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Speaker 1 (00:02):
It's Ashley and the jam In Morning Show with DJ Foreign.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
And Santi, and it's time for another DM dilemma.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 4 (00:14):
This is a DM dilemma, but it's close to me
and I can't I can't give specifics on it, but
let's just say I know the party involved here, So
I'm I'm gonna dance a little bit. Yeah, I'm gonna
dance a little bit here, but I'm gonna set the
scene up for you guys. So one of my good
friends kid's birthday is coming up, Okay, in a month.
(00:42):
Birthday has already planned, Invites are out.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
There is gonna be a petting zoo.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
There's gonna be baby goats, there's gonna be chicks. There's
gonna be like a little donkey that the kids can
ride around. You know what I mean when you there's
a donkey and they the mini horse or whatever.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Like set, good to go done.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
All of a sudden, my friend gets a text message
from his mom, and his mom says, listen, a separate
party just popped off. I got invited to I need
to go to that party. Can you reschedule the three
year old's birthday party? Can you reschedule it.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Can you say what kind of party it is?
Speaker 4 (01:20):
Like? Is it like a rando? It's a birthday party?
Three year old's birthday party?
Speaker 5 (01:25):
Another one. No, I'm talking about the other one. Yeah,
the other party.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
The other party is her brother's birthday. So let's we're
talking like surprise birthday party. So now she so, So,
Now let's say, let's use nana. Grandma has a surprise
birthday party for her brother and her granddaughter's three year
old birthday.
Speaker 6 (01:44):
She wants, she wants, she wants the granddaughter's birthday reschedule
because now the surprise party came.
Speaker 5 (01:50):
Up exactly crazy, Okay, go to the party.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Okay, let's okay.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
So then instead of just being like, you know what,
they're on the same day, I'll figure it out whatever.
She sends a text message to the wife to mom
and says she's three years old. She won't know change
the party.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
Yeah, but no, no, no, no, she's going to know.
The issue is your brother's probably in his sixties, he's
had enough of them.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Hey, skip the kids party, go to your brother's party
and call it a day.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
The mom is coming off as being very selfish.
Speaker 5 (02:28):
Yes, yeah, so you.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
Know, because this is the big thing. My friend you know,
writes back to his mother and is like it's done,
Like you can't come, you can't come, but you know,
not like my wife has put so much effort into
Like vendors are booked, food is being dropped off, animal,
there's a petting zoo coming. We're not moving the date
of the party for one person. The invites have already
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gone out.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
It doesn't work like that sometimes, like it's a little nuts.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, like the in laws, the moms and all stuff
can be crazy. My mother in law tried to get
us to move our vacation that's already booked and planned
for it because she was potentially book potentially like do
her vows again, like potentially she wanted that Like some
parenting in laws get selfish and insane.
Speaker 5 (03:13):
And you know why because they keep getting away.
Speaker 6 (03:15):
That's exactly it. Yes, thank you this he's like a
woman who's been getting away and just to her. So
she just thought, ah, I'll just tell him to change
in and they'll do it.
Speaker 4 (03:23):
When he had no no, When him and I had
kind of discussed it and gone back and forth, what
I noticed.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Was that he immediately stepped up good, and he texted
his mother and was like, yeah, because but we've discussed this.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
Some guys don't and they want to stay out of
it because they don't want to hurt.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Their mom's feelings, which I understand too.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
Yeah, it's just you know, it's unfair because again, his
wife has put so much hard work and effort into
this party.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Like, ma'am, what do you just don't hey, don't come
and celebrate a different day with.
Speaker 6 (03:49):
Your granddaughter's point. That's such a self because again, this
was already done. Nobody got there. You knew this party
was happening. So while you and your family were planning
something for your brother, why didn't you say, Hey, you know,
I've got my granddaughters but birthday party at the same time.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
Yeah, I can't make it. Let's do it some other times.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Also, because some of the other people going to that
party probably were invited to the birthday party so much
so we could make But again, that's tough two parties
on one day. Maybe showface at the birthday party and
then pop into the.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
You gotta do too, or just choose one she wants
enjoy the entire thing.
