Episode 50: Happy Couples Post Less on Social Media

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome to the Weedon podcast, starring husband and wife Mojo
from Mojo in the Morning and his better half Chelsea.
On this episode.

Speaker 2 (00:22):
On this episode of the weed Podcast, the results are in.
Does Chelsea fit in her wedding dress from thirty years ago?
He just got done trying it on. Will the results
be that this will be a happy podcast or a
not so happy podcast?

Speaker 3 (00:39):
We're gonna find out.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Well, all right, all right, all right, without further delay,
here are Mojo and Chelsea.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
We just celebrated our thirtieth anniversary of marriage, and you
just got done trying on your wedding dress from thirty
years ago, which, by the way, before we talk about
the results of this, why did we save your wedding dress?
Is that was that something that was more done back then?
Or do people do still do that?

Speaker 4 (01:16):
So I think everyone saves it and boxes it and
does whatever. But I so your mom took her wedding
dress and turned it into a christening gown, and each
one of you, each one of your siblings wore it,
and then all of the grandchildren, the last one to
where it was Luke, for their baptisms. And so I

(01:37):
always loved that idea, and I thought that that would
be an amazing thing to do with my gown. I thought, well,
if I ever had a daughter, if she wanted to
take part of it and wear it, like attached part
of it to either bouquet or you know her which
I've ever heard of herstal dress, yeah, just you know whatever,

(01:59):
you know, or even a dress up dress when we
had when our kids were little. But we never had
a girl, so I never I've just always had. I
never boxed it, I never preserved it. It's just in
a cedar closet in the basement.

Speaker 2 (02:14):
So and we saved it for such a long time
that the dress when you pulled it out to say,
had a little bit of a discoleration.

Speaker 4 (02:23):
Well it was so it was off white anyway, it
was not a white gown. Okay, it was off white,
but it turned a little bit yellow for sure.

Speaker 3 (02:32):
And it was really itchy when you put it on,
so itchy.

Speaker 4 (02:34):
I don't remember. I mean, I know I wore so.
It wasn't silk. It was called a shan tongue, which
is an itchier firmer silk.

Speaker 3 (02:45):
Remember that.

Speaker 4 (02:47):
I don't know because I can't remember what I did yesterday,
but I can tell you for sure. It was a
shantungue silk dress, so it was itchy. I'm sure I
wore a slip on underneath it, but when I was
trying it on, it was so uncomfortable and so itchy.

Speaker 2 (03:03):
Because back then, thirty years ago, there was there were
no skims, there were no spanks, spanks.

Speaker 4 (03:10):
No, no, I'm sure I wore, but there were slips.

Speaker 5 (03:13):
I mean, you know, nothing I.

Speaker 3 (03:15):
Wore like tightening and firm rooms.

Speaker 4 (03:17):
No no, no, no, no, no, no no, there was nothing
like that. I mean there were leotards, but that you're
not wearing that under your wedding gown at all. But
I'm sure I wore a slip for sure. You tried
it on and the results were pretty damn good. I
know that there was. The zipper didn't go completely to
the top, but it went pretty far up there.

Speaker 5 (03:39):
It didn't go above my rib cage.

Speaker 2 (03:41):
Which is actually not surprising, right because after you giving
birth to three kids.

Speaker 4 (03:47):
Well they say, yeah, your rib cage expands with every pregnancy,
so they say, so, who knows, So we'll just write
that off to that. But it fit around, yeah, fit
around my waist, fit around everywhere else. But how did
they make you feel not above my rib cage. You
know that My goal was to see why I could
fit back into it, so I at least got it
up zipped up to my roop cage.

Speaker 5 (04:08):
So there you go.

Speaker 3 (04:09):
God, you look so great in it too.

Speaker 5 (04:10):
Oh thank you?

Speaker 1 (04:12):
You do?

Speaker 3 (04:12):
Like first off, you look it's weird, you know because.

