April 7, 2023 • 24 mins
Becky G was in the news after controversial video was released of her fiancé in a nightclub. Carolina and Honey have thoughts about Becky being brave and showing up to all her work commitments after. This leads to a discussion about mental health days and knowing the right time to call off of work.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
I'm a honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was
born and raised in New York City. I love sneakers
and I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but
I was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife,
a mama, and a worker bee. This is life in Spanglish.
I'm afraid of this why because I am I want
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to respect people in their time of need, and I
think that this is so salacious and scandalous. But that's okay,
let's talk about But you know what, it's public. It's
not like we're putting anything out there that people do
not know true because it was put out there to
begin with. So if you guys don't know what we're
talking about, this whole Becky g scandal with her fiance,
my heart hurts for her. You know, it's crazy. When
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the proposal happened, I thought it was the most beautiful
thing in the world. It was on the beach, the sunset.
She shared it. I stole the video and put it
on my ticks because I was like, oh my god,
Becky G's engaged and then here this man comes to
fuck it up. Well, okay, so did he really. So
for those of you guys who don't know what we're
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talking about, Becky G got engaged to her longtime boyfriend.
I believe they were dating for like seven years, seven
years before he even decided to propose. They went through
their ups and downs, and then finally it happened. Carolina,
I am, I'm like the fairy tale. I love it,
she said him. Finally finally happened. But you know what, though,
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I feel like Becky G has been such a hard worker.
I really do admire her because I remember starting in
Miami and she was just coming out with like that
dancing in the shower song she back in the day. Yeah,
she's been around for a while and she was grinding.
I don't know. I heard like one of our radio
jocks said that she met him in the lobby of
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like the radio station. I don't remember who it was,
but he's like, oh, you've had so much growth. I
remember you waiting for me outside the radio station. So
she's been doing this for a minute. You know what.
It may have been Jojo, I think from La I
think it was may have been because I think I
saw that on social media as well, and I thought, wow,
that is so cool because she was chasing her dream.
She wanted to be a pop star, and she really
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did the work. She tried to get out there. Hell yeah.
Unfortunately for her, I think the time when she came up,
it was too saturated. You had Brittany, you had Christina,
you had Demi Levado, you had all of these people
who had already been established as stars. So for Becky,
I feel like it was a little bit more challenging
for her. And she was a Latina, let's throw that
into the sauce too. Carolina, Well that that part. But
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then she went and I think that she rebranded, and
I don't mean this in a strategic way, but I
think that she really thought about what direction she wanted
to go in, and she started making Spanish language music.
Of course she did. And you know what, one thing
that I always say is our people were will support
our people definitely, And I feel like once she said
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I'm gonna make music Bummy Hanky in California, we were like, yes,
this is our girl. We have to uplift her, we
have to support her. And things changed for her one
hundred percent. And so that's really where I feel like
she saw her main success. I think her the bulk
of her success has been from her Spanish language albums,
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which is so welcome, so amazing, hits after hits, totally
the collaborations that she's been doing. And finally it happened.
He proposed and you were telling me about like the
sunset proposal and all of the stuff, and I thought
that is so special, and then like that's what is
just driving me crazy about this whole thing. You got
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to walk me through what exactly happened. It's like the
hate is just so real. Like it was just like, Okay,
there's video your boyfriend cheated on you. And then it's
like they're sending it, they're sharing it with like media outlets.
There was like stories. Well, I think that he made
a statement after that, Yeah, he had to do some
work on his mental health. But also he was trying
to say that he was being extorted. Yeah he was,
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but why did you cheat to begin with? So that's
the thing, allegedly alleged for a podcast. We don't have
the money, we don't want to get sued. Allegedly he well,
he kind of like said something to the effect of,
like I messed up, because this is where I want
to rewind it. I want to tell people just because
you're engaged, just because you're married, it doesn't mean that
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your life has to stop. But why was he putting
himself in a situation where a woman could have taken
this video or could have I guess she told the
story that they were together. That's my issue with this
whole thing, because there is some grainy nightclub video, and
you know we love a good grainy nightclub video that
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bodicle show go. Yeah, Becky, where was you a girl? Exactly? Well,
you know what all the time. But right, why does
man in clubs still you just got engaged? Calm down, bro,
or you could be the person in the club that
just got engaged. It's kind of like looking out for
your homies. Like, no, I've been there, done that. Like
I got my girl and I feel like it was
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just the ultimate disrespect to her because I feel like
she is everything. And then the way it came to her.
You know, a message save us, your boyfriend cheated on
your Friday, and I have all the proof I can
send them to you privately, Like, how do you even
digest a message like that? Well? You know what though,
I think when you're a celebrity. Perhaps you get messages
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like this and you don't pay them any mind. I'm
sure that there are a lot of people who have
messaged or like I have something to tell you or
you know this or that. But girl, anytime anybody message
to me about Nooney, it was true what you got
messages about Noony one time? No yes girl. But yeah,
Beckyji probably gets a whole lot. Well that's what I'm
saying because he's like a soccer player, and I'm sure
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that there are a lot of people who would love
to like break up their happy home per se, but
like for her to not sit back and thinks for herself,
like I don't know. For me, I would be like,
there's no way, not my man, he wouldn't do that
to me. And then I think that the doubt creeped
in as more messages came out, because I believe from
what I heard is that this person, the squirrel, has
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been sending multiple messages to both of them. Yeah. I
think once, once the media and the press got involved,
I think that's when Becky was like, nah, something got
to give, something really something happening. And then you know what,
I'm sorry, but Latino families they all get in the
MAXI you know what I mean, Like then your parents
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start telling you, yeah, and something happening. Something's happening. There's
a reason why you're getting these messages. But I don't
you know what, you know? It really like got me
about this that she didn't fall back, she didn't take
a break, like immediately following that we had our Heart
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Radio Awards. Oh yeah back in La Yes, yeah, and
she was there was shocking to me. I thought that
she for sure was going to bow out and not
do it. But you know what, this girl is a
worker and that's what makes me respect her so much.
