ep. 5 - We've Got The Ick

Riley and Cam break down what are dating icks in their world.

Episode Transcript

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What is up, y'all? Weare back with At a Girl Podcast.
My name is O'Riley White and thisis Cam and we are gonna kind of
have some fun today. We're gonnatalk about some of our funny dating stories.
Yeah, they haven't too many,I know, and it's it's one
of those things like they're funny tome and when I share them out loud,

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I'm like, Okay, Riley,maybe you shouldn't share that, because
what does that say about you?That, yeah, to date with a
guy that did that? No,I totally agree. Sometimes when I share
these stories, they're like, wait, so did you cut him off after
that? And I'm like, oh, no, a few more dates actually,
yeah, you know you're right.That does sound really that's embarrassing.
Oh goodness. And then we're gonnakind of move on and talk about our

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X and I just want to putout there before you jump down our throat.
They're just silly things, Yay,they're not. It's not deal breakers,
they're not you know whatever. It'sjust silly things that men do that
we cringe up. Yeah. It'snot necessarily a red flag. Yeah,
it is just very light, youknow, red flag is kind of heavy
and then and then we're going toactually talk about, you know, what

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our type is, what are weactually looking for in a guy, and
maybe even how we got there?Ye oh yeah, how has it changed
over the years, Yes, thethings that we value. I'll go ahead
and start with a story. Andthis one's not as bad as the ones
that I'm getting into. But it'sthe first date I actually ever went on.
I think I was a junior inhigh school. Yeah, I don't

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think I was sixteen yet because hehe was, but I wasn't. And
we went enoing for those who hadan eno you know, that was kind
of the thing that the cool kidsdid, you know, stab them?
You know? Did y'all call ityourself? Like granola granola girls? Yes,
Braids in our hair, yeah,chacos literally if you were not or

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or the Patagonia shorts, yeah,I'm visioning it. If you weren't wearing
that while you eno? Were you? Actually? Really you are a like
poser, You're not a real granolagirl? Did you throw on a headband
two to kind of touch it allthe really thick ones that scrunch to bring
it all together? So now wepainted this picture for y'all, so I'm

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going eenaing with this guy nice.He dipped a lot at the time,
which if he knew me, it'slike, Riley, what were you doing?
I don't know. I was notfor it and he knew it.
So right when I first get intothe truck, when he picks me up,
he's like, by the way Ithrew out on my dip. Oh
yeah. I was like, wow, that means a lot because I told
I never kiss a dipper. That'schanged, but I told him I would

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never kiss a dipper, so hatethrows it all out. We go to
the preserve and we're walking down andI slip and fall. I mean when
I say I bust it, likeI bust it, and he just stands
there and just laughs and laughs andlaughs, which I get because it's awkward.
But I was also like, areyou gonna at least help me up?
Yeah? Right, Like I'm heresitting in the dirt and you're not

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gonna at least be like I'm gonnashow you. He's like, hands on
his knees, laughing, been overlaughing. Yes, it was like,
at least I guess I'm funny.I don't know I made him laugh.
Is that a good sign, soI put this enup. We're sitting there.
He awkwardly puts his arm around me, and I'm like, oh,
I don't know what to do.Like we're laying in this eno, but
I'm not super comfy with you,so this is really awkward. He pulls

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out his phone and he's like,do you want to listen to some music?
Oh? No, oh I'm abig music girl. Yeah, I'm
like absolutely, I love music.Pandora, oh god, no, hey
against Pandora. It used to bethe Ish, But you don't get to
choose songs if you don't have premium, right, So we just had to
choose a station and shuffle uh huhwhich station? And it was not even

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a speaker, Like he didn't bringa speaker. We were just on the
phone. We were listening to iton his phone. There was no speaker,
and I actually don't remember the station. I just remember already like you
know where you have an ick andyou're like, this can't get over fast
enough. So we're sitting there listeningmusic off his phone and he goes,
hey, can I braid your hair? Oh? Sweet? I was.
I was like, well, haveyou seen those tiktoks where it's like you

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ask him, hey, what isthis makeup product? And he knows it,
and it's like, how do youknow it? Yeah? Right,
x y? Or what's the sound? Who cooked here? Yeah? Exactly.
So I'm sitting there asking a braid. I said, who taught you
had a braid hair? Huh?Yeah, braid your your ex is hair?
Huh interesting exactly. So it wasjust weird for a lot of reason.
Sisters, no sisters, two brothers. Okay, yep, I know

