May 5, 2023 • 28 mins
Carolina was up for a job… and she didn’t get it, the Old Carolina would have raged, but this new Carolina? She was calm, cool and collected. Hear her tell her ways in this all new episode.
PLUS the ladies head to the Salon where one of our listeners is caught in a pickle after getting caught sending a text to an ex!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
I'm a body positive advocate.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I'm Carolina Bermudez soy Nikata wins it. But I was
born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker bee. This is life in Spanglish. No,
I do not have a penis, but I am a
grower and I'm a shower. This was my text to Honey,
and she was like, girl, what are you on from?
(00:31):
What's going on right now?
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Girl? When you said I'm a grower, I was just like,
what is she talking me? In my mind immediately went
to the gutter you did.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
And I said, no, this has nothing to do. She
sent me eggplant emoji said. I was like, stop it.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
She said, nah, this got none of do with penises.
I need an ex and you know what's crazy? She
left me hanging. I did because this whole time, so
we met up again. I need a little explanation on this, Caroline.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Okay, so the title of this podcast today is I
am a grower and I'm a shower both because so
I'm going to take you guys through an experience that
I just had, and it made me realize that there
is so much personal growth that's happening when you're unaware.
You don't even realize that it's happening. So a couple
(01:18):
of months ago, I was approached about a job. You know,
your girl likes a good side hustle. Oh yeah, I
am always working for the extra gigs. And I was
approached about an opportunity. I met with the people. I
felt very confident about it. I talked to my husband about.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
It, is this something I don't know about.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
It's something everybody doesn't know about because now I can't
even talk about it.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Still still okay.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
So we felt like, Okay, if this happens, we'll do this,
We'll do that. You know. We were like just discussing
like possibil okay, yes, because Mark, my husband said to me,
he's like, you know you have the radio show, you
have E right now obviously like, yeah, I'm doing your
children Ldren.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
I was gonna say, and by the way, my kids right,
you know, I'm a full time working mom. So Mark
always the type of person who wants me to fulfill
my dreams and to like, you know, conquer all my
I love. He really is incredible. And we sat down
and we talked about it, and he was like, okay,
so like let's like get a clear vision if this happens,
like what are we going to do and how how
(02:22):
would we do it? So we're there, we're talking, and
then I get a phone call from a person, a
girl who I have always competed with, like competed with professionally. Okay,
we're always up for gigs at the same time, we're
always doing this, we're always doing that. And she told
me that she got this opportunity and I said, oh
(02:44):
my gosh. So basically I don't have an agent, I
don't have a manager. This was all through my own
connections and through me talking to people that I got
this far for this job opportunity.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
First of all, she's not even gonna mention papadios.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
That's true, yes, But so this person called me and
she said, you know, I'm so excited. I know that
you were up for this, and I wanted to.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Call she knew you were up for this. Oh I
thought she was just giving you.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Tea No, no, no, we knew, we knew what was up.
And so she was just like I wanted to let
you know that, you know, I'm going to start working
on this, you know, an X amount of time. And
I was like, oh my gosh, I said, I am
so happy for you.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Were you genuinely happy?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
I am genuinely happy for her.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
So does that means it's not gonna happen for you?
Speaker 2 (03:31):
That means it's not happen now. It's definitely not happening.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
I've got hate.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
No, no, no, no no. But that's what that's what
the title of this is. I had a conversation with
Mark after that phone call and I said to him,
you know, Carolina fifteen years ago, Carolina twenty years ago
would have been hating big time.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Phone.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I would be manifesting just like like, well whatever, she's this,
she's that. And there have been real the hate would
have been real. There was none of it. Zero. And
I'm talking the growth. The growth because if you put
yourself in situations where you're gonna be up for something,
(04:13):
and that's something that I tell my kids all the time,
there's one there's one winner. There's gonna be one loser.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
It's happened to me in our building. I've I've applied
for like four different positions, several on air ones, and
it just didn't happen. I can be mad, but.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
You felt some kind of way about it, a little.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Bit, a little bit not about the person that got it,
but about the person that didn't let me get it.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Okay, Well that's the thing. There is growth happening, right,
and I think that it's very important for us to
stop down and to think about, like where we are
in our lives, what can you handle? What can you do?
And I thought to myself, you know what, that's God.
So when you said that, I didn't mention Papa the o.
So that's what I said. I looked at my husband
(04:57):
and I said, you know what, God has a plan.
He has a plan for me, and this was not
a part of his plan. And the fact that I
received this news in kind of a crappy way because
I should have found out from the people who were
doing the hiring. And you know, and by the way,
no shade to her, because I think that she was
just so excited. She's like, oh my gosh, this's amazing,
(05:18):
and I was like, wow, okay, so this is me
finding out about it. The person that I was wouldn't
have been able to handle that type of news. A
person that I am today is celebrating her And I said,
I will I am like, you tell me when we
can talk about this, when we can tell people, if
you can come on my show. I want to promote you,
(05:38):
because that's who I am.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Now you've got the understanding of loke stati.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
That's true. And that's the reason why I said to
myself wholeheartedly. And and and it's so funny how you start.
They say you make a plan? God laughs, oh God.
And we were sitting there making the plan. And that's
why I said to Mark, I'm like, this was not it.
This was not for me. And now, and that's where
where I was saying, like I'm a grower and a shower.
I want to show people you can get there. You
(06:12):
can leave that jealousy or that competition or that coveting
that you do of other people. Maybe it's about their lives,
maybe it's about their relationships, or maybe it's about professional
you know, things that are happening professionally to you. It
is so important to get past those roadblocks and those hurdles,
because all I would have done is sat there and
(06:32):
beaten myself up. In my mind why didn't I get this?
Who do I need to call? I want feedback, I
want this, you know what it was.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I want closure of not getting this gig.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
That's what I used to do in the past.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
I know.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
And if you think about it, it's like it didn't hurt.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
I released it, just go I released it.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
And that is beautiful. That just means that you are
in a space spiritually mentally that you cannot be bothered.
And I love that for you, Carolina.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
I have never been this way before. I think that
you guys know, if you've listened, I am a naturally
jealous person. I always say, nobody can talk to Mark.
Why are you staring at him for so long? What
do you What's wrong? Do you have a problem with
your eyes?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
You know? Like a meal?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
It's true though, I've always been like a naturally jealous person.
Unfortunately unfortunately for me. I don't think it's a good trait.
