September 1, 2024 • 24 mins
Do you ever find yourself saving your best clothes and favorite perfumes for a special occasion that never seems to come? Imagine the positive shift in your day-to-day life if you decided to wear your cherished items more often. Join me, Brittany Gonzalez, as I explore the power of dressing up and how using our favorite things can uplift our spirits and attract positive vibes. I share memorable anecdotes, like that unexpected glass of champagne I received just for looking my best, to illustrate the profound impact of breaking free from the "save it for later" mindset.
Ever wondered why Gen Z is swapping stilettos for sneakers at the club, while we millennials swear by our towering heels? In this episode, I take a nostalgic look back at my own fashion sacrifices—those six-inch stilettos that made me feel fabulous despite the discomfort. We dive into the generational divide in fashion and how each era's preferences bring their own joy and confidence. Whether you're a sneaker lover or a high-heel enthusiast, there's something relatable here for everyone who values personal style over fleeting trends.
Finally, I guide you through the art of balancing style and comfort with the right heels for every occasion. From skinny heels with a square bottom to versatile block heels and classic pumps, I’ve got tips to ensure you look elegant without compromising on comfort. Nude heels and classic black pumps are wardrobe essentials that can save the day when you need them most. Whether you're a high-heel devotee or a sneaker aficionado, celebrate your unique style with me and find out how to elevate your everyday outfits effortlessly.
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Welcome back to Brunch with Brittany.
Grab your drink, whatever it is, and let's start brunching, all
right?
So if you're that person whonever uses your favorite things
okay, maybe it's lighting yourfavorite candle or wearing your
favorite outfit you're saving itfor the right moment.
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This is the episode for you.
Okay, I am guilty of this, Ihave been guilty of this, but no
longer I am free.
All right, so let's get into it.
So, yes, if you're that person,like I said never wearing your
best clothes, never using yourfavorite perfume, right, like?
You know that that scent makesyou feel good, it makes you
happy, but you're like, no, I'llsave it for, like, when I'm
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really dressed up, or I'll saveit for a special occasion, right
?
Maybe you're not using yourbeautiful plating when you're
having dinner.
You know, you're like I'm goingto use a plastic while I'm
eating.
Unless I have someone over thenI'll take out the nice plates,
things like that.
This could actually be a subtlesign that you are not doing
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well mentally, that you're notin a good place, and that's what
that looks like.
And you're thinking like, well,you know, I don't feel good,
I'm not feeling my best, so I'mnot going to use my best
products, but that couldactually be the reason why
you're not feeling good, becauseyou're not using your favorite
products that make you feel good, right.
So it's almost like this thingwhere you're causing it, or
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you're prolonging that feelingand not even realizing it.
Because how good do you feelwhen you spray that perfume on
you and you go out smelling good?
Maybe you'll get a compliment,right, something you weren't
expecting.
And then it makes you feelbetter, it lifts your spirits up
, and I have been guilty of likeI would buy you know same thing
a nice perfume and save it forspecial occasions.
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Or a certain pair of heelsWouldn't wear them Sometimes I
wouldn't.
I have stuff in my closet thatI would not wear ever.
Like it would just sit with atag on it and I'd be like for
for a certain occasion, right.
Like when I, when I go out ofon a trip or something you know,
or something happened in thattrip never happened and the
outfit stays in there, or thatoutfit no longer fits you, like
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you, like it did, right, youwent by, you took so much time.
That outfit doesn't even lookthe same on you.
All of these things are reallyactually things that could be
affecting your mental health andhow you're feeling and going
about your day.
Um, you know, even dressing nice, right like dressing, like
dressing up, now, for me ittakes a lot of energy and time
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to put into it, but I've alwaysfound that it's worth it.
I don't know if you've noticed,but people, unfortunately, are
kinder to you when you'redressed up, when you're dressed
nice, when you look nice.
You know, I remember even onetime I went to a restaurant,
right, and I was dressed reallynice.
I was loving my outfit, I waswearing like a nice brunch dress
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, I had my hair done really well, my makeup, like I felt really
good about myself.
So I was waiting on a table andI'm sitting out in like the
waiting area, just, you know,waiting for the table, and some
one of the management had walkedby.
Right, an employee walked byand he goes oh, he's like
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where's your champagne glass?
And I was like I laugh, like no, you're right, I do need a
champagne in my in my hand rightnow.
So, whatever, okay, I go backinto my phone.
I wasn't, actually, it wasn'teven into my phone, but at some
point I do remember picking itup anyways.
So I'm just sitting therelooking around Next thing.
I know the guy comes around thecorner with a glass of
champagne for me, complimentary,just was like here you go, and
literally it was just because Ilook nice and I was like that's
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it.
You know, that's all it took,but it it made me smile, it made
me feel in a better mood, eventhough I was already in a good
mood.
But it's weird how the worldwill work more in your favor
when you present yourself nicelyversus had.
I went to that restaurant andI'm wearing, you know, sandals
and I'm wearing, you know, cutout jean shorts, which there's a
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time and a place for that.
Trust me, I have some in mycloset.
But when you're going to a nicerestaurant, you're definitely
going to want to be dressed up,dressed nicer, just because to
me that's like better etiquette.
But, like I said, I don't knowwhy, but people are nicer to you
when you're dressed nicely.
And then you know it also opensup conversations.
You know you're wearing aconversation piece like this is
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one of my favorite outfits I'veever gotten myself.
It's like gives me Barbie vibes.
It's pink.
I mean, one girl doesn't lovepink, as you can see.
I'm pink on pink, okay, butyeah, so I wore this I think it
was actually when the Barbiemovie came out.