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all about him. Yeah. Sothen, actually, funny thing, the
girl he dated for years and yearsand years is actually not one of my
best friends. Oh so I'm like, you taught him how to braid hair?
Yeah? Nice. So he sitsthere and he's braiding my hair.
We're listening to music off of hisphone, and I finally am just like,
you know, I'm tired. Canwe can we go back to the
house? Yeah? Yeah. Therewas no second date. And then he

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told me he got mad at mebecause I didn't go on a second date
and I didn't like him by theway, I started dipping again. Okay,
it's like, cool, you're theone that's gonna have mouth cancer.
No, right, that's your jawto worry about my mind exactly. Yeah,
so that one's kind of mild.But that was like the first experience
of dating, and I was Iwas very uncertain after that if I ever

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wanted to actually date again. Ohyeah, I get it. That's it.
Like I have all these friends thatlove going on dates, love dating
apps and going on dates. Iam not that girl. I find them
awkward. I'd rather especially if Ihaven't met you first, Like I've got
to meet you, get a vibe, and then decide I want to go
on a date with you because I'vehad too many bad experiences. Totally get
that. Oh my gosh, Itotally get that. I think I'm trying

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to decide which one I should justgo all in. Yeah I should,
Okay, I should. Let's getinto it. So if this was like
only a few years ago, Iwas on dating apps, I was on
bumble. Oh okay, And Isee this guy who graduated from my same

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high school, and when we werein high school, he was very like
he was like in the popular group, played football. He would graduated like
a few years older than me,so like I had always seen like he
was like the older popular football guy. So when I saw him and saw
that he had like liked me,you bumble or how do I don't I
haven't had bumble, And you haveto respond first, but then they can

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they can say yes. So Ithink I swiped right on him and we
matched, and I think, okay. So I was like, oh my
god, like I was excited me. Yeah, he's a stud. Yes,
I was so excited. So westarted like messaging and whatever, and
everything seems normal, and I'm like, you want to just come hang out?
Like I lived with a friend atthe time, so I was telling

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her and she was like, invitehim over, just do it, Like
this is so cool. Yeah,I mean we were like we were transported
into our like sixth grade bodies,like being excited over the older high school
I totally get that the guy whowas the stud hot quarterback that was older
than you at the time, ifhe were to this day reach out to
me, I'd still be like,oh my god, you get a little
guinea like it felt like a littlegirl. Oh my god, he likes
me. Cool, So he agreesto come over, and I maybe I

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wasn't specific. Let me just throwit out there. We never had any
like over the line like talk.It was. It was flirty but not
sexual, right, you know whatI'm saying? Yes, yes, well
he comes, Oh no, ohno, I'm getting nervous. Yes,
he comes with a bag. Heholds it out like this, with this
arm out. I opened the doorand he's like, I brought my spind

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a night bag. Oh no,spin a night Oh no, I brought
my spind a night bag. That'sthe first word I said. Let's spend
the night bag. Yeah. Itwas like weather yes, yes, and
I was like, oh no.I just kind of giggled. I didn't
really say much. I was like, okay, you know in the night

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STN spend the night. When didwe ever decide this was an STN?
Really? So anyway, we endedup sitting. He decided, okay,
so in my living room there's abig long couch and a recliner. Okay,
he chooses to sit in the recliner, so I have to sit on
top of him. I suppose likeI I was gonna sit on the couch.

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He was like, recliner looks comfy, and I was like, okay,
yes, so I'm like sitting onthe arm of the recliner so I'm
not on his lap it's too much. Yeah. So suddenly I don't know,
you really know, that's the worst. I'm not cuddling and getting that
close with someone that I'm just nothanging out with for the first time.
Yeah. Sorry, So I alreadyhave the ick from the spinner night bag

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and then he wants me to likeimmediately sit on top of him. Ye
es yeah, bad vibes. SoI'm like internally panicking, right, I'm
like, oh God, I'm likein my head, all that's going is
because you hate him. I hatehim. I hate him. I hate
him because you know exactly what he'slike wanting this night to turn into.
Yes, and they're like no,no, no, no, no,

