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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Wait good wake yo wa.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Well well, well here we are again on a Monday.
What's up people?
Speaker 1 (00:15):
What's up?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
How was everybody's weekends?
Speaker 1 (00:18):
It was good.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
I had my high school friends at my house on
Friday night, so we haven't hung out in a while.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
But yeah, I was good.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
You know what I've realized, like over time, that growing
up in Salem, I was a delinquent, Like I was
pretty bad. And I guess I compare this to how
my wife was raised too. She was like she behaved
like I burned down the woods one times. I used
to steal.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Cars from the car story is wild?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Which which one?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
How you stole the car and then got the accident?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Yeah, like there's stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
And then all my friends have similar stories like that,
and like thinking back, like I was really bad, but
I was doing it all for fun, not for like
criminal like purpose.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Yeah, I was doing it because I thought it was fun,
you know, deviant.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Yeah, let's go jump a hard, let's go do let's
burn down the woods, like wouldn't that be awesome?
Speaker 4 (01:05):
All of those are the ones that stand out to you,
But I don't I don't know which one stands out
to you for and the one for me is that
there's a guy like a girl man Santi's age. They
went to school together. He listens daily. He's the one
who at the house where they would go watch the
pornos together, like when Santi was in high school. They
would go sit on the edge of this man's father's
bed and put on pornos and do goddily knows what
(01:28):
and watch.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
You know, you're a deviant dude.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It was.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
That's how it was described to me.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I know it sounds like that.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
It sounds like we got together circle and turned on
some stuff and we're like, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
God, let's see who goes, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
And you know, we were skipped school and like at
that age, like his dad had like tapes and all
that stuff, so we're like, let's pop one in.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
What part of that did I not say it?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Just? I think I.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Know it sounds like that, but it wasn't a sick
thing that we would would do together.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
It was like watching it in the theater.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Ah, okay, the father's bed. Because that's the story that
stands out to me. I'm sure Joan's proud.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Of all of them.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
I don't know if she knows bad story because like,
how can I tell my wife that, Like I guess
in the sense we were doing circle things, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
It's like, yeah, just weird to say to your wife.
So yeah, I just leave that one out.
Speaker 4 (02:24):
You really did have, Like I can't think of any
of doing anything.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Bad, like bad on your levels. I got caught. My
mom told me my mom and dad told me I
couldn't date the senior boy. And I got caught dating
him and I got grounded for like my life.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Well the craziest though, one that would have put me
in prison that luckily it didn't happen. But I pulled Okay,
there are train shacks that run through the middle of Salem,
mass It's a commuter rail. They had like thick fencing
that had come down, so we used to throw rocks
to the train all the time. So what I did
is I told I took the fence. I dragged it
on the train tracks. It was so thick that that
(03:02):
would have derailed the train one hundred percent.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
One of my friends for some reason was like, yeah,
it's a bad idea.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Pulled it off train passes.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
But looking back now, I probably would have spent a
lot of time in juvie. But also somebody would have
got seriously hurt on the train, would have been off the.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Track, and your brain is so weird.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
But it wasn't like a thing like I want to
hurt some people on my right.
Speaker 5 (03:25):
No.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
You were like, let's let's have a laugh, right, yeah, yeah,
let's all giggle together.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Yeah. So I know.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
But telling me these stories with all my buddies, like
it just hit me. I'm like, wow, my kids are there,
They're like, Dad, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Guys?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I'm like, you were bad?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Good times?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Did you do anything like that my school for him?
Speaker 5 (03:42):
Nah? The most I did. I think that I got
called full was skipping school for immigrant parents. They don't
play that.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
That's not good. Where were you headed?
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I got stomped out?
Speaker 5 (03:51):
What do we go?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
We went to Boston?
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Oh so like nothing.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
It wasn't nothing crazy on the trail.