Speaker 4 (04:24):
You also can never ask somebody to change it. Like,
in what world are people reaching out being like, can
you change a party date for me?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
This is selfish world.
Speaker 5 (04:33):
Selfish world.
Speaker 6 (04:33):
It definitely happens, not unless you're a direct parent maybe
or something like that.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
If you and the fine man were separate.
Speaker 6 (04:39):
I don't even know, right, And that's a little ridiculous,
but still at least at that point you can kind
of be like, listen, I got something going on, can
change it so we could do it another day. Us
outside of that bro like.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
Like like we go to plan. We got Daisy's birthday
party coming up in June. I plan the date, I
do all the things a fireman and says, hey, my
mom can't come.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Can we change the date?
Speaker 4 (04:59):
Those invites are out, Nana can come a different time.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
I'm not plenty. I feel like it's a boomer thing
though I feel.
Speaker 5 (05:09):
Like the boomer thing or like an in law thing.
I feel like it just happens.
Speaker 6 (05:12):
Are a lot of in laws get away with with
with a lot.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
To Forun's point, because they're done in their entire lives
and everybody keeps curving to.
Speaker 6 (05:20):
Them, and and you know, whoever it may be, whether
it's the husband, you know, the daughter, in law, the
brother in law. You want to be cool with the moms,
you know what I mean, especially the mom or even
the dad, and you want to impress them, and you
don't want to really ruffle no feathers because you're kind
of the new one into the family. But the more
you keep giving in this is what you get.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
Imagine imagine going out like the horses. Bro.
Speaker 5 (05:42):
It's not like she didn't know this was happening.
Speaker 6 (05:44):
And you really have the audacity to pick up a
phone and be like, can you change the date? No,
We're gonna be riding ponies on this.
Speaker 5 (05:51):
Day, That's know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
And you know what was crazy? He even said for
a second he was like, ash, I thought like.
Speaker 5 (05:58):
Should we that?
Speaker 3 (06:01):
What now?
Speaker 5 (06:03):
The mother in law?
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Well like like his mother's mad.
Speaker 6 (06:06):
Right, yeah, yeah, to you, that's exactly it spoiled.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
If you were in this scenario, are we are we
keeping the party?
Speaker 3 (06:16):
Are we switching?
Speaker 4 (06:17):
Or have you been in a situation like this like
I'm gonna I can't cancel the pettings. It's it's a
done deal. Six one seven nine three one one nine
four five six one seven nine three one one nine
four five what's up with Nana and pop up film
like they're running the show in some of the households
down in check check, Hi, everybody, Good morning, Ashley in
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the jam of Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
I feel like this comes up a.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
Lot more than I wish that it would. But we've
discussed on You've talked a lot about, you know, your
mother in law and things that you've kind of had
to deal with.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
I mean foreign used to refer.
Speaker 5 (06:54):
To his as I still do not devil.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
Yeah, I mean, listen, it can be tough and I
and I think also because some guys, you know, they
respect their moms so much, and they have this relationship
with their moms where like right now it's raining outside
and their mom can be like, beautiful day out there, Sonny,
and they'll be like, I know, look at the sunshine.
May or maybe that's just my husband in South Boston.
(07:20):
I don't know, But the point is they don't step
up when you know, maybe the wife is upset and
they need to. How many times we have people calling
being like my husband, won't you know, stand up for
me or whatever the case may be.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
This one is wild.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
A three year old's birthday party is planned, it's done,
a petting a whole petting zoo is coming. The invites
have been out for a month or two, and Nana's
mad because she got invited to another party. So she's
saying she's three, She's not gonna know move her party, No, honey,
go to the other one. What are we talking about?
Six one, six, one seven nine three one nine four five.