Speaker 4 (04:15):
Even though I've been so horribly sick, I look so
good on it.

Speaker 2 (04:17):
I know your voice. I love your voice. Like now
she's got the sexy sick voice.

Speaker 4 (04:22):
This is actually a lot better. I literally did not
have a voice, which I'm sure you loved. We couldn't
do it last week because I had no voice. Yeah, yeah,
literally no voice.

Speaker 3 (04:31):
But so you uh, we celebrate thirty years.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
And it's funny because I went back and I looked
at pictures and tried to see what I could post,
and I have the same pictures like we are in
this We're going to talk about, you know, social media
and taking pictures on this one and is it really
good for your relationship. But one of the things is
we have no pictures of ourselves from when we were younger,

(04:57):
and we really don't have a lot of pictures now,
even like our pictures now I know, are not as
vast as other people who are in relationships take pictures.

Speaker 5 (05:09):
No, we really don't take a lot of pictures of ourselves.

Speaker 2 (05:13):
But I was posting pictures of us and it was
so weird to see like a beardless, hairless me. Yeah,
and to see like how young you were and I
was even.

Speaker 4 (05:24):
Well probably in that one. I remember that first photo
you posted. We were in Chicago, so I was probably
eighteen in that picture.

Speaker 2 (05:34):
Wow, in anybody, you know, if you want to look
at me any of these pictures, like, if you want
to see them on social media there, I think we
don't has them on, right, we didn't we post I
think you are a.

Speaker 4 (05:44):
Huge promote in the morning, then added we don't to it. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (05:49):
It's so weird to think. You know, it's we talked
before about this, but you know, we got married thirty
years ago and you were an even of drinking age.

Speaker 4 (05:59):
No, it was, Yeah, I was twenty when we got married.
I just turned twenty a month earlier.

Speaker 3 (06:08):
Which is hard to believe.

Speaker 2 (06:11):
I brought it up on our show and we kind
of went through that as a topic of you know,
are people still getting married at this age? And there
was a few that called in, not as many as
you know, I would have even expected. I thought that
we would get a bunch of yeah, you know, we're
high school sweethearts and we're getting married. I've had a
lot of people that called up and said, we're getting

(06:33):
married now, but we've been together since we were nineteen
years old, right, and they were all in their late
twenties or mid twenties.

Speaker 5 (06:42):
Good.

Speaker 4 (06:42):
I think that, you know, I think that it is
even though you don't want to hear it and you
don't believe it and you think you can conquer it all.
I think that marriage is hard on its own, even
when you do eight and so to add you know, young,
marriage is can be very difficult and very hard.

Speaker 5 (07:02):
You know.

Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well, it's funny because I know there are some people
that don't want to get married that young because they
just don't feel like they're established enough. And I don't
think this has anything to do with how much you
establish yourself or even how much money you have. I
think it's living your life. Like I think there are
certain things that you just don't get an opportunity to

(07:25):
do again.

Speaker 4 (07:28):
Souse, They'll always be more money that you can earn
and more things that you can build and more things
that you can do. I think that you really have
to look at it and say, which is difficult when
you're in love and difficult when you think that you're
ready to get married, especially if you think you'll lose
this person if you don't get married to them.

Speaker 5 (07:46):
But I think that you need to really look and.

Speaker 4 (07:49):
Say, Okay, am I satisfied with who I am as
a person in the sense, and really have to be honest.
You know, have I done all the things that I
should do? And I think you know something that you
and I probably didn't do is have you had a

(08:09):
failed relationship? So you know like what that feels like,
and then you know what it is to work at
to have something to keep and to nurture and to
because you know, I look back and I think that's
super important, because I believe love is a choice that
you make sometimes every day and so and it took

(08:33):
me a long time to realize that, a long time,
A couple of kids later, and a long time to
realize for me that's what love is and it's not
you know, it's so much further than going further than your.