I think it's a human trait. I think it is
a primal trait unfortunately for me, that I've had to
work on as I've you know, grown and in different relationships.
So and I'm talking about even friendships, you know, I mean,
there have been friendships in the past where I've been
(07:36):
jealous if somebody is closer to my one friend than
I am. You know, so deal friend, Yeah, I mean
we talk about friend coaching and stuff. But now I've grown,
I've had personal growth in that area where I bring
people together and I love it. And so I said
to Mark, I said to my husband, I go, I
feel like I've progressed in all of these different areas
of my life. But that was the one place where
I would always still feel like so resentful or so mad?
(08:00):
What was it about me? Like I want answers? And
this time none of that.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
What do you think changed, Carolina? Do you just think
you've arrived at this place naturally, like navigating what it's
called ebbs and flows.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Ebbs and flows. You know, I don't know. I can't
put my finger on it, but I think it's here.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
She goes, She's gonna tell me this beautiful spaceship that
doesn't cause her to be a hater, no more that
she just letting these opportunities slide. It's so not that
bout me, And now she can't put me on How
I could be the same way.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
No, you know what it is, I really want I
help out I want to. I don't know if I
can verbalize it. You know, I think it's a spiritual thing.
I think it's a feeling.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I'm about to jump in home. I don't know why.
I just picture myself jumping down into your mouth and
your soul and finding my answering coming back out.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Isn't it hard?
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Though?
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Like it's so hard when you see somebody get something
that you wanted, tell.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Me about it. It happens, and you know, and then
this type of industry, you witness it because the time,
because everybody announces everything. It's like you're going for something.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Oh here, Oh I.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Just got this job. Oh I just got this gig
where I'm moving here, or I got it's publicized before
maybe it wasn't and you would see it maybe on TV.
You know when I was a superheater, when they called
me into MTV and they were like, we want you
to audition. We're bringing back the show Trud and I
(09:30):
went and it was just like I read and I
went and I got poured on and I auditioned and
they videoed me and like you were great.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
And they bring you in and they're so excited.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
There was so many emails and the next meeting, and
I was like, yeah, I'm about to be on MTV.
Oh is lit? And then MTV announcing the new host
of t RL And then I said, I don't know her,
but I want to kill her exactly. That's where I was.
I was so bitter, salty hater. I was everything, show
(10:01):
me your ways, Carolina, Please show me your ways.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Well you know what, after this break, I will show
you all the ways to stop being a hater. Next
on life and spanglish hater.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
I just wanted it for me, like this was for me, Carolina.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Well no, so we were talking about it, and Honey,
it's so funny because in this industry you just you mentioned,
oh I tried out for MG. If I told you
how many meetings I had a Viacom fifteen fifteen Broadway,
I mean I could tell you their address. I can
tell you the names of the people that I met with.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Alen's like I used to just hang out and a
lot like, hey it's me.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
I mean, honestly seeing.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
You here, boss of via Com.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
The security guards me and they got to know me.
They're like, who are you meeting with this week? I'm like, oh,
you know this person that person. You go through so
many of these rejections in what we do. And it
got to the point where I was thinking of myself
like what does she have that I didn't have? And
then and then you would look at the people that
they chose and you would be like, well, she's not
(11:01):
this and she's not that. Because I was doing the
same exact thing that they were doing to me. I
was going in and they were saying, well, you know
the feedback that I would get, you know, she's Latina,
but she's not Latina enough, like we're looking for this,
or you know, she's too old. I would get I'm
too old, or as she's not experienced enough. So I
(11:22):
would say, well, then what is it?
Speaker 1 (11:24):
It was always something.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
It was always something. And so the minute that I
found out about this, I'm not even kidding you, it
was like a wave and I was like, Wow, okay,
so it's you. That is awesome. And now we've had
conversations and I said, I was like, okay, what are
we doing, like with wardrobe and everything, like.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
How you are so dope, really careless, like the fact
that you're gonna get behind her and support her, uplift
her and brainstorm on something that you also wanted, that
you're definitely a.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Grower and a shower a show because I'm showing her
the way, you know what. She sent me something the
other day and I said to her. I was like,
I would go back to the drawing board only because
I spelled it out for because I would want somebody
to do that for me.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Lena's like, this is how I would approach to it.
So she got a whole consultant for free.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
For free, for free.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
But you know what, then, if you were both up
for the same position, you are just as qualified, maybe
even more than she is. So what she has in
you has no price tag.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Carolina, Oh, I appreciate that. But you know, I think
that this is just something that is hopefully it inspires
people or it helps people look at their own lives
and think, you know, I'm not losing because I didn't
get that. You know that that situation or that position
was just not right for me. It doesn't make me
any less of a person. It doesn't make me any
(12:45):
less qualified. It doesn't mean that I'm not great at
what I do. It just means that I wasn't the
right fit for that.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Yeah, the day I get there Carolina the day.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
It is hard.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
But that's why I said it is so hard. I
won't guess. And I'm like, I wish I lived somewhere
where there was a lot of people. I'll go outside
and just try to fight motherfuckers.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
No, but like a little what do they call a
little honey badger, that's my little honey badger. But it's
so true because I would typically go back and revert
to that place. And that's why I said, it's so
much easier for us to think about what you don't have.
And I remember there was a book back in the
day when Kanye West first came out, and I know
(13:25):
Kanye is like some the man who should not be
named right now, a lot of people don't try.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
He's trying to be better. But he said a quote,
and I don't think it was an original quote, but
it's if you think about what you don't have, you
won't have.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
So if you think about all the things you don't have, well,
she has this and she has that. And if you're
constantly in comparison, then you don't have the opportunity for growth.
So maybe that's where I am. Maybe I am not
in a space where I'm comparing myself to other people.
