Queen Of The Fair

Ashlee has a fair itch

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Sadly in the jam In Morning Show with DJ four
and it's Sat Morning Plusin's.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Number one for hip hop jam In ninety four or five.

Speaker 3 (00:11):
Hi, everybody, good morning. We're talking dating, love relationships.

Speaker 4 (00:18):
It's beyond the swipe six one seven nine three one
one nine four five. Uh. This is exactly why we
change the name from Tender Tuesday, because it's kind of
this segment has turned into more of a conversation depending
on what people want to talk about in the world.

Speaker 3 (00:32):
Of dating these days. Elizabeth is in Rhode Island.

Speaker 4 (00:36):
What do you think is making it so tough to
date nowadays?

Speaker 3 (00:42):
Elizabeth.

Speaker 5 (00:42):
I definitely think it's the amount of options. I think
now with the dating apps, there's just so many different
people and on any given day, like you might have
a great first date, great second date, or be seeing
somebody but they don't have maybe everything you're looking for,
and then you can literally just go back on to

(01:03):
hints and like keep scrolling. So I think that's definitely
the apps are driving it. The other thing that myself
and my single friends are noticing, it's just like the
texting with the guys is crazy, Like they will be
your pental for years and never want to like meet up,
Like I don't have to make of that.

Speaker 3 (01:25):
That's so strange because it's not enough time, enough time
for that.

Speaker 5 (01:29):
Why don't we Yeah, I don't get it at all,
Like I would love an explanation from guys who just
literally wants to attack.

Speaker 6 (01:36):
It's all the time.

Speaker 7 (01:38):
Okay, so the option don't sorry, here comes the but
it's obvious, like the options, what are the options for
do things? Because there's more people out there right And
the second thing, they're texting with you because they're not
that into you. If they liked you like that, like
that much, they would make come over, they would do
the like this that you're just a friend.

Speaker 8 (01:56):
But to double down is because they're doing that with
a hundred the women or one hundred other people.

Speaker 6 (02:01):
So you know what I mean.

Speaker 8 (02:02):
When when when you come up on the list, and
I hate to say it this way, but when when
they need something from you for real, for real, that's
when a little bit more effort's going to be putting you.
But in the meantime, you're just being held, you know
what I'm saying, your placement until until I need you
for you guys.

Speaker 3 (02:16):
Right now on the roster, do you have some pen pals.

Speaker 8 (02:18):
Yeah, it's people who text might well not even text
message on ij Yeah, we talk.

Speaker 6 (02:24):
I think you're cute. I think you know, you look good,
but you know I'm not. Really you're not.

Speaker 3 (02:28):
You haven't reached the starting five yet.

Speaker 6 (02:29):
Hoday Nope, no friends, just friends. We're cool.

Speaker 8 (02:33):
You know we're talking. Then that's about it. I think
you're cute, but yeah, the options thing is a real thing.

Speaker 3 (02:37):
I'm telling you, Elizabeth, how long have you been single?

Speaker 9 (02:40):
I would say for about two years?

Speaker 4 (02:43):
Okay, and any in the two years guys where you
were like okay, like prospect, this could be it and
then it fizzled.

Speaker 5 (02:51):
Yeah, definitely, maybe like dating for like a couple of
months and it seemed like prospect. Maybe not everything I wanted,
but prospect.

Speaker 3 (03:01):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (03:02):
Yeah, yeah, No, it's uh, it's not easy out there.
I mean, listen, we know we've we get the accounts firsthand.
Thank you for the call.

Speaker 3 (03:11):
Aj. You know some might call you unlucky in love?
What are you?

Speaker 4 (03:15):
What are you putting at the number one spot for
why it's so hard to date in this day and age.

Speaker 10 (03:20):
I'd say it's hard because no one is honest about
being single, and they are all.

Speaker 9 (03:25):
J date.

Speaker 4 (03:28):
For your specific Yeah, and that's not even a joke,
Like any guy that AJ has actually been like okay,
this could be something they're married, like for real.

Speaker 6 (03:36):
Yeah, and like you had feelings too for these dudes too, uh.

Speaker 3 (03:40):
Yeah, like the one from last year.

Speaker 10 (03:42):
Absolutely, Like I still think about that, like how excited
I was and I was like, oh my god, Like
I think about the last time I saw him.

Speaker 3 (03:49):
It was incredible.

Speaker 4 (03:50):
I think we all can agree that the the guy
that she's referring to that like the like it was
her fault.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
He had his wife up on her fridge, on his fridge.

Speaker 6 (03:58):
She just wanted to keep walking by that. It was
assisted that they didn't look alike, even though he was
black and she was white.

Speaker 8 (04:05):
Getting okay, but again, I've been said these apps, ninety
nine percent of the time, people are not going there
to find love. Yes, I know we could get some
callers who will be like I found the love of
my life on there, but that's the rarity. Majority of
the people there are there to play. They're there to
have fun. They're not there to take anything serious. And
that's why you get I.

Speaker 4 (04:26):
Mean, okay, but on that then then I feel like
it's depressing for like my girlfriends out here because they're like, wait,
but that's where I'm supposed to find love?

Speaker 6 (04:33):
Is you know it is?

Speaker 8 (04:34):
Nah, the pops, all these tender joints. I'm telling you,
they're all hook up apps.

Speaker 11 (04:38):
Man.

Speaker 8 (04:38):
People are gonna draw you. Some people are gonna be
real about it and be like, look, I'm only here
for fun. Some people are gonna play you alone, be like,
oh my god. And then you find out they in
vacation with their family in the Ruba, Like that.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
Says mom and dad.

Speaker 6 (04:51):
That's crazy. They're just there to play.

Speaker 8 (04:53):
You're gonna catch one or two who get into a
serious relationship, but you gotta you gotta move with caution
when you're on these.

Speaker 6 (04:59):
Apps, because that's what people and asked questions.

Speaker 10 (05:01):
But okay, but where's if we're not finding love on
the apps, where.

Speaker 3 (05:05):
Are we supposed to find love that in the streets?

Speaker 10 (05:07):
Oh and somebody just flirted with me in the streets
and he was married, but we don't.

Speaker 6 (05:15):
Let's let's break that down.

Speaker 8 (05:16):
Let's he said, he said he got nice eyes, and
you went and gave him your number being thirst and
then you got played.

Speaker 6 (05:23):
That's your fault. That's not his.

Speaker 8 (05:25):
He didn't approach you. He just said you had nice eyes.
You jumped out. He said you had nice eyes. You
jumped out the window number.

Speaker 3 (05:34):
Because I was like, I just want to say you
have nice eyes. She was like, I'd like to say, do.

Speaker 6 (05:37):
You want to have sex? We're got nice eyes. I
will marry you. That's true.

Speaker 4 (05:43):
Yeah, now listen again, this is like I I have,
verbatim heard some of my friends that are married be like,
I'm not the happiest, but I'm gonna suck it up
because like, it's not easy out there and aj stories.
Obviously that's not happening here. But she's right, like it's
really hard, and it's not her that's just saying. This is
my friends mimic the same, the same words. The streets

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are tough.

Speaker 7 (06:06):
Been matter for twenty years, and I understand that, but
I also think if you go back twenty years, it's
been a challenge to people have been lying about being
in relationships all the stuff for so many years. But
the Forornes points, there's a lot more options, and I
think that does definitely hurt. But also for the guys,
there's more options out there too.

Speaker 6 (06:20):
For everybody. For both both options.

Speaker 8 (06:22):
Back in the day, like we were talking about because
like I actually made a good point. Back then, we
didn't really have these issues because you didn't really see
a lot of batties.

Speaker 6 (06:29):
I'm talking from a male's perspective, right.

Speaker 8 (06:31):
You didn't really see a lot of batteries unless they
weren't a magazine on a video.

Speaker 3 (06:35):
They were unattainable exactly.

Speaker 8 (06:37):
You didn't know. Now I can tell you that there's
ten batties on my street because they all post on
social media and they're half naked. I'm like, damn, I ain't. Yeah,
the zombies, bro' you know what I mean. You just
gotta get past that. The cars, you know what I mean. Yeah,
but you get what I'm saying. It's like now you
can see like regular deglar people that you walk around

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and be like, da, that's how she looks underneath those clothes.
And then all of a sudden, it's an option, and
some chicks are just for that. They're like, yeah, let
me show off my body to get attention. Okay, I'm
here for it.

Speaker 4 (07:08):
If you're single right now, call me and tell me
what the climate is out there, Like, how.

Speaker 3 (07:14):
Are we feeling, what's going on? Why, Why is it
so hard? What are you experiencing?

Speaker 4 (07:20):
What what does it feel like to be single in
this day and age? Six one seven, nine, three, one
one nine four five six one seven nine three one
one nine four five.