Speaker 5 (08:48):
I dos and your vows and your you know.

Speaker 4 (08:52):
Because people over half of people get divorced, you know,
And I just think that there's so much that goes
into it, and think.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
That there are some times regrets that you have that
you didn't get to do certain.

Speaker 4 (09:04):
Things, and there will always probably be regrets in every relationship.
But I think if you wait and if you live
your life a little bit and honestly, if you are
meant to be with that person, they'll be there.

Speaker 5 (09:18):
I firmly, firmly believe that.

Speaker 2 (09:21):
I'm starting to see this more with our friendships and
people that are our age that will talk to us.
I'm starting to see a lot of people that will
get married and they will get back together with a
person that they might have dated prior to the person
that they married. And I'm seeing a lot of that

(09:42):
happening where there were a lot of people that went out,
you know, started dating or got married, or the person
that they were dating at one point that they broke
up with, like in high school or.

Speaker 4 (09:55):
Well, there is definitely something to that. I think that
that's how a lot of affairs happened with high school
re unions or you're in your life currently and it's
messy and it's hard and then you go back and
you see someone and you're you know, it could have
been the person that you loved when you were younger,

(10:16):
and you think it was so simple. Back then, it
was so amazing and it was so easy.

Speaker 3 (10:23):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (10:23):
True, because you were younger and you didn't have life
complicating everything. And I think that when you add marriage, bills,
kids to the equation and it gets really messy and
not messy, it gets hard, and reality of that is hard.

(10:45):
And so the fantasy of being with that other person
is so alluring and this is oh my god, it
was just so amazing and easy back then.

Speaker 5 (10:55):
Yeah, because it was easy back then. You know.

Speaker 4 (10:59):
The reality, yeah, it is that when you add life
into that relationship, it may not be as good as
you thought it was. And listen, maybe maybe it is.

Speaker 2 (11:10):
But you know, it's funny. I was telling somebody that
we got married. You couldn't even drink at the reception,
even though I did. We did, Yeah, you had alcohol,
but also we got married we didn't even have a
credit card.

Speaker 3 (11:25):
I don't think if I remember correctly.

Speaker 4 (11:27):
The best part about you I love when you tell
stories about when we got get married, got when we
got married because you and when we Fir started out
because part of it is you're such a good exaggerator
right in life. You love to tell stories, and they
get more grandiose every time you tell a story. But

(11:48):
my favorite part is, and eventually he'll start telling the
story that when we got married, we had you know,
people were probably paying us to even survive because no.

Speaker 2 (12:00):
No, but we had we had two incomes. But you
were making an hourly wage. I was making very little
at the radio station. I was making like forty thousand
dollars a year or something like that. Yeah, it was
it was like that.

Speaker 5 (12:14):
It was bit more and it does that matter?

Speaker 2 (12:17):
But I also we did not have a credit card.
We did not have a credit card when we first
because we had to get.

Speaker 5 (12:22):
A credit for our honeymoon.

Speaker 2 (12:24):
Yeah, because we didn't have a credit card for the honeymoon.
And it was wild because now I look at.

Speaker 5 (12:30):
These couples, I did have a credit card. You did
not have a credit card.

Speaker 3 (12:33):
Yeah, I had. I had bad credit because of a J. C.

Speaker 2 (12:37):
Pennick's credit card charge seventy five dollars, seventy five dollars
charge I didn't pay. Yeah, it's crazy, it's wild to
think how far things have come, what we've built, the
kids that we have now, friends, the friendships, how many
friendships that we have still? You know, we got married
on October the fifteenth of nineteen ninety four, right yep.

(12:59):
And so did our friends Tim and Bath. Yeah, which
was so wild that they got married in the same
date that we did, and we all celebrate the same anniversary.
And they had a very similar kind of you know
situation too.

Speaker 4 (13:11):
They knew each other only a couple of months when
they got engaged. Yeah, yeah, I mean we at least
waited a couple of years. But they were your age, Yeah,
they both were. I mean, I think the whole thing
with us is I was so young.