She knows how much this means to her, So there
was no way she was going to miss that. I
thought she wasn't going to hit the red carpet. She
ended up doing the interviews and just being like I'm here,
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you know what, and she owned that, which I think
is so important for people Carolina. But falling back and
taking the time to process trauma, because you know what,
this is embarrassing. You're going through a humiliating breakup in
front of everyone. But did they break up? Well, I
would hope, So, I don't know. We do not know.
The jury is still out. Are they going to get
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back together? Because this is one of those things. I
mean seven, it's not even just my cousins and my
friends and my homegirls. No, this is the world. This
is the world, right. And the fact that you know
he kind of like spoke and kind of like apologized
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and a lout it to like him doing something wrong
to me, that's just admitting guilt. If you're not denying it. Bro,
you talk mot I'm sorry, I heard you. You're admitting
you did wrong by me. I think he's giving us
like a tiny little sliver that he messed up. We
don't know how badly he messed I guess. But the
girl said she had intimate photos. Oh, it's like the
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people who said I accidentally slept with that person, I
accidentally fell into that person. Oh oh, look at that?
What's that? You know? Seriously, it doesn't happen unless you
want it to happen. You have to want to be
in that situation. It's a choice. Unless you're drunk and high,
I don't care, it's still a choice. It's still a decision.
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When you decide to go out on somebody, it is
still a choice. It was your choice to get that
messed up. That was the wrong choice. You know what
I'm saying of choices, it's a series of bad choices
that I are unforgivable to me. That's a fact. I
want to go back to Beggy Carolina. No, she just
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looks sad like she looked gorgeous. But I remember I
remember sending Anala who works with us, two photographs and
I said, look at her eyes. She looks sad. Yeah,
she does not look happy. She was looking over her
shoulder Carolina in a Getty image, and it looked like
she literally wanted to cry. Ah, this poor girl. But
you know what, that's the industry. And I feel like
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that is part of the reason why she showed up,
because here's a person who has been working for this
for decades now, if you think about it, she's been
working at this to try to make her name, to
have her career. She has a hit song out with
Carol g. The promotion is only that promotion train can
only go for so long. And I guarantee you there
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was a conversation. This is unfounded. I don't know this,
but I guarantee you the people in her camp said
you gotta get out there. We need this buzz to
keep going. Savages that I talk about it if you
don't want to with it. They're the person in that
clap clap, chop chop. Because you know, a lot of artists,
they're just a product there. They are not viewed as
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a human. Well, there were managers, publicists, everybody's like, you
better get your shit together and get this dress on
and walk that carpet and do what you gotta do.
And that's just cruel, Carolina. Well, because there's another little girl,
or there's another young lady. I shouldn't say little, she's
not a little girl, but to me, you know what
I mean, And I didn't mean that in a condescending
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her or anyway. But there's another girl, an upcoming arts
waiting in the wings that is like they can easily
insert here and then her time is up. And I
feel like she knows what this industry is having seen it,
and she realized, Okay, I gotta just put myself out there.
It takes a special kind of strength to show up
in the world when you're going through something like this,
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does it, Carolina? Right? I mean that's the reason why
I admire her. I support her. Becky, you got some
fans over here we are rooting fat fat right, But
then it's her personal life. We're going to dissect that
a little bit more because you know, when does a
personal life in the professional life, like when can you
actually separate them? So we'll do it right after this,
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all right, when we talk about your personal life kind
of bleeding into your professional life. There have been so
many times, I think in both of our lives. I mean,
look at what you went through and you never stopped working, honey,
you know. I mean we have to reference that, and
for people who are new to the podcast, we have
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to explain to them, you know, when your personal life,
when something happens, it's you know, so impactful or so traumatic,
you know, and you still have to like push through
and you have to show up, Like if you're new
and you don't know, like I suffered a stroke in
twenty twenty, I have to learn how to walk again.
I went through years of physical therapy and I still
have to show up. And it's scary, but show up,
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put on your bigger panties on, and you better pull
up to where you need to be at because life
be lifing. Yeah, yeah, bills be billing. Oh well, that part.
Don't get me started on that you gotta keep ussel.
