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Speaker 1 (00:00):
First day of follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury
Attorneys online at Advocates Law dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Matt is on the phone today for a first date
follow up and he's getting ghosted by somebody named Bria.
So in a minute, we're going to call her and
see if she to tell us why she's ghosting him
and maybe get him another date first Matt, how long
has it been as your from Bria?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Hey, yeah, you know it's been It's been about a
week now. Yeah, I gotta be honest.
Speaker 4 (00:26):
Is the first time I've ever been ghosted? I'm not
really sure if it's a long.
Speaker 5 (00:29):
Time or not ever.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Wow, congratulations, I appreciate that.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
I try to be selective of the idea.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
A week is a long time if you go out
with somebody, usually if they like you, you know, maybe
a couple of days go by where they don't text you,
but they'll get back to you.
Speaker 5 (00:45):
Have you tried reaching out?
Speaker 4 (00:47):
I'm hitting about it just because I wanted to be
like a single you know, thoughtful thing like, not exactly
a grand gester. I don't want to be like a
door about it, but I do want to make sure
that it is memorable, want to make it, you know,
And that's the thing. That's what I'm calling it is
because I want you guys to help me out with this.
I really don't know what I'm doing. This is totally
new territory for me.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Okay, So you want to get her attention with something
more of a hey, how you do in text?
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Exactly?
Speaker 4 (01:13):
I want to be much more of a because she
is dating with intention and I want to make sure
that I am someone who's you know, intention is worthwhile.
Speaker 5 (01:25):
That's cute a picture.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Okay, Okay, how did you met Bria? Matt How did
you meet her? And how is the date?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:34):
We so we met on Hinge and we were talking,
you know, back and forth for a little bit and
making sure that you know, we we really you know, had.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
A feel for one another.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
I saw on Hinge her photos where she was hiking,
and that showed me that she's equally active and she
appreciates nature.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
And that's that's all me. I love that we went to.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
A rooftop for drinks, you know, right at sunset, so
he's going to have very very beautiful views.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
And indeed we.
Speaker 4 (01:59):
Got to that. That was great and it was really
romantic of our plants.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
It was.
Speaker 4 (02:04):
It seemed kind of an intimate setting. And then so
I'm glad we were there because we started just acting
like we were on vacation, you know, so we made
up stories for ourselves. We were looking around us at
the different couples of different people, making up stories for them.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
You know. It was a lot of fun, it was.
And then she was a lot of fun.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
One of the things that I really appreciate is just
how she beams with everything, you know, just big smile, laughing,
contagious laughter.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
At that point, we started about, you know, what we
want and goals and.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
What our passions are, what drives us, and it seemed
it really really seemed to fit. And this is why
I'm concerned about the ghost thing, because you know, I
hope she's all right. I hope that I didn't come
across too strong.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
You know. We ended the day with a hug, like
a nice tight hug.
Speaker 6 (02:52):
It was.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
It seemed promising, and so I want to make sure
that everything is kind of how I thought.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
It was in my head. And then I don't know,
maybe I messed up. I hope I didn't.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Well, it sounds like it went really great for the
most part. Is there anything that happened. That could be why.
Speaker 4 (03:10):
I mean, you know, I'm competitive, I'm maybe overly competitive.
And I asked her if she was seeing other people,
you know, just because she said she was dating with intention,
But I do want to know kind of how that went.
Speaker 6 (03:23):
And yeah, she did say.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
That she was kind of dating. It didn't sound like
there was anything serious going on. But maybe I just
came across as too intense with how I asked, how.
Speaker 5 (03:33):
Did you ask?
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Did you reach across the table and grab her hand
and stared deep and j Ryan said, are you seeing
anybody else?
Speaker 5 (03:38):
Yes? I might like it.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
I can't quite remember.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
So maybe I was in a bit of an altered
state of mind. Maybe the drink was flowing that evening. Okay,
so yeah, that might have contributed to it. I don't
remember any that too.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
All right, man, Matt, we'll see what we can figure
it out for you.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
We'll play a song, come back, and then call her
and try to get you another date and find out
whre you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Okay, thank you guys, I appreciate that.
Speaker 5 (04:13):
All right, Well, play a song, come back, get your
first day follow up next.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
If you're just joining us for today's first day follow up,
Matt is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Bria.
So we're about to call her and see if show
tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
another date. But first, Matt, why don't you catch us
up on your situation?
Speaker 4 (04:29):
Yeah, Bri and I went on a date, and you know,
beforehander met on Pinge, I was very tried to all
of her photos. We met up, it seems like it
was going really great. We had a lot of fun
just making up stories about ourselves and when it came
to this fun little gamer you're playing, but I feel
like I really got to know her.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
I was very, very attractive to her, and she was.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Basically like just just sunshine, and so I want to
know what.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
Happened with it.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Okay, And you think that the reason she might not
be calling you back is because you asked if she
was dating other people.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
I honestly don't know, and I'm looking.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
For you guys to help me out with this.
Speaker 5 (05:04):
Okay, Well here we go. You're ready to call her?
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Please, let's do. What's up? Hi?
Speaker 5 (05:21):
I speak Tobria. Please, This is hey Bria.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
How are you?
Speaker 5 (05:25):
My name is Jewbel and I'm calling from a radio show.
It's called The Jewbil Show.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Hi, Bria, I'm Nina also on the show.
Speaker 5 (05:30):
Hi, and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
Oh hire.
Speaker 5 (05:32):
A lot of people here there is How are you?
Speaker 7 (05:37):
I I'm okay, how are you?
Speaker 5 (05:40):
I'm good? Thank you for asking. Have you ever listened
to the show before?
Speaker 4 (05:44):
I have?
