September 11, 2025 • 7 mins
Monica called us about Julian. They matched on Bumble and went to dinner in Burlingame. Monica said they ordered a bottle of wine, split an appetizer, and even lingered over dessert because the conversation was flowing so well. She thought he was engaged, asking about her job and her family, and she left the date thinking Julian was genuinely interested in seeing her again. But she never heard back.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
More variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today
Star one O one three. It's Marcus and Corey and
we are doing second Date Update. You know what's up?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
What is the hurdle with your dating life? Why aren't
you getting that second date? That's what we try to
figure out.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
You had a first date and something has happened, and
I can't, for the life of me, figure out why
someone would ghost on Monica. We've been talking to her
off here. She seems so sweet. Monica, are you there?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
I am hi.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
So let's talk about this date. Let's talk about Julian. Okay, yeah,
So how did you guys meet? And then let's run
through the first date?
Speaker 4 (00:39):
Yeah, oh, we matched some bumble and you know, we
just went to dinner. So it's a nice I like
going to dinner. Some people don't always want to do that,
but we got.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
You don't find it too middle, No.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Yeah, I like it. I think it gives you enough
time to really connect to somebody, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Plus food, yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Yeah, plus food.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
I like food. So we we got we got some wine,
and we got an appetizer and we just I think
we were having a really good time because we we
even made it to like dessert, you know, and we
were just flowing, you know, we were just having a
great conversation. And I'm just.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
Confused because it feels like he was really into it
and he was asking me all these questions, you know,
was asking me about my job, about my family, and
I guess I just I left and I thought he
was like really interested in that he wanted to see
me again.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
But I just have not heard back from him.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Okay, Corey, your thoughts, this is what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
So he's actually like a cab driver, like an uber
driver sometimes, huh. And he's also an expert on paranoid
theories and.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Mean like conspiracy theories. Yes, okay.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And so he actually gets captured and put through some
psychotic tests by this crazy doctor and his friends are like,
did you really get kidnapped or is this all in
your head? I?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Uh you.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
He's gavees. So he's okay, but we don't know if
anyone believes him. I have no idea conspiracy theory. That's it. Yeah,
it's mel Gibson. Poor Monica's please anybody, I'll tell you what.
I'm sure he's fine. Let's call him Monica. Can you
(02:36):
hang out for a song.
Speaker 5 (02:38):
Yes, definitely great.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
We'll get to it here in a sec. We'll have
you on the line when we call him. That's next.
It's Second Date Updates, Star one O one three, more
variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today it's
Star one on one three. It's Marcus and Corey. We're
doing Second Date Update right now. We've been chatting with
Monica about her date with Julian and they went to
dinner in Berlin.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Game.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yes, Julian has ghosted, so let's get him on the Yeah, Monica,
you're gonna mute your phone. Here we go. Okay, okay,
see if we can get our girl a second date.
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Hello, Hi, may speak with Julian please.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
This is Julian.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Hi Julian. It's Marcus and Corey from Star one on
one three.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Hello, Hi, Hi. Do you listen to our show?
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Not a ton, but I'm aware of it.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Okay, that's cool. We do like we're getting Jillian out
of bed right now. I'm sorry, dude, that's okay. Have
you ever heard of Second Date Update?
Speaker 3 (03:49):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Okay, it's our dating segment and we talked to something
about our first date. They went on and then we
call the person they went on the date with and
get their perspective.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
In this scenario, that would be you. The reason being,
this girl thinks you might have ghosted on her. We're
just trying to figure out if she did something wrong.
I wonder if you have a second to talk to
us about your date with Monica.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Monica, Okay, what did she tell you?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Well, she said that dinner was great. I don't know
how much you date. This is the girl you took
to dinner in Berlin, game and that things.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
I remember Monica?
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Okay, she said things were swell? Is that your take?
First of all, did you ghost?
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Did I ghost?
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Sorry? This is a lot, but we're just trying to
get her some answers.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Yeah, I'm leaning ghost.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Okay. Can you tell us why?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
She was very sweet? Don't get me wrong. Okay, And
it might have something to do with me, but it
also might have something to do with her as well.
So I mean there's there's gradients, right, Okay. Did she
tell you that she continuously picked up my food even
though she had her.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Own plate picked at your food, my food.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
She was like, oh, let me try your fries, like oh,
and like at first I could handle it. But I
grew up in a situation where I eat very slowly
and I've always had people just come and pick up
my food when they're done, and it just, I see,
irritates the heck out of me. It triggers me to
no end.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Hands I'm just gonna ask if your husband would just
bite your hand off. Jeff doesn't share food?
