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September 18, 2024 • 35 mins
Riley & Cam discuss the new trend of being "demure," 23&Me results, and about their favorite exes.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to another episode of a Girl.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
We kind of wanted to.

Speaker 1 (00:06):
Be like, all right, welcome back to a girl storing.

Speaker 2 (00:15):
Imagine Camerine what and her cousin rally.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
Anyways, I'm welcome back to a Girl.

Speaker 3 (00:26):
What if we did that? We could, I mean, we
just did, Yeah, so might as well. Might as well
kind of make it very theatrical.

Speaker 2 (00:35):
Yeah, we need to bring some spice and some laughter
and some fun. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (00:40):
We told a joke on the last episode. If you
missed it, you might want to go back and hear it.
I promise you don't want to miss it.

Speaker 2 (00:46):
I can I can bring another one.

Speaker 3 (00:48):
Oh you have another sure, all right, reach into that pocket,
but on other one out All right, let's uh.

Speaker 1 (00:54):
Let's listen.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
What's a ninja's favorite drink?

Speaker 1 (00:56):
Oh no, let me think about this. Ninja's I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:03):
Wa oh my goodness.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
So if you're listening and you're not watching, she also
just did a karate chop.

Speaker 2 (01:11):
Yeah, I'm such a dork.

Speaker 1 (01:14):
No, I love it.

Speaker 2 (01:15):
Stop, I love being a dork. I'm not I'm not
being negative.

Speaker 1 (01:18):
No, no, no, I mean that's like when people like I
tell Cory this all the time.

Speaker 3 (01:23):
I'm like, oh, I love being weird. I love it,
Like if you're not, we're all a little weird.

Speaker 1 (01:28):
And if you're not, I.

Speaker 2 (01:29):
Just think you're lame, You're bland.

Speaker 1 (01:31):
Yes, you're boring, you're dull. A dud duds. So that
is one of my favorite words.

Speaker 3 (01:36):
I love calling people duds, Like if you're not a
little bit exciting, you're a dud.

Speaker 2 (01:40):
It's like those have you seen those tiktoks And it's
like she's a ten, but she's a little bit weird,
and it's that TikTok sounds like I have ketchup in
your muslin whenever.

Speaker 3 (01:49):
I literally did that with Corey because I was like, yes, okay.

Speaker 1 (01:53):
Also that makes me think demirr oh uh huh.

Speaker 3 (01:57):
Okay Corey and I had to look it up the
other day because I was like I see this everwhere.

Speaker 1 (02:00):
Yeah, it just means like chill, calm or what.

Speaker 2 (02:03):
Demure is like modest reserved, like so we probably.

Speaker 3 (02:07):
Why do you want to be Demir? Why is that
a thing? I don't know because I don't want to
be Demir.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
The originality of it was that person who is like,
you see how I'm dressing for work. I'm very demure.
I'm very whatever the it's I think it was like
a joke maybe about the gen z Ers of the world,
and I'm technically gen Z, but I don't know that.

(02:32):
I don't know the device.

Speaker 1 (02:33):
Okay, you can choose whatever you identify as.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
Yes, So they don't know what business casual is. Stop,
I'm serious, really they don't. So they're like, what's business casual?
And they'll wear like jeans in a blazer. It's like, no,
that's not quite it. No, I mean business casual is
genuinely dressing like your forty year old neighbor. Yeah, it's

(02:58):
kind it is business.

Speaker 3 (03:00):
It kind of is like blazer and pants or a
blazer and skirt.

Speaker 2 (03:05):
Right.

Speaker 1 (03:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (03:06):
Just because casuals in the word doesn't mean a casual
piece goes in.

Speaker 1 (03:09):
No, actually doesn't mean that at all.

Speaker 2 (03:12):
I think it just it just means you can wear pants, yeah, yes, yes,
and like you don't have to wear a heel, you
can wear a flat flat that's it.

Speaker 1 (03:22):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (03:22):
Well, and so demurr came from this, and now I think, maybe.

Speaker 2 (03:26):
Sure, that's what I understood.

Speaker 3 (03:28):
Well, I just have seen this everywhere, and then I
saw this TikTok of this girl like going crazy and
it's like we're not being demure, Like why would you
choose that?

Speaker 1 (03:35):
She's like, and I'm like, yeah.

Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, I'm not demure. I don't want to be. I'll
be like, yeah, I'm not. I like to have fun
and like be a disaster. I'm not demure. I'm a disaster.
Like I saw this one person that's like, I'm not demure.
I'm demonic. I know, completely go that way. But demonic's
just a scary word.

Speaker 3 (03:57):
It is.

Speaker 2 (03:57):
But they just mean they are a train.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
But why do you want to be put together? I
don't care to be put together.

Speaker 2 (04:03):
Here's my thing. I think there's a good balance. I
will and can be put together.

