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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 3 (00:16):
I'm doing good. I'm doing a lot better than Ashley.
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I know me too. I'm hearing that Ashley. You you
hit me this morning? You were like when I seen
your text, I was like, oh, oh, either either this
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or they the something crazy going on. But the Queen
Ashley today doing something she rarely does, and I know
he probably took her forever to make this decision. Yeah,
but she called out sick today. She did the only
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thing that I noted that she well yesterday. It started
with her saying, at her stomach and I feel well,
but it was something minor, not anything that I would
think would be an issue. This morning, I guess she
said like she has a stomach bug or something and
she's not feeling well. So apparently she was on the
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Speaker 3 (00:56):
I don't think those words would ever come out of
when you're just stomachbug. Obviously things are happening. So but yeah,
but the cretor is out today. Man, something's going on,
stomach bug. Me and you were talking off about just
you know, when you have young kids, and you know
you've never had kids before, certain you know, certain sicknesses
start running through the house, you know.
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What I mean.
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Uh, And this is just gonna be one of many
because you start to daycare, when the kids start school,
them kids is going to bring back all kinds of
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We've been here with the stomach bug a couple times
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Speaker 5 (02:06):
Day and the Morning Show with DJ fourn It Saig
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Speaker 6 (02:11):
Number one for hip hop jam in ninety four or five.
Speaker 7 (02:17):
I am obviously starting to with Nayla at the age
of three, be invited to, you know, birthday parties for
kids and that type of thing. I didn't even know
that this was a conversation. I had no idea that
people were chatting about this online, that this was trending
and this is a big thing. But I guess there's
this new rule that on a kid's birthday that everybody
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at the party has to get a gift so that
nobody feels bad.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
Usually what happens is that you leave the party with
like a party gift, like a like a little bad
with a bunch of yes, fine, they do it.
Speaker 7 (02:56):
I've seen that, right, like a little I've seen that
I did it at my wedding. You know, at weddings
they do that. They might give you like a little
but it's the one kid's birthday. Like that kid's gonna
get the gifts. I don't happen, but.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
That kid's gonna get the best gift, probably like all
the present. But then you leave like a little bag
would like or something.
Speaker 7 (03:16):
Yes, yeah, okay, so people do party favors.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
It's a birthday party. Those kids who are gonna leave
with the gifts come with the gifts, don't they. Yes,
but then they're given gifts to leave away with. Yes, yes, yes,
you're giving a party changing gifts pretty much, you give
it a party favor. I'm spending all this money for
the party.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Anyway.
Speaker 7 (03:35):
Well, this, this whole conversation started because wait, no.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Wait for and you're not ready. No, you're not You're
not ready for this.
Speaker 7 (03:43):
So just to set the scene here, this woman went
viral because she had her daughter's birthday at Build a Bear.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
We all know what build a Bear is, right, it's
a store in the mall. You go, you stuff the animal,
you dress it, you pick it out. Whatever.
Speaker 7 (03:58):
I will let her explain her thought process. But again,
her daughter's birthday party at builde Bear.
Speaker 8 (04:04):
The other moms are mad at me at school and
said they won't be bringing their child to my child's
birthday party next year. So this year, we had a
birthday party at builde Bear for my daughter and everyone
had a thirty five dollars limit on my dime, and
everyone built their bears and it was really cute and fun,
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and I thought it was a really great idea. Some
moms decided to spend extra on accessories out of their
own pocket, which was completely their choice, and I thought
they were being really sweet and thoughtful. So after we
checked out at Bildebear, I said, all right, everyone like
turning your bear to my daughter. I don't want to
save her name on here, and some of the moms
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started acting really weird. Well, we went back to our
house for cake and the rest of the party, and
one of the moms had the audacity to come up
to me and say, you know, I was under the
impression that the bears we built were for our own daughters.
And I'm like, it's a birthday party for my daughter.
Why would you build a bear for yourself for my
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daughter's birthday?
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Like if it was my.
Speaker 8 (05:10):
Birthday and we went to one of those like glazed
under fire places, like some of my friends would probably
give me what they made, Like if we go to
a wine bar for my birthday party as an adult,
like my friends like, buy me a glass of wine?
Like I don't know, Like if you're a guy with
your buddies at the bar, don people buy you around
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or something. So the mom that approached me left and
then shortly after the rest of the parents just wrapped
it up, and I guess decided my daughter's birthday was over.
And now they're basically saying, none of their kids are
coming to my daughter's birthday next year.
Speaker 5 (05:45):
What do you think, because I.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Think you're terrible, is what I just just as.
Speaker 7 (05:50):
Okay, So they go to build a bear with these
little kids, all right, the little kids make bears.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
They think they are making the bears for them cause.
Speaker 7 (06:00):
They're picking, Oh, I want that Hello Kitty bear, and
I want to put her in that dress, and she's
gonna hold that bag. Then they get back to the
house for cake and ice cream, and the woman goes
give me the bear.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Yeah no, what do you what do you mean?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Do you like she picked out all of her favorite things?
Speaker 9 (06:16):
What do you mean?
Speaker 10 (06:16):
Now?
Speaker 7 (06:17):
Mind you, she probably thought that because she was putting
up the thirty five per bear. That's exactly what it was,
so it should have been discussed prior to Hey, if
this is the way she want it now, mind you,
I bet you have.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
The people wouldn't have come.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
I would not have gone.
Speaker 7 (06:32):
It's weird, but you can't how am I supposed to
explain to my little kid who just built a bear
that that that's not their bear.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
It's weird.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
It's very weird. It's very selfish too, because I think
this lady thinks that her kid is the center of
the universe, and that's the way she's raised me.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
On this day.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
He is. Yeah, but it's also not above because all
these young kids took the time to go to the party,
do all these things things, go back to the house
for ice.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Cream, let me play Devil's Agogate. But it's my party
that I put together. I went and got the location,
I went and spent the money for every So you're
not you're just bringing your kid along. We're having a
Kumbaya moment with my kids. I still don't get the
part where I'm leaving the bed with you because we
built it. I think I should just take it home,
because again, it was a community thing, right. But I
can understand how theory that I spend all this money
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for everybody to build a bed, and all the bed
stayed with me.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I'm going to just say this, and people might think
this is crazy.
Speaker 7 (07:25):
If I'm having a birthday party for Layla at Build
a Bear, I'm not going to invite a lot of people,
maybe five, yes, and I'm they can pick out whatever
bear they want, but not covering the costs because it's
a party. And at Build a Bear, and that's what
you do because there's kids and it suck you, So
don't invite she invite.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Like nine people. Don't invite that many. Cut it down.
Don't invite that many kids.
Speaker 7 (07:46):
You can't have it at that location and then attack
them to take their bears.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
And what are you to do with that many bears?
Speaker 2 (07:56):
That doesn't make sense. It was weird, like you could
take them to any other situation painting something. The kids
are gonna leave with whatever they created. Why as with you?
That's weird.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Not even a party.
Speaker 7 (08:07):
But I do a lot of play dates with my
friend Courtney, who lives in my neighborhood in Marshfield.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
She's she puts my mom into shame. She's so good
about like I'm so thoughtful with the kids.
Speaker 7 (08:18):
Every time we go over there, she's gone to like
the dollar store and bought a bunch of stuff for
them to do crafts and stuff. And I always in
my head, I'm like, damn, never asks me for a dollar.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 7 (08:28):
Like, because she bought the stuff and we're coming to
her house and she's doing I need to get better.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
I gotta buy some plate over or something.
Speaker 7 (08:34):
But my point is is like, it's not like I'm
going over there and she's saying, well, if you want
to come, you have to give me money for these supplies.
Like it's it's kind of like we just it's a
thing that we do when she comes to my house,
I offer the kids snacks.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
I'm not asking her. Can you give me five for
the fruit snacks?
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Note now, if there's a parent that wants to leave
the bear there, that's a nice thing, thank you. But
you don't go there with the expectations.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
You don't ask, you can't.
Speaker 7 (08:56):
It's because you chose that location that I think makes
this all weird.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (09:01):
Again, it would be like you have a party at
Dave and Busters and then the food comes and all
the kids start eating, and then you say, oh, you
have to pay for that.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
But wait, we're at a party. I'm under the assumption that.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Actually I went to a party like that about two
weeks ago and the kid was turning ten. And what
the parents did. They gave each of the kids, like say,
like twenty bucks worth of tokens to go play. They
didn't ask that money back. It was a part of
the party, right.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
And then beyond that.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
And then after they took the tickets out there when
they turned the niff for whatever that they didn't ask for,
like the prize that they won and all that stuff back.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
No, it was a weird part.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
That's weird. And then and then probably was.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Like, dude, I spent like mad bread. That's a lot
of money.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
No it is. That was her choice. Why she thirty
five per she had like nine or ten kids. That's you.
It's the you can't have it at that spot and not.
Speaker 7 (09:53):
Yes or you do, and you in the card are like, hey, guys,
we'd love for you to come to our party at
Build a Bear. You can feel free to make your
own what you kind of have to put that. But
that's still weird.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
You got to say, son, like you know, let's all
come and build bears for my son.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I'm going to put twenty dollars to.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Half those people ain't showing up. The mom crazy if
you like, think about it. So she made a drive
to build a bear, and then when the party was done,
when that part was done, we attracted to the house
that can way too much for transport. I'm leaving off
to build a bear with my bear.
Speaker 7 (10:30):
I wonder if anybody has a I went to a
kid party and there was a weird like thing that
happened where because I'm telling you, people spend so much money.
Me being one for Layla's first birthday, I had a
boozy brunch like I spent money, but I'm not ever
going to ask anybody else for money, and I'm certainly
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going to send them home with a party.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
For There's a new thing now too. Also to you
have to invite the entire class. You can just invite
two or three, you get invite everybody.
Speaker 7 (10:59):
And I agree with that because I see videos of
these kids where they're bawling, crying because they're the only
kid in classes on anybody that's you can't do that, Chanelle,
I mean, this is this is crazy. You're gonna invite
everybody to a party at Build a Bear and then
yank the bears from the little kid's grips.
Speaker 9 (11:20):
What absolutely, And then you're gonna be like the worst
mom of the year when they talk about you, ask ooh,
how you stole the little kid's beers. Yes, that's their
takeaway present, like you know, the little gift bags you
give to go home.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
The party favors. You know what.
Speaker 7 (11:33):
I keep thinking of Chanelle too, when she said at
the end, and now no one's come to the party
next year, like you ruined it for your daughter.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
And by the way, half.
Speaker 7 (11:39):
The party at Build a Bear and maybe say listen,
I can throw ten dollars towards each bear.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Whatever it is. I don't care.
Speaker 7 (11:45):
But now this poor girl, everyone hates mom and they're
not gonna come to the party next year.
Speaker 9 (11:51):
But now I'm in that they already brought the gifts
for the daughter.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
True, I didn't even think about it. Oh my god,
you're so right. We didn't even you know, they all
showed up with a gift for the kid. You're so right. Wow,
she was.
Speaker 9 (12:05):
Just being selfish and wanted that money go back to her.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
You gotta do her better.
Speaker 9 (12:10):
When they come as a guest. You have to serve
them too.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Yeah, thank you, that's so true. Wow, I can't even
think about that.
Speaker 7 (12:17):
No one's showing up empty handed to a party. They're
all going to bring something, all right. Six one seven
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Speaker 1 (12:26):
I'm just getting into this realm of my life. But
what is going on with these kids parties?
Speaker 7 (12:29):
Like?
Speaker 1 (12:30):
What do I.
Speaker 11 (12:31):
Rather lie the lose?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I run a live I rather?
Speaker 3 (12:36):
I rather I rather lie the loose?
Speaker 7 (12:41):
Hi, everybody, good morning. It's Ashley and the jam In
Morning Show. It's so funny. I had no idea that
there was such a conversation around kid's birthday parties. I
just got a DM from a girl and she's like,
ash I'm in a mom Facebook group and a very
like a common question that I'm seeing in there is
I'm having my kid's birthday party soon. Should I have food?
She goes, Ashley, what who has a party invites people
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doesn't have food? More recently, the woman goes, well, my
party's from one thirty to three thirty, so it's after
lunch and before dinner, so I shouldn't have to have food.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Excuse me, what you have to have food at a part,
like you have to have a party.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
It is something, and I bend to them where they
don't have anything, and it is talked about, that is
for sure.
Speaker 7 (13:21):
Obviously, you invite a bunch of little kids to build
a bear, you ask them to build a bear, say
here's thirty five bucks per bear. They build the bears,
and then you say, give me them their mind. What
Tina is in Brockton, Tina, this is this is a
little weird.
Speaker 12 (13:42):
Hi, listen, I would leave the bear because of course
I gotta be in the presence for the little one yup,
thinking that my kids bring their beer back, So I would.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
Leave it there, pick up my present and come back home.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
With no but that that's so true.
Speaker 7 (13:58):
And thank you to the woman who called him. Was
like Chanelle, She's like asked. They all bought present. That
is so true. No parent came their empty handed. They
all brought a gift. So of course you would think
that they were gonna be able to keep the bear.
You're right, fine, here's your bear. I'm taking my present.
But again, all of this, all of this, hut's the
little kid though, And that's why it's sad that mom
did this.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
It does that is very sad, very sad. I bought
my daughter.
Speaker 12 (14:22):
Know she's twenty eight, so I'm sure little I took
her to build a bear, you know. Oh my gosh,
she was crazy about that bear. She came home like
she was great, showing off to everybody. Yeah, because it's
not right.
Speaker 7 (14:35):
It's not Gina, thank you for the call. Because they
go to build a bear and they build a bear
for themselves, so she's not They're not picking up Oh
little miss Molly would like this on their bed. No,
they're picking up what they like. Zena or Zia is
in Cambridge.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
Yep, it's Xina Xena.
Speaker 10 (14:51):
The same thing for my granddaughter. I build a bear
and she had about eight gaps.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Oh tell us everything. Okay, so how did you what
was the layout?
Speaker 10 (14:57):
So what they do a great job. So they have
all kind of activities and they pick out what they want.
My daughter let them.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
Pick out whatever they wanted.
Speaker 10 (15:05):
And then afterwards she also made a reservation at UNO's
and had the parents and the kids. She had adult
food and pizzas for the kids afterwards, and everybody bought
a gift. But nowadays I noticed that people are saying
don't bring gifts.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Excuse me?
Speaker 7 (15:20):
Well, first of let's let's go back. Did she pay
for everybody's building?
Speaker 13 (15:24):
Bear?
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Or did yees?
Speaker 7 (15:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 10 (15:26):
Tay for everything?
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (15:27):
And how many how many kids would you say, we're there?
Speaker 10 (15:30):
Eight?
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Wow?
Speaker 7 (15:31):
So that even if we're saying, like, let's just say
forty of bear probably that okay, that that's a lot
of money. But again, like if you're having your party there,
I would I would do the same thing your daughter did.
Speaker 13 (15:42):
It was worth it.
Speaker 10 (15:42):
We don't have to clean up, we don't have to
do any of that.
Speaker 13 (15:46):
You're really worth it.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yeah, I didn't even think about that. That's actually a
solid point.
Speaker 7 (15:50):
So then and then you go and you go to
UNO's and you guys eat there, and you obviously and
you cover that bill because you invited people.
Speaker 13 (15:57):
Yeah, adults got cocktails.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Yeah, that's the only reason I'm going to parties these days.
But what is this narrative now they're saying, don't bring
gifts for what?
Speaker 7 (16:06):
Why?
Speaker 13 (16:06):
Yeah?
Speaker 10 (16:07):
I noticed my daughter, my granddaughter got invited to him.
Outher told me she got invited to three parties this
year and all of them said don't bring gifts.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Okay, fine, I'm not good I mean, yeah, okay, but
that was probably.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Because they're footing the bill for everything. They probably like,
we're gonna cover everything for y'all. There's no need for
y'all to bring a gift. Just come enjoy without without kids.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
I'm never you know, gt me too.
Speaker 7 (16:30):
Hey hey, hey, you're never gonna hear those words come
out of this mother's mouth bringing your gifts.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Thanks for the call, like we change.
Speaker 3 (16:38):
Somebody got offended with some gift and then they just banned.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
But it's probably that that little thing where it's like, oh,
everybody feels like maybe the kids started complaining like oh,
comes they get a gift and I don't.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Yeah, it's not like shut up.
Speaker 7 (16:51):
My favorite thing is when and I do this all
the time, if the if the party is for a
kid that's like under a certain age, like they might
not need another firetruck.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
So I always text the mom and be like, what
do you need?
Speaker 7 (17:05):
And I love when people do that to me because
then we're not like doubling gifts or we're getting maybe
they need whatever.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
You know, two hours max. That's the length of the party.
Anything beyond that is hell because none of the parents
want to be there.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Couldn't it.
Speaker 7 (17:17):
Yeah, well it's a problem the party and if there's
no I went to a party. I went to a
party over the weekend. It was a ten thirty to
twelve thirty perfect. Great, it was in the morning. I
was I walked in at ten thirty. No one's drinking, like,
not even a mimosa.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
I mean not everybody has a problem.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
So it wasn't an alcoholic Yeah, it was a birthday.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
If you want an alcoholic child imosa.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
Yeah, like come on, party sucks.
Speaker 5 (17:51):
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Speaker 6 (17:53):
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Speaker 2 (18:01):
Good Mornia, Happily Thursday, she got forming in here. My
brother Santy holding it down for our queen. Actually, who's
out sixty day with a stomach bug. Actually, we hope
you get better sometime. I got some bad news for
you though. Yes, this is gonna be very disappointing. Actually, uh,
you're not You may not be able to enjoy Glizzy anymore.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Oh I heard about this.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Uh yeah, for all you Glizzy fans that go to
Fenway and have yourselves Glizzies. The Fenway staff apparently is
about to strike and stop doing any kind of concessions
at Fenway for any kind of events, whether it's baseball
or concerts. And you know what the reason is A while.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I guess they're getting paid, they're not going to be enough.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Yeah, I mean again, in this kind of economy, bro,
I mean there's a lot of companies I feel like
that might go through this because you know, inflation is real, bro,
Like you go to the grocery store, everything is expensive.
Life is expensive now. But yeah, these guys are saying, hey, listen,
we we were not serving up no hot dogs, no beers,
no nothing unless you pay us small.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
Listen. I understand that inflation and all that, but at
the same time, like for a team that's worth probably
over a billion, they can afford to pay some people.
And then you also take the consideration that they pay
their players and then saying amount like saying you can play,
you can give them a raise. I don't think they're
asking for a crazy amount, but they're just asking for salvage.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I don't go to baseball games. What's the average ticket
price for a baseball.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
For a Red Sox team for a good seat or
a bad seat?
Speaker 2 (19:27):
A decency say the metal I would say about one
hundred dollars and a good seat, a good good seat
about plus one point fifty. Oh yeah, okay for a
good say thank you. So they make it money.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
Yeah, games are always pats and then the concessions are
super expensive. I think Fenway is one of the most expensive.
So for a beer you're probably paying like nine bucks
at least.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
I don't know. I don't know. I didn't see it
in the article. Maybe you did, but I didn't see it.
But I didn't see what they were getting paid now.
But yeah, but the Fenway staff is saying that they
want they want, especially the concession people. They want more
money than not making enough money when you put it
in that kind of context, Yeah, like while we being
cheap with the people who actually are bringing you income.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
Right now, I have to imagine that they're going to
figure something out for the games, because you can't just
now and not have any right. Yeah, so I got
to think they're going to hire some people just for
those two games or whatever, because it's a forty eight
hour strike. So that's what they're saying now. It is
it through a union like an union?
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Yeah, okay, yeah, pay these people, man, please come on, man,
stie needs his Glizzies pay them Sash and.