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Okay, okay, was sharing food, but I also want to
eat my food. You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Is that a ghostable offense there? I mean it seems
kind of minor.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
No, it was. But did she tell you that mid
date she face timed her sister to introduce me. Oh no,
on the first date.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
She left that out. That's a bit much. Okay. Yeah,
So I'd like to move on to the second part
of this call, Julian. I hate to ambush you, but
so Monica is listening right now. That's part of this.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Oh that's how you guys do it. Okay, thank you great?
Speaker 1 (06:10):
So Monica are you there?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
I sure am. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I almost can forgive grabbing a French fry, but facetiming
at the table, Monica, Yeah, what's that about? Seems aggressive?
Speaker 3 (06:24):
I mean, I.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Don't know it I asked every single time, first of all,
about the fries, so you could say no. You didn't
say no. I thought it was fine. But second of all,
you were I mean, I thought we were having a
good time. You were asking me about my family, and
I was telling you about Olivia and how like we're
really close, you know, And then we were just talking
(06:47):
about her and I was telling you about her, and
you just seem really interested in me and my family,
and I facetimed her because I just thought that would
be fine. I don't see what's like that big of
a deal about it.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
If you weren't, she wasn't weird. It fine introduce people
from your family to your date immediately.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
First of all, I'm not like going on one zillion dates.
I don't know what you're doing. But second of all,
I don't think it's that strange if you meet somebody
from your date's life, Like, is that very odd?
Speaker 3 (07:19):
I think it's normal, Monica. It's a first date. There's rules.
You don't talk about politics, you don't talk about religion.
You don't introduce your sister.
Speaker 4 (07:29):
Oh, I'm sorry. If you need to read books about dating,
I'm not doing that. I'm just actually like connecting with people.
I don't have like a rules in my pocket or
something like that. Julian, Look, if you can't handle meeting
my family, it might be a situation where I like,
you're not ready for dating, and that's fine. The rules
is no, I'm going to introduce you to my family
on the first date.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
It's a boundary, Monica, a boundary. It's not about being
a website.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
This is getting aggressive. I'm want to call it, Yeah,
got a little it
More variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today
Star one O one three. It's Marcus and Corey and
we are doing second Date Update. You know what's up?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
What is the hurdle with your dating life? Why aren't
you getting that second date? That's what we try to
figure out.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
You had a first date and something has happened, and
I can't, for the life of me, figure out why
someone would ghost on Monica. We've been talking to her
off here. She seems so sweet. Monica, are you there?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
I am hi.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
So let's talk about this date. Let's talk about Julian. Okay, yeah,
So how did you guys meet? And then let's run
through the first date?
Speaker 4 (00:39):
Yeah, oh, we matched some bumble and you know, we
just went to dinner. So it's a nice I like
going to dinner. Some people don't always want to do that,
but we got.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
You don't find it too middle, No.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Yeah, I like it. I think it gives you enough
time to really connect to somebody, you know.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Plus food, yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Yeah, plus food.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
I like food. So we we got we got some wine,
and we got an appetizer and we just I think
we were having a really good time because we we
even made it to like dessert, you know, and we
were just flowing, you know, we were just having a
great conversation. And I'm just.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
Confused because it feels like he was really into it
and he was asking me all these questions, you know,
was asking me about my job, about my family, and
I guess I just I left and I thought he
was like really interested in that he wanted to see
me again.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
But I just have not heard back from him.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Okay, Corey, your thoughts, this is what I'm thinking.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
So he's actually like a cab driver, like an uber
driver sometimes, huh. And he's also an expert on paranoid
theories and.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Mean like conspiracy theories. Yes, okay.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And so he actually gets captured and put through some
psychotic tests by this crazy doctor and his friends are like,
did you really get kidnapped or is this all in
your head? I?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Uh you.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
He's gavees. So he's okay, but we don't know if
anyone believes him. I have no idea conspiracy theory. That's it. Yeah,
it's mel Gibson. Poor Monica's please anybody, I'll tell you what.
I'm sure he's fine. Let's call him Monica. Can you
(02:36):
hang out for a song.
Speaker 5 (02:38):
Yes, definitely great.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
We'll get to it here in a sec. We'll have
you on the line when we call him. That's next.
