September 9, 2022 • 30 mins
With the recent James Franco casting news as Fidel Castro, Honey and Carolina discuss whitewashing in Hollywood and how they hope for a better future.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
I'm a body positive advicate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but I
was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker. B this is life in spanglish, Carolina.
Did you see this video of John Leguizamo going all
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the way off after news broke that James Franco is
going to be playing Fidel Castro? No wait, no, I
missed this, so wait, John Leguizamo is girl. I said, well, now,
I did see this picture and I saw it like
in passing. I think I was scrolling and they were
talking about casting news that they're doing a movie about
Fidel and James Franco. I guess they've tapped him to
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play Fidel Castro in this movie. They did a side
by side and I was really taken. Aback, I said, well, damn,
he does look like him. Did you see that picture?
I saw the picture and yeah, he does look like him.
We're giving we're giving Fiel Castro a lot of credit
here because the man was not as attractive as James Franco. Is.
But because this whole thing, you know, it's like the
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news came out. The movie is called Alina of Cuba
and it it's gonna focus. It's gonna focus on one
of Fidel's daughters. She was like a kid that she had,
that he had with a woman in Cuba, and she
never knew that was her dad, you know, she and
she ended up being like a revolutionary. She's like a
huge figure. It's going to focus on her. And then
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the person that's gonna play Fie del Castro is James Franco,
who is Portuguese, and John lag was almost like, hell, no,
we're not doing this. He was like, he's not, He
ain't Latino, and how is this still going on? And
then it opened up that topic of like why are
we have so many Latino actors and actresses, Why are
we not hiring a Latino actor to play Fiel Castro?
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Why are we going with somebody like James Franco. And
that's where you know, it became viral and started trending.
So many stories were written about it, and it's like, yeah,
they look a lot alike, but it's not Latinos not
to say give it to John Lguizama per se. But
he opened up a conversation you know that I can't
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believe we're still having in two Well. I don't think
it's exclusive to Latinos though, because you know, I mean
we've heard other movies where people have been cast that,
you know, for example, like, um, I believe there was
somebody that was there's a Native American story, and I
think they cast somebody who was white. And you know,
I wish I had the references that I could so
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right right there. I mean, if you want to talk
about offensive, you know, there are a number of different
projects in Hollywood. That's the thing, man. You know, I
feel like we've discussed this before. I spent very little
time in Los Angeles. I think I remember telling you
guys that when I graduated from college, I went out
to l A and I was trying to do like
the hosting acting thing. And when I tell you, and
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this isn't the year two thousands, so we're twenty two
years later. So this will tell you how very little
progress there has been as far as casting latin as
Latinos in parts that are not stereotypical per se. Okay,
So I feel like this is part of a bigger
problem in that younger talent or new talent isn't given
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a chance. You want to tell me that James Franco,
who is right now. Honestly, I feel like he's had
a lot of scandal in the past ten years. This
would probably be another introduction or entree into the industry.
So he's really looking for this project to do well, right,
and you know, not just scandal, Carolina, but nasty scandals,
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you know, like sexual miss conduct allegation. So it's like
he's not you know, the squeaky clean situation that maybe
you would have thought about when maybe booking you know,
this this role. But yeah, maybe they're trying to reintroduce him.
But here's my problem, Carolina. Okay, you're gonna steal our narrative, Hollywood,
no problem. You're gonna do a movie about you know,
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someone who you know, who's important to us, to our culture.
Not I'm not talking, I'm talking. But it's like, Okay,
you're gonna steal our narrative, but then you're also going
to exclude us from the movies absolutely telling the story.
Almost said like at the box office, Latinos are right,
Why aren't the movies thirty percent. Why aren't the roles percent? Like,
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what is it? What is happening here? This is really
messed up, Like put us in our stories, give us
stories that represent us, but let us also be a
part of it. And I'm with John Lagazama. Some people like, oh,
you're salty. Do you want the role for yourself? And
he's like, hell no, I just want to bring this
to your attention. And going back to what you were
talking about, Carolina, did you watch um documentary, this documentary,
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This is ever that, this is forever? She was talking
about like white actors. You know, great, granted this is
back in the days they were not putting a whole
bunch of Latino actors in one movie, but it's it's
just crazy. You think, like so far back and now
it's like it's it's still happening, and it happens in
a lot of different you know, it happens to blacks,
it happens to all of us. But with Latinos, we
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have to speak out. And I feel like I've always
said the same thing. I feel like Latinos we need
to be more vocal about what we want and what
we don't like, or they're going to continue to do
this to us forever. Well, you know what it is.
I think it all comes down to having to put
in the work right, so it's easier to go with
what you know, Oh he's a name. So this has
happened to me so many times in this industry, and
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I feel totally comfortable talking about it now because I
just don't care. Um. There have been so many things
that I've been up for, really really incredible jobs in
this industry that I know now I can say it
with confidence. I know I've been qualified for them. I
know I would crush it. I know I had a
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bucket to fill, which is we need a we need
a latina, you know, like that's what, that's whatever. You
know all of these executives. Do you know the feedback
that I got from a number of these jobs, which
you know, I'm not salty about it, because I definitely
feel like I'm in the exact place that I need
to be. UM, but the feedback that I got, oh, well,
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thank you, and you know, and I am grateful. I
come from a place of gratitude because I do recognize
that even having you know, any of these jobs, or
even being up for consideration is a win right, being
in front of these people in development, or these casting
directors or you know, the management people that I've had
the opportunity to get in front of. That in itself
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is a win, right. But the number one thing back
in the day when I had my agent, she told me,
she goes, we keep hearing the same thing, and I said,
what is that? And she said, You're not a big
enough name. And I said, well, pardon, my friends, how
the funk am I supposed to get bigger if they
don't give me an opportunity? Honestly, And I think it
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all comes down to that, there's no creativity. There's no
wiggle room to allow people to grow or to discover
somebody who could be really incredible at this role. Nobody
wants to put their neck out anymore and take a chance.
They want to go with what they think is a
sure thing. Do you remember Carolina recently when they did
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the story of the Godmother the Cocaine and then they
went with Catherine Zita Jones. I'm like, what, yes, is
this Catherine Zita Jones? And it's not like there was
a resemblance because I've seen pictures of Griselda Blanco. She
all looked none like no damn Catherine Zita Jones. So
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you can't even say, oh my god, they look just
like them. But it happens. It happens all the time.
