October 22, 2025 • 10 mins
Jessica and Ben first matched on Hinge almost three weeks ago and Jessica tells us that they immediately hit it off. Jessica tells us that they actually went to Top Golf for their first date and the vibes were great. They even went on a second date to get dinner with one another so she thought things were going in the right direction. However, ever since their dinner date Jessica hasn’t heard from Ben and she isn’t really sure what happened. At the same time, Jessica knows Ben is still on Hinge because her friend is still on the app so she isn’t sure what’s going on.
We call Ben trying to figure out if there is anything else between him and Jessica that happened that may have caused things to go wrong and he tells us that he wasn’t a fan of how many guys were approaching Jessica on their last date. Find out what’s really going on in this Second Date Update!
We call Ben trying to figure out if there is anything else between him and Jessica that happened that may have caused things to go wrong and he tells us that he wasn’t a fan of how many guys were approaching Jessica on their last date. Find out what’s really going on in this Second Date Update!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Second date update on Internshohn in your morning show. You
meet somebody, whether it's on the apps or in person,
you think they're different, You think they could be the one,
but then they stopped talking to you. We try to
see exactly what is going on, Jessica, good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Hey, good morning.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
So walk us through this. You and Ben first matched where.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
So we matched on Hinge?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Okay, and that was about how long ago and half
weeks ago?
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
And what about Ben made him pop on Hinge in
the Sea of Fish.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Well, I obviously thought he was attractive, and we chatted
a little bit, you know, it's your messaging back and
forth and just a good conversation. So he asked for
us to go out on a first date and we
went to the top golf. It's kind of fun, you know,
chill kind of date, had a great time, and uh
(01:02):
so then I think it was that was the first week,
and then last week we went on a second date,
went out to dinner. And he's just like the whole time,
he's taken initiative. He's he's been proactive and you know,
asked me on that first day and then followed up
asked me on a second date and the whole time
during dinner, asking a lot of great questions of just
(01:25):
kind of appreciated the way he kind of took that
initiative and control of like you know anymore.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Well, that's what I want to bring out because you
mentioned too, because I know a lot of my female
friends when plan about like a guy on match and
then it's kind of like, oh, I know what I'm here.
But you made it seem like he was making an
effort to like date you or at least take you out,
and like to know the effort was there?
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Yeah, right, Yeah, I just wanted to really get to
know me how he made me feel.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
So we do top golf, We do dinner. How do
we leave at dinner? Do we have a little key?
Do we talk about seeing each other again? What happens?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Well, we he drove me home and then we He
just kind of gave me a kiss on the cheek.
I was hoping it was going to be a first kiss,
but just a kiss on the cheek, and then.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
We fold it.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
We didn't really say he didn't say anything in particular
about following up. He just said I have a good night,
piculator or whatever, like nothing.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
And this was last week correct.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Right, Since then you wait a couple of days, no text,
no calls, You've actually reached out to him, no response?
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Correct?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Yes, And I hate I hate doing that, Like I
wanted him to keep being the one pursuing, and I
was like.
Speaker 4 (02:45):
Should I text her not?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
But yeah, I'm tired of waiting.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
I did.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Well, let me cautch you out.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
The one thing I want to bring up is you
mentioned on your hinge that appears that he blocked you
or moved he as a match.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Right, that's I think because he like, I know he's
still on that because my friend who's on it saw
him on there.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Okay, and that's weird.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah, so I know he's still on there. But when
I try and look him up on there now and
go back to our messages, I can't. He's he's got
it looks as though he has bossed me, which I
don't know. So it's yeah, it's weird.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Okay, So let's do this then, Jessica.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Let's call Ben try get his side of the story,
because I'm confused to especial because that's such a dramatic move.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
To like what could have possibly happened. I don't disagree.
I call him for Ben please.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
This has been man.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
It's interns John. I got Sauce and Rose here as well.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Can we talk to you on the show real quick
about something nothing bad, Just a couple of seconds your time,
if you'd be so kind. Sure, people, we're doing something
called second Date Update. I got somebody on the line here,
ask if you want to say hello. Nailed it and
so man, Jessica reached out, told us you guys matched
on Hinge, did a little top golf action, did some
(04:10):
dinner action, but that you've kind of gone missing the
last week or so, even removing her as a match
on Hinge. So we're just trying to see where your
head's that, what you're thinking, how you feeling.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
I mean, I'm really okay. I guess okay, but then
why well, why why have you pulled back?
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Why the unmatching and not talking?
Speaker 4 (04:36):
It was just something that happened on our date, like okay,
so I thought maybe it was you know, she wasn't
right for me. So basically it was just like, you know,
we're hanging out and throughout our date, like all these
guys started coming up to Jessica and being like, hey,
how's it going.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Like a guy she knew were just like random dude
hitting on her.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
No, like guys she knew.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Okay, they're saying hi.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
Yeah, yeah, they were just like kind of over overly friendly.