Speaker 3 (13:24):
Yeah, and I'm four years younger than you, because people
all think.

Speaker 5 (13:27):
So you're four years older than me, or four years
older than yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (13:30):
So everybody thinks, I'm like.

Speaker 4 (13:32):
Because if that was the case, that you would have
been fifteen when yeah, yeah, or or I'm sorry, sixteen
when we got married.

Speaker 3 (13:39):
You like to make me out to be like, I'm
really older than you.

Speaker 5 (13:43):
No, not at all, but you just no, not at all.

Speaker 3 (13:46):
Which I am older than I just by four years.

Speaker 4 (13:49):
I think that looking back on it, I mean, I
don't regret the sense because we wouldn't have the kids
that we have, and I cannot imagine my life about
my boys that we have, but.

Speaker 2 (14:05):
We probably should have waited. Our sons hate when we
say that, actually show hates this podcast.

Speaker 4 (14:12):
It doesn't matter, But yeah, I just I, yeah, I
think that we should, you know, and if we were
meant to be, we would be together.

Speaker 2 (14:21):
I think a great script of a movie is to
see almost like an ins wonderful life, that classic movie.

Speaker 5 (14:27):
That I love so much that I've never watched.

Speaker 2 (14:30):
To see what it would be like if we didn't
get married. How many other lives we would have affected,
not just our three boys, but friendships that we've had
over the years. Yeah, because maybe we wouldn't have been together.
But I want to change this a little bit because
we talked about a topic that this was something we

(14:50):
were going through. Hey, what are we going to talk
about next on the podcast? And Chelsea and I for
our listeners that don't follow us, you know on our
personal social media, are not big social media people. I
have social media for work. We obviously have the We
Don't podcast, which you can tell we don't do a
lot with the We don't podcast Instagram page when you

(15:13):
have a Facebook page for it. But we're not big
on social media other than big events like anniversaries, birthdays
for the kids, stuff like that. And this topic came
up this past week in a survey that asked the
question people who are bigger social media posters couples who

(15:34):
are bigger social media posters how does their posting affect
their happiness and their relationship? And I honestly was completely
shocked by this. You were not shocked at all. But
it said that couples who post less on their social
media of each other, less of themselves and honestly of

(15:56):
individually too.

Speaker 3 (15:57):
It says.

Speaker 2 (15:59):
Have beer in their relationship than the couples who post more.

Speaker 5 (16:04):
And probably happier as a person.

Speaker 2 (16:07):
But it surprised me because I would think that if
couples are posting themselves or you know, or their their relationship,
they'd be happy. Why are they posting their relationship if
they're not happy? This survey has a couple of points,
but what are your thoughts on that line.

Speaker 4 (16:22):
I've always said that the people that try to portray
how perfect and happy they are, they are the most
miserable and unhappy people. Because they're just trying to portray
it for likes or whatever. It's just I think social
media is just horrible. I understand why we have it

(16:42):
for certain Actually I don't understand it because guess what,
we've survived without it before, and I think we were
much happier before. I think our mental health has gone
down because we compare ourselves to other people. We should
look a certain way, we should have certain things, and we.

Speaker 5 (16:59):
Should be that happy.

Speaker 4 (17:00):
And truthfully, it's so edited and it isn't true and
it ruins things. You know, everything from your wedding should
be a perfect way, your proposal should be a certain way,
your life should be a certain way.

Speaker 5 (17:18):
And it's not the truth.

Speaker 4 (17:20):
It's it's just it's all posed, it's all edited, it's
you know, it just it's sad to me.

Speaker 2 (17:29):
It really is, it really is. Here are some of
the points that this survey makes. It says couples who
frequently share their relationship on social media rely on it
as a source of.

Speaker 3 (17:40):
Validation, attention, and positive feedback.

