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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Bailey is on the phone today for our first date
follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Shane.
So in a few minutes, we're gonna call Shane and
see if he tell us why he's ghosting her and
maybe get her another date. But first, Bailey, how long
has it been since you heard from Shane?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Probably, I don't know, maybe like a few days, maybe
a week or so, Yeah, about a week, okay?
Speaker 1 (00:26):
And have you tried to get a hold of him
in that time.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
I've tried chexting him a few times. I've tried calling.
We said we would meet at the dog park and nothing.
Speaker 4 (00:35):
Wait can I ask why the dog park?
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Yeah, we started running into each other there like a
few times a week, and it would just kind of
like be fun we'd have we'd get into deep conversations
obviously while our dogs were playing, because she also has
a dog. But yeah, and then he eventually asked me
if I wanted to get dinner, like just hamming without
the dogs. So we were always hanging out with the dogs,
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and yeah, I mean I was excited I was happy about.
I was hoping that he would eventually ask, and he did.
So we like went to this local Mexican spot in
like his neighborhood. It's really nice. It's like really cute
patio seating with like the beech tree lights and all that,
and it was a lot of fun. We the dinner
lasted three hours. Yeah, it was really long. We just
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talked and talked and talked. We didn't even drink that
much because we were just genuinely, you know, interested in
talking and enjoying each other's company. It went really well.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
One of those dates where you're on where the servi
keeps kind up like young guys right ear like we
haven't even looked at you.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Yeah, I think were like those too much.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Okay, Well I love those moments. So when you can
connect to somebody that you can talk to them for
three hours.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Yeah, it was fun. And there was just the two
of us. But yeah, so that was their dinner day.
And then you know, at the end of the night
we had we kissed and like he shinged really into it,
and then he said he has to go, but we
said we would do it again and we would see.
So after that he said that we would do it
again and we would meet up again at the dog
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park the next day, because both of us just go
every day like out a routine. But the next day
I went to the dog park and he wasn't there,
so I texted him just to make sure he was okay.
No answer. I texted again, I called, and that was it.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
That's like even worse than being ghosted, because like now
you're also worried about this person's well being. We sure
he's single, I mean, he said he was.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Is there anything that happened on the date that maybe
could be something or maybe it could be a reason
that you're getting ghosted?
Speaker 3 (02:38):
I mean, like so I have like the kind of
teeth where food always gets stuck in your teeth. Like
I don't know why that's the thing for me. Yeah,
I text early, I checked earlier in the night, and
like it was fine, and then like I got home
and I checked again and I had like a giant
piece of cilantro. So well, oh god, just like I
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don't know, maybe he felt it and I just want
to die. I don't know. That's it.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
That's the only thing you can think of with something
in your teeth.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
I get I mean, that's literally the only thing I
can think of. I'm like that. I don't even know
if that's a reason to go someone after three hours
of talking, you know, all.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
Right, Well, we'll play a song and then come back
and call him and see if he'll tell us why
he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date. Okay, okay,
all right, we'll play a song, come back and get
your First Day follow up.
Speaker 4 (03:30):
Next ran In the middle of today's First Day follow up.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
If you're just joining us, Bailey is on the phone
and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Shane. So
we're about to call him and see if he'll tell
us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.
But first, Bailey, why don't you recap your date with
Shane real quick?
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yeah. So, Shane and I met at a dog park.
We both have dogs, and we after a few days
of hanging out at the dog park, we went to
like a local Mexican restaurant. We had a lot of fun.
The dinner actually lasted three hours. We didn't even because
we were so into talking to each other. It was wonderful.
And then at the end we had a nice, beautiful
passionate kiss, and we agreed that we'd meet the next
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day at the dog park. He didn't show up. I texted,
I texted, I called nothing, so I don't know.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Okay, are you ready for us to call on?
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Yeah? Let's do it all?
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Right?
Speaker 5 (04:18):
Here we go.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
Hello, Hi, I speak to Shane. Please. This is Shane Shane.
How are you?
Speaker 2 (04:35):
My name is Jewbell and I'm calling from a radio
show called The Jewbil Show.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Hi, Shane, I'm Nina also on the show.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
Hi, and I'm Victoria Cool. How are you.
Speaker 5 (04:44):
I'm doing well? How are you folks?
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Great? Thank you for ev He sounds so scared.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
It's okay, don't be scared.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Have you ever heard of the show before?
Speaker 5 (04:52):
Oh? I mean, of course. Okay, that's why I'm sort
of Why are you calling me? If you've never heard
the First Date?
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Follow up?
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Its segment do on the show where somebody's getting ghosted,
they can email us and then we call that person
to see why they're ghosting them. And we got an
email about you, Shane.
Speaker 5 (05:08):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
It's from Bailey.
Speaker 5 (05:13):
Right.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
We talked to Bailey about your date.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
She said it was really great and she has no
idea why she's being ghosted. So we're calling you to
ask if you would tell us.
Speaker 5 (05:23):
Well, you could say, first all, I has nothing to
do with her. She's amazing and honestly, I can't stop
thinking about her. So there's nothing wrong with Bailey. The
thing is that I am. I'm actually in a relationship,
being in this relationship for three years. Actually it's pretty serious.