It's Second Date Updates, Star one O one three, more
variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today it's
Star one on one three. It's Marcus and Corey. We're
doing Second Date Update right now. We've been chatting with
Monica about her date with Julian and they went to
dinner in Berlin.
Speaker 3 (02:56):
Game.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yes, Julian has ghosted, so let's get him on the Yeah, Monica,
you're gonna mute your phone. Here we go. Okay, okay,
see if we can get our girl a second date.
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Hello, Hi, may speak with Julian please.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
This is Julian.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Hi Julian. It's Marcus and Corey from Star one on
one three.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Hello, Hi, Hi. Do you listen to our show?
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Not a ton, but I'm aware of it.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Okay, that's cool. We do like we're getting Jillian out
of bed right now. I'm sorry, dude, that's okay. Have
you ever heard of Second Date Update?
Speaker 3 (03:49):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Okay, it's our dating segment and we talked to something
about our first date. They went on and then we
call the person they went on the date with and
get their perspective.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
In this scenario, that would be you. The reason being,
this girl thinks you might have ghosted on her. We're
just trying to figure out if she did something wrong.
I wonder if you have a second to talk to
us about your date with Monica.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Monica, Okay, what did she tell you?
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Well, she said that dinner was great. I don't know
how much you date. This is the girl you took
to dinner in Berlin, game and that things.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
I remember Monica?
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Okay, she said things were swell? Is that your take?
First of all, did you ghost?
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Did I ghost?
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Sorry? This is a lot, but we're just trying to
get her some answers.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Yeah, I'm leaning ghost.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Okay. Can you tell us why?
Speaker 3 (04:43):
She was very sweet? Don't get me wrong. Okay, And
it might have something to do with me, but it
also might have something to do with her as well.
So I mean there's there's gradients, right, Okay. Did she
tell you that she continuously picked up my food even
though she had her.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Own plate picked at your food, my food.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
She was like, oh, let me try your fries, like oh,
and like at first I could handle it. But I
grew up in a situation where I eat very slowly
and I've always had people just come and pick up
my food when they're done, and it just, I see,
irritates the heck out of me. It triggers me to
no end.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Hands I'm just gonna ask if your husband would just
bite your hand off. Jeff doesn't share food?
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Okay, okay, was sharing food, but I also want to
eat my food. You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Is that a ghostable offense there? I mean it seems
kind of minor.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
No, it was. But did she tell you that mid
date she face timed her sister to introduce me. Oh no,
on the first date.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
She left that out. That's a bit much. Okay. Yeah,
So I'd like to move on to the second part
of this call, Julian. I hate to ambush you, but
so Monica is listening right now. That's part of this.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Oh that's how you guys do it. Okay, thank you great?
Speaker 1 (06:10):
So Monica are you there?
Speaker 4 (06:12):
I sure am. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I almost can forgive grabbing a French fry, but facetiming
at the table, Monica, Yeah, what's that about? Seems aggressive?
Speaker 3 (06:24):
I mean, I.
Speaker 4 (06:25):
Don't know it I asked every single time, first of all,
about the fries, so you could say no. You didn't
say no. I thought it was fine. But second of all,
you were I mean, I thought we were having a
good time. You were asking me about my family, and
I was telling you about Olivia and how like we're
really close, you know, And then we were just talking
(06:47):
about her and I was telling you about her, and
you just seem really interested in me and my family,
and I facetimed her because I just thought that would
be fine. I don't see what's like that big of
a deal about it.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
If you weren't, she wasn't weird. It fine introduce people
from your family to your date immediately.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
First of all, I'm not like going on one zillion dates.
I don't know what you're doing. But second of all,
I don't think it's that strange if you meet somebody
from your date's life, Like, is that very odd?
Speaker 3 (07:19):
I think it's normal, Monica. It's a first date. There's rules.
You don't talk about politics, you don't talk about religion.
You don't introduce your sister.
Speaker 4 (07:29):
Oh, I'm sorry. If you need to read books about dating,
I'm not doing that. I'm just actually like connecting with people.
I don't have like a rules in my pocket or
something like that. Julian, Look, if you can't handle meeting
my family, it might be a situation where I like,
you're not ready for dating, and that's fine. The rules
is no, I'm going to introduce you to my family
on the first date.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
It's a boundary, Monica, a boundary. It's not about being
a website.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
This is getting aggressive. I'm want to call it, Yeah,
got a little it
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