Women Do It Better

Are women better cheaters??

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Daddy and the jam In Morning Show with DJ Forurn.
It's Sad Morning.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Gustin's number one for hip hop dam in ninety four
or five.

Speaker 3 (00:09):
Not everybody good morning. We're talking dating, love relationships. We
call it beyond the swipe because it could be about
the relationship you're in, the relationship you want to be in,
a tender day that you went on advice on how
to find some anybody with a story to tell that
involves dating, love relationships. I want to hear at six one, seven, nine, three, one, one, nine,

(00:30):
four or five. Ali is in quinsy Ali. DJ Forren
tells me, you're very enthusiastic. So remember, we cannot curse.
We cannot curse. No, okay, I've bet okay, no cursing,
No cursing, no cursing.

Speaker 4 (00:44):
So listen, you are done with dating. That sentiment is.

Speaker 3 (00:47):
I hear it a lot from my own girlfriends who
are just like, it is nasty out there. What happened
with you?

Speaker 5 (00:54):
So I matched with this gentleman on Facebook dating, which
is probably the first part because I don't know if
people have told you the horror story dash, but like
Facebook dating is not it, No, damn, it's not it
at all?

Speaker 4 (01:11):
Who's hiding on Facebook dating? Just like the creeps or
the married.

Speaker 5 (01:14):
Men both guess you can send a message before you
match with the person, and the things these men say,
oh my lord. But anyways, Okay, so I matched with
this man, attractive man, and you know, Facebook dating is
what it is, and so it's hard to like have
a conversation because I don't check my Facebook all day.
So I was like, here's my number, whatever, Ashley. This

(01:36):
man has called me every single day at eight in
the morning.

Speaker 3 (01:39):
No, no, eight am, amm.

Speaker 5 (01:44):
And on Saturday. So I was like having a weekend personally,
like personal stuff whatever. So I texted him being nice
and was like, I'm not going to be responsive this weekend.
I have some stuff going on. He called me fifteen
times Saturday one Nick.

Speaker 3 (02:00):
You know what big mom is gonna say, why are
you giving your phone number? Altis strangers, stay on the ball,
like just Facebook message the man and just until we
meet him.

Speaker 5 (02:10):
Okay, but what fifteen times?

Speaker 3 (02:13):
No, that's crazy. No, no, no, Al, I'm with you.
Did you block him because Dubai Oh oh he's blocked.

Speaker 6 (02:18):
We're blocked.

Speaker 3 (02:19):
Okay, we're blocked.

Speaker 5 (02:20):
Wait, but we either have that fifteen calls on a Saturday,
or we have hey and then nothing for four days.

Speaker 3 (02:26):
I know, I know, it's like I've moved on.

Speaker 7 (02:29):
I know.

Speaker 3 (02:29):
I hear this all the time too. My friends would
be like, it was a really good conversation, like I
felt like it was actually going somewhere, and then poof
cast for the friendly ghost gone like the wind.

Speaker 5 (02:41):
Seriously, and you know, I'm in my thirty so it's
not like I'm dating to like well I could, but
I'm not dating to just have fun anymore, like I'm
trying here.

Speaker 3 (02:49):
Yeah, fifteen times is that that's a soccer like murderer.
So you had your life, which thank god, because had
you answer one of those calls, we might not well.

Speaker 5 (03:00):
Right, and not to mention we mess it. We met,
we matched on a Monday, and it's it's Saturday.

Speaker 8 (03:07):
Right.

Speaker 5 (03:07):
We haven't been dating, sir.

Speaker 3 (03:09):
We never even went out. We literally never even went out.
Well beware for him on social media, but yeah, block
him and and just you know what, I understand what
you're saying. You're not on Facebook all the time? Cool? Fine,
do not give out your number until you meet somebody,
and even then maybe you know, we'll figure it out,
but slow, slow it out, slow it up.

Speaker 8 (03:31):
I will give you an update when we do get
another date.

Speaker 3 (03:34):
Oh you do. And by the way, you're on Facebook
dating that happened? Are you on any other apps? Is
there any possibilities elsewhere?

Speaker 5 (03:41):
I'm on the hinge Okay, I'm on the hinge. Okay,
I have two friends that got engaged and.

Speaker 3 (03:46):
Married off of hinge. Oo. So you're saying, there's crossed
on that. Okay, okay, Okay, there you go, figures crossed.
Keep me posted. I will, all right, bab, good luck.
You know it's it's it's not easy see out there.
It's not. It is it is, it is not.

Speaker 9 (04:04):
But has it ever been like an easy thing? Hearing
these stories forever?

Speaker 3 (04:07):
You know what it is? We people have social media now,
so we hear, we hear about it more. Back when
we were younger, it wasn't like that, like that social
media wasn't the thing.

Speaker 9 (04:16):
But I would assume the accessibility to a large amount
of people is probably better now than it was back
in the day because of all the dating apps before
you just have to go out to bars and stuff,
So you think the odds would be better, but the.

Speaker 7 (04:27):
More numbers you're getting that you're dating the most cycles,
you're going. Yeah, the odds increase everywhere.

Speaker 3 (04:33):
You can't be out here giving your phone number to
a whole life stranger.

Speaker 7 (04:37):
What are we they just matched on Saturday? Why are
you giving your number? Like right away? You don't know
what kind of duty is.

Speaker 3 (04:44):
And on the other end, fifteen times yes, sir, sir,
he was, I'm good.

Speaker 9 (04:55):
I have a buddy that does this. He would meet
these girls and get infactuated like over. There was one
time he wanted a date with a girl he thought
was going so well. So what he did was he
went to the bathroom, came out of the bathroom wearing
just socks because something there said the vibe was so
good that we're having sex. The girl flipped out in life.

Speaker 7 (05:12):
Yeah.

Speaker 9 (05:12):
So the people out there who miscues and don't understand him, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (05:17):
Yeah, no, it's it's it's it's not easy. But you
know what, love ain't easy. No, you gotta work, Yeah,
you gotta work all right. Six one seven nine three
one one nine four five six one seven nine three
one one nine four five. It's the reform tender Tuesday.
We're calling it beyond this wipe because it's about so
much more dating love relationships. And the last there of

(05:40):
six one seven nights five hit us up on this
white phone, Jack and Hi, everybody, Good morning. It's Ashley
and the Gym in the Morning Show. Rebecca is in Boston. Rebecca,
we're talking about dating, love relationships. We hear a lot
of horror stories out here. You're gonna change that for us.

Speaker 10 (06:00):
Yeah, this is honestly so crazy. I listened to you
guys every single night, so I'm super excited.

Speaker 3 (06:05):
Every night, every morning. Okay, she's confused, day and night,
Dan night got all right? Do you listen every morning?
You and your boyfriend have been together for three years.
Tell everybody where you met.

Speaker 11 (06:18):
We actually met.

Speaker 10 (06:19):
Off with Tender and honestly, the first night that we met,
it kind of was a done deal. He deleted the
app in front of me. I don't know why. I
think he was nervous. He's like, I'm going to delete
the app right now, and I was like, okay, might
as well do it for me as well. So that
first night we have been together since, And I just

(06:41):
want to say to everyone who's having these crazy dating experiences,
first of all, you're right, don't give out your phone
number on the first day, because honestly, I made that
mistake and I'll go skirt all right, that person is
out there. Don't worry. Just kind of relax a little
bit because what will come will find you.

Speaker 3 (06:59):
Watch this, AJ hop on my When you hear something
so positive like that? What what? What do you? What
do you?

Speaker 12 (07:06):
How do you.

Speaker 3 (07:07):
Respond to that?

Speaker 4 (07:08):
You have to live positively?

Speaker 13 (07:10):
AJ?

Speaker 4 (07:10):
How do you feel about that?

Speaker 3 (07:11):
I feel like I'm going to spend the rest of
my life alone? Okay, do you have it? See you're
backy and you can't. I appreciate the sentiment. We can't
change everybody. Hey there you have it all right, Rebecca,
thank you, because we do get a lot of horror stories.
You see this. I used to believe AJ was going
to find somebody. It's dwindling activity land, I agree to Yeah,
it's getting tough out there. She'll be our favorite cat

(07:33):
lady though Jackie is in Revere. Jackie also agrees with
AJ that dating sucks. Yes, why why does it suck
for you?

Speaker 14 (07:44):
So?

Speaker 9 (07:45):
All right?

Speaker 15 (07:45):
It has sucked for the longest time. I've tried dating
and I just can't find a guy who doesn't cheat
and just over the last like three years, I started
talking to a guy friend of mine who has been
in prison. But there he is who's actually getting out
soon on bro and not for nothing.

Speaker 5 (08:05):
But thirty is yeah, crime money, that's.

Speaker 16 (08:10):
It is.

Speaker 15 (08:10):
He made a mistake as a juvenile and he's definitely
done his time for it. But I got to tell you,
he's one of the best men I've ever been in
my whole life. So one of the most loyal, solid,
stand up guys, and like he's the best family man.
He's just he's got more from me out here than
I could have a du for him in there. And

(08:32):
so you know, yeah, and not all the good ones,
not all the good ones around here.

