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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Exactly, and the jam In Morning Show with DJ four
and it's Sad Morning.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Bustin's number one for hip hop jam In ninety four
or five. Hi, everybody, good morning. We're talking dating, love relationships.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
It's beyond the swipe six one seven nine three one
one nine four five.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
This is exactly why we change the name from Tender Tuesday,
because it's kind of this segment has turned into more
of a conversation depending on what people want to talk
about in the world.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Of dating these days. Elizabeth is in Rhode Island.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
What do you think is making it so tough to
date nowadays?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Elizabeth.
Speaker 5 (00:41):
I definitely think it's the amount of options. I think
now with the dating apps, there's just so many different
people and on any given day, like you might have
a great first date, great second date, or be seeing
somebody but they don't have maybe everything you're looking for,
and then you can live literally just go back on
to hints and like keep scrolling. So I think that's
(01:06):
definitely the apps are driving it. The other thing that
myself and my single friends are noticing is just like
the texting with the guys is crazy, Like they will
be your pental for years and never want to like
meet up, Like I don't have to make of that.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
That's so strange because it's not enough time, enough time
for that.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Why don't we.
Speaker 5 (01:29):
I don't get it at all, Like I would love
an explanation from guys who just literally wants to.
Speaker 6 (01:34):
Tax it's all the time. Okay, so the option don't sorry,
here comes the but it's obvious, Like the options are
the things because there's more people out there, right And
the second thing, they're texting with you because they're not
that into you.
Speaker 7 (01:48):
If they liked you like that, like that much, they
would make come over, they would do the like this
and that you're just a friend.
Speaker 8 (01:55):
But to double down is because they're doing that with
a hundred other women or one hundred other So you
know what I mean. When when when you come up
on the list, and I hate to say it this way,
but when when they need something from you for real,
for real, that's when a little bit more effort's going
to be putting you. But in the meantime, you're just
being held, you know what I'm saying, your placement until until.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
I need you for you guys right now on the roster,
do you have some pen pals Yeah, there's.
Speaker 8 (02:18):
People who text, well not even text message on ij Yeah,
we talk.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
I think you're cute. I think you know, you look good,
but you know I'm not. Really you're not.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
You haven't reached the starting five yet.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Hoday, Nope, no friends, we're just friends. We're cool.
Speaker 8 (02:31):
You know we're talking. Then that's about it. I think
you're cute. But yeah, the options thing is a real thing.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I'm telling you, Elizabeth, how long have you been single?
Speaker 5 (02:39):
I would say for about two years?
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Okay, and any in the two years guys where you
were like, okay, like prospect, this could be it and
then it fizzled.
Speaker 5 (02:49):
Yeah, definitely, maybe like dating for like a couple of
months and it seemed like prospect. Maybe not everything I wanted,
but definitely some prospects. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Yeah, No, it's uh, it's not easy out there. I mean, listen,
we know we've we get the accounts firsthand. Thank you
for the call.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Aj.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
You know some might call you unlucky in love?
Speaker 1 (03:13):
What are you?
Speaker 3 (03:14):
What are you putting at the number one spot for
why it's so hard to date in this day and age.
Speaker 9 (03:19):
I'd say it's hard because no one is honest about
being single, and they are all.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Cheated for your specific Yeah, and that's not even a joke.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Like any guy that AJ has actually been like Okay,
this could be something they're married, like for real.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Yeah, and like you had feelings too for these dudes too.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, like the one from last year.
Speaker 9 (03:41):
Absolutely, Like I still think about that, like how excited
I was and I was like, oh my god, Like
I think about the last time I saw him.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
It was incredible.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
I think we all can agree that the the guy
that she's referring to that like the like it was
her fault. He had his wife up on her fridge,
on his fridge, she just wanted to keep walking.
Speaker 7 (03:57):
By, even though he was black and she was.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Okay.
Speaker 8 (04:07):
But again, I've been said these apps, ninety nine percent
of the time, people are not going there to find love. Yes,
I know we could get some callers who will be
like I found the love of my life on there,
but that's the rarity. Majority of the people there are
there to play. They're there to have fun. They're not
there to take anything serious. And that's why you get
what I mean.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Then, Okay, but on that then then I feel like
it's depressing for like my girlfriends out here because They're like, wait,
but that's where I'm supposed to find love?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Is you know it is?
