ep. 10 - Slide Into The DMs

Sliding into someone's DMs is the only way to strike up a conversation. Riley and Cam share their experiences with it. 

Episode Transcript

(00:00):
What is up y'all? Hi,Good morning morning Cammy. How you doing
doing good? How are you doing? I've had an amazing morning. I
went to my sister's house because mynephew is sick right now, and so
I got to go see him andher this one in And it's always just
nice sitting and chatting with my siss. We don't We don't talk all the
time, so it's nice when Ido get to sit down and just catch

(00:22):
up. I love that. Yeah, I see my brother every single day,
see, but that would be sofun. It's it kind of sucks,
honestly, and I do love mybrother and I call all the time.
Now. He really texted me whilewe're sitting there, was like,
hey, can I call you aroundeleven? I was like, oh my
gosh, Connor. Of course.Yeah, him and his girlfriend broke up
and it literally was the best thingever. Not for him, yeah for

(00:45):
me. So I'm like, Iget to talk to this dude all the
time. Now. I love thatyou Yes, perfect, I love That's
been so fun. And then Ihave practice today, but it's a chill
day and then I leave for springbreak. Wow. They exciting? Yeah,
Yeah, we're here on a differentday than normal. Yeah, this

(01:06):
is crazy. It's nine to five. Co workers are texting me so because
I guess technically i'm missing work rightnow. Yeah, yeah, this is
it. It's a Wednesday for us, and uh, I guess when this
releases, I'll be on the beachwith a drink in my hand. Hell
yeah, hell yeah. So I'mjealous. I'm so excited. I know.

(01:29):
I think I think I deserve aspring break even though I have a
full time job. Okay, sothink about it. Their teachers get spring
break in summer, and why doyou get a spring break your entire life
and then not when you're working,Because you deserve a break every once night,
I think you should still get aspring break. I guess that's why
they have PTO and stuff though,so you can make your own spring break
two weeks of the entire year.Yeah, well months months less than that.

(01:53):
Exactly the same saying, I don'tthink it quite adds up to what
we get your entire life in school, so it doesn't. But then then
again, it's like, well,when everyone else is on spring break,
you expect places to be open.And that's true because I did have that
thought. I said to myself.Okay, well, if you gave everyone
a spring break, does that meaneveryone be off work at the exact same

(02:15):
time. I don't. That wouldnever work. No, but maybe some
wered PTO I think could be asolution. I just I think that's that
would be great. I think that'sthe way it should be. We don't
even have PTO right now. Youhave to work there a year to earn
it, so I'm just losing moneyat the moment. That's the minutes to
talk on this podcast. No,but you guys are so weird to be

(02:38):
worth it. It won'tly you hangingnext week. Wow, that is you
were committed. We are committed tothe Ada Girl Gang. So I hope
y'all know that we love you guys. We are just sitting chatting. It's
been a fun little morning. Wehad to wait a second forgotten here,
so we got to catch up onour earlier of our weekend in our earth.

(02:59):
Kim let me know that she's onhinge again. I am. Have
you ever used a daddy app?No? Okay, I actually have not.
Well, yeah, well this again. When we were when we were
out of town in Athens, shewas showing us these guys I'm not gonna
lie. So my roommates I livedwith last year, they had tender and
hinge. Yeah, holy crap,it's fun. I cannot do the whole

(03:20):
tender thing. It's a game.It is such a game. Literally.
I used bumble, but not notthat often, and I use Hinge.
So the difference, the reason Iused the both is I only really use
bumble if I'm going to be travelingsomewhere and like want to meet people there.
Okay, because on hinge, likeyou set your hometown. Okay,
who's that He's cute, he likedme. Let's see his seems to Clay

(03:44):
high Clay Hey. So anyway,Yeah, it's just a fun game.
But so I have this like littleso on Hinge there's prompts that you answer
on your profile and one says we'llget along if yea, and I wrote,
which is pretty accurate for me,we'll get along if you can understand

(04:06):
my sarcasm and don't get upset whenI make fun of you. Bonus points
if you can give it back tome. Okay, that is actually you
to a t Yeah, so youhave no idea how many men love that
part of my profile? Sure,because a sense of humor is a one
and you've got that. Yes.So I matched with this guy named Chris.