Speaker 2 (05:45):
Well, we're calling because we do a segment on the
show called the First Date follow Up, where if you
go out on a date with somebody and then you
ghost them, they can email us to call you and
ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 6 (05:56):
Huh.
Speaker 5 (05:57):
So we got an email about you from somebody.
Speaker 6 (06:00):
Yeah, okay, who are you ghost Brian? Well, I'm guessing
is this Matt?
Speaker 5 (06:10):
Yes, it is so.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Matt emailed us and we talked to him a little
bit about your date. He really liked you, and he
is wondering why you're not calling him back.
Speaker 7 (06:20):
I mean, it feels kind of weird to say, but
I just think he's too pretty.
Speaker 5 (06:25):
Do you think he's too pretty?
Speaker 7 (06:27):
I think yeah, I think I think he's too pretty,
and I think he knows he's he's a He's a handsome.
Speaker 6 (06:33):
Lad, and that is a little bit of a turnoff
for me.
Speaker 5 (06:38):
Was it confidence or arrogance?
Speaker 7 (06:40):
Well, so, like it started off, he just kind of
seemed to talk a lot about himself, and he seemed
to just always be catching.
Speaker 6 (06:47):
His reflection in a mirror or a window, just like
seemed very taken with it. And he also was kind
of talking about.
Speaker 7 (06:57):
His Internet presence and how many following whereas he has
and just like if repeated that a few times, and
I just kind of felt like I wasn't really being
paid attention. You know, it's a first date, so I
expected some questions about me, and he just kind of
seemed to be talking about how fit he is and
like how he's going to start off fitness page. You know,
(07:19):
like I know that he we talked about hiking and
like being outdoors and being fit, and like I'm definitely
about that, but like I'm also a person, and I
felt that, yeah, we we got to.
Speaker 6 (07:30):
Talk about things bigger than internet presence.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
It sounds like he was trying to impress you. Oh,
isn't it Like he showed up with all of his
toys and was like, look at this is what I have.
Speaker 5 (07:40):
Do you like him?
Speaker 6 (07:41):
I could see that.
Speaker 7 (07:42):
I could see that, and you know, I was trying
to ask him about things that he was interested in,
but I kind of expected him to ask me about
some stuff. That's you got to make a connection on
your date, and I feel like you actually have to,
you know, like ask questions and.
Speaker 6 (07:57):
Sort of be interested.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
I ask you a question?
Speaker 5 (08:02):
So wait, wait, what was that? That's Matt. Matt is
actually on the other line listening and wants to talk
to you.
Speaker 6 (08:08):
Yeah. I thought it was just you guys.
Speaker 5 (08:12):
Matt's here too, Yeah, and I guess he has a question.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
Now.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
I wanted to ask, did you have a fun time
on our date?
Speaker 5 (08:20):
Otherwise, fucking valid, that's a question about.
Speaker 6 (08:27):
You, but it was a question about us, So I'm
gonna say fifty to fifty. We I mean, we did
have fun, Like it was fun.
Speaker 7 (08:36):
Pretending like we were on vacation and coming up with
all kinds of stories for the people around us. But
you know, it was a date where I was trying
to get to know you, and I thought you would
be trying to get to know me. So anytime I
felt like I brought up, you know, bigger topics, you
you know, I thought that you just kind of always
steered it back to you. So I'm looking, Yeah, there
(08:58):
are a couple of.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
I hope they don't come across as just excuses here.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
First off, I kind of had maybe a couple shots before.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
The date to call my nerves because I.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
Was definitely really getting looking forward to getting to know you.
Speaker 6 (09:18):
Yeah, yeah, of course you did.
Speaker 4 (09:20):
And I feel like I, honestly, I do genuinely feel
like I I.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
You know, I feel like I did actually get to
know you.
Speaker 4 (09:27):
You know, like you're You're a great listener, and I
mean the work you do with the animals is brilliant.
Speaker 6 (09:35):
What I don't work with animals, sure.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
Is I might have had way too much. I had
two shots that might have quadruples. I genuinely though, I
I mean, I really appreciated her energy, and I I
(10:00):
think that she was She's just sunshine. She's just sunshine
and human form, and I understand that. I, yeah, totally
totally overly concerned about my looks and everything, and that
shouldn't be something that I'm worrying about on a first date.
With my business, I kind of have to be on
all times and I should have unwinded. That was one
of the reasons I had those shots as well. But humbly,
(10:25):
I would love a second date.
Speaker 7 (10:28):
Can you could you just tell me what color my
eyes are?
Speaker 3 (10:32):
You're beautiful green eyes?
Speaker 6 (10:35):
Well they're blue?
Speaker 5 (10:38):
Real? Would you like to go on a first date
to give another shot?
Speaker 6 (10:48):
I know were we were? We was this? Did this happen?
Speaker 3 (10:53):
It sounds like we need another first date for sure?
I need to remember at this time.
Speaker 7 (10:59):
Well, if you can promise that, you know, maybe we
do an afternoon thing, maybe we have some coffee and
we if we talk about some things a little bit
bigger than internet presence, I think maybe I can.
Speaker 4 (11:13):
I can agree to that. Though you said a drive
a hard bargain, but those are agreeable terms.
Speaker 6 (11:18):
You're gonna go, Bria.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
I am so sorry that. Clearly I was in a
different place in my mind and I was not listening
to a single word you said. And I really appreciate. Yeah,
you know what, this this next one, I'm going to
listen to everything.
Speaker 3 (11:34):
I'm gonna let you do the talking. Let's let's go
with that.
Speaker 6 (11:39):
Well, I do.
Speaker 7 (11:40):
I do like a person who can own their mistakes.
And you know, we're not always going to be perfect
every time.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
So yeah, cool, Well, congratulations, Matt, you got a date
with Bria.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
The follow up