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Speaker 1 (20:39):
Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 7 (20:42):
I don't know if you're anything like me, but you've
come across this trending thing called a trad wife and
you're like, what the hell is tradwife? Actually wrote it
down on a posty because I was like, what the
hell is a trad wife? But I had seen so
many people making the little comment about it. Well, I'm
a track wife. I'm a tradwife. If you don't know
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what one is, I'm still learning myself, or maybe you
consider yourself one six, one seven nine three one one
nine four five to join in the convo, This saying
trad wife has been trending in its easiest, simplest terms,
it's a traditional wife. This is a woman who considers
herself a trad wife. And this is what she claims
is the number one rule for all tradwives.
Speaker 14 (21:27):
Number one rule as a trad wife, This is your
duty as a wife. A man's home is his castle,
so he should be treated as a king. He's working
a stressful job, maybe working long hours just so he
can provide for you and the family, so he rightfully
deserves peace. At being said, it's every wife's duty to
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appreciate her man and all his hard work.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Show him how much you truly appreciate him. Okay, he
is your king and you are his queen. That is
your duty. If that's the duty, being a trad wife sucks.
It's very one sided.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
I don't like it. It doesn't feel like a true partnership.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Like listen, I think there's something to it.
Speaker 7 (22:08):
We all want a little peace at the house, but
that's gotta go both ways.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Yeah, it sounds like the piece is just a one
sided thing. Now, going back to the fifties, maybe this
work then, I think society has completely changed and it's
well bound.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Cause back then was you know, the wife is staying
at home, takes care of the crib. You handle the crib.
I bring the money to supply whatever we need to do,
and I just come sit down, get my feet rugged,
get fed, We chill. I'll go to bed, wake up
the next morning and do the same thing. You take
care of the household.
Speaker 7 (22:34):
I do not mean to offend when I say this,
because there are some women out here that that's the
goal for them to be a stay at home mom,
to be a stay at home.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Wife, to trad wife.
Speaker 7 (22:45):
It up that if that brings you joy, and that
brings you happiness, that's cool.
Speaker 10 (22:50):
Me.
Speaker 7 (22:52):
Nope, that's not bringing me joy. That's actually that's sucking
the life about me.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
I will say, Like in other culture, tradwife is still
a thing Like Dominicans, I can tell you they're still
going by traditionals and those men can do whatever they
want there and the like the why is my complaint,
But they're still like they they're they're just adherent to
all the men. It doesn't sound fun.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
Sounds spooky to me.
Speaker 7 (23:14):
Uh. And again, I want I do want my husband
to feel like the man of the house. There's no
there's no like, I have no qualms about that. You
are the man of the house for sure.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
I wantn't you let them.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
But I do think there needs to be a little
bit of a partnership.
Speaker 7 (23:30):
Here's her main thing is like my husband needs he's
the king, he deserves peace, but I deserve peace too.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Mary is in Rhode Island, Mayor. It's tough. The trad
wife thing. Oh it is god golf.
Speaker 4 (23:46):
I just can't believe this is a trend happening right
now in this moment.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Oh, it's big.
Speaker 11 (23:52):
It's in this political climate that women are still right.
Speaker 4 (23:57):
If you think that way, great and that's what you
want to do. But I'm tired.
Speaker 7 (24:01):
I work full time. I'm a mom.
Speaker 4 (24:03):
I want my house to be a castle too, right.
Speaker 7 (24:07):
Right, call me Cinderella because I definitely want to feel
that as well.
Speaker 4 (24:13):
Yeah, here's a trad husband is a tad.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
I can't listen, I can't pick.
Speaker 11 (24:17):
Yeah, not the same.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
You know what's messed up? Though, this is very messed up.
Speaker 7 (24:21):
If my husband was like I want to quit my
job and be like a trad husband and stay at
home dad, that my vagina would shrivel, which is messed up.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
I don't want that either. I don't want that either,
truly though.
Speaker 4 (24:31):
No, I want you out in contributing to hear we
could build the castle together.
Speaker 7 (24:35):
Yes, let this be our kingdom. Mary, thanks for the call.
Uh Staph is in Chelmsford, Hey staff, good morning.
Speaker 4 (24:43):
Good morning.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Had you heard about the trad wife thing.
Speaker 11 (24:47):
I've never heard of it anymore, because you know what,
I don't hear about traditional men do tell go on,
So it's like okay, And I feel like a lot
of men are entitled now these days. They want women
to duel the whole nine while they're doing the bare minimum.
And I can understand if there's like these real hard
working men and they're paying all the bills and you're
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staying home and you're taking care of the kids, But like, nowadays,
where do you even see that? Like I can understand
men who are probably like in the late thirties that
they probably still exists, But I'm twenty five years old.
I could, I could probably maybe I'm looking in the
wrong areas, but I do not see traditional men nowadays.
They just want to feel entitled. And I'm working just
as munch as ill as they are. I'm just as
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tired as they are. Where's my treatment? Where's me being
treated as a queen? You want to be a king?
Where's my queen treatment?
Speaker 7 (25:35):
Well? Listen, stuff I do. They're out there and thank
you for the call. I think a lot of women
that listen to this show sometimes give off like broken
and hurt and you guys have been through things, so
have I. But they're out there and I just refuse
to not say that there is another side to this
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where I do believe, like I married a great man
and you can that too.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
They're out there.
Speaker 7 (26:01):
It might be hard to find, yeah, but there isn't
a decide to this.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
They're not all bad.
Speaker 3 (26:06):
I also think like, if you have a bad experience
with one dude, you should like change your pattern for
the other one. I think some girls go back to
the same consistency that they've always known, expecting a different
and that makes.
Speaker 7 (26:16):
Me sad because stuff's like guys won't be out here
doing the whole nine when they're doing the bare minimum.
I think eventually she's just twenty five. Eventually she'll find
somebody that will meet here in the middle. But I
do feel like a lot of the women sometimes and
we have these topics, they call him.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
They're hurt.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
They hurt from a place right, Yep.
Speaker 7 (26:33):
Melissa is in Pavty, Hey Bliss. Hello, are you a
trad wife? No?
Speaker 1 (26:41):
I am not. What do you do you feel about it?
Speaker 7 (26:47):
Oh, you hadn't got this is crazy because this is
a big thing, and I'm shocked that we haven't had
somebody call in being like I'm a traded wife.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
And I love it.
Speaker 15 (26:55):
Yeah, I wasn't going to give my two cents, but
I was listening as to as you put up that
saying like the number one rule, I was like, all right,
I gotta call in now.
Speaker 16 (27:03):
And but I just wanted to say. I just wanted
to say to go off of like what you were
saying too about how there are good men out there
and I recently just found one, and like I'm twenty
six now, so going like, after all of these just
you know, relationships that didn't work and whatnot, and dealing
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with all these horrible men, there are good men out there,
and there are men that will.
Speaker 15 (27:27):
Treat you the way that you deserve to be treated.
You just have to be patient and wait for it.
But but yeah, I totally agree with the sense of
treating your man like a king. And you know, I
totally agree with all that, but if it's reciprocated.
Speaker 7 (27:41):
Agreed, I like, I like that narrative. And you know,
one Millist, what sounds to me is you were messing
with boys and you found yourself a man, which is
they're out there that's nice exactly. Yeah, And listen again,
I'm not I'm not saying that to not treat your
to your significant other like they're a king or a queen.
But again, I'm including the queen in there that we
both have to we gotta, we gotta find a middle ground.
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I want a trad wife, though, I want to hear,
I want to hear. I'm gonna Can we play another
song science if you can get six one seven nine
three one one nine four five. Don't be shy trad wives.
I know you're out there. You're probably out running some
errands for the house, and that's cool. Six one seven
nine three one one nine four five. You consider yourself
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a traditional wife and you are just running the kingdom. Hi, everybody,
we're talking about being a trad wife. It's a it's
a trending thing on social media. I had heard it referenced.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
A few times. What the hell's this? So we were
doing a little bit more digging today.
Speaker 7 (28:39):
Essentially, in it's in its simplest forms, it is a
traditional wife. It is a stay at home mom, a
stay at home wife who you know, does all of
the household things while big Daddy goes out and makes
the money. If it, if it's for you, that's cool.
I'm not throwing any shade, but not for big mo mom,
not for me, uh, but it is for beck and
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Cambridge back. Good morning, babe, Hi, how are you good?
I said, listen, I need to talk to a traditional
wife because it's it brings happiness to some You, in fact,
are a tried away Now had you heard the term before?
Speaker 4 (29:14):
No?
Speaker 13 (29:14):
Not till this morning.
Speaker 7 (29:15):
Okay, So talk to me stay at home mom, stay
at home wife, Like, what does your.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Day to day look like?
Speaker 13 (29:22):
Well, I recently started working part time in the morning
because my children have not gotten older. Okay, but when
when they were younger, you know, I was a saying
home mom. I took care of the house. I did
everything for my husband and my children. You and out.
He paid all the bills. He's a wonderful father, coach
the kids teams. So it brought me joyce. Not it's
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one of those things. He has to be the right man.
He has to be the man that makes you feel
good about your role in life.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
And what about you?
Speaker 7 (29:54):
Did you ever feel like lost in that? Did you
ever feel like you didn't have an identity in that?
Like you never had anything for or yourself that you
were constantly just giving to everybody else? Or was that
enough for you.
Speaker 13 (30:06):
No, because I did have my own identity as well,
which was what we didn't. I was still my own person.
I still had my friends, and.
Speaker 7 (30:16):
It wasn't and you weren't like you got that you
got out of the house and did your own things
as well, by yourself of course.
Speaker 5 (30:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 13 (30:22):
And I always went to mom's groups. We have a
lot of local moms groups in Cambridge, okay, where you
can meet with other moms and it's wonderful, wonderful.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (30:32):
Well, and like I said, beg for it is it
is for some people. It's it's like I'm not the
type that could do it. But talking to you, like,
it's not like as if you're calling me being like
I hated it and I regret staying at home all
of those years, like you didn't.
Speaker 13 (30:45):
Oh no, I love it, Like it was great. Yeah,
I got to spend so much time with my children.
You didn't have to worry about daycare that. Yeah, I
didn't have to worry about any expenses.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (30:58):
I did you ever have a moment where you were
how many kids you got?
Speaker 13 (31:02):
I have four?
Speaker 7 (31:03):
Did you Jesus, did you ever have a moment where
everybody was crying and going crazy? And you just were like,
get me the hell out of here, because I have
those daily and I only have two, so I didn't.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
I just didn't know.
Speaker 13 (31:13):
I mean, yeah, it's usually by like kind of the
end of the day when he's coming home, and then
he comes home and you know, he takes it on.
Speaker 5 (31:22):
Did he he helped out?
Speaker 6 (31:23):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (31:24):
He did?
Speaker 1 (31:24):
Okay, So would you do the dinners and stuff too?
Or would he help cook?
Speaker 5 (31:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (31:28):
You would.
Speaker 13 (31:28):
I usually did that because he'd be out playing with
the kids and like trying to give me a personal break,
and I love cooking, so it was like my time.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
All right, Becky, Well thank you for that.
Speaker 7 (31:38):
I mean, listen the way Becky's describing it, it still
doesn't sound something for me.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
But she's probably the closest you're going to get to
the upple of how it's supposed to be.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
Yes, I don't like it. I don't think I could
be the person who wants to be like that. I'm
so used to have being with my wife who's into
her into like just to work and everything like that.
To have a traditional wife like that.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Right, But that's all you know, maybe it's also on.
Speaker 2 (32:02):
The flip these women who want to just stay home
because they're lazy and they don't want to do nothing.
Speaker 7 (32:06):
By the way, and I've seen there's people will create
content around that. Yes, like I don't. There's a girl
that I follow that she's married, she's a trophy wef.
She doesn't have a job, she has they don't even
have kids. She's like, this is what I do all
day while my husband works and she goes.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
And so it's the opposite side because yes, some guys
who want that the traditional wife, but they kind of
using it to you know, kind of just have somebody
to watch the kids. They don't talk to you, they
don't show you no love. This guy, the last example
sounded like the perfect gentleman, right Yeah. But then on
the other side, there's the wives who are just like, bro,
I don't want to work, just go make money, give
me a card, I can go shopping, do whatever I
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want and just chill. Might even have a nanny if
they have kids, right, and she's just chilling.
Speaker 7 (32:46):
I think we can all wrap our head around a
stay at home mom because again, like that that daycare,
all those things they cost. So if you're somebody who
has that in you, that you can do it. Like again,
I love my cad. It's more than anything on this planet.
But I need this time outside of like the house,
because you can only play like zombie so many times
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before you do go crazy. But stay at home wife
with nothing like that's a special breed because what are
you doing?
Speaker 3 (33:17):
It just sounds so alring and just looking out the
window when kids are done and folding.
Speaker 7 (33:23):
That's like, oh, I can't say it like that.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Well, hey, that's at all.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
How many times can you go to home Goods and
get something different every day? If it's every Wednesday?
Speaker 1 (33:36):
I cool?
Speaker 3 (33:38):
How do you know.
Speaker 7 (33:39):
That that's what shops the new Goods every Wednesday?
Speaker 14 (33:45):
Foreign is lying, he's a little trophy wife.
Speaker 17 (33:49):
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You guys, your Latino people have got to take an
l on this. Bro Okay, did you hear what's going
on with fat Job?
Speaker 3 (34:08):
I saw her number, I didn't. I didn't get the
full story.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
I By the way, if you're just checking in our
girl Ashley's out today, shout out to her. Please Sunday
your love. She's not feeling well at Ashley Felman, me
and Sonta been holding it down all morning and this
came across my timeline yesterday and I couldn't believe this number.
Now Fat Joe legendary rapper, he was actually being flat.
I don't know if you saw this. He was actually
getting flamed online because for some reason, SeaWorld now is
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doing like summer concerts.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
Have you seen, yes, I.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Have The Yin Yang Twins was the first one that
went viral and I kind of was like, why's the
Yin Yang Twins that at sea World? But I was like,
they must need money. Then next thing, you know, Sojier
Boy was there. Then next thing you know, Fat Joe
Now it was there. And for Fat Joe's performance, every
other performance look lit, but they're trying to say that
Fat Joe's performance was kind of like luck Cluster and
people are leaving and nobody enjoyed it. Anyway, He's been
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in the news for that. He's been in the news
because he lost a gang of weight, and I think
a few months ago he came out and said that
he was taking a zempic. Even his walk. Have you
seen Fat Joe walking? I have seen his walk it's
not pretty, bro, I don't know what's happening. He said
he had a knee injury when he was a kid
that he never got surgery on. But he basically waddles.
Damn ye not even it's like this, this staggering walk.
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It's weird to see.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
Yeah, And I think the issue because he lost all
a weight till now, it's more prominent.
Speaker 2 (35:25):
There you go, speaking of the way my guy even
though he and he looks good by the way, pause, right,
he lost a gang of weight. He's looking healthy. Can
you guess how many sodas diet sodas Fat Joe admitted
to drinking in a day.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
I mean, if you're saying it like that, it has
to be twenty double that forty forty Bro, This god
drinks forty cans a diet coke every day.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
I don't know if that's the SODA's drinking. I'm just
gonna say, die coke, bro, how do you consume forty
cans of diet soda in a day.
Speaker 3 (36:02):
You're not drinking water to hydrate, You're drinking diet cokes
like all day.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
That's exact, band, And ain't you supposed to like limit
your the junk that you have when you're on a zempic.
One out of zempic fans over here. I mean, we've
never taken it, so I don't know.
Speaker 7 (36:16):
No.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
I from what I from what I've always heard is
that you can eat yourself right through it too, Like
it's supposed to be like a limit and balance out
like your I guess you're pancreas, but like you can
eat right through that forty.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
Diet sodas a day. I'm gonna admit something to you.
When I was at my heaviest, I was probably like
three soning right, many many years ago. Every time I
would sit down to eat something, I have two sodas.
I would have two cans. If not more, we should
buy what were they the twelve pack cans? Those were
probably going in two days. I was a soda fiend.
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I was just I sit down for lunch too, I
sit down for dinner too. Maybe between one or two
I was, I was consuming a lot of sugar.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
So okay, so let's just put it. You were probably
having like eight a day, maybe better than forty forty.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
That's a fact. Like and die soda is a gimmick.
I'm sorry they try to say diet, but come on it,
you know what I mean. It's like I don't I
don't even know how to explain this. But forty kans
of soda, Fat Joe? How many kans of soda do
ya drink? Be real like Fat Joe? And tap in
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Speaker 1 (37:30):
All right, everybody, let's check in with you. What's going on?
How are we?
Speaker 7 (37:33):
Six one seven nine three one one nine four five
six one seven nine three one one nine four five.
You call me and we're talking about anything you want.
It's all about your life. Our Lenny is in stow in.
She's going to start the check in for us. Uh.
Things are a little rocky right now between you and
the father of your children. So how long have you
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guys been separated? What's the setup? Do they live with?
Speaker 9 (37:56):
You?
Speaker 10 (37:57):
Like?
Speaker 1 (37:57):
See set the scene for us?
Speaker 4 (38:00):
So basically, I met him back in my space days
when I was like twelve, yeamn, and I know, and
we were we stayed together until I think I was
like twenty twenty one. But throughout that whole really like
throughout the whole relationship at the time, it was just toxic,
all types of toxic. I was just young.
Speaker 5 (38:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (38:22):
When you're saying relateships the red flash you guys were
never married or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Oh no, okay, okay.
Speaker 4 (38:29):
So after I turned obviously twenty, I got like, I
put my big girl pants on. I said, Okay, this
is not what I want. You know, my son is walking.
This guy has no chill about what he says about
my around my son. I had a just walked day.
Speaker 10 (38:50):
He made.
Speaker 7 (38:51):
By the way timeline wise, you said you had a
one year old son around the age of twenty, so
you were really young.
Speaker 4 (38:57):
Yes, so I had my son at seventeen. Sorry, I
had him at seventeen.
Speaker 18 (39:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:01):
Wow, so you had to ground like that's crazy. Seventeen
is young.
Speaker 7 (39:04):
You have this this kid, You're like you automatically knew
after about a year's time with the baby, this is
not He's not going to be a good role model
for my son.
Speaker 4 (39:14):
Exactly. You couldn't say it anybody. That's what I said
to myself, because it's like you date someone you want
your son to be like if that makes sense, like
you don't want more, if you don't want your child
to be like the specific person's like why are you doing?
Speaker 1 (39:27):
What are we doing?
Speaker 4 (39:28):
Or you don't want your daughter dating this type of guy?
What are we doing here? Yeah, So that's the thing.
When when I turned twenty twenty one, a couple of
years went by, he you know, tried to get back
with me at like twenty five. He tried, and I
kind of believe everything he was saying that he changed
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or whatever, and we ended up getting back together and
we had another baby. She's a beautiful girl. But it's
like things just got worse, Like he kind of came
in like, oh, you know, I love you. I'm sorry,
and now it's like you're this, you're that, and it's
like what happens overnight?
Speaker 7 (40:10):
M So, yeah, you let him back in, which, you know, okay,
we have a whole other baby.
Speaker 1 (40:17):
So now we have two kids with this man. Yeah,
and do we feel like obviously.
Speaker 7 (40:22):
You felt like there was a little bit of change,
and I'm sure that's why he took him back and
all the things. And now he's kind of reverting back
to the initial reason why you left.
Speaker 4 (40:30):
Him exactly and what I mean by changing. I've seen
him solber, not drinking, not smoking, because I noticed back
in the days when he was drinking, he'll get very
angry than the next morning not remember what he did
or said, you know, and that physically and mentally destroyed me.
And he wouldn't understand because he's a man. He's like,
oh you she got over it. She's a woman. And
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I don't like that type of mindset.