Speaker 9 (08:38):
So I got the this is crazy.

Speaker 3 (08:41):
Not all the good ones are in the streets. Some
of them are locked up, is what You're trying to say.

Speaker 15 (08:45):
Okay, Jack's what I'm saying.

Speaker 16 (08:46):
Exactly, does he have any does he.

Speaker 3 (08:48):
Have any friends that committed a crime at a young
age that are reformed, because like he does?

Speaker 4 (08:55):
Okay, well, a j single who's who's his friend?

Speaker 15 (08:59):
He's he does have a couple of cots, but I
don't want to put their names out, But well.

Speaker 3 (09:05):
AJ, we have a co defendant for you, Hannie. All right, Jackie,
Well you know, if we're gore, I let you go
for those For the women that are listening and they're
just they can the men that they're dating that like
have freedom, that's not going. Well, tell me two positives
about dating a guy in jail. Give me just two.

Speaker 15 (09:24):
Well, for one, he's not cheating on me.

Speaker 13 (09:27):
He doesn't have the option.

Speaker 3 (09:29):
Okay, got it.

Speaker 15 (09:30):
Okay, he definitely doesn't have the option of all kinds
of womenating on him. And but Joe is he's just
become like a real loyal, loyal person. And I don't
know if that I think he's always been like that,
but I think it also comes with what happened, you know,
being in the episode long.

Speaker 3 (09:51):
How does he show you that he's loyal? He calls
when he's allowed to. Is that what you say? Well?

Speaker 15 (09:56):
Yeah, hell, he calls me every day all day. He
sends me to he sends me he just paid my
rent a couple of months ago, Like he does everything
for me.

Speaker 3 (10:05):
Where's he getting everything for Where's he getting those funds?
I don't know, Jackie, might something in there might be
something you want to find out and why.

Speaker 15 (10:16):
He has a job in there that pais pretty good
because he's been in there for so long.

Speaker 3 (10:21):
So Jackie question a lot.

Speaker 15 (10:27):
He actually any day, he's just waiting for hearing now.
So basically, when a bill just passed where like if
you were twenty one or younger, you were considered a juvenile,
and now anybody who's a juvenile can't be sentenced to
natural life. So his his life sentence changed from natural

(10:47):
life to life with parole.

Speaker 9 (10:49):
Hey, I do have a question. So if he committed
whatever he did after the age of twenty one, would
he be doing life?

Speaker 15 (10:56):
If he I'm sorry to say that again, he.

Speaker 3 (10:58):
Did his crime that he committed after say he was
twenty eight, and he said the same crime is he
going away for? He'd be doing last natural life? All right, Jackie, Jackie, Honey, Jackie, Jackie,
jack jack come on bed.

Speaker 7 (11:13):
People change, but.

Speaker 16 (11:15):
But that's not the case.

Speaker 15 (11:17):
He was under twenty one.

Speaker 3 (11:20):
We can guys. Okay, all right, Jackie, Well we're going
to run because we got to talk about you behind
your back real quick before we go to commercials. Thank
you for the call.

Speaker 4 (11:27):
Okay, bye, what are we doing there?

Speaker 3 (11:29):
Life? Guys?

Speaker 7 (11:31):
I want to know how much rent is ain't no
way because you ain't making no forty fifty sixty a hundred.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
Hey, I don't care if you. Let's just say her
rents a g Like. I don't know where he's getting
this money either does she.

Speaker 9 (11:42):
I mean he could work for it, but they could.

Speaker 3 (11:45):
Like listen, we talked to we talk about levels of crime.

Speaker 7 (11:49):
Yeah, life, not life, because regular life, regular life. You
could be out in twelve years.

Speaker 4 (11:56):
Right yeah, natural natural life like that dead And.

Speaker 9 (12:00):
Clearly he's loyalty because he's behind bars.

Speaker 3 (12:03):
Oh she's like, he's not cheating. Yeah with a woman.

Speaker 9 (12:05):
I mean he could be cheating.

Speaker 3 (12:08):
Considered cheating Jackie. But this is chudding Love.

Speaker 1 (12:16):
Sadly and the jam In Morning Show with d J
four and it's Sawing Morning.

Speaker 2 (12:21):
Bustin's number one for hip hop jam In ninety four
or five.

Speaker 3 (12:26):
Hi everybody, if you uh, if you missed the show yesterday,
I told a story about my friend. There's something in
the air right now, and it's a most like divorce
for a lot of people. I don't know what is
going on. It's like I feel as if over the
last thirty days, three of my girlfriends have reached out

(12:46):
to me to be like Hey, just has a heads
up me and so and so are we're not going
to be together anymore. And the story I told yesterday
was just it was just it's straight up diabolical what
that man has done to his family. But yeah, he
was sneaking into twenty two year old girl and having
sexuals with her while the kids were asleep above him

(13:07):
in their in their little cribs.

Speaker 9 (13:08):
Part that would bother me the most. I get the
kids being upstairs, but the age thing, I'd be like,
what the hell, Yeah, you.

Speaker 3 (13:14):
Don't want bother me the most, I think because I've
noticed this about one one of three this happened and
I was like, oh, thank god, that must make you
feel a little bit better.

Speaker 4 (13:24):
It would bother me if I caught him and he
didn't beg for me back.

Speaker 7 (13:28):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 3 (13:29):
Not saying I'd take him back, yes, but I want.
I want there to be the I want groveling, I
want crying. I want I can't believe I did this
to our family. But in these situations, like the guy
that I told you about yesterday, he's not doing that.

Speaker 9 (13:42):
Yeah, because that one hurts because that's like to me
that they're moving on.

Speaker 3 (13:46):
He's moving on. With his twenty two year old.

Speaker 9 (13:47):
Yeah, that one would hurt too.

Speaker 7 (13:49):
That maybe because he knows he's not getting forgiven at all.
She's like, he's done, She's done.

Speaker 3 (13:54):
Yeah, she's done. Done, Like his stuff was packed up
in trash bags and dropped off a mommy and daddy's house.

Speaker 7 (13:59):
So to him, is it, I'm like, why grovel when
I know, like this is a rap? You know what
I mean? Yeah, but I hear what you're saying. Yeah,
you want the person to feel bad and be apologetic.

Speaker 3 (14:08):
I got a message from a girl. I'm gonna she's
messaging me right now, and I'll keep her anonymous. But
she kind of in her message insinuated to me that yesterday,
when I was telling this story, I said that men
are being like the sneaky ones. And I think in
just the three examples that I gave yesterday my three friends,
it was the girls calling me and being like this happened.

(14:30):
But we have learned, and we have always talked about
the females can be sneaky as well. Nobody's safe here.
Nobody is safe here. She said, Hey, so the last
few weeks, you've been talking about people being cheated on
or maybe being the second person or a married person
cheating and maybe not being caught or being caught. Here's
one for you, and I'm still, honestly a little bit

(14:52):
messed up from it. I'd been playing ball with this
woman for a while and I had no idea she
had a crush on me, nor would I think that
because she was married. One night she asked me out
for drinks. I said, sure, I don't really drink, but
I'll get some food. And that's when she sprung it
on me, and I said instantly, wait, aren't you married.
She said that her and her husband have been having
issues for almost five years now. After a few months

(15:12):
of listening and talking and just getting to know her,
I got to see how she was basically just doing
life on her own. Her husband literally never helped her
with anything. He didn't even put away his own clothes,
He didn't help her with the trash, He did nothing. Now, granted,
he was a great dad with the kids, but that
was the one thing that kept her hanging on. This
gets better, So unfortunately I gave in loxury. Short we

(15:33):
had a full blown relationship for two and a half years.
Under his nose sneaking around, she would call me on
their vacation. Ashley, we had sex in their bed in
their home. She was something else. She would stop at
nothing to see me, and she would also tell me
that she was working on figuring out how she was
going to get out of this, and then she put

(15:53):
crying laughing faces. Around Christmas, we went Christmas shopping together
and I felt something was off. I had a weird
vibe the whole time. She said I wasn't being loving
with her. She was upset, so I kind of tried
to avoid the argument. She told me that that night
she was going to have a sit down with her
husband and she was going to lay everything out on
the line. Ashley, I was a mess that entire night
because I love this woman and I believed this woman.

(16:14):
She was feeding me these things, and I was believing them.
I didn't hear from her for five nights. After she
came to her senses. She says, I didn't know what
to say to him because he cried to me and
he told me he would change and that he would
work on things. So I'm going to give this another chance.
I responded with, okay, so did you tell him that
we've been in a relationship for two and a half years,

(16:34):
and she goes well, of course not because that would
have ruined everything. Right before Christmas, she did.

Speaker 13 (16:40):
This to me.