Speaker 5 (03:57):
Thing is is that my sister snitched on me because
you just so have to be the same day that
she was leaving back out to go to Syracuse, New York,
she came to school to say by to me. I
wasn't there and went back toward my pops. My pops
was waiting for me when I got home. Yo, he
put a mud hole in my back.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Brother.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Yeah, it was crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Yeah, back in our day, like you got beat I'll
never forget. I was, uh. I told you guys this.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
I was like the lieutenant on the safety patrol and
I could write people up.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
And get them detention. And I wrote my own brother up.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
And I came home peacock and like my feathers were high.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I was so hyped.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
But my mother had already got the call that I had,
you know, written my brother up and that he had
detention and everything. Beat me, beat me and told me,
you're gonna learn what it is to have family, to
like protect your family.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Against the grip, just.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Like you gotta yea nah, she really really, But then
that was I was fearful of that back in the day, like.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
My mom hiding that sent the message. And I think
you changed from that. These days you can can't do anything. Yeah,
soft kids.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, they're not afraid.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Were good.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
I was petrified of terry.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Now, there's a fine line between beating and abuse, but
a beaten sends a message.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
You can't not anymore. They're just they're out of control.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
That's why.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Yeah, you have to sit them down.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
My sister does a sitting down and talking about emotions
where their kids there's no yelling.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
There's just communication and we have emotions, which is good.
It's not good, it's but sometimes you need to.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
But they don't like the soft parenting. They don't raise
the soft what's called.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
They don't gentle gentle, they don't like sock, but they
don't raise their voice.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Right, they can then talk about their emotions. It doesn't
work because my niece is a monster.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Like stuff on the table, those absolutely fits, so it
doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Oh god, yeah, it was a different time.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
But by the way, I love that we were children.
When we were children, like I think about just it
upsets me even thinking about, like you know, the computers
and the Instagram and the phones off just upsetic.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
Well, we grew up with everything, right, We grew up
with with rotary phones, with phone boots like the last time.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Outside, boy, yes it's not like that anymore.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Home boots are fun because you didn't call nine from
what are they gonna come find me?
Speaker 5 (06:21):
Pull up and you're like, ah, you suck, clown,
Wait good wake yo wa.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Well well, well here we are again on a Monday.
What's up people?
Speaker 1 (00:15):
What's up?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
How was everybody's weekends?
Speaker 1 (00:18):
It was good.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
I had my high school friends at my house on
Friday night, so we haven't hung out in a while.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
But yeah, I was good.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
You know what I've realized, like over time, that growing
up in Salem, I was a delinquent, Like I was
pretty bad. And I guess I compare this to how
my wife was raised too. She was like she behaved
like I burned down the woods one times. I used
to steal.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Cars from the car story is wild?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Which which one?
Speaker 2 (00:43):
How you stole the car and then got the accident?
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Yeah, like there's stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
And then all my friends have similar stories like that,
and like thinking back, like I was really bad, but
I was doing it all for fun, not for like
criminal like purpose.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Yeah, I was doing it because I thought it was fun,
you know, deviant.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Yeah, let's go jump a hard, let's go do let's
burn down the woods, like wouldn't that be awesome?
Speaker 4 (01:05):
All of those are the ones that stand out to you,
But I don't I don't know which one stands out
to you for and the one for me is that
there's a guy like a girl man Santi's age. They
went to school together. He listens daily. He's the one
who at the house where they would go watch the
pornos together, like when Santi was in high school. They
would go sit on the edge of this man's father's
bed and put on pornos and do goddily knows what
(01:28):
and watch.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
You know, you're a deviant dude.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
It was.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
That's how it was described to me.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I know it sounds like that.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
It sounds like we got together circle and turned on
some stuff and we're like, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
God, let's see who goes, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
And you know, we were skipped school and like at
that age, like his dad had like tapes and all
that stuff, so we're like, let's pop one in.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
What part of that did I not say it?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Just? I think I.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Know it sounds like that, but it wasn't a sick
thing that we would would do together.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
It was like watching it in the theater.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Ah, okay, the father's bed. Because that's the story that
stands out to me. I'm sure Joan's proud.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
Of all of them.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
I don't know if she knows bad story because like,
how can I tell my wife that, Like I guess
in the sense we were doing circle things, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
It's like, yeah, just weird to say to your wife.