But that comes through every single month. But you know
what I wanted to ask you is can I can
I just take you back to that place? Yeah? Of course,
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and ask you did you ever think to yourself, if
I don't go, they're going to replace me? Oh of course, Carolina,
that's exactly this, right, I guess now that you put
into it, because I was just like, I gotta get
better every day and there, Oh my god, I gotta
get better. I gotta get back to my radio show
and getting better for you. Yeah, but right, But it's
so scary when you feel like, especially if who you
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are it's comprised of like a lot of your work, well,
your identity is tied to it's like Becky G is
Becky G the artist, So she can't mess that up
because that's probably high identity completely not saying that that's
the case, but and that's one thing that I scaled
away from because it was just like, oh my god,
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I gotta be on the radio. Oh my god, I
gotta get better to do re card but I gotta
do And then I started realizing, like, why am I
tying my career so much to who I am, my substance,
my value, my worth, and I took a step back
and I was like, nah, I'm going to work on
me as a human what I get back to society,
not what I get back to my job. As your friend,
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at that time, I was so concerned that you were
focusing on your recovery for the wrong things, because we
would talk and I was Carolina and I knew it,
and I would say, and this is something that's important
for any field, anybody. You are literally a number. You
are a number, and whenever that number needs to be replaced,
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you will be replaced. And it's okay. The industry will
keep moving on without you. I have a very close
friend who recently lost their job in the radio industry
and she's going through a bit of an identity crisis,
and she reached out to me and she said, you know,
how do I work through this? And I said, you
have to separate the person that you were on the air,
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so to the person that you are now, the person
that your family loves and your friends love, and that
you love. You have to look in your mirror and say,
I am so much more than that job. And it's
it's challenging. It is, especially when when you start to
feel like people appreciate you only only because of your career,
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only because of your ties. Two celebrities, to music, to
a radio station, to the iheartbrand. It's like you get
twisted and it's like it just feels good and it's like,
oh my god, so many people look for me. Everybody
wants to be around me. Long and behold, it was
because of where you work and what you do. But
you know what that helps you. It helps you weed
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out the phonies, the fakes, the latch on, the leeches,
true that I was great before. Yeah, because those people
don't stick around. They're not there to see you through
that challenging period in your life or the difficult times
in your life. And so my hope for just bringing
it back to Becky g is that she realizes the
people who are there for her through this. I would
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say it is a personal crisis because you're you're basically
deciding what the rest of your life is going to be.
In her mind, the person that you thought you would
spend the rest of your life with, right because in
her mind, this is the guy she's been with for
seven years, that finally it finally happened, you know, he
know I was so happy for her. Is still there.
I was like, oh my god, I was too. And
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that's another thing too, is that like if she opens
up social media, she has no idea whether or not
her algorithm is going to pull up that video that
maybe her fans are posting and reliving that trauma. She
gonna have to take a break. I feel like she
may have. I feel like a retreat needs to happen.
Can we get Selena Gomez to call her and tell
her about how to take a break from social media? Carolina,
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she couldn't even said at Sharon or somebody because he
took a break right like a year. She says, Selena,
Comas go and get on number one. I'm going to
Selena Gomez. I need you to mentor my girl Becky
ge and help her through like all of the haters
and and to filter through all of the nastiness right
now so that we can only send her love and
positivity and good energy because she deserves it. Carolynas so different.
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I was like, first of all, she needs to call
carl Gee, she needs to call Shakida, and they need
to do the biggest mambashing song the world has ever
heard that too. Yes, I would. I would absolutely come
on all three of them together, Carolina, could you and
Miley Cyrus can come and she could pretend like she
knows Spanish too, That's all right? Oh no, Carola, you
dragging it right now, Miley Cyrus. You couldn't even say
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Selena Gomez because I say her name is Spanish. You can't, well,
nobody here Selena. No I call Selena. I love it.
I'd like to force it on people when her name
is Okay, I'm gonna say it in Espanol every time
I get a chance. Called. Y'all gonna know she got
something to do with us too. We're gonna shove it
down your throat, boss. Yes, yes, well you know, but
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I feel like that is something that absolutely needs to happen,
you know, And whenever you're going through a breakup of
any kind, I think it's smart to just take a
step back and like really try to cent her yourself.
It is so hard, try to get your foot. Oh
my god, Carolyn. I guys, one time I broke up
with NOONI right one time, and we broke up a
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lot of different times. This is the one. This was
one time where he decided he needed a break from
the relationship. Well one time, yeah, and he need a
break from a relationship, and he moved out. Girl, I
kept going to work and every day I cried and
I cried and at my desk and I was just
like I would hide and I would cry. What did
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you do? Girl? No, I wasn't. I was not saying
it was not that deep. But I was just hurt.
I was super hurt. And I remember one co worker
came up to me and she said, are you okay?
I said no. She's like, well, people think that maybe
you have something going on, like you have can or something.
Oh my gosh, And she said everybody knows that you
cry a lot. And they're like, are you And she
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was like, are you something wrong with your health? And
I said no, my man just broke up with me.
This is not a getaway from my desk. This was
a co worker. She thought it was deep, Carolina. She
thought it was deep. She said, been you dyeing a son? What?
That's how much I was crying, Carolyne. I should I
should have took a week's vacation, right, you needed to,
you know, And I'm not saying this in a lighthearted way.
You needed mental health days. You needed mental health days.
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It is so important I'm talking. And by the way,
finish your thought because I'm going to tell you more
about that after this. But go up and go ahead.
You could have used those days, right, I don't know.
I'm thinking back like I had a real tyrant for
a boss, so I think I just had to go in.