(04:28):
Okay, Chris Hi Chris. Heliked it and he said the flirt
to rost ratio is vital, andI was like, oh, here we
go. Oh's so we started.We had the funniest text messages, like
talking about, you know, makinga secret handshake, how to Irish goodbye,
like funny things and oh my gosh, we love. He said,
want to throw me your number andwe can you know, chat Ley over

(04:50):
there and I said, yeah,I'll send you my number here. Don't
want to throw my shoulder out tryingto get it to you just because I'm
stupid. No, you're hysterical.And then as a big game coming up,
Kim, how do you think ofthese y'all? We need to have
an episode where Cam just teaches ushow to flirt and her riz because I'm

(05:12):
not kidding you, well, shehas the best riz of anyone I have
ever met. Like it is crazy. I just come up with it on
the spot, but it's like it'samazing though. This weekend legs and are
like wait because she's like, howdo I flirt? And She's like,
no, cam like I need lessons. I actually need you to teach me.
No, but my answer is alwayslike just say the first thing that

(05:32):
comes in your head. That's whatI do. So if you're not funny,
you're screwed. Well maybe no,you just don't take yourself too serious,
Like just say stupid shit and usuallyit gets to laugh and then you
have a personality in their head.Boom. It's really that easy. Okay.
So the man's texted me it waslike talking about a big game coming

(05:55):
up. Looks like you weren't kidding, especially with your banter. I got
a match now. I told himthat my humor is like a fifty six
year old dad meets a retired highschool mean girl. Shut the front door.
Weird combo that works? I mean, like, how do you think
of these things? I don't know, But anyway, the whole point is
we all we okay, started talkingabout scrolling and scrolling and strolling all I've

(06:19):
been texting. Yeah, we've beentexting. So we're going to dinner on
Saturday night. But here's why Iwanted to talk about it. Okay,
So like we vibe really will yes? I don't know ooh, sorry,
I don't know if you guys remember, I'm five feet tall, no inches,
five feet flat, five feet nothing? Can I tell you how tall

(06:41):
I learned this man is? Imissed it on his profile. Oh it's
not on his profile. No,it's there, but I missed it.
I did not notice it when humorjust took over. Okay, how tall
is he? Six eight? Wait? Wait, six feet and eight inches?
Yeah, that's almost two feet tallerthan myself. Oh my, THK
know it? Actually? Oh my, he's going to what are we gonna

(07:04):
look like? You're gonna be athis hip? I think so? I'm
not kidding at least the bottom ofhis ripped cage? Bro Riley, what
do I do? We get alongso? Well? Are we gonna look
stupid? On his knees? Isgonna be your height? Really? You'll
can just take pictures like that?Six eight? Are you kidding? Wearing
heels? What are you gonna wear? I've got to, right, I
have to, But honestly, Ithink it might be funny If I don't,

(07:28):
You're gonna like hug his belly button. And I'm also already have a
pre plotted plan. Okay, Ithink I'm gonna tell the restaurant it's his
birthday. I'm not kidding. Youhave to do that because I went on
a double date. How long agois this? I don't even know how
long ago was. We are ata Mexican restaurant and I didn't know,
but the two guys said it wasmy birthday. They came out, isn't

(07:51):
that hilarious? Oh my gosh,I thrived. And they also it was
at a Mexican restaurant. They gaveme a sombrero. They gave me this
whipped cream whatever something or other andthey're singing and they're like, can we
get annoy And I was like,oh, they messed with the wrong person,
because you better bet I yelled highand that. Boys are like,
oh no, I don't know that. I think this backfired, and I'm

(08:15):
like, yeah I did. Yeah, you're embarrassing me because I'm the most
embarrassing to myself exactly. So Ithink you should totally do that. I
think that would be hysterical. Ithink so too. It just like plays
up that how funny? I am, Oh yeah, and you're hysterical.
The TikTok you sent me was likeor I think we I think you sent
it to me. And then wemade one about that I can't change,
Yes, but it's I hate whenI date guys who aren't as funny as

(08:35):
me. Yeah, you always dateguys who are not as funny as you.
I'm so funny. I can't somethingI really struggle with. Yeah,
it's really hard. I mean it'shard out you're in these streets trying to
find guys are a funny frick.But that's incredible. That's what's going on
in my life. I have atall ass date on Saturday. You met
on Hinge. See, I loveHinge. I because of social media,

(08:56):
I don't think i'd be able totrust dating app weight. That's a great
point because I put a picture ofus together on my Hinge profile. Yeah,
and people are literally saying like,isn't that Riley from TikTok? And
I'm immediately okay, yeah, letme just move on. Yeah not that,
no, trust me. But thenit's like think about it. It's
like, okay, are you swipingright on me or Riley on TikTok exactly?