Maybe like I don't know, I wasn't really trying to judge,
but like.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
You near her neighborhood.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Yeah, okay, Okay, Jessica, did you see a lot of
friends at the at the restaurant?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
I did, but I didn't. I mean, I didn't think
that was a problem. Yeah, friends would come up and
say hello to me.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Yeah, but I guess I'm not if she's had been
running to friends and they said hi and moved along,
I guess I'm not seeing what might be a flag.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
I don't know. It just seems like weird, Like when
girls to me have like a bunch of like guy friends,
like it seems like something's, you know, up or something
like that.
Speaker 5 (05:51):
I don't know, just they could have had girlfriends or
wives or something or others.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Okay, So because it appears that Jessica has a bunch
of dude friends, that was kind of like the you
wanted to pull back?
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Is that what we're picking up on?
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Yeah? Yeah, Like I just don't want to be competing
with you know, a bunch of you know, other guys
for her attention, Like if you know we were to.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Move along, Okay, let me let me just I'm go
put you guys in hold eight Team Ben or Team
Jessica eight seven seven nine ninety five four six State
one to call nine ninety three three eight to text
second date up date on intern John in your Morning show.
Second date update on intern John in your Morning Show.
We just talked to Jessica and Ben. They matched on
hinge about three weeks ago, had a couple of dates.
(06:33):
She stopped hearing back from after dinner and his words,
they went to dinner, a bunch of guys I guess
walked up and appeared to know her. He said, essentially,
he does not want to be with somebody who has
a lot of male friends. To him, that is a
red flag. Your thoughts eight seven seven nine ninety five
for six State one to call nine ninety three three
eighth text a sauce as a female who has a
(06:54):
bunch of male friends.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Yeah, your thoughts.
Speaker 5 (06:56):
I understand where he's coming from, sure, because you always
hear like like some I know that some women that
I know they have a bunch of girlfriends because they
just don't get along with women as much.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
And that's fine to each throne.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
But I mean a lot of my guy friends are
in relationships and they have sayn and others that I'm
also friends with, So that's okay that we all hang
out and they'll tag along and they don't. But I
feel like if everyone respects or respects each other and
it's not like I'm overstepping when they're with people, then
I can have a lot of guy friends.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
So I don't think it's weird.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Almost gotta be a trauma response, right maybe in the past,
like somebody who had a bunch.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Of guy friends.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I understand where he's coming from.
I just think it's a little soon. Maybe get to
understand the situation, not just judge based off of that.
Especially because if I went on a date in my
neighborhood or really most places in Arlington, I would run
into someone I know no matter what I kale every
single day. So if I only that day happened to
run into three guys I know at different times, that's
(07:49):
not sorry.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I like, you know, if they sat down next door,
I say they walked by and said, Hey, disagree, let
me go on Perry Hall Tea, good morning, Good morning.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
I think she totally dodged a bullet.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Like if he's like this on a second date, can
you imagine what he'd be like in a relationship. Yeah,
if she has a guy called from work or I mean,
it's that's insane.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Son, could you imagine? Oh my gosh, have a great day.
Thanks you too, bye, Rose your thoughts with us. He
sounds very insecure, like he's been before.
Speaker 6 (08:28):
And if that's you know, a boundary for him or whatever,
then at.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Least have the conversation about it.
Speaker 6 (08:34):
Actually, like, hey, this makes me uncomfortable because X like
this has happened in my past that I could understand.
But just straight up like she was too many go
friends dipping is very immature wild.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
She probably kissed other guys before too.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
In the district Maggie, good morning, Hey guys. I totally
agree with you. Guys.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
He sounds super insecure and it's just one I learned
about dating. You have to listen to what people are saying.
He says he doesn't think that she was right for him.
He's looking for someone that's going to tolerate that insecurity.
She dodged the bullet. He has to you know, he
said he doesn't want to compete.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
He doesn't even know these guys I know.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Oh yeah, she's on a day with you though.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
Yeah, like that's uh, he's been a competition in his head. Yeah,
I'm just a great Maggie. Thank you for listening. Have
a great day, Have a good day, guys. Bye, we
go in nova Stacy, good morning.
Speaker 7 (09:30):
Good morning.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
What do you want to say of this girl?
Speaker 7 (09:33):
Hey, Ben, don't go away mad, just go away like
absolute childhood trauma unmitigated. Yeah, yeah, he needs to go
speak to somebody and work through those issues. Definite insecurity
issues that he's projecting onto her, and she definitely dodged
the bullet.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Like goodbye, Amen, Stacey, thank you for listening.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Have a great day you too, Bye, can get you
ever Text nine ninety three three eight and do a
second date.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Update.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Dms are up and at WYMUS Radio, Sauce has for
entertainment apart coming next what.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
You got for us?
