Enisa; Carmelia Ray; Wendy Wild; Dan Gilman; Dr. Yasmine Saad

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New York born Albanian singer songwriter.She joins me right here at iHeart Headquarters
in Midtown Manhattan. Now. Shespikes pop with raw soul and endless attitude.

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With over two hundred and six millionworldwide streams and more than four hundred
and fifty million total video views,she has proven to be a global favorite,
earning chart topping success in countries worldwide. She's had many popular releases,
from Get That Money to Just theKiss Wah to her latest release, Disco

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Cone. Today, she joins meto chat about pursuing a music career,
her latest hit, and life righthere in New York City. In our
Going Deep segment brought to you byCo two Lift, we're featuring celebrity matchmaker
and pr to the Stars Carmelia Ray. Today, she joins me to talk
about menopause, vaginal rejuvenation, andshe's gonna help me demestify the stigma's surrounding

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the one and only A Nissa.She's a New York born Albanian singer songwriter.
She spikes pop with ros sol andendless attitude. Let me tell you.
With over two hundred and six millionworldwide streams and more than four hundred
and fifty million total video views,she's proven to be a global favorite without

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a doubt, earning chart toping successin countries worldwide. She's had many popular
releases leading up to her latest DiscoCone. Now. Recently, she's been
named as the face of the MTAsthe Music under New York program. Today,
she joins me to chat about pursuinga career in music, her latest
Disco Cone hit, and what lifeis like right here in New York City.

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Welcoming now to the show is oneof our up and coming favorite artists
and Nissa welcome. Stunner. Oh, thank you, thank you for the
sweet introduction. It feels great tobe here. So before we dive into
your incredible career, let's take astep back and really think about the beginning.
Did you always know you wanted topursue this path in the music industry

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and where did your passion for musiccome from. Yeah, great question.
I've actually I've always had a passionfor music. I've just always been drawn
to singers and seeing them live performinglive. I remember when I was like
six years old, I take ourone of our VHS tapes with with a

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kids show or something on it,and then like re record Britney Spears while
she was live on TV and justwatched that back a million times. So
I always was super intrigued with singing, singers, music, and then since
I was a little kid, Ijust started doing all the plays and the
musicals. I was in a rockband in middle school where we'd perform in

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front of hundreds of people all overBrooklyn, and I was just always a
big stage girl, and I alwayswanted to sing. I didn't really know
that's like a legit job or anythinglike that. I just did it for
the passion, and my parents alwayssupported me. My mom was always like,
oh, you're so amazing, youcould sing. You keep singing here.

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Mom. Moms like, yes,she could still sing. She's still
right on it, she told me. But she was like, because you
could actually sing. She's like ifyou couldn't sing, then maybe I wouldn't
have been so like supportive about it. Now, you've clearly been working towards
your well deserved success for so manyyears, with your debut single Burned This
Bridge Man coming out, you know, back in twenty sixteen when you first

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debuted that, and now here youare almost a decade later with a whole
library of music and a long listof accomplishments. So you were born right
here in New York, specifically Brooklyn. Many call New York City the Land
of opportunity, and it's a hotspotwithout a doubt for networking and building relationships,

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and in the case of building amusic career, it's an epicenter for
recording studios and music creation. Nowdo you think growing up in New York
City has contributed to your success inthe music industry and how has it influenced
both your life and career. Iwas blessed, blessed from the rest when

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it came to being born and raisedin Brooklyn, New York. It's that
alone was just such an advantage ofbeing in the epicenter of everything new and
entertainment. It definitely gave me theupper hand. I don't know if I
was born and raised in like Kansas, or something like that that you know
it would be it'd be as easyfor me. Not that it's easy,

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it's hard wherever you are, butI don't think i'd maybe have as much
courage into just leaving everything and goinginto a brand new city and just trying
to build from the ground up.So yeah, New York really was a
big aid, and just living herewas a big aid. And when it
came to pursuing my music career,because it made me feel like I do

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I could walk out the door andsomething could happen because I'm in New York
City and you did. You didwalk out that door, and so,
oh yeah, incredible did happen righthere in New York City. Now let's
go. Let's get back to yourlatest release, disco cones So, released
just last month in February. It'salready a global sensation, having a big
TikTok moment. It has the earlysigns of what could be a massive hit,