(09:20):
And then for me, are youswiping right because you want to know
Riley or because it's Riley from TikTok? Literally? Yeah, so trusting that
is so hard, and people haveactually made fake profiles of me on Good
and Hinged People screenshot incident to meon DMS. I'm like, oh my
gosh, I've been talking to youfor weeks, like and I'm like,
oh no, you have not beentalking to me. Oh no, you
should get on Catfish. You shouldhelp them. What's the n TV show

(09:43):
Catfish? What? I don't knowwhat this is. This is like a
decade long show. Well, okay, so there's this guy. It's called
Catfish and they help people who thinkthat they're talking to like this. One
person thought they were talking to KatyPerry this whole time and it's not Katy
Perry and literally but the homie.Oh no. He was like talking to

(10:07):
the girl he was actually texting like. She was saying like, no,
I've been pretending to be Katy Perrytalking to you, and he was literally
like no, like I feel likeKate, this is something Katie would do,
Like Katie's punking me right now.Oh buddy. He had a whole
fantasy in his head. He literallywas like, Okay, what did we
want to name our children? Andshe named off three names and then he

(10:28):
was like no, she could haveread the Katie could have told you that
bro bro De Lulu man, ohgosh, see that. But we could
get you on there. It couldhelp the two guys, the host,
and the whole episode would be likepeople think they're talking to you on yeah
and be like nope, wait,maybe we should just do this alone.
Forget Kak, Yeah, let's juststart her either own. Speaking of I

(10:50):
forgot to tell you this. Didyou check that out? A girl email?
And saw that they want to castme for a reality TV show?
Excuse me? I have to readthat. I'm going to apply? Yeah
you should? Yeah, for areality TV show. They they haven't released
it yet and they can't say it. And I think it's one of those
things even if I know it,I'm not allowed to say it. Yeah,
MTV. It's like along the linesof Blow Deck and vander Pump Rules.

(11:13):
Holy shit, those are my twofavorite shows. Yeah, are you
kidding? Kidding? No? Ilocked right now. I'm in shock.
I texted my agent and she waslike, yes, apply, So I'm
applying and then I might have likea zoom interview. Yeah, I'm not
kidding. I'm so pumped right now. And it says I can also add
a friend to I'm gonna I'm puttingyour name down. We're gonna do go

(11:35):
on this show together. I'm notkidding. I don't know if I could
do reality TV. What excuse me? I am a connoisseur of reality TV.
That's all I watch. I lovemy little trash TV shows. Listen,
I'm just saying the whole time Iwatch, I'm like, I cannot
do that. Oh I could notdo that because I would get I would
be like the villain. But theygave me all these options of what is

(11:56):
your personality? Like I would bethe villain, but not on purpose,
just because they would pan over tome and I would look like this what
she just saying? What are theytalking? Would that'd be great? I
think they would. They would eatit up. So, yes, is
this not insane? Maybe I'd belike Maria from the Bachelor. I think
you would ended up liking her,and I think that they were. She
was supposed to be a villain,yes, but really she was just like

(12:18):
real Hello. Yeah, she wasjust kind of quirky and the best way
possible. I loved her. Soyeah, sorry, I know why I
just said that and where that camefrom. But I forgot to tell you.
Is that not crazy? I didnot see that email, and I'm
obsessed with everything that I just heard. Yeah, so I'm excited. Yeah
that's insane. Yeah, so yeah, that's why dating apps I just I

(12:41):
don't think could ever be my thing, just because I wouldn't trust it.
But and what's crazy is I've alwayssaid I would never respond to DMS on
Instagram. I would never date aguy from d I'm sure that does feel
a little weird. It's like,are you dming me because I have a
following? Or do you think I'mgenuinely pretty and you want to get to
know? Yeah? You know,like where what is behind? That is

