird feeling in her stomach
like something was going on. He was staying out late,
(03:03):
weird hours, doesn't have a job right now, and so
things just like kind of weren't adding up. She got
the feeling like it might be time for me to
check his phone, because when I ask him what's going on,
I'm getting fed answers that I just don't know if
I necessarily believe. And we have two little babies in
the house, Like I said, same exact ages. Damn near
(03:24):
spot on to Leyla and Daisy, so little kids, you know,
under three. He falls asleep, She takes his phone, she
puts it over his sleeping face.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
Gets the face ID gets in.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Finding out what she found out in the bathroom of
her home while her two little kids were sleeping. I
can't even put myself in it or imagine what it
would feel like, because it's it's that sickening. But not
only was he having an affair with a twenty two
year old woman behind his wife's back, but do you
know or the affair was happening in their home while
(04:05):
she and the two kids were sleeping. He would sneak
her in and he would bring her down.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
To their bace.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
What no stop what for him? You said?
Speaker 2 (04:15):
While they were home, while my friend was sleeping, what
and her two babies were sleeping, He would sneak the
twenty two year old into the home, take her downstairs
to the basement, and they would live out their little
love affair in his office.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
Imagine doing that like the works to do that.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
A child wakes up, the wife.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Wakes up like, no, you can't even And by the way,
the messages were like I'm at the corner, I'm hiding
behind the car, Go hey, go outside, put the dog out,
so the ring camera goes off and I can sneak
in the back like like it. It makes me want
to vomit, even saying it's I just couldn't. I just couldn't.
(05:02):
Couldn't believe it when she was telling me it, especially
because again she has stood by this man for so long,
And of course I asked her, I said, when you
know he was caught. He ended up waking up because
the dog barked and he realized that his phone was gone.
Mind you, she's she's so smart, because she said she
she has read enough stories and seen enough things that
(05:23):
she knew not to go into his regular text messages
but to go into his deleted messages.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
So she never even hit the text.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Message, and she went right to deleted messages, and there
were thousands of exchanges between them, because I would have
gone right to like the regular text.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
And be like, oh, there's other here.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
She found out how long it was going on for.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
Months and what's the age difference? Because you mentioned that
she's twenty something, right, she's only two.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
They're probably our age in their in their day thirties.
Speaker 4 (05:48):
She's not gonna work out.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Yeah yeah, hey, she fait oh wait wait wait wait
wait wait she facetimed. Her girl answers yeh off his phone,
off his phone?
Speaker 3 (05:59):
Hey baby, and then basically it's like I don't know.
She calls her out.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
She's like, you you ruined a family. You understand that,
like you, you've ruined our family. You're coming in my
house and having sex with my husband while I'm asleep
in our bedroom upstairs. Like this is diabolical level type stuff.
And the girls like, I don't know what you're talking about.
I don't know what you're talking over and over and
over again.
Speaker 4 (06:20):
Yeah at twenty two, you don't understand what you've just done.
You don't understand you say that this marriage has been over.
If this guy's brave enough to sneak somebody in the crib.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Why are you sneaking?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Why They sit her down when it starts like and
just say, listen, I can't do this before you. Let's
delete her. Let's delete that she's sleeping in the home.
You're you're your AMA's just cursed your kids, Like, yeah,
this is disgusting on the next level, like you say,
your three year old wakes up, gets out of her bed,
and comes downstairs to look for you.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
What are you going to say.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
This?
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Like, fired me up?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Man?
Speaker 1 (06:57):
This man been checked out, because.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
That's what I mean.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
I'm hiding behind the car. Let me in, Like I'm
down the street. Where should I park? Like and by
the way, shame on him because she's twenty two years
old and she's very easily going to be persuaded.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
She's a baby.
Speaker 4 (07:15):
And I'm not saying that there is a way to
cheat a respectful way, because it's disrespectful, right, but there
is a better way to cheat than do it at
home with your family upstairs.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Right, Some Sum's not right, bro, there's more to this story.
Sum's not right. This guy, this guy cannot be this
d I've not met a man in life who would
do it this way wait for the kids to leave,
which is still savagery, but to do it while people
asleep in your house.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
I know what you're saying that it seems almost unbelievable.
This is what it is.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
This is what this man like you don't care about
the kids, like don't you don't.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
And that's probably an element of this too that he
wanted to because that's entire world, the world up there.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Yes, yeah, it's like I'm gonna do it. There's so
much I almost feel like they were already split and
she knew. I don't know, I don't know. This is crazy,
I did say to her.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
I said, like, you know, leading up to this now
I know, I again, two little kids at that age,
I'm going through it myself, like it's hard to prioritize,
like your relationship and your marriage.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
You have to really work at it.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I get that, but this is the mother of your children,
and no matter what, that is the mother of your children.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Who's busting her. He doesn't have a job.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
She's paying for everything, to the point where like she
would say to him, can you grab yogurt for the
for the kids?