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and I'm sure that's well where it'sheaded now. It's on fifteen viral
Spotify charts. Tell me more aboutwhat went into creating this song and where
did you find your inspiration for yourmusic? Inspiration for my music in general
really comes from everywhere. It justreally depends on what I'm feeling at the

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moment, and you know, everythingaround me would be what I want to
write about, my mood, myvibe for the day. But with disco
Cone is a really funny story.So one of my friends, this guy
named Wenzo, he had sent methis like sacks riff and this was actually
in December, and you know,everything was slowing down the whole like music

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industry shuts down around December and it'sthe holiday is Christmas and New Year's and
everything. But he sent me theriff and I was like, Wow,
this is really really great riff.He was like yeah. I was like,
I'm gonna make a song out ofthis, Like I you know,
so over Zoom with some of mycollaborators in London shout out Megan Katone and
Laurent, we wrote this incredible songand we just felt like dropping it,

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just dropping it. It took along time for us to really get perfect.
We recorded it at my home inBrooklyn and we did the whole thing
through Zoom, so it took quitea long time to get it right.
But yeah, when we got itright, me and Onza were like,
let's just drop this. It's justexciting. You gotta be ready, baby,

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you gotta be ready. Now,the music industry is very different today
than it was even just a decadeago. You know this better than anyone
else. You mentioned it and yousaid, oh my goodness, it's ten
years today. But for both independentartists and those signed to a label,
the digital world of social media hastruly, without a doubt, changed the
game. No one can dispute that. Now music artists can connect it directly

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with their fans, and it has, without a doubt, revolutionized the process
of music discovery. And that's whatwe're talking about. So one one video
can reach millions of people worldwide,just by chance if it pops up in
someone's TikTok for your page, right, So any video could change your life

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exactly. So I know that you'veconquered the world of social media with seven
million followers on TikTok, almost twomillion YouTube subscribers, and five point three
million followers on Instagram. Jesus Lord, how do you think social media?
I mean, I know how youknow social media has shaped your career,

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But how do you enjoy the abilityto connect directly with your fans online.
I mean, if it wasn't forsocial media, I don't think anyone would
know any of my songs. Iwas never kind of like one of those
artists that just you know, gotsigned and got millions of dollars thrown into
them with when it came to promotionand all this stuff. Like, it

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was always about me proving myself,and the Internet was my way to prove
myself and to have my voice heard. And I just I've always just been
a crazy social media person as in, like I love content, I love
making it, I love posting it. I love saying what reacts. It
helps me see where my fans areand how to how to connect with them.

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And yeah, I mean one ofmy first like songs that kind of
blew up for me is a songcalled love Cycle and it went crazy in
Africa and that was it gave mea number one in Nigeria. Was then
de Vito, who's the biggest Nigerianartist, hopped on the record and he
made it even better. And I'mjust just to say, like me a
girl sitting in my chair at homefrom Brooklyn where I recorded the song,

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have it to have it blow upin Africa and then have people know me
in this country that I've never beento. It's just the power of social
media. It's it's it's insane.Right now, you've clearly it comes such
a long way in your career already. But I think it's safe to say
that this is not the last timewe're gonna be hearing from you other than
a believing I mean, other thanobviously you're streaming Disco Cone. Do you

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have any exciting plans for twenty twentyfour? Have u? Or do you
have anything in the works that wehave to look forward to research about.
I mean, you're you're a womanof mystery. I know I don't.
We don't like to reveal too much. Love a little mystery, but I
will say I am recording my album. I just came back from Europe or

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I started recording my album and thenof course doing Disco Cone promo all throughout
Europe, which we will be continuedcontinue doing the next month. But yeah,
I'm recording an album, shooting musicvideos Disco called music Video coming soon.
We're shooting it next week. Alot of collaborations coming up with some

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amazing, incredible artists overseas. Yeah, it's just a NonStop happening. Baby,
it's happening. Yeah, yeah,hopefully festivals and a lot of performances
and yeah, keep going. Well, that was incredible. Thank you so
much for joining us. I hopeyou will come back again soon. Absolutely,
n anytime you want me, I'mhere. I'd like the sound of

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that. That was our Hydration withHeart segment brought to you by Once Upon
a Coconut. Be sure to checkout our singer, songwriter and Nissa on
the Gram at I Am and Nissa, and on TikTok of course and on
YouTube without a doubt, and besure to check out her latest hit,
Disco Cone. You definitely won't regretit. You're listening to a moment of

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What a fitting topic for you?Welcome to the show, Stunner.
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how do you feel about vaginal rejuvenationand non invasive procedures? Well, number
one, having any kind of invasiveprocedure for anybody is a scary idea.
Non invasive is music to my earsbecause we're not going under knife, scalpel,
general anesthesia, not going to thehospital. This is all this all
can be done at home. Infact, I did it this morning.