You know, we get wide washed and you know, our
roles get stolen. It's just I would love to live
to see the day where things change. I would love
to see things change. But also I do want to
make sure that people understand my my my opinion on
this is not that it should just go to a
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Latino actor. Okay, it should go to the person who
is most qualified for the job. Okay, So here's my thing.
How many people did they audition for this? How many
of them were of Latino dissent um. Also, I feel
like the acting world, there are so many young, talented, hungry,
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undiscovered people that could blow us away, and we're just
not given the opportunity to see them because they haven't
made a name for themselves. You know, just kind of
going back to my own experience, and I think it's
a real shame because we're gonna get stuck in this
cycle of seeing the same five names, the same five
or six names, you know. And and that's the thing
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where I feel like Hollywood is really failing us. But
also we have to do the work. We need more screenwriters,
more people who are out there in the industry. It's
just I think as a whole, we are really struggling
when it comes to representation. We are. But another thing
that I've always been very vocal about is supporting our
shows and supporting our movies. When they give us a show.
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Let's say, HBO Latino, HBO Max, Like, they had a
show it's called the Gorrita Chronicles. Yes, I know, even
Longoria Zoe's Aldanna they put it together, it's already canceled
one season. Canceled like I don't know that. They said, oh,
we're going in a different direction when it comes to
children's programming, But why did our show only get one season?
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And I feel like this happens all the time. You
remember Beauty and the Baker with the Kuwano from Miami
and all of us recommended that. To me, I love
that show. It's just so cute. But then it's like
all of our shows they take them away from us.
Are we not doing enough to support, you know, to
spread the word and what can we do, you know,
as a community, to make sure you know, our actors
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are being supported, our shows and our movies are being consumed.
Is there is there partial responsibility on us to uplift
support and make sure our stuff stays on air? I mean,
I think you bring up a really great point because yeah,
I didn't even know about Beauty and the Baker. But
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again it goes I'm sorry, I can't. I don't think
that we should take the culpability. I think this goes
back to Hollywood. They don't do enough press. Okay, So
how much money is allotted to marketing Beauty in the Baker,
which I had never heard about until you told me.
And how much money is allotted to a show like
I don't know, I'm making this up the Flash or
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you know, I'm saying like, if you by comparison, if
you're if you're on the same network, let's say, how
much money are they devoting to market and and promote
the shows that have the predominantly you know, Latino cast
or how much money are they allocating for shows like
and again I'm making this up, like the Big Bang Theory. Well,
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the Big Bang Theory it's already a hit. Why would
you give more money to that? Well, it's a hit,
so they put more money into projects like that and
less money into these new starter shows because they're like, Okay,
let's just see if it hits. And that's the reason
why it's like a lot of these actors are facing
like a no win situation because you can only do
grassroots campaigns for so long. And that's where I feel
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like I call bullshit on the industries, because grassroots means yes,
it has a following and it's and it's got a buzz,
but it also needs the money and the mind and
the bandwidth of the company to back it up. And
that's a fact. You know, we the people can only
do so much, even though I feel like if we
really band together, we can get some ship really far.
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Like I see some things and I like, let's say,
the older gentleman from the Dominican Republic. You know, they
had that fight in the bodega and he killed the
guy and he was arrested, you know, like everybody everybody banned,
Like we all came, oh my god, this is and
you know, in a few days he was home. Yeah,
he was on house, arrested, he was no longer being
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held in Rykers Island. It's like social media picked up
the story, it went viral. Everybody was like, this is wrong,
this is wrong, this is wrong. All of a sudden,
the mayor of New York City is letting this man
go home, you know what I'm saying. So it's just like,
is there something that we can do as a community
to be like, Yo, this is what we need, this
is what's wrong. Yes, there is. But then the problem
comes all away from Hollywood, and you hit it right
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on the nose, from not giving the roles to the
right actors, to not giving us the content we deserve,
to not putting us in these movies to canceling our shows.
It's it's a it's a bigger problem than us, but
us speaking about it brings light and it brings attention
to the problem. And I feel like that's important and
very needed. Well, you know what, I think you're You're
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so right, But also I think that we need to
encourage more people to step into these roles. Um. So,
I feel like I have a story, right and it's
not even necessarily my story. It's my mom and dad's story,
it's my grandparents story, and I think that that is
what led me to the life that I have today.
And I've been talking to my friend who actually lives
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in Los Angeles, and I said to her, I said,
you know, I don't even know where to get started.
I said, I don't even know if I should waste
my time and energy. She's like, stop it right there.
She's like, you're already defeated. She said, you do have
a story, she said. The problem is there isn't enough
ownership of our own stories. We don't have the studios
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to back us. All of the studios are owned or
run by successful, older white gentlemen and in some cases women,
which I will say there are some women that are
breaking the barrier, which I think is like a big,
big start. You know, even just if you look back
within the last ten years or so, a woman has
never been up for Best Director. So that's where I'm saying.
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It's and I'm not coming down on on older white men.
What I'm saying is the power dynamic needs to shift.
If we are going to tell our stories, we need
to own the studios or the production companies. Which is
why people like Eva Longoria are so important, because you've
got somebody like her who's willing to put her name
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on some of these projects and is getting the funding
to even start with some of these stories. So, you know,
when I was talking to my friend, I said to her,
I was like, you know, I really feel like there's
something there, and I feel like so many people could
relate in this and that, And she said, you need
to start from the very beginning. She's like, and how
you get started is by owning it. That's your story,
you know. So I think that if we encourage more
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people to become screenwriters, or get into the director's chair,
or even into production or you know, all of those
things factor in and our voices potentially could be heard
within the next twenty years. But I mean, think about it, honey.
It's and Rita Moreno on that hockey film that she did.
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That is the reference that I was thinking of. She
was Latina and they had her play a Native American,
but they even put more makeup on her so that
she could look in their vision of what they thought
was a Native American. So like, the whole system is flawed,
but we just have to take control. This is one
person that I admire and I look up to so much.
Tyler Perry Carolina. The other day I was watching I
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was watching BT with my mother in law and she
watches these shows and I'm like, damn, this show is good,
and she's like, oh, that's Tyler Perry. I was like, Wow,
this ship is good. She's like, oh, that's Tyler Perry too.
But guess what that man did? You know? He just
didn't stay an actor. He's a filmmaker. He built his
own studios and he is building content for his people.
And we need a Latino version of Tyler Perry. That's
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what I feel like we need, man, because Hollywood is
not messing with us, and if it's an older white guy,
he's not going to see the importance and the necessity
that we have for these shows. Well, now, I don't
want you to get mad at me. But there's also
the argument about Anna Armas. You know that she's playing
Marilyn Monroe, right, and have you heard about how people
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are upset about that? So so now we go back.