Maybe I'm in that space where I'm just content with
like what I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
You're so appreciated of what you what you do have,
you know, you're on the optimist side. You're like, Okay, yeah,
that didn't happen, but look at this, look at this,
look at.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
That, and truth be told, the one thing that was
kind of clouding my decision was the ability to be
with my babies, you know, because that is a day
in and day out job.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
You know, you'll relieve kind of sort of that you
didn't get I did.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
I did at the end because it was almost like,
oh my gosh, you made this decision for me, Because
then if if I would have had to do this,
I thought to myself, okay, and I.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Would have still done it even if it affected you.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
I had a super support I have a super supportive
partner that would have given me the ability to have
all of that. But the toll that it would have
taken on me mentally and personally, and you know, just
as a mom, like emotionally, it would have totally made
me a different person. And who knows the effect that
it would have had on my kids. So it's a
physic thank you you did it for me. But there
(14:54):
is room, there's room for growth, and that's what I
think the message is today. You know, it's like, there
is room to work on you, there's room to get better,
there's room to allow other people to get those things
that maybe you always wanted, and you never know what's
gonna be coming around the corner. That's what Mark said
to me. He goes, well, now you're available for another
opportunity that I never thought of that I thought this
(15:15):
was okay, So I'm gonna do the radio show and
I'm gonna do E and then no, I'm.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Gonna do the most. That's what she's saying pretty much.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Much exactly, which is what I do. You know. So anyway,
my hope is just that this inspires people to look
inside and think to themselves. If that person and the
other cubicle gets the promotion, celebrate them. It's a big
thing for them. It doesn't make you any less of
a person or you know. That's that's really kind of
(15:42):
like what I feel like we need to like spread today.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
We're gonna work on that, Caroly, Now we're gonna work
on that because I know some of our listeners. It's like, Honey,
I'm with you. I deserve that promotion, but you know
what's gonna happen for you. I'm not even gonna say
work harder, because a lot of people work hard and
it just doesn't happen. It just wasn't for you.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Well, they say that, you know, opportunity comes by preparation
and luck. Right, So a lot of opportunities in life
come from hard work, preparation and a little like, you know,
a little sprinkle, a little sprinkle of luck, and so
you know, perhaps it isn't this one, but maybe in
the future it could be something else. So you never know.
Did you want to go to the salon today?
Speaker 1 (16:21):
I would love to go to the salon? You know.
I love me a good cheesement and given some bad advice.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
But now wait, I will say this. My friends have
been listening to this podcast and they're like, we love
Honey's advice, and I'm like, hello, well, I just talked
to you guys about personal growth, and now I'm like,
I hating on Honey because she's always given the best advice.
People love your advice. They said, you keep it wrong.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I go straightforward, be like girl, Let me tell you
what you.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Need to do. Well, let's see what we have today.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Guys, I am in deep trouble and need your help.
Without naming names, let's just say I fed up big time. No,
my girl, Yes, I am a male listener of a
life is banguish. Exist caught me texting my ex. But
let me explain.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Oh oh okay, but but wait, but wait, let me explain. Okay,
but let me explain.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
It was just to catch up. She just had a
kid and I wanted to text her congratulations. Hmm. Needless
to say, it didn't go over well, and now I'm
in deep shit. Any advice on how I can fix this? Who?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Okay, here we go. I feel like we're gonna be
aligned on this one, though.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
I think so too so homeboy. He ain't even sign
his name. He said, Y'a'm not gonna put my name
out there. No, his ex had a baby. I'm assuming
I don't know how. You know, probably social I mean,
is social media?
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Get off your phone?
Speaker 1 (17:42):
So then you decide. Hold on, let me just text
my ex and say congratulations on the baby.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Okay. I feel like this is an innocent intention. I
think the intentions were innocent, but I think, why, what
what prompted you? Why is it important for you to
congratulate your ex. There's probably a ton of people in
her circle who are congratulating her. You can give her
(18:09):
a little you know, shout out up in the air
and be like, wow, that's so nice, it's great that
she had a baby, that she's moving out. Why why text?
That's my question? Why open that up?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
You're a mom, Carolina, right, I am a mom. Was
having your child the biggest greatest moment of your life?
Speaker 2 (18:29):
One of them? My getting married was one of them.
I mean, there are the life moments. My ex boyfriend
didn't text me when he saw me getting married to
my to my husband, So.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Maybe he was culty as hell. He like, it ain't
me f and her new husband.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Oh no, he is sad. He's crying somewhere.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
So I don't know. Maybe maybe he felt like, I
don't know, I want to defend him a little.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Maybe it was just like, no, I think babies are
something to be somebody feeling. But I don't think it's
I think, yes, I think, like, why are you going
back there? For me? It just causes doubt, like, as
you're a woman, I'm staying in the shoes of your woman.
Right now, you just texted somebody that you have not
had contact with it. We don't know. Based off of
this email, it sounds like they didn't have any contact
(19:10):
at all. Why are you going to open that door again?
It's something it was obviously.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
There.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Happy for her. I don't know if he's happy for
her in a romantic way, or maybe he's in his
feelings like this was supposed to be my baby that
you were supposed to have. It could be a lot
of different things. I can see why his girl would
be upset.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Absolutely, but I would I would say, if you want
to celebrate somebody, or if you want to congratulate them,
there's a little heart you can heart and move on.
They they see it, you see it that way. It's acknowledged,
but there's no personal like because then it's like, oh,
how have you been well, I've been thinking about you. Oh,
I've been thinking about you too. No, No, I don't
need you reaching out to any of you.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
Thinking about me. You should have sent me the crib.
It was eight hundred dollars.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Exactly where is my baby? BuOrd? No, No, they don't
wear those anymore cause hip displacement. Ooh no, But seriously,
you've got to think about the repercussions and if you're
in a healthy, loving relationship, that is obviously going to
run rub somebody the wrong way.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
I don't keep in contact with any of my accees.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
No, you know what, Actually that's not true.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
See them on social media.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
I will say it. One of my ex boyfriends reached
out to me and and he sent me a DM
and said, I always you have beautiful you have a
beautiful family. He said, I always knew you were going
to be a wonderful mother. And he's like, you know,
I'm so happy to see you doing well. I wrote back,
thank you, And I told Mark and I told my husband.
(20:40):
I was like, hey, because Mark is not on.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
So you say there wasn't anything funny there, Carolina, Maybe
there wasn't anything funny here either.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
There wasn't anything funny there from him. But who knows
if I would have been like, oh, thank you so much.