Speaker 3 (16:40):
I was so angry. I felt so used and abused,
and I just felt unworthy, especially because of all the
things she had fed me. It's been two years now
and well she has yet to leave her husband or
tell him about our relationship. She said there's needs work,
but she refuses to let me go as a friend,
even though I barely give her the time. She's always
sending me pictures, thinking that's what I'm looking for, fishing
for compliments because she says he doesn't even ever say

(17:02):
to her, you look beautiful today. But really, I've had
enough of her, and all these stories you guys tell
I've been hearing the last couple of weeks. I need
to say this. It is not always the man. Women are.
Women are extremely sneaky, and they know their way around things,
and they know how to hide things, and they also
know that when their husband isn't paying attention to them,

(17:22):
that is an advantage to them and it will forever
be swept under the rug.

Speaker 4 (17:26):
This poor man will never know that he was cheated
on for two and a half years straight.

Speaker 3 (17:30):
In his own home, in his own bed. Yet here
he is thinking he's quote working on things with her.
I think it's disgusting. It makes me look at her
completely different. And I wrote back, Wow, blown away. She said, right,
that's how I felt these past few years, and some
days I don't even know how to continue on with
being her quote friend, Like, you did me so wrong,
and yet you want me to be your friend? Are

(17:51):
you in crazyland? Haha? Had to steal your line.

Speaker 9 (17:54):
That situation's tough because it's easy to assume that she's
just a friend, not assuming.

Speaker 3 (17:59):
That they have well and remember the detail yesterday when
I said to you know that my friend found out
that they were hooking up in her home.

Speaker 4 (18:07):
You know, people were like, that's crazy, like in the house, Well, it's.

Speaker 3 (18:12):
Happening with others. I mean they were in the bed,
in the bed.

Speaker 9 (18:17):
And then to know that she's on vacation sending messages
to the girl and saying, you know, who knows what
that's like? So painting.

Speaker 3 (18:23):
Can we also add in they never leave, Yeah, they
never leave unless they literally get caught, and even sometimes
then they don't. They usually will feed you the line
that they're gonna leave. They're gonna leave, and they never.

Speaker 7 (18:37):
Leave, and people don't want to hear it exactly. But
I love that she came out and said that women
are more sneaky of them men.

Speaker 3 (18:43):
No, she didn't say more sneaky. You said that. She
said they're they're just as you're saying they're sneaky.

Speaker 7 (18:50):
They're sneakier because women know how to hide things, you
know what I mean? Everybody not the guys don't look
like men. Men are sloppy men. Men sheet slap and
we end up getting caught up. It might be two
three years down the line, but I bet you right now.
I mean, nobody's gonna call and say it. But these
women who had affairs and the husband or the girlfriend
has zero clue what's going on in life because everything

(19:13):
just continues. It's surgical with it, cheating.

Speaker 3 (19:15):
I think I think females are more perceptive, like because
I can I see things and notice things that I
know the fireman would never pick up. He would never know.

Speaker 9 (19:25):
Cors trying to think when would she have the opportunity.

Speaker 3 (19:28):
To Right when I hear this story, you think about that,
your mind goes when like, but I mean, my look
at my husband, for example, he works twenty four hour chiefs.
That mean I could be living a whole another life, but.

Speaker 9 (19:38):
My wife works him home. She's generally around like all
the time. She goes out with her friends from time
to time.

Speaker 3 (19:42):
She does go on long walks every day.

Speaker 9 (19:44):
She went yesterday with her with the neighbor.

Speaker 3 (19:48):
You could find a time, you could figure it out.
But it's the amount of work that goes in.

Speaker 9 (19:52):
But then also like I have her, I mean I
don't track her, but I can find out where her location.

Speaker 3 (19:57):
You do track her, I don't try like I'm not
stocking to her one of those magnetic things that goes
on the bottom of the car, which anonymous good morning,
good morning, you're lying.

Speaker 11 (20:13):
No.

Speaker 17 (20:15):
Yeah, I actually had a conversation with her brother yesterday
and was like, hey, your cousin is tripping you know
what I mean.

Speaker 4 (20:21):
My wife's cousin is trying to get with me. That's
what foreign tells me.

Speaker 3 (20:26):
That you said.

Speaker 6 (20:27):
Yeah, so she she was.

Speaker 17 (20:29):
She's been messaging me on Snapchat and she's like, listen,
you know I want out, you know, I want something new.
She's been exercising, doing that that slim down stuff that
you know, the medication that trim down.

Speaker 3 (20:43):
Oh oh oh zemp Yeah.

Speaker 7 (20:48):
Yeah, so.

Speaker 17 (20:51):
So she sent me the message and uh, that's just no,
no matter what, even if you was going to play
in that field, that's just way too close to home.

Speaker 6 (20:59):
Like, what's wrong?

Speaker 3 (21:00):
Wait? Does your wife know?

Speaker 6 (21:02):
No?

Speaker 3 (21:03):
Are you gonna tell her?

Speaker 6 (21:05):
Uh? Yeah, the wife will kill my her cousin. You
know what I'm saying, Like she wol get at her cousin.

Speaker 9 (21:11):
Yeah, you know what I mean.

Speaker 17 (21:13):
I just I'm not gonna tell her, but I'm gonna
shut the door though, you know what I mean.

Speaker 8 (21:17):
I'm not gonna let her get up in the door.

Speaker 3 (21:18):
Lock it to bro lock it for sure. Are all right?

Speaker 1 (21:23):
Thanks?

Speaker 6 (21:23):
I appreciate it, all right.

Speaker 4 (21:25):
Yeah, that's that's a weird one.

Speaker 3 (21:26):
I don't know, because if you, if you, if you,
if you don't tell and then the text messages come up.

Speaker 9 (21:32):
You gotta tell, though, because you're just running the risk
because then the wife's gonna think that you were hiding it.

Speaker 7 (21:36):
Yeah, but he knows his wife. She's not gonna take
it well find out.

Speaker 3 (21:41):
It's just so weird to think that there are people
out there living who hurt you. You know what I
just told you?

Speaker 4 (21:52):
A story yesterday about a man that was having sex
with a girl while his.

Speaker 7 (21:55):
Two babies are always here. Let's be honest, majority of
the time when you hear about it story, it's usually
a man cheating on a woman.

Speaker 3 (22:02):
I would say the story, that's what I will you.

Speaker 7 (22:05):
Because women are so slick you don't ever find out
they are. Yeah, I know what I'm saying.

Speaker 9 (22:11):
So like I understand your point, yes, yes, but do
you believe that like people are good?

Speaker 6 (22:15):
Yeah?

Speaker 13 (22:16):
Hurt me woo.

Speaker 7 (22:17):
I just know what it is. You know why, because
I'm in the club a lot, and I see people
who are relationships have whole ass affairs. Boyfriend don't even
know she could have the same her side. Dude in
the club buying her drinks and she's parting it up
in the section with.

Speaker 3 (22:32):
The thing, and does no one snitch these days? Like
how is she getting away with that?

Speaker 7 (22:36):
Because again, women keep it tight, man, women keep it
Let's see.

Speaker 3 (22:39):
If we can get one man to call in and
say divorce, break up because he caught the female having a.

Speaker 9 (22:46):
Whole I think somebody will definitely call.

Speaker 3 (22:50):
Six five six one seven nine three one five. Is
it true?

Speaker 4 (22:57):
As DJ Forren says that women are the sneakies.

Speaker 3 (23:00):
Oh my god, you guys, good morning. What's going on
in the world? What is going on in the world?
Because now you're well here making Santi look up Joanne's location. Okay,
where are you?

Speaker 9 (23:14):
What do you mean you want a walk?

Speaker 13 (23:15):
Will you?

Speaker 6 (23:17):
Uh?

Speaker 3 (23:17):
Dj Forn is standing tall on he thinks women are
sneakier than men. It's hard for me to co sign
that right now. When one of my girls just called
me and said, hey, the family's over because my husband
was hooking up with a woman while myself and the
girls were asleep upstairs.

Speaker 4 (23:35):
But anonymous, good morning, We're good.

Speaker 3 (23:41):
So tell me you're your assistant manager at your job
is a married woman.

Speaker 8 (23:49):
And yeah, and I she will come in.

Speaker 6 (23:51):
I will always be nice and grateful to her, and
I would say.

Speaker 8 (23:54):
She's beautiful and stuff. And then one day she was
just telling me and she said them, was telling me
her problems and telling me how she wants out and everything.
But we've been in like a work relationship for like
two years. And it's crazy because she had her fifty
sixty birthday and she invited all them, She invited my

(24:15):
coworkers and invited me, and I was there the whole side,
like nothing, And I felt like a piece of crap
because the guy was offering us stuff and like being
very nice to her.

Speaker 3 (24:28):
Just so people can understand when you say that she's
your assistant manager and you guys have this relationship going,
are you having like sex with her at work? No?

Speaker 8 (24:37):
Not at work. But we've been to the mountains, We've
been to Lake's far.

Speaker 3 (24:41):
Away, like oh, like doing sleepover trips.