Speaker 3 (07:30):
Because I'm gonna be honest with you, it seems like
it is tough out there right now.

Speaker 4 (07:35):
Hi, everybody, good morning. It's Ashley and the jam in
the morning show. You know, I would understand if you
were listening to the show and we're talking about dating
and I make a comment and you're like, bitch, shut up,
like you're married, you're not single. You don't get it.
You don't You don't know what it's like out here.
I know what AJ tells me. I know what my
my besties tell me about trying to date right now.
You know, foreign keep secret, so I don't know what

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he would say. But bottom line is I need to know.
Fill me in because it's looking scary out there for
most people that tell me that they're single. Six one
seven nine three one one nine four five. We're talking
about the climate of being single in this day and age.
Joe is in Grafton, Joe, it seems rough, it doesn't

(08:18):
seem nice.

Speaker 12 (08:20):
It's awful frankly for the guys too, because I want
to date with this chick. Come to find out she
was married by her husband calling me. That was fun. No,
the husband called Yep, he was in tears. I started
getting in tears. There's awful.

Speaker 3 (08:36):
What was he saying, dude? Uh?

Speaker 12 (08:39):
He was just asking all the questions and stuff that
I explained to him that I had no clue. She
didn't leave any breadcrumbs, and I'm like, I'm sorry. It
just you can't trust anybody these days.

Speaker 3 (08:49):
Joe, where'd you meet her.

Speaker 13 (08:52):
One on the date aps?

Speaker 12 (08:52):
I forget which one?

Speaker 3 (08:53):
Okay, so she showed You're right.

Speaker 4 (08:54):
So she was on an app she acted like she
was single, whole husband and then he calls you crying.

Speaker 3 (08:59):
Oh oh my god, damn.

Speaker 12 (09:01):
I felt so bad and ill. You know, it's not
my fault, but so.

Speaker 14 (09:04):
No, it's not that guy.

Speaker 3 (09:07):
Yeah, did you guys end up?

Speaker 12 (09:11):
She's BLOCKEDVU. You know we don't get some tell where
we come from.

Speaker 3 (09:14):
We did, jo Champa, Well, thank you for the call.

Speaker 9 (09:16):
So all right.

Speaker 3 (09:17):
Well, AJ's not alone.

Speaker 6 (09:18):
And by the.

Speaker 4 (09:19):
Way, I do think that's important too. When we say
that it's tough out there, I'm not talking just for females.
I know it's not easy for guys either. Jordan is
in Salem, George. Chivalry is dead out there.

Speaker 1 (09:29):
Huh, yes, it's so unfortunate. But I've definitely found a
way to weed out the ones who are just looking
for a good time. I'll try and ask guys to
get to know me a bit on the apps, and
as soon as they hear that and they can't get
my number, it's immedia that they don't want to talk.
And then the ones I do give my number two,
I'm talking to for weeks and weeks and weeks and

(09:51):
I never get asked on a proper date. And I'm
someone who I can't go with you until I get
asked on a proper date.

Speaker 11 (09:57):
So do that.

Speaker 4 (09:58):
So someone just called in and that most of the
time now, guys just want to be pen pals instead
of saying like, hey, let's go out. And then these
two are saying, well, that means you're on a roster
and you're not. But that's I just wouldn't waste my
time texting and techning time. But I'm with you, like,
if you're not at We've said this a million times,
if you're not asking to see me quickly after meeting

(10:19):
with me or chatting with me, And you don't want
to see me quickly, you don't want to see me
at all because you would make the time.

Speaker 3 (10:25):
Because you're so anxious. The beginning of dating is the best.
It's the honeymoon. You want to see them, you want
to hang out with them, you want to go on dates.
So I mean, it's clear you're not a priority.

Speaker 1 (10:35):
I definitely agree, But then part of me there's a
safety aspect. So being a female in this day and age,
I feel like you can't just meet up with anyone.
So I do like to take a little bit of
time to get to know someone first before I meet
up with them. And I definitely can see the guys
who are just for a good time, which I get,
Like you guys were saying, some people just want a

(10:55):
good time. There are a lot of females who might
show off their body a little bit more. I'm a
little bit more conservative, which is totally fine. Them all
about women's empowerment. They have their person and I have
my person. Just it seems they're all the good ones
are already taken, so it's tough to try and go
out there when when guys just want to have you
over for the night rather than take you out to dinner,

(11:15):
which and I'm all for spoiling your man too, but
the type of man I'm looking for, I think would
take the initiative.

Speaker 4 (11:23):
Cool question for you, just I want to see a
timeline on this Monday, you and a glass wipe.

Speaker 3 (11:27):
You match. Monday through Friday.

Speaker 4 (11:29):
You're having great convo, You're getting to know each other,
he says. Let me take you out for a drink
on Saturday. So you've basically been talking for about five
six days. Would you go like to a public place
and have a drink or is that not long enough?

Speaker 1 (11:43):
I would if the consistency was there. The issue is
they'll message you one night, You'll tell them you want
to get to know you, and then they wait until
Thursday and they'll be like, oh, hey, what are you
doing this weekend? And they think that's enough.

Speaker 14 (11:55):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (11:55):
Actually has actually dealt with that too, you know, yeah.

Speaker 1 (12:00):
Man, Yeah, And I'm someone who definitely, like I value
good conversation. So if it's just like, oh, hey, how's
your workday?

Speaker 8 (12:06):
Good?

Speaker 1 (12:06):
And then you ask me out, that's not enough. I
need to know kind of what you're looking for before
I get involved to waste my time. But this day
and age, the dating apps, like you guys, it's very
easy to go to the next Georgie. Someone's just looking
for a good time.

Speaker 6 (12:18):
Georgian.

Speaker 7 (12:19):
You sound nice, but you're asking a lot and there's
a lot of like stipulation right there. Yeah, like ease
up a bit and maybe things will go better.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
So like, what do you mean you say you think
I'm asking too much? To get to know someone a
little bit before asking too much, you know.

Speaker 7 (12:34):
They get to know a person completely fine, but there's
all these certain rules that they have to hit before
they're going into date. And like I get the getting
to know them, but like just eats up on the
parts after that.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
If you guys are vibing ill to say, say, for say,
you guys have two three days of great convo and
it's Wednesday and he says, hey, Saturday, I want to
see you.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
Let's go grab a drink, go get why why not?

Speaker 1 (12:55):
Yeah, oh yeah, we're having conversation. But if they message
me on a and say, hey, how you doing, and
then they don't hit me up until Thursday Friday, and
then that to me, that's not conversation.

Speaker 7 (13:07):
I understand that too, But what if on Thursday the
conversation is amazing, then that would.

Speaker 1 (13:15):
Be I guess I haven't really had many guys that
the conversation has been that I need to meet up
with you.

Speaker 3 (13:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, right.

Speaker 1 (13:22):
I get what you guys are saying too, So I
definitely I could try to be more open to just
trying it out. So I guess I definitely hear what
you guys are saying.

Speaker 4 (13:30):
I'm sorry, I'm taking this in because we give we
give this advice to agent and Cholice shuts us down.

Speaker 3 (13:36):
It's weird. It's weird to have someone accepted.

Speaker 1 (13:38):
Sorry, Jordan, well, work in progress.

Speaker 4 (13:43):
Good luck out there, good luck out there. You know,
AJ was just listen to that, being like, no, no, no, no,
I am not all right. We have time for one
more card called jen is in Milford.

Speaker 3 (13:54):
Hi, Gen.

Speaker 4 (13:56):
Hey Ashley, Oh my god, dude, this is what I
was How many times are gonna say, dude, I was
just saying this. I've had literal friends of mine who
have been lying, Oh, my marriage is kind of tough
right now, but not as tough as what it is
to be single in this world. And they're just staying
in their marriage because they don't feel like dating.

Speaker 3 (14:13):
You're you're them.

Speaker 15 (14:16):
Yeah that's me twenty years twenty years.

Speaker 3 (14:20):
Wow, because you are.

Speaker 15 (14:21):
Now I've been two years single and it's it's tough,
but is it? And I saw what my friends are
going through. That's why I see.

Speaker 4 (14:33):
So you stayed in your marriage, it was trash. You
finally got out of it. Now two years being single?

Speaker 3 (14:37):
Are you like you're not second guessing that decision, but
you're just saying that it's hard.

Speaker 15 (14:42):
Oh no, no, not at all. Okay, but you know,
I've experienced all the same things that you know.

Speaker 16 (14:48):
That AJA experiences, except for I don't end up finding
married people. But it's like pulling teeth to try and
get someone to go on date. Like they just want
to talk and I have you know.