I specifically bought thisoutfit for the Barbie movie and
I went with a group of girls andwe had like one of the best
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nights all dressed up, all inpink, and I was like, okay, I
have not worn this outfit sinceand I'm mad at myself for that
because I'm like why?
It's cute?
Reuse, reuse it.
You know, even though I know weget kind of like we can't get
caught in the same outfit.
We need to stop doing that toeach other, ladies.
Okay, if something looks good,then we can re-wear it.
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All right, stop judging thegirls for re-wearing outfits.
We have a lot sometimes, butsometimes stuff just looks good
the way it looks good.
You know, like going to thegrocery store.
Oh, my goodness, I used to goto the grocery store, so I'm
embarrassed to admit how badlydressed I would go Not even just
PJs, like close to bleachainedclothes type of clothes to the
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grocery store.
Not that they were, but itmight as well have been Like I
would just go so ratty and Iremember my hair would never be
done.
I'd have it like frizzy, nomakeup, you know, dressed down,
and then, because of what I do.
People would run into me andlike recognize me.
And I remember one time I sawwas a these grocery store
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employees they were out onenight, right ran into them and
they come over, they say, hi, wetalk.
And I was like, yeah, I know,you know, mentions me about the
way I was dressed.
And I go, I know I go kind ofcrazy when I go into the grocery
store.
And they all looked at eachother and they were like, yeah,
yeah, like that, right, likethat, right, like, like they've
talked about it, okay, likethey've noticed they talked
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about it.
They didn't understand it.
And then meanwhile in my headI'm like I'm just here to get
groceries and go home, right,like.
And I remember dragging my feetaround the store.
I just didn't feel good Really.
Then I tried going to thegrocery store dressed up
completely different experience.
I was in a better mood.
You know I would definitelymore people would speak to me
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when I was at the grocery storeand sometimes I know you don't
want that.
You're like please, nobody talkto me, nobody acknowledge me.
I'm not a people person and Iget that.
But overall, just to feel goodfor yourself, dress up, wear
that outfit that you've beenwanting to wear for no reason,
like, don't have those dressesin your closet that you're not
going to wear, or you're goingto wait until, like, oh, a gala
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night.
No, honey, I'm wearing whateverI feel like wearing.
If I feel like dressing up, I'mwearing it.
And sometimes I know you've runinto those people who go oh,
you're like, wow, you'reoverdressed, or I didn't know we
were dressing up.
You ever been around peoplelike that?
Listen, they are projecting onyou, just so you know.
Okay, they did not feel goodenough or take the time to dress
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themselves up.
And seeing you all dressed upand looking good makes them feel
bad about themselves.
And I've had girlfriends belike, oh, I was going to dress
up, but I know we were justgoing to do something casual.
And I've had girlfriends belike, oh, I was going to dress
up, but I know we were justgoing to do something casual.
And I always tell them no, no,no, no, no.
Don't do that for me, don't dothat for anyone else.
You wear the outfit you reallywanted to wear, because you know
that that's going to make yoube in the best mood, right?
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So, never dress down foranybody, all right, don't
believe that, no matter how itmakes them feel, they need to
work on that for themselves.
Wear your outfit and wear thoseshoes, for example.
Even this one woman.
She said my aunt passed away atthe age of 41.
She said she left a wholewardrobe of beautiful clothes,
scarves, jewelries, all withtags on.
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All with tags on, because youcan't take it when you go.
Right, you don't know when yourlast day is going to be.
So that's also why it's soimportant to use your favorite
things now, right, like, don'thoard them, don't just buy it
and then have it there to lookat.
You know, use it, it's going tomake you feel better.
So there is a woman who saysthat she's a CBT therapist.
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She said this is how we treatdepression the idea that you
should still do the things thatmake you feel good, even when
you don't feel good, so that youcan literally feel good.
Right, it feeds each other,right?
This is from a therapist.
Okay, so it has to be real, ithas to be true.
Um, another one she said shewasted so many food items by
saving them until they went bad.
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I think I'm guilty of that, butthat's just because I was tired
and didn't feel like cooking.
But ultimately the same thing.
Like you buy a nice cheese Doyou ever buy a nice cheese?
And you're like I'm going tomake a charcuterie board, right.
And then you're just like, oh,I don't have the time.
Or I'm just like, no, not yetI'm going to have guests.
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No-transcript life like that,it's just the way that it works,
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okay.
This one woman says I neverleave my house, looking crazy.
She says I light all my candles.
Oh my God, that was anotherthing.
I would buy really nice candlesfor decorative purposes, and
then I'd even forget that theywere there, like they would
blend into the background, andI'm like, oh yeah, I have this
candle that I really love.
Never smell it, never use it,but it's there.
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And so you got to stop doingthat, because then, when you're
done with it, you'll get anotherone.
Just buy yourself another one,like that's.
The other thing is that you makeroom for new things and
sometimes even better things.
That you know you may haveloved this, but once you use it,
you found something better orfound something just as good.
But the point is that youcontinue that so that you can
keep that going and that you'reyou know you'll feel good.
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Again, you get a new candle.
You're going to feel good aboutthat.
Who doesn't love a good candle?
They make great gifts.
I love a candle as a gift.
I think they're awesome.
But again, it's a sign that youmay not be doing well mentally
if you are hoarding these thingsor if you're not using them.
Maybe it's a scarcity mindsetthing that you have going on.
If you grew up poor, you grewup without.
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You might feel like you need tohold onto these things to make
them last, because if you don't,then they'll they'll go away
right, like the same thing withmoney.
So those are signs that, likethat's definitely a negative
thing that you got to workthrough and pinpoint.