Speaker 8 (24:46):
Yeah, Like she like, we will go, she will fix
up her friend and then she'll drive around with her friend.
But like, I have a power and fake time for
him and get them more comfortable and stuff, and I'll
be in the back seat. We'll drop her friend off
and we'll just keep going.

Speaker 3 (24:59):
I'm gonna I am going to but by you know,
curgical like that, it's not even funny. Oh my god.
So then so then she has her fifty fifth birthday party.
She invites everybody from work. You go, and her husband's
like pouring you vodka drinks and offering you come on inside.
Have you seen the new TV?

Speaker 8 (25:17):
That guy have blue label?

Speaker 3 (25:18):
There he was.

Speaker 8 (25:19):
He was a very nice person. I felt so bad, right,
but at the end of the day, I don't condone it,
but that people were responsible to learn I was significant another.
They're like, they disliked what, We'll keep some entertained. We'll
keep some, you know, into the relationship because when we
like trying to figure out who we wait, that's when

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they look at somebody that minds this.

Speaker 3 (25:43):
To me sounds like this is you trying to make
it okay in your head? Well yeah, because I mean,
at the end of the day, you were messing with
a married woman and a mary And by the way,
you're putting your own life on hold like that, there's
no future in that for you.

Speaker 8 (25:59):
I'm forty one, man, I'm at I work two jobs.
I don't got time for you know, Like she's good,
Like I don't have to see.

Speaker 6 (26:05):
Her for three or four ays.

Speaker 8 (26:07):
She don't text me like that, you know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (26:10):
So for me, I'm gonna preak for ideal situation.

Speaker 8 (26:14):
He's waiting for the alimony and all this exhort of stuff.
I just don't want to be But she wants to
move me and everything, and there's there's so much plans
going and I'm like, yeah, whatever happens happens.

Speaker 3 (26:26):
Is this a current situation? Like is this happening right now.

Speaker 8 (26:30):
Yeah, she's just texted me good morning.

Speaker 3 (26:32):
Okay, she's fifty five to that is crazy. All are
going doing like broke Back Mountain type stuff.

Speaker 8 (26:45):
Unhappy married woman, I am and now things they want
to do, their little exercise to the yoga, and when
and when older woman brows back with a voice or
whatever and get with a younger guy, they feel like
thereous wow.

Speaker 3 (27:03):
Man anonymous, Well, good luck with our relationship. It's you know,
I hope, I hope. I hope he doesn't listen to
jaminety four five godspeed.

Speaker 8 (27:11):
Oh no, yeah, I hope it goes well. But I
just I don't like when she makes Shepherd's pie.

Speaker 3 (27:17):
You like when she makes you Shepherd's pie.

Speaker 8 (27:20):
I don't like it.

Speaker 3 (27:21):
Oh you don't just like Shepherd's pie. Okay, I'll keep that.

Speaker 8 (27:27):
Ill. It's gonna work out.

Speaker 3 (27:29):
Forty one years old doesn't like Shepherd's pie, got it?

Speaker 4 (27:32):
Thanks for the call of that.

Speaker 3 (27:33):
Pie is so good though, crazy, but the levels of that, yeah,
like think about it. She knows to FaceTime the husband.
Look at me. I'm with Emily. Look at Emily and
I in the car. Meanwhile he is in the back seat,
and he said she gets them comfortable, thinks that she's
just doing like a girl's trip, and we go to the.

Speaker 7 (27:54):
Lakes and Conway storylander call, I'm telling you women are savages?

Speaker 9 (28:02):
Makes you think, But I think at the foundation, listen
to your partner what they want it. If they aren't
happy to listen, that's what it is.

Speaker 7 (28:08):
A lot of women will step out because they don't
feel satisfied at home. You don't really find like women
like men don't care. We could walk outside and cheat
on you with a tree. It doesn't. If it's warm
and nice, we're good.

Speaker 9 (28:19):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 7 (28:20):
But women, if you find a woman that steps out
on her relationship, she doesn't try to fix it. And
this guy's not giving me attention and just so happened somebody?
You know a shoulder good to lean on? Is that
you know what to ride on?

Speaker 3 (28:33):
So you, guys, this is crazy. This is crazy land.

Speaker 9 (28:39):
What makes you happy? Am I making you happy?

Speaker 14 (28:42):
What?

Speaker 9 (28:42):
What don't you like? These are the conversations that I
have at home because the story is like this.

Speaker 6 (28:46):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (28:49):
The line from that is if it's warm and nice,
we're good reminds me of with the banana.

Speaker 1 (28:58):
In morning shows.

Speaker 2 (29:00):
Sat Bustin's number one for hip hop im in ninety
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Speaker 3 (29:07):
We're talking about dating, love, relationships, the lack thereof it is.
I was talking to one of my girlfriends about this
last night, like it's not it's not easy out there.

Speaker 9 (29:17):
I get it.

Speaker 3 (29:17):
Six one seven nine three one one nine four five
six one seven nine three one one nine four five.
We used to call it tender Tuesday. We call it
Beyond the Swipe now because it's about anything and everything
involving dating, love and relationships.

Speaker 4 (29:31):
Anonymous is gonna kick it off for us. Anonymous.

Speaker 3 (29:34):
You guys, hi, babe, you have you have a PSA
for your mother in law. People are gonna people are
gonna understand this one.

Speaker 13 (29:42):
Get on, find you a nice little booth thing, get married,
Go make a tender account, Go do speed dating like
it's it's frustrating when you have an in law, mother
in law who's single and her main priority is her
adult child, you know, and I feel like if she
had a partner, a significant other, we'd have more space

(30:05):
and peace in the house.

Speaker 3 (30:07):
Yeah, give us give us an example of how like
your mom in law is doing too much, Like how
she's a little too invasive.

Speaker 13 (30:15):
When we got married in the courthouse, she wanted to
take pictures with her son. She then there told me
to hold the phone and take the photos. It's like,
this is my you know, little sis wedding day. But
you guys like, hello, now I'm in the picture. She's
you know, even if I have like a private conversation
about him, the kids or my family, his mother's in

(30:37):
the loop of it all.

Speaker 3 (30:38):
So, oh, that's tough. So let's take it one step further.
Does husband say to her like, all right, mom, you're
doing a little too much.

Speaker 13 (30:47):
He tries, and it's it's interesting because she's very religious,
and I don't want to, you know, put a stigma.
You know, people that go to church very hypocritical.

Speaker 3 (30:58):
You know, when someone god that's not very godly.

Speaker 13 (31:03):
Say she's godly because mother in law used to just
run the street. My mom in love was a thug.
So let's thank God, amen, you know. But again, i'm
his wife, I'm his life now, you know.

Speaker 3 (31:16):
Yeah, listen, it's a it's a big yeah, it's a
it's a big challenge. I think for a lot of moms,
you know, especially maybe moms that played a very big
role in their son's life and then son now marries
and has a new priority and that is their wife
and not mom. And I think it's you know, some
moms don't just fall happily into the role of second place.

Speaker 7 (31:39):
But but anonymous, what you tell me about your hubby though?
What does he do?

Speaker 13 (31:45):
I which part?

Speaker 7 (31:46):
For he goes and tells you'll business.

Speaker 13 (31:49):
Yeah, he tells his mom everything, Like that's just like
right him? Man, Like you, if you're going to tell her,
at least tell her not to tell me, like I
don't want to talk to her about it.

Speaker 7 (31:59):
This is a common And she said she specifically tells him,
don't tell your mom about this, and.

Speaker 15 (32:05):
He still.

Speaker 3 (32:09):
Yes, Seriously, that's kind of crazy if you're specifically saying,
do not tell her, I don't want her to know.
And he's still doing it. He needs to he needs
to fix that. But that's a conversation between you and him.
Like he got he's got to get that together.

Speaker 13 (32:22):
Now.

Speaker 4 (32:22):
Is he the type because like my husband is the
type where.

Speaker 3 (32:28):
If his mother says it, it's got, it's spoken from
God's lips, it's it's it's the gospel, you know, Like
that's the way it is. Like if right now, it's
a little cloudy out.

Speaker 4 (32:39):
But mom calls him and is like, the sun is
beaming and it's one hundred and five.

Speaker 3 (32:43):
He's like, get your tank tops out, people, it's you know,
So I.

Speaker 13 (32:47):
Just is it kind of like that? Yeah, very similar,
you know, and it's it's it's fitter because if it's
a shift of her being wrong and him kind of
I'm not going to say putting her in her place,
but putting her in her place, all hell will break
loose and then the topic of you know, why the
conversation would it's just to me being the problem. So
I'm like, do I just shut up?

Speaker 3 (33:07):
Or no?

Speaker 9 (33:08):
You know, I to set boundaries both of you guys together,
it's gonna be It's gonna take a while, but.

Speaker 6 (33:13):
You have to.