(13:01):
tough? I bet so. I'vealways and I've always said I would never
date a guy that I met throughDMS. Ever, and how's that?
You know what's crazy? What isgolly? I don't Mike. I'm like,
I've done it like four hundred timesa day. I don't know any
different. It's like, how canI not see this big old thing in
so what should we nickname him?Bulldog? Period? Okay? He he

(13:28):
is so far from looking like abulldog, but we're just gonna call bulldog.
I don't mean it like that,but Bulldog he uh me on Instagram
when I was dating I probably shouldhave nicknamed Chris from Hinge. Maybe I'll
just call Chris from Yeah, Chrisfrom Hinge. That's fine. I think
that's amazing. Okay, yeah,Chris from Hinde. And then we've got
Bulldog. He DM me on Instagram. When I was dating other baseball boy

(13:54):
that played an Alabama who's now LSU. I was dating him my senior year
and he DMed me and said,hey, I'm from Georgia, you're from
Alabama, but I'm sure we canmake something work. And I said,
I said that's what his first damwas, And I said, I'm dating
a guy on our team really,and he was like, oh my gosh,
I'm so sli now, like,actually, okay, you said I

(14:16):
was pissed. I was like,you know, I'm dating a guy like
I thought I had posted him already. Yeah. I get defensive when people
do. I me know, whenyou know I'm dating someone, I guess
Okay, I think why I'm soshocked just because I know the two men
that you're talking about, and it'scrazy. I hate that you are mean
to This is Angel and he goes, oh, I'm so sorry. I

(14:37):
didn't mean I didn't know, andI didn't mean it like that. Yeah,
I didn't I said, I believehim. I said, no worries.
And so then we never talked againuntil October of twenty twenty two,
when I was a Dallas Cowboy cheerleader. He slid up on my story and
said, might have to start cheeringfor Dallas now. I said, ay,
we go to rival schools, butI'm sure we can figure something out.

(14:58):
He loves that that. I said, I'm sure we could. He
said, so where do we start? Maybe if I get your number first?
Oh? Yeah, I said,we could start there. Send him
my number, he said, wouldlove to. This man texted me probably
six different days. I know thisperiod periods periods of time in between each
and I didn't respond. I know. I responded, hey, hey,

(15:18):
one of the times I know,and then yeah, I actually have it
screenshoted. Yes, I know.There was a lot of space. I
remember because I was like, wait, what are you doing? Yeah?
Hey, why an't you Yeah?Yeah yeah. Then so then he had
to go back to the gram becausethe texting wasn't working. Come to Athens,
question mark I said, when,Well, whenever you'd you'd talk to

(15:39):
me, I'd invite you dot dotdot. Oh, I'd just show you
around and I mean that. AndI was like, oh, so if
I ever respond, then we cantalk about maybe me coming to visit.
Oh that makes sense to me.Yeah, And I said, well,
my cousins go to Athens a lotmaybe, and they have a lot of
friends to go there. Maybe I'lltag along next time, and he said
I would love that. I wouldlove for you too. Then maybe next

(16:00):
time you could show me around yourneck of the woods. I love it.
I just loved the message and didn'trespond. So then he's decided to
message me again and said, well, could we just talk until then?
I said, I'm so sorry,I suck at texting and responding. Sure
we can talk until then. Noneed to be sorry. You're probably super
busy like I am. Do youwant me to just text you? I
said yes. So then it's justback and forth of him always sliding on

(16:23):
on my stories, which I lovethat, yeah, and sending me my
own post. Oh it's so sweet. I love that too, saying her,
Wow, beautiful as always killing it. I'm so proud of you,
like he's just this been the sweetesthuman being for the longest time. And
it started on DMS. Then itturned into the Ear twenty twenty two,
insane, That's insane twenty twenty two. Then we were facetiming off and on,

(16:48):
snapchatting off and on, texting offand on. But anytime I was
talking to someone new, I wouldget really distant, maybe snap them once
a day. And it wasn't anythingother than I was just kind of staying
in touch because he being a streetbecause he was a good guy, and
I had no reason not to stayin touch. And even I even told
him my other guys I was talkingto, and he was like, why
do just want to be in yourlife? However, I can like sport