Speaker 15 (15:00):
I usually have like a week and if they don't
ask you out in a week.

Speaker 16 (15:04):
But the conversion rate is so so low between like
number of matches and people you actually meet in person.

Speaker 3 (15:11):
Yeah, no, I believe it. Guys.

Speaker 4 (15:14):
If you're talking to bless you both, uh question for
both of you. A week of talking to a girl
is enough for you to ask her. I stand with
her if after seven days of chatting with a guy,
he doesn't ask you out, like you're not a priority.

Speaker 8 (15:28):
Absolutely, if we're chatting constantly, I guess yeah. But if
we're not talking that much, if it's just kind of
random here and there, here, and then I want to
get to know you more because at the end of
the day, nobody wants to waste they time, you know
what I mean. I am for the women, though, really
like sticking to their guns. And it's gonna suck because
y'all gonna be a loan for a while. But I
do I do believe y'all should stick to if they
really want to put in the effort, make them put

(15:49):
in the effort. And yes, you are gonna go months
without talking to people, but the one that really wants
you is gonna really.

Speaker 6 (15:55):
Put it in an effort.

Speaker 4 (15:56):
And yeah, and I agree with that, and they'll make
it known because I don't know. If I'm talking to
a guy for a week and he's not asking me out,
I'm with you on that, Jen Bye bye on to
the next one, because that's you.

Speaker 5 (16:07):
You.

Speaker 4 (16:07):
We're with somebody for twenty years. Honey, you you stick
by your gun, do what you gotta do. Out there,
best of luck, Thanks so much, Love you guys, We
love you.

Speaker 8 (16:17):
You know how bad the dating pool gotta be. That
a woman who was married for twenty years and she said,
I stuck in my magic just twenty years and he
was cheating on me the whole time. And I stuck
with it because I didn't want to deal with this
because I have friends who are dealing with it, and
now I'm single, and I would have rather been married
than being cheated on.

Speaker 4 (16:34):
I mean, but like, for real, if you're if like you,
all you hear is your single friend's telling these type stories.

Speaker 3 (16:40):
You can't be like, I'm good?

Speaker 6 (16:42):
What am I doing?

Speaker 3 (16:43):
It's creepy out there.

Speaker 6 (16:44):
I feel like I would be fine in this here
we got right.

Speaker 4 (16:49):
Santi Is on one today also told me he could
do a Rubik's Cube, but I'm like, what the like?

Speaker 3 (16:54):
What's in the air today?

Speaker 7 (17:00):
Actually?

Speaker 6 (17:00):
And the Morning Show with DJ Foreign It's strings.

Speaker 2 (17:05):
Number one for hip hop jam in ninety four five.

Speaker 4 (17:10):
Hi, everybody, good morning, listen. I love this show for
so many reasons. I don't genuinely don't even mean that
in a braggy way, but if someone were to ask
me the number one reason why I love this show.
It's you guys, It's the it's the people that listen
to it. You guys are so open and honest with us,
and I certainly think that's a testament to us, because
we're very open and honest about our life. Not foreign obviously,

(17:32):
but the.

Speaker 3 (17:33):
Rest of us. Shot because you because you keep secrets.

Speaker 12 (17:38):
Tell me what?

Speaker 3 (17:39):
Tell me who you cuddle with at night?

Speaker 6 (17:43):
Unright?

Speaker 3 (17:47):
Have you ever had a female sleepover the new house?

Speaker 6 (17:49):
Of course?

Speaker 3 (17:50):
What was her name? And was number?

Speaker 13 (17:53):
Where?

Speaker 4 (17:54):
This is why I put him on the t app
still couldn't get here. But no, So you guys, you'll
call me, you'll tell me things, and.

Speaker 3 (18:02):
I so appreciate it.

Speaker 4 (18:04):
You also will ask us very strange things, and I
also so appreciate it. I don't know if we get
the story as to how this question.

Speaker 3 (18:14):
Came up, but we got this talk back this morning.

Speaker 6 (18:18):
All right, good morning, everybody.

Speaker 17 (18:19):
I have a questable question. So me and my boys
are been arguing this for the last twenty four hours.
Wouldn't you, as a grown ass man, allow another grown
ass man to wipe stand off your feet, even though
he's doing it as a service. I'm just we want
to know I said no, because I could just wipe

(18:40):
my own feet off, and I'm not gonna make somebody
that's older than me retired and y'll do that. I
just find it a little bit like nah, like I'm
not I could just do it myself. But you want
to be in Bermuda. Another girl man of Walton shee
who white standing off your toes and he's got this
part of the resort or whatever and his little service.

Speaker 6 (18:58):
You let him go do it.

Speaker 4 (19:00):
I'm gonna do this different. I'm not gonna let Santi
and Foreign answer. I'm gonna give the phone number, and
I want you guys to tell me how Santi and
Foreren would both answer this question. This is a fun
little game we're gonna play. How well do you know
this show? Six one seven nine three one one nine
four five six one seven nine three one one nine

(19:20):
four five How would Santy and Foreign answer that question?

Speaker 3 (19:23):
Hi, everybody, good morning, It's Ashley and the JM in
Morning show. We are here for you.

Speaker 4 (19:28):
I switch things up a little bit. We got this
talk back. I'm gonna play it for you again. And
then I wanted to ask you how well do you
know the show? How do you think santi and foreign
would respond to this question.

Speaker 17 (19:39):
All right, good morning everybody. I have a questable question.
So me and my boys been arguing this for the
last twenty four hours. Would you, as a grown ass man,
allow another grown ass man to wipe stand off your.

Speaker 6 (19:54):
Feet, even though he's doing it as a service. I'm
just we want to know.

Speaker 17 (19:59):
I said no, because I could just wipe my own
feet off, and I'm not gonna make somebody that's older
than me.

Speaker 6 (20:04):
Retired and I'll do that. I just fired it a
little bit like nah, like I'm not.

Speaker 11 (20:09):
I could just do it myself.

Speaker 6 (20:11):
But you want a beach in Bermuda?

Speaker 17 (20:13):
Another girl man walked since staying off your toes and
he's got part of the resort or whatever, and that's
his little service.

Speaker 6 (20:20):
Do you let him go do it? All right?

Speaker 3 (20:21):
Vicky is in Chelsea? Hi, Vicky, good morning, babe.

Speaker 14 (20:26):
Hey, how are you all right?

Speaker 1 (20:27):
Chelmsford? Not Chelsea.

Speaker 9 (20:28):
Let's look good.

Speaker 4 (20:29):
No, No, it's not chelms You know what he wrote
Chelse for So it was combo. Here was such a
combo I went with Chelsea. That was a roll of
the dice right there. All right, really, let's do this
as a let's do it one for one. So Santi
is on the beach in Bermuda. Another man comes up
to take the sand off of his feet. Is Santy

(20:51):
allowing that.

Speaker 14 (20:53):
He'll even lift his feet for him?

Speaker 4 (20:57):
And the same situation for DJ four. He is sitting
on the beach in Bermuda. He's got a little sand
on his toes. Is he allowing that?

Speaker 2 (21:05):
No?

Speaker 3 (21:05):
Absolutely not no?

Speaker 4 (21:07):
And okay, thank you, Vicky. I appreciate the answer. I
do want everybody to keep in mind because we have
so many people on hold. Foreign did buy food for
a person in Providence and we didn't think that was coming, remember, Yeah,
So keep that in mind because that's something that plays
into this. Amber is in Rhode Island. All right, Amber,
you got Santi land on the beach in Bermuda. His

(21:28):
feet are covered in sand. Somebody, a grown man comes
to wipe the sand off his feet. How is he responding?

Speaker 14 (21:36):
I feel like he.

Speaker 18 (21:37):
Would go, well, what's the circumstance, Like, do I have
something in my hand.

Speaker 5 (21:41):
Where I can do it?

Speaker 14 (21:43):
But I think he would allow it to happen.

Speaker 11 (21:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 18 (21:46):
Foreorn on the other hand, is like, hell, no, don't
touch my feet.

Speaker 11 (21:49):
I'm grown, I can do it myself.

Speaker 3 (21:50):
I couldn't agree with you more.

Speaker 4 (21:52):
Marissa is in Rhode Island, Marissa, you know the scenario.

Speaker 3 (21:56):
How is a DJ Forn responding to that?

Speaker 5 (22:01):
DJ Thorn would be absolutely the hell though.

Speaker 3 (22:06):
And now and now it was Santi responding, Santi is.

Speaker 5 (22:11):
Going to have no problem doing it.

Speaker 3 (22:15):
This is my favorite, Marissa, thank you.

Speaker 4 (22:16):
Sarah is in Providence, Sarah, this is the ultimate point
that you're making right here.