Speaker 3 (33:14):
Some guys in general don't feel comfortable like telling their
mom anything. My husband would rather say nothing to his mom,
like us not hang out with her, not say anything,
than say, hey, Ashley doesn't want to go on the
family trip because you buy houses that don't have air
conditioning and she's not comfortable. Like he'd rather just be like,
we can't go. You know, we're not gonna go, and

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then we don't see it, and.

Speaker 13 (33:35):
It's sounds like a smart man.

Speaker 3 (33:37):
He says nothing. But sometimes I'm like, if my mom
he has said to me, like, oh, it was weird
when your mom did ABC and D. He doesn't even
finish with D. And I'm on the phone with Terry
telling her like, hey, you made him feel uncomfortable. You
can't do that again.

Speaker 13 (33:50):
But I don't know.

Speaker 3 (33:50):
I think guys, there's ay they're protective of their mothers
in a sense, I'm.

Speaker 9 (33:54):
Protective, but if she offended my wife and like did
something really bad, I would be willing to never talk
to my mother again because my wife is my main
I would then that's an extreme, But my wife is
my priority, that's my first that's my first focus there.
So I don't know. But at the same time, you
can work things out. But I think these conversations uncomfortable,

(34:14):
they still need to be had them.

Speaker 13 (34:16):
Yeah, and I certainly it sounds like a podcast you
should start for that for men.

Speaker 3 (34:21):
I do think that there's a way in which it
could all work out because I need everybody like I
would never ever, I don't care what my mom did
to my husband. I wouldn't be able to cut down
like I would.

Speaker 9 (34:31):
I tried to kill him.

Speaker 3 (34:32):
I mean, yeah, I mean that's tough. But like if
if she if he came to me and said she
did ABCND and I don't even want to be around her,
it made me comes I would still have a relationship
with her. I would still want to figure it out.
I want everybody, and I think there's a way. I
just think it starts with him, Like you've got to
figure it out with him.

Speaker 13 (34:52):
I agree, I agree, Thank you guys.

Speaker 3 (34:54):
But I do hope she gets a tinner for your sake,
good luck.

Speaker 15 (34:57):
Thank you.

Speaker 3 (35:00):
To cut your MoMA like.

Speaker 9 (35:00):
That, well no, I'm not gonna. I'm using that as
as an example though, Like listen, I understand my mother
would never do anything like that because she she loves
to our circle and all in all that stuff. But
I mean there has to be a line at some
point for her.

Speaker 3 (35:13):
I feel like you've been up front. It's not really
your mom that's the issue.

Speaker 8 (35:18):
Yeah.

Speaker 9 (35:18):
So like my mother in law, I think she has
she she her family is very intrusive and they were
in each other's business and they love that. That's not
that's not. We have boundaries and they're very important because
I don't need a third parent involved in it. Sometimes
it goes down that path.

Speaker 3 (35:33):
So this is interesting. This is the complete opposite take
on it. Fore, hn okay.

Speaker 4 (35:39):
Sway says that you never put your wife.

Speaker 3 (35:42):
In front of your mother, right, good morning, Hey, how
you doing a how are you?

Speaker 6 (35:50):
So?

Speaker 8 (35:50):
What's going on?

Speaker 6 (35:51):
Ball has slicked?

Speaker 13 (35:52):
You know.

Speaker 6 (35:55):
I look at it like this. The mom has her place,
The wife has a place from My Duke's is gonna
always be Ma Duke's, no matter what, what if that
woman leaves you, Ma Dukes is always gonna be there
to pick to pick you up and say, it's gonna
be alright, son, It's somebody else out there for you, baby,
That's what it's gonna be. Alright, baby, don't be alright baby.

Speaker 7 (36:17):
But Sway, if we look at this and you and
you feel like, you know, life is gonna play out
exactly the way it is. My Duke's gonna leave earth
before your wife does, like, let's be honest. So yeah,
she's gonna be But eventually you're gonna be left with
your wife. And she's always been second place to you know,
to live.

Speaker 3 (36:36):
I don't do we really have to choose, though, I
feel like it's shouldn't be that ideally, you don't want
to have to write. Ideally you do not want to
have That's what I'm trying to say, you never want.
I think everybody can know their role and understand what.

Speaker 7 (36:47):
It came down to.

Speaker 6 (36:48):
That's right, came on, leave earth first. Okay, but.

Speaker 3 (36:59):
Waiting but what silen ollkright, let's go. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (37:04):
I mean, ideally, we're not trying to have to choose,
that's what we're saying.

Speaker 3 (37:07):
We're not.

Speaker 7 (37:08):
But but if it gets down to that point where
they so it's inevitable that this has to be separated.
We have to go two separate ways. Because my wife
and my mom cannot get along. There's so much turmol
who you choose her?

Speaker 3 (37:20):
So I'm not choosing. I'm They're both gonna be in
my life that would never be around each other. I'm not.
I'm never cutting I'm not I'm never cutting my mother
out of my life. But if the Fireman's like, listen,
I can't be around her, I totally get it. I
will make the time to see my mother separately. But
if my mom also ever got to the point where
she made him that uncomfortable, I would have to have
a little combo with her. That would be that would

(37:41):
also be crazy. All right, you want to play a
song or do you want to go to just okay,
play a song? Six one seven nine three one one
nine four five six one seven nine three one one
nine four five.

Speaker 4 (37:51):
We're talking dating, love relationships and clearly.

Speaker 3 (37:55):
Mother in law.

Speaker 4 (37:55):
This Good morning, everybody morning after the gam In Morning Show.

Speaker 3 (38:02):
We're doing to be on this swipe right now talking
dating love relationships. Chanell is an everage. Chanell has been
with her husband for nine years. Chanelle, before you get
to your story, you've been with your husband for nine years.

Speaker 4 (38:14):
You and your parents get in a big fight, husband
or parents.

Speaker 12 (38:23):
Honestly, both sides know not to put me in that predicament.
I'll always stand with my husband is a united front
because he's who I go home to at night. He's
the father of my children. But if you know, if
either side needs to be put in their place, I'll
do that privately behind closed doors.

Speaker 3 (38:38):
That's me too. I have had to put my mother
in my place in her place. I've told my husband, hey,
I don't like the way your mom did ABC and D,
but I don't know. Sometimes these guys are different with moms.
They really are but anyways, Chanelle, tell everybody about this
big surprise.

Speaker 12 (38:55):
So you know, life has ways of bringing to us
and sons, right, Ashley, Ye, I've been following you for
years the birth of your beautiful little girls. I was
on air actually a couple of years with a couple
of years ago with you when I was pregnant with
my fifth baby and Naya, who's two and a half now.

Speaker 3 (39:13):
Wow.

Speaker 12 (39:14):
And you know, we've just really been grinding and making
it work. I started my own business in the meantime.
My husband grinds and does this thing during the day,
and it's all about complimenting each other and you know,
reading each other's love languages and stuff and keeping you know,
just keeping what matters strong. And you know, we've kept
it quiet.

Speaker 13 (39:34):
But we are half baked.

Speaker 12 (39:35):
We are halfway through pregnant number six.

Speaker 3 (39:40):
Number how old are you?

Speaker 12 (39:43):
Just turned thirty two?

Speaker 18 (39:45):
Wow?

Speaker 5 (39:46):
Wow?

Speaker 3 (39:47):
Six kids thirty two years old? Why God, that is amazing.
You just don't hear it anymore. You know, a lot
of people have one kid and it's usually in Therefore,
I think I saw a study that women are having
children later and later. Now, that is amazing.

Speaker 4 (40:03):
Six kids thirty two years old, and you guys are
making it work.

Speaker 12 (40:09):
We are, and it's honestly all about understanding each other.
There are some days where I mean, I'm almost six
months pregnant, I'm pretty big now. There are some days
where I just can't put in one hundred percent in
their days where he sees that and he knows and
he comes and picks right up where I leave off.
And there are days where he's just exhausted from work
and just yeah, feels like he just needs to sit

(40:30):
with his feet up, and he knows he's going to
come home to a nice meal at the end of
the day. It's all about reading each other and knowing
not when to push in when and when to pull.

Speaker 3 (40:41):
You got a whole starting five with a sub on
the way, Chanell. Run me through the ages of the kids.

Speaker 12 (40:48):
So my oldest will be ten next weekend. Then I
have a seven year old, a five year old, a
four year old, and my two and a half year old.

Speaker 9 (40:55):
You guys are busy, busy, you know what I needed.

Speaker 4 (40:59):
This says that yesterday, at one point I was just
sitting in my house.

Speaker 3 (41:03):
Both kids were crying, and I was cracking up laughing
that I literally live in an asylum. And that's too.
I can't imagine what an afternoon in your house looks like.
I'm gonna be better. I'm gonna be better.

Speaker 12 (41:14):
No, honestly, it was hardest when I had only two,
because you go from one who has your all, your everything,
their entire life, then they have to just magically share
you with this other little person. Yeah, it's a huge
shock to the system. But now I don't put anything
on my kids like they're little, their kids, you know,
I want them to be little. But if say my
seven year old daughter, she sees that one of the

(41:36):
little ones is crying or needs something, she'll pick up
a book and read them, or she'll get them a
cup of water, like she's super sweet. And there's no
I think because I've had them all so close, there's
really never been any room for jealousy. They know they
get their time.

