Here After with Megan Devine

Here After with Megan Devine

Each week on Here After, join best-selling author and psychotherapist Megan Devine for conversations with interesting people about difficult things. There’s a lot going on lately (understatement). From personal losses to bigger collective sweeps of let’s just call it - a lot of awful things? - everything is a lot. It’s a really human thing to hope things will get better (even when you’re not sure how they possibly could). So this season on Here After with Megan Devine: we go looking for hope. But not your airy, flaky “hoping for the best” kind of hope. Here After explores the kind of hope you get from telling the truth about how hard things are, the hope you get from keeping your eyes open and refusing to let your heart shut down. Real world hope, with guests from the front lines of grief, loss, trauma, education and activism. Here After with Megan Devine is how you’d imagine the coolest dinner party ever might be: conversations that leave you feeling seen, heard, and even a little inspired to head back out into the world to have your own conversations about difficult - and hopeful - things. New episodes each and every Monday, from the author of the best-selling book, It’s OK that You’re Not OK, and iHeartMedia.

Episodes

February 6, 2023 38 min

What do we lose when we’re not allowed to be angry? 

 

In a lot of ways, anger is more taboo than grief. They’re deeply related, as you’ll hear in this two-part episode: both grief and anger are considered “negative” emotions, things you shouldn’t feel, and definitely shouldn’t express in polite company. But what if reclaiming our anger was the way to build the world - and the relationships - we most want?

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What do we lose when we’re not allowed to be angry? 

 

In a lot of ways, anger is more taboo than grief. They’re deeply related, as you’ll hear in this two-part episode: both grief and anger are considered “negative” emotions, things you shouldn’t feel, and definitely shouldn’t express in polite company. But what if reclaiming our anger was the way to build the world - and the relationships - we most want?

All of that and more with...

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Dr. Errol Pierre is a corporate executive, leader, mentor, and outspoken advocate for healthcare equity in the US and Haiti. HIs new book, The Way Up, helps underrepresented individuals from all ethnic backgrounds achieve their professional goals and elevate their careers in today's workplace. 

 

What you probably don’t know is that grief - in one form or another - plays a part in every one of those roles. 



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Amy Choi and Rebecca Lehrer are used to exploring complexities. As hosts of the podcast The Mash-up Americans, they cover all sorts of complex intersections of identity and culture. In this episode of Here After, they join me to talk about Mashup Americans’ newest series, Grief, Collected. 

 

In this episode we cover: 

 

  • Amy’s brilliant grief avoidance/childbirth analogy & what we need in order to come out of our dark little ne...
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    Have you ever wanted to just SMASH things? Leanne Pedante and her husband Miles’ relationship was built on bravery and communication - they worked so hard to reach the next step together, excited to explore the edges of possibility in love and in life. On his way back to see Leanne after several months away, Miles’ car veered off the road, and he was killed.

    In the just under two years since, Leanne has continued to grow the virtua...

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    Is acceptance overrated? What happens when you have to face a new year without your person in it (or without the health you used to have!)?  In this special two-part episode, we face the new year together - with a re-release of my conversation with historian, author, and queen of awkward conversations, Kate Bowler. 

     

    In this episode: 

  • How do you have hope for the year to come when right now maybe isn’t so great? 
  • Acceptance, moving...
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    December 26, 2022 24 min

    The end of the year is always a flurry of resolutions and “next year will be even better!” sentiments. If your life has been anything but awesome lately, a “new year, new start” can feel impossible. In this special two part episode, we face the new year together - with a re-release of my conversation with historian, author, and queen of awkward conversations, Kate Bowler. 

     

    In this part one of this episode: 

  • How do you have hope f...
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    December 24, 2022 6 min

    My dad used to read ‘‘Twas the Night Before Christmas” every Christmas Eve when I was a kid, after dinner and before we opened our Christmas pjs. 

     

    So many of you are missing your dads, or grandparents, or the father of your kids. This year, I asked my dad to record the Christmas Eve classic for the show. I wanted you to have a stand-in grandpa, in case you were missing one of your own. 

     

    From my family to yours, may you have the...

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    Ever wonder what doctors say about their patients when they think no one can hear? Dr. Rana Awdish doesn’t have to wonder - as a patient, she overheard a lot of distressing things. Her experience led her to change how medical providers speak about - and to - their patients, spreading compassion through communication (which we know is a mission dear to my heart). Listen in to hear Dr. Awdish’s take on the pressure on healthcare work...