Speaker 2 (17:43):
Happy couples recognize happiness comes from within, while couples that
are looking for reassuring or are looking for a self
reassurance typically are looking for that from people who in.

Speaker 3 (18:01):
Many cases they don't even know, yeah, they're strangers.

Speaker 2 (18:04):
Also talking about genuine joy and authenticity, majority of the
time when you're posting pictures, there really is not genuine
enjoy or authenticity in the pictures that you're posting, because
the genuine enjoy and authenticity comes in moments that you're
not actually capturing a million.

Speaker 4 (18:21):
Percent, Like unless you're having a photographer or go around
and you know, take your whole life in for you.
Then if you don't, then you have to be the
person who is stopping every single moment and making sure
that you're documenting every single moment. And to me, that's
got to be so exhausting for me personally.

Speaker 2 (18:41):
Have you ever had moments though, that you turned towards
social media because you were not feeling happy in.

Speaker 5 (18:46):
Your life looking at other people's things.

Speaker 2 (18:50):
No, have you, like when you would Do you ever
look back on stuff that you did post over the
years and times that you post it, because you and
I have had some pretty unhappy moments relationship, and I
think that the times that I posted the most, Like
when I go back and I get a memory that
will come up, I go, oh man, this is this
was a bad time, like there's there's sometimes like twenty

(19:11):
nineteen was not a good time for us, twenty eighteen
was not a great time for twenty seventeen.

Speaker 3 (19:16):
I don't think it was a really great time for us.

Speaker 5 (19:19):
Yeah, we had a few years, eight to eight years
that were good.

Speaker 2 (19:22):
And sometimes the memories come up, especially now that you know,
you get the year anniversaries of things, and I will
see those pictures pop up. And typically I'll see those
pictures pop up and I'm in him by myself, or
I'm in him with a complete stranger. I don't even
know who the hell the person is, and I post
the picture because at those moments, a lot of times

(19:43):
I was actually in good shape.

Speaker 3 (19:45):
Okay, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (19:47):
Okay, And I'll look at some of those moments and
I'll look back at that, and then I'll look at
the comments, or I'll look at the what the the
genual likes are, and there's not many of them. And
one of the things that this survey said is that
when you see that the engagement level is not where
you would want the engagement level to go, it compounds

(20:07):
the sadness that you have in your relationship, which is
unbelievable because I wonder if people see the genuine joy
that you have in your posts.

Speaker 4 (20:18):
See I think I think it can go a different
way though, too, because I think if you're in a
bad place and you're posting like thirst traps or what
you know, I'm just using throwing that out there. I
think that unfortunately, again, the mental health of our society
has gone really so people are just as much as

(20:41):
they're posting for fake likes and all of that, I
think other people are liking just to fulfill something as
well too, And so I think it's this catch twenty two.
I think it's this cycle that we're in just as
a society. And so I I would guess that if

(21:04):
you're out there posting pictures wanting attention, you're probably getting
it from someone, is my guess.

Speaker 5 (21:11):
I could be wrong. I don't know.

Speaker 3 (21:13):
I don't.

Speaker 2 (21:14):
I don't think so that people who are posting are
looking for it from someone, You think that they're actually
getting it from somebody.

Speaker 4 (21:21):
I think they're looking for it and I think they
are getting it. I think that's why they continue this
cycle because especially people who have a bigger following, you know,
there's going to be people and especially who people who
go through issues.

Speaker 5 (21:38):
Or changes.

Speaker 4 (21:40):
They used to look one way and now they look
a different way, and so they get this attention that.

Speaker 3 (21:47):
That was me.

Speaker 4 (21:47):
I mean, that was that's feeding the you know, the
whole that you have.

Speaker 5 (21:52):
And so.

Speaker 4 (21:55):
You know, I think it's and then you're looking outward
and stuff of inward, which is really hard because you
you should be looking more inward to change. I remember,
work on yourself.