Speaker 7 (40:53):
So where are you guys at today? Like you don't
live with each other, you live with each other?
Speaker 4 (40:58):
Like what's not we don't live with each other? That like, yes,
so we don't live with each other, went out together
and he just won't kind of like co parent in
a healthy way like he was. You won't talk to me.
It's either work together or he just don't want to
talk to me at all. And I think that's just
a sick mindset because at the end of the day,
it's the kids now, and I feel like the kids
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shouldn't know if you don't like their mother. I believe
in that old school love. Whatever we go through, our
kids don't need enough period.
Speaker 7 (41:27):
Yeah, yeah, I agree on that, and that's Honestly, the
way I was raised, my parents were divorced, but.
Speaker 1 (41:33):
Until I was of age, they were best friends.
Speaker 7 (41:36):
In my eyes, they just weren't together anymore and they
co parented. And you know, I would agree with you
on that, but that has to be and I know
foreign that's kind of that was your mindset, but both
parties have to.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Agree to that.
Speaker 7 (41:49):
So if he's not, then now are you comfortable, Like
does he take the kids by himself?
Speaker 1 (41:54):
Are you comfortable with that? Do you mentioned the drinking
and stuff.
Speaker 4 (41:58):
So I'm not comfortable because of my personal reasons. It's
been like the family co signed him with his behavior.
That's what makes it even worse. These are not people like,
oh you're wrong, They're like, okay, you know what it is.
What it is. So it makes me not like I
don't feel comfortable around like my kids being around like
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the family and stuff, because like when I'm telling you,
when they get lit, they're like punching each other, doing
all types of stuff. And I don't want my kids
around ghettleness. Not that I'm being petty, but it's like
I'm trying to protect my kids.
Speaker 1 (42:33):
So what do they see him?
Speaker 5 (42:34):
Then?
Speaker 1 (42:35):
Under your supervision or how are you guys handling that?
Speaker 4 (42:38):
So I so I offered him that, but it's like
when he's around me, he's just saying a bunch of
stuff and the kids are there, so I'm like, Okay,
this is not going to work out. So that's where
I'm stuck at right now. Like he's not respecting me.
I don't really talk to any of the family, and
it's deep like that.
Speaker 5 (42:56):
So I'm like, suck, yeah, And.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
How old are the kids?
Speaker 4 (43:00):
Eleven and ten months?
Speaker 2 (43:03):
Yeah, that's I mean, it's a hard leg to have
because unless he's physically abusing them, or mentally abusing them,
or even verbally abusing him to the extent where they
feel like, oh nah, you can't be around him. You
can't really stop him from, you know, taking the kids
and going to the like you said, ghetto house. You
get what I'm saying. So if everybody over there is
(43:23):
like rowdy and have a you may not like it,
but do you really have a legal leg to stand
on to be like, nah, I don't want him to
take my kids because I don't feel safe. There has
to be a safety concern. Just because they loud and obnoxious,
isn't safety concern.
Speaker 4 (43:36):
No, no, no, So there's been like other stuff is
just I'm on lie. So I don't like yeah, yeah,
so things have gone like that route not safety, like
where I don't feel safe and I feel like if
I'm not safe, why should my kids be around that?
Speaker 7 (43:51):
And it's not like I just listen, you and I
both have babies around the same age, and I can't
picture a day where they he doesn't see her dad,
and I know that you want there to be that relationship.
He deserves for there to be that relationship. I don't
know how you guys come to that, but I think
that is of the utmost important for the kids, and
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especially for an eleven year old boy, like he needs dad,
you know. And so I don't know how you guys
come to that, and you guys figure that out. But
it doesn't seem like he's making it easy for you
mom and that at all, because it's.
Speaker 4 (44:24):
Like, yeah, like I let him, you know, with the kids,
I've fell allowed it. But it's like it seems like
he's more focused on my personal life honestly, and it's like, yeah,
it's a not an end in story, and it's like
I want him to be there. I want him to
see the kids, but then I.
Speaker 18 (44:38):
Want to ask her.
Speaker 7 (44:39):
I want to see for and if you ever, like,
did you ever go through that when you and your ex,
Like when you guys first decided to split, and you
guys are trying to figure it, like, did you have
to have a conversation like, Hey, I'm not going to
ask you about what you're doing in your personal life
because could seehere that would be a hot button.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
But I don't know if it was really a conversation.
Maybe it came up in an argument, But that's the
understanding though, you know what.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
I mean, anyone's business.
Speaker 2 (45:02):
Yeah, we're going on separate ways. What you do on
your side and what I do on my side of
two different things. Now, if you've got a toxic partner
or something like that, or a toxic egg and they
stop coming at you the way you know old Boy's
coming at you, then it's different. But you have a
ground to stand on. I understand in the moment it
doesn't seem that way. It's easy for us to talk
about it from the outside, but you got grounds to
stand on and ways to be able to make that happen.
Speaker 5 (45:24):
R Lenny.
Speaker 7 (45:24):
I feel like when we first started this combo. You
kind of insinuated he still wants to be back with you,
and I think that's we need we need to squash
that first and foremost, like.
Speaker 1 (45:33):
That's that's not the future for you guys.
Speaker 7 (45:36):
But that's okay. You can still be really good parents. Man,
you have a literal baby in the house.
Speaker 2 (45:40):
You know it can happen. It's gonna take a lot
of work.
Speaker 4 (45:43):
No, and I agree, and that's what I told him.
But he has this mindset like ask this girl I
don't want to talk to. But he texted that to
my son's phone. So that's where those toxic comes, Like
why are you texting our son that you hate me?
Speaker 1 (45:58):
And eleven years? That's a loser's he's heard.
Speaker 2 (46:03):
He figures the way to get to you. It's to
hurt yous to get through your kids. You got to
sit your kids down and be like, listen, pop, you
know what I mean. This is what's going on with
me and your dad. And you know he may say
some mean things and you know that. Don't take it
to heart. You know I'm and you show them the
opposite side of love. You get what I'm saying. Don't
stoop down to his lit don't.
Speaker 7 (46:21):
Ever talkers sucks so much sometimes, God, and you have
to do it, letting it, I know, and I hate
it for you because it's terrible.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
Sometimes it's just not easy. But you you have like
you got it. It's just eventually will.
Speaker 2 (46:34):
Get there, because these kids are going to become teens
and then they're going to become adults and they'll they'll
see for themselves. Right now, it's so impressionable that you
know Dad is trying to make it. Trust me, you
do not got to defend nothing. He says. Kids know
a lot more than we think they do. I learned
that by experience, and as they get older, they'll realize, Yo,
Dad is always the one with negative and Mom is
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all those one who's positive. We see what side of
the scale that this is on.
Speaker 7 (46:57):
And I just want to take a second to to
say like, and I don't want to. It's gonna make
me emotional just to say it. You have a ten
month old like that that this should really be highlighted here.
I know how much work that is. You can't look
away for a second. You're doing all of this with
no help, and you just want him to be a
part of it. And that that's that's also like a
whole added layer to this too. So I really hope
(47:19):
for your sake you can you got you know, he
can figure this out, because doing that by yourself is
that's a lot.
Speaker 1 (47:27):
That is a lot.
Speaker 4 (47:27):
And then to make it worse, he lives fifteen minutes
from me, and I've been doing this on my own,
you know, for me, she was born.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
That's crazy that Yeah, he's a bully, and you got
to ignore the bully. That's really what you got to
do at the end of the day. I know it's hard,
I know it's tough. Again, talk to your kids, but
don't react to everything he does, because then he knows
he's getting under your skin and that's what he's thriving
for the moment you start.
Speaker 4 (47:49):
I got a question for you guys. Sorry, So if
if you guys, because you know, this system is all
messed up, you know, this court system, this whole this
whole family courts, all that stuff. I did conversate with
a couple people they you know, looked in the background,
and they honestly felt like supervised visits is like the
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best way, you know, if things have gotten physical with
the mother in the past, like that's what they recommend.
And what would you guys suggest.
Speaker 2 (48:21):
Yeah, I mean, I give you two ways. You got
to protect your kids, okay, but there is a thing
about involving the government in your family. They will be
in every nook and cranny of your business. A lot
of people don't like to go that way because that's
that's the feeling. But if you're genuinely like, if there's
really a problem and a safety for concern for your children,
(48:43):
you as a mother got to do what you gotta
do to protect yourself and your children.
Speaker 7 (48:47):
I just don't know if necessarily we can answer that
for you. We're not there. That's a gut decision that
you got to make for yourself. Like you know, it's
like a mom can understand every kid has different types
of cries, right, but only the actual mother can decipher
through the cries. I think that's the same kind of
sentiment here. We're not there, We don't know what it is.
We can only give you our outside opinion. You're in there.
(49:10):
You got to trust your gut. No one's going to
know better than you, ay man.
Speaker 4 (49:14):
So that and I appreciate that, And I should have said,
like an opinion, because no one can decide for myself.
Speaker 7 (49:21):
Yeah, and listen, honestly, I could just tell you just
wanted to call invent and get this off your chest.
Speaker 1 (49:25):
So I'm glad you did.
Speaker 7 (49:26):
I don't know if we helped it all, but I
know it probably feels good to at least be able
to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (49:30):
So the best of luck.
Speaker 4 (49:32):
Thank you.
Speaker 7 (49:32):
I just want you to know I see you, and
I know how hard it is, and you know, just
keep putting those kids first.
Speaker 1 (49:38):
That's really all you can do.
Speaker 4 (49:40):
Okay, thank you so much, Good luck, good luck.
Speaker 3 (49:44):
To your point, I feel like she's already said the words,
like that guy is telling her exactly what to do.
Speaker 7 (49:49):
Yeah, And I think again, if it's a tough situation,
if he still wants to be with her, and now
he's coming in, who are you with texting the.
Speaker 1 (49:57):
Eleven year old talking about I hate your mother. That's
like legit diabolic though.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
But then also she's already gone through the steps of
talking to somebody, through the courts and all that stuff.
I feel like she knows what she needs to do
for her kids. Yeah, it's you know, hesitation, and I
understand it. It must be impossible for I know, day.
Speaker 5 (50:12):
And the jam in Morning shot with DJ Foreign. It's
Santy Morning.
Speaker 6 (50:16):
Gotin's number one for hip hop. He am in ninety
four or five.
Speaker 2 (50:21):
Hey, happy Thursday. The money she got Foreign Santy. We're
in here only a few more days till the weekend.
I got Offset. Oh did you see this? Offset went
for the first time live on TikTok. Now, yeah, he
went for the first time. He didn't know again, Novice
didn't know what he was doing. And at first people
are just kind of giving him like a little I
don't know what you I'm not on TikTok live like that.
(50:43):
But eventually they started throwing him money.
Speaker 3 (50:45):
Okay, yes, because if you start like doing like the
hearts and the.
Speaker 2 (50:48):
Flowers hats on yeah mask weird things on people's face.
Because he was always like, what am I supposed to
do with the hat on my face? And but eventually, yeah,
he was on there for a while and he started
making money. The reason I bring up Offset, by the way,
is because cardy b is they.
Speaker 3 (51:04):
Divorced right or they were never married?
Speaker 2 (51:07):
Yes, they were married. There were officially Like you see
now you got me thinking I thought they.
Speaker 3 (51:12):
Were all right, Well, whether they are there, but they're
broken up.
Speaker 2 (51:16):
Yes, they have been separated. It's clear that Cardy has
finally finally moved on, because you know, we will disclaiming
her for going back. She talks smack about him and
then go back and then talk smack about him. But anyway,
she has her own issues now that she she does.
Speaker 3 (51:29):
Do you remember in twenty twenty three when she was
in Vegas and threw the mic at somebody when she
was performed hard too?
Speaker 2 (51:36):
Yeah, baseball, and I'm pretty.
Speaker 3 (51:37):
Sure that somebody threw a drink at her and she
threw the mic back. We hit the wrong person. Well,
that woman is suing her for assault and battery over
the incident.
Speaker 2 (51:46):
Really, yes, do we have a number? Do we have
a figure?
Speaker 3 (51:48):
We don't have a number. We just know that the
lawsuit has been filed.
Speaker 2 (51:52):
Oh that was a minute ago.
Speaker 3 (51:54):
Twenty yeah, I mean it was two years ago.
Speaker 2 (51:55):
While we wait in two years to sue.
Speaker 3 (51:57):
I mean why, because I don't know. Do you assume
that maybe she tried to get money from her and
then she just never reached back out to her, and
now she took the steps to hire like a lawyer. Maybe,
like I don't know, Listen, I understand that you can
be upset, But I don't know if I'm suing Cardi
b for I'm getting really what.
Speaker 2 (52:14):
You payday? But do you have pay?
Speaker 3 (52:15):
Do you have to like have an injury or just
because you threw the mic at you, like say you
threw the mic and you were fine?
Speaker 5 (52:20):
Number one.
Speaker 2 (52:21):
Here's the thing, right, I think about it from this aspect.
Number One, if the bike was thrown and nobody ever
talked about it, she probably would have definite suit because
the moment went viral. You're gonna be you feel embarrassed basically,
so you got to get paid for your embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (52:34):
Well, I guess to your point too, you're gonna it's
an easy win because there's video evidence of it, like
happening the.
Speaker 2 (52:39):
Mic at me. Yeah, I paid money to come into
your venue, and I'm not even the one who threw
the drink at you. How much are you asking for? Oh,
I'm asking for what they do, paying and suffering. Yeah,
I'm doing all that my bills, my hospital bills, and
I'm cool with a hundred.
Speaker 3 (52:53):
Thou I feel like you could get more, Okay, how
much more? I think you asked for a million and
you settle on two and fifty.
Speaker 2 (53:01):
Damn, that's a that's like a three quarter cut. Yeah,
a million. I'm suddenly at a half a million. Okay, fine,
face injury. I can't see no more. My DJ skills change.
I can't talk on the radio like I used to.
Or that's funny. I think that was a radio host.
Speaker 1 (53:15):
It I think so.
Speaker 2 (53:17):
I think the person who got hit in the face
was a radio host.
Speaker 3 (53:19):
I'm doing it. If you're an average person, are you
doing it?
Speaker 2 (53:22):
Listen to my voice? I am suing the hell out
of Cardi b It's I'm smiling at first, I'm crying
as soon as I get behind closed doors, I'm like, Yo,
we getting paid? Who do I need to call? Who's
the who's the sleeve? But who's going after a diddy
with all the funny cases? Busby? What's his name? Buzzby?
I'm calling Buzzby. I'm like, yo, we are going after
(53:43):
this chick. I need to get paid. Daddy needs a party.
Speaker 5 (53:50):
It's Ashley in the jam In Morning Show with DJ
Foreign and Saunty.
Speaker 6 (53:54):
And it's time for another DM dilemma.
Speaker 1 (53:58):
We're doing DM dilemma and I just put my phone
down and pushed it away.
Speaker 7 (54:01):
I was I was writing to concentrate on this conversation
in which my phone all right, first and foremost. I
think it's fair to say that everybody goes through things
in life, and sometimes it's hard to talk to the
people in your circle because they're too close to the
situation they might already have, Like are they know Santi?
So you come to complain about Santi and they're like, well, yeah,
I hate him, Like I don't why why were we
(54:23):
even talking about him? So a lot of times people
will come to us and say, like, here's my situation.
Can you talk about this? Have people called in weigh
in on it. If you want to do that, can
of course stay anonymous and you can DM me at
Ashley Feldman a s H L E E F like
Frank E l DS and dog m A n D
M me and we'll do our best to help you.
(54:45):
Like I said, anonymous is the key here. So this
girl she wants to stay anonymous. She said, my husband
is leaving me after sixteen years and four kids. This
has been in the works for months.
Speaker 1 (54:56):
He said.
Speaker 7 (54:56):
We aren't on the same page with anything, and we
have no common interest. We don't have deep conversations. Unfortunately,
we own a business together, but on my end, I
technically have no income. We planned to sell our company
pay off the house, and he said he would help
me financially. I got scared and mentioned about wanting to
know where certain finances are going, and he flipped out
of me. We've never thought about money ever, But now
(55:19):
I'm left here with four kids and feeling like he's
going to screw me. I don't want to think that
would happen, but I know it can. I need advice.
I'm so heartbroken that my family is being ripped apart.
I'm sad and I feel so sick, you know. I
wrote back to her and I said, I'm just so sorry,
you know. I said, is he a good dad? Do
you really feel like he would do that? Because if
he strips her financially, then he knows that the kids
(55:41):
are going to be with her, you know. And she said,
he is a great dad. My kid love him, and
I know he loves them. I really don't think he
would screw me over like that, but men are idiots.
Speaker 3 (55:51):
This one is almost like two parts, because I feel
like the relationship is one thing in the business parts another.
I think the relationship is actually gone. I don't know
if she could have to get that part back, but
the business part and the family part, I feel like
she should consult a lawyer on that one because I
feel like she has rights in the money, but she's
not on the lead or she's not on like the
title of anything. So I think she needs to contact
(56:12):
like a lawyer.
Speaker 7 (56:13):
I'm not gonna sit up here and yeah, I don't
know about the legalities behind that. I want to believe
again that he's going to think in his head, well, yea,
the kids are going to be spending a lot of
time with her.
Speaker 1 (56:22):
I'm not going to do this to her.
Speaker 2 (56:23):
Maybe that's not his plan. Yeah, maybe he's planing's the
strip of all the bread and get full custody and
the kids stay with him.
Speaker 1 (56:30):
Yeah, you know what, that's a good point. By the way,
this this sticks out to me. I don't know if
you got this has been in the works for months.
Speaker 7 (56:36):
He said, we aren't on the same page, we have
no common interests, we don't have deep conversations. I don't
know why I read that, and I think he met somebody.
I don't know what about that makes me feel like
there's somebody else that he's getting those things.
Speaker 3 (56:50):
From things those are specific. Yeah, but I think if
you couple that with like what he's been feeling. And
again I'm not siding with him by any means, but
like they aren't connected at all, and you made that
super clear, but maybe that's what led him down another path.
Speaker 2 (57:01):
I mean, does she agree with that statement? Does she
agree that they're not connected that I just that they
don't have deep come.
Speaker 7 (57:06):
I just wrote her back and I said, we're talking
about this right now. If you want to, like you
add anything into it. She just said, it can't stay
this bad forever.
Speaker 2 (57:14):
Here's what I'm gonna say. If you feel like you're
about to get screwed out of a situation because you
guys are married to, anything that you guys own is
both of y'alls. It doesn't matter who has more income
or stuff like that. That might play out in a
divorce code when it comes to maybe alimony or maybe
child support. Yeah, but for the most part, y'all are
tied in together. So if I will always advise people
(57:36):
try to sit down, mediate these things on your own
and just separate yourselves and try to come to a
fair conclusion. But if she feels like Bro's about to
screw protect yourself at all times.
Speaker 7 (57:46):
Unrelated to this specific situation, but one of my other
good friends is going through it right now, in the
midst of a divorce, and she texts me this, and
I was like it just the line stood out to me.
She said, the person you marry is not the person
you divorced. And people because people switch up, because everybody
is in it for themselves. Then, right, you're trying to
(58:08):
protect yourself. You're trying to figure out what that's going
to look like for you now personally outside of this relationship,
and I think people get nasty.
Speaker 2 (58:15):
And even if you're not that vindictive to the most part,
you will not. You don't like this person no more.
You're not feeling this person no more. Me and you
are not connected no more. I don't feel what we
had when we were married now. So because of that,
we got to split, which is a good decision because
you don't want to be in a toxic relationship. But again,
if you feel like he's about to school you, and
well only getting her side of the story, right, yeah,
(58:36):
but if you feel like he's about to school you
protect yourself. But to try to work this thing up
amongst yourselves.