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    It’s been ten years since the massacre at Sandy Hook elementary where 20 children and 6 adults were murdered in an act of public gun violence. While we’ve got your attention in this flurry of ten year anniversary media reports, Sandy Hook parent survivor Nelba Márquez-Greene wants you to know what survival really looks like. 

     

    This is a re-release of the first episode of season two. On this week’s show, Nelba and I discuss what it...

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    The rags to riches success story is everywhere - usually with a side of trauma somewhere: the homeless child with mental health issues overcomes all the odds to win an Ivy league scholarship. After graduation, they continue to “rise above” their past by joining the world’s most famous tech company. If they can do it, anyone can. 

     

    It’s a story we hear over and over again. But what if those transformation stories actually hide some...

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    Dog search team expert Cat Warren’s current work focuses on historical research, specifically: searching for abandoned or hidden burial grounds. This fascinating branch of search work combines history, racism, grief, and social reckoning. 

     

    In this episode we cover: 

  • How dogs let us talk about historical acts of violence in ways that seem impossible otherwise
  • Are there bones in the highway you’re driving? Probably yes. 
  • Where to eve...
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    You’ve probably seen it - dramatizations of search dogs, running through the woods, noses to the ground, looking for a missing person, or for human remains. We’ve got a weird fascination with this stuff in the media, but when it’s real life - well, if it’s your loved one those search dogs are looking for, it’s a whole different story.

    What’s it like being the human half of a cadaver search dog team? Expert Cat Warren lays it all ou...

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    If you’ve been worried about bad things happening to the people you love, is it possible that an actual bad thing might bring temporary relief? Obviously, the answer is “no not really,” but in this conversation with author Mary Laura Philpott, we explore the weird complexity of the anxious (and loving) mind, and the hoops we jump through to ensure our own survival.

    Mary Laura’s latest book, Bomb Shelter, traces her son’s epilepsy -...

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    Look, life is weird and difficult. Social situations are hard to navigate. The world is too loud or too scratchy. You’re too loud or too bright or just “too much.” And then, a new diagnosis helps you understand all that friction in a new way. It doesn’t magically make things better, but it does make things…. Different. 

     

    On today’s Here After with Megan Devine, Lauren Ober joins us to talk about The Loudest Girl in the World and h...

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    If you look at social media with its reliance on meme-based psychology, you’d think that the Buddhist approach to life is to not let things get to you - that the true spiritual path helps you rise above such limited, unenlightened human feelings like grief, greed, and resentment. Zen teacher Koshin Paley Ellison is here to tell you that your suffering deserves your attention. 

    In this episode we cover: 

     

  • How an experience of targe...
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    On the outside, veteran Jason Kander had everything going for him: successful political career, lovely family, the respect of his peers. But on the inside, he was struggling: nightmares, depression and suicidal thoughts were constant companions.

    Jason joins us to talk about his new book, Invisible Storm, and what it really takes to go from post traumatic stress to post traumatic growth. (don’t let that “post traumatic growth” turn ...

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    What’s happening in Iran and why are you hearing about it so much? 

    This week on Here After, Iranian-American actor & writer Nazanin Nour on the protests unfolding in Iran, grief in the Iranian global community, and how the whole world has the power to fight for women, life, and freedom. This episode is so special - I need you to listen. 

     

    In this episode we cover: 

  • What’s happening in Iran and why the whole world is watching
  • W...
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    Nobody likes to talk about pet loss… but everybody wants to talk about pet loss. What a difficult scenario that is! Veterinary oncologist Dr. Renee Alsarraf joins us to talk about grief, professionalism, and the importance of being human - on the job and off. 

     

    In this episode we cover: 

     

  • The whole truth about loving - and losing - your pets
  • The terrible advice Dr. Renee Alsarraf’s grad school teacher gave her (and why she refused...
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    NYT best-selling author Emily X.R. Pan had a problem: she wanted to write about her grandmother’s complex and fascinating life in 1920s Taiwan, but the task seemed too overwhelming. A deeply personal experience of grief gave her new insight into not only the novel-in-progress, but her family’s experience of loss as it was passed down through her family line. The novel became The Astonishing Color of After, a glorious, complex story...

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