Or is it better for you to get back in
the rhythm of things. Is it better for you to
have to push yourself and get out there? You know what,
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It depends on the person. Because I have a friend
who is obsessed with her dog, and all of us,
all of our friends, and we said, she's single, she
is obsessed with this dog. Dog's adorable. But we said,
God forbid something happens to that dog, she is gonna
be a disaster. And then we were talking about it,
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you know, like bereavement, mental health days, things like that.
I know a lot of people think that you're soft
if you take those, but that could be that could
be a matter of like life and death for people
for real, you know it is, you know what. I
don't want to get too into it because I feel
super emotional, but my dog died of money, honey, And honestly, Carolina,
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I wanted to take a day and I didn't, and
I honestly like, I've had this dog since two thousand
and six and I just wanted to just not talk
and I wanted to just not tell anybody, and I
wanted to not work, and I still worked and I said, Okay,
i'll cry after work, and I just pushed through all day.
And I shouldn't have done that. Thinking back on it,
I'm like, damn, I should have taken off. But it's
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what we do. It's it really is what we do.
But you know what this is such hopefully what you
went through and what you're sharing with us right now,
it is so important. And that's why I said, it's
like with my friend group, we're talking about my friend
because we are concerned for her as she should be
a family. It is family, and I don't know, it's
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weird because I felt kind of like, I was like,
people are gonna think I'm dumb? Are you gonna be
Why are you crying over a dog? And I was
just like and I didn't talk to anybody all day.
I was like I don't want to tell anybody, honey,
I'm not posting about it. I'm just gonna And you know,
I just went through the motions and I buried her
at the house. I dug up the fucking garden and
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I just buried her there. I said, bitch, you staying
with me for whatever. It's gonna guard you. She's gonna
be She's gonna give me. Oh my god, she will,
I promise you, Carrie will no. I and I know
how much you loved her. I loved her too, because
I used to tell everybody loved boy. It's crazy because
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people do not see me and not ask for her.
And it's just like I keep thinking, I'm like, what
am I gonna say she died? I don't know. You
know what you do, what you feel is best for you.
And right now I hope that a weight has been
lifted off your shoulders to maybe help you talk to
the people that you trust, that you know that I
love you, anybody, I'm like, it's just weird. I just
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I guess I don't want to process it. Yeah, and
I don't want to be like she's gone forever. But
you know, she was a good dog. She gave me
a lot of good years. That was my baby. I
was looking through the pictures. I said, I need to stop.
She's a queen. Yes, my sisters send me pictures and
the flowers for Queen Roxy. I was like, yeller, are
so cute? Dumb flowers stink though real. I'm like, oh
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my god, I'm sneezing. I said, gonna make me have
to take zyrtech now. But they were gorgeous white flowers.
I say, I said, they really like. Nah, we need
to make sure this bitch is okay. Let's tell have
some flowers, but take time. I take time. Work would
have gotten done, Nobody would have missed me, and I
would have been able to do not just chill, relax,
to process what happened, take care of me. Look like
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shit if I didn't want to send any meetings. But
I didn't, and I regret it. I'll tell you this much.
I really really regret because I was working like an
autopilot old day, and then when I closed the computer,
then I broke down. I cried and I cried and
I cried, and I'm like, why did I do this
to myself? Old day? This job ain't worth it? No,
you know what it is it's we went okay, So
I want you guys to just continue us here with us,
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here on this long and windy road. We went from
Becky GE's proposal to her showing up with the red carpet,
to taking to taking a mental health day, to Honey
revealing to us that Roxy is no longer hear me,
she rest in peace. I think the message of this podcast,
unknowingly that we just stumbled upon it is take care
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of yourself. That's the message. That is a fact, and
it's not a sign of weakness to say I'm hurting,
I need a break, I need time. Do it. Do it.
I regret every single time I didn't take time to
deal with something that was hurting me. Yeah, I regretted
it after and I gotta make a change. Carlene, you
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will and I will help you do that. And trust me,
I love to shirk responsibility. I'll show you how to
do it any day of the week. No, you know what, Honey,
it's important, and I think that it's just it's a
very important thing for people to recognize and acknowledge. I
need help. I'm not okay, I could use support. These
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are things that are not practiced a lot with people
of your nature that you're a worker, you're a go getter,
you're determined, you you always put other people first, and
sometimes you have to say no, this is about me.
And again I witnessed it before and I'm seeing it now.
And this is something that maybe, you know what, maybe
we work on that together, Maybe we find somebody that
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can help us discover that part of ourselves. We need
some balance. Yes, we need some boundaries, and we need
some mental health days. I'm telling you take them all.
Go and find out where your company allots and take
every last one of them. Honey. Okay, guys, you know
what I think. It's so these are the conversations that
we love having with you because they're raw and they're honest.
And I love you, Honey. I love you so much,
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and I'm so so glad that I get to be
here to connect with you every single week. And we
hope that maybe our conversation helped you. If you are
going through something you need to talk to somebody, honey
and I are here for you. You can reach out
to us at Ali Spanglish and follow us on the Graham.
I am Honey German, and I'm at the real Carolina,
not to be confused with the fake Carolina. No, there
was an imposture and we'll be back next week, guys.
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I'm a honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was
born and raised in New York City. I love sneakers
and I'm a body positive advocate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but
I was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife,
a mama, and a worker bee. This is life in Spanglish.