I mean, if we're gonna be fair and if we're
gonna have a real robust discussion about this, you know,
does it go back to the actor gets the role
because the actor is the perfect person for the part.
I think that there's just so much that we can
discuss when it comes to this stuff. You know, I
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really do think that there are opportunities for us to
discover that new talent. But you know, many people could
throw it back in our face and be like, well,
look at her. She's playing Marilyn Monroe, who's a you know,
white woman, and they've allowed her to take on that role. So,
you know, I think that there are just a lot
of different viewpoints here that people can take on this,
and I think this is just the beginning. We're not
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doing this all the time. Listen, Latinas are not taking
white women roles all the time. So I'm gonna I'm
not even gonna get too deep into that because that's
not a problem. You know that the white community has
been played with. So it's like, yeah, and the Adamas
is gonna do this role. Maybe she was. Maybe it
was like a hundred and fifty white actresses and she
just ended up being the one that nailed it. So
I feel like it's an you know, it's an instance.
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And how many Marilyn Monroe movies have y'all done? Anyway?
I'm sorry, no, no disrespect to her. You know, she
was a beautiful icon, but I can't possibly see one
more show of one more movie about this woman. I'm sorry, Well,
I think the story of female is just so important.
It's so important to the Cuban people. And I know
that there are people who have said, no, self respecting
Latina whatever take on that role. But I think that
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if you look at it from a broader perspective and
know that this story does need to be told. Um.
And I know that it's not necessarily his story. It's,
as you mentioned, his daughter, and they're focusing on that.
But I do think that it's important for us to
know our history, to know what we have, you know, overcome,
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or what we hope to overcome, you know, I mean,
And that's where I want to be very respectful of
our our Cuban listeners, because I just know that this
is a topic that is just so sensitive. You know.
I have friends who still have family in Cuba, and
they and they say they don't understand why people go
and visit, you know. I mean, there are a lot
of things that are really just so touchy when you
come to you know, the situation in Cuba and telling
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Feeo story and anything associated with it. So you know,
my hope is just that this right now, us talking
about it brings it to the forefront. You know, maybe
you're meeting with your girlfriends later and you're discussing things
like this, or you know, maybe people are in a
position where you might be a producer right now, or
you might be somebody who's coming up in the industry.
I mean, these are really really big topics that we
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need to tackle if we want to see that representation
in the future. Because look how long it's taken. We're
talking Rita Moreno from back in the what fifties, sixties? Seriously,
from the sixties, let's say, and and it's two. But
can we start out Carolina that she's still working. That
woman is such an icon that I'm not even kidding you.
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And at the end of Cheese Spy, you know, like
you look at her and you're like, wow, she is
the light. I would equit like after the Hope World.
If you guys don't know the story of just watch it.
But if I was her, I would have quit like
around for you gotta watch it. Oh my god, after
everything that she went through. Yes, and that's what I'm saying.
She is stronger than anyone. Well, you know what, send
us your thoughts and let us know what you think
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about this. Look, we're always here to learn. That's what
this podcast is about. We're not the judge and jury.
You know, we have our own opinions and as you've listened,
Honey and I, sometimes we agree, sometimes we don't agree.
But the most important part is that we're having the
dialogue and that we have a space for it, which
is why we love doing this podcast. Now, I do
want to step into the salon, Honey, because we got
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a letter from Magda and it is so good and
I want to hear what your opinion is because I
know you're a savage and I can't wait to hear
juicy is a juicy one? Well, you know what it is.
It's a question, so uh let me see it's I
gotta pull it up because we got it in our
d M s at L I spanglish by the way,
if you guys ever want to d MU. So Magda
wrote us and she said, she said, hey, ladies, I
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love listening to your podcast. I can't wait every single Friday.
It is the first thing that I listened to when
I get into my car. Now, I do have a
question for you, and I want to see how you
would deal with this situation. My boyfriend won't let me
go through his phone. He has his own lock, and
he definitely doesn't let me see what it is. I
suspect that he's doing something, but I don't have proof.
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Should I ask him to let me check it? Have
you guys ever encountered this situation? Carolina? Does your husband
let you check his phone? What about you? Honey? Is
NOONI okay with you picking up his phone and looking
at it? Or am I just being crazy? Okay? So,
and then she goes on to say that she loves Okay,
thank you, Magda. So I always go to honey first
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because I love hearing her reaction to this stuff. So
Magda is suspicious her boyfriend won't let her go through
his phone. What do you think? This is what I'm
gonna say to Martha? Okaya, listen, just just be ready
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mentally prepared to let the relationship go in case you
find some real dog shit in your man's phone, like
a whole another relationship, Because Carolina, you can't just go
through a phone find all types of things and then
expect things to go back to normal. So first things first,
be prepared to move on if you find something that
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you didn't want to find And no, I do not
go through my husband's phone, and he doesn't go through
my phone. I don't have a lock on my phone.
If I'm sleeping and he wants to go through it,
he could, but I don't do it. I allow him
his privacy. Now, do you go through Mark's phone, Carolina? No,
I don't, but I do have the code. I know
the code. Um, he knows my code. I wanted to,
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you could, Um, if I wanted to, I could, but
I don't feel compelled to. And I'll tell you why. So. UM,
I've told you guys that I've gone to couples therapy
before and not for this reason. Um. When we had
our son, Actor, I felt like there was just a
lot was getting lost in communication. I felt like, you know,
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at the beginning of Asher being born, I had a
lot on my plate. I was still working, I had
a two year old, and I had a newborn baby,
and I just felt like he wasn't really like coming
through for me, right. So I asked him to go
to therapy with me because I said, you know, look,
we're a family and we need to learn how to
communicate through things like this. This is a hurdle um
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and you know it's not a dead end, but we
got to work through this. And so in therapy, you know,
I learned all about how everybody moves differently, right, So
the things that are important to me are different than
what's important to Mark. Now that being said, we both
don't have anything to hide, So privacy for us, as
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far as like our phones go is is a non factor. Okay.
So that's why I'm saying. It's like, I don't go
through his phone because I trust him and I believe
that that trust is imperative for a healthy relationship. So
from the jump, mocked out, I think a red flag
is why do you want to go through your boyfriend's phone?
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Like I feel like I don't get signals or questions
as to why I would need to go through Mark's phone.
Do you feel me? Like? Do you do? You know
where I'm going with this? I understand, But here's the thing, Carolina.