Speaker 3 (08:35):
And he's like, no, I can't have money like that type.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
He must have been walking all over this woman for
years and he's just like, I'll do whatever I want.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Were they still intimate like him and the wife did
not ask, because that's a whole.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Nother thing that it opens up and do for years,
even saying it again. It just doesn't feel really. I've
said it to her a million times and she goes
she like it choked me up. Talking to her yesterday,
She's like, cause, I'm living a nightmare because I think
about now trying to raise your two kids by yourself
because he's gone, he does you know, he's moved on now.
(09:08):
He wants to be with this other girl and he
wants to live that life. Yeah, he can't give her
any money because he has no money to give. And
she's like, here, I am like trying to figure this
out all out by myself.
Speaker 4 (09:19):
And she's done with him, like completely right, completely.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Done, done, done done, because like I said, they have
a history where she has stood by him through thick
and thin.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
I'll say that.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
And it was it cheating or was it like no
something else?
Speaker 1 (09:32):
No infidelity? This was the first time of infidelity she
knows of. Yeah, Yo, this story is not adding up.
It doesn't. This guy, this guy jumped out the window
first time cheating and he went right to the crazy.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
Well, he probably cheated before, but the level that he
went with this one was.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Like the comfortability you have to have and then no care.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I just again feel like the brazen, disrespecial and beyond her,
like you don't care that she catch you fine, but
like you're little bit.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
He is upstairs.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
That's what I'm saying. He's way too comfortable with the
disrespect for it to be the first time.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
She feels so alone. And I don't blame her.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
She just feels like she's she kept saying to me
over and over, I feel like I'm living a nightmare.
And then she has to go to her job and
act like everything's okay, and you know, go home, and
then mom immediately and she said to me, she's like,
you know how it is, Ash, It's like you put
one kid down and the other one's like, pick me up,
pick me up, pick me up, And they don't know
why Dad isn't there. And there's there's so many like
levels to it, and it just it makes me feel
(10:32):
so awful because I try to tell her, I'm like,
not not that somebody's gonna be like, oh, same thing
happened to me, But I'm like, you're not alone, like
this happens to other people at this store.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Like again, the level, the levels of this, like he's
he's the scum of the earth.
Speaker 4 (10:47):
Yeah, I had a friend who got caught cheating uh
in his own home multiple times by his wife. She
took him back, but I think the wife felt so
hurt that he was doing it in their family.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Yeah, that's a big no. That's stat not saying that
cheating is good and driveway, doing down the street, doing
on the block. But in the crib while.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Your babies are sleeping in your wife, in your in
your marrital bed above you.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
It seems like a weird, crazy fetish type thing.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
I'm telling you, yes, something about he's nuts bro, because
he likes that.
Speaker 6 (11:25):
I do.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
I do think I think he's think he's an Yes.
I think he just thinks he's above you all of it.
Like Amy is in Wooster, Hi, Amy, good.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
Morning, Hi, good money.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Obviously she my friend's going through right now. I keep
telling her over and over. You're not alone.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
This happens to other people. Maybe not this exact same story, obviously.
What are your thoughts when you hear it?
Speaker 6 (11:51):
Men always chop woman with kids, and I sit around
talking about woman chapped men with kids. But men come
and go, they get women and they leave, and then
the woman shopping the kids to try to raise thembody
myself and they're out taking the grass of green and
someone else, building a family with someone else, or thinking
that life is great because they get to thrill. Like
you said, I was that little. Oh my god, I
get this attention. I'm this, I'm down, I'm cool. I
(12:13):
think I'm the man. I think I can put my
king and any woman that walks by.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
Yeah, are you obviously? Are you in this situation?
Speaker 6 (12:22):
I have been in this situation before. Yes, I was
going to man for twenty years and I had a
baby and he got up and left it off the
way and thought the grass was green and somewhere else,
And I got left to friend from my son by myself,
and I figured it out. It was very hard, but
I'm here standing those tall with my son.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
He wanted to kill with.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
You, Amy, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
He said he wanted to kill with you and you
had his kid or you just so happen.
Speaker 6 (12:46):
Yeah, we went together for twenty years since I was
sixteen years old. Once we had a baby and all
things got a little bit rocky and he just got
up and left and thought grasses being everywhere else gotcha crazy?
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Amy.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
I'm so sorry you went through that, but you're right
I said the same thing to her. She will figure
it out just like you did. And thank you for
this very.
Speaker 6 (13:04):
Hard, it's very hard, but you know you just got
to put one in front of the kids.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Yeah, thank you for the call.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
The Morris code that was going on the back wash,
that's how we were saying, no, this is again. It's
one of those things where I think she needed to
get it off her chest. Is she feels better talking
about it, and I again, I can't. I can't say
it again and again and again. She will figure it out.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Yeah, everything happens for a reason.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
She's going to be but I you know, I think
about the days where the fireman's working at twenty four
and I'm home by myself, and I'm like counting down
the seconds until he gets back, so that it's a
like we can tag team. The thought of two kids
by yourself, that young full time, it's a lot. Yeah,
it's it's a lot. Because you do this as a
as a as a team effort, and then the team is.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
Gone, you're unpacking the baggage of how you got to
that point too, which is a whole nother thing she's
gonna deal with for years.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
I wish I could just I wish I could say names.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
I wish I could go off because I have there's
so many there's so many things, they're so so so
many things.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
Good will she be the last person.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
To amazing mother. She's in she has an amazing career,
she's insanely talented.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
If she if she just reaches out, even on Facebook
or some you'll find a lot of women will support you.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
If anybody's listening and been through a similar situation, I
know she's listening. Maybe you could pump her up a
little bit. Six one seven nine three one one nine
four five. That is six one seven nine three one
one nine four five. Good morning, Hi everybody, Good morning.