What is it?
But today, if you are hearingthis podcast, go light that
candle.
Okay, go to your room right now.
Keep, keep listening to me andgo.
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Spray your favorite perfume onyourself and watch how much you
smile.
Watch how much you just feelbetter walking around your own
home or walking outside.
Try it.
It works for me.
I'm telling you, I no longerhoard my things Like I'm like
I'm going to use it and if it'sgone, I'll figure out how to get
it back.
You know it's so important.
Which brings me to my nextsubject of how to do with this.
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This because same thing withclothing, with things that you
own, except this one is for GenZ.
Gen Z, I got to talk to you.
I was reading this article thatsaid Gen Z says that if you
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wear this specific type of shoe,you are officially old, it
makes you look old.
And I was like what shoe couldthat be?
Like what shoe makes you lookold?
A croc, I don't know, you know.
No, they had the nerve to sayheels.
Heels are a sign that you areofficially old, and I cannot
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disagree with this more.
I listen, gen Z, you are knownfor being out at the club in
sneakers, in low tops, in flatsokay, in flippy flops.
And, as a millennial, okay, Idon't come from that era.
I come from the era where wewould wear, like the highest
five, six inch heels minimum.
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Okay, you started there, evenif you couldn't walk in them and
, mind you, I could not.
All right, I was definitely theBambi at the club, all right,
but I didn't care, because whenI was standing and leaning up
against the wall, I lookedamazing, my heels looked great,
okay, but getting to the bar.
That was another story, butthat was the sacrifice you kind
of made, you know, like, for thewhole outfit.
Let me tell you something wewould be in the club wearing
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blazers okay, like work blazers.
Okay, pencil skirts Dressedlike we were for an interview.
We'd be at the club with thepumps on the platform heels.
I every shoe I owned was a heelthat I could not walk in.
That's how committed I was tothis culture.
Okay, like sacrifices were made.
My feet would hurt.
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I, you know, my ankles wouldgive out some nights.
I remember I had to havefriends carry me to the car and
it wasn't because I was drinking.
I literally could not hold mybody up, but I still felt good
about myself and I had a time.
But I have been seeing, youknow, when I go out and I'll see
the girls wearing thesesneakers and I can already tell
like that's a Gen Z look.
You know, you like to wearthose baggy pants and I do think
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it's cute, it works for you,it's very cute.
Me, I would never, I would neverbe in the club with some
sneakers on purpose, like itwould have to be a complete
accident.
I was, you know, like, you know, when those friends invite you
somewhere and you have no choice, you're already out.
You're like I was here just toeat and now we're going out
tonight, can't go home andchange.
That has happened to me twicein my life.
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Okay, twice I may have been inthe club with sneakers or flats,
flats and then I always got toexplain myself like look, this
is what happened.
I would not be in this clubwithout my heels.
I don't like it.
I don't like it.
But yeah, so the sign thatyou're getting old is to wear
heels.
And if that is my sign, call mea viejita.
All right, I will be thatviejita in the club with my
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heels, because I'm not gettingrid of them.
I only wear sneakers for, like,if I'm going to go traveling and
I know we're going to gosightseeing right, we're going
to do a lot of walking.
There's a, you know,cobblestone floors, so you know
you can't wear a heel or youwill break your ankle.
Like it has to be physicallyimpossible for me to wear these
heels, for me to say I'm notdoing it.
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So you saying that I wasthinking, all right, all right,
I get it, you're not into it,gen Z, you don't like it, you
don't like the heels.
Maybe it's for comfort purposesand I don't think that that's
the right attitude to have aboutit.
Like I don't think that's areason, but again, it's because
I'm from a different era and wehad to wear heels Like it was a
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must.
There was no other choice.
If you were the girl in the clubwould shoot with tannies on,
you were going to be looked atwild, you might not even be let
into the club.
Actually, that's not true.
They always let the girls intothe club.
I've seen all walks of life belet into the club just because
they were a female, but at thesame time, couldn't be me,
wouldn't be my group, okay.
So then I decided well, oh, letme tell you this was a.
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I forgot.
So with the heels, all right, Iremember one night I was wearing
these like six inch.
Do you remember?
You wouldn't, gen Z.
But there are these, the thickplatform heels.
Right, there are at least sixinch stilettos, skinny heel,
skinny heel.
But they had a platform andthey were like they would cover
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your toes and they were V shaped.
All right, they were kind ofbulky looking too, but the heel
was thin.
Those were so in.
Okay, when I tell you that wasthe heel, that was the pump
every girl had to have, that wasit.
So I remember one night afterthe club, I'm wearing those
heels, I can't walk in them, I,or my, I do not walk in these.
Well, and I walked out of theclub and I remember like, okay,
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I'm out, there's nobody outside,like I can really just walk
crazy because I don't have totry to pretend.
So I did, and I noticed therewas a cop outside of the club
and I noticed that he waswatching me and I was like, okay
, like you know, I look a littlecrazy right now because the way
I'm walking, but I know it's myheels and I'm confident that,
like he's gonna know, he cantell I can't walk in heels.
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Well, this dude waits until Iget into my car.
I start driving off with mygirlfriend.
Next thing, I know the lightsgo up behind me and I'm like
what happened?
Like what, what?
Like what's going on?
I know I, I'm, I'm not drunk, Iknow that I haven't made any,
you know, uh, wrong turns.
So he pulls me over and then hegoes uh, I pulled you over
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because you were walking funny,like you were walking, like
you're drunk, you know.
So he was accusing me of beingdrunk and I'm like, oh my god
sir, I'm like you were.