Mark is probably not outside outside the way these other
dudes is outside. Okay, he in the office. You know
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these guys are out here, like you know, it's like
Instagram scrolling, like you want to see like, let's say,
if somebody's active on Instagram. They have old Instagram models.
They have a whole bunch of home means that are like, yo,
let's go to the strip club, Da da da da.
Like it might be it might be for Magda, it
might be completely different, like what the lifestyle her man
is living, and that's probably why she wants Like my
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husband now is calm, but he was a dirty dog
at one point, Carolina, and to the point that I
would pull his phone bill. Shut up, he's okay to
talk about lies. I would pull that food bill with
a highlighter. I would go through call by Cole. She's lying,
she's lying. I love your noony. I know. I don't
believe her. For woman, I know you were never a
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dirty dog. My baby was a dirty dog and his twenties,
Carol girl. I went through it and I found a
lot of different things on his phone. I was like,
hold on, so can I defend myself a little bit? Absolutely,
Ladies and gentlemen, please, uh let's let NOONI take over
the mic. Now, now noon we're talking about. Magda has
an issue. Her boyfriend won't let her go through his phone,
and she's suspecting that he's doing something, so like, why
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do you think as a man, as as a male
that you know has a phone and you have your
own business. Why do you think he's hesitant to even
let her look at his phone. He's not doing anything.
He's totally innocent. He's not doing anything, you see. That's
when he comes with the broke one thing. Carolina. Though,
I feel like guys like to hide what they talk
about with their homies. That's number one, right, number number two,
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it's like who they might be talking to people privately,
like old friends on Facebook, like an ex girlfriend that
they still keep in contact with. But I feel like
people deserve privacy. Just get your own relationship. Doesn't mean
like everybody has to die. You can't like a picture
of a big booty. You're still a man, So it's
just like you're gonna do it. I don't know. I
feel like you should give a man privacy, But if
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you feel like you want to dig deep in his phone,
then maybe you need to reevaluate the relationship the trust
is not there. Well, I was really just going to
bring it back to communication, you know. I feel like
if you go to your boyfriend and say, hey, I'm
feeling a certain type of way about the way that
you are so protective of your phone. Why are you
like that? You know, no, really honestly, because because that
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in itself, girl, I'm like that ship. Now I'm going
through it. I'm going through your albums, I'm going through
your deleted folders. If I'm feeling like I need to
go through your phone. Girl, it is a full blown investigation, Carolina.
Ain't no talking. Just unlock the phone, give it to
me before I take it to a store and get
it to your broken honey, said she pulled out the
phone logs. It was highlighting you know what. That's where
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I feel like that in itself is and and nuny.
I hear you laughing, and you know she did it.
We were in our two nies, Carolina. That's that's that's
my defense. I was young. I was young. I was stupid.
You know, young guys do stupid things. We don't we
don't mature so much later on in life for your
forty Yeah, but Noony, you owned it though I have
no choice, but you owned it, and I think that's it.
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I can admit it. But I'll tell Magda this. It
did lead to breakups because we would break up sometimes
for six months. Then we'd revisit the relationship, but it
led to hurt, it led to disappointment, it led to
break it in the relationship, and it led to having
to rebuild it again if we were to get back together.
So if she's ready for that, go for it. If
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you're not ready to get your heartbroken, stay to funk
out that man's phone. Yeah, yeah, you know, I would say.
I think there's a lot of inner dialogue happening here,
because you know, that's what we do. We've run with
a thought and then it's like you're thinking about it
all day and you're talking about it with your girlfriends,
and you know, the one thing that I'll ask you
to do is maybe give your boyfriend the benefit of
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the doubt. I know I'm terrible. I always go against you, honey,
but what I would like to say is just more
I should hope not is what you should be thinking,
you know, instead of thinking he's talking a big booty
hose or whatever. Why do I have to say big
bootio though? People? Man? What is that is that the hoochie?
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Why did why did Luke just come to me? I
don't know why, but know if he's like talking to
these big booty models on Instagram or whoever next girlfriend.
You know, maybe in the back of your mind you
should save yourself like I should hope not and give
yourself that credit that he really does love you. Or
maybe you need to examine past relationships as to why
you feel like you need to go through your man's phone.
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But I think it all comes down to having the
conversation and keeping it all the way real and seeing
his reaction when you do that, because that is coming
from a spot of vulnerability. You're basically putting yourself out
there and saying, Hey, I'm insecure in this relationship and
I need you to help me feel secure. And I
don't necessarily need to go through your phone, But why
are you so protective of it? Like why won't you
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ever let me look at it and then see where
the conversation takes you. That's just what I would do.
I don't know. Girl, Listen, do you have to purge
your phone before he goes through it? Because I always
feel like people are everybody is always doing something they're
not supposed to be doing. So it's like, do you
still keep in contact with people? Do you still reply
to flirty d ms? You know what I'm saying, like
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everybody's doing something at all time. I'm not talking about
like full blown cheating and relationships, but maybe that's the
same thing. He's doing it. He just doesn't want to
hurt to or you know, maybe his friends send him
all types of crazy pictures and he doesn't want you
to see, right, crazy guy chat. Maybe it's not that deep,
maybe or maybe as a man, he just feels like,
this is my phone. It's locked. I don't want you
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going through it. I'm not doing anything wrong and I'm
not gonna let you do it. So have the conversation.
You know, he might tell you, Yo, there's not in
the phone, check it right now, and maybe that will
help you get through this. Yeah, we hope that we
helped you in some way or even helped spark the conversation.
So keep us informed and let us know. I'm going
to check on Noonnie later because I feel like Honey
is gonna like throw her shoe at him in the bit.
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But you know, you can always send us d M
s at ally spanglish. I don't already. You know, I
love my newny He's so cute, So send us your
topics or your now he's a pain in my ask
for many many years. I love how he listens in.
He's like one of our biggest fans. I love that
he listens to the podcast all the time. He knows
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the episodes before they even air, and he listens to
every episode. And Carolina, what if I told you he
does our intro. He is amazing. He knows everything. So
I'm team NOONI even though I love you, so I'm like,
please don't I can see Please just shut up. Guys.
We're gonna be back next Friday. So thank you, thank
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you for joining us, and if you want to continue
the conversation, definitely d m me. I'm at the real
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I want to know how this drama unfold. I hope
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I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born
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was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
and a worker. B this is life in spanglish, Carolina.