Speaker 8 (04:32):
Nah, the pops, all these tender joints, I'm telling you,
they're all hook up apps.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Man.
Speaker 8 (04:36):
People are gonna draw you. Some people are gonna be
real about it and be like, look, I'm only here
for fun. Some people are gonna play you alonge be like,
oh my god. And then you find out the vacation
with their family in the Ruba, like, mom, that's crazy.
They're just there to play. You're gonna catch one or
two who get into a serious relationship, but you gotta
you gotta move with caution when you're on these apps,
(04:58):
because that's what people and ask questions.
Speaker 9 (05:00):
Okay, but where's if we're not finding love on the apps.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Where are we supposed to find love?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
That in the streets?
Speaker 2 (05:06):
And somebody just flirted with me in the streets and
he was married.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
But let's break that down.
Speaker 8 (05:15):
He said, she said he got nice eyes, and you
went and gave him your number and then you got played.
That's your fault, that's not his. He didn't approach you.
He just said you had nice eyes. You jumped out.
He said you had nice eyes. You jumped out the window.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I was like, I just want to say, you have
nice eyes. She was like, I'd like to say, do
you want to have sex?
Speaker 1 (05:37):
We're got nice eyes. I will marry you. That's true.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Yeah, listen again, this is like I I have, verbatim
heard some of my friends that are married be like,
I'm not the happiest, but I'm gonna suck it up
because like, it's not easy out there and aj stories.
Obviously that's not happening here. But she's right, like it's
really hard and it's not her that's just saying. Is
my friends mimic the same the same words.
Speaker 7 (06:03):
The streets are tough, been matter for twenty years, and
I understand that, but I also think if you go
back twenty years, it's been a challenge to people have
been lying about being in relationships all the stuff for
so many years. But the forest point as there's a
lot more options than I think. That does definitely hurt,
but also for the guys, there's more options out there too.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
For everybody, for both both options.
Speaker 8 (06:20):
Back in the day, like we were talking about, because
like I actually made a good point, back then, we
didn't really have these issues because you didn't really see
a lot of batties. I'm talking from a male's perspective, right,
You didn't really see a lot of batteries unless they
weren't the magazine on a video. They were unattainable, exactly,
didn't You didn't know? Now I can tell you that
there's ten batties on my street because they all post
on social media. And the half naked I'm like, damn,
(06:42):
I ain't. Yeah, the zombies, bro, sometimes you know what
I mean. You just gotta get past the cars, you
know what I mean. But you get what I'm saying.
It's like now you can see like regular deglar people
that you walk around and be like, that's how she
looks underneath those clothes. And then all of a sudden,
it's an option, and some chicks are just for that.
(07:03):
They're like, yeah, let me show off my body to
get attention. Okay, I'm here for it.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
If you're single, right now, call me and tell me
what the climate is out there, Like, how.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Are we feeling? What's going on? Why? Why is it
so hard? What are you experiencing? What? What does it
feel like to be single in this day?
Speaker 3 (07:22):
And age six one seven nine three one one nine
four five six one seven nine three one one nine
four five. Because I'm gonna be honest with you, it
seems like it is tough out there right now. Hi, everybody,
good morning. It's actually in the jam in morning show.
You know, I would understand if you were listening to
the show and we're talking about dating and I make
(07:42):
a comment and you're like, bitch, shut up, like you're married,
you're not single. You don't get it. You don't You
don't know what it's like out here. I know what
AJ tells me, I know what my my besties tell
me about trying to date right now.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
You know, foreign keep secrets, so I don't know what
he would say.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
But bottom line is I need to know fill me
in and cause it's looking scary out there for most
people that tell me that they're single. Six one seven
nine three one one nine four five. We're talking about
the climate of being single in this day and age.
Joe is in Grafton, Joe, it seems rough. It doesn't
(08:16):
seem nice.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
It's awful.
Speaker 5 (08:19):
Frankly for the guys too, because I want to date
with a chick. Come to find out she was married
by her husband. Calling me that was fun.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
No, the husband called.
Speaker 4 (08:31):
Yep, he was in tears. I started getting in tears.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
It was awful.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
What was he saying, dude?
Speaker 7 (08:37):
Uh?
Speaker 5 (08:38):
He was just asking all the questions and stuff, and
I explained to him that I had no clue. She
didn't leave any breadcrumbs, and I'm like, I am sorry.