Speaker 13 (41:49):
With us, they know we have fun.

Speaker 12 (41:53):
Honestly, huge shout out to eat celebrity, elite and silks varying.

Speaker 16 (41:56):
Both of my girls cheer there.

Speaker 12 (41:58):
My boys do private lessons there, and it's been a huge,
huge outlet and it's given them their own sense of
as like their own sense of stuff. So I just
gotta find that niche what you know, do what your
kids love and just fall it.

Speaker 16 (42:09):
Boy or girl, little boy.

Speaker 12 (42:10):
So that's what's at three and three.

Speaker 3 (42:12):
Three and three.

Speaker 15 (42:13):
I love it.

Speaker 3 (42:13):
Chanelle, congratulations, babe, thanks Ash. Oh my, that's nuts.

Speaker 4 (42:21):
I gotta stop.

Speaker 3 (42:22):
I gotta stop complaining. I gotta stop complaining. You're calling me.
I'm trying to like do lessons with this kid over me.
It's job. It's crazy, It's no it sluck me up.
Olivia is in Boston High Live. Good morning, Good morning.
So listen, yesterday was a big party day in the city.

(42:43):
As you know, your boyfriend went out to the Red
Sox game. Yep, came home, had had one too many,
a little intoxicated.

Speaker 18 (42:53):
And what did we learn yesterday, Joe, He came out
with a lot of emotion, a lot of insecurity, a
lot of.

Speaker 11 (43:05):
Negative self talk, and a lot of kind of doubt
in his you know, in my uh you know kind
of attraction to him. And it was just a lot
to process and a lot to.

Speaker 3 (43:23):
Example.

Speaker 4 (43:24):
I don't think I'm handsome enough for you, You're too
pretty for me.

Speaker 3 (43:28):
That type of stuff.

Speaker 11 (43:30):
Kind of I mean, like I'm I go to gym
a lot I go to yoga, I'm like very like
routined in the sense, you know, and he's someone his
job requires him to travel a lot. He's not very routined,
but that's just his his work schedule, and so I mean,

(43:51):
he doesn't go to the gym very often, and he
tries but then doesn't really fall through. So I think
he's just feeling like insecure about you know, his body
and and all those changes. And you know, I I
don't know really how to.

Speaker 18 (44:11):
You.

Speaker 3 (44:11):
Were you like, oh my god, Like did your mind
first go to like this is not turning me on,
my vagina is shriveling? Or was it like, oh damn,
I feel so bad that he feels this way. Let
me console him and make sure he because insecurities in
a man can be unattractive.

Speaker 4 (44:27):
Or you could be like, oh I feel so bad
that he feels this way.

Speaker 3 (44:30):
Let me comfort him.

Speaker 11 (44:34):
Well, I mean I definitely felt terrible that it was
like I feel like I'm contributing to him, you know,
feeling unwell because you know, he doesn't feel like I'm
attracted to him. But I mean, no, I didn't get
all like okay, let me comfort in the sense of
like sach are you are.

Speaker 4 (44:55):
You attracted to him?

Speaker 3 (44:58):
I am yes, Okay, Well I don't wear yelliot.

Speaker 9 (45:02):
I feel like, yes, yes, you're given. You give me
the feeling like he has put on weight, and that
seems to be a contention with your relationship because you've
mentioned the gym now four times and you go to
yoga and all that stuff. I feel like that might
be kind of pushing off on him too.

Speaker 11 (45:20):
It does feel like it's weighing on him and that
he's not like almost keeping up. But I don't know,
he's not put on that much weight. I think it's
more of his own self and security. I think like
he was never that person.

Speaker 3 (45:33):
To like, So, how was it waiting this morning? Like
obviously he you know, yesterday comes on. He's how drunk
and everything were we when you left this morning?

Speaker 9 (45:43):
How was it?

Speaker 11 (45:45):
I mean, it's funny because he had to leave to
travel this morning, so we didn't really have a conversation
this morning. He left at like five am, but I
mean we.

Speaker 13 (45:55):
Went to bed.

Speaker 3 (45:56):
Okay. And how long have you guys been dating? Like
three years?

Speaker 11 (46:04):
A couple of months.

Speaker 3 (46:05):
Wow, that's a long time.

Speaker 7 (46:06):
I think she I think she's surprised us into how
insecure he is. Do you care how your boyfriend looks
right now? Is there anything you could change aboutom right now?

Speaker 3 (46:15):
No?

Speaker 11 (46:16):
I think like I've did people in the past that were,
you know, very much into that external view look, and
it was never anything that like, you know, supported me
in a relationship. I think, I really the only thing.

Speaker 3 (46:32):
I'll say is if he's bringing it up to you,
something in the relationship is making him feel that way.

Speaker 13 (46:41):
You know.

Speaker 3 (46:41):
I don't know what it is.

Speaker 7 (46:42):
He just doesn't feel he's not He just doesn't feel
like he's good enough for her because he wishes that
he's in the gym. He oh, he thinks that that's
what she wants.

Speaker 3 (46:50):
Because to Sony's point, she has mentioned the gym a lot. Yeah.

Speaker 13 (46:54):
I don't know.

Speaker 9 (46:54):
I mean I have to say too, like I used
to be like this a lot and mention the gym
a lot, and I used to talk about awful lot
and it got all for my partner, like very oltial
fact that they started to feel like a certain.

Speaker 7 (47:05):
Way, like she's created an insecurity in him. Yeah, and
I was that she might not be doing that. In
absolutely it's come up to him and be like maybe
she's trying to send me a message.

Speaker 9 (47:14):
Or it could be anything like that. But I just
was talking about it like obsessively. I made a lot
of people around me feel uncomfortable.

Speaker 3 (47:20):
Okay, I didn't know you ever stopped.

Speaker 7 (47:22):
That might be what you're doing. You might be he
might be like, damn, is she trying to give me
a message, like to get back into the gym.

Speaker 3 (47:27):
But it sounds like you can tell that. I certainly
don't get the vibe that you're doing it on purpose
to make him feel bad or anything like that. You know.

Speaker 4 (47:35):
I just if you're saying that you are attracted to him,
then you know, tell him too.

Speaker 9 (47:42):
Yeah, I know.

Speaker 7 (47:43):
Do you tell her?

Speaker 16 (47:44):
Yeah?

Speaker 18 (47:45):
I do.

Speaker 11 (47:46):
I try, And you know, I think it's maybe that's
not my strength and a love language, but I I'm
definitely someone who's like, maybe I don't try and like
push it on him, but it is like a big
part of my life. It's part of my job, it's
part of like you know, it's it's I don't know,

(48:06):
it's it's always been a big part of my life,
like health and wellness.

Speaker 9 (48:10):
That's okay too, that's awesome.

Speaker 3 (48:12):
Yeah, Yeah, I'm surprised that doesn't like bleed over into
his daily life, because I feel like if one person
is kind of into it, it makes.

Speaker 13 (48:22):
Me.

Speaker 11 (48:23):
And he said how it's impacted him since and like
he's now more aware of all those things than, like,
you know, more than he ever has in the past.
But you know, I I don't know if I think
he still feels like that's not enough for me. And
I don't know how to make him confident in the sense.

Speaker 7 (48:44):
Like he is enough help talking about it may have
you stop maybe stop talking about it, stop pushing him,
just let him do it. If you like him though
he is, just leave him alone because I agree with
him now it's kind of on the other side, but
it sounds like he's feeling like you're you're just trying
to you know, you're trying to send him a message
without really saying nothing, and it's making him depressed.

Speaker 11 (49:06):
Yeah, maybe I don't feel like I'm trying to do that.

Speaker 3 (49:11):
But yeah, okay, maybe if he did a little downward dog,
we would be having this conversation.

Speaker 7 (49:15):
For the love of God, if he's not into it,
he's not into it, and if that's such a big
deal for you, then let him know that that's a
big deal and then maybe y'all need to figure out
some other things.

Speaker 3 (49:23):
And by the way, if you're not like you shouldn't
also feel bad if you're at a place with him
where you you maybe aren't as attracted as you used
to be. That happens too, So you guys are not
to say you guys can't figure that out as well. Yeah,
but by the way, not an easy combo people have
thought about this. Yeah, he had to get drunk to.

Speaker 7 (49:41):
Say so, let's be honest. He had to get drunk
to kind of approach you about this subject. So I
think instead of you look at it as that he's insecure,
I think he's trying to tell you something that you
kind of make me feel this way.

Speaker 3 (49:51):
I want to hug this teddy bear.

Speaker 7 (49:52):
Yeah, I gotta see him.

Speaker 3 (49:53):
You gotta get eyes on him.

Speaker 11 (49:56):
Yeah, thank you, all right.