Speaker 1 (04:08):
Yes, yeah we all can. Yeah, like when you I
can when I want.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
I'm never ever, ever, hear me loud and clear, okay,
I will never be the girl in the corner of
a bar sitting there doing nothing like this.

Speaker 1 (04:24):
On her phone.

Speaker 2 (04:27):
Or just like looking around like bobbing their head to music.
Never I'm the one that's screaming and everyone's like, oh
my god, who is that And it's like, oh, it's her, Yeah,
she's crazy.

Speaker 3 (04:43):
See for me, you know, I'm at a bar when
I'm on stage doing a cartwheel across the stage exactly,
or there's a dance circle, you find me in the
middle of it.

Speaker 2 (04:55):
Yeah, you know we're at a bar together when there's
people in this doing the splits drops.

Speaker 3 (05:00):
Absolutely, Because if you see two girls at a bar
or in the middle of the road, either or and
they're doing the drop splits, it's probably Riley and cam Like.

Speaker 1 (05:10):
That's a good bet.

Speaker 2 (05:11):
It's like one of my only talents in life. So
I like to whip it out when I can. But
it doesn't hit the same by myself. No, I don't.
It's us thing it is. Or balancing drinks on your
head that's so fun.

Speaker 4 (05:24):
Yeah, but you won't catch me at a bar still
no like still like sitting, still standing, still drinking still no.

Speaker 2 (05:35):
No, And honestly, a drink doesn't even have to be
in my hand. I will act the same. Sober and tipsy.

Speaker 1 (05:42):
Is kind of fun. It's like guessing game. Am I drunk?
Am I sober? The world will never know.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
Have I had one drink? Have I had seven? You'll
ever don't know. You'll know once I start throwing up, though,
because that's my toxic trait.

Speaker 3 (05:53):
By the end of the night, I'm gonna throw up.
But if I don't, I was sober. Honestly though, I
think I have an allergy to alcohol.

Speaker 2 (06:02):
Something shut the front door.

Speaker 1 (06:03):
Okay, no, listen this, you want to get into Wait,
yes for a second. OMG.

Speaker 3 (06:07):
So when I went to go watch Corey Plage, I
was like, I have not had beer in so long.
I want a few beers while I'm sitting watch them
play baseball. I'm at a baseball game, eat Hamburg or
hot dog. I want a beer.

Speaker 1 (06:16):
Well, then I'm sitting there, I'm like, okay, why do
my cheeks feel so hot?

Speaker 2 (06:20):
Me? And then I love every time? So red?

Speaker 1 (06:22):
No, they are so red? And I was like, man,
am I allergic to beer?

Speaker 2 (06:26):
Now?

Speaker 1 (06:26):
Like it's been a lot of time since I've had it.
Maybe I am. So After game, I was like, Cral,
how hot and red my cheeks are. He's like, yeah,
what's wrong? I was like, I don't know, Maybe I'm
allergic to beer. Weird.

Speaker 3 (06:34):
So last night we're at dinner at Taco Mama drink
and Marks and for mom and Doc's birthday, and all
of a sudden, my cheeks get super red again. I'm
my mom feeling, and she goes, oh my gosh, why
are they so hot. I'm like, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (06:47):
Am I allergic to tequila?

Speaker 2 (06:48):
Too?

Speaker 1 (06:49):
So now I'm like, just alcohol? What the frick?

Speaker 2 (06:52):
I really think I'm allergic to alcohol because I could
have one drink where I can have seven team and
I'm completely throwing up at the end of the night,
like sick. It doesn't sit well.

Speaker 3 (07:03):
Maybe we have it in our genetics and we're just
not finding out. Maybe speaking of genetics, Peyton did twenty
three and meter, Okay, we have zero sha an American.

Speaker 2 (07:13):
I knew. I knew that about myself.

Speaker 1 (07:16):
Are you Kidney?

Speaker 2 (07:18):
You tell me nothing, you Peyton? Okay, apparently there are
Native American on my mom's sign of family.

Speaker 1 (07:23):
See, we thought on granddaddy's Okay, at granddaddy.

Speaker 2 (07:26):
Good Drew, actually good point. Look at our dad's good point.

Speaker 1 (07:30):
They get dark. So we thought like eighty Irish.

Speaker 2 (07:36):
I knew that Wales grandmother, and I think it's then
we are like.

Speaker 1 (07:40):
Wait, isn't royalty part of Wales?

Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yes? Sweet, so we're royalty. Literally, I think we are.
If you, if you really want to backtrack some history,
you need to call grandmother because she's done all of it.
She's done all of it on ancestry dot com back
to like like seventeen hundred. Wow, you also really.

Speaker 1 (08:02):
We have Oh, I don't remember what a small percentage of?

Speaker 3 (08:09):
Like, I don't have to say it because I don't
remember the country and I don't want to say it wrong.

Speaker 2 (08:14):
Okay, but just know.

Speaker 1 (08:18):
I'm not all the way white.

Speaker 2 (08:25):
Night.