It's actually in the gym in morning show. I again
very careful because this this situation is it just happened.
(14:38):
And when I was talking with my friend who's kind
of going through it, she was like, I want you
to talk about it because I feel so alone in it.
I feel like I'm living out a nightmare every single
day of my life. I had these two kids, under
this preconceived notion that we were going to be happily married,
and you know, raise these these two babies, and he
was having a whole affair the twenty two year old
woman in.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
Our home.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
While I was asleep, Like, honestly, think I didn't get
this detail, But I bet you there was nowhere else
for them to go because she's twenty two and he
has no money.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Where they're gonna go a car? The car she rode in.
Speaker 4 (15:13):
But then I guess he can't really leave and go
do it the way he was.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Guys, he was like faking out the ring camera to
sneak her in, Like it's it's sickening. We don't have
a ton of time, but I know she's listening, and
I just want her to feel a little less alone
in this.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
Sarah is in Lowell.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
Sarah, you had a two and a three year old,
almost identical to what she has in her house, and
also pregnant at the time.
Speaker 6 (15:41):
Yes, I was.
Speaker 5 (15:44):
I was fourteen weeks pregnant. I was living in Florida.
I came to Massachusetts for the holidays. He had stayed
to work, and this woman flew from Texas to Florida
and slept with him in my house. God, I had
had my third child, not knowing I got pregnant again
(16:07):
with my fourth child. All my kids all four of
my kids were within five years. When I was pregnant
with my fourth child, papers for child support came from
Texas and I found out that he had a child
that's fourteen weeks younger than my third child.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Oh wow, because I was about to say, how did
you end up finding out that she was at the house?
But that's how you found out she wanted money from them?
Speaker 5 (16:35):
Yes, So it ended up getting really bad and I
ended up leaving him in Florida and I moved back
to Massachusetts to be closer to family. With all four
that all four, I just died what I did?
Speaker 4 (16:52):
Truck?
Speaker 3 (16:53):
Oh my god? And where are you at today? With everything?
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Did?
Speaker 3 (16:56):
How long ago is this?
Speaker 5 (16:59):
This was the big getting up COVID. So we moved
from Florida to from Florida to Lowell and then two
weeks later COVID hit. So it was right around the
beginning of twenty twenty.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
Yeah, so March of twenty twenty.
Speaker 5 (17:15):
Yes, And it took a long time to get over it. Yeah,
but now, I mean, we're friends, but he lives in Washington,
I live in Lowell, so we don't see each other.
He sees the kids once a year, but I'm mentally
in the best place I could be.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Yeah, that's amazing, And I think she needs to hear
stuff like this because I think I'm sure you felt
the same way. Everything is dark right now and she's like,
there's no light at the end of the tunnel for me, Like,
I don't know how I'm going to do this.
Speaker 5 (17:46):
Yeh, she just has to do it for her and
the kids. Don't worry about what he's doing. He's going
to continue doing what he's doing. She might even find
out about more people and that's going to be the worst.
But the best thing that she can do is single
the kids. And if it's gonna be harder for her
to see him, then she needs to take time away
(18:07):
from him all together.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
Wow, Sarah, thank you so much for this. I appreciate it.
I said it to my friend and I'll say, like
I I would have to be like institutionalized, Like I
don't know how I would handle it. I couldn't imagine,
like again, her hiding in a bathroom, finding this out,
that this was happening with it.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Alone will drive people to do some crazy things. Because
you're in my house that we build together. You're sneaking
you know that kids are right there. I'm right here,
like you don't even got no respect like that. The
betrayal is next from.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
By the way, who you think is your best friend?
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Yeah, the betrayal is crazy. To do it in the crib,
to do it in front of me, basically even though
I was asleep, to do it in front of the kids,
and to you know, to be doing it for all
these months and sneaking about it, and you ain't got
no job and you can't even pick up.
Speaker 4 (19:03):
Pouches.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
This crazy. I know it's it's diabolic.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
It's gonna be tough, but you dodged the big bullet
over there.
Speaker 3 (19:13):
For real.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
If you're somebody going through this and you and again,
we ran out of time because I see the phones
are going crazy. You can message me at Ashley Feldman
two e's on the Ashley. I will pass the messages
on to her. I'll say this, everybody knows her. She's extremely,
extremely successful. I was on the Yeah, get off my Instagram.
Then you won't find her.
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