And I started getting anattitude because I was very like
, confident that it wasn'tbecause of my drinking.
I had one drink and a red bullthat night, thankfully and so I
already knew I was like this guy.
No, no way.
I said you try walking in sixinch heels and then you tell me
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what you look like.
So he literally has me stepoutside the car.
This is the only time I've everhad a cop ask me to step
outside the car and I was like,thank God I was okay, but I was
still so angry that I knew whyhe was doing this.
But whatever.
So he gives me a test, he doesthe thing with my eyes and you
know he's like all right, he'slike, okay, you're, you're fine,
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but he's like I smell alcoholand I'm like you're lying.
You smell Red Bull, that's whatyou smell, and you're you're,
you know.
So I get into it with him.
My whole point was I couldn'twalk in the heels, so much so
that this cop really thought Iwas drunk.
But you know what?
It didn't matter to me, it wasworth it, it was.
It was like there was no otherchoice.
But I want to show you someheels, girls, that you can wear,
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that are still comfortable.
Okay that they still they havea heel on them.
They're still really nice andcomfortable and you can rock
these without doing the sneakersand you're gonna look better.
You're gonna look elevated.
You're going to look better,you're going to look elevated,
you're going to look classierand it's going to elevate your
outfits.
Okay, so I want to start with,like, see the outfit that I'm
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wearing right now, this hot pinkthing, it's.
You know, I love this.
It's a dress.
By the way, the shoes that Iwore with it last time and
you're probably going to hatethese, gen Z, you're, you're
gonna hate these, but I don'tcare.
Okay, this heel right here, thisskinny heel with a little like
a square bottom.
Okay, they look veryuncomfortable.
I'm not gonna lie, when Ibought them, I was like these
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are gonna be so hard to walk in.
Like you know, you tie themaround your, your, your legs,
your ankles, and actually verycomfortable, very, very, very
comfortable and super cute,feminine.
You know, not the sneaker, theydon't flatten you out like.
This is a very cute heel youcan get away with and still be
comfortable and still dance in.
Um, they're gonna last youabout three to four hours and
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then you're gonna have to sitdown.
But you know what?
Get your fun in for three tofour hours and then go home.
Okay, you shouldn't be out morethan that, all right?
So you always need a nude heel,and this heel for me was like
comfy, nude but still glam,sparkly, perfect.
Okay.
And it's a block heel okay,it's similar to your flat heel,
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your flat shoe.
It's got some femininity to it.
Okay, it's got some sparkle toit.
Comfortable.
I've lasted these all night.
Okay, love these Again.
They elevate your look.
Can't go wrong with a blockheel like this.
Now, some of the girls will tellyou that block heels are how do
I say?
Like the girls that know wouldnot wear them, but I think that
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there's a purpose for them,there's a place for them.
If you're at a wedding, go to awedding and you want to last,
you know you're gonna have tolast hours on the dance floor
and being there.
This is a good heel for that,okay, or a strappy nude one?
I have one, but I don't want toshow you because they're not my
like best pair.
They're not.
I need to get a new pair, iswhat I'm saying.
But a strappy one, nude, willtake you anywhere.
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I promise you Comfy ones though.
You got to know, though,because some of those nude ones
they look comfy.
Try them out, walk in them, youwill know, You'll be able to
feel it.
All.
Right, you need a classic pump.
Okay, again, I know this is avery skinny heel.
These are Steve Madden's.
He is not.
You know, I'm going to skipover that.
I'll just say this.
I'm going to skip over that.
I'll just say this Very glam,right, you can tell this is very
fancy, sparkly, beautiful,elegant.
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You know, it's a nice black heel.
Cover your toes.
I like the cover.
These kind of shoes I likebecause they'll cover your toes
if they're not done.
So you need a pair of that forthose days when your toes are
not ready for the public eye.
Okay, your in-between days days.
You need one of these, right,um, to save you.
And again, classic black, itcould be all black.
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Have a little sparkle to it.
Um, you're gonna have to getsome inserts.
These aren't the most comfiest,but they're so pretty.
I mean, come on, you get thecompliments you would get with
these like worth it?
Worth the pain, worth thesuffering?
There's gonna be some shoesthat, no matter what you do,
they're going to be painful butthey're better than rocking the
sneaks.
Don't do it.
Don't do it.
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You're still going to do it andthat's okay, but I'm not going
to partake in that and I'm goingto be considered old and you're
going to be considered nottaken seriously.
I don't think.
I don't know, maybe I'm wrong.
Are you having a good timewearing those sneakers?
Like I know?
And that's the thing Women willstill get hit on.
I get that.
But who are you getting hit onby?
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Is the question when you'rewearing sneakers?
I'm really asking, I'm reallyasking you to ask yourself you
know, I don't want the guythat's hitting on me because I'm
wearing sneakers.
Then he's going to becomfortable with me wearing
sneakers and taking me placeswhere I only wear sneakers.
No, it's not happening.
So I think that the way youpresent yourself is really
important.
And when you're going out, wearthat heel.
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It feels so nice and feminineand I just think it's a little
too masculine to be doing thesneaks.
And it also tells your age,which is fine.
You're away with it, that'sfine.
I just remember being in myearly 20s and that was never a
thing like that would just, youjust didn't do that.
All right, um, but times havechanged and I'm okay with that,
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or do I?
Am I not?
Doesn't sound like I am right,there's a way around.
It is all I'm saying.
I didn't like being called old,though.
I didn't like that.
So take that back.
Gen Z, I love y'all.
I think y'all are great.
I definitely believe in yourgeneration, just not when it
comes to the shoe game.
So take it from the girl who'sbeen around a little longer than
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you.