Speaker 1 (08:29):
Heck, yeah, I don't remember the country, so I don't
want to say it wrong.

Speaker 3 (08:32):
I don't want to be like politically incorrect. So just
know though we have a small percentage.

Speaker 2 (08:38):
I need to do it.

Speaker 1 (08:39):
I want to do it.

Speaker 2 (08:40):
How much was it? I don't know.

Speaker 3 (08:41):
There was a Labor Day sell and I missed it.
I know I really dropped the ball in that one.
But I just found out about last night that Peyton
got her results back. But I think I might just
buy it. Anyways, I'm so intrigued. I'm so I really
should kind of know of Peyton's whatever.

Speaker 2 (08:55):
I should be similar, I should be identical even.

Speaker 1 (08:59):
I mean what I don't know though.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
See then we started thinking about how all that works
with genetics and like crossing over and like so some
of Mom's DNA based on her eggs and dads are like, whatever, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:13):
It could be slightly different, right.

Speaker 2 (09:15):
Or no, I don't think so you don't. I could
be wrong. Oh look.

Speaker 1 (09:21):
Now I want to see to know if it is
exactly the same.

Speaker 2 (09:25):
I don't know, like maybe percentage wise, like maybe the
percentages will be different just because of genetics and stuff,
but it will definitely be the same results you think.
I would be very shocked. And I think you need
to make some phone calls if it's different. That's what
I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (09:41):
You need to call mom, and I'm gonna stand at
the mailbox for when the mailman comes, yeah, and for
when the ups man comes, and yeah, exactly. I think
Chrissy and I would have a really tough combo.

Speaker 2 (09:57):
You need a long chat.

Speaker 1 (10:00):
Mm hmm that would be.

Speaker 2 (10:01):
That would be.

Speaker 3 (10:02):
Can you imagine what a turn of events in your life?
Honestly that I have anxiety you're thinking about it?

Speaker 1 (10:09):
Maybe I shouldn't just definitely doing just kidding, I need
to do. Let's do it and then we can come
on and talk.

Speaker 2 (10:15):
About it, because they're just gonna be different, similar but
different for sure.

Speaker 3 (10:20):
We stole both are royalty though, duh, that's kind of
we should I think I knew that without it, shouldn't we.

Speaker 1 (10:25):
Be wearing purple?

Speaker 2 (10:27):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (10:27):
Isn't that what that means? Royalty in purple? Ah Mmmm?

Speaker 2 (10:33):
Speaking of this is something that I literally didn't know.
So I don't even know if I want to talk
about this. But I have just full transparency vulnerability. I
didn't really grow up in church. Like inside church, we
didn't read the Bible at home and do the whole thing.
Not something we did. Randomly. Parker brings me her little

(10:56):
kid Bible, not the children's version, but like you know
those small time and she wanted me to read it.
So I just opened to her random page and started reading.
Well then I was invested, right because I'm a reader
at heart. Yes, and great story. We were reading the
chapter of John Wow. Anyway, so we ended up sitting
there and reading the entire chapter because we were so interested.

(11:19):
Did you know that they were mocking Jesus because he
was saying that he was like the king of the Jews,
and so when he was on the cross, he was
wearing they put him in a purple robe plus the
crown that's never pictured.

Speaker 1 (11:36):
The purple robe.

Speaker 2 (11:36):
Yeah, because it was he was like mocking the royalty
aspect of King of Jews. You just reminded me of
that when he said.

Speaker 1 (11:43):
That, Wow, why don't they ever picture him?

Speaker 2 (11:45):
It came off before he was on the cross because
still like when they were walking home too, it was
like the crown of thorns and a purple robe thing.
I'm just I've literally never heard anyone talk about.

Speaker 1 (11:55):
The purple robe.

Speaker 2 (11:56):
Where do I go? Right?

Speaker 3 (11:59):
I feel like that's a making fun of purple royalty. Yes,
it adds, it goes with the crown. Absolutely.

Speaker 2 (12:06):
I was like, why why is everyone forgetting about the
purple robe anyway?

Speaker 1 (12:10):
That's kind of important. No, I'm glad you shared that. Wow.

Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, I was shook. I've never seen purple robe.

Speaker 1 (12:18):
Like what happened to the purple robe that Jesus wore?
We'll look it up?

Speaker 2 (12:21):
Like why is it being lost? In translation? Yeah, no
one's drawing that.

Speaker 1 (12:25):
Yeah, it's not.

Speaker 2 (12:27):
It's not and it's not even like in a pile beside.

Speaker 1 (12:29):
The cross, you know, like you can't see it anywhere.

Speaker 2 (12:32):
It's not there.

Speaker 1 (12:34):
Where's the purple road? If anyone knows, please message.

Speaker 2 (12:37):
Us, let us genuinely, I'm curious.

Speaker 1 (12:39):
Yeah, or if we find out what maybe I mean
and look.