Speaker 3 (49:58):
Babe, good luck, good luck. You just know she's ripped,
like she just has a hundred pack and she's totally
like yoga ripped. When she talks about drinks green juice.
The second she wakes up, she breathes into air. Yeah,
she meditates. Dude, I just described that he's like, well,

(50:19):
at least there's a backup for you in life. Her
name is Olivia from Boston.

Speaker 1 (50:26):
And the Morning Show with DJ fourn it's Sat Morner
Bustin's number one for hip hop jam in ninety four
or five.

Speaker 3 (50:35):
I absolutely positively know that we have talked about this
on the show before. But there's something about us going
back through our childhood days that just brings me joy
thinking about those times. Every night, the fireman watches this
video on YouTube and it's like a seventeen second video,

(50:56):
but the guy shows things from our childhood and we're like,
you remember that, you remember that? And POGs came up
and are you guys? Maybe a little too old for POGs,
but I know what they are because POGs were hot
for Like.

Speaker 7 (51:15):
I don't know a different kind of pog. I don't
know what about.

Speaker 3 (51:18):
Let's see other POGs stand for?

Speaker 9 (51:19):
Can you say a w G pog?

Speaker 3 (51:22):
What's a p A w G pog? Can you say it? Can? I?

Speaker 7 (51:26):
I mean we can?

Speaker 6 (51:26):
Can we?

Speaker 9 (51:27):
I don't. I'm curious white girls.

Speaker 7 (51:33):
Except the p is p H A T.

Speaker 3 (51:36):
So the opposite of me.

Speaker 9 (51:40):
Has called them in the past.

Speaker 3 (51:42):
Yeah, yeah, okay, So can we stands for a This
one says white girl with big as Okay, No, I'm
talking p O G where you had a case of POGs,
like a tall, skinny case of POGs with slammers a
j did you do?

Speaker 9 (52:00):
Okay?

Speaker 3 (52:00):
So maybe it was our age. I'm thirty eight, going
to be thirty nine in November. But it's funny because
I POGs came up in this video and then I
found this because the phone's always listened. Somebody senbody a
video of of POGs things. So I posted it and
mad people are hitting me up, being like, oh my god.
I'm like literally back into my childhood. We used to

(52:22):
do it at like if we had recess and it
was raining in school. For when you take these like
little circle things and you stack them on top of
each other, right, but you flip them upside down, and
then you have what's called a slammer, and you have
you collect slammers. You want cool slammers. You take the slammer,
you throw it down onto the pile of POGs, and
if they flip over to the other side, you get

(52:44):
to keep that person's pots. I have the chills. I
found myself to be very good, but it was heartbreaking
when you lost, like a really good pod.

Speaker 9 (52:53):
Why don't you buy a bunch of them because on
eBay there's a ton available and the prices are decent.

Speaker 3 (52:58):
Well, it's just so funny because I didn't know that
it was so age appropriate like that.

Speaker 4 (53:03):
It must have been a phase like quick in and
out because.

Speaker 7 (53:05):
You guys are this doesn't even seem familiar to me at.

Speaker 9 (53:08):
All, really at all.

Speaker 3 (53:11):
What like if it was raining outside and you guys
had recess, what were you what were you playing?

Speaker 9 (53:16):
Well, we always went outside it was raining absolutely, yeah, no,
no in school.

Speaker 4 (53:23):
Yeah, like if it was a downpour out there.

Speaker 9 (53:26):
We went outside for the most part. You just didn't
go and get that wet. But yeah, they side it
was the eighties, it was different.

Speaker 3 (53:32):
Yeah, in the downpour, that's when we would we were
allowed to play POGs. So did you play POGs ash?
Did you have a j did you have a different
time or do you remember playing them in school?

Speaker 4 (53:42):
You know what's funny, I don't know if I've ever played,
but I collected.

Speaker 3 (53:46):
Them, like I never played the actual game. Yeah, Like
I said, I don't know, I don't. I feel like
I never knew how to play. I would just wanted
to like collect them and get like all the cool
ones and the slammers and stuff like that. Wow, that's grea.

Speaker 8 (53:58):
Yeah.

Speaker 9 (53:58):
I only ever played was different our jersey, but jersey. Yeah,
but these are all collectibles now. I think for me,
when I was younger, it was all like the outdoor
sports and all like the eighties stuff that we were
like using, yes, pretending to be things.

Speaker 3 (54:15):
Yeah, I mean, I don't want to say I think
that that was my childhood too. I think this was
just I mean, I'm talking POGs.

Speaker 9 (54:21):
Guys.

Speaker 3 (54:21):
When I was in second grade, was nice nineties, and
so we were outside. I mean it was kickball for us.
Ninety eight percent of the time. It's drizzling, we're going out.
But like every once in a while, if it was
like thunder lightning down for and we got to stay inside,
they might take us to the cafeteria for the hour
or whatever and we would get to play POGs. Yeah,

(54:42):
and I just it was the best time.

Speaker 9 (54:44):
You've mentioned that before, and POGs really hit with you.
I think I think it depending on where you are
in age, right, like coming up age and that time
it feels so important to you and so special.

Speaker 12 (54:56):
It does.

Speaker 3 (54:56):
And I had a woman write me and She's like,
this just brought me back so much, she said, because
I'm older, but I had a younger sister, and my
sister like was obsessed with POGs and I would play
POGs with her. She's like, but it was not my time, Like,
we didn't play.

Speaker 9 (55:10):
POGs that timeframe. For me, baseball cards were the biggest thing,
collecting baseball cards, buying them, like bringing them to school.
One time I had a stack of that were amazing stolen.
So right around the second like third grade, was.

Speaker 3 (55:22):
That And remind me, did you guys have the recorder?

Speaker 9 (55:26):
We did not know. I think that again, that was
after us. The recorder was a flu right.

Speaker 3 (55:30):
That's that plastic flute?

Speaker 9 (55:31):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (55:31):
Yeah, Hot Cross Buns?

Speaker 4 (55:33):
Is that the way you use That's one of the
songs we used to learn Hot.

Speaker 9 (55:37):
Cross I one time here on the air when we
talked about it, I said, nobody used to use that,
like that's like stupid at the phone call, but they're
doing it.

Speaker 3 (55:46):
That's that's the last time we spoke about the recorder.
But I still still to this day have people send
me messages about me talking.

Speaker 9 (55:52):
About the record. But does it make any sense for
you to or anyone to use that. Shouldn't they be
teaching music in different ways? And the stupid flute.

Speaker 3 (56:00):
Did you guys in gym class do the thing where
you take the big parachute.

Speaker 9 (56:04):
And throw it up?

Speaker 3 (56:05):
And when we were younger, yeah, did you learn line dancing?

Speaker 9 (56:08):
We didn't learn line danced the gym teacher, okay, square
like yeah, and you would dance with the teacher. No,
you would dance with another students, okay, but the teacher
was was instructing, yeah, something about something about that sound
right mind dancing.

Speaker 3 (56:30):
Guys like they put us in like little squares and
we would dance in our square like and you learned
but a lot honestly, they weren't with anybody. You'd never
touched the person. You were in a block, and.

Speaker 9 (56:41):
The teacher never never got arrested like afterwards.

Speaker 3 (56:46):
No, they stood at the front and we were on
our little blocks. Like crazy times it is.

Speaker 9 (56:51):
And I think in the eighties so many things and
like just went went away. But if you think back,
like you can think back to some teachers you were like, hey.

Speaker 3 (56:57):
Because were you born Okay, so I'm eighty six.

Speaker 9 (57:01):
Yeah, so's we're not that far not that far apart.
But when you go for pop culture stuff. It changes
and moves so fast.

Speaker 7 (57:08):
This polk still, this pog thing does. It's like one
of those things that didn't last. I guess you were
you born eighty.

Speaker 3 (57:14):
Oh so okay, so yeah, no Pouk. I'm telling you,
I think Pok.

Speaker 7 (57:18):
This in my life.

Speaker 3 (57:19):
That is so because because six years really isn't that
big of a difference. But I guess in that time,
if you think about it, you guys would be out
of grade school when I was coming in.

Speaker 7 (57:28):
I still feel like, you know, these kind of games
back in the day kind of still transitioned through generations,
you know what I mean, Like they stuck around for
a little bit. I don't remember, like.

Speaker 9 (57:38):
The Giga pats were massive, but I was passed up.

Speaker 7 (57:41):
But I was away too aware of it, That's what
I'm saying. Like you could see it, like, yeah, so
you had to feed it and all like had one.

Speaker 9 (57:50):
It was annoying. Yeah, I wasn Tama Gotchi, Tama got you. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (57:56):
I'm doing Google images of POGs and slammers, like I'm.

Speaker 7 (57:59):
Watching videos of them playing the game. I don't remember
none of this.

Speaker 4 (58:01):
You see what I mean where you're getting they.

Speaker 9 (58:03):
Flip over the.

Speaker 3 (58:05):
Oh yeah, there were POGs, yes, and like you would
be you'd be, oh my god, there's an oh, there's
like the slammers were all different kinds. This one has
a picture of OJ's face in a slammer.