I've been thinking about you all. Look at you reach it,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (20:55):
Your kids.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
That's that's where I feel like there's it gets very muddy,
and that's or problems can start, and you don't need
anybody kicking up that sand and getting it all murky
and everything. Like, I think that you definitely crossed the line,
only because you shouldn't have texted her. If anything, you
could have liked the picture on social media and you
(21:17):
could have kept it moving and that could have been
your gesture. I'm sorry, I know, and I just talked
about growth and now look at me now I'm pissed off.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Come on, girlfriend, it could have been worse. He could
have been texting somebody to have sex. He just said,
congrats on your.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Little bit more there. I think there was something more there,
and I want to know. I want to know what
else happened, so you know what, I think that you
are no again caught me testing.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
What I thought she wanted the letter. I'm like, hold
on here it is. You can read it in case
I missed something.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
You just had a kid, and I wanted to text
her congratulations.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
That's harmless. I don't know. I want to side with
the guys. Now. Maybe it was just all in his
feelings and he was like, oh my god, that baby
mad cute. Maybe that's my baby. Let me open up
the lines of communication. Because I was hitting it too
about nine months ago.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
May I present Exhibit A. He says, I know I
fed up from the beginning. He is guilty. Throw the
book at it. Okay, fine, I feel like they have
been all over the place, girl. I mean, I really
need some consistency in my life, and I think that
this man, Carolena, hits me over the edge.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
I'm heated, Carolena. His text could have been I'm a
grower and a show, so get out of here.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
See look at that she just loves.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
He just said, congratulations on your baby. Let's let this
man live. Come on, girl, play this episode for your
wife or your wifey, come on, girl. It could be
worse coming from someone who's been through some things. Yeah,
it could be worse.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
I guess I just don't like opening the door for
any possibilities because now it's like, what's the return text
gonna be?
Speaker 1 (22:48):
That woman is changing diaper's, nursing a sea section, and breastfeeding.
She ain't trying to go back to her ex Come on, Carolina.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
No, and you know what, actually, when you're pregnant and
you you just had the baby, your hormones are all
over the place.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
Wan with to go creep.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Come on, there are some trifling people out here about
put the baby in the middle of the bed, you baby.
These people are out there.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Maybe bringing the nub once to cheat.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
They they will do whatever they need to do to
get their rocks off. I'm telling you they.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Will do it. I can't. I don't imagine. Yeah, took
about meeting me in a motel and I'm gonna bring
the bass in that that don't that don't go outside
right the baby carrying case and put the baby by
the foot of the bed.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
There was nothing sexy about me. Two months after my
boobies were still leaking. I wore pads. I had those
Granny were by the way that we're so comfortable from
the hospital. I will tell you I stole the.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Way up to your chest talking about nogi.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
No wedgies allowed. They were for some reason, the most
comfortable underwear. And I said to Mark, I'm like, go
back and get me some more because those are the marks,
you know. After he was like, please, are you throwing
those away? Yes, but there's like nothing sexy about you.
But I do think there's a deep emotion at that time.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
So getting that text and might be like.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
Oh wow, it may have like stirred up some emotions
and things, but the whole thing is like, why are
you checking on her? I think we glossed over that,
like why are you checking on your old girl? If
you got your new girl.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
She had a baby, Carolina, I don't know. I think
if one of my exes had a kid, I don't
know if I would be chell me like, congrats on
your kid.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Yeah. I just feel like, Okay, I wish you well
from afar, Like you know, that's what I would do,
Just like I said, give a shout out. Wow, nice,
good for them. They're moving on with their lives. That's wonderful.
Like I hope the baby's healthy and happy. Boom done.
Now I'm gonna go to Starbucks.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
What again?
Speaker 2 (24:36):
No, is that what your thing is? Have you tried
the olive oil thing?
Speaker 1 (24:41):
I'm not about olive oil in my mouth. I use
it to cook.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Olive oil is amazing. Have you ever had olive oil cake?
Are you kidding me this? Honey? We need to open
up a whole.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Naba and she baked.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
You've never had olive oil cake with orange zest? And
in the room and he feels and Andrew knows exactly
what I'm talking about. How did we get to Starbucks
on olive oil and cakes? And this is this is
what has happened this.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
Yeah, I spent That's why Andrew's giggling ovideo talk about
but having this since I was one.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Okay, okay, see here's what happened. See what had happened
was I had had olive oil in my coffee before
when I was in Italy, and I was like, this
is absolutely you know what it gives it like a
creamy texture and it's just like it's so delish. But
also if you have not had a good olive oil cake,
it is moist, it is delicious, it's everything. I'm telling
(25:40):
you right, I'm gonna actually make you one.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Okay, Oh you're gonna make it? Can I go to
little Italy? Do you? I have to go to Roma
Carlena's hell, and I'm gonna make you this ship right
here in Long Island and bring it in. Okay. We
got a plan. We got to plan because I got
a diet a few days before.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Because I love cake.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
She want that cake, cake, cake cake, got that cake
ca cake.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
No.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
So anyway, I just think we have to wrap this
up because this man is kind of like, listen, no,
y'all give me advice. So, y'all we hare talking about orders.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
I know I'm starving right now, that's the reason why.
But yes, I think that you know what, you cross
the line. Here's how you make it better, because we're
not just here to chastise you.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
How can I fix this?
Speaker 2 (26:17):
How, here's how we can make it better. You own
up to it. You go to your girl and say,
I had no idea that this would affect you the
way that it did. My intentions were pure. I just
wanted to congratulate her. I want to move on from this.
Will you forgive me? And I will not be texting
her or anybody else ever again?
Speaker 1 (26:35):
Yeah, for real, not anybody else ever again. I love Carolinax.
Carolina is like just say, you never go do none.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
You stare at you bad boy. You stand in that
corner and you put your nose in the corner. Okay,
thank you guys so much for sending us your questions
and all of your uh stories to the salon. Seriously,
we're here to help. Even though I don't know how
much help we were on that one.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
We were good help, good help, good help.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
I don't even know I need too. I'm all over
the place.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
We need.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
We need like something to eat. That's what we need
right now.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
I've had a bagel in my bag, a cocktail. Oh,
Carolina said, we need alcohol, bitch. I don't know if
you're talking about bread.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Oh girl is ready, but yes, send us your messages
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Speaker 1 (27:19):
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Speaker 2 (27:28):
We do this for you absolutely. I was gonna say,
we totally appreciate that you guys listen to us every
single week. And big shout outs to Fred and everybody
who sends me messages me she.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Bread is it man?
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Fred?
Speaker 1 (27:40):
If the other day I didn't know we drop a
podcast episode and Fred told me because he is on it.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Guys. So for those of you who are reposting us
and that you are sending us so much love, thank you,
thank you. You can follow me at the real Carolina.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
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Speaker 2 (27:54):
Great week everybody. We'll be back next week. Love you,
love you
Speaker 1 (27:59):
Life Banglish is a production of Lifefensed Banguish Productions in
partnership with iheart's my Kuntura podcast network.