(17:10):
you. However, if you needthing, let me know, Like,
are you freaking kidding me? Sowhat guy is that patient? That kind
he is because he's lovely and sweet. But the problem is I would never
go visit him because I'm like Iand I would never take things serious because
I was like, dude, Ihaven't met you, yeah, and this
is why I'm so against DMS.And here I am talking to this guy
we met on DMS, but Ican't pursue it because I met you through

(17:34):
DMS and I'm so against that.And then I'm like, I'm not gonna
I don't know how. I'm sucha vibes person, just like y'all are
vibing over text, but in personis the key. Oh, I agree,
Like, we'll see how this goesSaturday and I'll update, but yeah,
I won't know till then either.And I've dated a lot of not
dated, but talked to situationshipped witha lot of people. Everyone's like,

(17:55):
but why am I'm like, becausewe vibes so well in person, Like
it's just a vibe and that's howI am me too. Well, guess
what if be a bulldog vibed?Oh, we all vibe, I mean
y'all vibe met in person and Iwas like, crap, this is way
better than I ever expected. Whydidn't I do this a long time ago?
No? Literally, so he's thebest. I'm just saying, don't

(18:15):
knock it till you try it.DMS, my yeah might work, but
they also like one message this ashey could like be the beginning of a
three year traumatic experience, so justbe careful. Is that how y'all started?
No? Oh, no, sowe actually we met in person,

(18:37):
okay, and then he deemed meafter because we didn't know each other's number
or anything. Where'll Yeah, So, I, like I said, I
literally have been so against if what'sfunny. This is not me saying anything
at all about myself. I'm justbeing honest. If I get to my
requests and my top requests, itis genuinely verified, very if I verified

(19:00):
verified verifier Yeah, yeah, yeah, athletes, musicians, yeah, what
the But I don't, That's whatI'm saying. And someone asked me yesterday,

(19:21):
well, why why Bulldog? I'mlike, he's lovely, gorgeous and
beautiful and sweet. But from theget go, why did I ever respond?
Which that's crazy because you're looking atthis I don't. I mean,
this is an MLB baseball player,like, this is an m NBA basketball
player, like, but I didn'tin fl football. I didn't respond,

(19:44):
didn't even open it, like,didn't even accept the request because I am
so against dms. But why Yeah? And Bulldogs asked me that before.
He's like, well why me?And I'm like, genuinely, I don't
know. Now I know, ohmy gosh, now I know. I
don't. I think I'll ever meetanybody more lovely than him. Well,
I think, yeah, I thinkthat's it. It was just fate.
It's a god thing told you toanswer it. I really think that,

(20:07):
and I don't mean that, likeI'm not trying to put so much pressure
on this one guy. Sorry,this doesn't work out and I'm kidding,
but really though, I think it'sjust proof that like it was supposed to
work out how it worked out fromDM, So maybe this hinge guy.
I don't know. We'll see.I mean, I'll ate y'all well after

(20:30):
It'll be after you get back fromspring break, so we're gonna have to
wait a hot second before we getthe deats. I mean, I I
don't know. Should I wait untilI see you up to you? What
do you want? I don't knowbecause I don't want to know like right
then and there. Oh yeah,we'll see, but I wear oh you'll
have to wear heels because of all. This is the first like date,
real date I'm gonna be going onand like, can we think about how

(20:52):
many years? Okay, which isamazing because it's terrifying though, Oh my
gosh, I'm like shitting my yes, what do you like how do you
talk to someone in person? Andhow do you eat in front of them?
And how do you literally how longdoes it last? We're going to
Is he picking you up? No? So I'm driving to his area just
because he knows more spots over there. Cool, and he planned the whole

(21:17):
thing. He put us in areservation. Shut the front door. See,
but that's a man, and thatis a man. Like a restaurant
that has like wine and charcooterie andlike whiskey, and I know, wait,
this sounds amazing. I'm exciting.But what do I wear? It
looks casual, but I don't thinkit is with wine and charcooterie. I

(21:37):
don't know. Yeah, oh okay, depending on the weather. An he's
six eight, I would wear bootiesif it's a little chillier, or heels.
Hell wear heels, because if you'reyou're gonna, it's gonna. I
thought about adorable. Oh my gosh, it's ten thirty seven, Not no,
that's that, that's your number.Oh my, oh my gosh.

