July 16, 2025 • 47 mins
Welcome back! In this episode KT and Kayla give producer Jordyn tips on being newly single. They also talk about dating in LA, and KT getting unmatched on a dating app after a first date! Enjoy!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Petty Is Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Welcome back to petty Ish. I'm Kayla.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
I'm Kayla, and I'm Jordan.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
What's up, y'all?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Yeah, it's time to be petty this week.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
You better have I guess if this is if you
want to call this petty y'all. My house has been
infested with bugs. Oh, no, infested, and I you know,
I'm trying to be a plant mom now. So I
think I'm trying to like, you know, get the hang
of having plants. I bought, I went overboard. I bought
like ten plants. I have some outside on my balcony.
I have like three inside. Like I just was like
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healing like plans like did too much. And I've been
taking them inside outside, inside, outside, and so when I
bring an inside plant outside and then bring it back inside,
the bugs coming, like just.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Not thinking right right.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
Also, one speci plant that I have attracts a lot
of gnats, So I've been dealing with gnats, flies, like
little beetles like all this stuff like and it was
it got to the point also where I think a
fly got into my house and they laid like they
laid eggs. Because over the past like four days and
(01:20):
I know, everybody's like coming to my house tonight, but
like my house is good now. Over the past four days,
there had been about like twenty flies in my house
and I kid you not, not like I promise you,
was like twenty. And I have been living like this,
just like angry, just literally and so finally I got
some raid. I don't know why it took me this long.
(01:40):
First of all, got rid of all the plants. We'll
put them outside, all of them. Just I'm done, and
got raid. And all the flies are like by my
balcony door, and I just went spray spray spray spray
spray and just watched them fall and just like sat
there and watched them suffer as they died.
Speaker 5 (01:59):
I totally get that there's this whole TikTok trying about
this person who catches slides and then tortures them and
they have a like a really large following. And initially
when I saw the videos, I felt really bad, like, wow,
that's really mean to like put a fly into like
I don't know, a needle, like squeeze it until it
like splushes, and they always cut it off before they
kill the fly.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
I'm like, that's so fucked up.
Speaker 5 (02:17):
And then I encountered a fly and it was like
landing on food and like you, I'm like, you know
what you deserve this.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
You touched us all day and tomorrow.
Speaker 5 (02:25):
I actually followed that TikTok peach and I'm not mad
at you rating them and watching them fall.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Oh they're the worst.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Literally, it was so so, so bad. So I literally
sat there for about ten minutes as soon as one
was fly. But I'm telling you're so many in my house.
As soon as one wildly by spray watch it and
like sit there. It's like thirty minutes doing this.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
It's not evil, it's actually doing the world a service.
Thank you for your service.
Speaker 6 (02:47):
Actually, you're welcome at a time.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
So I was coming home one day.
Speaker 5 (02:54):
I live right next door to a Ralph, which is
a grocery store out here, So I walked to you
get groceries. My neighbor likes saw me coming and you
know I live in that building because we've seen each
other multiple times. And you kind of didn't hold the door. Mind,
you have like bags in my hand. You gotta fob
into the building. It's a lot, not that much first
of all problems, but the neighbor didn't hold the door
for me. He let it just close. That's all right,
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bet say less. Fast forward. We're both in the garage
together and there's one elevator in my entire building, and
he was coming to the elevator. I made sure to
press that door close button. And you have to wait
for the next elean.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
Okay, I do you like you do me?
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Okay? All right? And that was my petty.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Thing period period. Did petter things our listeners have done
this week? My boyfriend has been so fed up with
me talking about Love Island every other day. He thought
it would be He thought it would be funny to
unplug all the TVs in the house and hide the
cords ten minutes before a new episode came out.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Oh that's messed up.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
We don't play about Love Island.
Speaker 5 (03:51):
That's mess I mean, I do feel like Love Island
is taking over and maybe some people need the intervention
where it's like, you know what, breathe breathe.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Maybe that I think that might be me. Are you
talking to me? Because that's no.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Actually, I have a lot of friends.
Speaker 5 (04:02):
I cannot guess. I mean you might be included. My
sister is very much as well. And it's taken over
the world.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
This really has.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
There's no need for an intervention.
Speaker 6 (04:11):
Give us our thirty five days of distraction and need
and like then well it's another year off.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
I think that, Like I don't think it's a problem.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
I don't think so either. And I also feel like
it has united the country in a way that a
TV show has never done before ever.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I don't know about the united part, but I will
say it has brought it together.
Speaker 5 (04:34):
No, it has taken over. I think this is going
to be history. Like Jersey Show when it came out,
made reality TV history. I think that this show is
definitely history. It made me divided from a lot of
people because fuck y'all voting that way forward. I can't
even talk to you like I can't.
Speaker 6 (04:49):
Yeah, I think letting America vote a little too many times.
There needs to be a boundary next season because I
feel like we're idiots and we cannot as a collective
make a good decision.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Though I think production needs to make.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
I've been on a blocking spray of anyone who has
anything negative to say about Shelley, and it's from Love Island.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I don't play about my.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Own Kelly, did you write that one?
Speaker 5 (05:12):
I might have, like I did go on a blocking spray,
But I do think that that show rage bated us
by sending them home.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
They were the longest connection.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
They were one of the truths, like everybody else is
new and kind of just had your choices and fell
into each other.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Is this love island or is this?
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Who?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Who the fuck? Is our favorite island? Yeah? And on time?
So yeah, I'm blocking all bitches.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
I agree to say they were the longest connection. But
people just don't like Ace.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
No, I mean you know, I mean attribute everything racism.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
By y'all, bye bye.
Speaker 6 (05:43):
The only reason why I watched this season, I don't know.
I feel like he was one of my favorites for sure.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
I think he just triggered me, to be honest.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Yeah, I had an Ace in my life because he's
an LA boy.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
That's probably why.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Yeah, he's a cutie Plato friends.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
No, how is y'all's week?
Speaker 5 (06:01):
So I didn't really get to get into this last week,
but I wanted to share. I got flud out. It
was so nice because.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
As we know, well maybe we don't know.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
My boyfriend lives in Arizona, so we don't live in
the same state.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
It's kind of a long distance relationship.
Speaker 5 (06:15):
One stayed over a thirty forty five minutes wipe, but
he flew to me out and then when I landed,
he had like steak and shrimp and potatoes and bread
and wine waiting for me, and we listened to music
and I got to play with his big dog, Rocky.
And I just feel like this is the first time
I'm getting the absolute utmost princess treatment. I don't get
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called anything but honey or sweetheart barely, says Kayla.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I just am in such a happy chapter in my
life right now.
Speaker 5 (06:44):
Like I don't know what I did to stumble upon
this freaking king in Vegas that just wouldn't leave me alone.
Although I told him a lot of times too, I'm happy.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
That he didn't. And I'm just in a I'm just
really grateful for Mey and Mamy and Mama.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
Oh, I'm excited for you. It's nice to see you
so excited about somebody again. Yeah, like again, it's nice
that you get to be treated the way that you
deserve because for so long you've been talking about this
is like the type of man that I want. This
is the caliber of men that I want to date,
and you actually have somebody that has money, like so
you don't have that, you don't there's no split, no bill,
you know what I mean? Like you, he literally takes
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care of you. And that's the type of woman that
you are. You want like you want to be taken
care of. You deserve to be taken care of.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
And he knows that for you. A fifty type of woman.
I never wanted to be a fifty fifty type of woman.
I love it.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
Like he'll be in mid business conversation. I'll pull up
somewhere that has to pay. He'll like, honey, honey, how much?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
How much?
Speaker 5 (07:34):
Any honey, here's my card. I have his credit card
in my text messages. He's like by this order that.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
I'm like, oh my god, am I am?
Speaker 2 (07:41):
I life? And he's hot, he's so key's cute, right, he's.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
A good looking me.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Yeah, he's a good look good thank you. Yeah, he's cue.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
He could pick you up.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Huh can he pick you up? Well, he's a shorter man. No,
I don't make it.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Are you shorter than him?
Speaker 2 (07:54):
I can't wear hills. I don't think that's okay.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
We love our short king yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
He's a short king. He's a short king, but they
don't matter. I'm happy. Yeah. Amen? Amen? How about you?
How is your week?
Speaker 3 (08:05):
Oh? My week was good.
Speaker 6 (08:07):
It was an emotional roller coaster up and down recently single.
They don't got to get into it, but I'm feeling
it's good.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
I'm feeling good.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
You know, I broke I broke contact way.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
You were no contact. You broke you broke the no contact.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Yes, did you get the closure that you needed? Not yet?
Did you regret retched out though?
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Do you regret it.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
In a way?
Speaker 6 (08:33):
Yeah, because it's not It wasn't the response that I wanted,
you know how you'd be like thinking, you have these
like stories. So I think I just need to chill,
give myself maybe another three weeks.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Yeah, just one.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (08:47):
I always tell myself I'd rather have the answer than
live in the what if I would have. So I'm
gonna reach out. I'm a no like if I want
to know, I'm gonna know. Oh shit, you played me
all right now, I know you know. So I'm not
mad at you for breaking no contact. You got your
ans is. Now you're going to give yourself piece for
three weeks or so?
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Yeah, be gracious on yourself, be careful, like not be careful,
but just be kind to yourself. Because you were in
a relationship for almost four years, so now it's like
a whole new world not talking to this person after
four years. So don't feel bad or feel guilty that
you reached out, Like this is somebody that was so
near and dear to you, and I mean it's his
loss if he's not reciprocating that same kind of like
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energy back, you know.
Speaker 6 (09:25):
Yeah, it's a weird feeling for sure. But I've been
going outside so that okay. It's been a lit weekend,
so it's good.
Speaker 5 (09:35):
Do you feel like you kind of have to learn
how to be single or do you feel like it
kind of happened actually, because I have been single for
a really long time and I'm having to learn how
to be a girlfriend again, Like, oh I know.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
How to be a girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Yeah, I've been in like.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
A relationship my other two for like six.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Years, So being single is like a transition for.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
You, Like high school was the only time I was
single for real.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
Wow, What do you.
Speaker 5 (09:59):
Think is like the biggest adjustment that you have to
make mentally or if there was one.
Speaker 6 (10:03):
The want and need to just talk to somebody. Yeah
that's killing me. Yeah, I go, I think putting my
phone away. I do need to start putting my phone
and do not disturb And used to have social media
because my fo you paid, my algorithm has changed.
Speaker 5 (10:19):
So fast they know everything.
Speaker 6 (10:23):
They went from like these lovey dovey memes to oh
my god, I'm gonna start dating or what do I do?
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Or I broke contact.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
So I'm like, Okay, I don't feel alone.
Speaker 6 (10:31):
Yeah, I don't feel alone, but like also like whoa,
you guys know a little too much of my page.
So it's a crazy transition for sure, but I'm excited.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
If there's any advice that I can give is to
dive into things that you love to do, like immediately.
I obviously give your time, yourself time to reflect and
you know, process things and let yourself feel it instead
of just trying to keep yourself busy all the time,
but also like what do you like to do? Like
immediately I got into pilates and I got into dance
class that filled me so much. So you just have
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to find those things where you can go and that
you can do with your girlfriends and that will fulfill you.
So that will take your mind off of not being
able to text him, you know, or find somebody else
to text, you know, JATGBT or like you're a friend,
a close friend when you want to when you want
to text him, like text that one friend. So I
like an accountability partner. But you'll get through it.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Thanks, guys, I love you.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
I love you, And girlfriend's are kie Kayla. I agree
with that.
Speaker 7 (11:28):
Man.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
Kayla was there when I was on the floor. I
will never forget that. I was never forget that I
was on this floor. It was a February and I
was on the floor after I had just found out
like the worst thing ever about my relationship, and she
just held me on the floor.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
It was so heartbreaking. It was so heartbreaking.
Speaker 5 (11:46):
I'd never seen it like that because I think we
were kind of newer friends at that point. I mean
I still don't think I've seen you like that sense
like that was. That was a rough fucking time, bro. Yeah,
I still hate that fellow t this day, like, yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Let me become a man for five minutes.