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I tagged you in an Instagram post. Right, So this comes mine,
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women they don't even look at it. They don't even want to look at
it right, And there's a lotof embarrassment and shame around what the vagina

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looks like, comparing it to othersand thinking that, you know, it's
not so nice looking. So Ithink that this is such an important tool
or treatment for women to build theirconfidence. I think all vaginas are beautiful,
the act of sex right can helpstrengthen your pelvic floor. So let's

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go back to the science, anda strengthened pelvic floor can also offer benefits
like less pain during sex and reducedanswers of vaginal prolapse, which we know
are major when you're hitting a certainage, especially menopausal women. Now,
women who continue to be sexually activeafter menopause are actually less likely to have
significant vaginal atrophy or the thinning ofvaginal walls what they call and vaginal atrophy

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effectiveness? Well. Number one,again to the non invasive part, it's
very easy to apply. This issomething that you can do in the privacy
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it's soothing, but there is awarmth. I immediately can feel the
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faster results. But as far asit's painless, it's pleasurable, it's it's
comforting, and it's it's it's notembarrassing because I'm doing it at home,
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The results speak for itself. Iwon't be sharing my photos, but I

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can tell you that I'm very pleasedwith the results and I will continue to
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to your point, it lifts,it hydrates, rejuvenh it does plump down
there, it helps type and liftit all. Basically, you know,

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it's the science carbon dioxide. It'svery simple and to your point you said
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Now, Crimelia, why do youthink there is shame and embarrassment in
the word sex and vagina? Youknow, to your point you mentioned you

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think all vaginas are beautiful. Ifyou ask the average woman, including my
clients and close friends, particularly womenwho are aging. I'm turning fifty two
this year. I am premenopausal.I haven't had the hot flashes, but
I can tell you the skin onyour face is the same as the skin
down there, and when you startto see white hair and not that firmness

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that you're used to, you becomeconscious of that. Why it's so taboo
is that a the generation of womenthat I came from and the fact that
I'm Filipino Canadian. There's also traditionsand cultures that are not comfortable talking about
sex. God forbid you talk aboutthat in certain cultures. So this is
something that is just a cultural no, no, a taboo. It's uncomfortable

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conversation. And no woman is goingto want to admit that they feel like
there their vagina is ugly, orthey've got you know, loose labia,
or whatever the case is. Nobodywants to talk about that. So there's
just an increased sensitivity in the inour vanity down there, and we don't
want to admit it. A lotof women don't want to admit that.

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You are so right, Carmelia,Thank you so much for coming on.
You're always so transparent and so easyto talk to. It's always a pleasure
having you. Always love being here. Thanks so much, guys. That
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She's one of my dearest friends.You definitely should head to her website
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a Moment of Zen Saturday nights fromnine to ten pm on seven ten WOR
the Voice of New York. Welcomeback, beautiful Tri State Area. You're
listening to a Moment of Zen righthere on seven ten wor the Voice of
New York iHeartRadio. I'm your hostZen. Sam's coming up next in our
Trailblazer segment brought to you by yourHome TV and our friends over at Kathy

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Ireland Worldwide. Today, we're featuringradio and DJ personality Wendy Wild currently heard
Midday's only right here on Iheart's veryown one oh three point five KTU the
Beat of New York. Wendy alsolends her voice to My ninety nine point
five in Salt Lake City and Kissone oh seven point nine in Sacramento.