Speaker 2 (12:43):
Like I said, I'm a reader, but retention. Sometimes I
forget some sentences and it doesn't completely settle there. It
could be it could be explained where the purple did
they burn it? They could have, and I didn't retain
that part. I don't know, so I could be glazing
over something important also, but true, all I heard was
purple robe. But I've never seen that.

Speaker 1 (13:05):
Research needs to be done.

Speaker 2 (13:07):
I agree.

Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yesterday I kind of touched on this.

Speaker 3 (13:11):
I was listening to Megan Maroney and her podcast and
one thing that kind of cracked me up is she
was talking about like a bunch for x's and.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
Her favorite X oh, and I was like, favorite X.
That's kind of a funny thing. That made me think about,
like who's my favorite ex? And it's like, the reason
this person is my favorite X is.

Speaker 3 (13:26):
Because I dated them after a really toxic relationship. So
it kind of helped me get over and get out
of a toxic relationship. And then while sitting at his
baseball game, yeah, I was above a dugout and Corey
was playing at Albama for Georgia and saw me in
the stands and then that is when he DM me
on Instagram. I did let Corey know that I was
dating someone at the time, but literally, this kid that

(13:48):
I dated got me out of a toxic relationship and
I was at his baseball.

Speaker 1 (13:52):
Game when I met Corey. I didn't meet Corey then, but.

Speaker 3 (13:54):
Like I introduced that so literally he's my favorite X
because he got me out of something terrible and introduced
me basically to Corey.

Speaker 2 (14:01):
Yeah, because y'all would have never seen each other.

Speaker 3 (14:03):
No, So it really got me thinking about holy crapola,
people that are like in your life and like because
even when I look back at my ex, the toxic one,
I'm like, yeah, oh, but then I'm like, wait.

Speaker 1 (14:17):
A second, Wait a second.

Speaker 3 (14:20):
There was something some things even that were good that
came from that. But it just really got me thinking about,
like even thinking about like faith and God. It's like
all these people that are put in your life for
a reason and you are angry at them, you can't
stand them, and honestly, they don't deserve an ounce of
any kind of credit for me, Like, no, we're not thanking.

Speaker 1 (14:41):
This is not a thank you.

Speaker 3 (14:42):
It's a thank you in terms of like to ourselves
kind of.

Speaker 2 (14:46):
I was actually just talking about this really yeah. So
first of all, let me bring up this TikTok because
I have a few things to say. Okay, I saw
a TikTok one day and it has stuck with me,
And if I knew the original crea, I would just,
you know, tell him. I have no idea. I don't remember.
I think I reposted it though, if y'all want to go. Look.

(15:08):
She was like, y'all tried to marry the people who
are just trying to like teach you a small thing
in life. It's like he all he did was put
you on to the public, honey mustard, and you're trying
to marry the man who was just supposed to put
you onto public. No, but really such a good point.

Speaker 1 (15:27):
But actually there are people.

Speaker 2 (15:29):
There's never gonna be someone that comes into your life
that's just there for no reason. I believe that completely.

Speaker 3 (15:34):
But but it might quite literally be in there because
your new Starbucks order is what they used to get
and it was like litter, this is actually so good,
thank you.

Speaker 2 (15:41):
Yeah, and that's why you're in my life. Okay, I
need that Starbucks order.

Speaker 3 (15:45):
See, and that als amisy, she said, Uh, she gives
so many chances, and she's like I literally gave eight
thousand chances to show me why you're not the one.

Speaker 2 (15:53):
Yeah, oh I got me too, me too. I think
my favorite, my favorite X is also my least favorite
EGX Okay, cool, does that make sense? Maybe least favorite
because he sung he was the worst a chotch Lee's

(16:14):
favorite because he's the worst person anyway.

Speaker 3 (16:18):
Congrats though, Yeah, you know what exciting, like you literally
are the worst, like you out of all of our exes,
you get to be pinned as like the worst.

Speaker 1 (16:29):
Oh yeah, that's a dub.

Speaker 2 (16:32):
But he's also my favorite, okay, and that kind of
goes to show you know what's wrong with me? Just kidding.
He's my favorite because he truly And this is what
I was talking about with a friend. I got back
in touch with one of his friends actually, and we
were good friends like when we were dating and stuff.

(16:53):
And he reached back out to me and was just
talking to me, like catching up innocent stuff like don't
get weird, don't be weird. I don't need to text message, honest,
please don't text me.

Speaker 1 (17:03):
No.

Speaker 2 (17:06):
It was friendly and promised we were and he was
just talking he said, like, you know, like from my
point of view and the whole thing, like being his friend,
but like enjoying you. It was hard. It was a
hard watch. You know, it was hard for me.

Speaker 3 (17:23):
I can imagine to really like someone's girlfriend but know
that your best friend's an asshole tour.

Speaker 1 (17:30):
Yeah, that's tough. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (17:32):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (17:33):
And it's also like, how how are you friends with him?
To be honest, you know, that's that's a very question.