I'm afraid of this why because I am I want
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to respect people in their time of need, and I
think that this is so salacious and scandalous. But that's okay,
let's talk about But you know what, it's public. It's
not like we're putting anything out there that people do
not know true because it was put out there to
begin with. So if you guys don't know what we're
talking about, this whole Becky g scandal with her fiance,
my heart hurts for her. You know, it's crazy. When
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the proposal happened, I thought it was the most beautiful
thing in the world. It was on the beach, the sunset.
She shared it. I stole the video and put it
on my ticks because I was like, oh my god,
Becky G's engaged and then here this man comes to
fuck it up. Well, okay, so did he really. So
for those of you guys who don't know what we're
(01:10):
talking about, Becky G got engaged to her longtime boyfriend.
I believe they were dating for like seven years, seven
years before he even decided to propose. They went through
their ups and downs, and then finally it happened. Carolina,
I am, I'm like the fairy tale. I love it,
she said him. Finally finally happened. But you know what, though,
(01:33):
I feel like Becky G has been such a hard worker.
I really do admire her because I remember starting in
Miami and she was just coming out with like that
dancing in the shower song she back in the day. Yeah,
she's been around for a while and she was grinding.
I don't know. I heard like one of our radio
jocks said that she met him in the lobby of
(01:53):
like the radio station. I don't remember who it was,
but he's like, oh, you've had so much growth. I
remember you waiting for me outside the radio station. So
she's been doing this for a minute. You know what.
It may have been Jojo, I think from La I
think it was may have been because I think I
saw that on social media as well, and I thought, wow,
that is so cool because she was chasing her dream.
She wanted to be a pop star, and she really
(02:14):
did the work. She tried to get out there. Hell yeah.
Unfortunately for her, I think the time when she came up,
it was too saturated. You had Brittany, you had Christina,
you had Demi Levado, you had all of these people
who had already been established as stars. So for Becky,
I feel like it was a little bit more challenging
for her. And she was a Latina, let's throw that
into the sauce too. Carolina, Well that that part. But
(02:37):
then she went and I think that she rebranded, and
I don't mean this in a strategic way, but I
think that she really thought about what direction she wanted
to go in, and she started making Spanish language music.
Of course she did. And you know what, one thing
that I always say is our people were will support
our people definitely, And I feel like once she said
(02:57):
I'm gonna make music Bummy Hanky in California, we were like, yes,
this is our girl. We have to uplift her, we
have to support her. And things changed for her one
hundred percent. And so that's really where I feel like
she saw her main success. I think her the bulk
of her success has been from her Spanish language albums,
(03:19):
which is so welcome, so amazing, hits after hits, totally
the collaborations that she's been doing. And finally it happened.
He proposed and you were telling me about like the
sunset proposal and all of the stuff, and I thought
that is so special, and then like that's what is
just driving me crazy about this whole thing. You got
(03:40):
to walk me through what exactly happened. It's like the
hate is just so real. Like it was just like, Okay,
there's video your boyfriend cheated on you. And then it's
like they're sending it, they're sharing it with like media outlets.
There was like stories. Well, I think that he made
a statement after that, Yeah, he had to do some
work on his mental health. But also he was trying
to say that he was being extorted. Yeah he was,
(04:03):
but why did you cheat to begin with? So that's
the thing, allegedly alleged for a podcast. We don't have
the money, we don't want to get sued. Allegedly he well,
he kind of like said something to the effect of,
like I messed up, because this is where I want
to rewind it. I want to tell people just because
you're engaged, just because you're married, it doesn't mean that
(04:25):
your life has to stop. But why was he putting
himself in a situation where a woman could have taken
this video or could have I guess she told the
story that they were together. That's my issue with this
whole thing, because there is some grainy nightclub video, and
you know we love a good grainy nightclub video that
(04:45):
bodicle show go. Yeah, Becky, where was you a girl? Exactly? Well,
you know what all the time. But right, why does
man in clubs still you just got engaged? Calm down, bro,
or you could be the person in the club that
just got engaged. It's kind of like looking out for
your homies. Like, no, I've been there, done that. Like
I got my girl and I feel like it was
(05:06):
just the ultimate disrespect to her because I feel like
she is everything. And then the way it came to her.
You know, a message save us, your boyfriend cheated on
your Friday, and I have all the proof I can
send them to you privately, Like, how do you even
digest a message like that? Well? You know what though,
I think when you're a celebrity. Perhaps you get messages
(05:27):
like this and you don't pay them any mind. I'm
sure that there are a lot of people who have
messaged or like I have something to tell you or
you know this or that. But girl, anytime anybody message
to me about Nooney, it was true what you got
messages about Noony one time? No yes girl. But yeah,
Beckyji probably gets a whole lot. Well that's what I'm
saying because he's like a soccer player, and I'm sure
(05:49):
that there are a lot of people who would love
to like break up their happy home per se, but
like for her to not sit back and thinks for herself,
like I don't know. For me, I would be like,
there's no way, not my man, he wouldn't do that
to me. And then I think that the doubt creeped
in as more messages came out, because I believe from
what I heard is that this person, the squirrel, has
(06:11):
been sending multiple messages to both of them. Yeah. I
think once, once the media and the press got involved,
I think that's when Becky was like, nah, something got
to give, something really something happening. And then you know what,
I'm sorry, but Latino families they all get in the
MAXI you know what I mean, Like then your parents
(06:32):
start telling you, yeah, and something happening. Something's happening. There's
a reason why you're getting these messages. But I don't
you know what, you know? It really like got me
about this that she didn't fall back, she didn't take
a break, like immediately following that we had our Heart
(06:55):
Radio Awards. Oh yeah back in La Yes, yeah, and
she was there was shocking to me. I thought that
she for sure was going to bow out and not
do it. But you know what, this girl is a
worker and that's what makes me respect her so much.