Speaker 7 (58:41):
I'm all about you know, if you're not happy in
your relationship, getting out of it, especially if there's kids involved.
I think you'd be a better parent if you were
a better you. But I also understand that there are
so many logistics that go into this for people. I mean,
she has they have four young kids and a business,
so how does like, how do they? Hey, the world
also is expensive. It's not easy nowadays where people just
(59:04):
be like, I'm gonna go get another apartment. I'll go
get a two bed, I'll get your she needs a
four bed, you know what I mean. Like, it's just
not it's not easy. And I think the financial part
holds a lot of people back too.
Speaker 3 (59:14):
But you would think because the kids are involved that
he would be a little bit better with like making
her feel at least if we're we're done, you guys
are gonna be fine.
Speaker 2 (59:22):
But that's why I'm saying there's two sides to the story. Yeah,
and there's something on his sideway. He's like, nah, shurety,
you ain't You ain't been pulling your weight for X
amount of is and I'm not about to do this
with you.
Speaker 3 (59:33):
It's so crazy because I've been married for twenty years now,
and like, I can't picture me and my wife going
through this if we ever got to this point. But
you hear that so often that people in my situation,
I have thought the same exact thing. They get a
divorce and all of a sudden, like they're fighting at
this point, and it's like super sad that she's there.
Speaker 7 (59:49):
Though, one hundred percent, and I think it's probably such
a roller coaster of like, okay, like this is what
it is. This is horrible, horrible, horrible, let's work it out.
Oh now, one person says one thing. Now I'm p off.
Now we're being mean. Now we're trying to one up
each other. Well, then my name's on the business, yours isn't.
And you just keep going back to there are kids involved,
and God willing, they could figure it out, but I
(01:00:12):
don't know. This just seems something seems off here to
me about this whole thing, That's what I'm saying. Sixteen years,
four kids, and how about her. Well I got scared
and mentioned about wanting to know where certain finances are going,
and he flipped out. We have never once fought about money.
But now I'm left with four kids and I feel
like he's going to scrib me.
Speaker 2 (01:00:30):
It might be why you're getting divorced. You might not
be pulling your weight. I know we want to look
at the guy and make him look like a demon.
But maybe you haven't been pulling your weight for sixteen
years and he's been quiet about it and he's fed
up now.
Speaker 3 (01:00:42):
But to the line, though, the more I think of that,
we don't have deep conversations. He's having those conversations with
someone else.
Speaker 1 (01:00:49):
Yeah, I think so too.
Speaker 2 (01:00:51):
But that's what happens when you fall apart. Yeah, what
happens when you're not pouring one hundred percent into the relationship,
You find what you're missing someone else.
Speaker 1 (01:00:58):
Six one seven nine three one one nine four or five.
I feel like in the last.
Speaker 7 (01:01:03):
Two months, we've talked about divorce so much, so many
people are kind of going through it right now. Six
one seven nine three one one nine four five. If
you want to weigh in, Chris is in Brockton. Chris,
when I read that message you heard, why is she
stressing out about this?
Speaker 1 (01:01:18):
If the man is saying, hey, I'm going to take
care of.
Speaker 18 (01:01:21):
You, right, and then why didn't she take care of
the man as well? As If you've been put someone
for sixteen years and he's telling you, we're not having
deep conversations. Why not seek therapy and have those decomversations
with them?
Speaker 7 (01:01:37):
Yeah, but we don't have that answer, right, So we
don't know if he came to her three years ago
and said we're not connected on this level anymore, like
we need to work on this, or it came out
of the blue.
Speaker 1 (01:01:46):
I mean, we don't know.
Speaker 7 (01:01:48):
Now.
Speaker 18 (01:01:48):
I don't think it came out of the blue. I think,
especially if they own a business, I believe this relationship
has been going down of you know, a bad path.
Speaker 7 (01:01:57):
It could for sure, But again we do No, we
don't have all the answers and say it didn't Chris.
Speaker 1 (01:02:03):
Let do that.
Speaker 5 (01:02:04):
Yeah, let's let's you know, let's say that.
Speaker 18 (01:02:07):
But the information she gives it sounds like she's only
giving her part on financials and money. She's not really
saying what she did and what she didn't do.
Speaker 7 (01:02:15):
Maybe she was a full time mom, Maybe that was
her job. Maybe she wanted to hypothetic as a wife.
Speaker 18 (01:02:21):
You can't be just a full time mom. You got
to be a wife and a mom. Get married, Get
married for a reason. You could just be a baby mother.
Speaker 1 (01:02:27):
Then no, I get it.
Speaker 7 (01:02:29):
But like you know, I'm using let's use my life
as an example for this. Right now, I don't think
that I at this point in my life, my number
one priority is the girl. They're young, they're little, I'm breastfeeding,
I'm doing on things. Do I think that my I'm
the best possible wife I could be right now? No,
I'm trying and I'm doing my best. But maybe they're
(01:02:49):
in that little spell right now where it's like they
have a baby.
Speaker 18 (01:02:52):
We don't know which which Okay, let's let's grant her that.
Let's let's grant her that, and she has a baby,
and you know it's a little hard for at the
same time that she should seek therapy before the marriage
gets too bad. She should seek therapy, and when she
was having the baby should have start therapy, like maybe
fifteen years ago, five years ago, two months ago, therapy.
Speaker 7 (01:03:14):
Okay, but I like, I don't need therapy, you know
what I mean? But I and I try my best.
Speaker 18 (01:03:20):
Now that you need therapy, it's like you need someone
else to talk to so you can you know understand
what this other mad, what this other person may be missing,
or what the other person isn't seeing that you're mistake
totally and.
Speaker 7 (01:03:30):
Listen, I will say with say this to you if if,
if it was vocalized to me, Hey, Ash, I need
you to communicate better, hay Ash, I don't feel like
we're doing ABCND I would do those things we don't know,
but you don't you.
Speaker 18 (01:03:41):
Know that means you would have a great man. I
mean everyone will be great. No one's gonna obviously communicate
like that one hundred percent of the time, you know
what I mean. That's why I always say, you know,
getting an outside store for someone else that can come in,
someone that's fit in that same situation, like another couple,
another married couple will be good too.
Speaker 2 (01:03:57):
What was what was a line about her not having
a job. Technically she said something like technically I don't
have What does she say?
Speaker 7 (01:04:02):
We own a business together and on my end, I
technically have no income. We plan to sell our company,
pay off the house, and he said he will help
me financially. I got scared, and I mentioned wanting to
know where hold on, hold on, hold on. We plan
to sell our company, pay off the house, and he
said he will help me financially. I got scared and
I mentioned about wanting to know where certain finances are going,
(01:04:23):
and he flipped, we have never once thought about this.
Speaker 3 (01:04:25):
Listen, it sounds like their businesses family owned to the
point where she probably works. They're part time, full time
doing whatever like that. Yeah, that's what it.
Speaker 7 (01:04:33):
Was agreed upon, like you stay home with the kids,
you do this, I'll do that, I'll run this.
Speaker 1 (01:04:37):
But whatever. Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2 (01:04:38):
I don't take it as a fine. This guy has
issues with finances. There's an issue that he feels a
way about how the finances are running in that crib.
So maybe he doesn't like the fact that she's technically
not working. Finances is an issue for him.
Speaker 1 (01:04:52):
Well, then that should have been told to her.
Speaker 2 (01:04:54):
How we know it wasn't.
Speaker 7 (01:04:55):
Yeah, we don't, that's the thing. And but again that's
why we don't know. She could have been thanks for
the call. Christ by the way, she could have been
completely blindsided. She could have No, she's not responding. The
last she said was it can't stay this bad forever.
She's she's not well.
Speaker 3 (01:05:08):
Listen, on the therapy part, I don't think it should just
be her getting therapy. I think they should have gone
as a couple together and adjust both have problems here.
Speaker 7 (01:05:15):
Do you know what I'm trying to say where it's like,
I don't, we don't know what. Like I think that
there was a time where being a wife was my
only responsibility.
Speaker 1 (01:05:23):
I didn't have kids.
Speaker 2 (01:05:24):
That was my change.
Speaker 1 (01:05:25):
It changed it things change right like you know.
Speaker 7 (01:05:29):
And not to say I'm a bad wife right now,
but my wifely duties are getting you know, the baby
and the kids are yeah. Yeah, So I don't know.
I just don't know where they're at with that. But
I mean her responds of it can't stay bad forever.
She's not good.
Speaker 3 (01:05:43):
I know she's not good. But I do not think
this this relationship can be saved. But I do think
financially you can get some help there.
Speaker 7 (01:05:50):
Though the person you marry is not the person you divorce.
That stands out to me. Six one seven nine three
one one nine four five six one seven nine three
one one nine four five. If anybody is going through
this right now, has been through a divorce and wants
to offer up some wise words, hit us up. Good morning,
it's Ashing the jym Winshew. Hi everybody, Good morning, it's
(01:06:10):
Ashing the gym in the morning show. I got a
DM from anonymous who basically is like, ash, I'm going
through it. She was like, this can't be this bad forever.
And that's how bad it is. Her husband is leaving
her after sixteen years and four kids. They have a
business together, but technically on her end. She isn't on
the PaperWorks, she doesn't have any income. They're going to
(01:06:31):
sell the company to make enough money to pay off
the house. She asks him about the finances throughout this.
He snaps, and she's scared, and she's she's sad and
she's worried. I feel like lately we've been talking a
lot about divorce. I know three people close to me
that are going through it. And you know, a line
(01:06:53):
I was saying that really stuck out to me is
that the person you marry is not the person you divorce.
People switch up, they start to like protect themselves. Jenn's
in Rhode Island, Jenna, I was. I was saying, if
anybody had been through it.
Speaker 1 (01:07:06):
To kind of offer her some advice.
Speaker 7 (01:07:07):
We have so many follow up questions for but we
obviously are not going to get the answer. I just think,
you know, it would be good for her to hear
from somebody away from all of it.
Speaker 1 (01:07:16):
What are your thoughts hearing all of this?
Speaker 19 (01:07:19):
So we don't know the whole story, But what I've
learned after a ten year failed relationship is your spouse
comes before your kids. Not not like before your kids,
but your kids are going to grow up, they're gonna
get married, they're going to leave, your parents are going
to pass. Your spouse is going to be there with you.
You have to take care of your spouse and then
(01:07:41):
your children.
Speaker 3 (01:07:44):
I don't disagree with her, I actually don't.
Speaker 1 (01:07:47):
I don't disagree.
Speaker 7 (01:07:48):
I think obviously your relationship with your partner should be
as important as that of your kids. I just think
that there are certain instances where you know, there's eras
of your life, or there's chapter of your life where
taking care of the kids is of the utmost important.
If they're paid, you know, there's just it's just as life. Yes, yes,
but yes, I think valuing your relationship and making it
(01:08:10):
as important as possible is important.
Speaker 1 (01:08:12):
Jen. If that's what you're saying, I get that for sure.
Speaker 19 (01:08:16):
So I always was my kids at first. My kids
are first. My kids are first because that's how I
was raised. Their kids at first, Your kids are first,
and I let my relationship slide.
Speaker 4 (01:08:24):
And then by the time, you know, I.
Speaker 19 (01:08:28):
Would see these old couples like married sixty seventy eighty years,
and they're like, we never stopped, We always came first.
We worked together, it was one hundred percent. We disciplined
the kids together, we took care of the kids together.
And that's just not how anybody is nowadays. Everybody is
just almost for themselves.
Speaker 18 (01:08:47):
I don't believe that.
Speaker 1 (01:08:48):
I don't believe that.
Speaker 7 (01:08:49):
I think, well, yeah, I think in some relationships, and
I think those are the ones that probably aren't doing well.
But you know, I think there's a lot of relationships
that do try to be a team and be partners
and try to do it all together.
Speaker 1 (01:09:01):
You know, I've noticed two, you know, little things in
the house.
Speaker 7 (01:09:05):
You know. She'll say to me, can I have chocolate?
And I will say, no, it's eleven am. You're not
having any chocolate. And she'll go into the other room
and she'll say to my husband, can I have chocolate?
And he'll be like, your mother just told you. You know,
we echo each other, and that I think, you know,
I think there are people that have that, and the
bottom line is, wouldn't it be great?
Speaker 3 (01:09:25):
Right?
Speaker 1 (01:09:25):
To be able to.
Speaker 7 (01:09:26):
Say, my relationship with my partners are the utmost important
as well as my kids, and you can do it all,
but it's a lot, and I think one of them
is going to fall by the wayside.
Speaker 1 (01:09:34):
You just have to work on it as hard as
you can, right, No, I.
Speaker 19 (01:09:38):
Agree, I just I think I heard it. And now
that my kids are older and I'm in a new relationship,
and it's different because they're teenagers, so I don't have
to really take care of them, but I will, you know,
put my happiness a little bit before theirs, instead of
being like, oh, I have to do this for them
before I take care of me.
Speaker 6 (01:09:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 13 (01:09:59):
I don't know that.
Speaker 7 (01:10:00):
It feels weird for me, and I don't know if
maybe it's because your kids are older, like I don't.
I can't even fathom putting my happiness ahead of.
Speaker 3 (01:10:09):
Here's what I say, because we've been in your party.
What I think she should be saying, or what I
would say, is like, yes, kids come before, like it
just doesn't taking care of them all, but still make
the effort. And sometimes it's super hard to date your husband,
date your partner because that's that still matters, and that
builds the relationship there. I think a lot of people sometimes,
(01:10:29):
well they don't do that, and then ten.
Speaker 1 (01:10:32):
Years goes easy to get lost.
Speaker 3 (01:10:34):
Yes, and that thing. It is so hard to keep
a good marriage, especially when you have kids. And I
think that's what she was trying to say.
Speaker 2 (01:10:41):
And if you don't communicate, I almost feel like that's
what's going on with this DM dilemma. I'll be honest
with you. I think I think financiers was a problem
for them for a while or whatever. The husband was
not happy with and he just kept quiet about it,
or maybe he said something, but it wasn't communicated. They
didn't sit down and talk these things.
Speaker 3 (01:10:56):
That's the thing.
Speaker 2 (01:10:56):
And I think now sixteen years later, he's just he's
fed up. And you might be he might have found
out in somebody else and he's like, what, Oh, so
this is the way love's supposed to be. I'm out
of here.
Speaker 7 (01:11:05):
Marriage is so hard, dude, Like it's so hard on hard, Yes,
and then you add kids into it and jo crazy.
Speaker 2 (01:11:14):
Yeah, and nobody just gets married and then you're just
a honeymoon for sixteen years and a job.
Speaker 3 (01:11:19):
And then you're at financing. Then you add jobs and
you add all the things in life.
Speaker 7 (01:11:24):
And this sentiment is hard to articulate, Like I'm having
trouble figuring out the right words because I don't like
the verbiage of I put my happiness in front of
my kid's happiness, because that's I don't and I would never.
But I do see what everybody's saying is we have
other calls being like I agree, like your partner should
be your number one priority. If your partnership in your
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house isn't good, you're not gonna parent well because things
aren't good.
Speaker 1 (01:11:48):
Like the base of this, like the rock is rocky.
Speaker 3 (01:11:51):
Here's what I'll say. Our kids are our priorities like
number one, but each other. Maybe we're one point two,
we're not two, we're not three, but it has to
be like very important.
Speaker 2 (01:12:02):
And I think people taking it literally like, oh, what,
so they're sick. You don't take no. Yeah, health is good.
You know you're making sure that your kids are growing
up to be a good adults and good people in society.
But at the same time, I kind of hear what
she's saying, because when it's all said and done, everybody
leaves the nest and it's just you and your partner
and now you're looking at each other like, oh, I
don't know who you are. Yes, for the last twenty
(01:12:24):
something is we've been just focused on the family, the house,
and the kids.
Speaker 1 (01:12:28):
Yeah, I've also heard that too.
Speaker 3 (01:12:30):
Divor at that age it's a it's askuta.
Speaker 1 (01:12:34):
Because you really literally just stayed because of the kids.
Speaker 7 (01:12:38):
Yeah, I know this is This is such an interesting
conversation because it's and again it's hard to articulate because
at the end of the day, they're your babies, so
you're of course going to be protective of them, but
you also have to be protective of the person that
gave them to you.
Speaker 3 (01:12:51):
You know heard the staff that by the time your
kids are twelve, you've already spent seventy five percent of
the time with them that you have.
Speaker 1 (01:12:59):
That makes me want vomit.
Speaker 3 (01:13:00):
And but to that point, it's like, all right, twelve,
so from twelve on you're left with seventy five percent
of your partner. Now, it's like, so that's why that
foundation is so important through those years. Yeah, but that's
stat mess me up.
Speaker 1 (01:13:13):
Damn.
Speaker 3 (01:13:14):
Let's all have a cry.
Speaker 7 (01:13:15):
I might, I might shed a tear or go home
and like do something weird with the farm man. Keep
her more spicy because now everybody's listening like she doesn't
prioritize him priority Up there tonight.
Speaker 17 (01:13:29):
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Speaker 6 (01:13:34):
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Speaker 2 (01:13:39):
Wow, we made it happy Thursday. Thank you everybody for
the DMS, the talk bats to call in checking in
on Ashley as well, Santy for anybody who might just
be tapping in now. Our girl Ashley was out today,
a very rare thing by the way, Yeah, which I
know she probably tried to fight through it before she
could call out, but she's she has some kind of
stomach bug or whatever's going on. And again, when you
(01:14:00):
got kids, you know, you start getting other kind of
sicknesses that you normally wouldn't get. But Ashley, I hope
you're feeling better. She says she'll be back tomorrow feeling great.
On a Friday, I think, Loky, she just wanted.
Speaker 3 (01:14:11):
To day off.
Speaker 2 (01:14:11):
I mean, she should have called out sick on Friday.
Speaker 3 (01:14:13):
At this point, it's gonna be Friday tomorrow. Get sick
like you don't be here with the stomach bugget honestly too,
I don't want the.
Speaker 2 (01:14:22):
Stomach bug stay home again, but yeah, shout out to
actually make sure ya show all the love at Ashley
Felman and yeah again, shout out to anybody that tapped
him with us all throughout the show, Santy, go ahead
with your shout out.
Speaker 3 (01:14:35):
Shout out to the stomach bug man, because it's a
serious thing and all joking aside. When you have the
stomach bug and it's like it decimates you, it's awful.
Speaker 2 (01:14:45):
Yes, yes it is for me actually too easy. The
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Wake up, wake yo, wake up, wake up, wake up?