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In addition, Wendy's What's Up withWendy segment airs weekends on the weekend Throwdown
with Jagger, which is a nationallysyndicated program with approximately thirty five affiliates and
counting. She provides various for forcommercials, promos, and programs such as
the weekend Top thirty Countdown Now.While not on the air or podcasting,

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Wendy loves honing her skills on theaerial silks and hammock. She's also an
avid portrait photographer. You can checkout her work on the gram Incredible Stuff.
Today she joins me to chat aboutlife as a radio DJ personality,
her passion for aerial silks and photography, awareness and advocacy to overcoming anxiety and

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finding a path to happiness. Welcomingnow to the show is the amazing Wendy
Wild. Welcome Stunner. Hi,what an intro? How do we even
top that? That is incredible?You are incredible. That's why the intro
was so amazing. Oh Zan,thank you for having me. This is
such a cool experience. Thank youwell, you are at the top of

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your game, my darling. Canyou tell us about your journey into the
world of radio and how you foundyour nichees a d Jane personality? Well,
you know what, I was alwayslike kind of a weird kid,
and I had this like I havea lot of hyper focuses, like when
I find a hobby that I trulylove, I go all in. So
I was a little kid and Ireally like I was, you know,

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with my little radio and I kindof knew, you know, just even
getting into college, not even comingout, that that was what I wanted
to do. So right out ofhigh school it was an internship and then
about two months later I was workingfor the radio station. So I was
simultaneously going to college and also workingat my local radio station and just kind
of worked my way up from there. Amazing. Now can you talk?

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Can you walk to walk us throughand talk to us about a typical day
in your life, from basically preparingfor your radio shows to preparing your hobbies
and your advocacy work. I knowthat you're involved in so much, Thank
you well day to days. Younever really know what you're going to get
because you're in this world too,right Zen, So every day. It
really depends on what the news cycleis. Now. For a radio show

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like mine, it's going to typicallybe something that's lighter hearted. We don't
really touch upon the hard news,you know. We try our best to
keep things local, so we're alwayskind of watching the local news sources to
see what's going on in our areas, trying to look for fun things that
our listeners might want to get involvedwith. So that's kind of how my
day starts, usually with coffee andI do my prep and and just kind

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of get things ready. And asyou mentioned before, I also I'm on
in Sacramento and Salt Lake City,so my local news branches out to those
cities as well, So I'm doingthat and prepping and and then we just
kind of talk. And it's reallycool to be able to check in with
listeners throughout their day and be acompanion, be a friend and do it

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together. Wow, you do alot, and you are so much for
so many people. And outside ofradio your I know that you're passionate about
your aerial silks and your hammock work. How do you How did you discover
this interest? You know, it'sfunny. I was a little kid and
I think I started gymnastics when Iwas three, so it was you know,

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I was a hypermobile kid. Ihad shoulders that would were very flexible,
and I think that was just theanswer for my family to put me
in gymnastics. So it's kind ofall I knew. But at that time
I did not know about circus arts. But when I discovered in the early
two thousands that you could fly froma trapeze or my nanacolls it climbing the
curtains, which is the aerial silks, I just I was like, wow,

(31:30):
this is this is it, thisis for me, And it really
translated quite nicely from gymnastics. Andwe won't say old I am, but
it's pretty cool that, like,at the age that I am now,
I feel like I am probably thebest at it that I have been,
if that makes sense. You aretotally incredible, dude. I watch you

(31:51):
on Instagram and I like this,goddess, well body this year. You're
really into all sorts of extreme sportstoo. Maybe we'll get you into a
class. Oh I'm so excited.Let's do it now. You and I
touched upon a couple of very hottopics that trend in mental health, whether
it's autism or anxiety disorder. Andwe talked about autism spectrum disorder, which

(32:14):
is a neurodevelopment disorder that affects theway a person thinks and communicates and interacts
with others. And this has beenat the forefront of a lot of conversations
in the creative community and with respectto autism spectrum disorder. You know,
we know what, We have alot of peers, We have a lot
of relationships within the community that areat the front lines of advocacy and awareness

(32:39):
and or combating. Now, whenwe talk about overcoming anxiety with you in
particular, what are some effective strategiesthat you recommend for individuals struggling with anxiety
to find their path to happiness.So that's such a good question. I
only recently learned that I am likelyneurodivergent. And what's really funny is if

(33:04):
you know, just only maybe tenfifteen years ago, you go to call
up a doctor and try to geta diagnosis, you know what they say
to you, They say, howold is your child? Right, there's
really not a lot of resources outthere for people our age, and we're
learning that there are all different typesof brains out there that learn very differently,
and you know, say if youare if you happen to be on