Speaker 2 (22:10):
I remember back when I first started doing uh ideal
you or at the time, I think we called the
neutrom most because I think it was that that at
the time, and then it became ideal You. And I
lost like eighty pounds on ideal You. I remember so
many times because you and I were not in a
good place posting a picture in all I wanted was

(22:31):
you to be one of the people that liked it
or said something about it. Should I know, because well
one you didn't. You didn't never followed me on Facebook.

Speaker 4 (22:40):
I unfollowed and followed you on Facebook, which you know
for a reason.

Speaker 3 (22:45):
Yeah, you unfollowed me because of there's listeners that were
or there was a well you.

Speaker 4 (22:49):
Were accepting strangers on your personal Facebook and I just
thought it was so wrong.

Speaker 2 (22:54):
Yeah, yeah, but anyway, but also but in Instagram, I
would post it too, and I remember just want. All
I wanted was you to make a comment or I
love him or whatever it was.

Speaker 3 (23:05):
And I know, but I wanted you to see that picture.
I wanted you to say something.

Speaker 2 (23:11):
Because we weren't sleeping in the same room, we weren't
you know, active with each other, we weren't sexually active
with each other, so it was you.

Speaker 3 (23:19):
Know, it was a really bad time.

Speaker 5 (23:22):
Well, I mean, we go through those I know.

Speaker 3 (23:26):
One of the things though, that I do look at
this thing and say and agree with one hundred percent.
What is couples who.

Speaker 2 (23:35):
Are genuinely enjoy with each other and in love are
enjoying the moments and not worried about capturing the moments.
And I found that to be really interesting because I
think to some of the capturing parts that you and
I will have with each other, it's usually like, hey,
we should probably get a picture of this, and it's
well after we've had those moments with each other.

Speaker 4 (23:57):
Yeah, we're really bad at that, very very very very
very bad at that. And I don't feel yeah, I
definitely don't feel that I have to post anything or
I'm a big poster on my personal page about the
boys every other post, if not, every post is about

(24:21):
my kids.

Speaker 3 (24:22):
So on my phone with me.

Speaker 2 (24:23):
Otherwise I'd go back and I look because it really
it is true. It's either about your kids. Here's the
thing that's funny. It's either about when I say your kids,
my kids, it's about our kids, or it's you with.

Speaker 4 (24:37):
Friends yeah, or when you've done something big in your career.
I definitely have. I don't really post a lot about you.
I really have never and I really don't. I think
when we went through our bad time, I definitely pulled
away from posting about you. But with our big trip
with London, you know there were posts thanking.

Speaker 3 (25:00):
You for well we all shared a lot of it.

Speaker 5 (25:04):
Yeah, but there was definitely, but I don't. Yeah, I'm not.

Speaker 4 (25:08):
And then again, every time there's something big with you
with your career, and make sure I honor you with
a post to But it's almost like sometimes I just
feel like it's impersonal in a way, like only because
I feel that it's impersonal when it's done. So I think,

(25:33):
like for example, for our anniversary, and again, we never
do gifts. We never do anything for each other ever, right,
But I told you it was our thirty year anniversary,
and I thought I better get him a card because
I bet you one he's going to get me a card.

Speaker 5 (25:50):
And you came home from.

Speaker 4 (25:51):
Work and no card, which was totally fine, but it
was so funny because I was so stressed found about
making sure I got.

Speaker 5 (26:01):
You a card.

Speaker 4 (26:02):
And the card that I got you was actually a
sympathy card.

Speaker 5 (26:09):
It was not like I sat there.

Speaker 4 (26:12):
I was in the card section and I'm looking at
the cards and I'm thinking, none of these is our
relationship Number one, I need to write anniversary cards because
all of this is bullshit. Every you know, oh, I
can't imagine living without you, because yeah you can. If

(26:34):
you are a real married person, you imagine living without
that person many times. And so a lot of the cards,
I was just sitting there going, okay.