Did you see this video of John Leguizamo going all
(00:27):
the way off after news broke that James Franco is
going to be playing Fidel Castro? No wait, no, I
missed this, so wait, John Leguizamo is girl. I said, well, now,
I did see this picture and I saw it like
in passing. I think I was scrolling and they were
talking about casting news that they're doing a movie about
Fidel and James Franco. I guess they've tapped him to
(00:54):
play Fidel Castro in this movie. They did a side
by side and I was really taken. Aback, I said, well, damn,
he does look like him. Did you see that picture?
I saw the picture and yeah, he does look like him.
We're giving we're giving Fiel Castro a lot of credit
here because the man was not as attractive as James Franco. Is.
But because this whole thing, you know, it's like the
(01:15):
news came out. The movie is called Alina of Cuba
and it it's gonna focus. It's gonna focus on one
of Fidel's daughters. She was like a kid that she had,
that he had with a woman in Cuba, and she
never knew that was her dad, you know, she and
she ended up being like a revolutionary. She's like a
huge figure. It's going to focus on her. And then
(01:36):
the person that's gonna play Fie del Castro is James Franco,
who is Portuguese, and John lag was almost like, hell, no,
we're not doing this. He was like, he's not, He
ain't Latino, and how is this still going on? And
then it opened up that topic of like why are
we have so many Latino actors and actresses, Why are
we not hiring a Latino actor to play Fiel Castro?
(01:59):
Why are we going with somebody like James Franco. And
that's where you know, it became viral and started trending.
So many stories were written about it, and it's like, yeah,
they look a lot alike, but it's not Latinos not
to say give it to John Lguizama per se. But
he opened up a conversation you know that I can't
(02:21):
believe we're still having in two Well. I don't think
it's exclusive to Latinos though, because you know, I mean
we've heard other movies where people have been cast that,
you know, for example, like, um, I believe there was
somebody that was there's a Native American story, and I
think they cast somebody who was white. And you know,
I wish I had the references that I could so
(02:41):
right right there. I mean, if you want to talk
about offensive, you know, there are a number of different
projects in Hollywood. That's the thing, man. You know, I
feel like we've discussed this before. I spent very little
time in Los Angeles. I think I remember telling you
guys that when I graduated from college, I went out
to l A and I was trying to do like
the hosting acting thing. And when I tell you, and
(03:04):
this isn't the year two thousands, so we're twenty two
years later. So this will tell you how very little
progress there has been as far as casting latin as
Latinos in parts that are not stereotypical per se. Okay,
So I feel like this is part of a bigger
problem in that younger talent or new talent isn't given
(03:28):
a chance. You want to tell me that James Franco,
who is right now. Honestly, I feel like he's had
a lot of scandal in the past ten years. This
would probably be another introduction or entree into the industry.
So he's really looking for this project to do well, right,
and you know, not just scandal, Carolina, but nasty scandals,
(03:51):
you know, like sexual miss conduct allegation. So it's like
he's not you know, the squeaky clean situation that maybe
you would have thought about when maybe booking you know,
this this role. But yeah, maybe they're trying to reintroduce him.
But here's my problem, Carolina. Okay, you're gonna steal our narrative, Hollywood,
no problem. You're gonna do a movie about you know,
(04:11):
someone who you know, who's important to us, to our culture.
Not I'm not talking, I'm talking. But it's like, Okay,
you're gonna steal our narrative, but then you're also going
to exclude us from the movies absolutely telling the story.
Almost said like at the box office, Latinos are right,
Why aren't the movies thirty percent. Why aren't the roles percent? Like,
(04:34):
what is it? What is happening here? This is really
messed up, Like put us in our stories, give us
stories that represent us, but let us also be a
part of it. And I'm with John Lagazama. Some people like, oh,
you're salty. Do you want the role for yourself? And
he's like, hell no, I just want to bring this
to your attention. And going back to what you were
talking about, Carolina, did you watch um documentary, this documentary,
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This is ever that, this is forever? She was talking
about like white actors. You know, great, granted this is
back in the days they were not putting a whole
bunch of Latino actors in one movie, but it's it's
just crazy. You think, like so far back and now
it's like it's it's still happening, and it happens in
a lot of different you know, it happens to blacks,
it happens to all of us. But with Latinos, we
(05:21):
have to speak out. And I feel like I've always
said the same thing. I feel like Latinos we need
to be more vocal about what we want and what
we don't like, or they're going to continue to do
this to us forever. Well, you know what it is.
I think it all comes down to having to put
in the work right, so it's easier to go with
what you know, Oh he's a name. So this has
happened to me so many times in this industry, and
(05:41):
I feel totally comfortable talking about it now because I
just don't care. Um. There have been so many things
that I've been up for, really really incredible jobs in
this industry that I know now I can say it
with confidence. I know I've been qualified for them. I
know I would crush it. I know I had a
(06:02):
bucket to fill, which is we need a we need
a latina, you know, like that's what, that's whatever. You
know all of these executives. Do you know the feedback
that I got from a number of these jobs, which
you know, I'm not salty about it, because I definitely
feel like I'm in the exact place that I need
to be. UM, but the feedback that I got, oh, well,
(06:24):
thank you, and you know, and I am grateful. I
come from a place of gratitude because I do recognize
that even having you know, any of these jobs, or
even being up for consideration is a win right, being
in front of these people in development, or these casting
directors or you know, the management people that I've had
the opportunity to get in front of. That in itself
(06:46):
is a win, right. But the number one thing back
in the day when I had my agent, she told me,
she goes, we keep hearing the same thing, and I said,
what is that? And she said, You're not a big
enough name. And I said, well, pardon, my friends, how
the funk am I supposed to get bigger if they
don't give me an opportunity? Honestly, And I think it
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all comes down to that, there's no creativity. There's no
wiggle room to allow people to grow or to discover
somebody who could be really incredible at this role. Nobody
wants to put their neck out anymore and take a chance.
They want to go with what they think is a
sure thing. Do you remember Carolina recently when they did
(07:28):
the story of the Godmother the Cocaine and then they
went with Catherine Zita Jones. I'm like, what, yes, is
this Catherine Zita Jones? And it's not like there was
a resemblance because I've seen pictures of Griselda Blanco. She
all looked none like no damn Catherine Zita Jones. So
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you can't even say, oh my god, they look just
like them. But it happens. It happens all the time.
You know, we get wide washed and you know, our
roles get stolen. It's just I would love to live
to see the day where things change. I would love
to see things change. But also I do want to
make sure that people understand my my my opinion on
this is not that it should just go to a
(08:11):
Latino actor. Okay, it should go to the person who
is most qualified for the job. Okay, So here's my thing.