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yeah, this is not what Ihad in mind. No. So we
end up kissing, and the kisswas not bad. He's not a bad
kisser, but I had a mentalblock, but I was not having it.
It was horrible to me. Yeah. Yeah. So instead of being
an adult it's fine and just sayinglike, so I'll go in and preface

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this is my fault. Okay,this is my fault, Okay, this
is on you. This one's yeah, instead of saying like, hey,
I'm not feeling it tonight or anynight or whatever. Just being honest,
I think we had different expectations goinginto tonight. Yeah, that would have
been so much easier than what I'mabout to tell you. Have. Okay,

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I go into my roommate's bedroom,run in there, and I'm like,
I hate him, I hate him. Please help me, help me
get him out of here. Idon't know how to tell him. I
don't know what am I to do. Yeah. So she's like, Okay,
I'm gonna come up with this storyand just go along with whatever I
say. When I come out,I'm like, cool, easy, I'm
like, yep, she's helping meout here, like five minutes, come

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by or go by. Sorry.She runs out in a panic like she's
ready, how did you keep ittogether? I almost didn't, Like I
was almost like busting out laughing.But she runs out in a panic.
She's like, my dad, Ohno, my dad's been in a car
accident. Like we have to gooh no, yeah, like so so

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dramatic. I put I put mybest actress face on. I mean,
ready, you did that though acar accident? I know, right,
I know, sorry for her homegirl's dad, Like I said, bad
idea, My fault. You didn'tcome up with the story though, so
that's not I didn't. But itgets worse. So I'm like, oh

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my god, like did he callthe police? Like what's going on?
And she was like like quick onher feet, he can't call the police.
He's been drinking. He got acar accident. He's a drunk driver,
right, I mean, it's justsnowballs, Like, hey, her
dad happens to be the worst.He's really not lovely. He's getting all

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of the blame. So I'm like, oh my god. Like so she's
like we have to go pick himup. Like I look at him and
I'm like I'm so sorry, LikeI didn't expect this. Yeah, we
would. My best friend's dad isa drunk driver that's got a car accident.
So he says, hey, don'tworry about it. I'll drive.

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He says, I'll drive you guys, I'll help. And I'm like wow
what. Immediately me and her bothwhat a good guy? I mean,
he's trying to get in your pantsand then he offers to drive, so
you'll help about her dad? Yeah, So me and my roommate look at
each other quick and we're like no, no, no, no, no,

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a bad idea. We're like,since he's Brianna, well that's my
roommate. Sorry, it's fine,Yeah, name Drop love you. She's
like, you know, since mydad's already been drinking, he might feel
weird about a random man being there. Like, yeah, I'm his little
girl. Absolutely, that'd be avery uncomfortable situation for him. She's like,

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I just I'm scared he'll get angryand then, you know whatever just
really snowballs the story. And he'slike, Okay, like, no worries,
I'll stay here and chill with thedogs and make sure they're good.
No, he didn't know, hedidn't. He's gonna stay home. He's
gonna stay at our house, atyour house. You're leaving, you're gonna
go pick up the drunk dad thathas gotten a car accent. He's no,

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it's fine, I'll sit with thedogs. I want the dogs.
Yeah. Sweet. Wow, maybeI'm rethinking this whole thing. Maybe he's
so nice you know that we lookback, we he was so considered it
is, he was really trying tohelp out. Wow, So in this
moment, I should have said no, leave like I didn't. It's better

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for you to go home. Ididn't it's a tragic night. You didn't
I didn't you let him dogsit?I me and my roommate leave our house
when you were trying to get himto leave. So we left our own
house trying. I'm just trying toget away from this guy. I leave
my own house and leave him onmy couch with the dogs, with the

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dogs scuttling, and it's been thenight bag. I guess he's in the
recline there because it's more comfortable.Yep, leave my house. What did
y'all do? Once you get inthe car and realize, like, wait,
crap, my dogs not in acar accent, he's not drunk.
Where do we go? We circlearound town just we're talking. We're like
what can we say? What dowe do? Oh? My god?