It just you can't trust anybody these days.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Joe, where'd you meet her?
Speaker 4 (08:50):
One of the date maps? I forget which one.
Speaker 10 (08:52):
Okay, So she.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Showed You're right.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
So she was on an app she acted like she
was single, whole husband and then he calls you crying.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Oh my god, damn.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
I felt so bad and now you know it's not
my fault.
Speaker 5 (09:03):
But so no, it's not that.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Did you guys end up.
Speaker 5 (09:10):
Bova?
Speaker 4 (09:11):
H You know we don't get from tell where we
come from.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
We did, Jo Chambell, Well, thank you for the call.
So all right, Well, AG's not alone.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
And by the way, I do think that's important too.
When we say that it's tough out there, I'm not
talking just for females. I know it's not easy for
guys either. Jordan is in Salem, George, Chivalry is dead
out there.
Speaker 6 (09:28):
Huh.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
Yes, it's so unfortunate, but I've definitely found a way
to weed out the ones who are just looking for
a good time. I'll try and ask guys to get
to know me a bit on the apps, and as
soon as they hear that and they can't get my number,
it's immediate that they don't want to talk. And then
the ones I do give my number two I'm talking
to for weeks and weeks and weeks and I never
(09:50):
get asked on a proper date that I'm someone who
I can't go with you until I get asked on
a proper date.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
So that so someone just called in and said that
that did that most of the time now, guys just
want to be pen pals instead of saying like, hey,
let's go out. And then these two are saying, well,
that means you're on a roster and you're not. But
that's I just wouldn't waste my time texting and techn thing.
But I'm with you, like if you're not at We've
said this a million times. If you're not asking to
see me quickly after meeting with me or chatting with me,
(10:19):
and you don't want to see me quickly, you don't
want to see me at all. Because you would make
the time because you're so anxious. The beginning of dating
is the best. It's the honeymoon. You want to see them,
you want to hang out with them, you want to
go on dates. So I mean, it's clear you're not
a priority.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
I definitely agree. But then part of me there's a
safety aspect. So being a female in this day and age,
I feel like you can't just meet up with anyone.
So I do like to take a little bit of
time to get to know someone first before I meet
up with them. And I definitely can see the guys
who are just for a good time, which I get,
like you guys were saying, some people just want a
(10:54):
good time. There are a lot of females who might
show off their body a little bit more. I'm a
little bit more conservative, which is totally find them all
about women's empowerment. They have their person and I have
my person. Just it seems they're all the good ones
are already taken, so it's tough to try and go
out there when when guys just want to have you
over for the night rather than take you out to dinner,
(11:14):
which and I'm all for spoiling your man too, but
the type of man I'm looking for, I think would
take the initiative.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Cool question for you, just I want to see a
timeline on this Monday, you and a gas wipe. You
match Monday through Friday. You're having great convo, You're getting
to know each other, he says. Let me take you
out for a drink on Saturday. So you've basically been
talking for about five six days. Would you go like
to a public place and have a drink or is
that not long enough?
Speaker 4 (11:42):
I would if the consistency was there. The issue is
they'll message you one night, You'll tell them you want
to get to know you, and then they wait until
Thursday and they'll be like, oh hey, what are you
doing this weekend? And they think that's enough.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Yeah's actually dealt with that too, you know.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
Yeah, man, Yeah, I'm someone who definitely, like I value
good conversation. So if it's just like, oh, hey, how's
your workday? Good? And then you ask me out, that's
not enough. I need to know kind of what you're
looking for before I get involved to waste my time.
But this day and age, the dating apps, like you guys,
it's very easy to go to the next Georgia someone's
just looking for a good time.
Speaker 7 (12:17):
George, you sound nice, but you're asking a lot and
there's a lot of like stipulation there.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Yeah, like ease up a bit and maybe things will
go better.
Speaker 4 (12:27):
So like, what do you mean you say you think
I'm asking too much? To get to know someone a
little bit before I asking too much.
Speaker 7 (12:33):
You know, they get to know a person completely fine,
but there's all these certain rules that they have to
hit before they're going into date. And like I get
the getting to know them, but like just eat up
on the parts after that.