I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
I'm a body positive advocate.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
I'm Carolina Bermudez soy Nikata wins it. But I was
born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker bee. This is life in Spanglish. No,
I do not have a penis, but I am a
grower and I'm a shower. This was my text to Honey,
and she was like, girl, what are you on from?
(00:31):
What's going on right now?
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Girl? When you said I'm a grower, I was just like,
what is she talking me? In my mind immediately went
to the gutter you did.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
And I said, no, this has nothing to do. She
sent me eggplant emoji said. I was like, stop it.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
She said, nah, this got none of do with penises.
I need an ex and you know what's crazy? She
left me hanging. I did because this whole time, so
we met up again. I need a little explanation on this, Caroline.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Okay, so the title of this podcast today is I
am a grower and I'm a shower both because so
I'm going to take you guys through an experience that
I just had, and it made me realize that there
is so much personal growth that's happening when you're unaware.
You don't even realize that it's happening. So a couple
(01:18):
of months ago, I was approached about a job. You know,
your girl likes a good side hustle. Oh yeah, I
am always working for the extra gigs. And I was
approached about an opportunity. I met with the people. I
felt very confident about it. I talked to my husband about.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
It, is this something I don't know about.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
It's something everybody doesn't know about because now I can't
even talk about it.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Still still okay.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
So we felt like, Okay, if this happens, we'll do this,
We'll do that. You know. We were like just discussing
like possibil okay, yes, because Mark, my husband said to me,
he's like, you know you have the radio show, you
have E right now obviously like, yeah, I'm doing your
children Ldren.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
I was gonna say, and by the way, my kids right,
you know, I'm a full time working mom. So Mark
always the type of person who wants me to fulfill
my dreams and to like, you know, conquer all my
I love. He really is incredible. And we sat down
and we talked about it, and he was like, okay,
so like let's like get a clear vision if this happens,
like what are we going to do and how how
(02:22):
would we do it? So we're there, we're talking, and
then I get a phone call from a person, a
girl who I have always competed with, like competed with professionally. Okay,
we're always up for gigs at the same time, we're
always doing this, we're always doing that. And she told
me that she got this opportunity and I said, oh
(02:44):
my gosh. So basically I don't have an agent, I
don't have a manager. This was all through my own
connections and through me talking to people that I got
this far for this job opportunity.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
First of all, she's not even gonna mention papadios.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
That's true, yes, But so this person called me and
she said, you know, I'm so excited. I know that
you were up for this, and I wanted to.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Call she knew you were up for this. Oh I
thought she was just giving you.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Tea No, no, no, we knew, we knew what was up.
And so she was just like I wanted to let
you know that, you know, I'm going to start working
on this, you know, an X amount of time. And
I was like, oh my gosh, I said, I am
so happy for you.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
Were you genuinely happy?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
I am genuinely happy for her.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
So does that means it's not gonna happen for you?
Speaker 2 (03:31):
That means it's not happen now. It's definitely not happening.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
I've got hate.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
No, no, no, no no. But that's what that's what
the title of this is. I had a conversation with
Mark after that phone call and I said to him,
you know, Carolina fifteen years ago, Carolina twenty years ago
would have been hating big time.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Phone.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I would be manifesting just like like, well whatever, she's this,
she's that. And there have been real the hate would
have been real. There was none of it. Zero. And
I'm talking the growth. The growth because if you put
yourself in situations where you're gonna be up for something,
(04:13):
and that's something that I tell my kids all the time,
there's one there's one winner. There's gonna be one loser.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
It's happened to me in our building. I've I've applied
for like four different positions, several on air ones, and
it just didn't happen. I can be mad, but.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
You felt some kind of way about it, a little.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Bit, a little bit not about the person that got it,
but about the person that didn't let me get it.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Okay, Well that's the thing. There is growth happening, right,
and I think that it's very important for us to
stop down and to think about, like where we are
in our lives, what can you handle? What can you do?
And I thought to myself, you know what, that's God.
So when you said that, I didn't mention Papa the o.
So that's what I said. I looked at my husband
(04:57):
and I said, you know what, God has a plan.
He has a plan for me, and this was not
a part of his plan. And the fact that I
received this news in kind of a crappy way because
I should have found out from the people who were
doing the hiring. And you know, and by the way,
no shade to her, because I think that she was
just so excited. She's like, oh my gosh, this's amazing,
(05:18):
and I was like, wow, okay, so this is me
finding out about it. The person that I was wouldn't
have been able to handle that type of news. A
person that I am today is celebrating her And I said,
I will I am like, you tell me when we
can talk about this, when we can tell people, if
you can come on my show. I want to promote you,
(05:38):
because that's who I am.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Now you've got the understanding of loke stati.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
That's true. And that's the reason why I said to
myself wholeheartedly. And and and it's so funny how you start.
They say you make a plan? God laughs, oh God.
And we were sitting there making the plan. And that's
why I said to Mark, I'm like, this was not it.
This was not for me. And now, and that's where
where I was saying, like I'm a grower and a shower.
I want to show people you can get there. You
(06:12):
can leave that jealousy or that competition or that coveting
that you do of other people. Maybe it's about their lives,
maybe it's about their relationships, or maybe it's about professional
you know, things that are happening professionally to you. It
is so important to get past those roadblocks and those hurdles,
because all I would have done is sat there and
(06:32):
beaten myself up. In my mind why didn't I get this?
Who do I need to call? I want feedback, I
want this, you know what it was.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I want closure of not getting this gig.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
That's what I used to do in the past.
Speaker 3 (06:42):
I know.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
And if you think about it, it's like it didn't hurt.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
I released it, just go I released it.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
And that is beautiful. That just means that you are
in a space spiritually mentally that you cannot be bothered.
And I love that for you, Carolina.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
I have never been this way before. I think that
you guys know, if you've listened, I am a naturally
jealous person. I always say, nobody can talk to Mark.
Why are you staring at him for so long? What
do you What's wrong? Do you have a problem with
your eyes?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
You know? Like a meal?
Speaker 2 (07:16):
It's true though, I've always been like a naturally jealous person.
Unfortunately unfortunately for me. I don't think it's a good trait.
I think it's a human trait. I think it is
a primal trait unfortunately for me, that I've had to
work on as I've you know, grown and in different relationships.