Speaker 4 (11:59):
I whip his But all that to say is like,
you need some You need a Kayla. You need somebody
that you can literally cry to you don't have to
hold back any of your emotions too, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
So we got you.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
We can cry tonight. I have over Love Island in
some cocktail.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Anyway, how was your week?
Speaker 4 (12:20):
Kyla? Already okay? Because my life is never boring, all right?
So I want your thoughts about all of this, guys.
So Caylen knows a little bit about it. So I
went on a date, a first date, and uh, the
thing that I kind of liked about him as well
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is like we met on Facebook dating and we hadn't
even really talked really before we went on this date.
I want to say. It was like a total of
like six messages and he already was like do you
want to go on a hike on Friday? And I
was like okay, And I asked Kayla, I was like,
it is a hike weird for first date? She was
like cool outdoor vibes, like exercise. So my other friends
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were like, that's weird. He doesn't want to spend money
on you. He could kill you in the woods, like
all these I got so many mixed emotions, but those
people in.
Speaker 5 (13:10):
La no, and real quick question, did you guys talk
on the phone at all or it was just text
message back and from.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
It was one not one phone call, and it was
all on that app. So it was kind of little
of it, Like I didn't even get to know him first,
only what I knew based off of his profile. Right,
so what I knew based off his profile. He's thirty
years old. He is a sapio sexual, and I had
to ask Kayla what the fuck that is?
Speaker 5 (13:33):
Kayla, He's attracted to smart he's attracted to intelligence, and it.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Was like, oh, he likes boys.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Nope.
Speaker 4 (13:42):
I was like, if it's not head, then it must
be something else. But and so he was a safio sexual, minimalist,
frugal vegana in the bile.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
Oh shit, yes he said. He said.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
I'm a frugal minimalist and anywhere I'm eating is vegan.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Oh, he's an outdoor man.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
But I was so encaptuated by how he looked and
how cute he was.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I was like, he can't be that bad.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
Like I'm cheap too, I'd be spirit airlines like I'm frugal, Right.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
No you're not, you're not.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
So I was like, I want to go on this date.
Like he seems cool, Let's see where it goes right.
So we met up on Friday, and immediately I was
like taking it back because he's just so cute, Like
he's just very very handsome, tall, I want to say,
about like six foot three and just super cute too.
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He was thirty six years old and the being thirty
six years old even though his profiles at thirty and
I asked him, he was like, it says thirty and
he and I was like, yeah, it says thirty and
he was like, I guess because it's connected to your Facebook.
And he lied on his Facebook about his age back
when he started his Facebook back in like two thousand
and seven.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
That's understandable. Don't want Facebook in your business too much.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
Right, So yeah, so I guess, So I guess. So
everything was fine at first, like we were, you know, hiking,
and it was a good conversation, just getting to know
each other, what we like, what we don't like. Things
that I learned about him, like I asked him to
elaborate on the frugal and like the vegan stuff, and
basically he was telling me, like, you know, even though
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he has the means to do things, he's not going
to buy a BMW or a Bentley just because he
has that money and he wants to put that money
towards something that's valuable. He's an actor, and I was like, okay, well,
I have a lot of actor friends, but the majority
of them have to also have a nine to five
because at this day and age, Hollywood is not what
it is. You cannot sustain yourself unless you're like freaking
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dameson Idris right. And he said no, I actually am
well off enough to be able to live on my own,
support myself and only act and support my mom. And
I was like wow. Later I looked him up on IMDb.
He only got three credits the.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Math Amath, so I was confused, But any.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
Girl, I don't know. Other things that I learned about
him is he is high functioning autistic. Been there, and
I mean, I feel like half the world is autistic.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
I diagnosed he's.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
High functioning autistic. So he told me that, and this
all relates to the story. He tells me that he
doesn't really pick up on social cues well, and he
has to grind extra hard when it comes to dating
and being an actor because he has to overcompensate for
what he can't process in his brain. Things like he's
also dyslessic or OCD like, and I was like, honestly,
I'm probably high functioning autistic. Well, I told him I
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have lupus, so I know what it's like to live
with a disability. So we kind of bonded it on
that his mom also has lupus, so we were really
connecting on that. When he when it comes to the
vegan situation, I had asked him. I was like, so,
you know, are you would you be willing to go
to a restaurant like Olive Garden is my favorite restaurant,
or a restaurant that has vegan a vegan option or
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menu And he was like, well, I'm the one inviting
you to eat with me, so I think it's only
right that I choose the restaurant. If I'm paying and
I'm inviting you to have a meal with me, then
we're gonna eat where I want to eat. And I
was like, oh okay, And I was like, well, I
don't really agree. We could adreaally disagree. I feel like
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there should be some type of compromise, like what if
your significant other doesn't like vegan food and she's like well,
he was like, well, then we could eat, we could
cook at home. And I was like, of me, I'm
a big foodie. I eat out with my friends at
least once or twice a week, Like that is kind
of like my love language. I love to eat out,
you know, like you wouldn't go to Olive Garden with
me and eat like some you know, gluten freeze something
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on something. He was like, no, I only eat at
vegan restaurant. So there was no compromise there. So that
kind of threw me off. And other little things that
he would say just kind of like gave me a
red flag. Another red flag was that he said he
just got out of relationship last week. So when he
said last week, I literally was like uh oh oh,
and that was my initial respont so and he was like, oh,
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is that a deal breaker for you? And I was like, well,
I mean like there's a lot of unresolved feelings there.
I mean a week is not enough time for you
or her to process what happened. She might still have
some unresolved feelings that she want to keep reaching out
to you, and you're already on a date with me,
Like I've been a rebound before. I would prefer not
to you know, do that again, and then he explained
the situation about how you know, well, it was only
a three month relationship technically, like we've been on the
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rocks for two months and I we've officially officially ended
it last week. But that's why I'm in the space
to be able to date again, because I really the
feelings aren't there anymore. So I understood that. But so
other than that, like the date was okay, Like it
was getting hot, and you guys know I have lupus,
so I can't be the sun that long. And I
guess maybe I was rushing the date because I was
tired at the point that point, We've been hiking for
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two and a half hours. That's a long time, right,
and so I'm like, all right, let's find this, let's
go to our cars. Like I was just tired, you know,
and like the sun depletes me, right, And so when
it was time to go, I gave him. I was like,
thank you so much. This was a lot of fun.
Gave him a side hug, and then it was time
to go and that was it. And I was like,
that was okay. And I called Kayla and I was like,
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you know, there's a lot of things that I don't
know if I could deal with a lot of his
mindset on certain things. He's a very nice guy, but
like the vegan thing, like it's it's not even really
about him not willing to compromise on food. What else
aren't you willing to compromise on? It just seemed like
it was all about him in like his way or
no way, and his lifestyle is the only way, like
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you know. So I was like, but it's okay, I'll
get maybe give it one more chance. So the next
day I wake up and he unmatched me. He completely
unmatched me.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
That's not cool at all.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
And I was like what, Like there was no conversation, nothing,
he didn't say hey, I Like, this isn't gonna work out.
And automatically I'm in my head, I'm like, dang, what
did I do? Like did I say something? Or was
I not his type? Physically? Like what happened?
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Right?
Speaker 4 (19:53):
And I called Kayla, I called I called all my friends,
really my cousin Lucy, and I was like what, like
what is this? And I was like I want to
I want to know. I have his number. I want
to ask. So I texted him and I was like, hey,
I saw that you unmatched me. I wanted to know
what how you thought yesterday went from your perspective.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
I love East Coasters man shooters.
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Yeah, what you're not about to do as a void,
Like we just spent two and a half hours together
and I sacrificed my livelihood and my health with my
loopus and I'm in the heat with you for.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Twenty a half hours. Unmatched me. Boy answers, now, thank you.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
I was like, you know, I feel like a conversation
could be had, and just leaving it off with no
conversation is kind of meaning you don't seem like a
mean guy. And uh, he responded with I think you're
a very attractive woman, and I was very interested, but
it didn't seem like we hit it off. It seemed
by the end of the day you were on the
fence about me or or saw me as more of
a friend. For example the vegan situation when I mentioned, like,
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you know the differences or where I would choose to eat.
Your response to that, he said, also your innate response
to me saying that I just got out of relationship.
And then he said, also, it seems like you were
rushing the date because I offered us to sit in
this shade and see that you just wanted to go,
and then at the end you gave me a side hug.
And I always feel like a side hug is always
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coming from somebody who wants to be just friends.
Speaker 5 (21:15):
But y'all just met, Yeah, and I think all of
those things could have been a conversation. But it was
things that honestly, before he responded to the text message,
all the things that you pointed out before he even
said them. So I think that you guys are pretty
much on the same page, but him just unmatching without
communicating those things were a little bit alarming because you
(21:36):
wouldn't do that to him, right, because you did have
those same concerns, which you're all right, let's see one
more time. Yeah, first time it could always be awkward.
Let's see how the second date goes, if there's any flexibility.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
But I do I do not like.
Speaker 5 (21:46):
The fact that he didn't seem willing to compromise on
restaurant choices and didn't understand why somebody would be taking
it back if you just got out of a relationship
a week ago.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
But that could be the high functioning whatever relationship.
Speaker 5 (22:00):
Sorry about compromise, like you're always going to have to
sacrifice something, whether it's time with yourself or would the
restaurant you like to eat that because you got to
consider a whole other person. And doesn't seem like he
was willing to do that. No, So how did you
respond to his message?
Speaker 4 (22:12):
And I was like, I understand, but this could have
been I literally said, I was like, all these things
you could have asked me, like, this could have been
a conversation. I was like, I just think unmatching me
like that is. I was like, I would never do
that to someone, you know, like you were just going
to go ghost And I was like but and I
wasn't going to go back and forth and explain because
at that point I didn't truly didn't care. And I
was like, but it's all good, Like a lot of
(22:35):
this was a misunderstanding, but you know, things for clarifying.
And he responded back and he was like, well didn't
I at didn't I Every time we came up with
a conversation or a topic, I asked you if this
was a deal breaker, that was me having a conversation
about these things, Like I asked you, was this a
deal breaker?
Speaker 3 (22:52):
And I was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 4 (22:53):
And so at that point I said one more thing
and he never responded, and that was it.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
If I didn't say yes, it's a deal breaker, then well,
and that's the thing. I'm like, that's stupid.
Speaker 5 (23:02):
If you ask me in those moments and you're checking
in and I said no, it's not a deal breaker,
then maybe more communication is needed.
Speaker 4 (23:08):
Like I just exactly the thing about like the you know,
him being in a relationship last week, after he explained
that it was only a three month relationship and it
wasn't really that serious. I said, no, that's not a
deal breaker. The vegan thing, I said, well, can agree
to disagree. The side hug thing one like I bear,
I don't know you. I'm awkward when it comes to
physical attention affection when it's somebody I don't know. I'm
(23:29):
not gonna what do you want me to do? Make
out with you? Like I didn't finish the two and
have our exactly I had said. I had just said
I'm sweaty, you know what I mean, Like what are
we saying? And then so I don't know overall, like
it was just it was another learning opportunity for me,
But I think I would have communicated with the person
more before going on. This was like a waste of
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my time, Like a complete waste of my time.
Speaker 5 (23:52):
Someone who's a sapio sexual. It doesn't seem that smart himself.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
Thinking that was like a tactic that he, I guess does.
Speaker 6 (23:59):
Maybe that's the thing he does, he does the online
dating in real life, so he kind of gets to
the point. Well that's actually sorry, no, well like getting
to the point asking all these questions in real life.
He's probably trying to figure out how to communicate that
because you can't. You can't say is it a deal
breaker to someone when you're having a conversation with them
every time?
Speaker 2 (24:19):
That's true, that's not organic at all. Yeah, the green.
Speaker 5 (24:22):
Flags I feel because doctor Wendy always says like you
don't want to have too much conversation on the phone
or via text message, like you want to have one
phone conversation and then see how the vibe goes with
the phone conversation. But right after that, it's me in person,
like we're not about to be pen pals. I'm not
here to get another texting body. I got plenty of friends.