Speaker 3 (22:22):
Go ahead and go ahead.

Speaker 13 (22:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 18 (22:24):
So I was gonna say kind of what the last
color said DJ Fororn. Definitely a hell no, Santi. If
he's not the one brushing the standoff, he would be
asking to take this stand off like this whole box.

Speaker 6 (22:39):
Thank you.

Speaker 3 (22:40):
Santy would be going up to the met on the
beach like do you need my service? Do you need me?

Speaker 4 (22:44):
Jason is in Foxborough. Jason agrees. Santi would be Uh.
Santy would be relishing in this moment, wouldn't he?

Speaker 18 (22:52):
Oh, definitely definitely.

Speaker 11 (22:55):
I think he's gonna even pay him for a foot massage.

Speaker 14 (22:58):
Oh man.

Speaker 3 (23:00):
Josh is in leven Sir Josh.

Speaker 4 (23:02):
Dj Forn's laying on the beach, He's got sand in
between his toes. Somebody comes to clean them. What's his response.

Speaker 11 (23:10):
He's pulling away and saying, do not touch me.

Speaker 3 (23:12):
Yeah, yeah, And Santi Danzie.

Speaker 11 (23:17):
Is gonna say, is gonna be laughing while he's cleaning
the sand off pickling his feet.

Speaker 3 (23:22):
Santy would be like, will you be using hands or tongue?

Speaker 16 (23:26):
All right?

Speaker 9 (23:26):
Son?

Speaker 3 (23:26):
I mean it's every line is saying the same thing.
Nobody is fighting this.

Speaker 7 (23:30):
This is a two parters So the obvious answer is yes,
I absolutely would. One because I don't mind that like
another man's hands on my body. That's completely fine. And
two because if a man is wiping sand off your
feet at a hotel, that hotel has to be amazing,
it has to beautiful, has to be super nice.

Speaker 4 (23:49):
Yeah, man from the hotel like that works there in
bermudiform comes up and says, let me get this sand
out of your toes.

Speaker 6 (23:57):
That look alone, hotel, Believe me the hell alone?

Speaker 19 (24:00):
What is wrong?

Speaker 3 (24:01):
This is crazy.

Speaker 8 (24:02):
There's matt sand everywhere. I'm telling you. Would dive into
the sand and be like, take it off my body.

Speaker 3 (24:08):
Santi would see up ahead that that that was a
service that was being offered.

Speaker 4 (24:11):
And run into the sand like he would run into
the sand to get his toes dirty and be like,
what wows.

Speaker 7 (24:18):
Did I ever tell you guys? What the time I
got a massage from a man at like a hotel,
Like you paid for this? I paid for it and
I was fine with the guy. But what happened was
is I missed time when you're supposed to take off
your robe. So the guy was still in the I
got naked. He was taking the back by it and
was like understartled. They didn't know it's too early.

Speaker 6 (24:44):
I thought, well, I thought.

Speaker 7 (24:47):
Because it was the guy that like leave the room.

Speaker 3 (24:53):
Well, everybody, I you know, I think I think we
got or answer. I love you guys.

Speaker 6 (25:02):
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It Saws a Big Morning.

Speaker 2 (25:06):
Bustin's number one for hip hop jam in ninety four
or five, checking in babes, how are you What's going
on in your life?

Speaker 3 (25:16):
You call us and we talk about anything you want.

Speaker 4 (25:19):
We started this way back in twenty twenty because we
felt like we were the only people actually coming into
work at the time, and turns out there was a
ton of other people, and we kept it going because
we just genuinely, genuinely do like knowing what's going on.

Speaker 3 (25:31):
In your life as well as ours.

Speaker 4 (25:33):
Justin is going to kick it off for us in
Brockton six one seven nine three one one nine four
five if you want to join him.

Speaker 3 (25:40):
Justin, we feel like your girlfriend is being a little shady.

Speaker 11 (25:46):
Oh yeah, so I'm kicking off with You've been dang
about a year now, and in the beginning everything was
going good. I've actually met her at my job and
I do medical medical transportation, and I was down at
an a finement and long story show. She asked my number,
this and that, so I gave it her and about
six months in, when you're doing great, and uh, I

(26:07):
caught her on the phone with someone, like when I
came home from work and she didn't know what time
I was getting home, and I asked who it was.
She said, it's just my cousin and this and that
on east from Brazil, and I said, okay, I'll let
that slide. So then I kept like, you know, we
kept like I try to like make it out it's
all war as possible. And then ever since, I don't know,
she's been like this weird, like every time I come

(26:27):
home she'll act weird or like I'll ask her a question.
So look at me weird, like it's just some stuff
she does. She brings her phone with her in the shower.

Speaker 4 (26:36):
And what are you doing with I was actually, yeah, yeah,
I was gonna ask you for more specifics because you
haven't really give me any anything. Okay, So she brings
her phone with her when she showers. You say why
are you doing that? Her response, yeah, she.

Speaker 11 (26:48):
Was like, oh, I'm just watching YouTube. But like, I
don't want to be like I don't want to be weird,
so I would like if I go in, so stop
the phone real quick. She'd be like, oh, if someone
called my grandma called, I was out, can you show me?
She'll say no, And so sheep with her phone under
her pillow.

Speaker 4 (27:02):
And like.

Speaker 11 (27:04):
Yeah, I'd like, there's no reason to do that. She'd
be like, no, you're just overdoing it. I don't think so.
So I talked to my brother and my mom and
my family.

Speaker 3 (27:12):
I was like, I know what to do.

Speaker 11 (27:13):
I mean, because I do love the girl. This is
actually like my first, my first real true love. I
do love her, but at the same time, I don't
want to keep going on, like like she just wear
it and I don't feel like nobody speaks that phonner
the pillow. Don't we take the end of power if
they are really committed somewhere ladyship, I feel okay.

Speaker 3 (27:27):
Well, here's the thing. We we also are your family.

Speaker 4 (27:30):
And I don't know what you're what yours, your blood
has told you to do, but I can I can
assure you that the three of us are going to
say run for the hills. Like she's she's taking her
phone with her into the shower and sleeping with her
phone under her pillow in fear that you were going
to see something that is honest, she's hiding something.

Speaker 3 (27:51):
That wasn't her cousin in Brazil. God only knows who
that was. And I understand that. You know you how
old are you?

Speaker 11 (28:00):
I'm twenty two.

Speaker 4 (28:00):
Yeah, there's gonna be more love for you out there,
justin you're young. You're young, You're you're young, and you
know what you even calling us means you You're like,
you're you're feeling this and you're stressing this, and that
shouldn't be the way relationship is. Yeah.

Speaker 11 (28:16):
Another thing is I try to, like I mean, I mean,
I do try to catch her, like just so I
can see you off my whole night. So I like
actually can tell, like, so that's what time I get
home from work, and usually like my I don't have
a set time I get home from work. It's usually
like whenever my last pickoff is since I do mighty participation.
So I told her yesterday I'll be home at three,
and I got home night one, and she was like, oh,
what are you doing home so early? But when I
get in, like should jump off off the bed real quick.

(28:38):
I'm like, yeah, something's definitely wrong. And she'd be like, oh,
I thought you said you'll be home by three. I said, oh,
like something happened. I'll be home by one, just to
see if I can catch her. And every day it's
like something is like more and more leading me to like, yeah,
I think she is cheating.

Speaker 4 (28:49):
So I like, yeah, but justin here's the thing, say,
for some crazy reason, she's not. This is no way
to live a life. I'm coming home at three, but
I pop in at one. You're trying to catch her
like this. That's not a relationship at least not a
hell one. Does she live with you at twenty two?

Speaker 13 (29:04):
Yeah?

Speaker 11 (29:05):
I actually I actually bought my own house at twenty two, oh,
Paul River. Yeah, And I actually had it move in
with me because she's living on her grammar at the time.
Now they yeah, I don't think it was a mistake
because it was just too soon. But like at the
same time, I was just I was young and dumb
and his way is But I just don't at this point,
I want tell her to get out of my house,
but I just don't know how to do it because

(29:26):
I do fair like opinions.

Speaker 3 (29:27):
Here's what you say.

Speaker 4 (29:29):
I I don't want to be in this relationship anymore.
I feel like I'm second guessing myself. I'm always wondering
what you're doing.

Speaker 3 (29:34):
This is no way to live.

Speaker 4 (29:35):
Go back to manus bye bye, yeah, see yea, nonny
me whatever she calls her, bye bye, see ya.

Speaker 3 (29:43):
Back to manas justin, are you going to do this?

Speaker 14 (29:48):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (29:48):
Are you going to do this?

Speaker 4 (29:50):
And hey, by the way, I should have asked, did
your family tell you to be done with her as well?

