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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Alicia is on the phone today for our first Date
follow up, and she's gonna ghosted by a dude named Jason.
So in a little bit we're gonna call him and
see if he'll tell us why he's Ghostinger and maybe
get her another date. But first, Alicia, how long has
it been since you heard from Jason?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hi, guys, it's been like like two weeks.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
Have you tried to reach out to him.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
I've tried like once or twice.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Like I don't want to seem crazy or anything, but yeah,
I've tried a little and just nothing in response.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
Well, why don't you tell us about the date and
how you guys met.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Yeah, so we met on.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Hiinge, you know, as most people do these days. I like, Yeah,
we plodded, we ch hated for.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
A good minute. Like it was back and forth for
like a couple of weeks. Actually, he suggested we do
like a traditional date to dinner, which we paid for.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
It was very nice.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
We didn't get drinks afterwards. We just sort of went
our sparate ways. So I don't know, I felt like.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
It was really positive. We did kiss just a little bit,
very small, very nice, and he texted to make sure
I got home, which felt like a positive spine. And yeah,
that was the last thing I heard from him.
Speaker 5 (01:16):
So what was going on during like the dinner, Like,
what were you guys talking about?
Speaker 4 (01:21):
Did you feel like you guys were flirtatious?
Speaker 5 (01:23):
Because I mean, to be honest, it sounds a little
bit dry from you know, just that was that. I mean,
maybe I mean for both of you, even not just him,
you know.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
I mean I thought in the conversation, like I don't
want to be again, I don't want to sound crazy,
but I thought this guy was really perfect. He really
checked all of my boxes and he was so he
was so flirty over like the hinge messages and everything,
and when we were texting, he was super flirty and
I was really excited.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
So maybe that's why I'm sort of downplaying.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
It now because I was a little he was just
so sweet and I felt like the conversation was good.
I mean, obviously now I'm replaying it and I have
like a million like, oh my god, go did I
do wrong? But yeah, I'm just kind of shocked that
he hasn't I wonder if he felt the same way.
Speaker 4 (02:09):
How did the kiss happen?
Speaker 6 (02:11):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (02:11):
It was sweet.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
He like walked me to my car and we were
just having a nice little conversation about something completely unrelated,
and then.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
He was like, can I kiss you? Which also we
love consent love that?
Speaker 4 (02:21):
He asked, Yeah, we do.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Also also like a really like a green flag, Like
I thought that was a really like mature, like grown
there kind of thing to do.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
So yeah, another positive with a moment from the date.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Okay, is there anything you can think of that like
an awkward moment or something like that that could have happened.
Speaker 6 (02:39):
I mean, I.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
Don't, Like I said, my ego is just probably a
little bit bruised by this.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
So I'm automatically looking at myself in the mirror being like,
am I not cute enough for this guy? Or honestly,
I'm like did.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
My breath think a little like did I eat something
stinky at dinner?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Because it was like it was like a quick kiss.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
It wasn't like prolonged and drawn out, so I thought,
oh god, what if my mouth is stinky?
Speaker 3 (03:03):
For some reason? She could have been more passionate probably
I don't know, or like we talked about work. That
was a good thing.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
He's got like a really great stable job in finance,
and I'm a server right now. I mean I do
a lot of things, but I'm a server's sort of
my main source of income.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
And I wonder if maybe that was off putting to him.
I'm not sure did he.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
Say anything when he told him that.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
No, he wasn't like overt me, like judgmental or anything.
I mean, I mostly consider myself a creative, like I
have like a multi hyphen it, like, I have a
lot of things that I do, so it's you know,
I think I saw myself pretty well in that regard,
and hopefully he wasn't like off put by. He seemed
like supportive of it. He was like, oh, that's great,
like seeing like that was admirable for me to be,
you know, juggling so many things at once and then
(03:48):
being a server.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
So it was off with by it. He didn't he
didn't really.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Let all on.
Speaker 5 (03:51):
You know, maybe it was more like intimidation than a
negative thing. You know, maybe it's just like, wow, she's
creative and can do so many things.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
I don't.
Speaker 5 (03:58):
I'm so linear and whatever. I don't know if he
is I don't really know what he does, but I
don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Yeah, I mean, I definitely ask him a lot of
questions about it, Like I think, you know, whatever, everybody's
job is interesting.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
I like people are passionate about so. But then I'm
also like, did I ask too many questions? You know?
And you know I'll seaking like police.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
All right, Well, let's see what we can figure it
out for you so you can get out of your
head on the whole thing. I get it though. We'll
play a song come back, and then call him and
see if what' tellus why is ghosting you? And maybe
get you another date? Okay, okay, guys, thanks, all right,
we'll play a song come back. Get your first day
follow up next. Right in the middle of your first
day follow up if you're just joining us, Alicia is
on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude
(04:38):
named Jason. So we're about to call him and see
ifa tell us why is ghostinger, and hopefully get her
another date if she wants one. But first, Alicia, why
don't you catch us up on your situation? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (04:47):
So I went out with this guy, Jason. We met
on Hinge. We talked for a little bit before.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
I haven't heard from him in two weeks and I
am totally spiraling about it. We did kiss on the date,
but it was brief and I wonder if my breath
was stinky or date. That's your recap.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Okay, well, are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (05:06):
All right, here we go. Hi, misspeak to Jason.