Let's just see how we romantically. You know, vibe or mesh,
and I do think he took those steps, which I
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really do appreciate, like I'm not about to waste your
time or mind.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Let's see how we flow. But he's very quick, it
seems like.
Speaker 4 (24:49):
Yeah, make And it also seemed like he wanted to
end it before I did, because everything he said was
things that he thought that I thought, you know what
I mean, Like he read into a lot of the things,
a lot of my reactions, a lot of things that
I said, and he probably went home and was like, Okay,
this girl does not like me. She didn't give me
a hug, she didn't agree with all this, this, this
and this let me unmatch her, because it's not like
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you know what I mean. But like he just, yeah,
he had no idea that I would be willing to
do one more date tried off because I thought he
was very attractive and he was funny and I enjoyed
our time. But there were some you know, red flags,
but like I wasn't gonna write it off just off
of based off of that, you know.
Speaker 5 (25:26):
So so my question, do you think that we should
start moving like that in a way to protect our peace?
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Like cause low key it was fucked up.
Speaker 5 (25:34):
But at the end of the day, I guess I
see something here that I don't want for myself long term.
Whether it's she's gonna leave me because I'm weirdo, or
I'm only vegan and I will only vegan restaurants. Whatever,
I see that she's not fucking with that. Let me
see who will fuck with that? Like, is that how
we should move? We see the red flags on the
first day and we're like, uh, you know what, Let
me out of here, because I feel like if I
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would have done that in past situations, I would have
saved myself a lot of heartbreak.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
I think so.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
I think so, I think. I think I don't have
any problem with that. I think it's the way he
went about it, just unmatching me, like he was gonna
go ghost yeah you know what I mean. And if
I didn't have his number, I would have never gotten
my answer and my mind would have been going crazy.
I think I have the problem of not being able
to let things go immediately off the red flag up,
Like right now, I'm like, oh, I could have given it. Well,
I was going to give it one more chance. You know,
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in reality, I knew he wasn't the one as soon
as he started talking about how he like only does
it as a foodie as I am. And it also
it sounds like he looks down on people who drink
like it just it just seems like he thought his
lifestyle was better than people who aren't vegan. And I
knew right away like that wasn't going to be a thing.
But the fact that I was willing to go another date,
(26:43):
why wasn't I able to just be like cut it
off right now now for me? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Right?
Speaker 5 (26:47):
And I also understand, like that's why when I was single,
I always had a roster, because it's like I don't
like not having nobody to hit up or like nothing
to do. So that's probably why it's another reason, like, oh,
let me, let me go on at least one more
and more more date with this personal so somebody else
comes along that could take that attention from me. And
I don't know if that's healthier or all, but I
just totally get it. I totally get why I wanted
(27:07):
to get the second date out of him, just because he's.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Cute and he's around and he's funny. He's not my husband.
He's a good time for now.
Speaker 4 (27:14):
Yeah, Yeah, I don't know, but it was just the unmatching,
Like I think we're just too grown for that. You
can't have a conversation. Hey, I think I don't think.
It didn't seem like you vibed with me. They seem
like you like me. I personally don't want to continue this.
I had fun the end, that's all it. Like, I'm
thirty one years old, Like we're not in high school
where you just have to go and unmatch people. And
(27:34):
that was my that was my main issue.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
So a lot about his age.
Speaker 4 (27:38):
Bro, No, he generally didn't know that. His profile said thirty.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
You believe that?
Speaker 4 (27:45):
Yeah, I did.
Speaker 5 (27:46):
Okay, I believe it. So I mean, I don't think
he's lying or not. I just I know that you're
probably a good reader of people.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
So if you believe it that they was probably telling
the truth. But yeah, that was that was That was whack.
That was whack. He was whack, but also kind of admirable.
Speaker 5 (27:58):
Maybe I should start moving even though, like I do
feel like the conversation is needed. I matched with somebody
when I was single on Hinge back in the day,
and we had one phone conversation. He talked a little
bit too much, about anime for me, and I was like, oh,
I don't give a fuck. I don't give a fuck.
And I try to be like patiently, Oh cute, Oh hada,
what's your favorite? Like ask all the questions, hoping that
he like asked those questions back and we can shift
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the conversation somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
He did it.
Speaker 5 (28:21):
It was a lot about anime and him. He was
a security guard and he was like on FaceTime acting
like he was securing the area. It was making me
so mad the way he kept looking around like for danger.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
I was so annoyed.
Speaker 5 (28:32):
At first, I had just stopped answering his phone calls,
but I didn't have his number saved. So I answered
one day thinking it was somebody else, like who will
FaceTime me randomly? And I was whatever at work thinking
it was a guest and it was him, And I'm like,
oh shit, sorry, you don't have your number saved. But
you know, this just isn't going to work for me, unfortunately.
We just what I'm looking for isn't which you can supply.
But I do appreciate your time, and I think you're
(28:53):
a very nice fellow, and I hope you have a
nice light and that's how you handle it. But he
called me, so I was gonna go something. Now, I
see he could have went down a wormhole, told himself.
So yeah, yeah, communications key, but first red flag, I
think we should excesstage.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
Yeah right.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
He also talked a little a beat to a beat
too slow.
Speaker 4 (29:10):
It was just a little it was just a little
bit like this, and I just couldn't. I was like
as somebody, as somebody who was a radio personality, and
I talked very fast, and I process information very.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Fast and spin it out.
Speaker 4 (29:23):
I can't deal with somebody who talks a half a
beat too slow. Like it was just a little bit
too off for me to like my brain was itching.
Speaker 5 (29:32):
You even think I had angry issues like I was like, yo, yeah,
I don't have that.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
I wish he was the one because he was very cute.
Well never talks on ye. Yeah. So I have another
date next week, so I'm trying to build a roster
or whatever. So I've been talking to another guy. But
(29:57):
another guy that I used to go to UH I
work at six Flags with when we were in high
school back in Maryland lives out here now and he
has been trying to date me for such a long time,
and I liked him back in high school. I was like,
all right, fine, did you send me before?
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Is he fine?
Speaker 3 (30:14):
Yeah, he's cute a large following.
Speaker 5 (30:17):
No, no, somebody else a college friend that lives out
here now or something.
Speaker 4 (30:22):
Maybe anyway, I'll give it a chance. We'll see what happened.
So I'm not tripping about it at all. Like I know,
I wasn't the problem, so I don't give.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Fuck period and wasn't.
Speaker 5 (30:33):
And we was never going to be too lonely in
these streets, like there's always next fifteen, another one's coming,
and it's only mat a time for the right one comes.
That's like in a limousine or something or limits things.
Speaker 6 (30:46):
Wait, y'all, I have a question about dating, because not now,
but like later on in life. How do you guys
like approach like when you're on a date, Like do
you guys bring in a certain personality based on the
information you know about this person? Or like how does
it even start?
Speaker 4 (31:02):
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (31:03):
I don't like when.
Speaker 6 (31:04):
You're like meeting up with someone you don't know, Like
how do you come in? Like hey, like oh, for
like you kind of just give off a different vibe
because based on what you know about this person?
Speaker 2 (31:16):
Oh good question.
Speaker 4 (31:17):
No, So me personally, I'm gonna come as my true,
authentic self no matter what, because if this is ultimately
the person I'm gonna be with for the rest of
my life, You're gonna see me in in all ways, right,
So why not show as who I show up as
who I am in the beginning, rather than put in
like some type of disguise and try to make myself
seem a certain type of way. I'm also not going
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to cater myself and my feelings towards how you act.
I'm just gonna be me no matter what you know.
So I'm meeting up with, like, for example, with this
guy right here. I knew he was a safio sexual
and a vegan. I knew all these minimalists. But I
know that I love to eat out at restaurants, and
so I'm not gonna pretend that I'm also vegan. And
I'm also like this, you know what I mean. Like, No,
I'm gonna be like up front, Okay, well I'm a foodie.
(32:00):
I made sure to say I'm a big foodie. I
also made sure to tell him, yes, I love to
have a margarita at drink at dinner every once in
a while, because I knew he doesn't drink like that.
So I want you to know everything up front so
you can make an accurate description if you want to
keep talking to me as if I want to see
if I want to keep talking to you.
Speaker 5 (32:16):
Yeah, I'm not willing to abandon myself for anyone. So
like if it like I got to act like a
character and abandoned who I truly am, that's not a thing. However,
I do have a very big and loud personality depending
on the situation, like party Kayla isn't work Kayla work
Kayla isn't friends social Kla. So I it depends on
like how I am met. So me and my boyfriend
(32:37):
we met at like a business thing where I was
very professional, so you know, he doesn't really know party
wildside yet, but we haven't partied together.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
When that side comes, we'll have that conversation.
Speaker 5 (32:49):
But I just feel like, you know, don't be too much,
like don't lay out like trauma dump or whatever, like
this is who I am, these are my problems, this
is this like and then like accept.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
It or don't.
Speaker 5 (32:59):
But I think the things kind of naturally come out
over time, and it depends on the situation or the
vibe that we're in. If we're working out, I'll be
more chill. If we're drinking, I'll be more loud. But
I'm not changing myself for the person. I guess I'm
changing myself more based off of the circumstances where we
are at that time. But he knows, like, you know,
I enjoy and I enjoy a drink, you know. But yeah,
(33:20):
so don't ever abandon yourself because somebody might be like, oh,
I don't like that about you.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
That's weird.
Speaker 3 (33:26):
Yeah, are you nervous to get back into the dating scene.
Speaker 6 (33:28):
Oh yeah, I don't even know how to dress up
and like little all fancy.
Speaker 4 (33:34):
But that's not true. That's so why why do that?
Speaker 7 (33:39):
You know?
Speaker 6 (33:39):
Like if I get asked out on a date or
like we're going to a dinner, I don't go on
dinner dates. Like that's crazy to me, that idea, So, like,
I don't know why wait, you.
Speaker 4 (33:48):
Never he never took you out? Oh oh, we need
to elevate in twenty twenty five, do.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
You like to go out to eat?
Speaker 3 (33:56):
Of course, I want to do something cute and fancy.
Speaker 6 (34:00):
I always wanted to be wind and dine just hasn't
happened so like ever, maybe once or twice, but like.
Speaker 5 (34:07):
Like ever, face change was so cute. But I am
so excited for this chapter. Like I am so excited
for you to elevate the men that you attract and
get wind and dine because everyoneman deserves to experience at least.
Speaker 3 (34:20):
Us. I want to call my girls and be like, hey,
yeah I'm fit looking.
Speaker 4 (34:24):
Yeah, you're out of that situation because that's what you deserve.
And if this is something that you expressed that you
like and it still didn't happen, there's another nigga that
will do that for you ten times.
Speaker 2 (34:36):
What kind of dates did you guys go?
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Did you?
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Did you go on dates at all?
Speaker 6 (34:39):
We are so comfortable. We would door dash and watch
movies and get faded.
Speaker 3 (34:46):
That was like our night.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
That's fun every now and again.
Speaker 4 (34:49):
But you expressed, hey, I want to go out, I
want to be cute, and it just never.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
I want to go skating.
Speaker 6 (34:54):
Talked about a lot, but like there is no like
action being put into play.
Speaker 4 (34:59):
Also, like they're twenty three, twenty four, you're twenty three, right, oh,
Like she's mad.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
Young, So like getting that.
Speaker 4 (35:07):
How did she think he is?
Speaker 5 (35:08):
That's why she was like he's thirty six, like he's
pushing forty to her.
Speaker 4 (35:14):
That's mad, all not mad, but also like I don't
know what his financial situation is, but I know when
a guy is not where he is in life, and
probably at twenty three he's not. He doesn't have the
money to take you to catch you know what I
mean is have the money.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
To take you to like this place in this place.
Speaker 5 (35:32):
But I agree, Like you don't have to spend like
three hundred dollars on dinner for me, you do, but
you know he's not three hundred dollars on dinner, but like.