Speaker 2 (00:06):
Oh something? Yeah, oh yeah, we'll about to be like
this doesn't sound like Ashley. That's because there Ashley. By
the way, good morning, so on how you doing.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
I'm doing good. I'm doing a lot better than Ashley.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
I know me too. I'm hearing that Ashley. You you
hit me this morning? You were like when I seen
your text, I was like, oh, oh, either either this
is an audio clip that he wants me to get
or they the something crazy going on. But the Queen
Ashley today doing something she rarely does, and I know
he probably took her forever to make this decision. Yeah,
but she called out sick today. She did the only
(00:39):
thing that I noted that she well yesterday. It started
with her saying, at her stomach and I feel well,
but it was something minor, not anything that I would
think would be an issue. This morning, I guess she
said like she has a stomach bug or something and
she's not feeling well. So apparently she was on the
bathroom floor. She yeah, she hit me up. She said
she had the runs and like she's just I'm joking.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I don't think those words would ever come out of
when you're just stomachbug. Obviously things are happening. So but yeah,
but the cretor is out today. Man, something's going on,
stomach bug. Me and you were talking off about just
you know, when you have young kids, and you know
you've never had kids before, certain you know, certain sicknesses
start running through the house, you know.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
What I mean.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Uh, And this is just gonna be one of many
because you start to daycare, when the kids start school,
them kids is going to bring back all kinds of
diseases and you just gotta you gotta fight through them.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
We've been here with the stomach bug a couple times
where it's demolish our house for like a weekend. It's
been awful. But you know, stomachbug is good because it
comes in, it goes, It doesn't last for a long time.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
It's like a couple of days within your back. So
you're stuck with us, Me and my god Santi. But uh,
you know that the train keeps moving. We're still hooking
you up with tickets at seven twenty and eight twenty
to go check out Little Wayne h. Later on in
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Speaker 6 (02:11):
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Speaker 7 (02:17):
I am obviously starting to with Nayla at the age
of three, be invited to, you know, birthday parties for
kids and that type of thing. I didn't even know
that this was a conversation. I had no idea that
people were chatting about this online, that this was trending
and this is a big thing. But I guess there's
this new rule that on a kid's birthday that everybody
(02:44):
at the party has to get a gift so that
nobody feels bad.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
Usually what happens is that you leave the party with
like a party gift, like a like a little bad
with a bunch of yes, fine, they do it.
Speaker 7 (02:56):
I've seen that, right, like a little I've seen that
I did it at my wedding. You know, at weddings
they do that. They might give you like a little
but it's the one kid's birthday. Like that kid's gonna
get the gifts. I don't happen, but.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
That kid's gonna get the best gift, probably like all
the present. But then you leave like a little bag
would like or something.
Speaker 7 (03:16):
Yes, yeah, okay, so people do party favors.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
It's a birthday party. Those kids who are gonna leave
with the gifts come with the gifts, don't they. Yes,
but then they're given gifts to leave away with. Yes, yes, yes,
you're giving a party changing gifts pretty much, you give
it a party favor. I'm spending all this money for
the party.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Anyway.
Speaker 7 (03:35):
Well, this, this whole conversation started because wait, no.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Wait for and you're not ready. No, you're not You're
not ready for this.
Speaker 7 (03:43):
So just to set the scene here, this woman went
viral because she had her daughter's birthday at Build a Bear.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
We all know what build a Bear is, right, it's
a store in the mall. You go, you stuff the animal,
you dress it, you pick it out. Whatever.
Speaker 7 (03:58):
I will let her explain her thought process. But again,
her daughter's birthday party at builde Bear.
Speaker 8 (04:04):
The other moms are mad at me at school and
said they won't be bringing their child to my child's
birthday party next year. So this year, we had a
birthday party at builde Bear for my daughter and everyone
had a thirty five dollars limit on my dime, and
everyone built their bears and it was really cute and fun,
(04:26):
and I thought it was a really great idea. Some
moms decided to spend extra on accessories out of their
own pocket, which was completely their choice, and I thought
they were being really sweet and thoughtful. So after we
checked out at Bildebear, I said, all right, everyone like
turning your bear to my daughter. I don't want to
save her name on here, and some of the moms
(04:46):
started acting really weird. Well, we went back to our
house for cake and the rest of the party, and
one of the moms had the audacity to come up
to me and say, you know, I was under the
impression that the bears we built were for our own daughters.
And I'm like, it's a birthday party for my daughter.
Why would you build a bear for yourself for my
(05:07):
daughter's birthday?
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Like if it was my.
Speaker 8 (05:10):
Birthday and we went to one of those like glazed
under fire places, like some of my friends would probably
give me what they made, Like if we go to
a wine bar for my birthday party as an adult,
like my friends like, buy me a glass of wine?
Like I don't know, Like if you're a guy with
your buddies at the bar, don people buy you around
(05:30):
or something. So the mom that approached me left and
then shortly after the rest of the parents just wrapped
it up, and I guess decided my daughter's birthday was over.
And now they're basically saying, none of their kids are
coming to my daughter's birthday next year.
Speaker 5 (05:45):
What do you think, because I.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Think you're terrible, is what I just just as.
Speaker 7 (05:50):
Okay, So they go to build a bear with these
little kids, all right, the little kids make bears.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
They think they are making the bears for them cause.
Speaker 7 (06:00):
They're picking, Oh, I want that Hello Kitty bear, and
I want to put her in that dress, and she's
gonna hold that bag. Then they get back to the
house for cake and ice cream, and the woman goes
give me the bear.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Yeah no, what do you what do you mean?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Do you like she picked out all of her favorite things?
Speaker 9 (06:16):
What do you mean?
Speaker 10 (06:16):
Now?
Speaker 7 (06:17):
Mind you, she probably thought that because she was putting
up the thirty five per bear. That's exactly what it was,
so it should have been discussed prior to Hey, if
this is the way she want it now, mind you,
I bet you have.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
The people wouldn't have come.
Speaker 3 (06:31):
I would not have gone.
Speaker 7 (06:32):
It's weird, but you can't how am I supposed to
explain to my little kid who just built a bear
that that that's not their bear.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
It's weird.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
It's very weird. It's very selfish too, because I think
this lady thinks that her kid is the center of
the universe, and that's the way she's raised me.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
On this day.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
He is. Yeah, but it's also not above because all
these young kids took the time to go to the party,
do all these things things, go back to the house
for ice.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Cream, let me play Devil's Agogate. But it's my party
that I put together. I went and got the location,
I went and spent the money for every So you're
not you're just bringing your kid along. We're having a
Kumbaya moment with my kids. I still don't get the
part where I'm leaving the bed with you because we
built it. I think I should just take it home,
because again, it was a community thing, right. But I
can understand how theory that I spend all this money
(07:19):
for everybody to build a bed, and all the bed
stayed with me.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I'm going to just say this, and people might think
this is crazy.
Speaker 7 (07:25):
If I'm having a birthday party for Layla at Build
a Bear, I'm not going to invite a lot of people,
maybe five, yes, and I'm they can pick out whatever
bear they want, but not covering the costs because it's
a party. And at Build a Bear, and that's what
you do because there's kids and it suck you, So
don't invite she invite.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Like nine people. Don't invite that many. Cut it down.
Don't invite that many kids.
Speaker 7 (07:46):
You can't have it at that location and then attack
them to take their bears.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
And what are you to do with that many bears?
Speaker 2 (07:56):
That doesn't make sense. It was weird, like you could
take them to any other situation painting something. The kids
are gonna leave with whatever they created. Why as with you?
That's weird.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Not even a party.
Speaker 7 (08:07):
But I do a lot of play dates with my
friend Courtney, who lives in my neighborhood in Marshfield.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
She's she puts my mom into shame. She's so good
about like I'm so thoughtful with the kids.
Speaker 7 (08:18):
Every time we go over there, she's gone to like
the dollar store and bought a bunch of stuff for
them to do crafts and stuff. And I always in
my head, I'm like, damn, never asks me for a dollar.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 7 (08:28):
Like, because she bought the stuff and we're coming to
her house and she's doing I need to get better.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
I gotta buy some plate over or something.
Speaker 7 (08:34):
But my point is is like, it's not like I'm
going over there and she's saying, well, if you want
to come, you have to give me money for these supplies.
Like it's it's kind of like we just it's a
thing that we do when she comes to my house,
I offer the kids snacks.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
I'm not asking her. Can you give me five for
the fruit snacks?
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Note now, if there's a parent that wants to leave
the bear there, that's a nice thing, thank you. But
you don't go there with the expectations.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
You don't ask, you can't.
Speaker 7 (08:56):
It's because you chose that location that I think makes
this all weird.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (09:01):
Again, it would be like you have a party at
Dave and Busters and then the food comes and all
the kids start eating, and then you say, oh, you
have to pay for that.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
But wait, we're at a party. I'm under the assumption that.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Actually I went to a party like that about two
weeks ago and the kid was turning ten. And what
the parents did. They gave each of the kids, like say,
like twenty bucks worth of tokens to go play. They
didn't ask that money back. It was a part of
the party, right.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
And then beyond that.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
And then after they took the tickets out there when
they turned the niff for whatever that they didn't ask for,
like the prize that they won and all that stuff back.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
No, it was a weird part.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
That's weird. And then and then probably was.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Like, dude, I spent like mad bread. That's a lot
of money.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
No it is. That was her choice. Why she thirty
five per she had like nine or ten kids. That's you.
It's the you can't have it at that spot and not.
Speaker 7 (09:53):
Yes or you do, and you in the card are like, hey, guys,
we'd love for you to come to our party at
Build a Bear. You can feel free to make your
own what you kind of have to put that. But
that's still weird.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
You got to say, son, like you know, let's all
come and build bears for my son.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
I'm going to put twenty dollars to.
Speaker 3 (10:11):
Half those people ain't showing up. The mom crazy if
you like, think about it. So she made a drive
to build a bear, and then when the party was done,
when that part was done, we attracted to the house
that can way too much for transport. I'm leaving off
to build a bear with my bear.
Speaker 7 (10:30):
I wonder if anybody has a I went to a
kid party and there was a weird like thing that
happened where because I'm telling you, people spend so much money.
Me being one for Layla's first birthday, I had a
boozy brunch like I spent money, but I'm not ever
going to ask anybody else for money, and I'm certainly
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going to send them home with a party.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
For There's a new thing now too. Also to you
have to invite the entire class. You can just invite
two or three, you get invite everybody.
Speaker 7 (10:59):
And I agree with that because I see videos of
these kids where they're bawling, crying because they're the only
kid in classes on anybody that's you can't do that, Chanelle,
I mean, this is this is crazy. You're gonna invite
everybody to a party at Build a Bear and then
yank the bears from the little kid's grips.
Speaker 9 (11:20):
What absolutely, And then you're gonna be like the worst
mom of the year when they talk about you, ask ooh,
how you stole the little kid's beers. Yes, that's their
takeaway present, like you know, the little gift bags you
give to go home.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
The party favors. You know what.
Speaker 7 (11:33):
I keep thinking of Chanelle too, when she said at
the end, and now no one's come to the party
next year, like you ruined it for your daughter.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
And by the way, half.
Speaker 7 (11:39):
The party at Build a Bear and maybe say listen,
I can throw ten dollars towards each bear.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Whatever it is. I don't care.
Speaker 7 (11:45):
But now this poor girl, everyone hates mom and they're
not gonna come to the party next year.
Speaker 9 (11:51):
But now I'm in that they already brought the gifts
for the daughter.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
True, I didn't even think about it. Oh my god,
you're so right. We didn't even you know, they all
showed up with a gift for the kid. You're so right. Wow,
she was.
Speaker 9 (12:05):
Just being selfish and wanted that money go back to her.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
You gotta do her better.
Speaker 9 (12:10):
When they come as a guest. You have to serve
them too.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Yeah, thank you, that's so true. Wow, I can't even
think about that.
Speaker 7 (12:17):
No one's showing up empty handed to a party. They're
all going to bring something, all right. Six one seven
nine three one one nine four five six one seven
nine three one one nine four five.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
I'm just getting into this realm of my life. But
what is going on with these kids parties?
Speaker 7 (12:29):
Like?
Speaker 1 (12:30):
What do I.
Speaker 11 (12:31):
Rather lie the lose?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I run a live I rather?
Speaker 3 (12:36):
I rather I rather lie the loose?
Speaker 7 (12:41):
Hi, everybody, good morning. It's Ashley and the jam In
Morning Show. It's so funny. I had no idea that
there was such a conversation around kid's birthday parties. I
just got a DM from a girl and she's like,
ash I'm in a mom Facebook group and a very
like a common question that I'm seeing in there is
I'm having my kid's birthday party soon. Should I have food?
She goes, Ashley, what who has a party invites people
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doesn't have food? More recently, the woman goes, well, my
party's from one thirty to three thirty, so it's after
lunch and before dinner, so I shouldn't have to have food.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Excuse me, what you have to have food at a part,
like you have to have a party.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
It is something, and I bend to them where they
don't have anything, and it is talked about, that is
for sure.
Speaker 7 (13:21):
Obviously, you invite a bunch of little kids to build
a bear, you ask them to build a bear, say
here's thirty five bucks per bear. They build the bears,
and then you say, give me them their mind. What
Tina is in Brockton, Tina, this is this is a
little weird.
Speaker 12 (13:42):
Hi, listen, I would leave the bear because of course
I gotta be in the presence for the little one yup,
thinking that my kids bring their beer back, So I would.
Speaker 4 (13:52):
Leave it there, pick up my present and come back home.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
With no but that that's so true.
Speaker 7 (13:58):
And thank you to the woman who called him. Was
like Chanelle, She's like asked. They all bought present. That
is so true. No parent came their empty handed. They
all brought a gift. So of course you would think
that they were gonna be able to keep the bear.
You're right, fine, here's your bear. I'm taking my present.
But again, all of this, all of this, hut's the
little kid though, And that's why it's sad that mom
did this.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
It does that is very sad, very sad. I bought
my daughter.
Speaker 12 (14:22):
Know she's twenty eight, so I'm sure little I took
her to build a bear, you know. Oh my gosh,
she was crazy about that bear. She came home like
she was great, showing off to everybody. Yeah, because it's
not right.
Speaker 7 (14:35):
It's not Gina, thank you for the call. Because they
go to build a bear and they build a bear
for themselves, so she's not They're not picking up Oh
little miss Molly would like this on their bed. No,
they're picking up what they like. Zena or Zia is
in Cambridge.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
Yep, it's Xina Xena.
Speaker 10 (14:51):
The same thing for my granddaughter. I build a bear
and she had about eight gaps.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
Oh tell us everything. Okay, so how did you what
was the layout?
Speaker 10 (14:57):
So what they do a great job. So they have
all kind of activities and they pick out what they want.
My daughter let them.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
Pick out whatever they wanted.
Speaker 10 (15:05):
And then afterwards she also made a reservation at UNO's
and had the parents and the kids. She had adult
food and pizzas for the kids afterwards, and everybody bought
a gift. But nowadays I noticed that people are saying
don't bring gifts.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Excuse me?
Speaker 7 (15:20):
Well, first of let's let's go back. Did she pay
for everybody's building?
Speaker 13 (15:24):
Bear?
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Or did yees?
Speaker 7 (15:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 10 (15:26):
Tay for everything?
Speaker 3 (15:27):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (15:27):
And how many how many kids would you say, we're there?
Speaker 10 (15:30):
Eight?
Speaker 2 (15:31):
Wow?
Speaker 7 (15:31):
So that even if we're saying, like, let's just say
forty of bear probably that okay, that that's a lot
of money. But again, like if you're having your party there,
I would I would do the same thing your daughter did.
Speaker 13 (15:42):
It was worth it.
Speaker 10 (15:42):
We don't have to clean up, we don't have to
do any of that.
Speaker 13 (15:46):
You're really worth it.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yeah, I didn't even think about that. That's actually a
solid point.
Speaker 7 (15:50):
So then and then you go and you go to
UNO's and you guys eat there, and you obviously and
you cover that bill because you invited people.
Speaker 13 (15:57):
Yeah, adults got cocktails.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Yeah, that's the only reason I'm going to parties these days.
But what is this narrative now they're saying, don't bring
gifts for what?
Speaker 7 (16:06):
Why?
Speaker 13 (16:06):
Yeah?
Speaker 10 (16:07):
I noticed my daughter, my granddaughter got invited to him.
Outher told me she got invited to three parties this
year and all of them said don't bring gifts.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Okay, fine, I'm not good I mean, yeah, okay, but
that was probably.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Because they're footing the bill for everything. They probably like,
we're gonna cover everything for y'all. There's no need for
y'all to bring a gift. Just come enjoy without without kids.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
I'm never you know, gt me too.
Speaker 7 (16:30):
Hey hey, hey, you're never gonna hear those words come
out of this mother's mouth bringing your gifts.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Thanks for the call, like we change.
Speaker 3 (16:38):
Somebody got offended with some gift and then they just banned.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
But it's probably that that little thing where it's like, oh,
everybody feels like maybe the kids started complaining like oh,
comes they get a gift and I don't.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Yeah, it's not like shut up.
Speaker 7 (16:51):
My favorite thing is when and I do this all
the time, if the if the party is for a
kid that's like under a certain age, like they might
not need another firetruck.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
So I always text the mom and be like, what
do you need?
Speaker 7 (17:05):
And I love when people do that to me because
then we're not like doubling gifts or we're getting maybe
they need whatever.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
You know, two hours max. That's the length of the party.
Anything beyond that is hell because none of the parents
want to be there.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Couldn't it.
Speaker 7 (17:17):
Yeah, well it's a problem the party and if there's
no I went to a party. I went to a
party over the weekend. It was a ten thirty to
twelve thirty perfect. Great, it was in the morning. I
was I walked in at ten thirty. No one's drinking, like,
not even a mimosa.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
I mean not everybody has a problem.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
So it wasn't an alcoholic Yeah, it was a birthday.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
If you want an alcoholic child imosa.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
Yeah, like come on, party sucks.
Speaker 5 (17:51):
And the morning show with.
Speaker 6 (17:53):
D J four and it saw Mont's number one for
hip hop jam in ninety four or five.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
Good Mornia, Happily Thursday, she got forming in here. My
brother Santy holding it down for our queen. Actually, who's
out sixty day with a stomach bug. Actually, we hope
you get better sometime. I got some bad news for
you though. Yes, this is gonna be very disappointing. Actually, uh,
you're not You may not be able to enjoy Glizzy anymore.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
Oh I heard about this.
Speaker 2 (18:26):
Uh yeah, for all you Glizzy fans that go to
Fenway and have yourselves Glizzies. The Fenway staff apparently is
about to strike and stop doing any kind of concessions
at Fenway for any kind of events, whether it's baseball
or concerts. And you know what the reason is A while.
Speaker 3 (18:43):
I guess they're getting paid, they're not going to be enough.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Yeah, I mean again, in this kind of economy, bro,
I mean there's a lot of companies I feel like
that might go through this because you know, inflation is real, bro,
Like you go to the grocery store, everything is expensive.
Life is expensive now. But yeah, these guys are saying, hey, listen,
we we were not serving up no hot dogs, no beers,
no nothing unless you pay us small.
Speaker 3 (19:04):
Listen. I understand that inflation and all that, but at
the same time, like for a team that's worth probably
over a billion, they can afford to pay some people.
And then you also take the consideration that they pay
their players and then saying amount like saying you can play,
you can give them a raise. I don't think they're
asking for a crazy amount, but they're just asking for salvage.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I don't go to baseball games. What's the average ticket
price for a baseball.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
For a Red Sox team for a good seat or
a bad seat?
Speaker 2 (19:27):
A decency say the metal I would say about one
hundred dollars and a good seat, a good good seat
about plus one point fifty. Oh yeah, okay for a
good say thank you. So they make it money.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
Yeah, games are always pats and then the concessions are
super expensive. I think Fenway is one of the most expensive.
So for a beer you're probably paying like nine bucks
at least.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
I don't know. I don't know. I didn't see it
in the article. Maybe you did, but I didn't see it.
But I didn't see what they were getting paid now.
But yeah, but the Fenway staff is saying that they
want they want, especially the concession people. They want more
money than not making enough money when you put it
in that kind of context, Yeah, like while we being
cheap with the people who actually are bringing you income.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
Right now, I have to imagine that they're going to
figure something out for the games, because you can't just
now and not have any right. Yeah, so I got
to think they're going to hire some people just for
those two games or whatever, because it's a forty eight
hour strike. So that's what they're saying now. It is
it through a union like an union?
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Yeah, okay, yeah, pay these people, man, please come on, man,
stie needs his Glizzies pay them Sash and.
Speaker 5 (20:29):
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Speaker 6 (20:33):
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or five.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Hi, everybody, good morning.