(33:25):
the autism spectrum, you know thatcan cause anxiety, just in the way
that the world is designed for peoplewho are neurotypical out there. So I
would say that knowledge is really everything. If you think that you might identify,
you know, maybe as having ADHDor you know, whatever it is,

(33:45):
learning as much as you can aboutit. Knowing that there's some things
that are actually superpowers. Like forme, I know that I will go
into hyper focus mode and I amable to get work done so fast at
a speed that is like really intense, you know, compared to some of
my peers. I'm able to learninformation. I may forget to go to
the bathroom or to drink water,but being aware of that kind of situation

(34:10):
it really helps. And I thinkit like it really does help you to
manage anxiety. By not pretending tobe something or not, I wouldn't agree.
I couldn't agree more. Whereas Iused to not be able to hear
like I used to not be ableto hear people very well, nothing wrong
with my ears, but if therewas other noises in the room, So
now we were actually to have asales meeting not long ago, and there

(34:32):
was like background noise and I said, excuse me. I'm like, would
you mind if we move this meetinglike down the hall. And I try
to make these these arrangements for myselfto make sure that I'm doing the best
for me and knowing that I won'tget overwhelmed or over stimulated. And it's
okay, and it's okay to tellpeople too, And being your own advocate

(34:52):
is really the best line of defensebecause when you talk about autism or anxiety,
I mean autism particular is referred toas a spectrum disorder because it encompasses
a wide range of symptoms and varyinglevels of impairment, and people with autism
can have diverse strengths and weaknesses andabilities. To your point, now,

(35:15):
when we talk about you know,anxiety, mindfulness practices, cognitive reconstructing,
and self compassion are of course keystrategies. Now, what strategies or coping
mechanisms do you find helpful? Ifind it helpful, like you said,
to advocate for yourself if you needsome sort of arrangement to make your work

(35:38):
or your daily life a little biteasier then speak up and ask for it.
I think people are really understanding,and it's so interesting how different traits
of anxiety and other related issues canpresent differently in different people. For instance,
like when what we're now learning aboutADHD is that you know, if
you're not a ten year old hyperactiveboy, it doesn't mean that you don't

(36:01):
have it. So we're learning somuch. I think also what's important is
making time for the things that youlove. And you know, especially with
ADHD, you tend to really begood at things that you love. So
if you make that time for it, you'll be motivated to get yourself through
the day. You're such a brightlight. Wendy. Oh my goodness,

(36:23):
I love speaking to you. Youare so transparent and easy to talk to,
and this was such an incredible interview. Now seeing you in the halls
of iHeartRadio headquarters in midtime Manhattan isgoing to make it so much more bearable
when we just have the workload aheadof us. But I've now found a
friend and you and a lot ofcommonalities. Thank you for being you,
Thank you for being you, andthanks for having me. Big shout out

(36:45):
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York iHeartRadio. I'm your host,Zen. Sam's up next in our Discover
Your Potential segment, brought to youby Bodyline. Today, we're joined by

(38:36):
a regular contributor, podcaster and author, Dan Gilman is joined by our dear
friend, doctor Yasmin Sad. She'san award winning, top rated New York
City psychologist and founder of Madison ParkPsychological Services, and she's a two time
international Best selling author known as theWise Psychologist, Doctor Sad is celebrated for

(38:58):
her inner message of approach. Thistransformative method helps individuals decode thoughts and emotions
to overcome negative patterns and unlock theirtrue potential. In addition to her clinical
practice, she's an internationally acclaimed speaker, often sharing the stage with icons like
Deepak Chopra, doctor Shefali, LessBrown, and many others. Her insights

(39:20):
have been featured in over one hundredmedia outlets, including ABC, CBS,
NBC, BBC, Fox, That'sjust to name a few. They joined
me today the chat about the teenmental health crisis, strategies to overcome mental
hurdles, and the importance of mentalhealth resources and support. Welcoming now to
the show are my dear friends,doctor Yad, Mean Dad and Dan Gilman.