Speaker 2 (17:39):
That's kind of not my business. No, not anymore. I
don't give a ship. No, yeah, but yeah, good, good question, though,
very valid question. And when he was saying all this stuff,
I was like, yeah, it was probably hard to watch,
but you know what, like I said, honestly, there's a
bright side in every situation.

Speaker 1 (17:59):
Yeah, and me.

Speaker 2 (18:03):
Like figurative figuratively and sometimes literally on my knees begging
someone to love me correctly and like see my worth
and like.

Speaker 3 (18:16):
Just like I have chills you talking, and for some
reason side note, when I get chill bumps, my hair
on my arms stands literally straight up.

Speaker 2 (18:25):
No, no, y'all, it's straight up.

Speaker 1 (18:28):
It is straight up.

Speaker 3 (18:29):
Okay, But that gave me chills because I can think
of certain things, even like bragging about my grades in school.

Speaker 1 (18:35):
Because I'm like, think I'm smart. I literally about to
graduate the pore. Please think I'm smart.

Speaker 2 (18:39):
And like I would be like, you know, I don't
do this to you, but I do this for you.
I don't do this to you. I do this for you.

Speaker 3 (18:45):
So things like that, and you're literally trying to be
their parent as well as their girlfriend to prove even
more of like I'm taking care of you, I can
do all these things.

Speaker 1 (18:52):
I'll be a great whatever one day.

Speaker 2 (18:54):
Please, I'm begging you to see what I bring to
the table over and over and over, yes, and in
like simultaneously, while you're doing that, you're really truly proving
yourself to yourself. Yeah, honestly. Yeah, Because like before I
dated him, I if you would have asked me what
you bring to a table in a relationship, I probably

(19:15):
couldn't have told you, Like right, I could have said
generic things like I'm nice, I won't cheat you think
like that, but like truly being with him and having
to constantly fight for myself, yes, I could name you
probably seventy things right now.

Speaker 3 (19:30):
I could too, And it's not out of being like
no ego, No, it's genuinely like I can acknowledge and
now see all the things that I bring to the
table now a lot of people don't bring to the table,
and things that I'm so proud of, yes, so proud of,
because it's not things you can buy, it's not things
you can honestly learn and have, Like, it's qualities about us.

(19:53):
It's character, yes, of who we are. And I mean
that is crazy. Say, like I literally can think of
because I remember times he was talking about other girls
or this about other girls or this, and I'm.

Speaker 1 (20:02):
Like, well, by eye blah blah.

Speaker 3 (20:04):
Yeah, but like today I practice, I did blah blah blah,
Like I'm athletic, Like right, oh, I'll do whatever on
the field so that you can see that I'm like
literally the stupidest things to you.

Speaker 1 (20:17):
No, I agree to try to prove yourself and it did.

Speaker 3 (20:20):
It was like I do all of these things and
you don't even acknowledge it.

Speaker 2 (20:24):
And like I feel like I low in the midst
of all of that, Like I lost a little bit
my own personality because I was so busy trying to
adopt their personality and like I wanted to be preach
I wanted to be them in a way in a
so weird and sick and twisted mindset. It sucks. But
like when you're trying to be everything for someone you like,

(20:46):
forget who you are. You're like, I don't even.

Speaker 3 (20:49):
Know that, And I started just getting numb. Yeah, yeah,
I got so numb, like in how to handle situations
and everything.

Speaker 1 (20:57):
So you do just get a warped sin of yourself.

Speaker 2 (21:01):
Like you real and general.

Speaker 1 (21:04):
I mean, it's it's weird.

Speaker 3 (21:05):
It's weird because you like I lost confidence in the
terms of with him and how he viewed me, and
I didn't feel like he thought very highly of me.
But I gained confidence because of all the things I
went through and getting on the other side.

Speaker 2 (21:19):
Couldn't said it better. Literally, while I was with him,
I was at my lowest, lowest self worthy and value
of myself. As soon as I left that relationship, And
I think I'm sending that in that same message, like
I've never been more happy and confident in myself. It
was the craziest mind shift, and like, of course I
was down and like upset and depressed there for a

(21:40):
while because my entire like world changed. Yeah, it was
a lot to take in and like I backtracked multiple times,
like uh, because I would get like anxious, and I
would think about like him having the freedom like of
like other women now and like moving on, you know
what I mean? Oh yeah, and maybe that was just

(22:00):
an ego. I don't know, weird jealousy.

Speaker 3 (22:03):
The moving on thing was hard because I went through
the same thing. There's no jealousy of like, oh this
girl gets you. No, it's more of like wow, now
seeing you do things and treat someone and be with
someone when it's like you.

Speaker 1 (22:15):
Never did that for me, right.

Speaker 3 (22:17):
That's where it was hard and hurtful, because it hurt
too to see, Wow, you're actually taking someone out to
dinner and putting her on your Snap story after a
week after you and I ended, like seeing all those things,
and it's not the thought of someone else being with
them at all.