Speaker 4 (35:39):
A movie three hundred on our own.
Speaker 5 (35:41):
Okay, if I'm doing it for myself, you're doing it
for me too. Okay, that's first of all. But yeah,
our checks be thrown anyway. Listen, you could spend twenty
dollars on a movie.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
We could go bowling for whatever, Like there's.
Speaker 5 (35:53):
Twenty three year old things to do in LA for
a good budget. And you for me if you do
not take me out and show me off, that's crazy
work to me, Like I am way too cute to
be in the house and you are too. So you're
only twenty three, you'll learn I was the same way
at your age. I just I can't believe you're twenty three.
What a great age, what a great time?
Speaker 3 (36:10):
In twenty four next month though, I love that.
Speaker 4 (36:16):
Well, yeah, we're excited for this new chapter for you,
and it's gonna be fun. And we'll help you get
dressed for your dates when you're ready for them.
Speaker 5 (36:24):
Will give you some petty things to do to them
as well. So petty things, petty award?
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Will you give me your superya?
Speaker 4 (36:34):
What are the week? Okay? Justin mother fucking.
Speaker 5 (36:37):
Bieber, we say how that's the album of the year already.
I'm obsessed.
Speaker 4 (36:41):
All Bieber is back, and you know what's funny? Like
I was, I was not hating, but I was getting
on him for his crash outs. I was like, he
needs therapy. I was commenting on his pictures like it
went viral. I was like, you need therapy. He's been
doing a lot and that's radio personality. I should not
be doing that. But oh well, but I guess was
that all promo for this album? I don't know anyway,
(37:02):
So he just posted on his Instagram story. I want
to say not even like an hour ago. He posted
and deleted, but of course the blogs got it. He said, uh,
justice is served. I emptied the clip. This is the
only album that matters right now. This album is way
better than the at clips. At Clips is for bitter
grown men who collect cause dolls and shop at Keith
(37:25):
and Union. So Clips is a duo of Push a
t in Malice. They formed a you know, those two
rappers formed a hip hop group together. They released an
album the same day as justin Bieber. So that was
justin Bieber shading the fuck. It wasn't even shade. It
was complete like.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
This brown men.
Speaker 4 (37:41):
No, no, no, no, no no no. He didn't say that
grown sorry typo.
Speaker 3 (37:47):
Grown grown Grown.
Speaker 4 (37:51):
That would have been bad. He had been canceled. But
the fact that he tagged Clips and everything tag them
like said, your album is trash. Mind's the one that
you should be listening, Like, wow, petty is that.
Speaker 5 (38:03):
Is petty first of all, But the Clips have been
around since I was a little girl and grinding was
my ship. Like the Clips put respect on their name,
but your Tea and Drake like, don't do that.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
Don't do that to them.
Speaker 5 (38:14):
I like your album better Don't get me wrong, Justin
Bieber's album is that good, But Bieber be humble about it.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
Please them at the clips. Hey, they're not even your competition. Brother.
That's like two completely different types of music differ.
Speaker 5 (38:26):
But at the same time, put respect on Justin Bieber's name.
If you thought that he was going to drop an album,
if it was going to flap, you forgot who to fuck.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
Justin number.
Speaker 5 (38:36):
Remind you you know my mother fucking name, and I listen.
Speaker 4 (38:39):
I was reminded. I was reminded because I didn't expect that.
When I found out was it was crazy. Justin Bieber like,
I will listen to you smile, I smile. It's stuck
in the moment.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
But Justin Bieber will.
Speaker 5 (38:51):
Have me in a choke hold for the rest of
my life. And when he drops, it's always going to
be fired. Like his crash outs were a little bit distracting. Helly,
I wouldn't tell her to grow backbone, But at the
same time, that's Justin be Bair.
Speaker 4 (39:01):
I get it.
Speaker 5 (39:02):
But yeah, that was a little bit distracting. But if
it was promo, then genius period.
Speaker 3 (39:07):
He did his thing with that one.
Speaker 4 (39:09):
I was like, who is this on a hello, swat,
what's yours? Oh oh yeah, so Megan Megani's stallion. I
don't even know if it's petty, but she did it
to all the fans. She posted on her Instagram a
little bikini pick and only gave us one photo, the
opening photo of a man in the background. And I
(39:31):
think that had everyone in a choke hold. And she
only gave us that one. But I think it's confirmed
now that she's.
Speaker 3 (39:36):
In a relationship play Thompson.
Speaker 4 (39:39):
Yeah, you had a zoom in to see who the
man is, and honestly you couldn't even really see his face.
But you know, the internet sluse launches, like.
Speaker 5 (39:46):
Even La tried to like Soft Lunch her boyfriend. I
know whose hand that is?
Speaker 2 (39:49):
Girl.
Speaker 5 (39:49):
Oh, I can't say, you're on the microphone, but I
will tell you we get off the microphone. Oh, I know,
I know who yo man is. But yeah, I love
these soft launches, I really do.
Speaker 2 (39:58):
I can't. I'm gonna tell you off the three because
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (40:00):
Because my friend told me that his friend's date of
La La, and I'm like, oh, so I know his friend.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
I looked at the handle, like I'll be the one
that exposed it and viral.
Speaker 5 (40:08):
No, no, Dad, I don't want to tell you because
you're gonna be like anyway, did y'all I don't know
if y'all are on TikTok, but did y'all see that
whole thing about the fourth of July cookout where it
wasn't a party but a gathering of people that knew
each other.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
And this woman came.
Speaker 5 (40:23):
She was invited to this cookout by her son's best friend.
She goes to the cookout and she's in the kitchen
trying to drop off her annie pasta dish, and they
reacted like, who the fuck are you? Like, didn't introduce themselves,
and they saw her in the kitchen. They walked outside
and started to talk about her and then told her
that she had to leave the cookout because nobody knows
who the hell she is.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
Oh, you didn't see this, I did.
Speaker 5 (40:43):
And after she got kicked out, she posted on her TikTok.
She was really upset about it, and it went viral,
and now the family's defending themselves for how they acted
for a stranger being in their house.
Speaker 7 (40:54):
And eh, I'm not I mean person. My husband is
on a mean person. We are not many people. Neither's
my mother, and we simply did not know who this
person was that come into our house unannounced to not
a party. Let's clarify, this was not a party. This
was a did together people who knew each other, okay,
And just because we didn't know he doesn't means she
couldn't have stayed hung out. We didn't want nun an house, okay,
and there's nothing wrong with that. So to you people
that are getting on TikTok and all my social media
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first of all, or my husband or another law SSUs
for so on and trying to bully us, I don't care.
I really don't because you don't know the story. You
weren't here, and for you to feel like you have
to behind the phone to bully somebody else that you
don't even know about, that says a lot about you,
not me. And one more thing, we did apologize. My
husband did call her directly and apologized to her. And
she didn't want accept that answer, Okay, she didn't want
accept that were sorry that we hurt her feelings. She
wanted to get on TikTok and use it to her
advantage and trying to make us look like back people,
and then have half the world or so forth. So on, hey,
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us two to get into the rewards program.
Speaker 5 (41:39):
Seriously, all right, first of all, can you explain the
difference between a party and a gathering of people that
know each other?
Speaker 4 (41:45):
There is none?
Speaker 2 (41:46):
Oh okay?
Speaker 5 (41:47):
And gettting somebody out of your house that you didn't Now, Kaylee,
you're somebody who asked house parties all the time.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
That's not my jam, but that's your jam.
Speaker 5 (41:54):
So if somebody that you didn't know was in your
house with the great dish of beautiful antipasta, not to
sh shape your opinion in any way, shape or form, are.
Speaker 2 (42:02):
You going to be like get the fuck out?
Speaker 7 (42:04):
Right?
Speaker 4 (42:04):
Did you know how many times that happened our friends giving,
there was like hell of people I didn't know that
they came from because they were a friend of a
friend of a friend, and of course they of course
came to me and introduced themselves or I would say, hey,
who are you welcome? But like I would never humiliate
somebody like that and actually tell them to get out,
you know. Yeah, that's if it's somebody that you really
don't want in your house, that's something that you say
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to their mutual friend later, right, but not in front
of everybody else so mussed up.
Speaker 6 (42:29):
She really put that work in. She even brought food.
She didn't come back handed, like, yeah, I would eat
that Boston in my car crying if she left the pasta.
Speaker 5 (42:40):
She said she left the pasta.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
It was small town behavior.
Speaker 5 (42:44):
And I think this family's last name is Hicks, which
is my family's last name too.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
But they apparently are really known in the area. And
now the.
Speaker 5 (42:51):
Cops are harassing this woman like because I guess it's
a small town and that they have power, but not
the power of the internet, because the Internet is backing
up the woman who is kicked out as we should.
But that's my petty award that woman that did that bullshit.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
So who does it go to?
Speaker 2 (43:07):
Let me give it to Justin Bieber Hey, hey.
Speaker 4 (43:09):
Yeah, I'll think it was Justin Bieber too. Justin Bieber.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
Paid, yeah yeah pay Hey, just.
Speaker 5 (43:29):
All right now trying to get into petty mail. Hey, Kayla, Kayla,
and Jordan. I've been dating my guy for the last
four months. It's been great. He's forty and I'm thirty four.
I also knew he was divorced and kept some contact
with his ex since she kept the dog, but supposedly
there was very little contact. Yesterday, I was talking about
the Kincinneada dresses. I was talking about Kenciniada dresses and
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the cost. Then he can see idea that he was
going to reach out to his ex to see how
much he paid for the wedding dress. I never asked
and ignored it. I never asked and ignored it. Later
that evening, we were driving and his message comes up
on the screen. He says, that was his ex and
he asked about the wedding dress cost. I was fine
before with him checking in on the dog, but this
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rubbed me the wrong way.
Speaker 2 (44:16):
Am I wrong? I think it's really weird that he
did that.
Speaker 4 (44:19):
Why of all people, he had asked his ex? Yeah,
well it's free.
Speaker 5 (44:24):
Yeah, And I mean I get staying in contact over children.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
Sure, dogs, Bro, what y'all gotta talk about that dog? Forget?
Speaker 5 (44:32):
Let's get a new dog together. Baby, you have got
a new chapter in life. Like that's not a thing
for me. So it seems like he has a little
bit too much connection to his his ex wife.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
Still and you've for four months. Yeah, I think I
see where his heart is.
Speaker 4 (44:49):
Yeah, I don't know. I've been talking to a lot
of people recently about boundaries when it comes to exes
and friends and just stay it up front, what your
boundaries are when you can and won't allow, and then
what you will allow, and so that way later on
in the relationship. It's not coming up.
Speaker 5 (45:08):
Yeah, and four months is still kind of you guys
are still get to know each other. I guess it's
been great. This is the only issue. I feel like
maybe you guys can just talk about it and you
could say where you're uncomfortable, because he probably is new
to be in a relationship and just trying to figure
it out.
Speaker 3 (45:20):
True. Yeah, maybe his ex was the only person that
answered the phone.
Speaker 4 (45:26):
No, Google is free.
Speaker 2 (45:28):
That all right?
Speaker 5 (45:31):
Well, all right, leave him alone? Are you telling her
to leave him alone?
Speaker 2 (45:35):
Yeah? You too?
Speaker 3 (45:37):
Conversation first, Okay, all right, well.
Speaker 5 (45:40):
Let us know what you think. Give us a follow
at the Pettish podcast. Follow me at the Kayla Austin.
Speaker 3 (45:45):
Kayla Thomas forty Jordan Jackson with three ends. That's right.
Speaker 4 (45:48):
Hav a good weekend, guys, See you next week.
Speaker 1 (45:51):
By my Ta
The Petty Is Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Welcome back to petty Ish. I'm Kayla.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
I'm Kayla, and I'm Jordan.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
What's up, y'all?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Yeah, it's time to be petty this week.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
You better have I guess if this is if you
want to call this petty y'all. My house has been
infested with bugs. Oh, no, infested, and I you know,
I'm trying to be a plant mom now. So I
think I'm trying to like, you know, get the hang
of having plants. I bought, I went overboard. I bought
like ten plants. I have some outside on my balcony.