(39:45):
Welcome, my friends, Welcome,Thank you, thank you so much
for having us. All right,let's jump right into it. You have
a laundry list of accomplishments, mydear, so, as an experienced psychologist,
you recognize early in your career theneed for a more expedient route to
healing. After noticing in many ofyour consultations some apprehensions about therapy concerns about

(40:09):
the time commitment, reluctance towards apassive therapeutic role, or even reluctance to
delve extensively into past histories, andto my understanding after reading up on this,
this apprehension can be very dangerous ifmillions of people in the US are
affected by mental illness each year,and looking specifically at our youth. According

(40:31):
to the CDC, over one infive youth at ages thirteen to eighteen,
either currently or at some point duringtheir life, have had a serious,
debilitating mental illness. Doctor sad inyour professional journey, what has been the
most challenging aspect of addressing teen mentalhealth and how have you navigated these challenges.

(40:52):
That's such a good question, Zen, Thank you so much so.
The most challenging piece with teen mentalhealth is really the lack of education from
the parents to the children. Teenagersand a lot of teens have a lot,
a lot of negative thoughts, andthey do not know how to handle

(41:13):
those negative thoughts. They either replacethem with positives, are being told think
positive thing positive, or they're beingtold don't pay attention to them. But
those thoughts keep coming, keep coming. I think the whole world is very
ill equipped to deal with negative thoughts. That is the main challenge, the
lack of knowledge around what to dowith those negative thoughts. Yeah, and

(41:37):
to add to this mental health crasis, today's teens, to your point,
could even be navigating and this isadditional stressors a digital world that older generations
never had. And while this technologyin the online world continues to evolve,
there are both benefits and repercussions.I say, as among and I know

(41:58):
Dan has a question pertaining to this, so I'm curious to hear your thoughts,
So take it away down. Yeah, I have a question. With
the rise of digital technology, whatimpact do you see it having on team
mental health? And what strategies doyou suggest for managing this impact. The
strategy is to educate them on theimpact it has for them. So I'll

(42:19):
give you a strategy that I usewith my daughter, which is I let
her watch social media content and Iinitially do not put limits because I know
a lot of people are let's putlimits. And then I point to her
her mood. I point to herher thinking. I point to her how
she's bored without it. I pointto her. You hear the team saying,

(42:40):
mom, I'm so bored. CanI be on screens? Let's see?
You see how you're so bored withoutit? You see how addicted.
So I teach her by showing herwhat is happening in her body, in
her mind, so that she makesthe lengths. Now, after that,
you do have to put some limitsbecause their brains are not developed and so

(43:02):
they cannot themselves regulate this, butat least they understand the concept. So
it's really important to bring awareness toour children about the impact of the screen,
of the content on the screen ontheir mental health, so that they
make the connection and they be motivatedto follow your guidance. These are great

(43:23):
pointers, and as a mom,I echo your sentiment. I love that
you're using the psychological approach here versusthe disciplinary approach. I think this is
very effective, especially with today's youth. Now, as the founder of Madison
Park Psychological Services, you and yourteam specialize in providing holistic care to a

(43:44):
very diverse clientele, and you integrateancient Eastern wisdom with modern Western therapeutic techniques.
And you've successfully guided countless adults andcouples and children for wellness and a
remarkable short time. So from yourexperience. Can you share a particular memorable

(44:05):
case where you help the teen overcomea significant mental health hurdle and what was
their turning point? Yeah, Ihave countless of example, but let's choose
one. Let's choose a teen who'shaving some anger problem. Because at the
teenager you're this is one of themost common problems. They have a lot
of emotion, they don't know howto regulate the emotion, and so they're

(44:29):
coming because they are angry and they'refrustrated, and parents do not know how
to handle this because usually it's heldby discipline. So the way we did
in my practice is by applying myinner message approach, which is every emotion
you have is here for a purpose, for a reason. So anger happens

(44:52):
always when you have unmat desires.We like you can see that in your
life. You might be angry atyour husband for not doing the dishes,
or you have a desire and they'renot being met. While our teens have
tons of desires are not being met, and there are tons of limitation to
their life. There's school, there'sno screen. We put a lot of

(45:14):
limitation, and depending on the teen, they will have more and more frustration
with that. So the first piecethat I implement is understanding what is the
frustration and understanding afterwards how is thatfrustrated related to who they are. There's
certain teens that love freedom, specificallyfreedom, So this is a teen that

(45:35):
you have to implement times of freedom, times of limitation. So you have
to build and give into the essenceof the person. Another team who came
with frustration. Their frustration is theiressence is a playful essence. So they're
frustrated because life is boring, it'shomework, it's duty is responsibility, and