Speaker 1 (22:32):
It's more just like a what what is going on?

Speaker 2 (22:38):
Like you're maybe we were in their life to teach
them how to value a relationship, but it wasn't supposed
to be and that's annoying.

Speaker 3 (22:48):
I I think I've been in even situationships after the
fact where I've really taught someone so much.

Speaker 1 (22:53):
And I finally, I don't know who told me this.
I don't know where I heard this or whatever.

Speaker 3 (22:58):
But it was like, you are getting another chance, but
your second chance is with somebody else. So this is
still another chance, but it's with somebody else. I can't
give you another chance, but you have learned from me
and you are getting another chance, but it's with somebody else,
with you the best of luck, and like that's great,
Like you now can go treat someone else amazing because

(23:18):
you didn't.

Speaker 1 (23:19):
Treat me it amazing.

Speaker 3 (23:20):
Yeah, and it sucks, but then it's like and it's.

Speaker 2 (23:23):
So frustrating too, like when you literally have in your
hands and you hand them my playbook on what to
do and how to do it yeah and why yeah,
and they just don't give a shit, so you know, and.

Speaker 3 (23:36):
That that's frustrating, so frustrating, but then it also taught
me moving forward, Like there's a hard it's like a
weird line of you have to let your partner know
things in order to like love you better, treat you better,
Like there are certain things like you have to talk through,
but then you've learned, you learn too. I shouldn't have
to tell someone how to love me or talk to
me or pursue me. Like there's certain things where it's

(23:57):
like someone who cares about you. They're going to do
these things. You're not gonna have to spell it out.
But then there's times, I mean, that's such a love boys.
But sometimes boys don't always think about the same things
girls think about, so you do kind of have to
guide them and tell them the things like this hurts
my feelings or if you did this, yes, and the
right person will take that and be like, oh my gosh,

(24:18):
absolutely yes, fix it right then and there.

Speaker 1 (24:20):
And then there's other things.

Speaker 3 (24:21):
Like like the fact that I was asking my ex
like can you please just sit by me on the couch?

Speaker 1 (24:25):
Do you mind kissing me? Do you mind putting your
arm around me? Will you just like touch me?

Speaker 2 (24:29):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (24:29):
Like you can just go like this and I'll be happy, honestly.
Can we like hold pinky something?

Speaker 3 (24:34):
You don't have to hold my whole handy with our
legs straight out and like touch our toes toes?

Speaker 2 (24:38):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (24:40):
So Like those are the things where it's like I
should never have to tell somebody how to like love
me and want me.

Speaker 2 (24:48):
Because like, truly like to be loved is to be known.
Like I will never let someone just like not know
me ever again, you know what I mean? Like someone
I thought I was so in love with and like
who made me feel loved at times piece of shit whatever,
but made I like I felt loved honestly, Yeah, But now,

(25:11):
like looking back on it, like first of all, all
the cheating and stuff like obviously there was no love there,
but like even I don't even know that he could
have named my favorite color, like you know, things like
like basic shit, like I don't. I don't think he
knew me. I think he knew a version of myself
that I gave him. And maybe this is my fault too,
because I wanted to be chosen by him so bad. Yeah,

(25:35):
and like finally the girl who like made him act right.
I think it was like I wanted to I wanted
to be good enough to yes.

Speaker 3 (25:43):
And I think we get caught in the cycle of
proving ourselves, proving ourselves that we're doing all these things,
rather than knocking down walls for them to get to
know us.

Speaker 1 (25:52):
Right, there's no like there. And then all the other stuff.

Speaker 3 (25:56):
That's going on, the fighting, the cheating, the yelling, the everything,
those are more moments and those happened more times than not,
so those are those are taking away from the time
to even get to know one another. So there was
never like time to get to know one another. No,
there was never. It was not a thing.

Speaker 2 (26:12):
It was just distractious.

Speaker 3 (26:13):
Yes, so, but it's crazy and it's funny. Going back
to MAGMARONIY like that podcast, y'all. If I will not
listen to it, I need howd out my gosh. She
was talking about too, like making excuses like you do,
just make any excuses because she said she found she
was in ourn ex's shower and found a long, dark
piece of hair.

Speaker 2 (26:29):
Me, I've done that.

Speaker 3 (26:31):
She tried to convince herself, like, maybe it's his, like
his hair is not this long, but maybe it is his,
like and she I tried to.

Speaker 2 (26:36):
Convince yourself it was mine. Right, I'm blonde. Yes, it
was a long I swear that piece of hair was
three feet long. I know who it belongs to. Now.
Oh congrats, by the way, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (26:49):
You made your mark, You marked your territory. She probably
went like this, she wrote, No, literally.

Speaker 1 (26:55):
Put it on the freaking literally.