Speaker 3 (12:42):
If you guys are vibing el to say, for say,
you guys have two three days of great convo and
it's Wednesday and he says, Hey, Saturday, I want to
see you.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Let's go grab a drink, go get Like why not?
Speaker 4 (12:53):
Yeah, oh yeah, we're having conversation. But if they message
me on a Monday and say, hey, how you doing,
and then they don't hit me up until Thursday Friday,
and then that to me, that's not conversation.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
I understand that too.
Speaker 7 (13:07):
But what if on Thursday the conversation is amazing?
Speaker 4 (13:11):
That would be I guess I haven't really had many
guys that the conversation has been that I need to
meet up with you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get what
you guys are saying too, So I definitely I could
try to be more open to just trying it out.
So I guess I definitely hear what you guys are saying.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
I'm sorry, I'm taking this in because we give we
give this advice to agent and Cholice shuts us down.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
It's weird. It's weird to have someone accepted.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
Sorry, Jordan, well, work in progress.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Good luck out there, good luck out there. You know
A j was just listening to that, being.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Like, no, no, no, no, no, no no no.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
I am not all right.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
We have time for one more card called jen is
in Milford.
Speaker 10 (13:53):
Hi, Gen, Hey Ashley.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Oh my god, dude, this is what I was How
many times are gonna say?
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Do? I was just saying this. I've had literal friends
of mine who have been lying, Oh, my marriage is
kind of tough right now, but not as tough as
what it is to be single in this world. And
they're just staying in their marriage because they don't feel
like dating.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
You're you're them, Yeah that's.
Speaker 10 (14:16):
Me twenty years twenty years.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Wow, because you are now I've been.
Speaker 10 (14:20):
Two years single and it's it's tough, but is it?
And I saw what my friends were going through, so
that's why I see.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
So you stayed in your marriage, it was trash. You
finally got out of it. Now two years being single?
Are you like you're not second guessing that decision, but
you're just saying that it's hard.
Speaker 10 (14:41):
Oh no, no, not at all. Okay, but you know,
I've experienced all the same things that you know that
AJA experiences, except for I don't end up finding married people.
But it's like pulling teeth to try and get someone
to go on date, Like they just want to talk
and I have you know, I usually have like a
week and if they don't ask you out in a week,
(15:02):
But the conversion rate is so so low between like
number of matches and people you actually meet in person.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Yeah, no, I believe it. Guys, if you're talking, it
bless you both. Uh question for both of you. A
week of talking to a girl is enough for you
to ask her.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I stand with her.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
If after seven days of chatting with a guy, he
doesn't ask you out, like you're not a priority?
Speaker 8 (15:26):
Absolutely, what're chatting constantly? I guess yeah, But we're not
talking that much. If it's just kind of random here
and there, here and then I want to get to
know you moreuse at the end of the day, nobody
wants to waste they time, you know what I mean.
I am for the women though, really like sticking to
their guns. And it's gonna suck because y'all gonna be
a loan for a while. But I do I do
believe y'all should stick to if they really want to
put in the effort, make them put in the effort.
(15:48):
And yes, you are gonna go months without talking to people,
but the one that really wants you is gonna really.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
Put it in an effort.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
And yeah, and I agree with that, and they'll make
it known because I don't know if I'm talking to
a guy for a week and he's not asking me out.
I'm with you on that, Jen, Bye bye, on to
the next one, because that's you. You were with somebody
for twenty years.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Honey. You you stick by your gun. Do what you
gotta do out there.
Speaker 10 (16:11):
Best of luck, Thanks so much, love you guys, We
love you.
Speaker 8 (16:15):
You know how bad the dating pool gotta be. That
a woman who was married for twenty years and she said,
I stuck in my married just twenty years and he
was cheating on me the whole time, and I stuck
with it because I didn't want to deal with this
because I have friends who are dealing with it, and
now I'm single and I would have rather been married
than being cheated on.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
I mean, but like, for real, if you're if like you,
all you hear is your single friends telling these type stories,
You're gonna be like.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I'm good, what am I doing?
Speaker 2 (16:41):
It's creepy out there.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
I feel like I would be fine in this here.