Speaker 11 (29:55):
Yeah? My mom and my brother said yeah. There's there's
not no way to live either, exactly.

Speaker 4 (29:59):
Like every day when you're at work, all you're doing
is driving around worrying that she's talking to some other
Like you.

Speaker 6 (30:05):
Can't you can't justin it's her lost. Look at you.

Speaker 8 (30:07):
You got a crib at twenty two you you sound
like you got a good head on your shoulders. Bro,
don't don't let no no female who's cheating on you?
Did you check the bed when when you got home
at one? Did you check under the bed?

Speaker 4 (30:19):
Now?

Speaker 11 (30:19):
I can checking under the deck because at that point,
like at that point, I was you should have. I'm
just at this point, I'm like, I'm over kind of.
I'm like, it is what it is, like like you
said it lost at this point?

Speaker 4 (30:32):
Yeah, I mean I think you just need to go
home like you have love for her. So maybe it's
not like a get up and get out today. Maybe
give her a day or two to get her things
together and get back to Nana's. But whatever it is,
this is again, this is wrapping up no way to live.
Yeah bye bye?

Speaker 3 (30:47):
Yeah all right, buddy, I.

Speaker 11 (30:51):
Actually think I'm gonna do that.

Speaker 3 (30:53):
Yeah yeah, are you going to do it today? Because
I want you to call me tomorrow and tell me
that you did it.

Speaker 4 (30:57):
I want conformation on this, Okay, you know what, I'm
getting your number and I'm gonna make Santi check in
with you tomorrow because I want an update and if
if it's not, it's okay.

Speaker 3 (31:08):
But we just we're gonna keep checking in with you.

Speaker 5 (31:11):
Or another hand.

Speaker 11 (31:11):
Though I've been calling for those kids. No one answer
in my phone.

Speaker 3 (31:14):
All right now, you're doing too much. Hold on, mayget number.

Speaker 7 (31:16):
The sleeping with the phone underneath the pillow, that's the
biggest sign. The shower thing, I maybe I can understand, right, fine,
but like I.

Speaker 4 (31:22):
Honestly bring my phone sometimes into take a shower if
I want to play music, genuinely, that's I've done that before.
I've also left it out in the other room. But
I that one to me, but under your pillow, so
so so think about that. She's worried about herself falling
asleep and him accessing the phone.

Speaker 7 (31:40):
Yeah, this is a problem. I'm not convinced that he's
done with her, though you can hear his voice.

Speaker 3 (31:45):
I'm not either, all right. Six one seven nine three
one one nine four five. You're on hold.

Speaker 4 (31:50):
Don't go anywhere. Six one seven nine three one one
nine four five.

Speaker 3 (31:53):
Call us. We're talking about anything you want. It's all
about your world's to check him only on jam everybody
and morning.

Speaker 4 (32:00):
It's Wednesday. We're checking in six one seven nine, three, one, one, nine,
four or five. We got a lot of calls about Justin.
But before we go there, Erica is with her son
in Norwood. Hi, everybody, good morning.

Speaker 20 (32:15):
Oh it's actually her daughter.

Speaker 3 (32:17):
Oh, hello, daughter. What's your name?

Speaker 1 (32:21):
Haylen?

Speaker 3 (32:22):
Haylen? What's going on?

Speaker 4 (32:24):
Halen?

Speaker 9 (32:24):
How old you?

Speaker 14 (32:27):
I'm ten?

Speaker 20 (32:27):
Turning eleven very soon?

Speaker 16 (32:29):
Wow?

Speaker 3 (32:30):
We got big birthday plans. Yeah.

Speaker 20 (32:36):
I'm doing my nails.

Speaker 4 (32:38):
Ooh okay, I like getting your nails done with mom.
You guys listen to the show every morning. Yeah, as
an almost eleven year old girl. What's your advice for
Justin who just called in?

Speaker 14 (32:52):
Oh?

Speaker 12 (32:53):
Do better?

Speaker 4 (32:55):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (32:56):
Eleven years old and I stand on it. Mom, You're
isn't a good one? Right there? Do better? Thank you
guys for the call.

Speaker 5 (33:03):
Appreciate you as.

Speaker 6 (33:06):
I love it.

Speaker 3 (33:07):
If you're listening, Hello, Justin, do better? I guess unless
you talk to Cassandra. Right, let's go to Cassandra.

Speaker 4 (33:15):
Cassandra doesn't think Justin could do better because Cassandra has
been with her husband for ten years and Cassandra sleeps
with her phone under her pillow and also takes it
into the shower and does not think that that's suspicious.

Speaker 14 (33:28):
Hi, Yes, I don't, so I don't think it's suspicious
because we've been we've been doing that this, you know,
for a long time, and we usually use it as
like our source of charging. It's behind our bed, so
we just like, oh, okay, we'll charge both of our
phones together there and then we'll just put them under
the bed. They're kind of on reach both sides, where
we can both reach if needed. And I also think
that if she really wanted to hide something, she would

(33:50):
just delete it. Why would she even attempt to put
it onto the bed so he can you know, possibly
catch up.

Speaker 12 (33:56):
And then also I.

Speaker 4 (33:58):
Don't know, I was just gonna say what you were
saying is like under the bag charging. He's saying it's
under the literal pillow, so that if she fell asleep
and he went.

Speaker 3 (34:06):
To like check it, it would move her head and
she would awake.

Speaker 14 (34:11):
Gotcha, Okay, I didn't. I didn't really get that part
right there where the way he exclaimed it.

Speaker 4 (34:15):
And then I.

Speaker 14 (34:17):
Seemed a little like paranoid and controlling from like what
I was like noticing from how he was acting. Like
I work in the medical field, so I noticed like
one or mental.

Speaker 3 (34:27):
Health she just deemed.

Speaker 7 (34:34):
Here talking to her and it was a dude in Brazil.

Speaker 14 (34:39):
Yeah that part, yeah, yeah, that was that was true.

Speaker 16 (34:42):
I did hear that.

Speaker 14 (34:43):
I was like a little suspicious about that, and but
I just wanted to call in and you know, share
our like are how we do our stuff, and you
know that not every case is cheating case, but maybe
in her aspect it could be. Not really one hundred
percent sure, but I do feel like he, you know,
a little paranoid.

Speaker 3 (34:59):
Got it? He a lunatic. Cassandra, thank you for the call.

Speaker 4 (35:03):
Yeah, no, I like under the pillow whereas she falls
asleep and he goes to grab it, she's waking up.
Something's aweshit, I mean, we're not you. This is yeah,
that's crazy. Uh.

Speaker 3 (35:15):
Shae is in town and high Shay, good morning.

Speaker 18 (35:18):
Good morning.

Speaker 3 (35:19):
What's going on.

Speaker 18 (35:20):
I just wanted to say you are the coolest mom ever.

Speaker 5 (35:23):
I saw you at the fair this weekend with you girls,
and I literally admire you.

Speaker 3 (35:29):
Oh my god, that's so nice. God only knows what
I was. I was sweating. I'm sure I was doing this.

Speaker 18 (35:35):
You were definitely mommy.

Speaker 1 (35:36):
I give you that.

Speaker 9 (35:37):
I know the talent.

Speaker 18 (35:38):
I have three boys myself.

Speaker 13 (35:39):
And you are just awesome.

Speaker 18 (35:40):
Your daughters were amazing.

Speaker 19 (35:41):
I seen you getting them tattoos and I was like,
oh my god, that's actually.

Speaker 4 (35:45):
Let me ask you something, Shay. I get to that fair,
I feel like I blink and I spend. I spent
probably one hundred and fifty dollars, Like I don't even know.
I don't even know what I was buying.

Speaker 3 (35:55):
Do you feel like you spent a lot of money
at the fair?

Speaker 4 (35:57):
The fair?

Speaker 3 (35:57):
Ate my wallet.

Speaker 9 (35:59):
I'm gonna be honest.

Speaker 15 (36:00):
I didn't even do the rides.

Speaker 18 (36:01):
I went for the food, and the food was so subpar.
I was absolutely devastated.

Speaker 4 (36:05):
Oh my god, didn't Well, yeah, if you can avoid
the rides, that's where you really saved the money. I'll
tell you what, I'm gonna go to a different food
truck this next time.

Speaker 3 (36:13):
Maybe we just chose the wrong food trucks.

Speaker 19 (36:17):
Yeah, I kind of.

Speaker 4 (36:19):
I was.

Speaker 18 (36:19):
I'm not gonna lie. I was definitely being like a
big bag. I went to get tacos, high went and
got fried dough.

Speaker 15 (36:28):
Friendt like bad potato.

Speaker 18 (36:30):
It just wasn't It wasn't hitten like it was last year.