How many people did they audition for this? How many
of them were of Latino dissent um. Also, I feel
like the acting world, there are so many young, talented, hungry,
(08:35):
undiscovered people that could blow us away, and we're just
not given the opportunity to see them because they haven't
made a name for themselves. You know, just kind of
going back to my own experience, and I think it's
a real shame because we're gonna get stuck in this
cycle of seeing the same five names, the same five
or six names, you know. And and that's the thing
(08:56):
where I feel like Hollywood is really failing us. But
also we have to do the work. We need more screenwriters,
more people who are out there in the industry. It's
just I think as a whole, we are really struggling
when it comes to representation. We are. But another thing
that I've always been very vocal about is supporting our
shows and supporting our movies. When they give us a show.
(09:19):
Let's say, HBO Latino, HBO Max, Like, they had a
show it's called the Gorrita Chronicles. Yes, I know, even
Longoria Zoe's Aldanna they put it together, it's already canceled
one season. Canceled like I don't know that. They said, oh,
we're going in a different direction when it comes to
children's programming, But why did our show only get one season?
(09:40):
And I feel like this happens all the time. You
remember Beauty and the Baker with the Kuwano from Miami
and all of us recommended that. To me, I love
that show. It's just so cute. But then it's like
all of our shows they take them away from us.
Are we not doing enough to support, you know, to
spread the word and what can we do, you know,
as a community, to make sure you know, our actors
(10:02):
are being supported, our shows and our movies are being consumed.
Is there is there partial responsibility on us to uplift
support and make sure our stuff stays on air? I mean,
I think you bring up a really great point because yeah,
I didn't even know about Beauty and the Baker. But
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again it goes I'm sorry, I can't. I don't think
that we should take the culpability. I think this goes
back to Hollywood. They don't do enough press. Okay, So
how much money is allotted to marketing Beauty in the Baker,
which I had never heard about until you told me.
And how much money is allotted to a show like
I don't know, I'm making this up the Flash or
(10:45):
you know, I'm saying like, if you by comparison, if
you're if you're on the same network, let's say, how
much money are they devoting to market and and promote
the shows that have the predominantly you know, Latino cast
or how much money are they allocating for shows like
and again I'm making this up, like the Big Bang Theory. Well,
(11:05):
the Big Bang Theory it's already a hit. Why would
you give more money to that? Well, it's a hit,
so they put more money into projects like that and
less money into these new starter shows because they're like, Okay,
let's just see if it hits. And that's the reason
why it's like a lot of these actors are facing
like a no win situation because you can only do
grassroots campaigns for so long. And that's where I feel
(11:28):
like I call bullshit on the industries, because grassroots means yes,
it has a following and it's and it's got a buzz,
but it also needs the money and the mind and
the bandwidth of the company to back it up. And
that's a fact. You know, we the people can only
do so much, even though I feel like if we
really band together, we can get some ship really far.
(11:50):
Like I see some things and I like, let's say,
the older gentleman from the Dominican Republic. You know, they
had that fight in the bodega and he killed the
guy and he was arrested, you know, like everybody everybody banned,
Like we all came, oh my god, this is and
you know, in a few days he was home. Yeah,
he was on house, arrested, he was no longer being
(12:11):
held in Rykers Island. It's like social media picked up
the story, it went viral. Everybody was like, this is wrong,
this is wrong, this is wrong. All of a sudden,
the mayor of New York City is letting this man
go home, you know what I'm saying. So it's just like,
is there something that we can do as a community
to be like, Yo, this is what we need, this
is what's wrong. Yes, there is. But then the problem
comes all away from Hollywood, and you hit it right
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on the nose, from not giving the roles to the
right actors, to not giving us the content we deserve,
to not putting us in these movies to canceling our shows.
It's it's a it's a bigger problem than us, but
us speaking about it brings light and it brings attention
to the problem. And I feel like that's important and
very needed. Well, you know what, I think you're You're
(12:54):
so right, But also I think that we need to
encourage more people to step into these roles. Um. So,
I feel like I have a story, right and it's
not even necessarily my story. It's my mom and dad's story,
it's my grandparents story, and I think that that is
what led me to the life that I have today.
And I've been talking to my friend who actually lives
(13:15):
in Los Angeles, and I said to her, I said,
you know, I don't even know where to get started.
I said, I don't even know if I should waste
my time and energy. She's like, stop it right there.
She's like, you're already defeated. She said, you do have
a story, she said. The problem is there isn't enough
ownership of our own stories. We don't have the studios
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to back us. All of the studios are owned or
run by successful, older white gentlemen and in some cases women,
which I will say there are some women that are
breaking the barrier, which I think is like a big,
big start. You know, even just if you look back
within the last ten years or so, a woman has
never been up for Best Director. So that's where I'm saying.
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It's and I'm not coming down on on older white men.
What I'm saying is the power dynamic needs to shift.
If we are going to tell our stories, we need
to own the studios or the production companies. Which is
why people like Eva Longoria are so important, because you've
got somebody like her who's willing to put her name
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on some of these projects and is getting the funding
to even start with some of these stories. So, you know,
when I was talking to my friend, I said to her,
I was like, you know, I really feel like there's
something there, and I feel like so many people could
relate in this and that, And she said, you need
to start from the very beginning. She's like, and how
you get started is by owning it. That's your story,
you know. So I think that if we encourage more
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people to become screenwriters, or get into the director's chair,
or even into production or you know, all of those
things factor in and our voices potentially could be heard
within the next twenty years. But I mean, think about it, honey.
It's and Rita Moreno on that hockey film that she did.
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That is the reference that I was thinking of. She
was Latina and they had her play a Native American,
but they even put more makeup on her so that
she could look in their vision of what they thought
was a Native American. So like, the whole system is flawed,
but we just have to take control. This is one
person that I admire and I look up to so much.
Tyler Perry Carolina. The other day I was watching I
(15:25):
was watching BT with my mother in law and she
watches these shows and I'm like, damn, this show is good,
and she's like, oh, that's Tyler Perry. I was like, Wow,
this ship is good. She's like, oh, that's Tyler Perry too.
But guess what that man did? You know? He just
didn't stay an actor. He's a filmmaker. He built his
own studios and he is building content for his people.
And we need a Latino version of Tyler Perry. That's
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what I feel like we need, man, because Hollywood is
not messing with us, and if it's an older white guy,
he's not going to see the importance and the necessity
that we have for these shows. Well, now, I don't
want you to get mad at me. But there's also
the argument about Anna Armas. You know that she's playing
Marilyn Monroe, right, and have you heard about how people
(16:08):
are upset about that? So so now we go back.