Speaker 5 (26:45):
Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit, bullshit.

Speaker 4 (26:48):
I would have to cross out so many things on
these cards so that it just would it makes sense.
So I thought, okay, I'm gonna look at the sympathy
cards just for fun. And it took me to cards
and I thought I found a perfect sympathy card and
I changed a couple of words, and I thought it

(27:08):
was perfect for us, you know, and listen, we don't
have to we we don't fit in every We're not
like the normal normal. I can speak normal relationship. We
are us and I love that about us.

Speaker 5 (27:24):
I love that. I love who we are, where we are,
and what we are.

Speaker 4 (27:31):
And it's not going to fit into a perfect Hallmark
card at all.

Speaker 5 (27:36):
It is the sympathy card, is what it is.

Speaker 3 (27:39):
It is funny, though that you say that we're just us.

Speaker 2 (27:43):
But I get so many people that will tell me
that the reason that they listen to this podcast and
they love you so much is that you do not
try to portray it like it's anything other than what
we are.

Speaker 3 (27:56):
And a lot of people to.

Speaker 5 (27:57):
Relate to it.

Speaker 4 (27:58):
Yeah, yeah, I think I because again society, you know,
to sit there and okay, we've been married for thirty years.
We have thirty years. How many years are happy out
of those thirty years? How many years did we struggle?
How many years?

Speaker 3 (28:15):
Oh, I think you're asking for a number of but how.

Speaker 4 (28:18):
Many years, honestly, how many mornings did we wake up
and look at each other? If we were even in
the same bed and said, I'm so happy I chose
you today because you want to.

Speaker 2 (28:26):
Know what, not a lot can I if I DOORI
to ask you Starbucks?

Speaker 4 (28:32):
Now, I know it's so sweet, but but but on
the realistic side of it, and I don't I think
it is really important, you know, and listen, this past
year it was very difficult being alone without Luke and
you know, on our second chapter and trying to do

(28:55):
so many new things, and I think it's just, you know,
a lot of it is just going through the motion
some days, and it's not this perfect happy love story
that a lot of TV shows portray that. It's just
that's just not our story. Our story is so I
think our story is different, but it is very similar

(29:17):
to a lot of people.

Speaker 2 (29:18):
So let's write your own card and I'll write my
own card for you.

Speaker 5 (29:22):
I already got you.

Speaker 2 (29:23):
I know, I know, but I know, but right right
what you would if you were going to put a
card in there for what you think?

Speaker 4 (29:29):
Let me just tell you why, I honestly can't think
of it. Number One, because I've taken a couple of
gummies for my nerve pain that I've been having, and
so my brain is not working completely well. So I
mean you probably is lying right now.

Speaker 3 (29:46):
I am. I love it.

Speaker 5 (29:48):
I am.

Speaker 2 (29:48):
I'm going to write my card for you. It would
be on the front, the front to the woman that
knows how to call out my bullshit each and f
every day, and then you would open the card up
and say, and that is why I love you, Because
the one thing that I will say about you're in

(30:13):
my relationship is the reason why I think that you
make me better is because you know when I'm full
of shit, and you know when I'm you know, kind
of like just trying to be nice and stuff like that.
I can't lie to you, like it's weird, Like I can't.

(30:34):
I can tell you, oh yeah you look good in that,
and you know when I'm fully full of shit with
stuff like that. But you also are great at telling me, hey, no,
that's not good, which is which is awesome. And I
think it's because we've known each other for so long.
But you started doing that right when we met.

Speaker 5 (30:52):
Well, I always, yeah, that's just me.

Speaker 2 (30:53):
I mean I met you, I introduced myself to you,
and you're like, who cares?

Speaker 5 (30:58):
Who cares? Yeah?

Speaker 4 (30:59):
I mean I didn't care, but yeah, I mean that's
just who I am sorry, well I want one of
those gummies. I'll give you sounder amazing