We got fu right.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
Sati is on one today also told me he could
do a Rubik's Cube, But I'm like, what the like,
what's in the air today
Exactly, and the jam In Morning Show with DJ four
and it's Sad Morning.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
Bustin's number one for hip hop jam In ninety four
or five. Hi, everybody, good morning. We're talking dating, love relationships.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
It's beyond the swipe six one seven nine three one
one nine four five.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
This is exactly why we change the name from Tender Tuesday,
because it's kind of this segment has turned into more
of a conversation depending on what people want to talk
about in the world.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Of dating these days. Elizabeth is in Rhode Island.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
What do you think is making it so tough to
date nowadays?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Elizabeth.
Speaker 5 (00:41):
I definitely think it's the amount of options. I think
now with the dating apps, there's just so many different
people and on any given day, like you might have
a great first date, great second date, or be seeing
somebody but they don't have maybe everything you're looking for,
and then you can live literally just go back on
to hints and like keep scrolling. So I think that's
(01:06):
definitely the apps are driving it. The other thing that
myself and my single friends are noticing is just like
the texting with the guys is crazy, Like they will
be your pental for years and never want to like
meet up, Like I don't have to make of that.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
That's so strange because it's not enough time, enough time
for that.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Why don't we.
Speaker 5 (01:29):
I don't get it at all, Like I would love
an explanation from guys who just literally wants to.
Speaker 6 (01:34):
Tax it's all the time. Okay, so the option don't sorry,
here comes the but it's obvious, Like the options are
the things because there's more people out there, right And
the second thing, they're texting with you because they're not
that into you.
Speaker 7 (01:48):
If they liked you like that, like that much, they
would make come over, they would do the like this
and that you're just a friend.
Speaker 8 (01:55):
But to double down is because they're doing that with
a hundred other women or one hundred other So you
know what I mean. When when when you come up
on the list, and I hate to say it this way,
but when when they need something from you for real,
for real, that's when a little bit more effort's going
to be putting you. But in the meantime, you're just
being held, you know what I'm saying, your placement until until.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
I need you for you guys right now on the roster,
do you have some pen pals Yeah, there's.
Speaker 8 (02:18):
People who text, well not even text message on ij Yeah,
we talk.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
I think you're cute. I think you know, you look good,
but you know I'm not. Really you're not.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
You haven't reached the starting five yet.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Hoday, Nope, no friends, we're just friends. We're cool.
Speaker 8 (02:31):
You know we're talking. Then that's about it. I think
you're cute. But yeah, the options thing is a real thing.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I'm telling you, Elizabeth, how long have you been single?
Speaker 5 (02:39):
I would say for about two years?
Speaker 3 (02:41):
Okay, and any in the two years guys where you
were like, okay, like prospect, this could be it and
then it fizzled.
Speaker 5 (02:49):
Yeah, definitely, maybe like dating for like a couple of
months and it seemed like prospect. Maybe not everything I wanted,
but definitely some prospects. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Yeah, No, it's uh, it's not easy out there. I mean, listen,
we know we've we get the accounts firsthand. Thank you
for the call.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Aj.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
You know some might call you unlucky in love?
Speaker 1 (03:13):
What are you?
Speaker 3 (03:14):
What are you putting at the number one spot for
why it's so hard to date in this day and age.
Speaker 9 (03:19):
I'd say it's hard because no one is honest about
being single, and they are all.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Cheated for your specific Yeah, and that's not even a joke.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Like any guy that AJ has actually been like Okay,
this could be something they're married, like for real.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Yeah, and like you had feelings too for these dudes too.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Yeah, like the one from last year.
Speaker 9 (03:41):
Absolutely, Like I still think about that, like how excited
I was and I was like, oh my god, Like
I think about the last time I saw him.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
It was incredible.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
I think we all can agree that the the guy
that she's referring to that like the like it was
her fault. He had his wife up on her fridge,
on his fridge, she just wanted to keep walking.
Speaker 7 (03:57):
By, even though he was black and she was.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Okay.
Speaker 8 (04:07):
But again, I've been said these apps, ninety nine percent
of the time, people are not going there to find love. Yes,
I know we could get some callers who will be
like I found the love of my life on there,
but that's the rarity. Majority of the people there are
there to play. They're there to have fun. They're not
there to take anything serious. And that's why you get
what I mean.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Then, Okay, but on that then then I feel like
it's depressing for like my girlfriends out here because They're like, wait,
but that's where I'm supposed to find love?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Is you know it is?
Speaker 8 (04:32):
Nah, the pops, all these tender joints, I'm telling you,
they're all hook up apps.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Man.