Wear the heels, you'll see thedifference and let me know.
Maybe wear the heels and thenlet me know in the comments how
it went for you.
You know were you Bambi.
You got to go through thosenights.
You're going to have thosenights.
Bring an extra pair, if you can, in the car, then you can
switch it up.
Get the pictures with the heels.
Switch it up, then it doesn'tmatter, you know.
But don't just be in thesneakers like that for you.
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I'm Brittany Gonzalez.
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I mean, is it a sign?
Do we need to retire the heels?
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I don't think ever.
I don't think ever, but I wouldlike to hear your side of it.
Cheers.
Welcome back to Brunch with Brittany.
Grab your drink, whatever it is, and let's start brunching, all
right?
So if you're that person whonever uses your favorite things
okay, maybe it's lighting yourfavorite candle or wearing your
favorite outfit you're saving itfor the right moment.
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This is the episode for you.
Okay, I am guilty of this, Ihave been guilty of this, but no
longer I am free.
All right, so let's get into it.
So, yes, if you're that person,like I said never wearing your
best clothes, never using yourfavorite perfume, right, like?
You know that that scent makesyou feel good, it makes you
happy, but you're like, no, I'llsave it for, like, when I'm
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really dressed up, or I'll saveit for a special occasion, right
?
Maybe you're not using yourbeautiful plating when you're
having dinner.
You know, you're like I'm goingto use a plastic while I'm
eating.
Unless I have someone over thenI'll take out the nice plates,
things like that.
This could actually be a subtlesign that you are not doing
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well mentally, that you're notin a good place, and that's what
that looks like.
And you're thinking like, well,you know, I don't feel good,
I'm not feeling my best, so I'mnot going to use my best
products, but that couldactually be the reason why
you're not feeling good, becauseyou're not using your favorite
products that make you feel good, right.
So it's almost like this thingwhere you're causing it, or
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you're prolonging that feelingand not even realizing it.
Because how good do you feelwhen you spray that perfume on
you and you go out smelling good?
Maybe you'll get a compliment,right, something you weren't
expecting.
And then it makes you feelbetter, it lifts your spirits up
, and I have been guilty of likeI would buy you know same thing
a nice perfume and save it forspecial occasions.
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Or a certain pair of heelsWouldn't wear them Sometimes I
wouldn't.
I have stuff in my closet thatI would not wear ever.
Like it would just sit with atag on it and I'd be like for
for a certain occasion, right.
Like when I, when I go out ofon a trip or something you know,
or something happened in thattrip never happened and the
outfit stays in there, or thatoutfit no longer fits you, like
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you, like it did, right, youwent by, you took so much time.
That outfit doesn't even lookthe same on you.
All of these things are reallyactually things that could be
affecting your mental health andhow you're feeling and going
about your day.
Um, you know, even dressing nice, right like dressing, like
dressing up, now, for me ittakes a lot of energy and time
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to put into it, but I've alwaysfound that it's worth it.
I don't know if you've noticed,but people, unfortunately, are
kinder to you when you'redressed up, when you're dressed
nice, when you look nice.
You know, I remember even onetime I went to a restaurant,
right, and I was dressed reallynice.
I was loving my outfit, I waswearing like a nice brunch dress
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, I had my hair done really well, my makeup, like I felt really
good about myself.
So I was waiting on a table andI'm sitting out in like the
waiting area, just, you know,waiting for the table, and some
one of the management had walkedby.
Right, an employee walked byand he goes oh, he's like
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where's your champagne glass?
And I was like I laugh, like no, you're right, I do need a
champagne in my in my hand rightnow.
So, whatever, okay, I go backinto my phone.
I wasn't, actually, it wasn'teven into my phone, but at some
point I do remember picking itup anyways.
So I'm just sitting therelooking around Next thing.
I know the guy comes around thecorner with a glass of
champagne for me, complimentary,just was like here you go, and
literally it was just because Ilook nice and I was like that's
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it.
You know, that's all it took,but it it made me smile, it made
me feel in a better mood, eventhough I was already in a good
mood.
But it's weird how the worldwill work more in your favor
when you present yourself nicelyversus had.
I went to that restaurant andI'm wearing, you know, sandals
and I'm wearing, you know, cutout jean shorts, which there's a
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time and a place for that.
Trust me, I have some in mycloset.
But when you're going to a nicerestaurant, you're definitely
going to want to be dressed up,dressed nicer, just because to
me that's like better etiquette.
But, like I said, I don't knowwhy, but people are nicer to you
when you're dressed nicely.
And then you know it also opensup conversations.
You know you're wearing aconversation piece like this is
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one of my favorite outfits I'veever gotten myself.
It's like gives me Barbie vibes.
It's pink.
I mean, one girl doesn't lovepink, as you can see.
I'm pink on pink, okay, butyeah, so I wore this I think it
was actually when the Barbiemovie came out.
I specifically bought thisoutfit for the Barbie movie and
I went with a group of girls andwe had like one of the best
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nights all dressed up, all inpink, and I was like, okay, I
have not worn this outfit sinceand I'm mad at myself for that
because I'm like why?
It's cute?
Reuse, reuse it.
You know, even though I know weget kind of like we can't get
caught in the same outfit.
We need to stop doing that toeach other, ladies.
Okay, if something looks good,then we can re-wear it.
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All right, stop judging thegirls for re-wearing outfits.
We have a lot sometimes, butsometimes stuff just looks good
the way it looks good.
You know, like going to thegrocery store.
Oh, my goodness, I used to goto the grocery store, so I'm
embarrassed to admit how badlydressed I would go Not even just
PJs, like close to bleachainedclothes type of clothes to the
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grocery store.