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Like we're panicking. The other manis still in our house. I texted
him and I'm this is so stupid. Who No, it was Thanksgiving weekend,
so my roommate's mom like lived liketwo houses down from us, not
far. I don't know that heknew that though, Okay, I just

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told him. I was like,Hey, my roommate's mom is going to
go put some cast roles in ourfridge. Since we have extra space,
Like, you probably should get outof there, because that's so weird that
you're there. You're just chilling inour house. She would be so weirded
out that you're just on our couch. My thing is is the fact that
this is where your head goes,like in panic mode, like cast roles

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in the fridge. Get out now? Oh no, I don't know.
I don't understand my brain in thismoment, Like why couldn't I just say
like, hey, get out?Yeah, honestly, hey get out.
Yeah No, I couldn't. Idon't know why. I don't know if
I didn't want to like hurt hisfeelings, hurt his feelings like look like

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a bridge. Maybe I don't.I don't know. Anyway, he did.
He argued with me for a littlebit about He's like why can I
just sit here? Like what's weirdabout it? Like I can explain why,
like you cannot be in the houseand she's bringing cast roles. Why
what is not clicking? You canhelp bring the coast rules. I'll get
him out of the car for her. I'll carry menta. She doesn't have
to. Oh it was so weird. Hey, And to top this all

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up, he ended up leaving andit was fine and we can't We were
safe in our own home again.Good. He ended up getting married two
months later this night, two monthsOh my gosh. He probably brought this
in the night bag and then movedin like a week later, exactly.
That's what he wanted to do withyou. Something I dodged a bullet,
you did. And also this isnot this is not important. But he

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took his hat off. He wasold. He's a hatfish. Yeah,
old man, bald spot like,not like all bald, like like doctor
Phil. So maybe high school hepeaked, Oh no, like doctor Phil.
Yeah, and he's like what twentyfive at the time. Oh my

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gosh, doctor Phil. He literallyin the stud I mean, that's the
story of their lives though. Yeah, that's why I thank goodness. We
did not speak in high school.Yep, oh my gosh. Spend the
night, bag man, spend thenight bag man. He's a fast mover,
that's for sure. Get married twomonths later. I think they're still

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married with children and children. Theyprobably had children with the night of the
honeymoon. That's weird. They movedthey didn't there, yeah, oh my
goodness. The next two aren't reallylike long stories. It's just things that
happened that. Like I said,why I hate dating. I mean I
do, but I don't, butI do. Yeah, I get that.
Yeah. We're sitting at a restaurantand I've already hung out with this

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dude a few times. I knowI kind of have a thing for him,
and probably until this night. Butwe're sitting at this restaurant and he's
looking at the menu deciding what hewants to eat, and our waiter comes
over. He asks the waiter,hey, amandas the margerita pizza actually tastes
like a margarita, Oh, I'msitting there, I mean, I start

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sweating and I'm like, okay,I'm my armpits are sweating. I'm really
embarrassed. He asked, if I'mmargaerita by the way, margarita pizza,
it's geez, yeah, it's allyeah. I think I don't think there's
any lime, juice or tequila.What in the world pizza? I'm sorry,
a pizza And you ask Margaret apizza if it tastes like a margarita?

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Are you drinking the pizza? Isit blended up? And so it's
not even spilt the same No it'snot. I'm sitting there and I'm like
this did not leave his mouth,and then the waiter's like and like,
no sarcasm. He was dead,so he was for real. He could
have at least asked me, sothen I didn't have secondhand embarrassment. Did
he play it off like he waskidding, like, huh, I'm just
I'm just he was like, oh, okay, okay, yeah, wait

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did the waiter was like, no, no, man, it's actually so
it's just got cheese and this,and he started listening to everything on the
pizza. He's like, no,I didn't taste like margarita. I don't
think. I think he didn't wantto embarrass him, because I hear he
is on a date and this manjust in front of his date asked,
oh god, that one hurts.How embarrassing. So I had that happen
and I just that has still stuckwith me, and that was probably over

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a year ago. But I'm like, no way, this man just asked,
m it hurts. How old ishe he is? Thirty? Oh?
No, oh no, he's thirty. And he asked that yes,
I'm screaming, I'm sorry. Thingslike that I just can't let go,
and I'm like, nah, noway, And I just sat there just

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speechless, honestly and embarrassed, likeI don't think he could tell, but
I think my blush, I meanI was blushing. Look, I was
hot. I was like, Iwas like, I I should have asked
to go to the bathroom so Ican just like fan myself off because I
was like, no way, thisjust happened. I don't remember if I
haven't had anything. Well another thing, see though, oh no, why