I have like three inside. Like I just was like
(00:46):
healing like plans like did too much. And I've been
taking them inside outside, inside, outside, and so when I
bring an inside plant outside and then bring it back inside,
the bugs coming, like just.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Not thinking right right.
Speaker 4 (00:59):
Also, one speci plant that I have attracts a lot
of gnats, So I've been dealing with gnats, flies, like
little beetles like all this stuff like and it was
it got to the point also where I think a
fly got into my house and they laid like they
laid eggs. Because over the past like four days and
(01:20):
I know, everybody's like coming to my house tonight, but
like my house is good now. Over the past four days,
there had been about like twenty flies in my house
and I kid you not, not like I promise you,
was like twenty. And I have been living like this,
just like angry, just literally and so finally I got
some raid. I don't know why it took me this long.
(01:40):
First of all, got rid of all the plants. We'll
put them outside, all of them. Just I'm done, and
got raid. And all the flies are like by my
balcony door, and I just went spray spray spray spray
spray and just watched them fall and just like sat
there and watched them suffer as they died.
Speaker 5 (01:59):
I totally get that there's this whole TikTok trying about
this person who catches slides and then tortures them and
they have a like a really large following. And initially
when I saw the videos, I felt really bad, like, wow,
that's really mean to like put a fly into like
I don't know, a needle, like squeeze it until it
like splushes, and they always cut it off before they
kill the fly.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
I'm like, that's so fucked up.
Speaker 5 (02:17):
And then I encountered a fly and it was like
landing on food and like you, I'm like, you know
what you deserve this.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
You touched us all day and tomorrow.
Speaker 5 (02:25):
I actually followed that TikTok peach and I'm not mad
at you rating them and watching them fall.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Oh they're the worst.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
Literally, it was so so, so bad. So I literally
sat there for about ten minutes as soon as one
was fly. But I'm telling you're so many in my house.
As soon as one wildly by spray watch it and
like sit there. It's like thirty minutes doing this.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
It's not evil, it's actually doing the world a service.
Thank you for your service.
Speaker 6 (02:47):
Actually, you're welcome at a time.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
So I was coming home one day.
Speaker 5 (02:54):
I live right next door to a Ralph, which is
a grocery store out here, So I walked to you
get groceries. My neighbor likes saw me coming and you
know I live in that building because we've seen each
other multiple times. And you kind of didn't hold the door. Mind,
you have like bags in my hand. You gotta fob
into the building. It's a lot, not that much first
of all problems, but the neighbor didn't hold the door
for me. He let it just close. That's all right,
(03:15):
bet say less. Fast forward. We're both in the garage
together and there's one elevator in my entire building, and
he was coming to the elevator. I made sure to
press that door close button. And you have to wait
for the next elean.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
Okay, I do you like you do me?
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Okay? All right? And that was my petty.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
Thing period period. Did petter things our listeners have done
this week? My boyfriend has been so fed up with
me talking about Love Island every other day. He thought
it would be He thought it would be funny to
unplug all the TVs in the house and hide the
cords ten minutes before a new episode came out.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Oh that's messed up.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
We don't play about Love Island.
Speaker 5 (03:51):
That's mess I mean, I do feel like Love Island
is taking over and maybe some people need the intervention
where it's like, you know what, breathe breathe.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Maybe that I think that might be me. Are you
talking to me? Because that's no.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Actually, I have a lot of friends.
Speaker 5 (04:02):
I cannot guess. I mean you might be included. My
sister is very much as well. And it's taken over
the world.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
This really has.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
There's no need for an intervention.
Speaker 6 (04:11):
Give us our thirty five days of distraction and need
and like then well it's another year off.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
I think that, Like I don't think it's a problem.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
I don't think so either. And I also feel like
it has united the country in a way that a
TV show has never done before ever.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
I don't know about the united part, but I will
say it has brought it together.
Speaker 5 (04:34):
No, it has taken over. I think this is going
to be history. Like Jersey Show when it came out,
made reality TV history. I think that this show is
definitely history. It made me divided from a lot of
people because fuck y'all voting that way forward. I can't
even talk to you like I can't.
Speaker 6 (04:49):
Yeah, I think letting America vote a little too many times.
There needs to be a boundary next season because I
feel like we're idiots and we cannot as a collective
make a good decision.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Though I think production needs to make.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 5 (05:03):
I've been on a blocking spray of anyone who has
anything negative to say about Shelley, and it's from Love Island.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I don't play about my.
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Own Kelly, did you write that one?
Speaker 5 (05:12):
I might have, like I did go on a blocking spray,
But I do think that that show rage bated us
by sending them home.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
They were the longest connection.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
They were one of the truths, like everybody else is
new and kind of just had your choices and fell
into each other.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Is this love island or is this?
Speaker 3 (05:27):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Who?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Who the fuck? Is our favorite island? Yeah? And on time?
So yeah, I'm blocking all bitches.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
I agree to say they were the longest connection. But
people just don't like Ace.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
No, I mean you know, I mean attribute everything racism.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
By y'all, bye bye.
Speaker 6 (05:43):
The only reason why I watched this season, I don't know.
I feel like he was one of my favorites for sure.
Speaker 4 (05:47):
I think he just triggered me, to be honest.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Yeah, I had an Ace in my life because he's
an LA boy.
Speaker 4 (05:52):
That's probably why.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Yeah, he's a cutie Plato friends.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
No, how is y'all's week?
Speaker 5 (06:01):
So I didn't really get to get into this last week,
but I wanted to share. I got flud out. It
was so nice because.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
As we know, well maybe we don't know.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
My boyfriend lives in Arizona, so we don't live in
the same state.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
It's kind of a long distance relationship.
Speaker 5 (06:15):
One stayed over a thirty forty five minutes wipe, but
he flew to me out and then when I landed,
he had like steak and shrimp and potatoes and bread
and wine waiting for me, and we listened to music
and I got to play with his big dog, Rocky.
And I just feel like this is the first time
I'm getting the absolute utmost princess treatment. I don't get
(06:37):
called anything but honey or sweetheart barely, says Kayla.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I just am in such a happy chapter in my
life right now.
Speaker 5 (06:44):
Like I don't know what I did to stumble upon
this freaking king in Vegas that just wouldn't leave me alone.
Although I told him a lot of times too, I'm happy.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
That he didn't. And I'm just in a I'm just
really grateful for Mey and Mamy and Mama.
Speaker 4 (06:57):
Oh, I'm excited for you. It's nice to see you
so excited about somebody again. Yeah, like again, it's nice
that you get to be treated the way that you
deserve because for so long you've been talking about this
is like the type of man that I want. This
is the caliber of men that I want to date,
and you actually have somebody that has money, like so
you don't have that, you don't there's no split, no bill,
you know what I mean? Like you, he literally takes
(07:18):
care of you. And that's the type of woman that
you are. You want like you want to be taken
care of. You deserve to be taken care of.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
And he knows that for you. A fifty type of woman.
I never wanted to be a fifty fifty type of woman.
I love it.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
Like he'll be in mid business conversation. I'll pull up
somewhere that has to pay. He'll like, honey, honey, how much?
Speaker 2 (07:34):
How much?
Speaker 5 (07:34):
Any honey, here's my card. I have his credit card
in my text messages. He's like by this order that.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
I'm like, oh my god, am I am?
Speaker 2 (07:41):
I life? And he's hot, he's so key's cute, right, he's.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
A good looking me.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Yeah, he's a good look good thank you. Yeah, he's cue.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
He could pick you up.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Huh can he pick you up? Well, he's a shorter man. No,
I don't make it.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Are you shorter than him?
Speaker 2 (07:54):
I can't wear hills. I don't think that's okay.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
We love our short king yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
He's a short king. He's a short king, but they
don't matter. I'm happy. Yeah. Amen? Amen? How about you?
How is your week?
Speaker 3 (08:05):
Oh? My week was good.
Speaker 6 (08:07):
It was an emotional roller coaster up and down recently single.
They don't got to get into it, but I'm feeling
it's good.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
I'm feeling good.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
You know, I broke I broke contact way.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
You were no contact. You broke you broke the no contact.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Yes, did you get the closure that you needed? Not yet?
Did you regret retched out though?
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Do you regret it.
Speaker 3 (08:33):
In a way?
Speaker 6 (08:33):
Yeah, because it's not It wasn't the response that I wanted,
you know how you'd be like thinking, you have these
like stories. So I think I just need to chill,
give myself maybe another three weeks.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
Yeah, just one.
Speaker 4 (08:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (08:47):
I always tell myself I'd rather have the answer than
live in the what if I would have. So I'm
gonna reach out. I'm a no like if I want
to know, I'm gonna know. Oh shit, you played me
all right now, I know you know. So I'm not
mad at you for breaking no contact. You got your
ans is. Now you're going to give yourself piece for
three weeks or so?
Speaker 4 (09:02):
Yeah, be gracious on yourself, be careful, like not be careful,
but just be kind to yourself. Because you were in
a relationship for almost four years, so now it's like
a whole new world not talking to this person after
four years. So don't feel bad or feel guilty that
you reached out, Like this is somebody that was so
near and dear to you, and I mean it's his
loss if he's not reciprocating that same kind of like
(09:24):
energy back, you know.
Speaker 6 (09:25):
Yeah, it's a weird feeling for sure. But I've been
going outside so that okay. It's been a lit weekend,
so it's good.
Speaker 5 (09:35):
Do you feel like you kind of have to learn
how to be single or do you feel like it
kind of happened actually, because I have been single for
a really long time and I'm having to learn how
to be a girlfriend again, Like, oh I know.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
How to be a girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Yeah, I've been in like.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
A relationship my other two for like six.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Years, So being single is like a transition for.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
You, Like high school was the only time I was
single for real.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
Wow, What do you.
Speaker 5 (09:59):
Think is like the biggest adjustment that you have to
make mentally or if there was one.
Speaker 6 (10:03):
The want and need to just talk to somebody. Yeah
that's killing me. Yeah, I go, I think putting my
phone away. I do need to start putting my phone
and do not disturb And used to have social media
because my fo you paid, my algorithm has changed.
Speaker 5 (10:19):
So fast they know everything.
Speaker 6 (10:23):
They went from like these lovey dovey memes to oh
my god, I'm gonna start dating or what do I do?
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Or I broke contact.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
So I'm like, Okay, I don't feel alone.
Speaker 6 (10:31):
Yeah, I don't feel alone, but like also like whoa,
you guys know a little too much of my page.
So it's a crazy transition for sure, but I'm excited.
Speaker 4 (10:40):
If there's any advice that I can give is to
dive into things that you love to do, like immediately.
I obviously give your time, yourself time to reflect and
you know, process things and let yourself feel it instead
of just trying to keep yourself busy all the time,
but also like what do you like to do? Like
immediately I got into pilates and I got into dance
class that filled me so much. So you just have
(11:02):
to find those things where you can go and that
you can do with your girlfriends and that will fulfill you.
So that will take your mind off of not being
able to text him, you know, or find somebody else
to text, you know, JATGBT or like you're a friend,
a close friend when you want to when you want
to text him, like text that one friend. So I
like an accountability partner. But you'll get through it.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Thanks, guys, I love you.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
I love you, And girlfriend's are kie Kayla. I agree
with that.
Speaker 7 (11:28):
Man.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
Kayla was there when I was on the floor. I
will never forget that. I was never forget that I
was on this floor. It was a February and I
was on the floor after I had just found out
like the worst thing ever about my relationship, and she
just held me on the floor.
Speaker 2 (11:43):
It was so heartbreaking. It was so heartbreaking.
Speaker 5 (11:46):
I'd never seen it like that because I think we
were kind of newer friends at that point. I mean
I still don't think I've seen you like that sense
like that was. That was a rough fucking time, bro. Yeah,
I still hate that fellow t this day, like, yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Let me become a man for five minutes.