So and I'm talking about even friendships, you know, I mean,
there have been friendships in the past where I've been
(07:36):
jealous if somebody is closer to my one friend than
I am. You know, so deal friend, Yeah, I mean
we talk about friend coaching and stuff. But now I've grown,
I've had personal growth in that area where I bring
people together and I love it. And so I said
to Mark, I said to my husband, I go, I
feel like I've progressed in all of these different areas
of my life. But that was the one place where
I would always still feel like so resentful or so mad?
(08:00):
What was it about me? Like I want answers? And
this time none of that.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
What do you think changed, Carolina? Do you just think
you've arrived at this place naturally, like navigating what it's
called ebbs and flows.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Ebbs and flows. You know, I don't know. I can't
put my finger on it, but I think it's here.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
She goes, She's gonna tell me this beautiful spaceship that
doesn't cause her to be a hater, no more that
she just letting these opportunities slide. It's so not that
bout me, And now she can't put me on How
I could be the same way.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
No, you know what it is, I really want I
help out I want to. I don't know if I
can verbalize it. You know, I think it's a spiritual thing.
I think it's a feeling.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
I'm about to jump in home. I don't know why.
I just picture myself jumping down into your mouth and
your soul and finding my answering coming back out.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Isn't it hard?
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Though?
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Like it's so hard when you see somebody get something
that you wanted, tell.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Me about it. It happens, and you know, and then
this type of industry, you witness it because the time,
because everybody announces everything. It's like you're going for something.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Oh here, Oh I.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Just got this job. Oh I just got this gig
where I'm moving here, or I got it's publicized before
maybe it wasn't and you would see it maybe on TV.
You know when I was a superheater, when they called
me into MTV and they were like, we want you
to audition. We're bringing back the show Trud and I
(09:30):
went and it was just like I read and I
went and I got poured on and I auditioned and
they videoed me and like you were great.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
And they bring you in and they're so excited.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
There was so many emails and the next meeting, and
I was like, yeah, I'm about to be on MTV.
Oh is lit? And then MTV announcing the new host
of t RL And then I said, I don't know her,
but I want to kill her exactly. That's where I was.
I was so bitter, salty hater. I was everything, show
(10:01):
me your ways, Carolina, Please show me your ways.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Well you know what, after this break, I will show
you all the ways to stop being a hater. Next
on life and spanglish hater.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
I just wanted it for me, like this was for me, Carolina.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Well no, so we were talking about it, and Honey,
it's so funny because in this industry you just you mentioned,
oh I tried out for MG. If I told you
how many meetings I had a Viacom fifteen fifteen Broadway,
I mean I could tell you their address. I can
tell you the names of the people that I met with.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Alen's like I used to just hang out and a
lot like, hey it's me.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
I mean, honestly seeing.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
You here, boss of via Com.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
The security guards me and they got to know me.
They're like, who are you meeting with this week? I'm like, oh,
you know this person that person. You go through so
many of these rejections in what we do. And it
got to the point where I was thinking of myself
like what does she have that I didn't have? And
then and then you would look at the people that
they chose and you would be like, well, she's not
(11:01):
this and she's not that. Because I was doing the
same exact thing that they were doing to me. I
was going in and they were saying, well, you know
the feedback that I would get, you know, she's Latina,
but she's not Latina enough, like we're looking for this,
or you know, she's too old. I would get I'm
too old, or as she's not experienced enough. So I
(11:22):
would say, well, then what is it?
Speaker 1 (11:24):
It was always something.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
It was always something. And so the minute that I
found out about this, I'm not even kidding you, it
was like a wave and I was like, Wow, okay,
so it's you. That is awesome. And now we've had
conversations and I said, I was like, okay, what are
we doing, like with wardrobe and everything, like.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
How you are so dope, really careless, like the fact
that you're gonna get behind her and support her, uplift
her and brainstorm on something that you also wanted, that
you're definitely a.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Grower and a shower a show because I'm showing her
the way, you know what. She sent me something the
other day and I said to her. I was like,
I would go back to the drawing board only because
I spelled it out for because I would want somebody
to do that for me.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Lena's like, this is how I would approach to it.
So she got a whole consultant for free.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
For free, for free.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
But you know what, then, if you were both up
for the same position, you are just as qualified, maybe
even more than she is. So what she has in
you has no price tag.
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Carolina, Oh, I appreciate that. But you know, I think
that this is just something that is hopefully it inspires
people or it helps people look at their own lives
and think, you know, I'm not losing because I didn't
get that. You know that that situation or that position
was just not right for me. It doesn't make me
any less of a person. It doesn't make me any
(12:45):
less qualified. It doesn't mean that I'm not great at
what I do. It just means that I wasn't the
right fit for that.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Yeah, the day I get there Carolina the day.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
It is hard.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
But that's why I said it is so hard. I
won't guess. And I'm like, I wish I lived somewhere
where there was a lot of people. I'll go outside
and just try to fight motherfuckers.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
No, but like a little what do they call a
little honey badger, that's my little honey badger. But it's
so true because I would typically go back and revert
to that place. And that's why I said, it's so
much easier for us to think about what you don't have.
And I remember there was a book back in the
day when Kanye West first came out, and I know
(13:25):
Kanye is like some the man who should not be
named right now, a lot of people don't try.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
He's trying to be better. But he said a quote,
and I don't think it was an original quote, but
it's if you think about what you don't have, you
won't have.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
So if you think about all the things you don't have, well,
she has this and she has that. And if you're
constantly in comparison, then you don't have the opportunity for growth.
So maybe that's where I am. Maybe I am not
in a space where I'm comparing myself to other people.
Maybe I'm in that space where I'm just content with
like what I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
You're so appreciated of what you what you do have,
you know, you're on the optimist side. You're like, Okay, yeah,
that didn't happen, but look at this, look at this,
look at.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
That, and truth be told, the one thing that was
kind of clouding my decision was the ability to be
with my babies, you know, because that is a day
in and day out job.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
You know, you'll relieve kind of sort of that you
didn't get I did.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
I did at the end because it was almost like,
oh my gosh, you made this decision for me, Because
then if if I would have had to do this,
I thought to myself, okay, and I.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Would have still done it even if it affected you.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
I had a super support I have a super supportive
partner that would have given me the ability to have
all of that. But the toll that it would have
taken on me mentally and personally, and you know, just
as a mom, like emotionally, it would have totally made
me a different person. And who knows the effect that
it would have had on my kids. So it's a
physic thank you you did it for me. But there
(14:54):
is room, there's room for growth, and that's what I
think the message is today. You know, it's like, there
is room to work on you, there's room to get better,
there's room to allow other people to get those things
that maybe you always wanted, and you never know what's
gonna be coming around the corner. That's what Mark said
to me. He goes, well, now you're available for another
opportunity that I never thought of that I thought this
(15:15):
was okay, So I'm gonna do the radio show and
I'm gonna do E and then no, I'm.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Gonna do the most. That's what she's saying pretty much.