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why? Well this is a differentoh the same guy though, another thing
that just really was not it.He only listens to nineties country okay,
he will not listen to anything new. He thinks it's not country music and
he hates it. Gotcha. Andso I mentioned going to a concert and
he's like, well, I'll dropyou off. Excuse me, held drop
me off? So just I'll goby myself. Yeah, no, it's

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a no for me. So thingslike that. I just when I found
out I'm a big music lover andyou sit here and tell me, no,
I don't like new music. Yeah, but if you can't like even
just enjoy it for two hours whileyour girlfriend because you girlfriend making her happy.
Yeah, like suffer, yeah,for just because I'm sure. I'm
very sure he would make you sufferin one of his little interests, right,

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whatever, it might be Margarita pizzas, he'd probably make me make a
Margaret like an actual Margarita pizza.Oh, bro, Like, I swear
it's sick. It's really cool.Just wait, I'll show you. And
he plays a four hour video gameall in Wednesday. Right, No,
it's really sick. Just watch.Yeah, guys like that are actually the
worst. But no, I won'tsit through a concert for you. I

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don't like the music. Another timeI went this was last year or too.
Both of these were last year.Last year was like actually kind of
terrible with dating for me, itwas a phase. But he I was
sitting on a date with another guywho's from California, and I tell him
I'm from Hoover, Alabama. Ohgod, I remember this one. Yeah,

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sorry, I just for yeah,uh huh, I tell him from
Hoover, Alabama. He goes,oh my god, like the Hoover dam.
I sat there and I immediately waslike, can I get the check
please? For the listeners? Onlymy eyes are closed and I'm in fetal
position. Not really, but I'mfeeling it. Check please, please get
me out of here. Hoover Damn. I live in Hoover, Alabama,

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and you ask me, and you'refrom California. It's than it is to
be. What do you mean theHoover dam Jeez, little ways dude in
this same comation tells me how hemissed the ocean and surfing so much and
he brought a real life clam backput it in his bathroom. Weeks go
by. I wonder where this godawful smell is coming from. I don't

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know. Maybe it's the clam thatyou put in your bathroom. That was
a real live clam that died.That's an animal. It's an animal,
and it was rotting in your bathroom, he said. He goes in there
and opens it and flies come out. Oh come on, come on,
this is your first date with agirl and you're telling her this. You
think I ever want to step footin your house? No? Really,

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Ill, he thought it was hisroommate that smell bad. He's like,
I was gonna have a have atalk with him that he needs to,
you know, work on his hygiene. And then I go in the bathroom
and realize it's the clam. Ialso like, did you fly all the
way back home with this clam inyour bag? Like? What did you
do with it? Did you putit in your toweltry bag? Did you
put it with your clothes? Like? No, it's right next to his
toothbrush. You know it is little. You know he probably shut his toothbrush

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in the Oh wait, it lookslike a great toothbrush cover. Hey,
this sounds a big brain right here. Good idea. See I think,
golly, that just really did itfor me. I honestly kind of can't
believe. This is why I don'tlike dates. I think I'm scarred.
I get it. It's so difficultto date someone like the first few.

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It's so hard to get past thefirst few, because I mean, I'll
give you the benefit of the doubt. Men like you're nervous too, Yes,
absolutely, you're you're pulling stories outof your tail, trying to have
something to say, like sound interesting, funny, whatever. I get it.
But just here's a tip or atip. Please don't start with the

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clam story. Oh my gosh,you that you smell and your place smells,
and you're that dumb that you literallybrought a clam back. And don't
don't ask too many stupid questions.No, please, like if it sounds
like rehearse them in your head,yes, think through it. Make sure
on a date, just ask thegirl about her. She'll probably switch the

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question around on you. You'll talkabout yourself a little and then go home
and feel good about yourself, right, because please don't ask the waiter if
it's Markarita pizza taste and Marta Iknow, or look it up on your
phone. Yeah, under the tablegenuinely are confused about something and you're like
embarrassed to say it, which youprobably should be. Ye, look it
up on your phone real quick.That's all. See. And that's why

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today is so screwed and dating becauseit's like, no one asks a girl
on a date anymore. Nobody does. Yeah, and so I've been asked
on a date and oh, monthsand months and months. I literally I
think the last time, No,I went on a date this summer.
But it's so hit or miss becauseno one asks you to go on dates,
and so when you get asked,you jump at the opportunity because you
never get asked, and then stufflike this happens. You're like, well,