She knows how much this means to her, So there
was no way she was going to miss that. I
thought she wasn't going to hit the red carpet. She
ended up doing the interviews and just being like I'm here,
(07:17):
you know what, and she owned that, which I think
is so important for people Carolina. But falling back and
taking the time to process trauma, because you know what,
this is embarrassing. You're going through a humiliating breakup in
front of everyone. But did they break up? Well, I
would hope, So, I don't know. We do not know.
The jury is still out. Are they going to get
(07:39):
back together? Because this is one of those things. I
mean seven, it's not even just my cousins and my
friends and my homegirls. No, this is the world. This
is the world, right. And the fact that you know
he kind of like spoke and kind of like apologized
(07:59):
and a lout it to like him doing something wrong
to me, that's just admitting guilt. If you're not denying it. Bro,
you talk mot I'm sorry, I heard you. You're admitting
you did wrong by me. I think he's giving us
like a tiny little sliver that he messed up. We
don't know how badly he messed I guess. But the
girl said she had intimate photos. Oh, it's like the
(08:21):
people who said I accidentally slept with that person, I
accidentally fell into that person. Oh oh, look at that?
What's that? You know? Seriously, it doesn't happen unless you
want it to happen. You have to want to be
in that situation. It's a choice. Unless you're drunk and high,
I don't care, it's still a choice. It's still a decision.
(08:44):
When you decide to go out on somebody, it is
still a choice. It was your choice to get that
messed up. That was the wrong choice. You know what
I'm saying of choices, it's a series of bad choices
that I are unforgivable to me. That's a fact. I
want to go back to Beggy Carolina. No, she just
(09:05):
looks sad like she looked gorgeous. But I remember I
remember sending Anala who works with us, two photographs and
I said, look at her eyes. She looks sad. Yeah,
she does not look happy. She was looking over her
shoulder Carolina in a Getty image, and it looked like
she literally wanted to cry. Ah, this poor girl. But
you know what, that's the industry. And I feel like
(09:27):
that is part of the reason why she showed up,
because here's a person who has been working for this
for decades now, if you think about it, she's been
working at this to try to make her name, to
have her career. She has a hit song out with
Carol g. The promotion is only that promotion train can
only go for so long. And I guarantee you there
(09:48):
was a conversation. This is unfounded. I don't know this,
but I guarantee you the people in her camp said
you gotta get out there. We need this buzz to
keep going. Savages that I talk about it if you
don't want to with it. They're the person in that
clap clap, chop chop. Because you know, a lot of artists,
they're just a product there. They are not viewed as
(10:10):
a human. Well, there were managers, publicists, everybody's like, you
better get your shit together and get this dress on
and walk that carpet and do what you gotta do.
And that's just cruel, Carolina. Well, because there's another little girl,
or there's another young lady. I shouldn't say little, she's
not a little girl, but to me, you know what
I mean, And I didn't mean that in a condescending
(10:32):
her or anyway. But there's another girl, an upcoming arts
waiting in the wings that is like they can easily
insert here and then her time is up. And I
feel like she knows what this industry is having seen it,
and she realized, Okay, I gotta just put myself out there.
It takes a special kind of strength to show up
in the world when you're going through something like this,
(10:54):
does it, Carolina? Right? I mean that's the reason why
I admire her. I support her. Becky, you got some
fans over here we are rooting fat fat right, But
then it's her personal life. We're going to dissect that
a little bit more because you know, when does a
personal life in the professional life, like when can you
actually separate them? So we'll do it right after this,
(11:14):
all right, when we talk about your personal life kind
of bleeding into your professional life. There have been so
many times, I think in both of our lives. I mean,
look at what you went through and you never stopped working, honey,
you know. I mean we have to reference that, and
for people who are new to the podcast, we have
(11:35):
to explain to them, you know, when your personal life,
when something happens, it's you know, so impactful or so traumatic,
you know, and you still have to like push through
and you have to show up, Like if you're new
and you don't know, like I suffered a stroke in
twenty twenty, I have to learn how to walk again.
I went through years of physical therapy and I still
have to show up. And it's scary, but show up,
(11:57):
put on your bigger panties on, and you better pull
up to where you need to be at because life
be lifing. Yeah, yeah, bills be billing. Oh well, that part.
Don't get me started on that you gotta keep ussel.