Speaker 2 (15:20):
Much exactly, which is what I do. You know. So anyway,
my hope is just that this inspires people to look
inside and think to themselves. If that person and the
other cubicle gets the promotion, celebrate them. It's a big
thing for them. It doesn't make you any less of
a person or you know. That's that's really kind of
(15:42):
like what I feel like we need to like spread today.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
We're gonna work on that, Caroly, Now we're gonna work
on that because I know some of our listeners. It's like, Honey,
I'm with you. I deserve that promotion, but you know
what's gonna happen for you. I'm not even gonna say
work harder, because a lot of people work hard and
it just doesn't happen. It just wasn't for you.
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Well, they say that, you know, opportunity comes by preparation
and luck. Right, So a lot of opportunities in life
come from hard work, preparation and a little like, you know,
a little sprinkle, a little sprinkle of luck, and so
you know, perhaps it isn't this one, but maybe in
the future it could be something else. So you never know.
Did you want to go to the salon today?
Speaker 1 (16:21):
I would love to go to the salon? You know.
I love me a good cheesement and given some bad advice.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
But now wait, I will say this. My friends have
been listening to this podcast and they're like, we love
Honey's advice, and I'm like, hello, well, I just talked
to you guys about personal growth, and now I'm like,
I hating on Honey because she's always given the best advice.
People love your advice. They said, you keep it wrong.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I go straightforward, be like girl, Let me tell you
what you.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Need to do. Well, let's see what we have today.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Guys, I am in deep trouble and need your help.
Without naming names, let's just say I fed up big time. No,
my girl, Yes, I am a male listener of a
life is banguish. Exist caught me texting my ex. But
let me explain.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Oh oh okay, but but wait, but wait, let me explain. Okay,
but let me explain.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
It was just to catch up. She just had a
kid and I wanted to text her congratulations. Hmm. Needless
to say, it didn't go over well, and now I'm
in deep shit. Any advice on how I can fix this? Who?
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Okay, here we go. I feel like we're gonna be
aligned on this one, though.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
I think so too so homeboy. He ain't even sign
his name. He said, Y'a'm not gonna put my name
out there. No, his ex had a baby. I'm assuming
I don't know how. You know, probably social I mean,
is social media?
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Get off your phone?
Speaker 1 (17:42):
So then you decide. Hold on, let me just text
my ex and say congratulations on the baby.
Speaker 2 (17:49):
Okay. I feel like this is an innocent intention. I
think the intentions were innocent, but I think, why, what
what prompted you? Why is it important for you to
congratulate your ex. There's probably a ton of people in
her circle who are congratulating her. You can give her
(18:09):
a little you know, shout out up in the air
and be like, wow, that's so nice, it's great that
she had a baby, that she's moving out. Why why text?
That's my question? Why open that up?
Speaker 1 (18:21):
You're a mom, Carolina, right, I am a mom. Was
having your child the biggest greatest moment of your life?
Speaker 2 (18:29):
One of them? My getting married was one of them.
I mean, there are the life moments. My ex boyfriend
didn't text me when he saw me getting married to
my to my husband, So.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
Maybe he was culty as hell. He like, it ain't
me f and her new husband.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Oh no, he is sad. He's crying somewhere.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
So I don't know. Maybe maybe he felt like, I
don't know, I want to defend him a little.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
Maybe it was just like, no, I think babies are
something to be somebody feeling. But I don't think it's
I think, yes, I think, like, why are you going
back there? For me? It just causes doubt, like, as
you're a woman, I'm staying in the shoes of your woman.
Right now, you just texted somebody that you have not
had contact with it. We don't know. Based off of
this email, it sounds like they didn't have any contact
(19:10):
at all. Why are you going to open that door again?
It's something it was obviously.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
There.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Happy for her. I don't know if he's happy for
her in a romantic way, or maybe he's in his
feelings like this was supposed to be my baby that
you were supposed to have. It could be a lot
of different things. I can see why his girl would
be upset.
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Absolutely, but I would I would say, if you want
to celebrate somebody, or if you want to congratulate them,
there's a little heart you can heart and move on.
They they see it, you see it that way. It's acknowledged,
but there's no personal like because then it's like, oh,
how have you been well, I've been thinking about you. Oh,
I've been thinking about you too. No, No, I don't
need you reaching out to any of you.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
Thinking about me. You should have sent me the crib.
It was eight hundred dollars.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Exactly where is my baby? BuOrd? No, No, they don't
wear those anymore cause hip displacement. Ooh no, But seriously,
you've got to think about the repercussions and if you're
in a healthy, loving relationship, that is obviously going to
run rub somebody the wrong way.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
I don't keep in contact with any of my accees.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
No, you know what, Actually that's not true.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
See them on social media.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
I will say it. One of my ex boyfriends reached
out to me and and he sent me a DM
and said, I always you have beautiful you have a
beautiful family. He said, I always knew you were going
to be a wonderful mother. And he's like, you know,
I'm so happy to see you doing well. I wrote back,
thank you, And I told Mark and I told my husband.
(20:40):
I was like, hey, because Mark is not on.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
So you say there wasn't anything funny there, Carolina, Maybe
there wasn't anything funny here either.
Speaker 2 (20:46):
There wasn't anything funny there from him. But who knows
if I would have been like, oh, thank you so much.