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I'm never dating again. Yeah,it's horrible. It's so bad.
Speaking of bad things, let's kindof move on to some our X.
I would love to I love nothingmore. This is one of my favorite.
It's kind of fun. I havea little list of things that I'm
like, yeah, these are theseare big eggs. I think my number
one ick in the whole world.I'm just gonna start big yeah, and

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then we can talk about others.When when a man wears slides like Nike
slides whatever, huh, no socks, uh uh, just toes out dogs
owl for everyone to see. They'relike gripping the name. I gotta go.
No, no, see that isthat is a huge ick. When
friends and I go out and wesee that, especially at a bar.

(24:30):
Oh my god, who's doing that? People do that at bars and they
have bar on their toes. No, no, immediately, no, like
you can hear the slide slapping theirheel when they walk. What do you
what do you do? This manwalks up to you at a bar asked
about your drink. I'm like,I can count all ten of your toes.

(24:51):
No thanks, I don't want tosee your foot right now, I'm
turned off. So no drink,no drink. We're the free I mean,
well a free drink and then I'mnever speaking there. That's it.
I'm gonna take the drink. I'mgonna count all of your toes and I'm
gonna say good ridd it bye.Yike see kind of going off of the

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toenails and feet. And I hatewhen a guy has long fingernails. I
hate it with a burning I wouldhonestly rather them bite their nails too.
Nuts me too in longnails, thatis me to a tea. I don't
want to see long fingernails. Ifyou get past your skin, no,

(25:33):
oh my god. If I seethe white, you're you're done. I
don't like it. I've actually likeall purposely like snap guys make ask something
like you promise you pinky promise,and I make them put their pinky up
and show me they're pinky on snapchatsso I know if they have long nails
or not. That's a big brain. Yeah, No, I really I
can't. I cannot do long fingernails. No, I get it.

(25:55):
It's a little I don't know whatit is. Is it because it's too
feminine? Is it because it's likebecause okay, maybe it's not even the
feminine wow, the feminine aspect.Yes, let me rearrange the words and
be able to say it. It'salso that men are just not as hygienic
with their nails as women are,you know, the dirty yeah, like
they all have like the black underneath, good bob. It's also just like

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when I think of like a guylike kissing me, holding me, I'm
like, don't claw me. Ever. Yeah, yeah, there's just for
so many reasons why I guys shouldnever have long fingernails ever. Sorry,
guys, if you're watching this,please cut them. I'll bite them off.
I don't care. Even if younibble. That's fine, way better
than having long fingernails. What's yourlists say? Okay, another one here.

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Another one is if I'm at arestaurant and we have a waiter or
a waitress, be kind if youhave an attitude, or you are disrespectful,
or you for some reason feel likeyou deserve I don't know, great
treatment, I don't whatever it is, do not be rude. I don't
care. I hate that too.That for me is such a turn off.

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I'm like, that shows me thatyou are not a kind human being.
Period. Oh definitely. You thinkyou're above someone else and you're not.
Like, I've been a waitress before. I know how difficult it is
and how easy it is to messsomething up. Yes, whether it's your
fault or the back's fault, Like, it's easy either way. Yeah.
If someone gets heated, oh Iget so ill. Or if they just

(27:23):
come across as like entitled exactly,that's the word I was looking for,
entitled. Who do you think youare? Yeah? I hate that,
like you are being served. Ithink that's actually a deal breaker. That's
more than a for me. It'sso gross. I'm like, ew,
you're not a kind of person.I hate it too. Let's see.

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Oh yeah, there's some interesting oneson here being too clingyh yeah, okay,
fine line, and it's easy tooverstep, very easy, because I
don't mind someone genuinely like being aroundme obviously, like please enjoy me,

(28:07):
interested in you. Yeah that's nottoo clinky, but it's the fact.
So okay, this comes with astory. Sorry, I kind of halfway
dated this guy not that long ago, only like a month of my life,
like nothing crazy, but this wasmy ick with him because so we

(28:29):
went to Rock the South yea,right, and he asked me. He
was like, just for the becausewe didn't have good service, right,
He's like, just for peace ofmind, can you like just share your
location for this weekend? And Iwas like honestly, like I was like,
fine, Like that's not a hugeask, just so, but you're
gonna be in one location all weekend, I know. But I was like
whatever, okay, whatever, SoI shared my location. I forgot to