Speaker 7 (20:42):
I don't know if you're anything like me, but you've
come across this trending thing called a trad wife and
you're like, what the hell is tradwife? Actually wrote it
down on a posty because I was like, what the
hell is a trad wife? But I had seen so
many people making the little comment about it. Well, I'm
a track wife. I'm a tradwife. If you don't know
(21:03):
what one is, I'm still learning myself, or maybe you
consider yourself one six, one seven nine three one one
nine four five to join in the convo, This saying
trad wife has been trending in its easiest, simplest terms,
it's a traditional wife. This is a woman who considers
herself a trad wife. And this is what she claims
is the number one rule for all tradwives.
Speaker 14 (21:27):
Number one rule as a trad wife, This is your
duty as a wife. A man's home is his castle,
so he should be treated as a king. He's working
a stressful job, maybe working long hours just so he
can provide for you and the family, so he rightfully
deserves peace. At being said, it's every wife's duty to
(21:47):
appreciate her man and all his hard work.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Show him how much you truly appreciate him. Okay, he
is your king and you are his queen. That is
your duty. If that's the duty, being a trad wife sucks.
It's very one sided.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
I don't like it. It doesn't feel like a true partnership.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Like listen, I think there's something to it.
Speaker 7 (22:08):
We all want a little peace at the house, but
that's gotta go both ways.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
Yeah, it sounds like the piece is just a one
sided thing. Now, going back to the fifties, maybe this
work then, I think society has completely changed and it's
well bound.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Cause back then was you know, the wife is staying
at home, takes care of the crib. You handle the crib.
I bring the money to supply whatever we need to do,
and I just come sit down, get my feet rugged,
get fed, We chill. I'll go to bed, wake up
the next morning and do the same thing. You take
care of the household.
Speaker 7 (22:34):
I do not mean to offend when I say this,
because there are some women out here that that's the
goal for them to be a stay at home mom,
to be a stay at home.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Wife, to trad wife.
Speaker 7 (22:45):
It up that if that brings you joy, and that
brings you happiness, that's cool.
Speaker 10 (22:50):
Me.
Speaker 7 (22:52):
Nope, that's not bringing me joy. That's actually that's sucking
the life about me.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
I will say, Like in other culture, tradwife is still
a thing Like Dominicans, I can tell you they're still
going by traditionals and those men can do whatever they
want there and the like the why is my complaint,
But they're still like they they're they're just adherent to
all the men. It doesn't sound fun.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
Sounds spooky to me.
Speaker 7 (23:14):
Uh. And again, I want I do want my husband
to feel like the man of the house. There's no
there's no like, I have no qualms about that. You
are the man of the house for sure.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
I wantn't you let them.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
But I do think there needs to be a little
bit of a partnership.
Speaker 7 (23:30):
Here's her main thing is like my husband needs he's
the king, he deserves peace, but I deserve peace too.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Mary is in Rhode Island, Mayor. It's tough. The trad
wife thing. Oh it is god golf.
Speaker 4 (23:46):
I just can't believe this is a trend happening right
now in this moment.
Speaker 1 (23:51):
Oh, it's big.
Speaker 11 (23:52):
It's in this political climate that women are still right.
Speaker 4 (23:57):
If you think that way, great and that's what you
want to do. But I'm tired.
Speaker 7 (24:01):
I work full time. I'm a mom.
Speaker 4 (24:03):
I want my house to be a castle too, right.
Speaker 7 (24:07):
Right, call me Cinderella because I definitely want to feel
that as well.
Speaker 4 (24:13):
Yeah, here's a trad husband is a tad.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
I can't listen, I can't pick.
Speaker 11 (24:17):
Yeah, not the same.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
You know what's messed up? Though, this is very messed up.
Speaker 7 (24:21):
If my husband was like I want to quit my
job and be like a trad husband and stay at
home dad, that my vagina would shrivel, which is messed up.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
I don't want that either. I don't want that either,
truly though.
Speaker 4 (24:31):
No, I want you out in contributing to hear we
could build the castle together.
Speaker 7 (24:35):
Yes, let this be our kingdom. Mary, thanks for the call.
Uh Staph is in Chelmsford, Hey staff, good morning.
Speaker 4 (24:43):
Good morning.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Had you heard about the trad wife thing.
Speaker 11 (24:47):
I've never heard of it anymore, because you know what,
I don't hear about traditional men do tell go on,
So it's like okay, And I feel like a lot
of men are entitled now these days. They want women
to duel the whole nine while they're doing the bare minimum.
And I can understand if there's like these real hard
working men and they're paying all the bills and you're
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staying home and you're taking care of the kids, But like, nowadays,
where do you even see that? Like I can understand
men who are probably like in the late thirties that
they probably still exists, But I'm twenty five years old.
I could, I could probably maybe I'm looking in the
wrong areas, but I do not see traditional men nowadays.
They just want to feel entitled. And I'm working just
as munch as ill as they are. I'm just as
(25:28):
tired as they are. Where's my treatment? Where's me being
treated as a queen? You want to be a king?
Where's my queen treatment?
Speaker 7 (25:35):
Well? Listen, stuff I do. They're out there and thank
you for the call. I think a lot of women
that listen to this show sometimes give off like broken
and hurt and you guys have been through things, so
have I. But they're out there and I just refuse
to not say that there is another side to this
(25:55):
where I do believe, like I married a great man
and you can that too.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
They're out there.
Speaker 7 (26:01):
It might be hard to find, yeah, but there isn't
a decide to this.
Speaker 1 (26:05):
They're not all bad.
Speaker 3 (26:06):
I also think like, if you have a bad experience
with one dude, you should like change your pattern for
the other one. I think some girls go back to
the same consistency that they've always known, expecting a different
and that makes.
Speaker 7 (26:16):
Me sad because stuff's like guys won't be out here
doing the whole nine when they're doing the bare minimum.
I think eventually she's just twenty five. Eventually she'll find
somebody that will meet here in the middle. But I
do feel like a lot of the women sometimes and
we have these topics, they call him.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
They're hurt.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
They hurt from a place right, Yep.
Speaker 7 (26:33):
Melissa is in Pavty, Hey Bliss. Hello, are you a
trad wife? No?
Speaker 1 (26:41):
I am not. What do you do you feel about it?
Speaker 7 (26:47):
Oh, you hadn't got this is crazy because this is
a big thing, and I'm shocked that we haven't had
somebody call in being like I'm a traded wife.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
And I love it.
Speaker 15 (26:55):
Yeah, I wasn't going to give my two cents, but
I was listening as to as you put up that
saying like the number one rule, I was like, all right,
I gotta call in now.
Speaker 16 (27:03):
And but I just wanted to say. I just wanted
to say to go off of like what you were
saying too about how there are good men out there
and I recently just found one, and like I'm twenty
six now, so going like, after all of these just
you know, relationships that didn't work and whatnot, and dealing
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with all these horrible men, there are good men out there,
and there are men that will.
Speaker 15 (27:27):
Treat you the way that you deserve to be treated.
You just have to be patient and wait for it.
But but yeah, I totally agree with the sense of
treating your man like a king. And you know, I
totally agree with all that, but if it's reciprocated.
Speaker 7 (27:41):
Agreed, I like, I like that narrative. And you know,
one Millist, what sounds to me is you were messing
with boys and you found yourself a man, which is
they're out there that's nice exactly. Yeah, And listen again,
I'm not I'm not saying that to not treat your
to your significant other like they're a king or a queen.
But again, I'm including the queen in there that we
both have to we gotta, we gotta find a middle ground.
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I want a trad wife, though, I want to hear,
I want to hear. I'm gonna Can we play another
song science if you can get six one seven nine
three one one nine four five. Don't be shy trad wives.
I know you're out there. You're probably out running some
errands for the house, and that's cool. Six one seven
nine three one one nine four five. You consider yourself
(28:22):
a traditional wife and you are just running the kingdom. Hi, everybody,
we're talking about being a trad wife. It's a it's
a trending thing on social media. I had heard it referenced.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
A few times. What the hell's this? So we were
doing a little bit more digging today.
Speaker 7 (28:39):
Essentially, in it's in its simplest forms, it is a
traditional wife. It is a stay at home mom, a
stay at home wife who you know, does all of
the household things while big Daddy goes out and makes
the money. If it, if it's for you, that's cool.
I'm not throwing any shade, but not for big mo mom,
not for me, uh, but it is for beck and
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Cambridge back. Good morning, babe, Hi, how are you good?
I said, listen, I need to talk to a traditional
wife because it's it brings happiness to some You, in fact,
are a tried away Now had you heard the term before?
Speaker 4 (29:14):
No?
Speaker 13 (29:14):
Not till this morning.
Speaker 7 (29:15):
Okay, So talk to me stay at home mom, stay
at home wife, Like, what does your.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Day to day look like?
Speaker 13 (29:22):
Well, I recently started working part time in the morning
because my children have not gotten older. Okay, but when
when they were younger, you know, I was a saying
home mom. I took care of the house. I did
everything for my husband and my children. You and out.
He paid all the bills. He's a wonderful father, coach
the kids teams. So it brought me joyce. Not it's
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one of those things. He has to be the right man.
He has to be the man that makes you feel
good about your role in life.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
And what about you?
Speaker 7 (29:54):
Did you ever feel like lost in that? Did you
ever feel like you didn't have an identity in that?
Like you never had anything for or yourself that you
were constantly just giving to everybody else? Or was that
enough for you.
Speaker 13 (30:06):
No, because I did have my own identity as well,
which was what we didn't. I was still my own person.
I still had my friends, and.
Speaker 7 (30:16):
It wasn't and you weren't like you got that you
got out of the house and did your own things
as well, by yourself of course.
Speaker 5 (30:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 13 (30:22):
And I always went to mom's groups. We have a
lot of local moms groups in Cambridge, okay, where you
can meet with other moms and it's wonderful, wonderful.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (30:32):
Well, and like I said, beg for it is it
is for some people. It's it's like I'm not the
type that could do it. But talking to you, like,
it's not like as if you're calling me being like
I hated it and I regret staying at home all
of those years, like you didn't.
Speaker 13 (30:45):
Oh no, I love it, Like it was great. Yeah,
I got to spend so much time with my children.
You didn't have to worry about daycare that. Yeah, I
didn't have to worry about any expenses.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (30:58):
I did you ever have a moment where you were
how many kids you got?
Speaker 13 (31:02):
I have four?
Speaker 7 (31:03):
Did you Jesus, did you ever have a moment where
everybody was crying and going crazy? And you just were like,
get me the hell out of here, because I have
those daily and I only have two, so I didn't.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
I just didn't know.
Speaker 13 (31:13):
I mean, yeah, it's usually by like kind of the
end of the day when he's coming home, and then
he comes home and you know, he takes it on.
Speaker 5 (31:22):
Did he he helped out?
Speaker 6 (31:23):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (31:24):
He did?
Speaker 1 (31:24):
Okay, So would you do the dinners and stuff too?
Or would he help cook?
Speaker 5 (31:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (31:28):
You would.
Speaker 13 (31:28):
I usually did that because he'd be out playing with
the kids and like trying to give me a personal break,
and I love cooking, so it was like my time.
Speaker 1 (31:36):
All right, Becky, Well thank you for that.
Speaker 7 (31:38):
I mean, listen the way Becky's describing it, it still
doesn't sound something for me.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
But she's probably the closest you're going to get to
the upple of how it's supposed to be.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
Yes, I don't like it. I don't think I could
be the person who wants to be like that. I'm
so used to have being with my wife who's into
her into like just to work and everything like that.
To have a traditional wife like that.
Speaker 1 (32:00):
Right, But that's all you know, maybe it's also on.
Speaker 2 (32:02):
The flip these women who want to just stay home
because they're lazy and they don't want to do nothing.
Speaker 7 (32:06):
By the way, and I've seen there's people will create
content around that. Yes, like I don't. There's a girl
that I follow that she's married, she's a trophy wef.
She doesn't have a job, she has they don't even
have kids. She's like, this is what I do all
day while my husband works and she goes.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
And so it's the opposite side because yes, some guys
who want that the traditional wife, but they kind of
using it to you know, kind of just have somebody
to watch the kids. They don't talk to you, they
don't show you no love. This guy, the last example
sounded like the perfect gentleman, right Yeah. But then on
the other side, there's the wives who are just like, bro,
I don't want to work, just go make money, give
me a card, I can go shopping, do whatever I
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want and just chill. Might even have a nanny if
they have kids, right, and she's just chilling.
Speaker 7 (32:46):
I think we can all wrap our head around a
stay at home mom because again, like that that daycare,
all those things they cost. So if you're somebody who
has that in you, that you can do it. Like again,
I love my cad. It's more than anything on this planet.
But I need this time outside of like the house,
because you can only play like zombie so many times
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before you do go crazy. But stay at home wife
with nothing like that's a special breed because what are
you doing?
Speaker 3 (33:17):
It just sounds so alring and just looking out the
window when kids are done and folding.
Speaker 7 (33:23):
That's like, oh, I can't say it like that.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Well, hey, that's at all.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
How many times can you go to home Goods and
get something different every day? If it's every Wednesday?
Speaker 1 (33:36):
I cool?
Speaker 3 (33:38):
How do you know.
Speaker 7 (33:39):
That that's what shops the new Goods every Wednesday?
Speaker 14 (33:45):
Foreign is lying, he's a little trophy wife.
Speaker 17 (33:49):
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Speaker 2 (33:59):
Santy's the vibe.
Speaker 10 (34:01):
Man.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
You guys, your Latino people have got to take an
l on this. Bro Okay, did you hear what's going
on with fat Job?
Speaker 3 (34:08):
I saw her number, I didn't. I didn't get the
full story.
Speaker 2 (34:11):
I By the way, if you're just checking in our
girl Ashley's out today, shout out to her. Please Sunday
your love. She's not feeling well at Ashley Felman, me
and Sonta been holding it down all morning and this
came across my timeline yesterday and I couldn't believe this number.
Now Fat Joe legendary rapper, he was actually being flat.
I don't know if you saw this. He was actually
getting flamed online because for some reason, SeaWorld now is
(34:35):
doing like summer concerts.
Speaker 3 (34:36):
Have you seen, yes, I.
Speaker 2 (34:37):
Have The Yin Yang Twins was the first one that
went viral and I kind of was like, why's the
Yin Yang Twins that at sea World? But I was like,
they must need money. Then next thing, you know, Sojier
Boy was there. Then next thing you know, Fat Joe
Now it was there. And for Fat Joe's performance, every
other performance look lit, but they're trying to say that
Fat Joe's performance was kind of like luck Cluster and
people are leaving and nobody enjoyed it. Anyway, He's been
(34:59):
in the news for that. He's been in the news
because he lost a gang of weight, and I think
a few months ago he came out and said that
he was taking a zempic. Even his walk. Have you
seen Fat Joe walking? I have seen his walk it's
not pretty, bro, I don't know what's happening. He said
he had a knee injury when he was a kid
that he never got surgery on. But he basically waddles.
Damn ye not even it's like this, this staggering walk.
(35:21):
It's weird to see.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
Yeah, And I think the issue because he lost all
a weight till now, it's more prominent.
Speaker 2 (35:25):
There you go, speaking of the way my guy even
though he and he looks good by the way, pause, right,
he lost a gang of weight. He's looking healthy. Can
you guess how many sodas diet sodas Fat Joe admitted
to drinking in a day.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
I mean, if you're saying it like that, it has
to be twenty double that forty forty Bro, This god
drinks forty cans a diet coke every day.
Speaker 2 (35:53):
I don't know if that's the SODA's drinking. I'm just
gonna say, die coke, bro, how do you consume forty
cans of diet soda in a day.
Speaker 3 (36:02):
You're not drinking water to hydrate, You're drinking diet cokes
like all day.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
That's exact, band, And ain't you supposed to like limit
your the junk that you have when you're on a zempic.
One out of zempic fans over here. I mean, we've
never taken it, so I don't know.
Speaker 7 (36:16):
No.
Speaker 3 (36:16):
I from what I from what I've always heard is
that you can eat yourself right through it too, Like
it's supposed to be like a limit and balance out
like your I guess you're pancreas, but like you can
eat right through that forty.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
Diet sodas a day. I'm gonna admit something to you.
When I was at my heaviest, I was probably like
three soning right, many many years ago. Every time I
would sit down to eat something, I have two sodas.
I would have two cans. If not more, we should
buy what were they the twelve pack cans? Those were
probably going in two days. I was a soda fiend.
(36:48):
I was just I sit down for lunch too, I
sit down for dinner too. Maybe between one or two
I was, I was consuming a lot of sugar.
Speaker 3 (36:54):
So okay, so let's just put it. You were probably
having like eight a day, maybe better than forty forty.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
That's a fact. Like and die soda is a gimmick.
I'm sorry they try to say diet, but come on it,
you know what I mean. It's like I don't I
don't even know how to explain this. But forty kans
of soda, Fat Joe? How many kans of soda do
ya drink? Be real like Fat Joe? And tap in
that actually too. E's in the am tapping on ig
We want to know Sasty.
Speaker 17 (37:20):
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Speaker 1 (37:30):
All right, everybody, let's check in with you. What's going on?
How are we?
Speaker 7 (37:33):
Six one seven nine three one one nine four five
six one seven nine three one one nine four five.
You call me and we're talking about anything you want.
It's all about your life. Our Lenny is in stow in.
She's going to start the check in for us. Uh.
Things are a little rocky right now between you and
the father of your children. So how long have you
(37:54):
guys been separated? What's the setup? Do they live with?
Speaker 9 (37:56):
You?
Speaker 10 (37:57):
Like?
Speaker 1 (37:57):
See set the scene for us?
Speaker 4 (38:00):
So basically, I met him back in my space days
when I was like twelve, yeamn, and I know, and
we were we stayed together until I think I was
like twenty twenty one. But throughout that whole really like
throughout the whole relationship at the time, it was just toxic,
all types of toxic. I was just young.
Speaker 5 (38:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (38:22):
When you're saying relateships the red flash you guys were
never married or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Oh no, okay, okay.
Speaker 4 (38:29):
So after I turned obviously twenty, I got like, I
put my big girl pants on. I said, Okay, this
is not what I want. You know, my son is walking.
This guy has no chill about what he says about
my around my son. I had a just walked day.
Speaker 10 (38:50):
He made.
Speaker 7 (38:51):
By the way timeline wise, you said you had a
one year old son around the age of twenty, so
you were really young.
Speaker 4 (38:57):
Yes, so I had my son at seventeen. Sorry, I
had him at seventeen.
Speaker 18 (39:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:01):
Wow, so you had to ground like that's crazy. Seventeen
is young.
Speaker 7 (39:04):
You have this this kid, You're like you automatically knew
after about a year's time with the baby, this is
not He's not going to be a good role model
for my son.
Speaker 4 (39:14):
Exactly. You couldn't say it anybody. That's what I said
to myself, because it's like you date someone you want
your son to be like if that makes sense, like
you don't want more, if you don't want your child
to be like the specific person's like why are you doing?
Speaker 1 (39:27):
What are we doing?
Speaker 4 (39:28):
Or you don't want your daughter dating this type of guy?
What are we doing here? Yeah, So that's the thing.
When when I turned twenty twenty one, a couple of
years went by, he you know, tried to get back
with me at like twenty five. He tried, and I
kind of believe everything he was saying that he changed
(39:50):
or whatever, and we ended up getting back together and
we had another baby. She's a beautiful girl. But it's
like things just got worse, Like he kind of came
in like, oh, you know, I love you. I'm sorry,
and now it's like you're this, you're that, and it's
like what happens overnight?
Speaker 7 (40:10):
M So, yeah, you let him back in, which, you know, okay,
we have a whole other baby.
Speaker 1 (40:17):
So now we have two kids with this man. Yeah,
and do we feel like obviously.