Not that they were, but itmight as well have been Like I
would just go so ratty and Iremember my hair would never be
done.
I'd have it like frizzy, nomakeup, you know, dressed down,
and then, because of what I do.
People would run into me andlike recognize me.
And I remember one time I sawwas a these grocery store
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employees they were out onenight, right ran into them and
they come over, they say, hi, wetalk.
And I was like, yeah, I know,you know, mentions me about the
way I was dressed.
And I go, I know I go kind ofcrazy when I go into the grocery
store.
And they all looked at eachother and they were like, yeah,
yeah, like that, right, likethat, right, like, like they've
talked about it, okay, likethey've noticed they talked
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about it.
They didn't understand it.
And then meanwhile in my headI'm like I'm just here to get
groceries and go home, right,like.
And I remember dragging my feetaround the store.
I just didn't feel good Really.
Then I tried going to thegrocery store dressed up
completely different experience.
I was in a better mood.
You know I would definitelymore people would speak to me
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when I was at the grocery storeand sometimes I know you don't
want that.
You're like please, nobody talkto me, nobody acknowledge me.
I'm not a people person and Iget that.
But overall, just to feel goodfor yourself, dress up, wear
that outfit that you've beenwanting to wear for no reason,
like, don't have those dressesin your closet that you're not
going to wear, or you're goingto wait until, like, oh, a gala
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night.
No, honey, I'm wearing whateverI feel like wearing.
If I feel like dressing up, I'mwearing it.
And sometimes I know you've runinto those people who go oh,
you're like, wow, you'reoverdressed, or I didn't know we
were dressing up.
You ever been around peoplelike that?
Listen, they are projecting onyou, just so you know.
Okay, they did not feel goodenough or take the time to dress
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themselves up.
And seeing you all dressed upand looking good makes them feel
bad about themselves.
And I've had girlfriends belike, oh, I was going to dress
up, but I know we were justgoing to do something casual.
And I've had girlfriends belike, oh, I was going to dress
up, but I know we were justgoing to do something casual.
And I always tell them no, no,no, no, no.
Don't do that for me, don't dothat for anyone else.
You wear the outfit you reallywanted to wear, because you know
that that's going to make yoube in the best mood, right?
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So, never dress down foranybody, all right, don't
believe that, no matter how itmakes them feel, they need to
work on that for themselves.
Wear your outfit and wear thoseshoes, for example.
Even this one woman.
She said my aunt passed away atthe age of 41.
She said she left a wholewardrobe of beautiful clothes,
scarves, jewelries, all withtags on.
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All with tags on, because youcan't take it when you go.
Right, you don't know when yourlast day is going to be.
So that's also why it's soimportant to use your favorite
things now, right, like, don'thoard them, don't just buy it
and then have it there to lookat.
You know, use it, it's going tomake you feel better.
So there is a woman who saysthat she's a CBT therapist.
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She said this is how we treatdepression the idea that you
should still do the things thatmake you feel good, even when
you don't feel good, so that youcan literally feel good.
Right, it feeds each other,right?
This is from a therapist.
Okay, so it has to be real, ithas to be true.
Um, another one she said shewasted so many food items by
saving them until they went bad.
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I think I'm guilty of that, butthat's just because I was tired
and didn't feel like cooking.
But ultimately the same thing.
Like you buy a nice cheese Doyou ever buy a nice cheese?
And you're like I'm going tomake a charcuterie board, right.
And then you're just like, oh,I don't have the time.
Or I'm just like, no, not yetI'm going to have guests.
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No-transcript life like that,it's just the way that it works,
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okay.
This one woman says I neverleave my house, looking crazy.
She says I light all my candles.
Oh my God, that was anotherthing.
I would buy really nice candlesfor decorative purposes, and
then I'd even forget that theywere there, like they would
blend into the background, andI'm like, oh yeah, I have this
candle that I really love.
Never smell it, never use it,but it's there.
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And so you got to stop doingthat, because then, when you're
done with it, you'll get anotherone.
Just buy yourself another one,like that's.
The other thing is that you makeroom for new things and
sometimes even better things.
That you know you may haveloved this, but once you use it,
you found something better orfound something just as good.
But the point is that youcontinue that so that you can
keep that going and that you'reyou know you'll feel good.
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Again, you get a new candle.
You're going to feel good aboutthat.
Who doesn't love a good candle?
They make great gifts.
I love a candle as a gift.
I think they're awesome.
But again, it's a sign that youmay not be doing well mentally
if you are hoarding these thingsor if you're not using them.
Maybe it's a scarcity mindsetthing that you have going on.
If you grew up poor, you grewup without.
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You might feel like you need tohold onto these things to make
them last, because if you don't,then they'll they'll go away
right, like the same thing withmoney.
So those are signs that, likethat's definitely a negative
thing that you got to workthrough and pinpoint.
What is it?
But today, if you are hearingthis podcast, go light that
candle.
Okay, go to your room right now.
Keep, keep listening to me andgo.
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Spray your favorite perfume onyourself and watch how much you
smile.
Watch how much you just feelbetter walking around your own
home or walking outside.
Try it.
It works for me.
I'm telling you, I no longerhoard my things Like I'm like
I'm going to use it and if it'sgone, I'll figure out how to get
it back.
You know it's so important.
Which brings me to my nextsubject of how to do with this.
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This because same thing withclothing, with things that you
own, except this one is for GenZ.
Gen Z, I got to talk to you.
I was reading this article thatsaid Gen Z says that if you
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wear this specific type of shoe,you are officially old, it
makes you look old.