(28:55):
unshare it after this weekend, notfor long, because he were he he
texted me and said, where didyou go into Alberville today? And I
said, what, that's the placeI lived. I was like, what
do you mean? He's like,well, it wasn't your house and I
couldn't. It was some random housein a neighborhood. Absolutely not. I,
oh no, you do not havethis like authority that you think you

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have. I immediately unshared my location, absolutely, and I was like,
not that it's any of your business. I was meeting with the people that
I'm going to dog sit for nextweek. But that was it for me.
Yeah, absolutely not. I'm notspeaking to you again. Because he
came across so rude about it,like he was like he had an excuse

(29:41):
whatever of why he even looked atit, blah blah blah. But it
doesn't matter if you look at it, you don't text me about it,
yeah, or just say like,hey, what'd you do today? Like
you know, I still want evenif you want to get around it,
like because it wasn't a secret,I probably would have mentioned that later.
Another one for me is when you'vehad a bad day and you're talking to

(30:03):
a guy about a bad day andthen he won ups you with his bad
day oh or something negative. Thisthis is so funny, This is so
funny because oh one upper I Yeah, the same guy I just talked about
was so like that. I toldhim the most horrific story from my childhood,
right yeah. He was like yeah, like I had the same problem.

(30:26):
It was like not even related.He was like, yeah, my
childhood was sucked, Like my grandmotherwas mean to me. She just didn't
like me, and and how andif you knew I'm not ready to get
into that. Maybe one day onthe podcast we could talk about childhood.
Right if you knew the story Itold him and the different between the two.

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He just wanted to sound sad.I'm just like, why are we
what I was like, yeah,that sucks. I'm sorry, but when
I tell you something sad or badabout my life, I just need support
and for you to be like that'sterrible. I'm so sorry. And I
wasn't even saying it even for that, but it was a situation had happened.
I was trying to explain why Ireacted the way that I did.
Yes, he had a one upyou. My grandmother hated me, so

(31:15):
okay, so that sure, joythat makes me So that's one up or
I can't. I cannot do itone up or especially with negative things.
Yeah, why are we doing this? Like no, I hate it's And
also like I kind of had asituation recently too with just friendships, like
I don't like it in romantic friendshipsnow any of it, no friendship,

(31:36):
Sam, it's an acre as afriend. Do not one up me for
having a bad life. Bad dayshappen, and let me talk about it.
And I'm not expecting you to oneup me on whose day was worse.
Even the good stuff too, LikeI get excited about something and like
you know, like, oh,yeah I did that last week but with
cooler people, and I'm like Ihad an x and a w W event

(31:56):
was the coul behind the scenes,met the talent, took pictures thing ever
was telling my ex about it.Oh, I did that stuff growing up
all the time because my dad wasa football player, so we got to
do all these kinds of things.Like I know what it's like. I'm
stupid too. I'm so stupid.Why did I even share that with you?
I'm sorry, You're right, thatwas dumb of me. Wow,
I an idiot, mix did thattoo. Like I would tell him like,
yeah, like my family also,you stood blah blah blah whatever it

(32:19):
was. Yeah, and he'd belike, oh, well that wasn't normal,
Like you only did that once ortwice, And I'm like, shut
up, yeah, like cool,rude. Well, I think honestly,
we can save our uh what weactually want a guy, because we're just
sitting here bashing and saying all thethings that really just are like turn offs
and just not it. But andit's because of the guys we've dated.
They've really taught us the things wedo not like and we'll not put up

(32:43):
with and X that we have.But we're gonna save what we really want
and a guy what we're looking forI think for next time, because I
really kind of want to dive intoit. I'm kind of excited because I
kind of know what I want now, and I haven't always known what I
wanted, but I do now.Yeah, it's a longer topic and I
want to get more into I agree. Yeah. Well, guys, if
you're listening, try not to dothose icks. Please cut your fingernails.

(33:07):
Ye, look up? Put thankson an Yeah, put the socks on.
Do not go out to a barwithout your socks on, wearing slides.
Don't do that. Don't even dothat with socks on at a bar.
But yeah, thanks for listening.We love y'all, and I hope
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