August 21, 2025 • 29 mins
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In this episode KT and Kayla discuss the changing of friendships, moving differently with people and goals they have for themselves for the rest of 2025. Enjoy!
In this episode KT and Kayla discuss the changing of friendships, moving differently with people and goals they have for themselves for the rest of 2025. Enjoy!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Petty Ish Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Welcome back to another episode of Petty Ish. I'm Kayla,
I'm Kayla, and it has been a week. Yes, it
has been a week. When we are here, you look amazing,
you look beautiful.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
You look beautiful. Now you've been clubbing? Girl?
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Are you? Are you?
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Are you in your twenties again?
Speaker 4 (00:28):
No?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Okay, listen you twenties. That was for one day, nice
and I will not do it again because I still
feel sick. And that was like three days ago.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
What club do you go to?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I don't know, Jordan. You guys are our producer, Jordan.
She wanted to go to l Shitty It's in Hollywood,
and I wasn't gonna go because before that, I was
at another bar because my friend was playing like her
band was playing there. Oh I saw yeah, and she
was like she's always been like killa, you never you
never come like and it's always because something always comes
up or I work or something. And so I was
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like I need to go to this and support her.
So me and my other friend went and that was
a good time. And then you know me, at this time,
at this age, at ten o'clock, I'm trying to go home,
but I was like, Jordan always shows up. She's always
out all my parties, she does our social media. This
is her birthday. I'm a big birthday person. Let me
just go. It's a fucking club. I can just go
for a second whatever. I went, and it was a
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lot of fun, it looked like but everybody was buying
me shots and shit. So so yeah here I am
mus stomach so fucked up. But yeah, so one and done,
no more.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
It looks fun. I went to the movie twice this week.
I saw weapons. Did you see the commercial for that?
Speaker 2 (01:32):
The little kids that are running around.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Like it is exactly?
Speaker 5 (01:35):
I saw it with my my bestie, and I saw
it again with my sister and.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I heard it was better than Sinners.
Speaker 5 (01:42):
That's just okay, falls like I feel like I was underwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
I was super under Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
The first person that I hear saying, I.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Know everybody is a sheep.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
Like it was no twisting turns, pretty cut and dry.
I mean it was a lot of jumpy parts. It
was scary, but the storyline as a whole.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
I wasn't a fan, but you should see it.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Okay, because I was going to. But then now I'm like,
should I just wait? Till it comes out on Netflix
or something.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
You might enjoy it.
Speaker 5 (02:09):
My sister said she liked it more than I portrayed
it to be, so maybe you would like it, but
I was not a fan. Did you have any time
to do anything petty this week?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
The only petty thing that I kind of did it
wasn't even really petty. I needed to do this for
my mental health. And this is get into what we
want to talk about later about just like protecting your
peace and just you know, starting fresh. The guy that
I used to talk to about like three months ago,
I finally like unfollowed him. He popped up on my
timeline and I was like, why do I still follow him?
And I think, like, usually you know me, when I'm
(02:40):
done with somebody is blockation.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
That's say.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I think like we ended on okay terms. There's no
bad blood, it is what it is. He just is
a shitty person when it comes to dating and whatever.
He admitted that that we went our separate ways, So
I think I like, I still kept like following him
because I didn't want it to seem like I was
upset or anything or bitter, you know what I mean,
Because sometimes unfollowing can come off as like, oh she mad,
(03:05):
But I was never mad. I really don't care. I
never really wanted to date him anyway. He wasn't all
that great. But I unfollowed him today and I removed
him as a follow because I don't want himollowing me
because sometimes when I'm not like when I'm not talking
to a guy anymore, like I don't want to think,
or is he looking at my stuff? Is he you know,
like if he sees some one of my posts pop up?
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What is he thinking?
Speaker 3 (03:28):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Like I don't want to ever consider that, and not
that that was the case. But he did pop up
on my timeline for the first time in like a
long time, and I was like, why the why why
do I still follow him? Like there's no I will
never see him again, I will never talk to him again.
I don't care to have him in my life. He
was a non factor. Unfollow and you don't get to
see anything of.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Mine either, period.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
But not blocked nine, Okay, I respect that I had
something Petty done to me, and I feel like that's
going to also get into our roundtables talk.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
So I'll say, Petty is our listener's done? And then
I'll let you know what happened to me this week.
Speaker 5 (04:03):
Okay, so our listeners, I gave the social media number
of my abusive ex to a homeless guy.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
I changed two lives in one day.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
Stah that well if he was abusive, right right, lies
in one day.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I love that this troll.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
This troll comments mean things to on all of my videos.
I DMed her husband and asked him out on a date,
and he agreed. I sent her the screenshots of our
messages and told her if she does it again, I'm
going to sleep with it. If she blocked me, dang,
if your husband is that easily like swayed by a
woman on social media just asking for it, Like that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
That is crazy.
Speaker 5 (04:41):
But that also tells me why you're being a troll,
because you're not happy because your husband is so gettable?