(07:53):
I basically was like, would you number one, would you
switch it? But two have you ever been in a
situation similar to it? Jesse is in Little Jess See.
I don't want to believe this.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
I just don't.
Speaker 2 (08:05):
It happened.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
Tell us.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
So about about four years ago, my brother passed away
and my mom made me in charge of the funeral things,
and my uncle contacted me, my mom's older brother, and said, Hey,
I have my grandson's birthday that day. Do you mind
moving the funeral for the next day, which it would
be a Saturday, so that I can come. And I
was like, the audacity, you know.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
The acity that is crazy, because number one, I'm sorry
for your loss. Number two, you're you're grieving and you're
planning the funeral for your own brother, and to call
you and say I have a different celebration a birthday party,
I do it? Can you is so insanely insensitive. He
should be something like crazy, did you gut Jesse?
Speaker 3 (08:54):
Thank you for the call.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Uh? Alexis is in Wakefields, my babe. So tell me
about your mother acting up.
Speaker 7 (09:05):
Oh yeah, she's a wild one. So it's not related
to a party. But listen to this.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (09:10):
So my mom baby sits for me religiously every single
week for me to go to work. So I had
to drop off my car the other day. Yeah, babies
are next to me right now. I had to go
to a repair shop. So she comes in in the
morning to follow me there and she gets lost. I'm
right in front of her. She doesn't know how to
(09:32):
take a turn and she she just doesn't see it right.
So I pull over. I call her and I'm like, hey,
can you plug into the address and your GPS. She's like, no,
I don't know how to do it. And I'm like, well,
you know, go to the maps, you plug it in
and you follow it.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
She's like, no, I.
Speaker 7 (09:48):
Don't know how to do it. And I'm like, please,
just go to your maps and plug it in. She
said nope, nope and throws a nutty, an absolute nutty
and because she doesn't know how to use a GPS.
She is absolutely refusing to be in my grip my
daughter's life. She wants me to like call out a
word she doesn't. She's like making me change my whole
(10:08):
work schedule around because now I don't have a babysitter.
She's refusing the babysit because she got lost, like didn't
know how to take a turn. Oh my god, it's
absolutely crazy.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
Oh this is giving Terry vibes my mom too, Like
she's she's just when it comes to technology, it can
send her to the moon. She can be from the
most happy human to I have do something on my phone,
shutting down, can't do it done?
Speaker 3 (10:33):
See put it this way, Alexis.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
I'm petrified because she asked me for she asked me
now for Mother's.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Day to get her one of those digital frames.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
I feel like only old people want them, where like
the new photos flash, you know, And I got her
one of those. But I'm reading about how it has
to be hooked up and she has to like plug
it into the Wi Fi. When I tell you, I'm
going to get a call with an attitude mother wraffing
people because she can't get this still my frame fect
my why and I'm gonna.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Have to do with that. You asked for it.
Speaker 7 (11:05):
Their own stupidity is like getting taken out on you.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
It's just not like me.
Speaker 7 (11:09):
She's like, I don't know what's go Hey, Siri, go
to the repair shop. I'm like, well, there's a million
repair shops.
Speaker 4 (11:15):
Series like, Honey, be more specific, Alexis, thank you for
the call. Yeah, they they they pop off if they can't,
especially my mom. She can't figure something out technology like
anything that has to do with technology gone.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
I think we assume because there are parents that they
think logically and they understand that they don't.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
We don't have any more time.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
But I think Lisa and fall River makes makes a
very solid point the uncle's birthday party. If uncle is
this might be his last birthday, I get it, Like
that's serious. He's he's he's he might be in heaven
next year. He might not have another birthday.
Speaker 5 (11:46):
But if not, still making guarantee.
Speaker 4 (11:52):
Okay, is that knock knock nothing?
Speaker 6 (11:56):
Then maybe, but maybe this guy could be here next
So we got to do that again.
Speaker 3 (12:01):
And you know what the mini horse costs. Okay,