Speaker 4 (11:59):
I whip his But all that to say is like,
you need some You need a Kayla. You need somebody
that you can literally cry to you don't have to
hold back any of your emotions too, you know.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
So we got you.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
We can cry tonight. I have over Love Island in
some cocktail.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
Anyway, how was your week?
Speaker 4 (12:20):
Kyla? Already okay? Because my life is never boring, all right?
So I want your thoughts about all of this, guys.
So Caylen knows a little bit about it. So I
went on a date, a first date, and uh, the
thing that I kind of liked about him as well
(12:41):
is like we met on Facebook dating and we hadn't
even really talked really before we went on this date.
I want to say. It was like a total of
like six messages and he already was like do you
want to go on a hike on Friday? And I
was like okay, And I asked Kayla, I was like,
it is a hike weird for first date? She was
like cool outdoor vibes, like exercise. So my other friends
(13:02):
were like, that's weird. He doesn't want to spend money
on you. He could kill you in the woods, like
all these I got so many mixed emotions, but those
people in.
Speaker 5 (13:10):
La no, and real quick question, did you guys talk
on the phone at all or it was just text
message back and from.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
It was one not one phone call, and it was
all on that app. So it was kind of little
of it, Like I didn't even get to know him first,
only what I knew based off of his profile. Right,
so what I knew based off his profile. He's thirty
years old. He is a sapio sexual, and I had
to ask Kayla what the fuck that is?
Speaker 5 (13:33):
Kayla, He's attracted to smart he's attracted to intelligence, and it.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Was like, oh, he likes boys.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Nope.
Speaker 4 (13:42):
I was like, if it's not head, then it must
be something else. But and so he was a safio sexual, minimalist,
frugal vegana in the bile.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
Oh shit, yes he said. He said.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
I'm a frugal minimalist and anywhere I'm eating is vegan.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Oh, he's an outdoor man.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
But I was so encaptuated by how he looked and
how cute he was.
Speaker 3 (14:08):
I was like, he can't be that bad.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
Like I'm cheap too, I'd be spirit airlines like I'm frugal, Right.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
No you're not, you're not.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
So I was like, I want to go on this date.
Like he seems cool, Let's see where it goes right.
So we met up on Friday, and immediately I was
like taking it back because he's just so cute, Like
he's just very very handsome, tall, I want to say,
about like six foot three and just super cute too.
(14:38):
He was thirty six years old and the being thirty
six years old even though his profiles at thirty and
I asked him, he was like, it says thirty and
he and I was like, yeah, it says thirty and
he was like, I guess because it's connected to your Facebook.
And he lied on his Facebook about his age back
when he started his Facebook back in like two thousand
and seven.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
That's understandable. Don't want Facebook in your business too much.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
Right, So yeah, so I guess, So I guess. So
everything was fine at first, like we were, you know, hiking,
and it was a good conversation, just getting to know
each other, what we like, what we don't like. Things
that I learned about him, like I asked him to
elaborate on the frugal and like the vegan stuff, and
basically he was telling me, like, you know, even though
(15:19):
he has the means to do things, he's not going
to buy a BMW or a Bentley just because he
has that money and he wants to put that money
towards something that's valuable. He's an actor, and I was like, okay, well,
I have a lot of actor friends, but the majority
of them have to also have a nine to five
because at this day and age, Hollywood is not what
it is. You cannot sustain yourself unless you're like freaking
(15:40):
dameson Idris right. And he said no, I actually am
well off enough to be able to live on my own,
support myself and only act and support my mom. And
I was like wow. Later I looked him up on IMDb.
He only got three credits the.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
Math Amath, so I was confused, But any.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
Girl, I don't know. Other things that I learned about
him is he is high functioning autistic. Been there, and
I mean, I feel like half the world is autistic.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
I diagnosed he's.
Speaker 4 (16:14):
High functioning autistic. So he told me that, and this
all relates to the story. He tells me that he
doesn't really pick up on social cues well, and he
has to grind extra hard when it comes to dating
and being an actor because he has to overcompensate for
what he can't process in his brain. Things like he's
also dyslessic or OCD like, and I was like, honestly,
I'm probably high functioning autistic. Well, I told him I
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have lupus, so I know what it's like to live
with a disability. So we kind of bonded it on
that his mom also has lupus, so we were really
connecting on that. When he when it comes to the
vegan situation, I had asked him. I was like, so,
you know, are you would you be willing to go
to a restaurant like Olive Garden is my favorite restaurant,
or a restaurant that has vegan a vegan option or
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menu And he was like, well, I'm the one inviting
you to eat with me, so I think it's only
right that I choose the restaurant. If I'm paying and
I'm inviting you to have a meal with me, then
we're gonna eat where I want to eat. And I
was like, oh okay, And I was like, well, I
don't really agree. We could adreaally disagree. I feel like
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there should be some type of compromise, like what if
your significant other doesn't like vegan food and she's like well,
he was like, well, then we could eat, we could
cook at home. And I was like, of me, I'm
a big foodie. I eat out with my friends at
least once or twice a week, Like that is kind
of like my love language. I love to eat out,
you know, like you wouldn't go to Olive Garden with
me and eat like some you know, gluten freeze something
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on something. He was like, no, I only eat at
vegan restaurant. So there was no compromise there. So that
kind of threw me off. And other little things that
he would say just kind of like gave me a
red flag. Another red flag was that he said he
just got out of relationship last week. So when he
said last week, I literally was like uh oh oh,
and that was my initial respont so and he was like, oh,
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is that a deal breaker for you? And I was like, well,
I mean like there's a lot of unresolved feelings there.
I mean a week is not enough time for you
or her to process what happened. She might still have
some unresolved feelings that she want to keep reaching out
to you, and you're already on a date with me,
Like I've been a rebound before. I would prefer not
to you know, do that again, and then he explained
the situation about how you know, well, it was only
a three month relationship technically, like we've been on the
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rocks for two months and I we've officially officially ended
it last week. But that's why I'm in the space
to be able to date again, because I really the
feelings aren't there anymore. So I understood that. But so
other than that, like the date was okay, Like it
was getting hot, and you guys know I have lupus,
so I can't be the sun that long. And I
guess maybe I was rushing the date because I was
tired at the point that point, We've been hiking for
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two and a half hours. That's a long time, right,
and so I'm like, all right, let's find this, let's
go to our cars. Like I was just tired, you know,
and like the sun depletes me, right, And so when
it was time to go, I gave him. I was like,
thank you so much. This was a lot of fun.
Gave him a side hug, and then it was time
to go and that was it. And I was like,
that was okay. And I called Kayla and I was like,
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you know, there's a lot of things that I don't
know if I could deal with a lot of his
mindset on certain things. He's a very nice guy, but
like the vegan thing, like it's it's not even really
about him not willing to compromise on food. What else
aren't you willing to compromise on? It just seemed like
it was all about him in like his way or
no way, and his lifestyle is the only way, like
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you know. So I was like, but it's okay, I'll
get maybe give it one more chance. So the next
day I wake up and he unmatched me. He completely
unmatched me.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
That's not cool at all.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
And I was like what, Like there was no conversation, nothing,
he didn't say hey, I Like, this isn't gonna work out.
And automatically I'm in my head, I'm like, dang, what
did I do? Like did I say something? Or was
I not his type? Physically? Like what happened?
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Right?
Speaker 4 (19:53):
And I called Kayla, I called I called all my friends,
really my cousin Lucy, and I was like what, like
what is this? And I was like I want to
I want to know. I have his number. I want
to ask. So I texted him and I was like, hey,
I saw that you unmatched me. I wanted to know
what how you thought yesterday went from your perspective.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
I love East Coasters man shooters.
Speaker 5 (20:15):
Yeah, what you're not about to do as a void,
Like we just spent two and a half hours together
and I sacrificed my livelihood and my health with my
loopus and I'm in the heat with you for.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Twenty a half hours. Unmatched me. Boy answers, now, thank you.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
I was like, you know, I feel like a conversation
could be had, and just leaving it off with no
conversation is kind of meaning you don't seem like a
mean guy. And uh, he responded with I think you're
a very attractive woman, and I was very interested, but
it didn't seem like we hit it off. It seemed
by the end of the day you were on the
fence about me or or saw me as more of
a friend. For example the vegan situation when I mentioned, like,
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you know the differences or where I would choose to eat.
Your response to that, he said, also your innate response
to me saying that I just got out of relationship.
And then he said, also, it seems like you were
rushing the date because I offered us to sit in
this shade and see that you just wanted to go,
and then at the end you gave me a side hug.
And I always feel like a side hug is always
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coming from somebody who wants to be just friends.
Speaker 5 (21:15):
But y'all just met, Yeah, and I think all of
those things could have been a conversation. But it was
things that honestly, before he responded to the text message,
all the things that you pointed out before he even
said them. So I think that you guys are pretty
much on the same page, but him just unmatching without
communicating those things were a little bit alarming because you
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wouldn't do that to him, right, because you did have
those same concerns, which you're all right, let's see one
more time. Yeah, first time it could always be awkward.
Let's see how the second date goes, if there's any flexibility.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
But I do I do not like.
Speaker 5 (21:46):
The fact that he didn't seem willing to compromise on
restaurant choices and didn't understand why somebody would be taking
it back if you just got out of a relationship
a week ago.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
But that could be the high functioning whatever relationship.
Speaker 5 (22:00):
Sorry about compromise, like you're always going to have to
sacrifice something, whether it's time with yourself or would the
restaurant you like to eat that because you got to
consider a whole other person. And doesn't seem like he
was willing to do that. No, So how did you
respond to his message?
Speaker 4 (22:12):
And I was like, I understand, but this could have
been I literally said, I was like, all these things
you could have asked me, like, this could have been
a conversation. I was like, I just think unmatching me
like that is. I was like, I would never do
that to someone, you know, like you were just going
to go ghost And I was like but and I
wasn't going to go back and forth and explain because
at that point I didn't truly didn't care. And I
was like, but it's all good, Like a lot of
(22:35):
this was a misunderstanding, but you know, things for clarifying.
And he responded back and he was like, well didn't
I at didn't I Every time we came up with
a conversation or a topic, I asked you if this
was a deal breaker, that was me having a conversation
about these things, Like I asked you, was this a
deal breaker?
Speaker 3 (22:52):
And I was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 4 (22:53):
And so at that point I said one more thing
and he never responded, and that was it.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
If I didn't say yes, it's a deal breaker, then well,
and that's the thing. I'm like, that's stupid.
Speaker 5 (23:02):
If you ask me in those moments and you're checking
in and I said no, it's not a deal breaker,
then maybe more communication is needed.
Speaker 4 (23:08):
Like I just exactly the thing about like the you know,
him being in a relationship last week, after he explained
that it was only a three month relationship and it
wasn't really that serious. I said, no, that's not a
deal breaker. The vegan thing, I said, well, can agree
to disagree. The side hug thing one like I bear,
I don't know you. I'm awkward when it comes to
physical attention affection when it's somebody I don't know. I'm
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not gonna what do you want me to do? Make
out with you? Like I didn't finish the two and
have our exactly I had said. I had just said
I'm sweaty, you know what I mean, Like what are
we saying? And then so I don't know overall, like
it was just it was another learning opportunity for me,
But I think I would have communicated with the person
more before going on. This was like a waste of
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my time, Like a complete waste of my time.
Speaker 5 (23:52):
Someone who's a sapio sexual. It doesn't seem that smart himself.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
Thinking that was like a tactic that he, I guess does.
Speaker 6 (23:59):
Maybe that's the thing he does, he does the online
dating in real life, so he kind of gets to
the point. Well that's actually sorry, no, well like getting
to the point asking all these questions in real life.
He's probably trying to figure out how to communicate that
because you can't. You can't say is it a deal
breaker to someone when you're having a conversation with them
every time?
Speaker 2 (24:19):
That's true, that's not organic at all. Yeah, the green.
Speaker 5 (24:22):
Flags I feel because doctor Wendy always says like you
don't want to have too much conversation on the phone
or via text message, like you want to have one
phone conversation and then see how the vibe goes with
the phone conversation. But right after that, it's me in person,
like we're not about to be pen pals. I'm not
here to get another texting body. I got plenty of friends.