Speaker 3 (36:33):
Did you see?

Speaker 4 (36:34):
Because I was telling the guys about the donut ice
cream cone where it's a donut cone and it has
ice cream in it and you get oreos or cookie
and the thing is twenty dollars.

Speaker 3 (36:44):
Yes, no, did you get it? Did you get it?

Speaker 5 (36:48):
I didn't get it.

Speaker 18 (36:49):
Someone that I was lifted and I just I was like, no, no,
and I will.

Speaker 4 (36:54):
It was so delicious. But this next round they're not
getting the donut cone. They can have a regular old cone.
By the way, probably will still be expensive. But I
love the Marshfield Fair. I am the fair now so
but I'm glad. I'm glad you saw me and it
looked like I was doing something semi right with the kids.
That's good, that's good to know.

Speaker 5 (37:10):
It's yeah.

Speaker 15 (37:11):
Absolutely, But I listened to you guys every morning.

Speaker 5 (37:14):
You guys might ride to work, and I've been listening
to you guys for so long, and you guys are awesome.

Speaker 9 (37:18):
Keep it out.

Speaker 3 (37:19):
Oh, thank you so much, Beab. I appreciate that. I
appreciate the call.

Speaker 6 (37:22):
Look at you gotta stand at the Marshall Fair. Really nice.

Speaker 3 (37:26):
I've made it. I have officially made it peta Marshall
Fair Fair, Tiff.

Speaker 4 (37:30):
I'm I'm gonna be so happy to chat with you
for beyond the swipe here first, because you really never
know where.

Speaker 3 (37:36):
You're gonna find love these days. You never know.

Speaker 4 (37:39):
We we tell aj this, you might step out to
run to CVS to grab whatever the hell she grabs
at CVS. I was gonna say cat food, but her
cat has left us, and so I couldn't think of
something else quick. I'm not on the top of my
game today. Six one seven nine three one four five
six one seven nine three one one. My point is, Tiff,

(38:01):
you never know where you could find love, isn't that right?

Speaker 20 (38:04):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (38:07):
So tell me where me I got crystal clear, honey,
So tell me where what's going on?

Speaker 11 (38:11):
Where?

Speaker 3 (38:12):
Where did you start to reconnect with somebody?

Speaker 20 (38:15):
So me and him knew each other five years ago.
We had our little thing going on, we both, you know,
just like we're really broken people, and it didn't work out.
We stopped talking, and tristfully, I don't remember how or why,
he just popped into my head and was just like, where.

Speaker 8 (38:32):
Is he now?

Speaker 20 (38:33):
Like it's been five years. I couldn't find him anywhere.
I tried looking for him on you know, social media.
I didn't have a phone number for him. I found
him on cash app.

Speaker 3 (38:43):
I sent him on shut it down cash ap pah.

Speaker 20 (38:48):
I sent him a dollar and he replied to me
and we we chatted to there because you could write
like a reason on there. So then he gave me
his number and we were talking and I said, like,
if you have a girlfriend, we can't really do this.
He goes like, that's my issue to worry about, not yours,
and he goes, I had to make a sacrifice. So

(39:08):
basically he told me he has he's dating her because
he has nowhere to go. He put himself in like
a sticky situation, and he's living with her and kind
of just with her for that reason. He came over.
We hung out. He was like, what would it be
like if we were together, how things would have worked out?
Like he seen me grow so much, like I got

(39:30):
my own apartment in five years, Like I've matured so much.
And then he kept coming over wanting to see me,
spending time with me, wanted me to meet his dad.
And then Thursday night I told him, I said, I
want you to leave her. If you're going to keep
coming around and seeing me, I want you to leave her.
I know, like it's a lot, and it's you know,
just like verbal diarrhea of the mouth right now that

(39:51):
I'm asking this, but like, come.

Speaker 9 (39:53):
Live with me.

Speaker 20 (39:54):
We could be friends, we could be roommates. See where
things go. And he was crying on my couch and
he just said to me, like, why did you come
back into my life?

Speaker 3 (40:03):
He can't, he said, I can't leave her, right, No,
he just.

Speaker 20 (40:07):
Said, like if things were different a year ago than
like if they if we met a year ago, things
would be totally different.

Speaker 6 (40:13):
So I'm not leaving her.

Speaker 20 (40:16):
No, he blocked me on everything.

Speaker 3 (40:18):
Yeah, yeah, she was.

Speaker 4 (40:19):
I hate to tell you this, but I and I
could tell from thee where this was headed. She was
never just somebody that he could live with. He was
using that as an excuse to be able to hang
out with you and feel less guilty about it. He
was never going to leave her, and that's sickening because
you know, he made you feel like he was going
to in the time frame of you guys, you know,

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doing little cash apt exchange and him coming to your
house and hanging out and meeting his dad.

Speaker 3 (40:45):
Did you have sexuals He's a dog?

Speaker 11 (40:49):
Yeah, he is a dog.

Speaker 4 (40:50):
Tiff an absolute Zach Bryan dogg Damn I'm sorry about that.
Thank you, And you're emotional and that that makes me
feel sad because I can tell that he made you
feel safe and secure and that this was going to
be something. How long have you since the cap cash
op exchange? How long have you guys been, you know,

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kind of hanging out.

Speaker 6 (41:14):
A week? I know it so stupid, glad you said it.

Speaker 20 (41:21):
Pretty noise and stupid, but it was just like you.
I didn't I wanted meaningless sex, and then he came
in and he knew what we like. We liked each
other five years ago.

Speaker 3 (41:34):
So it was like you guys already had known bro.

Speaker 20 (41:40):
Like you didn't have to do all of like that
extra like whoa.

Speaker 6 (41:48):
I was not expecting that.

Speaker 2 (41:50):
I was.

Speaker 3 (41:50):
I was thinking a couple of months. Damn all right,
let's go back to Tiff.

Speaker 4 (41:54):
Tiff, I thought, you know, when I asked you how
long I was thinking, you were going to say a
couple of months? A week is it's even crazier to
think that in that time frame, he was like, meet
my dad, that's the diabolic Yeah, that's die.

Speaker 3 (42:08):
Imagine you'd given him ten bucks.

Speaker 4 (42:10):
Wait, it has been even crazier, But listen, one week
you can get over that.

Speaker 3 (42:16):
I know you're upset.

Speaker 11 (42:17):
I know.

Speaker 3 (42:17):
Listen, hope is a dangerous thing, and you had hoped
it was going to be more.

Speaker 7 (42:21):
It's not.

Speaker 4 (42:22):
But you're gonna, you're gonna, You're gonna get out of this, Okay,
you will. Seven days is nothing. Do you know what
can happen in a week's time?

Speaker 8 (42:29):
A lot?

Speaker 4 (42:31):
Yeah? Yeah, So stay strong, keep your head up, and
don't don't send people money on cash at for a
little bit.

Speaker 20 (42:38):
Let's okay, I definitely we will be doing that.

Speaker 3 (42:43):
It's gonna be okay. Things could be worse.

Speaker 1 (42:46):
Thank you, You're welcome.

Speaker 15 (42:48):
Level.

Speaker 3 (42:49):
I was gonna give her, I was, I was gonna
throw her an a j joke, but she might be
worse a week seven days.

Speaker 4 (42:55):
By the way, By the way, he's to blame for
this to meet daddy insist he was, why do that?

Speaker 3 (43:02):
Why is in four days?

Speaker 4 (43:04):
For it?

Speaker 8 (43:04):
Because you because he started off with the most important thing,
I have a girlfriend.

Speaker 3 (43:11):
Yeah, he put it out there and you still went
for it.

Speaker 6 (43:13):
So now it's all good.

Speaker 3 (43:14):
I have a girlfriend, but it's just because I need
a place to stay, come meet my dad.

Speaker 6 (43:19):
And she's still fell forward.

Speaker 4 (43:20):
This is just this lunacylunacy, I said, imagine she'd given
him ten.

Speaker 3 (43:28):
Jamie is in Boston. Hi, Jamee, Hi, good morning guys.

Speaker 7 (43:33):
Listen.

Speaker 4 (43:33):
I know you want to comment on the You know,
men are dating to find a place to live. I
actually believe there are some men doing that. I think
that man was using it as an excuse.

Speaker 12 (43:42):
But no, baby, they all are.

Speaker 9 (43:44):
If they don't have a job, they're definitely looking for
somewhere to live.

Speaker 1 (43:46):
I know, I do think, my friend, Yeah, no, they are.