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I got it.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
I have an engagement ring.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Oh and to be clear, it's really messing with me
right now.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
So why did you go out with Bailey in the
first place, Shane?
Speaker 5 (05:59):
I probably definitely, I definitely should not have. But she's
so cool. We were having so much front of the
dog park. She's funny, she was just very natural, like
very natural chemistry. And I guess I convinced myself that
if I went on a date and you know, outside
of the context of the dog park, maybe like maybe
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she wouldn't be awesome and cool. Was very stupid, because
it turns out that she is even cooler. I mean,
we weren't even we shouldn't even drink. We just talked
for three hours.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Yeah that's what she said.
Speaker 5 (06:34):
So yeah, I mean, honestly, I just really messed up,
and I shouldn't have done it. Also, I'm just reevaluating
my entire situation, like if in my engage to the
right person should be in this relationship, if I'm if
I feel this way about this other person, or is
it just like because it's.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
So new Shane. That's all good questions. And I bet
somebody who would like some to figure out some answers
with you to that would be Bailey.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
She's actually on the phone listing and wants to talk
to you.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
Hi, Hey, Bailey, I'm really sorry.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
Yeah, I'm really confused on how, oh why you let it.
Speaker 5 (07:11):
Get this far? Yeah? Yeah, after the kiss, I was
just like one am I thinking this.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Is I'm confused, and I just don't know why you
let it get this far. And I just think that
you probably should have told me you had a girlfriend
when we were at the dog's park and not after
we went to dinner for three hours. And I just
don't know what you were thinking and how you could
do this to two people.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
What was the plan, sane, like just ghosting Bailey and
then it would just go away.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
I was hoping that we would just get a vibe like, oh,
we should just be friends and then that would be
easier to just, you know, from then on detached and
just be dog parts friends. And that's not what happened
at all, obviously, and it was very stupid and irresponsible
with me, and I hate myself. Not that it's anybody's,
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you know, problem, makes it for my own and I
have to figure it out. But I just want to
be clear, like Bailey, like I fell for you, I
fell for you hard, and I can't. I still can't
stop thinking about you, and that is that is my problem,
and that is my fault. But I just want you
to know that you didn't Obviously, you didn't do anything wrong,
and in fact, if.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
You're great, well it's my problem too because I'm stuck
in this. And it's your girlfriend's problem too, she just
doesn't know it yet. But I mean, obviously I'm I
have strong feelings for you too. I'm just really upset
and I just didn't. I don't know why you did
this or what you want to do about all of
this now that everybody's involved.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Well, what do you want to do about this now, Bailey,
that you have this information?
Speaker 3 (08:45):
I guess I just want him to man up and
make a decision, like he's living with someone that for
three years that he's about to propose to and he
bought a ring, but he's telling me otherwise. So I
think he just needs to leave his girlfriend because I
think we're soulmates. Then I'm I think I'm the one,
and that's what he kind of said over a three
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hour dinner, So I think he needs to do that.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Shane, and she.
Speaker 5 (09:11):
Might be right. I have to figure this out. I mean, Bailey,
you might, you might be. I don't. That's why I'm
so messed up, Like it would be a lot easier
if I didn't feel that way. Obviously. I have to
figure things out. I mean, like this person's really special
to me, obviously about an engagement ring, and again, I
just got to make sure I'm not just doing something
because I'm feeling something all of a sudden, something new.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
So you both think that each other's soul mates.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
Well, I'm just kind of annoyed on him right now.
Speaker 5 (09:39):
I mean, I mean we talked about it on the
date or you know, like everything down to our birthday's lineup,
you know, like we're compatible, think we are like tool
makes I just I don't know what to do. I mean, Dailey,
what should I do?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Well?
Speaker 3 (09:57):
When you can call her, like when we get off
the phone. Now, you can just call her and tell
her that it's over and you can come live with me.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
WHOA, Well, I guess I can ask the question now, Shane,
would you like to go on another date with Bailey?
Speaker 5 (10:11):
We'll pay for it? Yeah, yeah, and that's the figure
of this out. But yes, yes, that's I think what
I want. But I just want to be clear. So Bailey,
you're saying, if I call her and I and things
right now, I can live with you.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
Yeah, if you call her and break it up, you
can move in tonight if you want. And you can
bring that ring that you got for her, because we're soulmates, so.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
Just bring the ring.
Speaker 5 (10:34):
Yeah, we'll have to figure out it historic size. But yeah,
what you know what, I just talking about it right now.
I'm feeling like so much weight off my shoulders. I
think I think it's the right thing to do. I
think the soulmates just where like real I gotta do.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
Okay, Well, congratulations, Bailey, you got another date and maybe
if more fiance out of it. Yeah, we'll pay for
a second date, but not the wedding that escalated really.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
Yeah, all right, thanks guys and Shane, make that phone,
make that phone call, and yeah, I love you.
Speaker 5 (11:11):
Oh, I love you too.
Speaker 4 (11:14):
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