Speaker 2 (26:57):
Literally, she probably did. I'm not kidding anyway, match made
and heaven if I've ever seen it. Yeah, but I
was making expense. I swear to god, I was in
the mirror in the bathroom, like maybe maybe from wait, psychopathy,

(27:19):
Like I just could be I literally want to go
back to that girl doing stuff like that all the
time and.

Speaker 1 (27:27):
Be like, get up, get a grip.

Speaker 2 (27:31):
What are you doing?

Speaker 3 (27:33):
Honestly, what does he do for you? Name me three
things you can't can't? Yeah, it makes me mad for myself.

Speaker 1 (27:41):
But anyways, circle, yeah, the whole circle.

Speaker 2 (27:46):
It all literally just proved myself to me, like I
know exactly what I bring to the table. I know
I can be good for someone. Yeah, I have no doubt.

Speaker 1 (27:54):
And I think it shifted my perspective.

Speaker 3 (27:57):
I know we've talked about this like way long ago,
about like when we step into a bar, Yeah, we
know we're about to be a good ass time. I
don't care if I walk in and I'm the prettiest
person at that bar.

Speaker 1 (28:07):
I know I'm not.

Speaker 3 (28:08):
There's always gonna be someone prettier. But everything I have
to offer internally that is rare and you're not gonna find.
But I wouldn't have known all of that if it
wasn't through going through all this, Like I gained so
much confidence internally like who I am, and I feel
like that kind of confidence shines so much brighter than
it's like.

Speaker 1 (28:24):
Oh I look so pretty today, Like yeah, you feel good.

Speaker 3 (28:26):
But like when you know and you're sure of yourself
and you've discovered those things that you love, then so
that's another thing. You're able to find all these things
that you love about yourself and the right personal day
one day will love all those things about you without
you having to tell them, like and say these are
the things I love about myself.

Speaker 1 (28:42):
They just automatically other things about you I will.

Speaker 2 (28:44):
Say too, Like about the physical appearance, appearance confidence that
comes next, Yes it does. It's like step by step,
like once you start loving yourself internally and every all
of your good qualities and stuff. Yeah, like also, okay,
I'll get step. It's it's genuinely hard for you to

(29:05):
talk down about yourself after that, which I'm not saying
you won't because I do it every days. Yeah, I
do it probably, But like, yeah, compared to what I
used to, I used to look in the mirror and
be like h every time, Yes, it didn't matter what
I've had a full face to make up on. It
just woke up. It didn't matter. Now I sometimes feel
like I'm slaying when I just wake up, Like I'll

(29:26):
wake up and I have the messiest hair and literal pimples,
but I will.

Speaker 1 (29:31):
Literally send a snap to queen and be and I'm like, wait,
I kind of like that. Yeah, it's kind of cute. Wait,
I come with good, like my messy is kind of cute.

Speaker 2 (29:39):
What And I'm probably like, to the naked eye, someone
who has no idea who I am or all these things,
I probably look like a trash can. But I like it.

Speaker 1 (29:49):
I love it.

Speaker 2 (29:51):
I love it. Yeah, but so and I was gonna say,
too quick note, Yeah, a little piece of advice from
my therapist to you.

Speaker 1 (30:02):
Oh I'm excited about this. Ueah, So.

Speaker 2 (30:06):
Take a picture, a baby picture of yourself, and put
it on every mirror that you have.

Speaker 1 (30:11):
I'm gonna have arms because sticking straight up. That's so sweet.

Speaker 2 (30:16):
No, I know, because I also made a TikTok's like,
oh yeah, protecting like your younger self, but like genuinely like,
it is so hard to look at yourself with a
baby picture of your like you cute little baby self,
because you you see a pure, innocent, like sweet version
of yourself that hasn't had any hardship yet, Like.

Speaker 1 (30:36):
You want to cry. I know, I literally think I'm
tearing up.

Speaker 2 (30:39):
I know you can't be mean to her. She's cute
and little and to the same person.

Speaker 3 (30:45):
That and then when you're dating someone, hmm, they're treating
that little girl, however they're treating you.

Speaker 2 (30:52):
I know. I did tell my ex this is bad.
When we were breaking up. I said, I can't wait
for you to have a daughter because I'm praying that
she meets some mother effort just like you, and I
can't wait.

Speaker 1 (31:08):
That just stopped me in my tracks.

Speaker 2 (31:10):
That's so mean, but I I.

Speaker 1 (31:13):
But it's like, how do you not think about that?
How did you not think about if you had a
daughter and someone was treating her? How you treat me? No?

Speaker 3 (31:22):
Unacceptable. I'm glad you said it to him. Maybe he
took a step, but he didn't. But won't hey will never.

Speaker 2 (31:29):
But it's fine. I literally manifested it.

Speaker 1 (31:31):
You actually did.

Speaker 3 (31:33):
Okay, I swear this is the last thing I'm gonna
say before we close this out, talk about manifesting.

Speaker 1 (31:38):
Okay, uh huh, So I'm telling Okay, where was I?