Speaker 8 (04:36):
People are gonna draw you. Some people are gonna be
real about it and be like, look, I'm only here
for fun. Some people are gonna play you alonge be like,
oh my god. And then you find out the vacation
with their family in the Ruba, like, mom, that's crazy.
They're just there to play. You're gonna catch one or
two who get into a serious relationship, but you gotta
you gotta move with caution when you're on these apps,
(04:58):
because that's what people and ask questions.
Speaker 9 (05:00):
Okay, but where's if we're not finding love on the apps.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Where are we supposed to find love?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
That in the streets?
Speaker 2 (05:06):
And somebody just flirted with me in the streets and
he was married.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
But let's break that down.
Speaker 8 (05:15):
He said, she said he got nice eyes, and you
went and gave him your number and then you got played.
That's your fault, that's not his. He didn't approach you.
He just said you had nice eyes. You jumped out.
He said you had nice eyes. You jumped out the window.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I was like, I just want to say, you have
nice eyes. She was like, I'd like to say, do
you want to have sex?
Speaker 1 (05:37):
We're got nice eyes. I will marry you. That's true.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Yeah, listen again, this is like I I have, verbatim
heard some of my friends that are married be like,
I'm not the happiest, but I'm gonna suck it up
because like, it's not easy out there and aj stories.
Obviously that's not happening here. But she's right, like it's
really hard and it's not her that's just saying. Is
my friends mimic the same the same words.
Speaker 7 (06:03):
The streets are tough, been matter for twenty years, and
I understand that, but I also think if you go
back twenty years, it's been a challenge to people have
been lying about being in relationships all the stuff for
so many years. But the forest point as there's a
lot more options than I think. That does definitely hurt,
but also for the guys, there's more options out there too.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
For everybody, for both both options.
Speaker 8 (06:20):
Back in the day, like we were talking about, because
like I actually made a good point, back then, we
didn't really have these issues because you didn't really see
a lot of batties. I'm talking from a male's perspective, right,
You didn't really see a lot of batteries unless they
weren't the magazine on a video. They were unattainable, exactly,
didn't You didn't know? Now I can tell you that
there's ten batties on my street because they all post
on social media. And the half naked I'm like, damn,
(06:42):
I ain't. Yeah, the zombies, bro, sometimes you know what
I mean. You just gotta get past the cars, you
know what I mean. But you get what I'm saying.
It's like now you can see like regular deglar people
that you walk around and be like, that's how she
looks underneath those clothes. And then all of a sudden,
it's an option, and some chicks are just for that.
(07:03):
They're like, yeah, let me show off my body to
get attention. Okay, I'm here for it.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
If you're single, right now, call me and tell me
what the climate is out there, Like, how.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Are we feeling? What's going on? Why? Why is it
so hard? What are you experiencing? What? What does it
feel like to be single in this day?
Speaker 3 (07:22):
And age six one seven nine three one one nine
four five six one seven nine three one one nine
four five. Because I'm gonna be honest with you, it
seems like it is tough out there right now. Hi, everybody,
good morning. It's actually in the jam in morning show.
You know, I would understand if you were listening to
the show and we're talking about dating and I make
(07:42):
a comment and you're like, bitch, shut up, like you're married,
you're not single. You don't get it. You don't You
don't know what it's like out here. I know what
AJ tells me, I know what my my besties tell
me about trying to date right now.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
You know, foreign keep secrets, so I don't know what
he would say.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
But bottom line is I need to know fill me
in and cause it's looking scary out there for most
people that tell me that they're single. Six one seven
nine three one one nine four five. We're talking about
the climate of being single in this day and age.
Joe is in Grafton, Joe, it seems rough. It doesn't
(08:16):
seem nice.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
It's awful.
Speaker 5 (08:19):
Frankly for the guys too, because I want to date
with a chick. Come to find out she was married
by her husband. Calling me that was fun.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
No, the husband called.
Speaker 4 (08:31):
Yep, he was in tears. I started getting in tears.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
It was awful.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
What was he saying, dude?
Speaker 7 (08:37):
Uh?
Speaker 5 (08:38):
He was just asking all the questions and stuff, and
I explained to him that I had no clue. She
didn't leave any breadcrumbs, and I'm like, I am sorry.