Speaker 9 (43:50):
Listen, my best friend, and in a way, now hearing
this story, I'm gonna be honest, and I might not
be a fan of all the girls right now, but
we're setting ourselves up because there's no way we can
that delusional into like come on, like, we know what
these guys want. We know what they're looking for nowadays.
They're not getting jobs, they're not doing much. And once
a man tells me, I'm sorry, let me here, let's

(44:12):
look here, let's not call it. We're all that was
already a setup. You knew what that man was looking for,
you know what he was doing. We're setting ourselves up
to getting heartbroken nowadays, because this is like nowadays, it's
like it's not that hard and it's not that common sense.
Like if you're working hard and you have your place
and you're doing all this good, expect the same thing
from the man.

Speaker 11 (44:31):
Expect the same thing, says.

Speaker 9 (44:32):
If you're gonna go ahead and get a man that
doesn't have a job, that don't get a car, that
got a girlfriend, you're setting yourself up. We're not even
gonna blame the men anymore, because it's like we should
know better, and it's like if we're doing better, then
get better.

Speaker 3 (44:46):
Girl's gonna be fine.

Speaker 9 (44:47):
Give it a month, give it two weeks, two weeks
in the gym, we forgot everything. Girl, just hit yourself
in the gym. Get a little better, girl, go to
the club. I don't know, but we ain't gonna start
crying over this now. Like we sound so petty right now.
I'm sorry because women are so right now. But then
we look so weak too, like we let these men
get in our heads. We're looking for such and for
love so hard that we're just like settling and it's like, no,

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teep them there.

Speaker 15 (45:11):
Go off.

Speaker 6 (45:12):
She's cooking. She's cooking.

Speaker 9 (45:14):
I've been meaning because I hear a lot of my
friends go through this with guys, and it's like I
hear these stories and it's like, we're not that delusional,
because come on, after the first mess up, I would
have been like, yeah, bye, that's.

Speaker 4 (45:26):
Jam in that situation after I heard I have a girlfriend,
I'm out, like I'm not what are we? What are
we doing here? But you, like you're speaking from experience.
Did did you have a situation like this?

Speaker 9 (45:38):
Listen, I don't have situations like this. They can probably
try to encounter me, but I cut them off immediately
because it's just like, let's not let's not play this.
Come on, like let me come to you and say
something like that, like.

Speaker 3 (45:53):
Yeah, who are we really clipping right now? Like it's
a lot.

Speaker 13 (45:56):
It's like, I don't know.

Speaker 3 (45:57):
I was, yeah, I was hoping when I said, hey,
how long have you guys been dating? She said a
couple of months or scene and she said a week?

Speaker 14 (46:06):
Oh no.

Speaker 9 (46:07):
Then it was the communicating through cash app, Like, listen,
my friend went ahead and met this guy online, same thing,
and they were supposed to meet up for the first time.
She went ahead and bought He's like, get a hotel
for us. He's pays four hundred dollars for a hotel
and the man stands her up and the stomach bugs.

Speaker 6 (46:23):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 9 (46:25):
And then when I get to the root of it,
the same thing. The guy has a girlfriend and he's
just using her to live there because he has nowhere
to go. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You're trying to
find the next house that has the less rules and
the next house that you got to pay.

Speaker 14 (46:36):
Less bills in.

Speaker 9 (46:36):
That's what it is, well, James Barbie, like, these men
are so nasty. You expect more out of men, you
know what I'm saying, Like, especially this day and age,
like you expect a lot more men are girly. They
don't want to work, and if they were, they're complaining now.
They don't want to pay up. Listen, the whole fifty fifty, don't.
I have nothing against it, but from the way they

(46:58):
want half the things they're asking for it.

Speaker 3 (47:00):
You got to be paying on my bills in my right, Jamie, thank.

Speaker 8 (47:07):
You.

Speaker 9 (47:07):
No, I'm really gonna say it because we like to
do this whole. Oh because and this and no, I'm
seeing all the red flies y'all are flying through them,
trying to wish and hope that there's a green scenery
which is not gonna happen.

Speaker 4 (47:20):
Yeah, I know, listen, I'm not We've we've had some
some guys calling and tell some things about girls too.

Speaker 3 (47:26):
I think it works both ways. People are acting nuts
out there.

Speaker 9 (47:29):
It does. It does. I'm not even gonna knock us
because the same way too. But it's kind of it's
getting a little out of hand when the common sense
should be there.

Speaker 3 (47:37):
I'm with you, Hey, let's just start with this.

Speaker 4 (47:40):
If you meet somebody and they say I'm in a relationship,
probably not the one for you, unless you're Anonymous. Jamie, Jamie, Listen,
I'm gonna hang up with you, but but keep listening
because the next call might really send you all right, good,
we love you for it.

Speaker 3 (47:54):
You Hey, I'm hanging up with you.

Speaker 4 (47:55):
In the meantime, Anonymous way, anybody that's on hold, hang
on what we are on quite the ride this morning.
Hi everybody, Good morning. It's Actuley the Gym in Morning Show.
We are talking dating, love, relationships beyond the swipe. Now listen,
I think I still am going to stand by this
statement no matter what Anonymous tells me. But if you

(48:18):
meet somebody and they say to you, I'm in a
relationship to me, move on, don't deal with that person,
but maybe you'll change your mind. Anonymous, good morning. Ye,
so I am being told you met your husband whilst
he was married.

Speaker 19 (48:40):
Yeah. So he was married for eighty years. They had
an eighty year old daughter, and then we were working together.
What you're saying, I'm sorry.

Speaker 3 (48:55):
It kept sounding like you were saying eighty but I
was like he'd be dead. Hey, yeah, yeah, I got you. Okay,
So he was married for eighty years, he had an
eight year old child as well.

Speaker 19 (49:06):
Yes, and then we were working together. He started inviting
me to drink some beers after work and all that,
saying that he wasn't happy in the marriage. But I'm
not dumb, you know, I knew, like I know that
man always tells this type of thing, like oh I
only live with her because of the kid and all that.

(49:28):
So he was saying all that. I wasn't hoping to
date him or anything. I was just no enjoying spend
some time together going out. But then one day he
just called me and said, look, I love you. I
don't want to be married anymore.

Speaker 1 (49:49):
I want to be with you.

Speaker 19 (49:51):
So if I get I'm divorced. You're gonna stay with me,
you're gonna date me. And this was four years ago,
so we have a kid now and everything.

Speaker 3 (50:03):
I just feel like this is a one in a
million story right now.

Speaker 19 (50:07):
Yeah, I know, it's rare.

Speaker 3 (50:08):
Yeah, I know, yeah, it's it is very rare.

Speaker 4 (50:11):
I also feel like there's women married listening that probably
hate you because you know, you were the one on
the side going out and having these beers and stuff
and listen, it worked out for you in the end,
but you knew he was married and you were still
going out for beverages with a married man.

Speaker 9 (50:27):
You know.

Speaker 18 (50:28):
Yeah, I know it was not the correct thing.

Speaker 19 (50:31):
In the beginning, was just friendship, you know. I know
it's hard to believe, but it was friendship for like
maybe two or three months, just talking and everything.

Speaker 4 (50:41):
And then so did nothing maybe hi, baby, did nothing
happen like sexually between the two of you while he
was married?

Speaker 14 (50:49):
Oh?

Speaker 19 (50:50):
No, man, that happened after maybe like three months going
out just for dreams and stuff like that, and then
he tried to kiss me, and then this all started.
I know it was wrong, you know, but I don't
believe that just because you met someone you have to
stay the rest of your life with this person, you know.

(51:12):
I know, I know it's sad to think like that
because I'm married now and it would break my heart
if it told me like, oh, I met someone and
I'm in love with her, so I'm about to leave you.
But this can happen with me too. I can meet
someone fall in love. I don't have to be with
someone for the rest of my life just to make

(51:32):
this person happy.

Speaker 14 (51:33):
You know.

Speaker 19 (51:33):
I if I meet someone and I think I'm in
love and I think I can have a great relationship
with this person, I should give you a try because
it's my life.

Speaker 14 (51:43):
You know.

Speaker 19 (51:43):
I don't have to be with someone forever, someone that
I don't love anymore.

Speaker 7 (51:48):
Yeah, but if with that mentality, you're leaving that door
like open for that possibility where like I get it,
you can come across somebody and like wow, you know
they would be amazing, but.

Speaker 6 (51:55):
You just shut it down. There your mentality you're leaving
and open for the possibility of the.

Speaker 19 (52:01):
Yeah. No, I don't think you have to be like, oh,
I can meet some nice guy tomorrow and marry him.

Speaker 11 (52:08):
But it was not like that.

Speaker 19 (52:09):
We were working together, you know, just spending time and
you get to know this, like this person, you guys
like to say stuff, you have fun together, so it
was a friendship, and then you'll start looking at this person.