Let's just see how we romantically. You know, vibe or mesh,
and I do think he took those steps, which I
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really do appreciate, like I'm not about to waste your
time or mind.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
Let's see how we flow. But he's very quick, it
seems like.
Speaker 4 (24:49):
Yeah, make And it also seemed like he wanted to
end it before I did, because everything he said was
things that he thought that I thought, you know what
I mean, Like he read into a lot of the things,
a lot of my reactions, a lot of things that
I said, and he probably went home and was like, Okay,
this girl does not like me. She didn't give me
a hug, she didn't agree with all this, this, this
and this let me unmatch her, because it's not like
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you know what I mean. But like he just, yeah,
he had no idea that I would be willing to
do one more date tried off because I thought he
was very attractive and he was funny and I enjoyed
our time. But there were some you know, red flags,
but like I wasn't gonna write it off just off
of based off of that, you know.
Speaker 5 (25:26):
So so my question, do you think that we should
start moving like that in a way to protect our peace?
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Like cause low key it was fucked up.
Speaker 5 (25:34):
But at the end of the day, I guess I
see something here that I don't want for myself long term.
Whether it's she's gonna leave me because I'm weirdo, or
I'm only vegan and I will only vegan restaurants. Whatever,
I see that she's not fucking with that. Let me
see who will fuck with that? Like, is that how
we should move? We see the red flags on the
first day and we're like, uh, you know what, Let
me out of here, because I feel like if I
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would have done that in past situations, I would have
saved myself a lot of heartbreak.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
I think so.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
I think so, I think. I think I don't have
any problem with that. I think it's the way he
went about it, just unmatching me, like he was gonna
go ghost yeah you know what I mean. And if
I didn't have his number, I would have never gotten
my answer and my mind would have been going crazy.
I think I have the problem of not being able
to let things go immediately off the red flag up,
Like right now, I'm like, oh, I could have given it. Well,
I was going to give it one more chance. You know,
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in reality, I knew he wasn't the one as soon
as he started talking about how he like only does
it as a foodie as I am. And it also
it sounds like he looks down on people who drink
like it just it just seems like he thought his
lifestyle was better than people who aren't vegan. And I
knew right away like that wasn't going to be a thing.
But the fact that I was willing to go another date,
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why wasn't I able to just be like cut it
off right now now for me? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Right?
Speaker 5 (26:47):
And I also understand, like that's why when I was single,
I always had a roster, because it's like I don't
like not having nobody to hit up or like nothing
to do. So that's probably why it's another reason, like, oh,
let me, let me go on at least one more
and more more date with this personal so somebody else
comes along that could take that attention from me. And
I don't know if that's healthier or all, but I
just totally get it. I totally get why I wanted
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to get the second date out of him, just because he's.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Cute and he's around and he's funny. He's not my husband.
He's a good time for now.
Speaker 4 (27:14):
Yeah, Yeah, I don't know, but it was just the unmatching,
Like I think we're just too grown for that. You
can't have a conversation. Hey, I think I don't think.
It didn't seem like you vibed with me. They seem
like you like me. I personally don't want to continue this.
I had fun the end, that's all it. Like, I'm
thirty one years old, Like we're not in high school
where you just have to go and unmatch people. And
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that was my that was my main issue.
Speaker 3 (27:36):
So a lot about his age.
Speaker 4 (27:38):
Bro, No, he generally didn't know that. His profile said thirty.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
You believe that?
Speaker 4 (27:45):
Yeah, I did.
Speaker 5 (27:46):
Okay, I believe it. So I mean, I don't think
he's lying or not. I just I know that you're
probably a good reader of people.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
So if you believe it that they was probably telling
the truth. But yeah, that was that was That was whack.
That was whack. He was whack, but also kind of admirable.
Speaker 5 (27:58):
Maybe I should start moving even though, like I do
feel like the conversation is needed. I matched with somebody
when I was single on Hinge back in the day,
and we had one phone conversation. He talked a little
bit too much, about anime for me, and I was like, oh,
I don't give a fuck. I don't give a fuck.
And I try to be like patiently, Oh cute, Oh hada,
what's your favorite? Like ask all the questions, hoping that
he like asked those questions back and we can shift
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the conversation somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (28:20):
He did it.
Speaker 5 (28:21):
It was a lot about anime and him. He was
a security guard and he was like on FaceTime acting
like he was securing the area. It was making me
so mad the way he kept looking around like for danger.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
I was so annoyed.
Speaker 5 (28:32):
At first, I had just stopped answering his phone calls,
but I didn't have his number saved. So I answered
one day thinking it was somebody else, like who will
FaceTime me randomly? And I was whatever at work thinking
it was a guest and it was him, And I'm like,
oh shit, sorry, you don't have your number saved. But
you know, this just isn't going to work for me, unfortunately.
We just what I'm looking for isn't which you can supply.
But I do appreciate your time, and I think you're
(28:53):
a very nice fellow, and I hope you have a
nice light and that's how you handle it. But he
called me, so I was gonna go something. Now, I
see he could have went down a wormhole, told himself.
So yeah, yeah, communications key, but first red flag, I
think we should excesstage.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
Yeah right.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
He also talked a little a beat to a beat
too slow.
Speaker 4 (29:10):
It was just a little it was just a little
bit like this, and I just couldn't. I was like
as somebody, as somebody who was a radio personality, and
I talked very fast, and I process information very.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Fast and spin it out.
Speaker 4 (29:23):
I can't deal with somebody who talks a half a
beat too slow. Like it was just a little bit
too off for me to like my brain was itching.
Speaker 5 (29:32):
You even think I had angry issues like I was like, yo, yeah,
I don't have that.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
I wish he was the one because he was very cute.
Well never talks on ye. Yeah. So I have another
date next week, so I'm trying to build a roster
or whatever. So I've been talking to another guy. But
(29:57):
another guy that I used to go to UH I
work at six Flags with when we were in high
school back in Maryland lives out here now and he
has been trying to date me for such a long time,
and I liked him back in high school. I was like,
all right, fine, did you send me before?
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Is he fine?
Speaker 3 (30:14):
Yeah, he's cute a large following.
Speaker 5 (30:17):
No, no, somebody else a college friend that lives out
here now or something.
Speaker 4 (30:22):
Maybe anyway, I'll give it a chance. We'll see what happened.
So I'm not tripping about it at all. Like I know,
I wasn't the problem, so I don't give.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Fuck period and wasn't.
Speaker 5 (30:33):
And we was never going to be too lonely in
these streets, like there's always next fifteen, another one's coming,
and it's only mat a time for the right one comes.
That's like in a limousine or something or limits things.
Speaker 6 (30:46):
Wait, y'all, I have a question about dating, because not now,
but like later on in life. How do you guys
like approach like when you're on a date, Like do
you guys bring in a certain personality based on the
information you know about this person? Or like how does
it even start?
Speaker 4 (31:02):
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (31:03):
I don't like when.
Speaker 6 (31:04):
You're like meeting up with someone you don't know, Like
how do you come in? Like hey, like oh, for
like you kind of just give off a different vibe
because based on what you know about this person?
Speaker 2 (31:16):
Oh good question.
Speaker 4 (31:17):
No, So me personally, I'm gonna come as my true,
authentic self no matter what, because if this is ultimately
the person I'm gonna be with for the rest of
my life, You're gonna see me in in all ways, right,
So why not show as who I show up as
who I am in the beginning, rather than put in
like some type of disguise and try to make myself
seem a certain type of way. I'm also not going
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to cater myself and my feelings towards how you act.
I'm just gonna be me no matter what you know.
So I'm meeting up with, like, for example, with this
guy right here. I knew he was a safio sexual
and a vegan. I knew all these minimalists. But I
know that I love to eat out at restaurants, and
so I'm not gonna pretend that I'm also vegan. And
I'm also like this, you know what I mean. Like, No,
I'm gonna be like up front, Okay, well I'm a foodie.
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I made sure to say I'm a big foodie. I
also made sure to tell him, yes, I love to
have a margarita at drink at dinner every once in
a while, because I knew he doesn't drink like that.
So I want you to know everything up front so
you can make an accurate description if you want to
keep talking to me as if I want to see
if I want to keep talking to you.
Speaker 5 (32:16):
Yeah, I'm not willing to abandon myself for anyone. So
like if it like I got to act like a
character and abandoned who I truly am, that's not a thing. However,
I do have a very big and loud personality depending
on the situation, like party Kayla isn't work Kayla work
Kayla isn't friends social Kla. So I it depends on
like how I am met. So me and my boyfriend
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we met at like a business thing where I was
very professional, so you know, he doesn't really know party
wildside yet, but we haven't partied together.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
When that side comes, we'll have that conversation.
Speaker 5 (32:49):
But I just feel like, you know, don't be too much,
like don't lay out like trauma dump or whatever, like
this is who I am, these are my problems, this
is this like and then like accept.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
It or don't.
Speaker 5 (32:59):
But I think the things kind of naturally come out
over time, and it depends on the situation or the
vibe that we're in. If we're working out, I'll be
more chill. If we're drinking, I'll be more loud. But
I'm not changing myself for the person. I guess I'm
changing myself more based off of the circumstances where we
are at that time. But he knows, like, you know,
I enjoy and I enjoy a drink, you know. But yeah,
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so don't ever abandon yourself because somebody might be like, oh,
I don't like that about you.
Speaker 2 (33:24):
That's weird.
Speaker 3 (33:26):
Yeah, are you nervous to get back into the dating scene.
Speaker 6 (33:28):
Oh yeah, I don't even know how to dress up
and like little all fancy.
Speaker 4 (33:34):
But that's not true. That's so why why do that?
Speaker 7 (33:39):
You know?
Speaker 6 (33:39):
Like if I get asked out on a date or
like we're going to a dinner, I don't go on
dinner dates. Like that's crazy to me, that idea, So, like,
I don't know why wait, you.
Speaker 4 (33:48):
Never he never took you out? Oh oh, we need
to elevate in twenty twenty five, do.
Speaker 2 (33:55):
You like to go out to eat?
Speaker 3 (33:56):
Of course, I want to do something cute and fancy.
Speaker 6 (34:00):
I always wanted to be wind and dine just hasn't
happened so like ever, maybe once or twice, but like.
Speaker 5 (34:07):
Like ever, face change was so cute. But I am
so excited for this chapter. Like I am so excited
for you to elevate the men that you attract and
get wind and dine because everyoneman deserves to experience at least.
Speaker 3 (34:20):
Us. I want to call my girls and be like, hey,
yeah I'm fit looking.
Speaker 4 (34:24):
Yeah, you're out of that situation because that's what you deserve.
And if this is something that you expressed that you
like and it still didn't happen, there's another nigga that
will do that for you ten times.
Speaker 2 (34:36):
What kind of dates did you guys go?
Speaker 3 (34:37):
Did you?
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Did you go on dates at all?
Speaker 6 (34:39):
We are so comfortable. We would door dash and watch
movies and get faded.
Speaker 3 (34:46):
That was like our night.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
That's fun every now and again.
Speaker 4 (34:49):
But you expressed, hey, I want to go out, I
want to be cute, and it just never.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
I want to go skating.
Speaker 6 (34:54):
Talked about a lot, but like there is no like
action being put into play.
Speaker 4 (34:59):
Also, like they're twenty three, twenty four, you're twenty three, right, oh,
Like she's mad.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
Young, So like getting that.
Speaker 4 (35:07):
How did she think he is?
Speaker 5 (35:08):
That's why she was like he's thirty six, like he's
pushing forty to her.
Speaker 4 (35:14):
That's mad, all not mad, but also like I don't
know what his financial situation is, but I know when
a guy is not where he is in life, and
probably at twenty three he's not. He doesn't have the
money to take you to catch you know what I
mean is have the money.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
To take you to like this place in this place.
Speaker 5 (35:32):
But I agree, Like you don't have to spend like
three hundred dollars on dinner for me, you do, but
you know he's not three hundred dollars on dinner, but like.