I've been thinking about you all. Look at you reach it,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (20:55):
Your kids.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
That's that's where I feel like there's it gets very muddy,
and that's or problems can start, and you don't need
anybody kicking up that sand and getting it all murky
and everything. Like, I think that you definitely crossed the line,
only because you shouldn't have texted her. If anything, you
could have liked the picture on social media and you
(21:17):
could have kept it moving and that could have been
your gesture. I'm sorry, I know, and I just talked
about growth and now look at me now I'm pissed off.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Come on, girlfriend, it could have been worse. He could
have been texting somebody to have sex. He just said,
congrats on your.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Little bit more there. I think there was something more there,
and I want to know. I want to know what
else happened, so you know what, I think that you
are no again caught me testing.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
What I thought she wanted the letter. I'm like, hold
on here it is. You can read it in case
I missed something.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
You just had a kid, and I wanted to text
her congratulations.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
That's harmless. I don't know. I want to side with
the guys. Now. Maybe it was just all in his
feelings and he was like, oh my god, that baby
mad cute. Maybe that's my baby. Let me open up
the lines of communication. Because I was hitting it too
about nine months ago.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
May I present Exhibit A. He says, I know I
fed up from the beginning. He is guilty. Throw the
book at it. Okay, fine, I feel like they have
been all over the place, girl. I mean, I really
need some consistency in my life, and I think that
this man, Carolena, hits me over the edge.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
I'm heated, Carolena. His text could have been I'm a
grower and a show, so get out of here.
Speaker 2 (22:26):
See look at that she just loves.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
He just said, congratulations on your baby. Let's let this
man live. Come on, girl, play this episode for your
wife or your wifey, come on, girl. It could be
worse coming from someone who's been through some things. Yeah,
it could be worse.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
I guess I just don't like opening the door for
any possibilities because now it's like, what's the return text
gonna be?
Speaker 1 (22:48):
That woman is changing diaper's, nursing a sea section, and breastfeeding.
She ain't trying to go back to her ex Come on, Carolina.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
No, and you know what, actually, when you're pregnant and
you you just had the baby, your hormones are all
over the place.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
Wan with to go creep.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Come on, there are some trifling people out here about
put the baby in the middle of the bed, you baby.
These people are out there.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Maybe bringing the nub once to cheat.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
They they will do whatever they need to do to
get their rocks off. I'm telling you they.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Will do it. I can't. I don't imagine. Yeah, took
about meeting me in a motel and I'm gonna bring
the bass in that that don't that don't go outside
right the baby carrying case and put the baby by
the foot of the bed.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
There was nothing sexy about me. Two months after my
boobies were still leaking. I wore pads. I had those
Granny were by the way that we're so comfortable from
the hospital. I will tell you I stole the.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Way up to your chest talking about nogi.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
No wedgies allowed. They were for some reason, the most
comfortable underwear. And I said to Mark, I'm like, go
back and get me some more because those are the marks,
you know. After he was like, please, are you throwing
those away? Yes, but there's like nothing sexy about you.
But I do think there's a deep emotion at that time.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
So getting that text and might be like.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
Oh wow, it may have like stirred up some emotions
and things, but the whole thing is like, why are
you checking on her? I think we glossed over that,
like why are you checking on your old girl? If
you got your new girl.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
She had a baby, Carolina, I don't know. I think
if one of my exes had a kid, I don't
know if I would be chell me like, congrats on
your kid.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Yeah. I just feel like, Okay, I wish you well
from afar, Like you know, that's what I would do,
Just like I said, give a shout out. Wow, nice,
good for them. They're moving on with their lives. That's wonderful.
Like I hope the baby's healthy and happy. Boom done.
Now I'm gonna go to Starbucks.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
What again?
Speaker 2 (24:36):
No, is that what your thing is? Have you tried
the olive oil thing?
Speaker 1 (24:41):
I'm not about olive oil in my mouth. I use
it to cook.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Olive oil is amazing. Have you ever had olive oil cake?
Are you kidding me this? Honey? We need to open
up a whole.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
Naba and she baked.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
You've never had olive oil cake with orange zest? And
in the room and he feels and Andrew knows exactly
what I'm talking about. How did we get to Starbucks
on olive oil and cakes? And this is this is
what has happened this.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
Yeah, I spent That's why Andrew's giggling ovideo talk about
but having this since I was one.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Okay, okay, see here's what happened. See what had happened
was I had had olive oil in my coffee before
when I was in Italy, and I was like, this
is absolutely you know what it gives it like a
creamy texture and it's just like it's so delish. But
also if you have not had a good olive oil cake,
it is moist, it is delicious, it's everything. I'm telling
(25:40):
you right, I'm gonna actually make you one.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Okay, Oh you're gonna make it? Can I go to
little Italy? Do you? I have to go to Roma
Carlena's hell, and I'm gonna make you this ship right
here in Long Island and bring it in. Okay. We
got a plan. We got to plan because I got
a diet a few days before.
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Because I love cake.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
She want that cake, cake, cake cake, got that cake
ca cake.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
No.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
So anyway, I just think we have to wrap this
up because this man is kind of like, listen, no,
y'all give me advice. So, y'all we hare talking about orders.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
I know I'm starving right now, that's the reason why.
But yes, I think that you know what, you cross
the line. Here's how you make it better, because we're
not just here to chastise you.
Speaker 1 (26:16):
How can I fix this?
Speaker 2 (26:17):
How, here's how we can make it better. You own
up to it. You go to your girl and say,
I had no idea that this would affect you the
way that it did. My intentions were pure. I just
wanted to congratulate her. I want to move on from this.
Will you forgive me? And I will not be texting
her or anybody else ever again?
Speaker 1 (26:35):
Yeah, for real, not anybody else ever again. I love Carolinax.
Carolina is like just say, you never go do none.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
You stare at you bad boy. You stand in that
corner and you put your nose in the corner. Okay,
thank you guys so much for sending us your questions
and all of your uh stories to the salon. Seriously,
we're here to help. Even though I don't know how
much help we were on that one.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
We were good help, good help, good help.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
I don't even know I need too. I'm all over
the place.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
We need.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
We need like something to eat. That's what we need
right now.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
I've had a bagel in my bag, a cocktail. Oh,
Carolina said, we need alcohol, bitch. I don't know if
you're talking about bread.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Oh girl is ready, but yes, send us your messages
at l spanglish. You can follow us on all social media.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
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and you know, just keep rocking with us week after week.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
We do this for you absolutely. I was gonna say,
we totally appreciate that you guys listen to us every
single week. And big shout outs to Fred and everybody
who sends me messages me she.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Bread is it man?
Speaker 2 (27:40):
Fred?
Speaker 1 (27:40):
If the other day I didn't know we drop a
podcast episode and Fred told me because he is on it.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Guys. So for those of you who are reposting us
and that you are sending us so much love, thank you,
thank you. You can follow me at the real Carolina.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Hit me up on a gram. I am honey German,
and have a.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
Great week everybody. We'll be back next week. Love you,
love you
Speaker 1 (27:59):
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