Speaker 7 (40:22):
You felt like there was a little bit of change,
and I'm sure that's why he took him back and
all the things. And now he's kind of reverting back
to the initial reason why you left.
Speaker 4 (40:30):
Him exactly and what I mean by changing. I've seen
him solber, not drinking, not smoking, because I noticed back
in the days when he was drinking, he'll get very
angry than the next morning not remember what he did
or said, you know, and that physically and mentally destroyed me.
And he wouldn't understand because he's a man. He's like,
oh you she got over it. She's a woman. And
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I don't like that type of mindset.
Speaker 7 (40:53):
So where are you guys at today? Like you don't
live with each other, you live with each other?
Speaker 4 (40:58):
Like what's not we don't live with each other? That like, yes,
so we don't live with each other, went out together
and he just won't kind of like co parent in
a healthy way like he was. You won't talk to me.
It's either work together or he just don't want to
talk to me at all. And I think that's just
a sick mindset because at the end of the day,
it's the kids now, and I feel like the kids
(41:20):
shouldn't know if you don't like their mother. I believe
in that old school love. Whatever we go through, our
kids don't need enough period.
Speaker 7 (41:27):
Yeah, yeah, I agree on that, and that's Honestly, the
way I was raised, my parents were divorced, but.
Speaker 1 (41:33):
Until I was of age, they were best friends.
Speaker 7 (41:36):
In my eyes, they just weren't together anymore and they
co parented. And you know, I would agree with you
on that, but that has to be and I know
foreign that's kind of that was your mindset, but both
parties have to.
Speaker 1 (41:48):
Agree to that.
Speaker 7 (41:49):
So if he's not, then now are you comfortable, Like
does he take the kids by himself?
Speaker 1 (41:54):
Are you comfortable with that? Do you mentioned the drinking
and stuff.
Speaker 4 (41:58):
So I'm not comfortable because of my personal reasons. It's
been like the family co signed him with his behavior.
That's what makes it even worse. These are not people like,
oh you're wrong, They're like, okay, you know what it is.
What it is. So it makes me not like I
don't feel comfortable around like my kids being around like
(42:21):
the family and stuff, because like when I'm telling you,
when they get lit, they're like punching each other, doing
all types of stuff. And I don't want my kids
around ghettleness. Not that I'm being petty, but it's like
I'm trying to protect my kids.
Speaker 1 (42:33):
So what do they see him?
Speaker 5 (42:34):
Then?
Speaker 1 (42:35):
Under your supervision or how are you guys handling that?
Speaker 4 (42:38):
So I so I offered him that, but it's like
when he's around me, he's just saying a bunch of
stuff and the kids are there, so I'm like, Okay,
this is not going to work out. So that's where
I'm stuck at right now. Like he's not respecting me.
I don't really talk to any of the family, and
it's deep like that.
Speaker 5 (42:56):
So I'm like, suck, yeah, And.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
How old are the kids?
Speaker 4 (43:00):
Eleven and ten months?
Speaker 2 (43:03):
Yeah, that's I mean, it's a hard leg to have
because unless he's physically abusing them, or mentally abusing them,
or even verbally abusing him to the extent where they
feel like, oh nah, you can't be around him. You
can't really stop him from, you know, taking the kids
and going to the like you said, ghetto house. You
get what I'm saying. So if everybody over there is
(43:23):
like rowdy and have a you may not like it,
but do you really have a legal leg to stand
on to be like, nah, I don't want him to
take my kids because I don't feel safe. There has
to be a safety concern. Just because they loud and obnoxious,
isn't safety concern.
Speaker 4 (43:36):
No, no, no, So there's been like other stuff is
just I'm on lie. So I don't like yeah, yeah,
so things have gone like that route not safety, like
where I don't feel safe and I feel like if
I'm not safe, why should my kids be around that?
Speaker 7 (43:51):
And it's not like I just listen, you and I
both have babies around the same age, and I can't
picture a day where they he doesn't see her dad,
and I know that you want there to be that relationship.
He deserves for there to be that relationship. I don't
know how you guys come to that, but I think
that is of the utmost important for the kids, and
(44:11):
especially for an eleven year old boy, like he needs dad,
you know. And so I don't know how you guys
come to that, and you guys figure that out. But
it doesn't seem like he's making it easy for you
mom and that at all, because it's.
Speaker 4 (44:24):
Like, yeah, like I let him, you know, with the kids,
I've fell allowed it. But it's like it seems like
he's more focused on my personal life honestly, and it's like, yeah,
it's a not an end in story, and it's like
I want him to be there. I want him to
see the kids, but then I.
Speaker 18 (44:38):
Want to ask her.
Speaker 7 (44:39):
I want to see for and if you ever, like,
did you ever go through that when you and your ex,
Like when you guys first decided to split, and you
guys are trying to figure it, like, did you have
to have a conversation like, Hey, I'm not going to
ask you about what you're doing in your personal life
because could seehere that would be a hot button.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
But I don't know if it was really a conversation.
Maybe it came up in an argument, But that's the
understanding though, you know what.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
I mean, anyone's business.
Speaker 2 (45:02):
Yeah, we're going on separate ways. What you do on
your side and what I do on my side of
two different things. Now, if you've got a toxic partner
or something like that, or a toxic egg and they
stop coming at you the way you know old Boy's
coming at you, then it's different. But you have a
ground to stand on. I understand in the moment it
doesn't seem that way. It's easy for us to talk
about it from the outside, but you got grounds to
stand on and ways to be able to make that happen.
Speaker 5 (45:24):
R Lenny.
Speaker 7 (45:24):
I feel like when we first started this combo. You
kind of insinuated he still wants to be back with you,
and I think that's we need we need to squash
that first and foremost, like.
Speaker 1 (45:33):
That's that's not the future for you guys.
Speaker 7 (45:36):
But that's okay. You can still be really good parents. Man,
you have a literal baby in the house.
Speaker 2 (45:40):
You know it can happen. It's gonna take a lot
of work.
Speaker 4 (45:43):
No, and I agree, and that's what I told him.
But he has this mindset like ask this girl I
don't want to talk to. But he texted that to
my son's phone. So that's where those toxic comes, Like
why are you texting our son that you hate me?
Speaker 1 (45:58):
And eleven years? That's a loser's he's heard.
Speaker 2 (46:03):
He figures the way to get to you. It's to
hurt yous to get through your kids. You got to
sit your kids down and be like, listen, pop, you
know what I mean. This is what's going on with
me and your dad. And you know he may say
some mean things and you know that. Don't take it
to heart. You know I'm and you show them the
opposite side of love. You get what I'm saying. Don't
stoop down to his lit don't.
Speaker 7 (46:21):
Ever talkers sucks so much sometimes, God, and you have
to do it, letting it, I know, and I hate
it for you because it's terrible.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
Sometimes it's just not easy. But you you have like
you got it. It's just eventually will.
Speaker 2 (46:34):
Get there, because these kids are going to become teens
and then they're going to become adults and they'll they'll
see for themselves. Right now, it's so impressionable that you
know Dad is trying to make it. Trust me, you
do not got to defend nothing. He says. Kids know
a lot more than we think they do. I learned
that by experience, and as they get older, they'll realize, Yo,
Dad is always the one with negative and Mom is
(46:54):
all those one who's positive. We see what side of
the scale that this is on.
Speaker 7 (46:57):
And I just want to take a second to to
say like, and I don't want to. It's gonna make
me emotional just to say it. You have a ten
month old like that that this should really be highlighted here.
I know how much work that is. You can't look
away for a second. You're doing all of this with
no help, and you just want him to be a
part of it. And that that's that's also like a
whole added layer to this too. So I really hope
(47:19):
for your sake you can you got you know, he
can figure this out, because doing that by yourself is
that's a lot.
Speaker 1 (47:27):
That is a lot.
Speaker 4 (47:27):
And then to make it worse, he lives fifteen minutes
from me, and I've been doing this on my own,
you know, for me, she was born.
Speaker 2 (47:34):
That's crazy that Yeah, he's a bully, and you got
to ignore the bully. That's really what you got to
do at the end of the day. I know it's hard,
I know it's tough. Again, talk to your kids, but
don't react to everything he does, because then he knows
he's getting under your skin and that's what he's thriving
for the moment you start.
Speaker 4 (47:49):
I got a question for you guys. Sorry, So if
if you guys, because you know, this system is all
messed up, you know, this court system, this whole this
whole family courts, all that stuff. I did conversate with
a couple people they you know, looked in the background,
and they honestly felt like supervised visits is like the
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best way, you know, if things have gotten physical with
the mother in the past, like that's what they recommend.
And what would you guys suggest.
Speaker 2 (48:21):
Yeah, I mean, I give you two ways. You got
to protect your kids, okay, but there is a thing
about involving the government in your family. They will be
in every nook and cranny of your business. A lot
of people don't like to go that way because that's
that's the feeling. But if you're genuinely like, if there's
really a problem and a safety for concern for your children,
(48:43):
you as a mother got to do what you gotta
do to protect yourself and your children.
Speaker 7 (48:47):
I just don't know if necessarily we can answer that
for you. We're not there. That's a gut decision that
you got to make for yourself. Like you know, it's
like a mom can understand every kid has different types
of cries, right, but only the actual mother can decipher
through the cries. I think that's the same kind of
sentiment here. We're not there, We don't know what it is.
We can only give you our outside opinion. You're in there.
(49:10):
You got to trust your gut. No one's going to
know better than you, ay man.
Speaker 4 (49:14):
So that and I appreciate that, And I should have said,
like an opinion, because no one can decide for myself.
Speaker 7 (49:21):
Yeah, and listen, honestly, I could just tell you just
wanted to call invent and get this off your chest.
Speaker 1 (49:25):
So I'm glad you did.
Speaker 7 (49:26):
I don't know if we helped it all, but I
know it probably feels good to at least be able
to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (49:30):
So the best of luck.
Speaker 4 (49:32):
Thank you.
Speaker 7 (49:32):
I just want you to know I see you, and
I know how hard it is, and you know, just
keep putting those kids first.
Speaker 1 (49:38):
That's really all you can do.
Speaker 4 (49:40):
Okay, thank you so much, Good luck, good luck.
Speaker 3 (49:44):
To your point, I feel like she's already said the words,
like that guy is telling her exactly what to do.
Speaker 7 (49:49):
Yeah, And I think again, if it's a tough situation,
if he still wants to be with her, and now
he's coming in, who are you with texting the.
Speaker 1 (49:57):
Eleven year old talking about I hate your mother. That's
like legit diabolic though.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
But then also she's already gone through the steps of
talking to somebody, through the courts and all that stuff.
I feel like she knows what she needs to do
for her kids. Yeah, it's you know, hesitation, and I
understand it. It must be impossible for I know, day.
Speaker 5 (50:12):
And the jam in Morning shot with DJ Foreign. It's
Santy Morning.
Speaker 6 (50:16):
Gotin's number one for hip hop. He am in ninety
four or five.
Speaker 2 (50:21):
Hey, happy Thursday. The money she got Foreign Santy. We're
in here only a few more days till the weekend.
I got Offset. Oh did you see this? Offset went
for the first time live on TikTok. Now, yeah, he
went for the first time. He didn't know again, Novice
didn't know what he was doing. And at first people
are just kind of giving him like a little I
don't know what you I'm not on TikTok live like that.
(50:43):
But eventually they started throwing him money.
Speaker 3 (50:45):
Okay, yes, because if you start like doing like the
hearts and the.
Speaker 2 (50:48):
Flowers hats on yeah mask weird things on people's face.
Because he was always like, what am I supposed to
do with the hat on my face? And but eventually, yeah,
he was on there for a while and he started
making money. The reason I bring up Offset, by the way,
is because cardy b is they.
Speaker 3 (51:04):
Divorced right or they were never married?
Speaker 2 (51:07):
Yes, they were married. There were officially Like you see
now you got me thinking I thought they.
Speaker 3 (51:12):
Were all right, Well, whether they are there, but they're
broken up.
Speaker 2 (51:16):
Yes, they have been separated. It's clear that Cardy has
finally finally moved on, because you know, we will disclaiming
her for going back. She talks smack about him and
then go back and then talk smack about him. But anyway,
she has her own issues now that she she does.
Speaker 3 (51:29):
Do you remember in twenty twenty three when she was
in Vegas and threw the mic at somebody when she
was performed hard too?
Speaker 2 (51:36):
Yeah, baseball, and I'm pretty.
Speaker 3 (51:37):
Sure that somebody threw a drink at her and she
threw the mic back. We hit the wrong person. Well,
that woman is suing her for assault and battery over
the incident.
Speaker 2 (51:46):
Really, yes, do we have a number? Do we have
a figure?
Speaker 3 (51:48):
We don't have a number. We just know that the
lawsuit has been filed.
Speaker 2 (51:52):
Oh that was a minute ago.
Speaker 3 (51:54):
Twenty yeah, I mean it was two years ago.
Speaker 2 (51:55):
While we wait in two years to sue.
Speaker 3 (51:57):
I mean why, because I don't know. Do you assume
that maybe she tried to get money from her and
then she just never reached back out to her, and
now she took the steps to hire like a lawyer. Maybe,
like I don't know, Listen, I understand that you can
be upset, But I don't know if I'm suing Cardi
b for I'm getting really what.
Speaker 2 (52:14):
You payday? But do you have pay?
Speaker 3 (52:15):
Do you have to like have an injury or just
because you threw the mic at you, like say you
threw the mic and you were fine?
Speaker 5 (52:20):
Number one.
Speaker 2 (52:21):
Here's the thing, right, I think about it from this aspect.
Number One, if the bike was thrown and nobody ever
talked about it, she probably would have definite suit because
the moment went viral. You're gonna be you feel embarrassed basically,
so you got to get paid for your embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (52:34):
Well, I guess to your point too, you're gonna it's
an easy win because there's video evidence of it, like
happening the.
Speaker 2 (52:39):
Mic at me. Yeah, I paid money to come into
your venue, and I'm not even the one who threw
the drink at you. How much are you asking for? Oh,
I'm asking for what they do, paying and suffering. Yeah,
I'm doing all that my bills, my hospital bills, and
I'm cool with a hundred.
Speaker 3 (52:53):
Thou I feel like you could get more, Okay, how
much more? I think you asked for a million and
you settle on two and fifty.
Speaker 2 (53:01):
Damn, that's a that's like a three quarter cut. Yeah,
a million. I'm suddenly at a half a million. Okay, fine,
face injury. I can't see no more. My DJ skills change.
I can't talk on the radio like I used to.
Or that's funny. I think that was a radio host.
Speaker 1 (53:15):
It I think so.
Speaker 2 (53:17):
I think the person who got hit in the face
was a radio host.
Speaker 3 (53:19):
I'm doing it. If you're an average person, are you
doing it?
Speaker 2 (53:22):
Listen to my voice? I am suing the hell out
of Cardi b It's I'm smiling at first, I'm crying
as soon as I get behind closed doors, I'm like, Yo,
we getting paid? Who do I need to call? Who's
the who's the sleeve? But who's going after a diddy
with all the funny cases? Busby? What's his name? Buzzby?
I'm calling Buzzby. I'm like, yo, we are going after
(53:43):
this chick. I need to get paid. Daddy needs a party.
Speaker 5 (53:50):
It's Ashley in the jam In Morning Show with DJ
Foreign and Saunty.
Speaker 6 (53:54):
And it's time for another DM dilemma.
Speaker 1 (53:58):
We're doing DM dilemma and I just put my phone
down and pushed it away.
Speaker 7 (54:01):
I was I was writing to concentrate on this conversation
in which my phone all right, first and foremost. I
think it's fair to say that everybody goes through things
in life, and sometimes it's hard to talk to the
people in your circle because they're too close to the
situation they might already have, Like are they know Santi?
So you come to complain about Santi and they're like, well, yeah,
I hate him, Like I don't why why were we
(54:23):
even talking about him? So a lot of times people
will come to us and say, like, here's my situation.
Can you talk about this? Have people called in weigh
in on it. If you want to do that, can
of course stay anonymous and you can DM me at
Ashley Feldman a s H L E E F like
Frank E l DS and dog m A n D
M me and we'll do our best to help you.
(54:45):
Like I said, anonymous is the key here. So this
girl she wants to stay anonymous. She said, my husband
is leaving me after sixteen years and four kids. This
has been in the works for months.
Speaker 1 (54:56):
He said.
Speaker 7 (54:56):
We aren't on the same page with anything, and we
have no common interest. We don't have deep conversations. Unfortunately,
we own a business together, but on my end, I
technically have no income. We planned to sell our company
pay off the house, and he said he would help
me financially. I got scared and mentioned about wanting to
know where certain finances are going, and he flipped out
of me. We've never thought about money ever, But now
(55:19):
I'm left here with four kids and feeling like he's
going to screw me. I don't want to think that
would happen, but I know it can. I need advice.
I'm so heartbroken that my family is being ripped apart.
I'm sad and I feel so sick, you know. I
wrote back to her and I said, I'm just so sorry,
you know. I said, is he a good dad? Do
you really feel like he would do that? Because if
he strips her financially, then he knows that the kids
(55:41):
are going to be with her, you know. And she said,
he is a great dad. My kid love him, and
I know he loves them. I really don't think he
would screw me over like that, but men are idiots.
Speaker 3 (55:51):
This one is almost like two parts, because I feel
like the relationship is one thing in the business parts another.
I think the relationship is actually gone. I don't know
if she could have to get that part back, but
the business part and the family part, I feel like
she should consult a lawyer on that one because I
feel like she has rights in the money, but she's
not on the lead or she's not on like the
title of anything. So I think she needs to contact
(56:12):
like a lawyer.
Speaker 7 (56:13):
I'm not gonna sit up here and yeah, I don't
know about the legalities behind that. I want to believe
again that he's going to think in his head, well, yea,
the kids are going to be spending a lot of
time with her.
Speaker 1 (56:22):
I'm not going to do this to her.
Speaker 2 (56:23):
Maybe that's not his plan. Yeah, maybe he's planing's the
strip of all the bread and get full custody and
the kids stay with him.
Speaker 1 (56:30):
Yeah, you know what, that's a good point. By the way,
this this sticks out to me. I don't know if
you got this has been in the works for months.
Speaker 7 (56:36):
He said, we aren't on the same page, we have
no common interests, we don't have deep conversations. I don't
know why I read that, and I think he met somebody.
I don't know what about that makes me feel like
there's somebody else that he's getting those things.
Speaker 3 (56:50):
From things those are specific. Yeah, but I think if
you couple that with like what he's been feeling. And
again I'm not siding with him by any means, but
like they aren't connected at all, and you made that
super clear, but maybe that's what led him down another path.
Speaker 2 (57:01):
I mean, does she agree with that statement? Does she
agree that they're not connected that I just that they
don't have deep come.
Speaker 7 (57:06):
I just wrote her back and I said, we're talking
about this right now. If you want to, like you
add anything into it. She just said, it can't stay
this bad forever.
Speaker 2 (57:14):
Here's what I'm gonna say. If you feel like you're
about to get screwed out of a situation because you
guys are married to, anything that you guys own is
both of y'alls. It doesn't matter who has more income
or stuff like that. That might play out in a
divorce code when it comes to maybe alimony or maybe
child support. Yeah, but for the most part, y'all are
tied in together. So if I will always advise people
(57:36):
try to sit down, mediate these things on your own
and just separate yourselves and try to come to a
fair conclusion. But if she feels like Bro's about to
screw protect yourself at all times.
Speaker 7 (57:46):
Unrelated to this specific situation, but one of my other
good friends is going through it right now, in the
midst of a divorce, and she texts me this, and
I was like it just the line stood out to me.