And I was like what shoe couldthat be?
Like what shoe makes you lookold?
A croc, I don't know, you know.
No, they had the nerve to sayheels.
Heels are a sign that you areofficially old, and I cannot
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disagree with this more.
I listen, gen Z, you are knownfor being out at the club in
sneakers, in low tops, in flatsokay, in flippy flops.
And, as a millennial, okay, Idon't come from that era.
I come from the era where wewould wear, like the highest
five, six inch heels minimum.
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Okay, you started there, evenif you couldn't walk in them and
, mind you, I could not.
All right, I was definitely theBambi at the club, all right,
but I didn't care, because whenI was standing and leaning up
against the wall, I lookedamazing, my heels looked great,
okay, but getting to the bar.
That was another story, butthat was the sacrifice you kind
of made, you know, like, for thewhole outfit.
Let me tell you something wewould be in the club wearing
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blazers okay, like work blazers.
Okay, pencil skirts Dressedlike we were for an interview.
We'd be at the club with thepumps on the platform heels.
I every shoe I owned was a heelthat I could not walk in.
That's how committed I was tothis culture.
Okay, like sacrifices were made.
My feet would hurt.
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I, you know, my ankles wouldgive out some nights.
I remember I had to havefriends carry me to the car and
it wasn't because I was drinking.
I literally could not hold mybody up, but I still felt good
about myself and I had a time.
But I have been seeing, youknow, when I go out and I'll see
the girls wearing thesesneakers and I can already tell
like that's a Gen Z look.
You know, you like to wearthose baggy pants and I do think
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it's cute, it works for you,it's very cute.
Me, I would never, I would neverbe in the club with some
sneakers on purpose, like itwould have to be a complete
accident.
I was, you know, like, you know, when those friends invite you
somewhere and you have no choice, you're already out.
You're like I was here just toeat and now we're going out
tonight, can't go home andchange.
That has happened to me twicein my life.
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Okay, twice I may have been inthe club with sneakers or flats,
flats and then I always got toexplain myself like look, this
is what happened.
I would not be in this clubwithout my heels.
I don't like it.
I don't like it.
But yeah, so the sign thatyou're getting old is to wear
heels.
And if that is my sign, call mea viejita.
All right, I will be thatviejita in the club with my
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heels, because I'm not gettingrid of them.
I only wear sneakers for, like,if I'm going to go traveling and
I know we're going to gosightseeing right, we're going
to do a lot of walking.
There's a, you know,cobblestone floors, so you know
you can't wear a heel or youwill break your ankle.
Like it has to be physicallyimpossible for me to wear these
heels, for me to say I'm notdoing it.
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So you saying that I wasthinking, all right, all right,
I get it, you're not into it,gen Z, you don't like it, you
don't like the heels.
Maybe it's for comfort purposesand I don't think that that's
the right attitude to have aboutit.
Like I don't think that's areason, but again, it's because
I'm from a different era and wehad to wear heels Like it was a
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must.
There was no other choice.
If you were the girl in the clubwould shoot with tannies on,
you were going to be looked atwild, you might not even be let
into the club.
Actually, that's not true.
They always let the girls intothe club.
I've seen all walks of life belet into the club just because
they were a female, but at thesame time, couldn't be me,
wouldn't be my group, okay.
So then I decided well, oh, letme tell you this was a.
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I forgot.
So with the heels, all right, Iremember one night I was wearing
these like six inch.
Do you remember?
You wouldn't, gen Z.
But there are these, the thickplatform heels.
Right, there are at least sixinch stilettos, skinny heel,
skinny heel.
But they had a platform andthey were like they would cover
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your toes and they were V shaped.
All right, they were kind ofbulky looking too, but the heel
was thin.
Those were so in.
Okay, when I tell you that wasthe heel, that was the pump
every girl had to have, that wasit.
So I remember one night afterthe club, I'm wearing those
heels, I can't walk in them, I,or my, I do not walk in these.
Well, and I walked out of theclub and I remember like, okay,
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I'm out, there's nobody outside,like I can really just walk
crazy because I don't have totry to pretend.
So I did, and I noticed therewas a cop outside of the club
and I noticed that he waswatching me and I was like, okay
, like you know, I look a littlecrazy right now because the way
I'm walking, but I know it's myheels and I'm confident that,
like he's gonna know, he cantell I can't walk in heels.
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Well, this dude waits until Iget into my car.
I start driving off with mygirlfriend.
Next thing, I know the lightsgo up behind me and I'm like
what happened?
Like what, what?
Like what's going on?
I know I, I'm, I'm not drunk, Iknow that I haven't made any,
you know, uh, wrong turns.
So he pulls me over and then hegoes uh, I pulled you over
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because you were walking funny,like you were walking, like
you're drunk, you know.
So he was accusing me of beingdrunk and I'm like, oh my god
sir, I'm like you were.
And I started getting anattitude because I was very like
, confident that it wasn'tbecause of my drinking.
I had one drink and a red bullthat night, thankfully and so I
already knew I was like this guy.
No, no way.
I said you try walking in sixinch heels and then you tell me
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what you look like.
So he literally has me stepoutside the car.
This is the only time I've everhad a cop ask me to step
outside the car and I was like,thank God I was okay, but I was
still so angry that I knew whyhe was doing this.
But whatever.
So he gives me a test, he doesthe thing with my eyes and you
know he's like all right, he'slike, okay, you're, you're fine,
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but he's like I smell alcoholand I'm like you're lying.
You smell Red Bull, that's whatyou smell, and you're you're,
you know.
So I get into it with him.
My whole point was I couldn'twalk in the heels, so much so
that this cop really thought Iwas drunk.