(46:00):
they have a parent who's into dutyresponsibility. So it was about educating the
parents about who the essence of thatteen was and why the frustration was there,
what was that on med desire andbuilding the bridge, helping the parents.
How can the parents create more playfulnessfor that child and how can a

(46:21):
playful child adjust in a word ofresponsibility and making that bridge. And as
you can see, this can bedone within ten minutes. I can know
what's happening and within a session wecan really help someone. It's all about
decoding somebody's emotions, somebody thought,and educating the parents and the child with
strategies well, I mean, listen, you have it down to a science,

(46:45):
and I'm so glad teens have psychologistslike you to turn because focusing on
mental health and teens is extra importantsince fifty percent of all lifetime mental illness
does begin by the age of fourteen, so finding that support system and proper
treatment early on is critical critical.However, not every team knows how to

(47:06):
reach out for help. So Dan, I'm interested to hear your next question.
Yeah, for teens that might bewatching or listening to this interview,
who might be struggling in silence,what message would you like to convey to
them? So do not take yourthoughts at phase value. First second,
understand that every thought that you're havingis a coded message. It's like a

(47:29):
dream, so it has part ofreality, part of the way you operate,
and it's here to guide you.And I'm going to give them an
example because i want every tea outthere to really understand how to manage your
thoughts and the emotion, because that'sthe most important part. If you have
a thought you're not good enough,which is a very common that thought is

(47:52):
calling your attention as a team tosomething that you need to work on internally.
Which is your self esteem. Itdoesn't mean that you are not good
enough, but it does mean thatyour self esteem needs a boost. What
else do we know when you tellyourself you're not good enough, We know

(48:13):
that you're the type of team thatis kicking yourself in the butt, as
we have motivating yourself because we tellourself bad things to move forward. And
therefore what we know is that youwant to change your web motivating yourself.
So every negative thought you have showsus the journey in front of you.

(48:34):
But that's not just means that there'sa lend that where you have good self
esteem and a lend where you arewhere you don't have it, and you
have a desire towards it, andyou're motivating yourself through that negative thoughts to
get there. So really understand thatthat thought, I'm not good enough,
it's your mind who created a problemfor you to go solve it with a

(48:59):
kick in the butt approach. Soit's going to kick and you're going to
be in pain. So that wasa little example that I want every team
to know. Every thought is acoded message. Your job is just to
understand it and reach out if youneed help decoding yourself Wow, you put
it all into great perspective. Now, when we go back and we look

(49:22):
in recent years, many schools areworking towards prioritizing the mental health of their
students, especially after the COVID nineteenpandemic. A National Institute of Mental Health
supported study revealed that adolescents who livedthrough the COVID nineteen pandemic may be experiencing
more anxiety and depression and greater internalizingproblems. So our teens are in need

(49:45):
of support now more than ever nowin the context of team mental health,
How important do you believe community andschool support systems are and what improvements would
you like to see in these areaswhere a human being we need others.
So it's fundamental that we come togetheras a community around our school, around

(50:07):
our psychologists to help our teens.What I would like to see more in
school specifically is an education around managingnegative thoughts and emotion, because there's a
lot of education on bullying, onhow to stand up for oneself, on

(50:29):
reach out if you need help,but there's very little education on what to
do if you have a negative thoughts? What are negative thoughts? Why would
you be having them? I wanteducation I want people to understand that if
you perceive a criticism, you willstart having negative thoughts afterwards. If you

(50:49):
are in a fight with someone,your mind will create negative thoughts. I
want teams to be instructed on whatcreates negative thoughts so that they can be
equipped with the tools to then dealwith them. Which is when you have
received a criticism and you have negativethoughts, it's because you're debating and your
head if what they said was true. And therefore we need to build a

(51:13):
solid identity because when you have asolid identity, arm doesn't get in.
I love everything you said. Ican I can speak to you for hours,
Dan, Thank you so much forcoming on. It was a pleasure
having you on again. Thank youvery much, and thank you so much
for your question for this episode.It's very well needed. So thank you.

(51:34):
You are so welcome. You arevery well needed. Now was there
Discover your Potential segment sponsored by Bodyline. That was the incredible doctor Yasmin Sad.
She's an award winning top three inthe New York City psychologist, founder
of Madison Park Psychological Services, andshe's a two time international best selling author.
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(51:55):
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