(22:00):
And we're talking about the guy.I'm just saying, I really So,
there's this weird thing. I seethe number ten thirty seven, like AM
and PM. I see it inthe like sometimes in movies, it'll be
like in the background of a clock, it'll be ten thirty seven and I'll
catch it. That's insane, that'sscary. Like you know how many receipts
I have that are like ten dollarsthirty centcent stop all the time. That's

(22:22):
crazy, very strange. Yeah,and like we're recording right now, I
wanted to look at my phone andsay that it's just weird stuff like that.
It's insane. Anyway, I thoughtabout what if, like this is
putting way too much pressure on anew situation, but like, what if
this genuinely worked out? Imagine thisman in our family photos, We'd have
to really scoop far back to makesure his head's not cut off. I

(22:45):
also thought about it if I softlaunched him by like do you just cut
his head off? Which shut up? Actually kind of funny, But like,
I think he's taller than our uncleHarold. Yeah, Uncle Harold's probably
what like six y five. Thisis crazy, and I'm the shortest of
the family we are, see,And I thought Bulldog was tall with me
in six' three taking a picturewith him, I mean, no,

(23:07):
he's he is tall. He's sotall. He's huge, but not he
looks like a giant when we wereleaving his house, insanely tall. He
even called himself a giant. Standingnext He's like, I know I'm big,
but I didn't realize how bear wasuntil I looked in the mirror and
me and you standing next to eachother, and I was like, I
was like, no, like youactually are, Like he looked insane when
he was like standing there like wavingby test he looked like a gentle,

(23:29):
sweet giant. You know, heis a gentle giant. He's the t
I think. I was so hesitanttoo, because I'm like, you're a
really hot athlete. Yeah there's Imean, there's a stereotype. And then
you you're dming me, yeah,stereotype, like this is gonna go nowhere.
And then he's so sweet. I'mlike this isn't real, Like guys
don't look like you and talk likethis. Yeah. I even asked him

(23:52):
on Saturday night, I said,so, what books do you read to
like know how to talk to women? No? Really, He's like,
what are you talking about. Iwas like no, no, no,
no, like actually, what doyou listen to? What do you what
do you read maybe he gets advicefrom dad. Me and him were,
oh, my gosh, Okay,so that's another thing, y'all. I
met his parents the same weekend Imet him, And I know y'all are

(24:15):
going to be like, Riley,what are y'all feel? I mean,
realistically, y'all been talking for liketwo years on it, yes, And
I'm so glad that people. Areyou understand that welldon understands that I was
talking to people about it, becauseeven my dad was like, y'all are
exclusive, and I'm like, Dad, I've been talking to this dude off
and on for a year and ahalf, like nothing has been steady with
us. No, and I haven'tmet him in person, but we've gotten

(24:37):
to know each other. And itwas like I just like outside looking in
watching you guys this weekend, Likeit just worked. I literally, it's
the most insane thing ever. I'msuch a touchy feely person. Oh my
gosh, he didn't stop rubbing myback. No, with arm around me
rubbing my I was like, I'mliterally he was so funny, like he
vibed with all of it, andI like, so this is important to

(25:00):
me, Like if I meet someone'ssignificant other or whatever, like and saying
if fits reverse, like if Ibring someone to meet my friends, you
have to vibe with my friends aswell, and you have to make them
feel included, yes, or likeit's weird. Yeah, I don't ever
want my friends to be sitting therelike on the sidelines, Like I don't

(25:21):
want to let them hang out.I'm just gonna look at the sea.
Yeah. No, I don't everwant a friend to feel like a third
wheel. He was talking to allof us and genuinely was like listening.
You know what I mean. He'sa great listener. Yes, and like
was commenting on things that me andlike Lex gone, sorry else, said
Liz, And I was like,that's so wrong, Lex. Yes,
he was like responding and talking.Yes, I just I appreciate stuff like

(25:45):
that. Yeah, it's so simple, but it means a lot. I
can't even explain. And like Isaid, this could go nowhere and I
could be really just well, I'vebeen self sabotaging. Let me tell you,
guys, why I overthink something sogood in my life. I don't
know. Bulldog is amazing and I'msitting here like, oh, but what
if he just randomly stops liking me? Oh? What if I say something

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as a joke and it pushes Andwhy am I doing that to myself?
I don't know, But my momsent me this TikTok and it was talking
about what society has wrong about relationships, and it was saying that we've all
been told that to find a goodromantic partnership you have to find maximum compatibility.
That's actually wrong. You need tofind a minimum baseline of compatibility on