But you know what?
It didn't matter to me, it wasworth it, it was.
It was like there was no otherchoice.
But I want to show you someheels, girls, that you can wear,
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that are still comfortable.
Okay that they still they havea heel on them.
They're still really nice andcomfortable and you can rock
these without doing the sneakersand you're gonna look better.
You're gonna look elevated.
You're going to look better,you're going to look elevated,
you're going to look classierand it's going to elevate your
outfits.
Okay, so I want to start with,like, see the outfit that I'm
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wearing right now, this hot pinkthing, it's.
You know, I love this.
It's a dress.
By the way, the shoes that Iwore with it last time and
you're probably going to hatethese, gen Z, you're, you're
gonna hate these, but I don'tcare.
Okay, this heel right here, thisskinny heel with a little like
a square bottom.
Okay, they look veryuncomfortable.
I'm not gonna lie, when Ibought them, I was like these
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are gonna be so hard to walk in.
Like you know, you tie themaround your, your, your legs,
your ankles, and actually verycomfortable, very, very, very
comfortable and super cute,feminine.
You know, not the sneaker, theydon't flatten you out like.
This is a very cute heel youcan get away with and still be
comfortable and still dance in.
Um, they're gonna last youabout three to four hours and
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then you're gonna have to sitdown.
But you know what?
Get your fun in for three tofour hours and then go home.
Okay, you shouldn't be out morethan that, all right?
So you always need a nude heel,and this heel for me was like
comfy, nude but still glam,sparkly, perfect.
Okay.
And it's a block heel okay,it's similar to your flat heel,
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your flat shoe.
It's got some femininity to it.
Okay, it's got some sparkle toit.
Comfortable.
I've lasted these all night.
Okay, love these Again.
They elevate your look.
Can't go wrong with a blockheel like this.
Now, some of the girls will tellyou that block heels are how do
I say?
Like the girls that know wouldnot wear them, but I think that
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there's a purpose for them,there's a place for them.
If you're at a wedding, go to awedding and you want to last,
you know you're gonna have tolast hours on the dance floor
and being there.
This is a good heel for that,okay, or a strappy nude one?
I have one, but I don't want toshow you because they're not my
like best pair.
They're not.
I need to get a new pair, iswhat I'm saying.
But a strappy one, nude, willtake you anywhere.
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I promise you Comfy ones though.
You got to know, though,because some of those nude ones
they look comfy.
Try them out, walk in them, youwill know, You'll be able to
feel it.
All.
Right, you need a classic pump.
Okay, again, I know this is avery skinny heel.
These are Steve Madden's.
He is not.
You know, I'm going to skipover that.
I'll just say this.
I'm going to skip over that.
I'll just say this Very glam,right, you can tell this is very
fancy, sparkly, beautiful,elegant.
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You know, it's a nice black heel.
Cover your toes.
I like the cover.
These kind of shoes I likebecause they'll cover your toes
if they're not done.
So you need a pair of that forthose days when your toes are
not ready for the public eye.
Okay, your in-between days days.
You need one of these, right,um, to save you.
And again, classic black, itcould be all black.
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Have a little sparkle to it.
Um, you're gonna have to getsome inserts.
These aren't the most comfiest,but they're so pretty.
I mean, come on, you get thecompliments you would get with
these like worth it?
Worth the pain, worth thesuffering?
There's gonna be some shoesthat, no matter what you do,
they're going to be painful butthey're better than rocking the
sneaks.
Don't do it.
Don't do it.
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You're still going to do it andthat's okay, but I'm not going
to partake in that and I'm goingto be considered old and you're
going to be considered nottaken seriously.
I don't think.
I don't know, maybe I'm wrong.
Are you having a good timewearing those sneakers?
Like I know?
And that's the thing Women willstill get hit on.
I get that.
But who are you getting hit onby?
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Is the question when you'rewearing sneakers?
I'm really asking, I'm reallyasking you to ask yourself you
know, I don't want the guythat's hitting on me because I'm
wearing sneakers.
Then he's going to becomfortable with me wearing
sneakers and taking me placeswhere I only wear sneakers.
No, it's not happening.
So I think that the way youpresent yourself is really
important.
And when you're going out, wearthat heel.
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It feels so nice and feminineand I just think it's a little
too masculine to be doing thesneaks.
And it also tells your age,which is fine.
You're away with it, that'sfine.
I just remember being in myearly 20s and that was never a
thing like that would just, youjust didn't do that.
All right, um, but times havechanged and I'm okay with that,
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or do I?
Am I not?
Doesn't sound like I am right,there's a way around.
It is all I'm saying.
I didn't like being called old,though.
I didn't like that.
So take that back.
Gen Z, I love y'all.
I think y'all are great.
I definitely believe in yourgeneration, just not when it
comes to the shoe game.
So take it from the girl who'sbeen around a little longer than
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you.
Wear the heels, you'll see thedifference and let me know.
Maybe wear the heels and thenlet me know in the comments how
it went for you.
You know were you Bambi.
You got to go through thosenights.
You're going to have thosenights.
Bring an extra pair, if you can, in the car, then you can
switch it up.
Get the pictures with the heels.
Switch it up, then it doesn'tmatter, you know.
But don't just be in thesneakers like that for you.
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I'm Brittany Gonzalez.
Thanks for brunching with me.
This is Brunch with Brittany.
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Share this episode with afriend who needs to hear this
and let me know in the commentswhat you think.
I mean, is it a sign?
Do we need to retire the heels?
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I don't think ever.
I don't think ever, but I wouldlike to hear your side of it.
Cheers.
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