It just you can't trust anybody these days.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Joe, where'd you meet her?
Speaker 4 (08:50):
One of the date maps? I forget which one.
Speaker 10 (08:52):
Okay, So she.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Showed You're right.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
So she was on an app she acted like she
was single, whole husband and then he calls you crying.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Oh my god, damn.
Speaker 4 (09:00):
I felt so bad and now you know it's not
my fault.
Speaker 5 (09:03):
But so no, it's not that.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
Did you guys end up.
Speaker 5 (09:10):
Bova?
Speaker 4 (09:11):
H You know we don't get from tell where we
come from.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
We did, Jo Chambell, Well, thank you for the call.
So all right, Well, AG's not alone.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
And by the way, I do think that's important too.
When we say that it's tough out there, I'm not
talking just for females. I know it's not easy for
guys either. Jordan is in Salem, George, Chivalry is dead
out there.
Speaker 6 (09:28):
Huh.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
Yes, it's so unfortunate, but I've definitely found a way
to weed out the ones who are just looking for
a good time. I'll try and ask guys to get
to know me a bit on the apps, and as
soon as they hear that and they can't get my number,
it's immediate that they don't want to talk. And then
the ones I do give my number two I'm talking
to for weeks and weeks and weeks and I never
(09:50):
get asked on a proper date that I'm someone who
I can't go with you until I get asked on
a proper date.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
So that so someone just called in and said that
that did that most of the time now, guys just
want to be pen pals instead of saying like, hey,
let's go out. And then these two are saying, well,
that means you're on a roster and you're not. But
that's I just wouldn't waste my time texting and techn thing.
But I'm with you, like if you're not at We've
said this a million times. If you're not asking to
see me quickly after meeting with me or chatting with me,
(10:19):
and you don't want to see me quickly, you don't
want to see me at all. Because you would make
the time because you're so anxious. The beginning of dating
is the best. It's the honeymoon. You want to see them,
you want to hang out with them, you want to
go on dates. So I mean, it's clear you're not
a priority.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
I definitely agree. But then part of me there's a
safety aspect. So being a female in this day and age,
I feel like you can't just meet up with anyone.
So I do like to take a little bit of
time to get to know someone first before I meet
up with them. And I definitely can see the guys
who are just for a good time, which I get,
like you guys were saying, some people just want a
(10:54):
good time. There are a lot of females who might
show off their body a little bit more. I'm a
little bit more conservative, which is totally find them all
about women's empowerment. They have their person and I have
my person. Just it seems they're all the good ones
are already taken, so it's tough to try and go
out there when when guys just want to have you
over for the night rather than take you out to dinner,
(11:14):
which and I'm all for spoiling your man too, but
the type of man I'm looking for, I think would
take the initiative.
Speaker 3 (11:21):
Cool question for you, just I want to see a
timeline on this Monday, you and a gas wipe. You
match Monday through Friday. You're having great convo, You're getting
to know each other, he says. Let me take you
out for a drink on Saturday. So you've basically been
talking for about five six days. Would you go like
to a public place and have a drink or is
that not long enough?
Speaker 4 (11:42):
I would if the consistency was there. The issue is
they'll message you one night, You'll tell them you want
to get to know you, and then they wait until
Thursday and they'll be like, oh hey, what are you
doing this weekend? And they think that's enough.
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Yeah's actually dealt with that too, you know.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
Yeah, man, Yeah, I'm someone who definitely, like I value
good conversation. So if it's just like, oh, hey, how's
your workday? Good? And then you ask me out, that's
not enough. I need to know kind of what you're
looking for before I get involved to waste my time.
But this day and age, the dating apps, like you guys,
it's very easy to go to the next Georgia someone's
just looking for a good time.
Speaker 7 (12:17):
George, you sound nice, but you're asking a lot and
there's a lot of like stipulation there.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Yeah, like ease up a bit and maybe things will
go better.
Speaker 4 (12:27):
So like, what do you mean you say you think
I'm asking too much? To get to know someone a
little bit before I asking too much.
Speaker 7 (12:33):
You know, they get to know a person completely fine,
but there's all these certain rules that they have to
hit before they're going into date. And like I get
the getting to know them, but like just eat up
on the parts after that.