I mean, if we're gonna be fair and if we're
gonna have a real robust discussion about this, you know,
does it go back to the actor gets the role
because the actor is the perfect person for the part.
I think that there's just so much that we can
discuss when it comes to this stuff. You know, I
(16:30):
really do think that there are opportunities for us to
discover that new talent. But you know, many people could
throw it back in our face and be like, well,
look at her. She's playing Marilyn Monroe, who's a you know,
white woman, and they've allowed her to take on that role. So,
you know, I think that there are just a lot
of different viewpoints here that people can take on this,
and I think this is just the beginning. We're not
(16:52):
doing this all the time. Listen, Latinas are not taking
white women roles all the time. So I'm gonna I'm
not even gonna get too deep into that because that's
not a problem. You know that the white community has
been played with. So it's like, yeah, and the Adamas
is gonna do this role. Maybe she was. Maybe it
was like a hundred and fifty white actresses and she
just ended up being the one that nailed it. So
I feel like it's an you know, it's an instance.
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And how many Marilyn Monroe movies have y'all done? Anyway?
I'm sorry, no, no disrespect to her. You know, she
was a beautiful icon, but I can't possibly see one
more show of one more movie about this woman. I'm sorry, Well,
I think the story of female is just so important.
It's so important to the Cuban people. And I know
that there are people who have said, no, self respecting
Latina whatever take on that role. But I think that
(17:34):
if you look at it from a broader perspective and
know that this story does need to be told. Um.
And I know that it's not necessarily his story. It's,
as you mentioned, his daughter, and they're focusing on that.
But I do think that it's important for us to
know our history, to know what we have, you know, overcome,
(17:56):
or what we hope to overcome, you know, I mean,
And that's where I want to be very respectful of
our our Cuban listeners, because I just know that this
is a topic that is just so sensitive. You know.
I have friends who still have family in Cuba, and
they and they say they don't understand why people go
and visit, you know. I mean, there are a lot
of things that are really just so touchy when you
come to you know, the situation in Cuba and telling
(18:18):
Feeo story and anything associated with it. So you know,
my hope is just that this right now, us talking
about it brings it to the forefront. You know, maybe
you're meeting with your girlfriends later and you're discussing things
like this, or you know, maybe people are in a
position where you might be a producer right now, or
you might be somebody who's coming up in the industry.
I mean, these are really really big topics that we
(18:40):
need to tackle if we want to see that representation
in the future. Because look how long it's taken. We're
talking Rita Moreno from back in the what fifties, sixties? Seriously,
from the sixties, let's say, and and it's two. But
can we start out Carolina that she's still working. That
woman is such an icon that I'm not even kidding you.
(19:01):
And at the end of Cheese Spy, you know, like
you look at her and you're like, wow, she is
the light. I would equit like after the Hope World.
If you guys don't know the story of just watch it.
But if I was her, I would have quit like
around for you gotta watch it. Oh my god, after
everything that she went through. Yes, and that's what I'm saying.
She is stronger than anyone. Well, you know what, send
us your thoughts and let us know what you think
(19:22):
about this. Look, we're always here to learn. That's what
this podcast is about. We're not the judge and jury.
You know, we have our own opinions and as you've listened,
Honey and I, sometimes we agree, sometimes we don't agree.
But the most important part is that we're having the
dialogue and that we have a space for it, which
is why we love doing this podcast. Now, I do
want to step into the salon, Honey, because we got
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a letter from Magda and it is so good and
I want to hear what your opinion is because I
know you're a savage and I can't wait to hear
juicy is a juicy one? Well, you know what it is.
It's a question, so uh let me see it's I
gotta pull it up because we got it in our
d M s at L I spanglish by the way,
if you guys ever want to d MU. So Magda
wrote us and she said, she said, hey, ladies, I
(20:04):
love listening to your podcast. I can't wait every single Friday.
It is the first thing that I listened to when
I get into my car. Now, I do have a
question for you, and I want to see how you
would deal with this situation. My boyfriend won't let me
go through his phone. He has his own lock, and
he definitely doesn't let me see what it is. I
suspect that he's doing something, but I don't have proof.
(20:25):
Should I ask him to let me check it? Have
you guys ever encountered this situation? Carolina? Does your husband
let you check his phone? What about you? Honey? Is
NOONI okay with you picking up his phone and looking
at it? Or am I just being crazy? Okay? So,
and then she goes on to say that she loves Okay,
thank you, Magda. So I always go to honey first
(20:46):
because I love hearing her reaction to this stuff. So
Magda is suspicious her boyfriend won't let her go through
his phone. What do you think? This is what I'm
gonna say to Martha? Okaya, listen, just just be ready
(21:18):
mentally prepared to let the relationship go in case you
find some real dog shit in your man's phone, like
a whole another relationship, Because Carolina, you can't just go
through a phone find all types of things and then
expect things to go back to normal. So first things first,
be prepared to move on if you find something that
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you didn't want to find And no, I do not
go through my husband's phone, and he doesn't go through
my phone. I don't have a lock on my phone.
If I'm sleeping and he wants to go through it,
he could, but I don't do it. I allow him
his privacy. Now, do you go through Mark's phone, Carolina? No,
I don't, but I do have the code. I know
the code. Um, he knows my code. I wanted to,
(22:02):
you could, Um, if I wanted to, I could, but
I don't feel compelled to. And I'll tell you why. So. UM,
I've told you guys that I've gone to couples therapy
before and not for this reason. Um. When we had
our son, Actor, I felt like there was just a
lot was getting lost in communication. I felt like, you know,
(22:23):
at the beginning of Asher being born, I had a
lot on my plate. I was still working, I had
a two year old, and I had a newborn baby,
and I just felt like he wasn't really like coming
through for me, right. So I asked him to go
to therapy with me because I said, you know, look,
we're a family and we need to learn how to
communicate through things like this. This is a hurdle um
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and you know it's not a dead end, but we
got to work through this. And so in therapy, you know,
I learned all about how everybody moves differently, right, So
the things that are important to me are different than
what's important to Mark. Now that being said, we both
don't have anything to hide, So privacy for us, as
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far as like our phones go is is a non factor. Okay.
So that's why I'm saying. It's like, I don't go
through his phone because I trust him and I believe
that that trust is imperative for a healthy relationship. So
from the jump, mocked out, I think a red flag
is why do you want to go through your boyfriend's phone?
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Like I feel like I don't get signals or questions
as to why I would need to go through Mark's phone.
Do you feel me? Like? Do you do? You know
where I'm going with this? I understand, But here's the thing, Carolina.