Speaker 4 (05:20):
Please.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Yeah, this is see Hey Jason, how are you? My
name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show. It's
called The Jebel Show.
Speaker 4 (05:26):
Hi, Jason, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, and
I'm Victoria.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Yeah. No, no, I know you guys. Why are you
calling me?
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Sweet? We're calling you because somebody emailed us about you. Okay,
So I don't know if you know the segment we do,
the first day follow up. That's where if you go
out on a date with somebody and then end up
ghosting them, they can email us to get you on
the phone and ask why you're ghosting? Okay, So is
there anybody that you can think of that you're ghosting?
Speaker 3 (05:57):
I mean not really, I don't know what I mean.
Speaker 7 (06:00):
Like, you know, online dating, it's like you have like
seven conversations going, you know, and it's like kind of
hard to remember sometimes, like who.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
This is somebody who actually went on a date with?
Speaker 7 (06:12):
Yeah, I mean, you know it's so rare though, like
you actually meet somebody on the apps that like is
actually worth going out with, and so I don't always
like get out on a date with somebody, so like, yeah,
I've really been on a lot of dates. Three HNDS
is probably like one like lately that I can remember.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
Yeah, No, it was a it was a Leisha.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Yes, got it correct? That is it. That's who emailed us.
She Wantsn't a wire Ghostinger says, you tried to reach
out to you a few times.
Speaker 6 (06:41):
Uh yeah, I mean I don't know, you know, like
sometimes people are like really really good like communicating one
style and then not so good and another one.
Speaker 7 (06:53):
You know, like all right, she's kind of a chat queen,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Queen, she's great, like great.
Speaker 7 (06:59):
At chatting on that app, right, and like the conversation
was super flirty and like you know, it was like
we were both like you know, never like leaving each
other on red. Like there was a lot of just
quick quick back and forth.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
And it was going really good.
Speaker 7 (07:12):
And I don't know, like I mean, I feel like
the maybe that set.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
Things up a little like the bar a little bit
too high because.
Speaker 7 (07:18):
Then like when we got in person, it wasn't as fun.
But I mean, and that was okay, but like the
real deal breaker was like she says she wanted a baby,
and I am.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Like, so not ready for that.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (07:33):
So we're sitting across from each other in the boot
in the restaurant and she points over my shoulder and
she goes, I want one of those so bad, And
I turn over my shoulder and there is this like
mom with like a toddler, like you know, she's like,
you know when its states, and I'm just like, I.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
Mean, I feel like that's a little bit much on
a first date. I think it's actually like I want
one of those so bad. Put one in me right now.
Speaker 5 (08:02):
Not saying put one in me right now, but I
think it is important to have that conversation early on
a date because that way you save each other time.
If you're a hard no and she's a hard yes,
Like why even bother having a second date? This this
ghosting makes sense then?
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (08:14):
I mean, so like I was totally going to take
her back to my place, but like after like that happened,
Like I don't.
Speaker 7 (08:19):
Want to risk becoming a father right now, so like
that was.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Gat Okay, sorry, hi, Jathon, Hi, it's really I need
to parify something.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Alicia is on the phone listening and wants to talk
to you. If you haven't figured that out.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
Yet, yeah, of course you okay, okay, Hi, Hello, I
hope you're doing well. Oh my gosh, I what are
you talking about. I definitely do not want a baby.
I did not mention that I wanted a baby on
the date. Are you? I'm like crazy?
Speaker 6 (08:53):
You you pointed over my shoulders, said I want one
of those so bad, and there was.
Speaker 7 (08:58):
Like a mom with her toddlers right mind.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
No, I was pointing at the drink on somebody's table.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
I definitely don't want a baby.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
It wouldn't be weird if you did.
Speaker 4 (09:13):
But okay, are you serious?
Speaker 3 (09:17):
It wasn't. It wasn't the mom and the cooing baby
behind us. No, it was the.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Drink that was at the cheek from eu us. I'm
so embarrassed that you thought I was talking about that
on a first date.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
I mean I turned around and all.
Speaker 7 (09:33):
I saw was mom and baby and like my, like
my stomach drops and then you're kidding me right, it
was a cocktail.
Speaker 5 (09:44):
Be sure you don't want a baby, because you know
you see what you want to see and say what
you want to say.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Oh man, I definitely maybe was a little quiet on
the first date. Sometimes I get nervous on first days,
but I definitely would not have pointed as a child,
said I want a baby.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Okay, Well good now that we got that figured out, Jason,
would you like another date with Alicia? Will pay for it?
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (10:11):
I mean like everything was pretty solid for that moment,
and now that I know that, I completely missed that one.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
Yeah, yeah, that sounds great. God I am I.
Speaker 7 (10:22):
Am so sorry I didn't ask from what you were
talking about. Yeah, if you're down, I would love to
take you out again.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
That that is completely okay and I would love to
go out with you again.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
Thanks for thanks for the second chance.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
And to be fair, I think you also mentioned something
about taking me home that night because I was listening
to everything you said.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
So maybe you make.
Speaker 6 (10:50):
Now that I know where you stand on babies.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
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