Speaker 5 (10:05):
This TV show might be going to theaters. I'm gonna
tell you which one first.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
It's not spooky season on this show without.
Speaker 7 (10:14):
Internshohn in your morning show. True at iHeartRadio,
Second date update on Internshohn in your morning show. You
meet somebody, whether it's on the apps or in person,
you think they're different, You think they could be the one,
but then they stopped talking to you. We try to
see exactly what is going on, Jessica, good morning.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Hey, good morning.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
So walk us through this. You and Ben first matched where.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
So we matched on Hinge?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Okay, and that was about how long ago and half
weeks ago?
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
And what about Ben made him pop on Hinge in
the Sea of Fish.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Well, I obviously thought he was attractive, and we chatted
a little bit, you know, it's your messaging back and
forth and just a good conversation. So he asked for
us to go out on a first date and we
went to the top golf. It's kind of fun, you know,
chill kind of date, had a great time, and uh
(01:02):
so then I think it was that was the first week,
and then last week we went on a second date,
went out to dinner. And he's just like the whole time,
he's taken initiative. He's he's been proactive and you know,
asked me on that first day and then followed up
asked me on a second date and the whole time
during dinner, asking a lot of great questions of just
(01:25):
kind of appreciated the way he kind of took that
initiative and control of like you know anymore.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Well, that's what I want to bring out because you
mentioned too, because I know a lot of my female
friends when plan about like a guy on match and
then it's kind of like, oh, I know what I'm here.
But you made it seem like he was making an
effort to like date you or at least take you out,
and like to know the effort was there?
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Yeah, right, Yeah, I just wanted to really get to
know me how he made me feel.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
So we do top golf, We do dinner. How do
we leave at dinner? Do we have a little key?
Do we talk about seeing each other again? What happens?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Well, we he drove me home and then we He
just kind of gave me a kiss on the cheek.
I was hoping it was going to be a first kiss,
but just a kiss on the cheek, and then.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
We fold it.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
We didn't really say he didn't say anything in particular
about following up. He just said I have a good night,
piculator or whatever, like nothing.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
And this was last week correct.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Right, Since then you wait a couple of days, no text,
no calls, You've actually reached out to him, no response?
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Correct?
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Yes, And I hate I hate doing that, Like I
wanted him to keep being the one pursuing, and I
was like.
Speaker 4 (02:45):
Should I text her not?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
But yeah, I'm tired of waiting.
Speaker 5 (02:50):
I did.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Well, let me cautch you out.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
The one thing I want to bring up is you
mentioned on your hinge that appears that he blocked you
or moved he as a match.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Right, that's I think because he like, I know he's
still on that because my friend who's on it saw
him on there.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Okay, and that's weird.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah, so I know he's still on there. But when
I try and look him up on there now and
go back to our messages, I can't. He's he's got
it looks as though he has bossed me, which I
don't know. So it's yeah, it's weird.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Okay, So let's do this then, Jessica.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Let's call Ben try get his side of the story,
because I'm confused to especial because that's such a dramatic move.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
To like what could have possibly happened. I don't disagree.
I call him for Ben please.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
This has been man.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
It's interns John. I got Sauce and Rose here as well.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Can we talk to you on the show real quick
about something nothing bad, Just a couple of seconds your time,
if you'd be so kind. Sure, people, we're doing something
called second Date Update. I got somebody on the line here,
ask if you want to say hello. Nailed it and
so man, Jessica reached out, told us you guys matched
on Hinge, did a little top golf action, did some
(04:10):
dinner action, but that you've kind of gone missing the
last week or so, even removing her as a match
on Hinge. So we're just trying to see where your
head's that, what you're thinking, how you feeling.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
I mean, I'm really okay. I guess okay, but then
why well, why why have you pulled back?
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Why the unmatching and not talking?
Speaker 4 (04:36):
It was just something that happened on our date, like okay,
so I thought maybe it was you know, she wasn't
right for me. So basically it was just like, you know,
we're hanging out and throughout our date, like all these
guys started coming up to Jessica and being like, hey,
how's it going.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Like a guy she knew were just like random dude
hitting on her.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
No, like guys she knew.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
Okay, they're saying hi.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
Yeah, yeah, they were just like kind of over overly friendly.
Maybe like I don't know, I wasn't really trying to judge,
but like.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
You near her neighborhood.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Yeah, okay, Okay, Jessica, did you see a lot of
friends at the at the restaurant?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
I did, but I didn't. I mean, I didn't think
that was a problem. Yeah, friends would come up and
say hello to me.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Yeah, but I guess I'm not if she's had been
running to friends and they said hi and moved along,
I guess I'm not seeing what might be a flag.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
I don't know. It just seems like weird, Like when
girls to me have like a bunch of like guy friends,
like it seems like something's, you know, up or something
like that.