Speaker 3 (12:42):
If you guys are vibing el to say, for say,
you guys have two three days of great convo and
it's Wednesday and he says, Hey, Saturday, I want to
see you.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Let's go grab a drink, go get Like why not?
Speaker 4 (12:53):
Yeah, oh yeah, we're having conversation. But if they message
me on a Monday and say, hey, how you doing,
and then they don't hit me up until Thursday Friday,
and then that to me, that's not conversation.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
I understand that too.
Speaker 7 (13:07):
But what if on Thursday the conversation is amazing?
Speaker 4 (13:11):
That would be I guess I haven't really had many
guys that the conversation has been that I need to
meet up with you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get what
you guys are saying too, So I definitely I could
try to be more open to just trying it out.
So I guess I definitely hear what you guys are saying.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
I'm sorry, I'm taking this in because we give we
give this advice to agent and Cholice shuts us down.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
It's weird. It's weird to have someone accepted.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
Sorry, Jordan, well, work in progress.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Good luck out there, good luck out there. You know
A j was just listening to that, being.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Like, no, no, no, no, no, no no no.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
I am not all right.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
We have time for one more card called jen is
in Milford.
Speaker 10 (13:53):
Hi, Gen, Hey Ashley.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Oh my god, dude, this is what I was How
many times are gonna say?
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Do? I was just saying this. I've had literal friends
of mine who have been lying, Oh, my marriage is
kind of tough right now, but not as tough as
what it is to be single in this world. And
they're just staying in their marriage because they don't feel
like dating.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
You're you're them, Yeah that's.
Speaker 10 (14:16):
Me twenty years twenty years.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
Wow, because you are now I've been.
Speaker 10 (14:20):
Two years single and it's it's tough, but is it?
And I saw what my friends were going through, so
that's why I see.
Speaker 3 (14:31):
So you stayed in your marriage, it was trash. You
finally got out of it. Now two years being single?
Are you like you're not second guessing that decision, but
you're just saying that it's hard.
Speaker 10 (14:41):
Oh no, no, not at all. Okay, but you know,
I've experienced all the same things that you know that
AJA experiences, except for I don't end up finding married people.
But it's like pulling teeth to try and get someone
to go on date, Like they just want to talk
and I have you know, I usually have like a
week and if they don't ask you out in a week,
(15:02):
But the conversion rate is so so low between like
number of matches and people you actually meet in person.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Yeah, no, I believe it. Guys, if you're talking, it
bless you both. Uh question for both of you. A
week of talking to a girl is enough for you
to ask her.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I stand with her.
Speaker 3 (15:21):
If after seven days of chatting with a guy, he
doesn't ask you out, like you're not a priority?
Speaker 8 (15:26):
Absolutely, what're chatting constantly? I guess yeah, But we're not
talking that much. If it's just kind of random here
and there, here and then I want to get to
know you moreuse at the end of the day, nobody
wants to waste they time, you know what I mean.
I am for the women though, really like sticking to
their guns. And it's gonna suck because y'all gonna be
a loan for a while. But I do I do
believe y'all should stick to if they really want to
put in the effort, make them put in the effort.
(15:48):
And yes, you are gonna go months without talking to people,
but the one that really wants you is gonna really.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
Put it in an effort.
Speaker 3 (15:54):
And yeah, and I agree with that, and they'll make
it known because I don't know if I'm talking to
a guy for a week and he's not asking me out.
I'm with you on that, Jen, Bye bye, on to
the next one, because that's you. You were with somebody
for twenty years.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Honey. You you stick by your gun. Do what you
gotta do out there.
Speaker 10 (16:11):
Best of luck, Thanks so much, love you guys, We
love you.
Speaker 8 (16:15):
You know how bad the dating pool gotta be. That
a woman who was married for twenty years and she said,
I stuck in my married just twenty years and he
was cheating on me the whole time, and I stuck
with it because I didn't want to deal with this
because I have friends who are dealing with it, and
now I'm single and I would have rather been married
than being cheated on.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
I mean, but like, for real, if you're if like you,
all you hear is your single friends telling these type stories,
You're gonna be like.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I'm good, what am I doing?
Speaker 2 (16:41):
It's creepy out there.
Speaker 1 (16:43):
I feel like I would be fine in this here.
We got fu right.
Speaker 3 (16:47):
Sati is on one today also told me he could
do a Rubik's Cube, But I'm like, what the like,
what's in the air today
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