Speaker 2 (31:42):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (31:43):
I was talking about like.

Speaker 3 (31:44):
One of my best friends who I haven't really talked
to him forever. And I was saying something about her,
like like, oh, she's gonna be the speech check.

Speaker 1 (31:49):
I haven't seen her while whatever.

Speaker 3 (31:50):
She texts me, I'm like, weird, okay, crazy okay. So
then Corey had this thing for his ankle that was
shaped as a horse shoe. I'm like, oh my gosh,
funny story. You're supposed to kee these upright to keep
the good luck. And I'm one of my best friends
from childhood. She gave us a party favorite one time
and it was a horseshoe and it's like, don't turn
upside down or all the bad luck goes out homegirl. Literally,
snapchatty me. I haven't spoken to her in four years.
Snapchatted me something about like something like random. I'm like,

(32:14):
holy frick the fact that I just talked about you.
Then another person, his brother, texted me, asking about something
and I was like, oh my gosh, no, I haven't
talked to him and forever, like I hope your brother's
doing well.

Speaker 1 (32:23):
It's crazy.

Speaker 3 (32:24):
He snapped me the next day and I was like, hey,
if you're ever in New York, let me know, like
with Corey and Baseman. So and I was like, holy crap, Ola,
what are you talking about Then we're sitting on the beach,
I'm telling the girls about another person.

Speaker 1 (32:36):
They snapchat me.

Speaker 3 (32:36):
And I literally was like, okay, so one day, like
I'm gonna have a million dollars. The podcast is literally
about to like blow up our social medias are are
you freaking kidding me?

Speaker 2 (32:46):
I literally don't even have to say things out loud.
Sometimes I swear y'all are gonna think I'm nuts, But
like in my head, I'll be like I'll be thinking
about someone or something and they'll call me and it happens.
They'll call me, they'll text you okay, and they'll or
they'll like even a picture like it's something or well
that time I see every day, Yeah, that's gonna mean

(33:07):
something one day and I'm gonna understand. I'll be thinking,
I'm like, I wonder if drummer boy texted me, and
I'll pick up my phone and there's no message, and
then it comes right there like at the same time
I pick up my phone.

Speaker 1 (33:19):
Okay, So I'm saying it all the time.

Speaker 3 (33:21):
Well, so like if you start thinking about what you
want to happen with all this, I'm gonna say it
out loud and I think collectively. I really think. So
in case I were wondering, I think you should spread
the word about Ada girl. I really think you'd't hop
on this train before.

Speaker 1 (33:39):
It's just huge.

Speaker 3 (33:40):
We're about to that way, you can be like one
of the first that have listened and gotten to know
us and been there from Yeah, you can.

Speaker 2 (33:47):
You can genuinely say you're in og ag oh am g.
That just was on the spot and I love it.

Speaker 1 (33:56):
Wow, hell yeah, So that's gonna be a thing.

Speaker 2 (33:59):
O G A.

Speaker 3 (34:02):
And if you're listening right now and you go like
and comment and follow in all you'll get first merch DIBs.

Speaker 2 (34:08):
Oh my god, wait, okay, perfect, I love it.

Speaker 1 (34:13):
We love y'all.

Speaker 2 (34:14):
Y'all are O g ags eggs the eggs the eggs.

Speaker 1 (34:22):
But what if we have abs to out of boys?

Speaker 2 (34:25):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (34:25):
O g A b's it works. That was really good.

Speaker 3 (34:30):
So all of this manifesting that just happened, y'all watch,
it's all gonna it'll come to fruition soon.

Speaker 1 (34:37):
I feel that, I really do.

Speaker 3 (34:40):
Yeah, we were told to make sure we were a fist,
and I think I.

Speaker 2 (34:45):
Think we've been doing a good job.

Speaker 1 (34:47):
I feel about this right now.

Speaker 2 (34:48):
But I think we've been doing it okay, so wild.

Speaker 3 (34:52):
I've been like in here so and I was like,
I'm gonna have Mike Bird and I was like, wait,
whose lips have been all me?

Speaker 2 (34:58):
I feel like it should glorox why mmmmm? Anyway, we
love you guys.

Speaker 1 (35:03):
Oh, this is so fun and we're just so.

Speaker 2 (35:05):
Happy to be back.

Speaker 3 (35:06):
And please message us, like seriously, let us know, hit
us up, follow our socials. I have been quite literally
slacking to the max on them, but we're back.

Speaker 2 (35:17):
Baby. I'm gonna make some graphics this afternoon. I can
post some things, just some random things.

Speaker 1 (35:21):
I'm just gonna clip.

Speaker 3 (35:23):
Well, once you give me these, I'll do some of
the other ones and just put them out there.

Speaker 2 (35:26):
Yeah and yeah, we'll get it done.

Speaker 1 (35:29):
It's freaking go all right.

Speaker 2 (35:31):
I love you guys.

Speaker 1 (35:32):
Bye bye
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