Speaker 5 (05:51):
I don't know, just they could have had girlfriends or
wives or something or others.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Okay, So because it appears that Jessica has a bunch
of dude friends, that was kind of like the you
wanted to pull back?
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Is that what we're picking up on?
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Yeah? Yeah, Like I just don't want to be competing
with you know, a bunch of you know, other guys
for her attention, Like if you know we were to.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Move along, Okay, let me let me just I'm go
put you guys in hold eight Team Ben or Team
Jessica eight seven seven nine ninety five four six State
one to call nine ninety three three eight to text
second date up date on intern John in your Morning show.
Second date update on intern John in your Morning Show.
We just talked to Jessica and Ben. They matched on
hinge about three weeks ago, had a couple of dates.
(06:33):
She stopped hearing back from after dinner and his words,
they went to dinner, a bunch of guys I guess
walked up and appeared to know her. He said, essentially,
he does not want to be with somebody who has
a lot of male friends. To him, that is a
red flag. Your thoughts eight seven seven nine ninety five
for six State one to call nine ninety three three
eighth text a sauce as a female who has a
(06:54):
bunch of male friends.
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Yeah, your thoughts.
Speaker 5 (06:56):
I understand where he's coming from, sure, because you always
hear like like some I know that some women that
I know they have a bunch of girlfriends because they
just don't get along with women as much.
Speaker 3 (07:04):
And that's fine to each throne.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
But I mean a lot of my guy friends are
in relationships and they have sayn and others that I'm
also friends with, So that's okay that we all hang
out and they'll tag along and they don't. But I
feel like if everyone respects or respects each other and
it's not like I'm overstepping when they're with people, then
I can have a lot of guy friends.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
So I don't think it's weird.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Almost gotta be a trauma response, right maybe in the past,
like somebody who had a bunch.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Of guy friends.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I understand where he's coming from.
I just think it's a little soon. Maybe get to
understand the situation, not just judge based off of that.
Especially because if I went on a date in my
neighborhood or really most places in Arlington, I would run
into someone I know no matter what I kale every
single day. So if I only that day happened to
run into three guys I know at different times, that's
(07:49):
not sorry.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I like, you know, if they sat down next door,
I say they walked by and said, Hey, disagree, let
me go on Perry Hall Tea, good morning, Good morning.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
I think she totally dodged a bullet.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Like if he's like this on a second date, can
you imagine what he'd be like in a relationship. Yeah,
if she has a guy called from work or I mean,
it's that's insane.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Son, could you imagine? Oh my gosh, have a great day.
Thanks you too, bye, Rose your thoughts with us. He
sounds very insecure, like he's been before.
Speaker 6 (08:28):
And if that's you know, a boundary for him or whatever,
then at.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Least have the conversation about it.
Speaker 6 (08:34):
Actually, like, hey, this makes me uncomfortable because X like
this has happened in my past that I could understand.
But just straight up like she was too many go
friends dipping is very immature wild.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
She probably kissed other guys before too.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
In the district Maggie, good morning, Hey guys. I totally
agree with you. Guys.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
He sounds super insecure and it's just one I learned
about dating. You have to listen to what people are saying.
He says he doesn't think that she was right for him.
He's looking for someone that's going to tolerate that insecurity.
She dodged the bullet. He has to you know, he
said he doesn't want to compete.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
He doesn't even know these guys I know.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Oh yeah, she's on a day with you though.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
Yeah, like that's uh, he's been a competition in his head. Yeah,
I'm just a great Maggie. Thank you for listening. Have
a great day, Have a good day, guys. Bye, we
go in nova Stacy, good morning.
Speaker 7 (09:30):
Good morning.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
What do you want to say of this girl?
Speaker 7 (09:33):
Hey, Ben, don't go away mad, just go away like
absolute childhood trauma unmitigated. Yeah, yeah, he needs to go
speak to somebody and work through those issues. Definite insecurity
issues that he's projecting onto her, and she definitely dodged
the bullet.
Speaker 3 (09:52):
Like goodbye, Amen, Stacey, thank you for listening.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Have a great day you too, Bye, can get you
ever Text nine ninety three three eight and do a
second date.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Update.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Dms are up and at WYMUS Radio, Sauce has for
entertainment apart coming next what.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
You got for us?
Speaker 5 (10:05):
This TV show might be going to theaters. I'm gonna
tell you which one first.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
It's not spooky season on this show without.
Speaker 7 (10:14):
Internshohn in your morning show. True at iHeartRadio,
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