Speaker 3 (52:23):
Can I ask you question if he if he? I'm
just out of curiosity.

Speaker 4 (52:28):
If he came home today and said, Hey, I've been
grabbing drinks with one of my coworkers after work.

Speaker 6 (52:34):
You know, we're just.

Speaker 3 (52:35):
Friends and we're just chatting, would you be comfortable with that?

Speaker 12 (52:39):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (52:39):
No, No, yeah I didn't think so. I was hoping
you about that because yeah, I mean.

Speaker 4 (52:47):
You essentially, you know, maybe things weren't great between them,
but I would say you most likely sealed the deal
when you started going out and showing him.

Speaker 3 (52:57):
That there was other possibilities. But you know, again, it
worked out for you. It just I think is not uh,
it's not the norm.

Speaker 4 (53:08):
And I wouldn't want to push the narrative of you know,
go go go grab a drink with a married man
you never know.

Speaker 19 (53:14):
Yeah, no, no, I wouldn't. I wouldn't tell anyone to
do the same thing because it was really tough, Like
the first year was held because you know, the ex
wives and the kid and all that. It was not easy,
but we worked out. You know because we really loved
each other. So if you do that this friend of adventure,

(53:35):
I don't think you're going to go through it.

Speaker 6 (53:37):
Anonymous, stop, Are you afraid that he's going to leave
you the same way he left her?

Speaker 13 (53:44):
No, I'm not.

Speaker 19 (53:45):
You know, I'm very I'm very secure. And if you
one day tells me, oh, I'm not happy, I'm not happy,
you know, then you can go. And if I'm not
happy with him anymore, then.

Speaker 6 (53:57):
Just you today and told you, yo, I'm not happy
with you. No mona want to leave. You just gonna
let him go?

Speaker 14 (54:01):
Like that?

Speaker 7 (54:03):
Yeah, how about you'd ask him why is he unhappy?
And I'm like, talk about this, Let's dig into it,
let's fix this.

Speaker 3 (54:09):
This is hypothetic.

Speaker 19 (54:10):
Yeah no, if you say that we can fix it,
we can fix it. But you know, if someone just
looking your eyes and say I don't love you anymore,
I don't know what happened, but I don't love you anymore.

Speaker 3 (54:20):
I do think it's tough to come back because.

Speaker 4 (54:22):
One of my friends is current with that and she
can't get past that because that's a big thing to
say to something.

Speaker 6 (54:28):
It is a big thing. But I feel like that
doesn't just like all of a sudden pop off one day.
I feel like there's probably signs of that.

Speaker 3 (54:32):
And it's like, what you gotta fight for me, tell
you to love me.

Speaker 6 (54:36):
But I think you stopped it before it gets to that.

Speaker 8 (54:38):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (54:38):
I also guys were doing hypothetically, I know, happy.

Speaker 8 (54:43):
You lose them, how you get him, you know what
I'm saying. So there's a possibility that he might just bailship.

Speaker 4 (54:47):
When she was honest while you were on the phone,
I asked her straight up if he came home and said,
I'm getting cocktails with one of my coworkers have to work,
would you like it?

Speaker 3 (54:54):
She said, He's not doing that, absolutely not. So there
was a.

Speaker 19 (54:58):
I think the point you have to see if the
person is changing, because when he was married, he was
going out like every night after work. He was not
coming home and she knew that. So she knew that
the marriage wasn't nice because he would rather have the
company of other people. It was me, it was his friends,
you know, it was not just only him and I.

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There was other people. So she knew that he would
rather spend time with other people. And this doesn't happen
in our marriage. You know, he always texts me when
he's about to leave work, like I'm dying to see you.
I just want to be home. I miss you. So
we have to see that the persons changing. You know,
if he had the same behavior, then what I would think, like, oh,

(55:44):
he's the player, so he every time he gets something,
he gets tired of it and he wants something new.
But that's not what I see. You know, we've been
together for four years now. I know that he really
loves me, that I'm his best friend. You know, if
you meet someone you feel like that about this person,

(56:05):
you should go for it. But I'm not saying that
married people should leave like the window open, you know.
But this is something that.

Speaker 4 (56:12):
Can happen, all right, Anonymous, Well, thank you so much
for it. And here's what I will say. Not a
lot of people would have the balls to call in
and tell that story and stand by it. So I'm
gonna I've got to get props where they're due. Thank
you so much for the call. I didn't even think
of this women, But my message my messages are going crazy,
right Oh well, the girls in my messages, in my

(56:34):
DMS are saying that Jamie, the first caller, was probably
hooking up with that woman's.

Speaker 3 (56:39):
Husband, and he was like, all right, it's been a week.

Speaker 4 (56:42):
I'm gonna get caught like they're trying to conduct to guys,
stop it.

Speaker 3 (56:47):
But I mean, that's Jess.

Speaker 6 (56:48):
But Anonymous is like home wrecking one on one though
she wrote the book on.

Speaker 4 (56:52):
It, and I understand it's making people even more met
I think because she's speaking about it so matter of
fact and calmly, and it's like, no, had you not
come in the picture, maybe her, maybe him and his
wife could have worked it out.

Speaker 6 (57:04):
Absolutely.

Speaker 3 (57:05):
You know, Wow, who do you want to go?

Speaker 15 (57:07):
To?

Speaker 6 (57:08):
Keya in Boston?

Speaker 3 (57:09):
Hi Kya, good morning.

Speaker 1 (57:12):
It's Kaya, Hi Kaya, good morning, rich.

Speaker 13 (57:16):
Rises how are you guys?

Speaker 3 (57:18):
Listen?

Speaker 4 (57:18):
It's crazy out here and beyond this wipe right now,
we're having opposite ends of the spectrum.

Speaker 13 (57:25):
It's crazy out here. I hear the radio with a
lot of stuff going on this morning.

Speaker 3 (57:31):
Yes, and Santi wants I'm assuming you wanted her to
comment on that.

Speaker 6 (57:35):
That's what yeah comments, Yes, Yes, that's what my comment is.

Speaker 13 (57:39):
I'm commenting on this little hussy behavior that's going on
because this ain't that's not a.

Speaker 6 (57:43):
Swear, is it.

Speaker 3 (57:44):
No, you can go, we can go with hussy.

Speaker 13 (57:47):
Yeah, hussy, this is just some hussy behavior going on.
I want to get back to the old days.

Speaker 9 (57:51):
Ain't no way folks around run around here.

Speaker 13 (57:53):
With people married with married men and mary wives and stuff,
but thinking that life just gonna be easy.

Speaker 3 (57:58):
Yeah, it's listen.

Speaker 4 (58:00):
The bottom line is the second he asked her out
for a drink and started venting about his current wife
to her, that's when she should have cut that because
that's that's.

Speaker 3 (58:08):
Just not right, that that's crazy. But it worked out
for her, So of course she's gonna say no, well
so far did.

Speaker 13 (58:16):
That's what she thinks. Let me tell you something. He
just got better at haiding it. I'm saying like that
right now, the same way you got a man, in
the same way, you're gonna lose them. You can't be
going around putting all that bad juju out on the
earth and think that it ain't gonna come back at you.

Speaker 3 (58:29):
You know what it is, hussy behavior.

Speaker 13 (58:32):
It's hussy behavior. That other girl he came up here
and she was going off. Now she was she had
a lot of heart, she was into it. But I
like what she said. Now she right now, we all
be people be putting themselves in these situations, especially females,
and be crying boo hoo.

Speaker 3 (58:47):
Yeah, but listen, standing may be weak in the knee again.

Speaker 4 (58:51):
She's she called in, she told her stories, she used
to buy it, and not a lot of people would
do that, Kuy.

Speaker 3 (58:55):
So we're gonna you know, we appreciate the honesty around here.

Speaker 13 (59:00):
Listen, I love honesty, but we ain't gotta be that
damn honest.

Speaker 3 (59:05):
Well, I'll tell you what.

Speaker 4 (59:06):
Thank you for giving us the title of the podcast,
which obviously is going to be hussy behavior.

Speaker 3 (59:10):
I appreciate you.

Speaker 13 (59:12):
You welcome.

Speaker 6 (59:13):
I have a good day.

Speaker 8 (59:13):
Thanks.

Speaker 4 (59:14):
My dms are crazy. Jake and Redding. We wanted to
get to your call, so hang on the line. Do
not go anywhere.

Speaker 14 (59:20):
Uh.

Speaker 4 (59:20):
This is why we call it beyond this wipe and
not ten her Tuesday anymore, because there are there's levels
to the day.

Speaker 3 (59:25):
We didn't even get to AJ. I was gonna go
to AJ because we got some news. We'll have to
do that later in the show. Good morning, everybody, it's
actually the Gym Morning Show.