But that comes through every single month. But you know
what I wanted to ask you is can I can
I just take you back to that place? Yeah? Of course,
(12:18):
and ask you did you ever think to yourself, if
I don't go, they're going to replace me? Oh of course, Carolina,
that's exactly this, right, I guess now that you put
into it, because I was just like, I gotta get
better every day and there, Oh my god, I gotta
get better. I gotta get back to my radio show
and getting better for you. Yeah, but right, But it's
so scary when you feel like, especially if who you
(12:42):
are it's comprised of like a lot of your work, well,
your identity is tied to it's like Becky G is
Becky G the artist, So she can't mess that up
because that's probably high identity completely not saying that that's
the case, but and that's one thing that I scaled
away from because it was just like, oh my god,
(13:04):
I gotta be on the radio. Oh my god, I
gotta get better to do re card but I gotta
do And then I started realizing, like, why am I
tying my career so much to who I am, my substance,
my value, my worth, and I took a step back
and I was like, nah, I'm going to work on
me as a human what I get back to society,
not what I get back to my job. As your friend,
(13:25):
at that time, I was so concerned that you were
focusing on your recovery for the wrong things, because we
would talk and I was Carolina and I knew it,
and I would say, and this is something that's important
for any field, anybody. You are literally a number. You
are a number, and whenever that number needs to be replaced,
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you will be replaced. And it's okay. The industry will
keep moving on without you. I have a very close
friend who recently lost their job in the radio industry
and she's going through a bit of an identity crisis,
and she reached out to me and she said, you know,
how do I work through this? And I said, you
have to separate the person that you were on the air,
(14:08):
so to the person that you are now, the person
that your family loves and your friends love, and that
you love. You have to look in your mirror and say,
I am so much more than that job. And it's
it's challenging. It is, especially when when you start to
feel like people appreciate you only only because of your career,
(14:30):
only because of your ties. Two celebrities, to music, to
a radio station, to the iheartbrand. It's like you get
twisted and it's like it just feels good and it's like,
oh my god, so many people look for me. Everybody
wants to be around me. Long and behold, it was
because of where you work and what you do. But
you know what that helps you. It helps you weed
(14:50):
out the phonies, the fakes, the latch on, the leeches,
true that I was great before. Yeah, because those people
don't stick around. They're not there to see you through
that challenging period in your life or the difficult times
in your life. And so my hope for just bringing
it back to Becky g is that she realizes the
people who are there for her through this. I would
(15:12):
say it is a personal crisis because you're you're basically
deciding what the rest of your life is going to be.
In her mind, the person that you thought you would
spend the rest of your life with, right because in
her mind, this is the guy she's been with for
seven years, that finally it finally happened, you know, he
know I was so happy for her. Is still there.
I was like, oh my god, I was too. And
(15:34):
that's another thing too, is that like if she opens
up social media, she has no idea whether or not
her algorithm is going to pull up that video that
maybe her fans are posting and reliving that trauma. She
gonna have to take a break. I feel like she
may have. I feel like a retreat needs to happen.
Can we get Selena Gomez to call her and tell
her about how to take a break from social media? Carolina,
(15:56):
she couldn't even said at Sharon or somebody because he
took a break right like a year. She says, Selena,
Comas go and get on number one. I'm going to
Selena Gomez. I need you to mentor my girl Becky
ge and help her through like all of the haters
and and to filter through all of the nastiness right
now so that we can only send her love and
positivity and good energy because she deserves it. Carolynas so different.
(16:18):
I was like, first of all, she needs to call
carl Gee, she needs to call Shakida, and they need
to do the biggest mambashing song the world has ever
heard that too. Yes, I would. I would absolutely come
on all three of them together, Carolina, could you and
Miley Cyrus can come and she could pretend like she
knows Spanish too, That's all right? Oh no, Carola, you
dragging it right now, Miley Cyrus. You couldn't even say
(16:40):
Selena Gomez because I say her name is Spanish. You can't, well,
nobody here Selena. No I call Selena. I love it.
I'd like to force it on people when her name
is Okay, I'm gonna say it in Espanol every time
I get a chance. Called. Y'all gonna know she got
something to do with us too. We're gonna shove it
down your throat, boss. Yes, yes, well you know, but
(17:01):
I feel like that is something that absolutely needs to happen,
you know, And whenever you're going through a breakup of
any kind, I think it's smart to just take a
step back and like really try to cent her yourself.
It is so hard, try to get your foot. Oh
my god, Carolyn. I guys, one time I broke up
with NOONI right one time, and we broke up a
(17:22):
lot of different times. This is the one. This was
one time where he decided he needed a break from
the relationship. Well one time, yeah, and he need a
break from a relationship, and he moved out. Girl, I
kept going to work and every day I cried and
I cried and at my desk and I was just
like I would hide and I would cry. What did
(17:43):
you do? Girl? No, I wasn't. I was not saying
it was not that deep. But I was just hurt.
I was super hurt. And I remember one co worker
came up to me and she said, are you okay?
I said no. She's like, well, people think that maybe
you have something going on, like you have can or something.
Oh my gosh, And she said everybody knows that you
cry a lot. And they're like, are you And she
(18:05):
was like, are you something wrong with your health? And
I said no, my man just broke up with me.
This is not a getaway from my desk. This was
a co worker. She thought it was deep, Carolina. She
thought it was deep. She said, been you dyeing a son? What?
That's how much I was crying, Carolyne. I should I
should have took a week's vacation, right, you needed to,
you know, And I'm not saying this in a lighthearted way.
You needed mental health days. You needed mental health days.
(18:30):
It is so important I'm talking. And by the way,
finish your thought because I'm going to tell you more
about that after this. But go up and go ahead.
You could have used those days, right, I don't know.
I'm thinking back like I had a real tyrant for
a boss, so I think I just had to go in.