(26:29):
top of which you need complimentary Soabout ow And then that's what he was
saying, like, you don't needsomeone, Yeah, you're compatible with someone
who compliments you, Yes, andtalking about someone who completes you. And
when you think about someone completing you, it's not it's your yen and your
yang. It's kind of like,So when I've dated people, I'm a

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big reader, and so I've neverbeen one that disliked when guys play video
games because that gives me the perfecttime to read my book and uninterrupted because
they want to play their game uninterrupted. Yes, so that I think that's
where it's complimentary. You have toAnd so for him stuff like that he's
not the loudest in the room,I can be, And or when we

(27:14):
talk on the phone. I'm alwayslike, Dad Gummett, I am so
sorry. I just blabbered so much, and he's like, I know,
I love it, Like you keepthe conversation going, like we'll never run
out of things to talk about,Ozlona, I know we will never.
You promise we will not. AndI've just never thought about it that way
because I'm always like, I wanta golden Retriever. Yeah, yes,
but not with as much energy asme. Sure I am already a crackhead

(27:37):
golden Retriever. So you need likea you need like an eight year old
gold yes, an older, moremature, lower lifestyle. Yeah. So
I its just is crazy that throughdms on Instagram, I know, and
I'm over here using dating apps.It is squirking. So I think just
new age dating is different. Itis different. But and my mom and

(28:00):
I were talking about too, Idon't wonder with him ever. Yeah,
he's very clear on his intentions,his expectations, how he feels about communication.
Yes, yeah, And and soit's like all these people like dating
sucks nowadays with social media, andI'm like I used to be that person,
yeah, but now I'm like,wait, without social media, we
would have never met I know,and look at us now happy as he

(28:22):
said that. I want to justbe in public existing and someone come up
to me and be like, I'vebeen watching you from across the room.
You're lovely beautiful. Yeah, doyou mind if I sit with you?
Because first of all, it doesn'tgive me an escape route like I don't
so I obviously want it to belike a normal situation, not like a
a I'm sitting with you, Okay, that would be a little scatty.

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It doesn't, but it doesn't giveme. What I mean by escape root
is like when I get asked ona date, like right now, I'm
like, oh my god, howcan I get out of this? And
I don't mean it, but Iam busy, I have plans. Yeah,
yeah, that gives me like adate, yes that I'm not talking
myself out of going to and likejust already it's that they saw me,

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and you know you can feel thatvibe in person, that initial that's what
I want. I want a relationshipto fall into my lap. But it
just does. It's not realistic.It's not and people don't work like that.
No, And when you think abouthow many people are in this freaking
world. And yeah, the thoughtof like, oh, maybe just someone
that's right across the street from you, then you feel like, well,
what else is out there? Inmy opinion, like the fact that I

(29:36):
met someone from somewhere else. Yeah, I kind of like it. It's
kind of cool, makes us different, makes us have different things that we
can bring to the table to showeach other. I agree. So,
I don't know. Hell, I'mexcited about all the social media dating and
dating. I think it's the wayto go somewhat and don't be turned off
by it. I think we haveall been so like no, because then
a guy asked for your snapchat orask for your number, and he's not

(29:59):
actual you have to meet you,and he's not going to take you on
a date. You just don't knowwhere things are going to lead. And
I don't think you can turn yournose up to it until you try it,
give it a go. I agreecompletely. I think the world's changing.
Times are changing, it's just theworld we're in. Yeah, how
do we meet people these days?Yeah, that's the best way to meet
them. And I get to seehim again, and he told me this
morning. Seventeen days, seventeen daysexcited. I can't wait. You know

(30:22):
that's going to see him again?Good? Oh yeah. We'll keep you
all updated. They're a little Hingeand DM boy, well I guess bulldog
Boy but started with a DM startedwith the kids. Yeah, and what
does that song? I don't knowwhat. Yeah. We're happy, we're

(30:45):
good spirits and that's the best wayto be. Yep. So thank you
guys for listening. You're all thebest. Go download Hinge, download Bumble
check your dms, slide into theDMS. I don't know what to do,
but bowlds yes, absolutely. Welove y'all. Love you. Bye me