She said, the person you marry is not the person
you divorced. And people because people switch up, because everybody
is in it for themselves. Then, right, you're trying to
(58:08):
protect yourself. You're trying to figure out what that's going
to look like for you now personally outside of this relationship,
and I think people get nasty.
Speaker 2 (58:15):
And even if you're not that vindictive to the most part,
you will not. You don't like this person no more.
You're not feeling this person no more. Me and you
are not connected no more. I don't feel what we
had when we were married now. So because of that,
we got to split, which is a good decision because
you don't want to be in a toxic relationship. But again,
if you feel like he's about to school you, and
well only getting her side of the story, right, yeah,
(58:36):
but if you feel like he's about to school you
protect yourself. But to try to work this thing up
amongst yourselves.
Speaker 7 (58:41):
I'm all about you know, if you're not happy in
your relationship, getting out of it, especially if there's kids involved.
I think you'd be a better parent if you were
a better you. But I also understand that there are
so many logistics that go into this for people. I mean,
she has they have four young kids and a business,
so how does like, how do they? Hey, the world
also is expensive. It's not easy nowadays where people just
(59:04):
be like, I'm gonna go get another apartment. I'll go
get a two bed, I'll get your she needs a
four bed, you know what I mean. Like, it's just
not it's not easy. And I think the financial part
holds a lot of people back too.
Speaker 3 (59:14):
But you would think because the kids are involved that
he would be a little bit better with like making
her feel at least if we're we're done, you guys
are gonna be fine.
Speaker 2 (59:22):
But that's why I'm saying there's two sides to the story. Yeah,
and there's something on his sideway. He's like, nah, shurety,
you ain't You ain't been pulling your weight for X
amount of is and I'm not about to do this
with you.
Speaker 3 (59:33):
It's so crazy because I've been married for twenty years now,
and like, I can't picture me and my wife going
through this if we ever got to this point. But
you hear that so often that people in my situation,
I have thought the same exact thing. They get a
divorce and all of a sudden, like they're fighting at
this point, and it's like super sad that she's there.
Speaker 7 (59:49):
Though, one hundred percent, and I think it's probably such
a roller coaster of like, okay, like this is what
it is. This is horrible, horrible, horrible, let's work it out.
Oh now, one person says one thing. Now I'm p off.
Now we're being mean. Now we're trying to one up
each other. Well, then my name's on the business, yours isn't.
And you just keep going back to there are kids involved,
and God willing, they could figure it out, but I
(01:00:12):
don't know. This just seems something seems off here to
me about this whole thing, That's what I'm saying. Sixteen years,
four kids, and how about her. Well I got scared
and mentioned about wanting to know where certain finances are going,
and he flipped out. We have never once fought about money.
But now I'm left with four kids and I feel
like he's going to scrib me.
Speaker 2 (01:00:30):
It might be why you're getting divorced. You might not
be pulling your weight. I know we want to look
at the guy and make him look like a demon.
But maybe you haven't been pulling your weight for sixteen
years and he's been quiet about it and he's fed
up now.
Speaker 3 (01:00:42):
But to the line, though, the more I think of that,
we don't have deep conversations. He's having those conversations with
someone else.
Speaker 1 (01:00:49):
Yeah, I think so too.
Speaker 2 (01:00:51):
But that's what happens when you fall apart. Yeah, what
happens when you're not pouring one hundred percent into the relationship,
You find what you're missing someone else.
Speaker 1 (01:00:58):
Six one seven nine three one one nine four or five.
I feel like in the last.
Speaker 7 (01:01:03):
Two months, we've talked about divorce so much, so many
people are kind of going through it right now. Six
one seven nine three one one nine four five. If
you want to weigh in, Chris is in Brockton. Chris,
when I read that message you heard, why is she
stressing out about this?
Speaker 1 (01:01:18):
If the man is saying, hey, I'm going to take
care of.
Speaker 18 (01:01:21):
You, right, and then why didn't she take care of
the man as well? As If you've been put someone
for sixteen years and he's telling you, we're not having
deep conversations. Why not seek therapy and have those decomversations
with them?
Speaker 7 (01:01:37):
Yeah, but we don't have that answer, right, So we
don't know if he came to her three years ago
and said we're not connected on this level anymore, like
we need to work on this, or it came out
of the blue.
Speaker 1 (01:01:46):
I mean, we don't know.
Speaker 7 (01:01:48):
Now.
Speaker 18 (01:01:48):
I don't think it came out of the blue. I think,
especially if they own a business, I believe this relationship
has been going down of you know, a bad path.
Speaker 7 (01:01:57):
It could for sure, But again we do No, we
don't have all the answers and say it didn't Chris.
Speaker 1 (01:02:03):
Let do that.
Speaker 5 (01:02:04):
Yeah, let's let's you know, let's say that.
Speaker 18 (01:02:07):
But the information she gives it sounds like she's only
giving her part on financials and money. She's not really
saying what she did and what she didn't do.
Speaker 7 (01:02:15):
Maybe she was a full time mom, Maybe that was
her job. Maybe she wanted to hypothetic as a wife.
Speaker 18 (01:02:21):
You can't be just a full time mom. You got
to be a wife and a mom. Get married, Get
married for a reason. You could just be a baby mother.
Speaker 1 (01:02:27):
Then no, I get it.
Speaker 7 (01:02:29):
But like you know, I'm using let's use my life
as an example for this. Right now, I don't think
that I at this point in my life, my number
one priority is the girl. They're young, they're little, I'm breastfeeding,
I'm doing on things. Do I think that my I'm
the best possible wife I could be right now? No,
I'm trying and I'm doing my best. But maybe they're
(01:02:49):
in that little spell right now where it's like they
have a baby.
Speaker 18 (01:02:52):
We don't know which which Okay, let's let's grant her that.
Let's let's grant her that, and she has a baby,
and you know it's a little hard for at the
same time that she should seek therapy before the marriage
gets too bad. She should seek therapy, and when she
was having the baby should have start therapy, like maybe
fifteen years ago, five years ago, two months ago, therapy.
Speaker 7 (01:03:14):
Okay, but I like, I don't need therapy, you know
what I mean? But I and I try my best.
Speaker 18 (01:03:20):
Now that you need therapy, it's like you need someone
else to talk to so you can you know understand
what this other mad, what this other person may be missing,
or what the other person isn't seeing that you're mistake
totally and.
Speaker 7 (01:03:30):
Listen, I will say with say this to you if if,
if it was vocalized to me, Hey, Ash, I need
you to communicate better, hay Ash, I don't feel like
we're doing ABCND I would do those things we don't know,
but you don't you.
Speaker 18 (01:03:41):
Know that means you would have a great man. I
mean everyone will be great. No one's gonna obviously communicate
like that one hundred percent of the time, you know
what I mean. That's why I always say, you know,
getting an outside store for someone else that can come in,
someone that's fit in that same situation, like another couple,
another married couple will be good too.
Speaker 2 (01:03:57):
What was what was a line about her not having
a job. Technically she said something like technically I don't
have What does she say?
Speaker 7 (01:04:02):
We own a business together and on my end, I
technically have no income. We plan to sell our company,
pay off the house, and he said he will help
me financially. I got scared, and I mentioned wanting to
know where hold on, hold on, hold on. We plan
to sell our company, pay off the house, and he
said he will help me financially. I got scared and
I mentioned about wanting to know where certain finances are going,
(01:04:23):
and he flipped, we have never once thought about this.
Speaker 3 (01:04:25):
Listen, it sounds like their businesses family owned to the
point where she probably works. They're part time, full time
doing whatever like that. Yeah, that's what it.
Speaker 7 (01:04:33):
Was agreed upon, like you stay home with the kids,
you do this, I'll do that, I'll run this.
Speaker 1 (01:04:37):
But whatever. Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 2 (01:04:38):
I don't take it as a fine. This guy has
issues with finances. There's an issue that he feels a
way about how the finances are running in that crib.
So maybe he doesn't like the fact that she's technically
not working. Finances is an issue for him.
Speaker 1 (01:04:52):
Well, then that should have been told to her.
Speaker 2 (01:04:54):
How we know it wasn't.
Speaker 7 (01:04:55):
Yeah, we don't, that's the thing. And but again that's
why we don't know. She could have been thanks for
the call. Christ by the way, she could have been
completely blindsided. She could have No, she's not responding. The
last she said was it can't stay this bad forever.
She's she's not well.
Speaker 3 (01:05:08):
Listen, on the therapy part, I don't think it should just
be her getting therapy. I think they should have gone
as a couple together and adjust both have problems here.
Speaker 7 (01:05:15):
Do you know what I'm trying to say where it's like,
I don't, we don't know what. Like I think that
there was a time where being a wife was my
only responsibility.
Speaker 1 (01:05:23):
I didn't have kids.
Speaker 2 (01:05:24):
That was my change.
Speaker 1 (01:05:25):
It changed it things change right like you know.
Speaker 7 (01:05:29):
And not to say I'm a bad wife right now,
but my wifely duties are getting you know, the baby
and the kids are yeah. Yeah, So I don't know.
I just don't know where they're at with that. But
I mean her responds of it can't stay bad forever.
She's not good.
Speaker 3 (01:05:43):
I know she's not good. But I do not think
this this relationship can be saved. But I do think
financially you can get some help there.
Speaker 7 (01:05:50):
Though the person you marry is not the person you divorce.
That stands out to me. Six one seven nine three
one one nine four five six one seven nine three
one one nine four five. If anybody is going through
this right now, has been through a divorce and wants
to offer up some wise words, hit us up. Good morning,
it's Ashing the jym Winshew. Hi everybody, Good morning, it's
(01:06:10):
Ashing the gym in the morning show. I got a
DM from anonymous who basically is like, ash, I'm going
through it. She was like, this can't be this bad forever.
And that's how bad it is. Her husband is leaving
her after sixteen years and four kids. They have a
business together, but technically on her end. She isn't on
the PaperWorks, she doesn't have any income. They're going to
(01:06:31):
sell the company to make enough money to pay off
the house. She asks him about the finances throughout this.
He snaps, and she's scared, and she's she's sad and
she's worried. I feel like lately we've been talking a
lot about divorce. I know three people close to me
that are going through it. And you know, a line
(01:06:53):
I was saying that really stuck out to me is
that the person you marry is not the person you divorce.
People switch up, they start to like protect themselves. Jenn's
in Rhode Island, Jenna, I was. I was saying, if
anybody had been through it.
Speaker 1 (01:07:06):
To kind of offer her some advice.
Speaker 7 (01:07:07):
We have so many follow up questions for but we
obviously are not going to get the answer. I just think,
you know, it would be good for her to hear
from somebody away from all of it.
Speaker 1 (01:07:16):
What are your thoughts hearing all of this?
Speaker 19 (01:07:19):
So we don't know the whole story, But what I've
learned after a ten year failed relationship is your spouse
comes before your kids. Not not like before your kids,
but your kids are going to grow up, they're gonna
get married, they're going to leave, your parents are going
to pass. Your spouse is going to be there with you.
You have to take care of your spouse and then
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your children.
Speaker 3 (01:07:44):
I don't disagree with her, I actually don't.
Speaker 1 (01:07:47):
I don't disagree.
Speaker 7 (01:07:48):
I think obviously your relationship with your partner should be
as important as that of your kids. I just think
that there are certain instances where you know, there's eras
of your life, or there's chapter of your life where
taking care of the kids is of the utmost important.
If they're paid, you know, there's just it's just as life. Yes, yes,
but yes, I think valuing your relationship and making it
(01:08:10):
as important as possible is important.
Speaker 1 (01:08:12):
Jen. If that's what you're saying, I get that for sure.
Speaker 19 (01:08:16):
So I always was my kids at first. My kids
are first. My kids are first because that's how I
was raised. Their kids at first, Your kids are first,
and I let my relationship slide.
Speaker 4 (01:08:24):
And then by the time, you know, I.
Speaker 19 (01:08:28):
Would see these old couples like married sixty seventy eighty years,
and they're like, we never stopped, We always came first.
We worked together, it was one hundred percent. We disciplined
the kids together, we took care of the kids together.
And that's just not how anybody is nowadays. Everybody is
just almost for themselves.
Speaker 18 (01:08:47):
I don't believe that.
Speaker 1 (01:08:48):
I don't believe that.
Speaker 7 (01:08:49):
I think, well, yeah, I think in some relationships, and
I think those are the ones that probably aren't doing well.
But you know, I think there's a lot of relationships
that do try to be a team and be partners
and try to do it all together.
Speaker 1 (01:09:01):
You know, I've noticed two, you know, little things in
the house.
Speaker 7 (01:09:05):
You know. She'll say to me, can I have chocolate?
And I will say, no, it's eleven am. You're not
having any chocolate. And she'll go into the other room
and she'll say to my husband, can I have chocolate?
And he'll be like, your mother just told you. You know,
we echo each other, and that I think, you know,
I think there are people that have that, and the
bottom line is, wouldn't it be great?
Speaker 3 (01:09:25):
Right?
Speaker 1 (01:09:25):
To be able to.
Speaker 7 (01:09:26):
Say, my relationship with my partners are the utmost important
as well as my kids, and you can do it all,
but it's a lot, and I think one of them
is going to fall by the wayside.
Speaker 1 (01:09:34):
You just have to work on it as hard as
you can, right, No, I.
Speaker 19 (01:09:38):
Agree, I just I think I heard it. And now
that my kids are older and I'm in a new relationship,
and it's different because they're teenagers, so I don't have
to really take care of them, but I will, you know,
put my happiness a little bit before theirs, instead of
being like, oh, I have to do this for them
before I take care of me.
Speaker 6 (01:09:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 13 (01:09:59):
I don't know that.
Speaker 7 (01:10:00):
It feels weird for me, and I don't know if
maybe it's because your kids are older, like I don't.
I can't even fathom putting my happiness ahead of.
Speaker 3 (01:10:09):
Here's what I say, because we've been in your party.
What I think she should be saying, or what I
would say, is like, yes, kids come before, like it
just doesn't taking care of them all, but still make
the effort. And sometimes it's super hard to date your husband,
date your partner because that's that still matters, and that
builds the relationship there. I think a lot of people sometimes,
(01:10:29):
well they don't do that, and then ten.
Speaker 1 (01:10:32):
Years goes easy to get lost.
Speaker 3 (01:10:34):
Yes, and that thing. It is so hard to keep
a good marriage, especially when you have kids. And I
think that's what she was trying to say.
Speaker 2 (01:10:41):
And if you don't communicate, I almost feel like that's
what's going on with this DM dilemma. I'll be honest
with you. I think I think financiers was a problem
for them for a while or whatever. The husband was
not happy with and he just kept quiet about it,
or maybe he said something, but it wasn't communicated. They
didn't sit down and talk these things.
Speaker 3 (01:10:56):
That's the thing.
Speaker 2 (01:10:56):
And I think now sixteen years later, he's just he's
fed up. And you might be he might have found
out in somebody else and he's like, what, Oh, so
this is the way love's supposed to be. I'm out
of here.
Speaker 7 (01:11:05):
Marriage is so hard, dude, Like it's so hard on hard, Yes,
and then you add kids into it and jo crazy.
Speaker 2 (01:11:14):
Yeah, and nobody just gets married and then you're just
a honeymoon for sixteen years and a job.
Speaker 3 (01:11:19):
And then you're at financing. Then you add jobs and
you add all the things in life.
Speaker 7 (01:11:24):
And this sentiment is hard to articulate, Like I'm having
trouble figuring out the right words because I don't like
the verbiage of I put my happiness in front of
my kid's happiness, because that's I don't and I would never.
But I do see what everybody's saying is we have
other calls being like I agree, like your partner should
be your number one priority. If your partnership in your
(01:11:45):
house isn't good, you're not gonna parent well because things
aren't good.
Speaker 1 (01:11:48):
Like the base of this, like the rock is rocky.
Speaker 3 (01:11:51):
Here's what I'll say. Our kids are our priorities like
number one, but each other. Maybe we're one point two,
we're not two, we're not three, but it has to
be like very important.
Speaker 2 (01:12:02):
And I think people taking it literally like, oh, what,
so they're sick. You don't take no. Yeah, health is good.
You know you're making sure that your kids are growing
up to be a good adults and good people in society.
But at the same time, I kind of hear what
she's saying, because when it's all said and done, everybody
leaves the nest and it's just you and your partner
and now you're looking at each other like, oh, I
don't know who you are. Yes, for the last twenty
(01:12:24):
something is we've been just focused on the family, the house,
and the kids.
Speaker 1 (01:12:28):
Yeah, I've also heard that too.
Speaker 3 (01:12:30):
Divor at that age it's a it's askuta.
Speaker 1 (01:12:34):
Because you really literally just stayed because of the kids.
Speaker 7 (01:12:38):
Yeah, I know this is This is such an interesting
conversation because it's and again it's hard to articulate because
at the end of the day, they're your babies, so
you're of course going to be protective of them, but
you also have to be protective of the person that
gave them to you.
Speaker 3 (01:12:51):
You know heard the staff that by the time your
kids are twelve, you've already spent seventy five percent of
the time with them that you have.
Speaker 1 (01:12:59):
That makes me want vomit.
Speaker 3 (01:13:00):
And but to that point, it's like, all right, twelve,
so from twelve on you're left with seventy five percent
of your partner. Now, it's like, so that's why that
foundation is so important through those years. Yeah, but that's
stat mess me up.
Speaker 1 (01:13:13):
Damn.
Speaker 3 (01:13:14):
Let's all have a cry.
Speaker 7 (01:13:15):
I might, I might shed a tear or go home
and like do something weird with the farm man. Keep
her more spicy because now everybody's listening like she doesn't
prioritize him priority Up there tonight.
Speaker 17 (01:13:29):
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Speaker 6 (01:13:34):
Number one for hip hop jam in ninety four or five.
Speaker 2 (01:13:39):
Wow, we made it happy Thursday. Thank you everybody for
the DMS, the talk bats to call in checking in
on Ashley as well, Santy for anybody who might just
be tapping in now. Our girl Ashley was out today,
a very rare thing by the way, Yeah, which I
know she probably tried to fight through it before she
could call out, but she's she has some kind of
stomach bug or whatever's going on. And again, when you
(01:14:00):
got kids, you know, you start getting other kind of
sicknesses that you normally wouldn't get. But Ashley, I hope
you're feeling better. She says she'll be back tomorrow feeling great.
On a Friday, I think, Loky, she just wanted.
Speaker 3 (01:14:11):
To day off.
Speaker 2 (01:14:11):
I mean, she should have called out sick on Friday.
Speaker 3 (01:14:13):
At this point, it's gonna be Friday tomorrow. Get sick
like you don't be here with the stomach bugget honestly too,
I don't want the.
Speaker 2 (01:14:22):
Stomach bug stay home again, but yeah, shout out to
actually make sure ya show all the love at Ashley
Felman and yeah again, shout out to anybody that tapped
him with us all throughout the show, Santy, go ahead
with your shout out.
Speaker 3 (01:14:35):
Shout out to the stomach bug man, because it's a
serious thing and all joking aside. When you have the
stomach bug and it's like it decimates you, it's awful.
Speaker 2 (01:14:45):
Yes, yes it is for me actually too easy. The
am as always make sure y'all taping all us check
in on the podcast, follow us on Instagram. Tonight. Shout
out to all my librarians, not my librarians, I try
to say differently because yeah, I will counted me yesterday,
but it's a librarian like the country, not librarians like
the women at the bookstore. Whatever. Tonight, we're over there
(01:15:08):
at Venue for the Independence Day and then tomorrow all
wide events happening in Boston as well. For details all
over are social at DJ the number four E I
g n Ye'll be good, y'all be blessed, take care
of each other. Our girl AJ is up next Santage traffic,
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