Or is it better for you to get back in
the rhythm of things. Is it better for you to
have to push yourself and get out there? You know what,
(18:51):
It depends on the person. Because I have a friend
who is obsessed with her dog, and all of us,
all of our friends, and we said, she's single, she
is obsessed with this dog. Dog's adorable. But we said,
God forbid something happens to that dog, she is gonna
be a disaster. And then we were talking about it,
(19:12):
you know, like bereavement, mental health days, things like that.
I know a lot of people think that you're soft
if you take those, but that could be that could
be a matter of like life and death for people
for real, you know it is, you know what. I
don't want to get too into it because I feel
super emotional, but my dog died of money, honey, And honestly, Carolina,
(19:37):
I wanted to take a day and I didn't, and
I honestly like, I've had this dog since two thousand
and six and I just wanted to just not talk
and I wanted to just not tell anybody, and I
wanted to not work, and I still worked and I said, Okay,
i'll cry after work, and I just pushed through all day.
And I shouldn't have done that. Thinking back on it,
I'm like, damn, I should have taken off. But it's
(20:00):
what we do. It's it really is what we do.
But you know what this is such hopefully what you
went through and what you're sharing with us right now,
it is so important. And that's why I said, it's
like with my friend group, we're talking about my friend
because we are concerned for her as she should be
a family. It is family, and I don't know, it's
(20:21):
weird because I felt kind of like, I was like,
people are gonna think I'm dumb? Are you gonna be
Why are you crying over a dog? And I was
just like and I didn't talk to anybody all day.
I was like I don't want to tell anybody, honey,
I'm not posting about it. I'm just gonna And you know,
I just went through the motions and I buried her
at the house. I dug up the fucking garden and
(20:41):
I just buried her there. I said, bitch, you staying
with me for whatever. It's gonna guard you. She's gonna
be She's gonna give me. Oh my god, she will,
I promise you, Carrie will no. I and I know
how much you loved her. I loved her too, because
I used to tell everybody loved boy. It's crazy because
(21:02):
people do not see me and not ask for her.
And it's just like I keep thinking, I'm like, what
am I gonna say she died? I don't know. You
know what you do, what you feel is best for you.
And right now I hope that a weight has been
lifted off your shoulders to maybe help you talk to
the people that you trust, that you know that I
love you, anybody, I'm like, it's just weird. I just
(21:24):
I guess I don't want to process it. Yeah, and
I don't want to be like she's gone forever. But
you know, she was a good dog. She gave me
a lot of good years. That was my baby. I
was looking through the pictures. I said, I need to stop.
She's a queen. Yes, my sisters send me pictures and
the flowers for Queen Roxy. I was like, yeller, are
so cute? Dumb flowers stink though real. I'm like, oh
(21:49):
my god, I'm sneezing. I said, gonna make me have
to take zyrtech now. But they were gorgeous white flowers.
I say, I said, they really like. Nah, we need
to make sure this bitch is okay. Let's tell have
some flowers, but take time. I take time. Work would
have gotten done, Nobody would have missed me, and I
would have been able to do not just chill, relax,
to process what happened, take care of me. Look like
(22:11):
shit if I didn't want to send any meetings. But
I didn't, and I regret it. I'll tell you this much.
I really really regret because I was working like an
autopilot old day, and then when I closed the computer,
then I broke down. I cried and I cried and
I cried, and I'm like, why did I do this
to myself? Old day? This job ain't worth it? No,
you know what it is it's we went okay, So
I want you guys to just continue us here with us,
(22:34):
here on this long and windy road. We went from
Becky GE's proposal to her showing up with the red carpet,
to taking to taking a mental health day, to Honey
revealing to us that Roxy is no longer hear me,
she rest in peace. I think the message of this podcast,
unknowingly that we just stumbled upon it is take care
(22:56):
of yourself. That's the message. That is a fact, and
it's not a sign of weakness to say I'm hurting,
I need a break, I need time. Do it. Do it.
I regret every single time I didn't take time to
deal with something that was hurting me. Yeah, I regretted
it after and I gotta make a change. Carlene, you
(23:19):
will and I will help you do that. And trust me,
I love to shirk responsibility. I'll show you how to
do it any day of the week. No, you know what, Honey,
it's important, and I think that it's just it's a
very important thing for people to recognize and acknowledge. I
need help. I'm not okay, I could use support. These
(23:40):
are things that are not practiced a lot with people
of your nature that you're a worker, you're a go getter,
you're determined, you you always put other people first, and
sometimes you have to say no, this is about me.
And again I witnessed it before and I'm seeing it now.
And this is something that maybe, you know what, maybe
we work on that together, Maybe we find somebody that
(24:02):
can help us discover that part of ourselves. We need
some balance. Yes, we need some boundaries, and we need
some mental health days. I'm telling you take them all.
Go and find out where your company allots and take
every last one of them. Honey. Okay, guys, you know
what I think. It's so these are the conversations that
we love having with you because they're raw and they're honest.
And I love you, Honey. I love you so much,
(24:25):
and I'm so so glad that I get to be
here to connect with you every single week. And we
hope that maybe our conversation helped you. If you are
going through something you need to talk to somebody, honey
and I are here for you. You can reach out
to us at Ali Spanglish and follow us on the Graham.
I am Honey German, and I'm at the real Carolina,
not to be confused with the fake Carolina. No, there
was an imposture and we'll be back next week, guys.
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