Mark is probably not outside outside the way these other
dudes is outside. Okay, he in the office. You know
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these guys are out here, like you know, it's like
Instagram scrolling, like you want to see like, let's say,
if somebody's active on Instagram. They have old Instagram models.
They have a whole bunch of home means that are like, yo,
let's go to the strip club, Da da da da.
Like it might be it might be for Magda, it
might be completely different, like what the lifestyle her man
is living, and that's probably why she wants Like my
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husband now is calm, but he was a dirty dog
at one point, Carolina, and to the point that I
would pull his phone bill. Shut up, he's okay to
talk about lies. I would pull that food bill with
a highlighter. I would go through call by Cole. She's lying,
she's lying. I love your noony. I know. I don't
believe her. For woman, I know you were never a
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dirty dog. My baby was a dirty dog and his twenties,
Carol girl. I went through it and I found a
lot of different things on his phone. I was like,
hold on, so can I defend myself a little bit? Absolutely,
Ladies and gentlemen, please, uh let's let NOONI take over
the mic. Now, now noon we're talking about. Magda has
an issue. Her boyfriend won't let her go through his phone,
and she's suspecting that he's doing something, so like, why
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do you think as a man, as as a male
that you know has a phone and you have your
own business. Why do you think he's hesitant to even
let her look at his phone. He's not doing anything.
He's totally innocent. He's not doing anything, you see. That's
when he comes with the broke one thing. Carolina. Though,
I feel like guys like to hide what they talk
about with their homies. That's number one, right, number number two,
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it's like who they might be talking to people privately,
like old friends on Facebook, like an ex girlfriend that
they still keep in contact with. But I feel like
people deserve privacy. Just get your own relationship. Doesn't mean
like everybody has to die. You can't like a picture
of a big booty. You're still a man, So it's
just like you're gonna do it. I don't know. I
feel like you should give a man privacy, But if
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you feel like you want to dig deep in his phone,
then maybe you need to reevaluate the relationship the trust
is not there. Well, I was really just going to
bring it back to communication, you know. I feel like
if you go to your boyfriend and say, hey, I'm
feeling a certain type of way about the way that
you are so protective of your phone. Why are you
like that? You know, no, really honestly, because because that
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in itself, girl, I'm like that ship. Now I'm going
through it. I'm going through your albums, I'm going through
your deleted folders. If I'm feeling like I need to
go through your phone. Girl, it is a full blown investigation, Carolina.
Ain't no talking. Just unlock the phone, give it to
me before I take it to a store and get
it to your broken honey, said she pulled out the
phone logs. It was highlighting you know what. That's where
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I feel like that in itself is and and nuny.
I hear you laughing, and you know she did it.
We were in our two nies, Carolina. That's that's that's
my defense. I was young. I was young. I was stupid.
You know, young guys do stupid things. We don't we
don't mature so much later on in life for your
forty Yeah, but Noony, you owned it though I have
no choice, but you owned it, and I think that's it.
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I can admit it. But I'll tell Magda this. It
did lead to breakups because we would break up sometimes
for six months. Then we'd revisit the relationship, but it
led to hurt, it led to disappointment, it led to
break it in the relationship, and it led to having
to rebuild it again if we were to get back together.
So if she's ready for that, go for it. If
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you're not ready to get your heartbroken, stay to funk
out that man's phone. Yeah, yeah, you know, I would say.
I think there's a lot of inner dialogue happening here,
because you know, that's what we do. We've run with
a thought and then it's like you're thinking about it
all day and you're talking about it with your girlfriends,
and you know, the one thing that I'll ask you
to do is maybe give your boyfriend the benefit of
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the doubt. I know I'm terrible. I always go against you, honey,
but what I would like to say is just more
I should hope not is what you should be thinking,
you know, instead of thinking he's talking a big booty
hose or whatever. Why do I have to say big
bootio though? People? Man? What is that is that the hoochie?
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Why did why did Luke just come to me? I
don't know why, but know if he's like talking to
these big booty models on Instagram or whoever next girlfriend.
You know, maybe in the back of your mind you
should save yourself like I should hope not and give
yourself that credit that he really does love you. Or
maybe you need to examine past relationships as to why
you feel like you need to go through your man's phone.
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But I think it all comes down to having the
conversation and keeping it all the way real and seeing
his reaction when you do that, because that is coming
from a spot of vulnerability. You're basically putting yourself out
there and saying, Hey, I'm insecure in this relationship and
I need you to help me feel secure. And I
don't necessarily need to go through your phone, But why
are you so protective of it? Like why won't you
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ever let me look at it and then see where
the conversation takes you. That's just what I would do.
I don't know. Girl, Listen, do you have to purge
your phone before he goes through it? Because I always
feel like people are everybody is always doing something they're
not supposed to be doing. So it's like, do you
still keep in contact with people? Do you still reply
to flirty d ms? You know what I'm saying, like
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everybody's doing something at all time. I'm not talking about
like full blown cheating and relationships, but maybe that's the
same thing. He's doing it. He just doesn't want to
hurt to or you know, maybe his friends send him
all types of crazy pictures and he doesn't want you
to see, right, crazy guy chat. Maybe it's not that deep,
maybe or maybe as a man, he just feels like,
this is my phone. It's locked. I don't want you
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going through it. I'm not doing anything wrong and I'm
not gonna let you do it. So have the conversation.
You know, he might tell you, Yo, there's not in
the phone, check it right now, and maybe that will
help you get through this. Yeah, we hope that we
helped you in some way or even helped spark the conversation.
So keep us informed and let us know. I'm going
to check on Noonnie later because I feel like Honey
is gonna like throw her shoe at him in the bit.
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But you know, you can always send us d M
s at ally spanglish. I don't already. You know, I
love my newny He's so cute, So send us your
topics or your now he's a pain in my ask
for many many years. I love how he listens in.
He's like one of our biggest fans. I love that
he listens to the podcast all the time. He knows
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the episodes before they even air, and he listens to
every episode. And Carolina, what if I told you he
does our intro. He is amazing. He knows everything. So
I'm team NOONI even though I love you, so I'm like,
please don't I can see Please just shut up. Guys.
We're gonna be back next Friday. So thank you, thank
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you for joining us, and if you want to continue
the conversation, definitely d m me. I'm at the real
Carolina Magda, hit me on a Graham. I am honey chairman.
I want to know how this drama unfold. I hope
your heart don't get broken. I know me too, and
definitely check us out next Friday. Subscribe and like us,
give us those five stars and hopefully we will hear
from you guys soon. Take care of guys, give me
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