Speaker 4 (35:39):
A movie three hundred on our own.
Speaker 5 (35:41):
Okay, if I'm doing it for myself, you're doing it
for me too. Okay, that's first of all. But yeah,
our checks be thrown anyway. Listen, you could spend twenty
dollars on a movie.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
We could go bowling for whatever, Like there's.
Speaker 5 (35:53):
Twenty three year old things to do in LA for
a good budget. And you for me if you do
not take me out and show me off, that's crazy
work to me, Like I am way too cute to
be in the house and you are too. So you're
only twenty three, you'll learn I was the same way
at your age. I just I can't believe you're twenty three.
What a great age, what a great time?
Speaker 3 (36:10):
In twenty four next month though, I love that.
Speaker 4 (36:16):
Well, yeah, we're excited for this new chapter for you,
and it's gonna be fun. And we'll help you get
dressed for your dates when you're ready for them.
Speaker 5 (36:24):
Will give you some petty things to do to them
as well. So petty things, petty award?
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Will you give me your superya?
Speaker 4 (36:34):
What are the week? Okay? Justin mother fucking.
Speaker 5 (36:37):
Bieber, we say how that's the album of the year already.
I'm obsessed.
Speaker 4 (36:41):
All Bieber is back, and you know what's funny? Like
I was, I was not hating, but I was getting
on him for his crash outs. I was like, he
needs therapy. I was commenting on his pictures like it
went viral. I was like, you need therapy. He's been
doing a lot and that's radio personality. I should not
be doing that. But oh well, but I guess was
that all promo for this album? I don't know anyway,
(37:02):
So he just posted on his Instagram story. I want
to say not even like an hour ago. He posted
and deleted, but of course the blogs got it. He said, uh,
justice is served. I emptied the clip. This is the
only album that matters right now. This album is way
better than the at clips. At Clips is for bitter
grown men who collect cause dolls and shop at Keith
(37:25):
and Union. So Clips is a duo of Push a
t in Malice. They formed a you know, those two
rappers formed a hip hop group together. They released an
album the same day as justin Bieber. So that was
justin Bieber shading the fuck. It wasn't even shade. It
was complete like.
Speaker 2 (37:39):
This brown men.
Speaker 4 (37:41):
No, no, no, no, no no no. He didn't say that
grown sorry typo.
Speaker 3 (37:47):
Grown grown Grown.
Speaker 4 (37:51):
That would have been bad. He had been canceled. But
the fact that he tagged Clips and everything tag them
like said, your album is trash. Mind's the one that
you should be listening, Like, wow, petty is that.
Speaker 5 (38:03):
Is petty first of all, But the Clips have been
around since I was a little girl and grinding was
my ship. Like the Clips put respect on their name,
but your Tea and Drake like, don't do that.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
Don't do that to them.
Speaker 5 (38:14):
I like your album better Don't get me wrong, Justin
Bieber's album is that good, But Bieber be humble about it.
Speaker 2 (38:19):
Please them at the clips. Hey, they're not even your competition. Brother.
That's like two completely different types of music differ.
Speaker 5 (38:26):
But at the same time, put respect on Justin Bieber's name.
If you thought that he was going to drop an album,
if it was going to flap, you forgot who to fuck.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
Justin number.
Speaker 5 (38:36):
Remind you you know my mother fucking name, and I listen.
Speaker 4 (38:39):
I was reminded. I was reminded because I didn't expect that.
When I found out was it was crazy. Justin Bieber like,
I will listen to you smile, I smile. It's stuck
in the moment.
Speaker 2 (38:50):
But Justin Bieber will.
Speaker 5 (38:51):
Have me in a choke hold for the rest of
my life. And when he drops, it's always going to
be fired. Like his crash outs were a little bit distracting. Helly,
I wouldn't tell her to grow backbone, But at the
same time, that's Justin be Bair.
Speaker 4 (39:01):
I get it.
Speaker 5 (39:02):
But yeah, that was a little bit distracting. But if
it was promo, then genius period.
Speaker 3 (39:07):
He did his thing with that one.
Speaker 4 (39:09):
I was like, who is this on a hello, swat,
what's yours? Oh oh yeah, so Megan Megani's stallion. I
don't even know if it's petty, but she did it
to all the fans. She posted on her Instagram a
little bikini pick and only gave us one photo, the
opening photo of a man in the background. And I
(39:31):
think that had everyone in a choke hold. And she
only gave us that one. But I think it's confirmed
now that she's.
Speaker 3 (39:36):
In a relationship play Thompson.
Speaker 4 (39:39):
Yeah, you had a zoom in to see who the
man is, and honestly you couldn't even really see his face.
But you know, the internet sluse launches, like.
Speaker 5 (39:46):
Even La tried to like Soft Lunch her boyfriend. I
know whose hand that is?
Speaker 2 (39:49):
Girl.
Speaker 5 (39:49):
Oh, I can't say, you're on the microphone, but I
will tell you we get off the microphone. Oh, I know,
I know who yo man is. But yeah, I love
these soft launches, I really do.
Speaker 2 (39:58):
I can't. I'm gonna tell you off the three because
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (40:00):
Because my friend told me that his friend's date of
La La, and I'm like, oh, so I know his friend.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
I looked at the handle, like I'll be the one
that exposed it and viral.
Speaker 5 (40:08):
No, no, Dad, I don't want to tell you because
you're gonna be like anyway, did y'all I don't know
if y'all are on TikTok, but did y'all see that
whole thing about the fourth of July cookout where it
wasn't a party but a gathering of people that knew
each other.
Speaker 2 (40:22):
And this woman came.
Speaker 5 (40:23):
She was invited to this cookout by her son's best friend.
She goes to the cookout and she's in the kitchen
trying to drop off her annie pasta dish, and they
reacted like, who the fuck are you? Like, didn't introduce themselves,
and they saw her in the kitchen. They walked outside
and started to talk about her and then told her
that she had to leave the cookout because nobody knows
who the hell she is.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
Oh, you didn't see this, I did.
Speaker 5 (40:43):
And after she got kicked out, she posted on her TikTok.
She was really upset about it, and it went viral,
and now the family's defending themselves for how they acted
for a stranger being in their house.
Speaker 7 (40:54):
And eh, I'm not I mean person. My husband is
on a mean person. We are not many people. Neither's
my mother, and we simply did not know who this
person was that come into our house unannounced to not
a party. Let's clarify, this was not a party. This
was a did together people who knew each other, okay,
And just because we didn't know he doesn't means she
couldn't have stayed hung out. We didn't want nun an house, okay,
and there's nothing wrong with that. So to you people
that are getting on TikTok and all my social media
(41:15):
first of all, or my husband or another law SSUs
for so on and trying to bully us, I don't care.
I really don't because you don't know the story. You
weren't here, and for you to feel like you have
to behind the phone to bully somebody else that you
don't even know about, that says a lot about you,
not me. And one more thing, we did apologize. My
husband did call her directly and apologized to her. And
she didn't want accept that answer, Okay, she didn't want
accept that were sorry that we hurt her feelings. She
wanted to get on TikTok and use it to her
advantage and trying to make us look like back people,
and then have half the world or so forth. So on, hey,
(41:36):
us two to get into the rewards program.
Speaker 5 (41:39):
Seriously, all right, first of all, can you explain the
difference between a party and a gathering of people that
know each other?
Speaker 4 (41:45):
There is none?
Speaker 2 (41:46):
Oh okay?
Speaker 5 (41:47):
And gettting somebody out of your house that you didn't Now, Kaylee,
you're somebody who asked house parties all the time.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
That's not my jam, but that's your jam.
Speaker 5 (41:54):
So if somebody that you didn't know was in your
house with the great dish of beautiful antipasta, not to
sh shape your opinion in any way, shape or form, are.
Speaker 2 (42:02):
You going to be like get the fuck out?
Speaker 7 (42:04):
Right?
Speaker 4 (42:04):
Did you know how many times that happened our friends giving,
there was like hell of people I didn't know that
they came from because they were a friend of a
friend of a friend, and of course they of course
came to me and introduced themselves or I would say, hey,
who are you welcome? But like I would never humiliate
somebody like that and actually tell them to get out,
you know. Yeah, that's if it's somebody that you really
don't want in your house, that's something that you say
(42:24):
to their mutual friend later, right, but not in front
of everybody else so mussed up.
Speaker 6 (42:29):
She really put that work in. She even brought food.
She didn't come back handed, like, yeah, I would eat
that Boston in my car crying if she left the pasta.
Speaker 5 (42:40):
She said she left the pasta.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
It was small town behavior.
Speaker 5 (42:44):
And I think this family's last name is Hicks, which
is my family's last name too.
Speaker 2 (42:48):
But they apparently are really known in the area. And
now the.
Speaker 5 (42:51):
Cops are harassing this woman like because I guess it's
a small town and that they have power, but not
the power of the internet, because the Internet is backing
up the woman who is kicked out as we should.
But that's my petty award that woman that did that bullshit.
Speaker 3 (43:04):
So who does it go to?
Speaker 2 (43:07):
Let me give it to Justin Bieber Hey, hey.
Speaker 4 (43:09):
Yeah, I'll think it was Justin Bieber too. Justin Bieber.
Speaker 3 (43:14):
Paid, yeah yeah pay Hey, just.
Speaker 5 (43:29):
All right now trying to get into petty mail. Hey, Kayla, Kayla,
and Jordan. I've been dating my guy for the last
four months. It's been great. He's forty and I'm thirty four.
I also knew he was divorced and kept some contact
with his ex since she kept the dog, but supposedly
there was very little contact. Yesterday, I was talking about
the Kincinneada dresses. I was talking about Kenciniada dresses and
(43:51):
the cost. Then he can see idea that he was
going to reach out to his ex to see how
much he paid for the wedding dress. I never asked
and ignored it. I never asked and ignored it. Later
that evening, we were driving and his message comes up
on the screen. He says, that was his ex and
he asked about the wedding dress cost. I was fine
before with him checking in on the dog, but this
(44:15):
rubbed me the wrong way.
Speaker 2 (44:16):
Am I wrong? I think it's really weird that he
did that.
Speaker 4 (44:19):
Why of all people, he had asked his ex? Yeah,
well it's free.
Speaker 5 (44:24):
Yeah, And I mean I get staying in contact over children.
Speaker 2 (44:27):
Sure, dogs, Bro, what y'all gotta talk about that dog? Forget?
Speaker 5 (44:32):
Let's get a new dog together. Baby, you have got
a new chapter in life. Like that's not a thing
for me. So it seems like he has a little
bit too much connection to his his ex wife.
Speaker 2 (44:42):
Still and you've for four months. Yeah, I think I
see where his heart is.
Speaker 4 (44:49):
Yeah, I don't know. I've been talking to a lot
of people recently about boundaries when it comes to exes
and friends and just stay it up front, what your
boundaries are when you can and won't allow, and then
what you will allow, and so that way later on
in the relationship. It's not coming up.
Speaker 5 (45:08):
Yeah, and four months is still kind of you guys
are still get to know each other. I guess it's
been great. This is the only issue. I feel like
maybe you guys can just talk about it and you
could say where you're uncomfortable, because he probably is new
to be in a relationship and just trying to figure
it out.
Speaker 3 (45:20):
True. Yeah, maybe his ex was the only person that
answered the phone.
Speaker 4 (45:26):
No, Google is free.
Speaker 2 (45:28):
That all right?
Speaker 5 (45:31):
Well, all right, leave him alone? Are you telling her
to leave him alone?
Speaker 2 (45:35):
Yeah? You too?
Speaker 3 (45:37):
Conversation first, Okay, all right, well.
Speaker 5 (45:40):
Let us know what you think. Give us a follow
at the Pettish podcast. Follow me at the Kayla Austin.
Speaker 3 (45:45):
Kayla Thomas forty Jordan Jackson with three ends. That's right.
Speaker 4 (45:48):
Hav a good weekend, guys, See you next week.
Speaker 1 (45:51):
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