So yeah, I just leave that one out.
Speaker 4 (02:24):
You really did have, Like I can't think of any
of doing anything.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Bad, like bad on your levels. I got caught. My
mom told me my mom and dad told me I
couldn't date the senior boy. And I got caught dating
him and I got grounded for like my life.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Well the craziest though, one that would have put me
in prison that luckily it didn't happen. But I pulled Okay,
there are train shacks that run through the middle of Salem,
mass It's a commuter rail. They had like thick fencing
that had come down, so we used to throw rocks
to the train all the time. So what I did
is I told I took the fence. I dragged it
on the train tracks. It was so thick that that
(03:02):
would have derailed the train one hundred percent.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
One of my friends for some reason was like, yeah,
it's a bad idea.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Pulled it off train passes.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
But looking back now, I probably would have spent a
lot of time in juvie. But also somebody would have
got seriously hurt on the train, would have been off the.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Track, and your brain is so weird.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
But it wasn't like a thing like I want to
hurt some people on my right.
Speaker 5 (03:25):
No.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
You were like, let's let's have a laugh, right, yeah, yeah,
let's all giggle together.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Yeah. So I know.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
But telling me these stories with all my buddies, like
it just hit me. I'm like, wow, my kids are there,
They're like, Dad, what's wrong with you?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Guys?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I'm like, you were bad?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Good times?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Did you do anything like that my school for him?
Speaker 5 (03:42):
Nah? The most I did. I think that I got
called full was skipping school for immigrant parents. They don't
play that.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
That's not good. Where were you headed?
Speaker 1 (03:50):
I got stomped out?
Speaker 5 (03:51):
What do we go?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
We went to Boston?
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Oh so like nothing.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
It wasn't nothing crazy on the trail.
Speaker 5 (03:57):
Thing is is that my sister snitched on me because
you just so have to be the same day that
she was leaving back out to go to Syracuse, New York,
she came to school to say by to me. I
wasn't there and went back toward my pops. My pops
was waiting for me when I got home. Yo, he
put a mud hole in my back.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Brother.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Yeah, it was crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Yeah, back in our day, like you got beat I'll
never forget. I was, uh. I told you guys this.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
I was like the lieutenant on the safety patrol and
I could write people up.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
And get them detention. And I wrote my own brother up.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
And I came home peacock and like my feathers were high.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I was so hyped.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
But my mother had already got the call that I had,
you know, written my brother up and that he had
detention and everything. Beat me, beat me and told me,
you're gonna learn what it is to have family, to
like protect your family.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Against the grip, just.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Like you gotta yea nah, she really really, But then
that was I was fearful of that back in the day, like.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
My mom hiding that sent the message. And I think
you changed from that. These days you can can't do anything. Yeah,
soft kids.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, they're not afraid.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Were good.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
I was petrified of terry.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Now, there's a fine line between beating and abuse, but
a beaten sends a message.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
You can't not anymore. They're just they're out of control.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
That's why.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Yeah, you have to sit them down.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
My sister does a sitting down and talking about emotions
where their kids there's no yelling.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
There's just communication and we have emotions, which is good.
It's not good, it's but sometimes you need to.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
But they don't like the soft parenting. They don't raise
the soft what's called.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
They don't gentle gentle, they don't like sock, but they
don't raise their voice.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Right, they can then talk about their emotions. It doesn't
work because my niece is a monster.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Like stuff on the table, those absolutely fits, so it
doesn't work.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Oh god, yeah, it was a different time.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
But by the way, I love that we were children.
When we were children, like I think about just it
upsets me even thinking about, like you know, the computers
and the Instagram and the phones off just upsetic.
Speaker 5 (06:05):
Well, we grew up with everything, right, We grew up
with with rotary phones, with phone boots like the last time.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Outside, boy, yes it's not like that anymore.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Home boots are fun because you didn't call nine from
what are they gonna come find me?
Speaker 5 (06:21):
Pull up and you're like, ah, you suck, clown,
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