Speaker 9 (58:17):
Oh json slammer. Do you need to buy that?

Speaker 3 (58:21):
You can buy? You can literally buy right now, the
two players starter set. You know what I am gonna.
I feel like we open up the phone lines once
about the recorder, but maybe we'll do it for POGs,
because yeah, like it came and went. But when I
post about it, mad people are like ashually, oh my god.
Well maybe it was just certain states, Like maybe it was.

Speaker 9 (58:41):
I think it was an age demo thing, you know.

Speaker 3 (58:44):
Okay, let's see six one seven nine three one one
nine four five six one seven nine three one one
nine four five. I am in my feels about my
pog collection and don't get me go my slammer collection. Hi, everybody,
good morning. It's actually in the gym in Morning show.
Anytime we talk about like nostalgic things from our time period,

(59:08):
our time period, I get. I get in my feelings
so much because I really did love the times in
which we grew up. So I was born in eighty six.
The guys were born in eight the eighties eighty, So
Satina were really just saying like sat was in middle
school and for you guys were in middle school when
I was just coming into kindergarten, so it's it's definitely different.

Speaker 9 (59:28):
Yeah, at that time, I was trying to make up
with girls.

Speaker 3 (59:31):
We're talking about POGs because I had I had a
really ill pog collection and I loved playing and I
loved my slammers.

Speaker 4 (59:39):
But Shavn just wrote me and she goes, you have
me in my feels.

Speaker 9 (59:42):
Ash.

Speaker 3 (59:42):
I remember when they banned POGs at school because kids
were getting so upset when they lost, and then parents
will get mad because they bought all the POGs and
the kids would come home with no POGs because they
played and lost all their POGs. So maybe that is
what happened. Maybe we were playing it and there was
just too many complaints, so they cut POGs quick because
it was a cutthrow game. Uh a husky husky, oh

(01:00:06):
husky alum as in like Northeastern alum.

Speaker 9 (01:00:09):
Yes, Oh, let's go, let's let's go.

Speaker 16 (01:00:13):
Lots of class of eight, baby wow, I love it? Yes, yes,
so I kid, you not man Like I swear sometimes
this is gonna sound slightly stalkersh, but I swear sometimes
we're living parallel lives. I mean, my daughter crawled out
of the crib the same like time your daughter crawled out.
Just all sorts of things.

Speaker 6 (01:00:33):
Wow.

Speaker 14 (01:00:34):
Anyway, point being, we literally just gave my younger brother
a binder full of POGs and slammers this past weekend
to take back with him to price out. And we
were telling him because he's born in ninety two, and
we were like explaining to him about how to play
POGs and everything, and he's like, nashist, I don't know

(01:00:55):
nothing about that. So even from him being born, you know,
like seven years later, he didn't know anything about it either.

Speaker 13 (01:01:04):
I kid you not.

Speaker 16 (01:01:05):
We his mom had saved them. And so we literally
just gave my brother binders full of POGs for him
to price out. And I also remember country line dancing
because yes, oh my god, yes, because it was a
winter unit because you couldn't go out and you used
to try to hook up and square up with the
cute boys and everything. Oh yeah, I remember, and the

(01:01:28):
left hand star and the right hand star and all that.

Speaker 3 (01:01:31):
Wait are you from? Where are you from I'm.

Speaker 16 (01:01:34):
From Long Island and my husband's from Jersey.

Speaker 3 (01:01:36):
Oh my god. So maybe maybe it really is just
like our little realm of the world. People that are
from mass are hitting me up about POGs. But I
think this, this girl Shavn that wrote me, has a
point because they may have just banned them quick because
it was getting crazy in the school.

Speaker 13 (01:01:54):
I don't need it.

Speaker 3 (01:01:55):
Yeah, no, it's no.

Speaker 16 (01:01:57):
I don't know, but I know my husband had binders full,
so he must have been naught.

Speaker 3 (01:02:01):
Well, talk about pricing them out. What are would you
make for your paw collection? Cause I'm gona see if
I wanna slap myself because I had a really good one.
But are you he's doing he's doing it right now.

Speaker 16 (01:02:10):
But there were some like in like slammers, and like
some of the nicer ones that he had, like individual
ones were going to like twenty bucks a pop. The
most expensive we found.

Speaker 3 (01:02:21):
Just so everybody's clear paw like not the slammers, but
the POGs are paper, like they're not cardboard, their cardboard paper.

Speaker 16 (01:02:26):
It's just cardboard. Yeah, but like they were, like you know,
the the most expensive one that we pried. We didn't
do them all because it was too many, but the
most expensive one that we priced out was like twenty bucks,
and then there were some that were a dollar or whatever.

Speaker 3 (01:02:39):
But yeah, wow, that's so cool. Well, thank you for that,
because now I feel seen because we're not like I'm
not alone in the line knowing the line dancing out.

Speaker 16 (01:02:51):
Yeah, no, man, and like and and if you had
the same gym class with like you know, certain.

Speaker 3 (01:02:57):
Boys or whatever, dolls, I remember you.

Speaker 13 (01:03:02):
Remember your name.

Speaker 16 (01:03:02):
I'm not going to shout out mine, but you know
what he's saying. I can say that much.

Speaker 13 (01:03:07):
There you go.

Speaker 3 (01:03:08):
All right, Well, thank you so much for the call.
I mean, listen, I think when you think about especially
because a lot of people listen to this show. We
have young people that listen, for sure, but a lot
are our age in their thirties, mid thirds and stuff.
So we did have these chared shared childhood experiences, and
we always talk about how it was different for us.
But uh, car than it is now. I mean, Carly

(01:03:28):
is in Derry, Hi, Carly, Hi, good morning.

Speaker 16 (01:03:32):
How are you guys?

Speaker 3 (01:03:32):
Okay, So you also collected POGs, Like, isn't this the
best elected the pog?

Speaker 18 (01:03:37):
Yeah?

Speaker 19 (01:03:38):
It was great, but my dad got mad at me
because my room was displaying them and he thought it
looked so messy. I just had, you know, like my
POGs all on display everywhere in their booklets.

Speaker 16 (01:03:48):
And he was like, you got to put this away.
You gotta get thee away.

Speaker 3 (01:03:50):
Yes, I feel like you know where you guys put
those binders with the baseball cards.

Speaker 4 (01:03:54):
People would have pog binders. Yeah, so the collect fogs.

Speaker 19 (01:03:57):
He came in, cleaned up, and then my full bandam
like the next week. I never even got to play
during indoor recess.

Speaker 9 (01:04:02):
Oh my god.

Speaker 3 (01:04:03):
So listen now and now tell everybody about the other
game that you remember playing, because.

Speaker 9 (01:04:07):
Trust me, I don't thought if this was regional.

Speaker 19 (01:04:09):
I was from like the Worcester area, and during outdoor recess,
just one tennis ball. We would bounce it off the
school as hard as possible, but if you missed the catch,
like when on the return, you had to run up
to the brick wall, and if you didn't get there
in time, the other kids would just whip the ball.

Speaker 9 (01:04:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:04:26):
Yeah, called suicide. They would not be allowed to play anymore.
But the game was literally called suicide. We would call
it suie like we.

Speaker 4 (01:04:33):
Would literally after school in like fifth sixth grade.

Speaker 3 (01:04:36):
But you want to go play some suie.

Speaker 9 (01:04:37):
The feeling of the ball hitting in the middle of
the back is the absolute war.

Speaker 3 (01:04:40):
Yeah, I'm glad said on your carly, Yes, play a
little light game of suicide, like, oh my god, Okay,
thank you for that, because I absolutely remember. Did you
guys play kickball too? And that was a big one.

Speaker 9 (01:04:58):
Dodgeball. Yeah, I used to kill some people with that. Yeah,
you would always like aim.

Speaker 16 (01:05:04):
For the Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:05:06):
Yeah, man, the best of times.

Speaker 9 (01:05:12):
Yeah, can we go back because now the world is soft?
You can't go ball that people. It's so stupid.

Speaker 3 (01:05:16):
No, you could never play a game like called suey anymore. No, yeah, no, no,
that was the name of the game everybody, for the
one person that's going to try it. It was the
name of the game.

Speaker 9 (01:05:26):
And dodgeball, God forbid the unathletic kids, you know, they
would comp Oh.

Speaker 3 (01:05:30):
Yeah, I I myself was the pitcher for kickball, like
I I was, Oh I was, I would spin it,
oh athlete.

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with me. We're gonna be broadcasting live from over there
as well. All right, so again today meet your guy
flaring over there at TV Garden at the Big Not

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Love Studios. By the way, salute to Big Night Live
for London US. Crush the studios real quick and come
hang out. Other than that, you know what to find
us is always actually to ease in the am. Connect
with them directly at Actually Felman at Santi Diolio. All
with me at DJ the number four E I g
N until tomorrow, saying Tom Saint Bob, Yeah we go.
Y'all be blessed, sing care each other. We got