Speaker 2 (04:46):
That's Ain't that the truth? Because I'm gonna say this
just because like a lot of my videos have gone
viral and people have said things about me as well,
like oh why she why is her mouth so big?
And I truly believe and like at this when I'm
used to it, but at this point, I truly believe
people who like go and bully people on her comments
truly are like so unhappy with their life. They got
(05:08):
probably got something going on that they are They're just projecting, right.
I don't even take it seriously anyway, Moore. Before I
would like literally cry.
Speaker 5 (05:15):
Right, But now you see the type of people that
are doing it exactly miserable.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Last one I found out my situationship is sleeping with
someone else. I slept with someone else and took a video.
When I saw my situationship, I told him to look
at my camera roll for a screenshot, just so he
could see the video evidence. Okay, I love the pettiness. Yes,
please get into.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Your petty thing.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
I had something kind of petty done to me. So
I went out with a friend that I haven't seen
in such a long time, and we just were having
super raw conversation. She confided in me about some things
that I would never repeat. I thought I could confide
in her as well. And we recently had something happen
within our friend group where two friends no longer friends anymore.
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I took the side of one of the friends, and
I told this other friend when we were at lunch, like,
you know, I kind of side with the other friend,
but this is a safe space, right She confirmed it
was a safe space. The next thing I know, two
days later, I no longer have the other friend's location,
I have my text messages being ignored, and I can
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no longer see the girls Instagram stories. We still follow
each other, but she just clearly blocked me and my
sister when stories. I'm just like, oh, okay, all right,
So I just feel One, if it was me and
I was offended by something that this friend who cut
me off had said, it would definitely be a conversation
because I just held her to such a high esteem,
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like there was so much love there. I don't move
like that with people I love or my friends. Right
and two, like I just don't even want to talk
to the front I confide it in anymore, Like I
don't trust you.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
You're not a safe space.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
So you don't feel the need to confront her, like, hey,
did you say something? Did you break our trust?
Speaker 3 (06:56):
And I think the proof is in the pudding, Like
it's obvious what you did.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
And I guess I'm talking like, oh, I would give
this personal conversation, but her actions don't really deserve much
of a conversation from me.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
And you know, what you did and right, cool.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I think I am also in the era of just
letting things go. And I don't know if it's maybe
because we're just getting older, I'm maturing, but I think
I'm really scarce with my time and who my energy
and who I give a conversation to and if things
bother me. Is it worth, you know, reaching out? Is
it worth the confrontation? Is it worth all that stuff?
(07:32):
And so maybe you're just realizing like it's not. Was
the friendship not like worthy enough of a conversa? Okay,
because you guys were friends for years.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
I feel like I think now I definitely like it's
just I feel like I don't know you. I feel
like that's not something the person I thought you weren't
in my mind, would have done. So I don't really
feel like I got to give you that, right. It's
kind of like, wow, okay.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
See you, but you haven't gotten confirmation exactly that this
is the person. This person said something to this just
the context clues.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Context clues.
Speaker 5 (08:04):
I hung out with this one girl two days ago,
we had the conversation, and.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Then a two days later, and you just put together.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
Exactly, yeah, exactly. So it's a little hurtful.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
It's heartbreaking.
Speaker 5 (08:16):
It's I'm more hurt broken by the friend that that
cut me off, Like again, like this is somebody I
genuinely loved, Like I wish you would give me a conversation.
But at the same time, you know, I don't beg
people to be my friends, like okay, and I and
I do think that you weren't right in the situation.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
And if I can't say that without being cut.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Off, and did you already say that to her so
many words?
Speaker 5 (08:36):
Like I think that it's worth more than whatever you're
giving it. I think that you know people are going
to do things like whatever I said, Like I I
didn't let her know, like girl, you write protect your piece,
like I didn't say that.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Let me check and see if I'm blood.
Speaker 5 (08:50):
Girl Maybe maybe girl to community. She took got my
whole community child day.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I mean, yeah, I'm sorry. There's nothing worse than friendship breakups.
They hurt just as much as real relationships as well,
and especially when it comes out of the blue, Yeah
you know, something that you weren't expecting. And also when
trust was broken, like I don't think that was fair
because knowing you, you never talked shit if you were
saying something, it was never out of like malice of like,
(09:19):
it was like just stating your opinion because you were
in the middle of this situation and you didn't ask
for two of your close friends to be beefing, you know,
so it's kind of they both put you in a
hard spot essentially.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
Yeah, And I try to navigate it separately as best
I could, But it'd be unrealistic to think that I
wouldn't have an opinion about the overall situation. And if
my opinion doesn't align with what you agree with, then
I don't need to be in your life.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
It's crazy work. That's crazy work and.
Speaker 5 (09:47):
Also accepted, I suppose, like, all right, yeah, this new
reality is accepted. But I'm not necessarily used to friendship breakups.
Like I probably lost maybe two friends in a span
of ten years. The first one nine and give a
fuck about she Listen, I'll give a fuck.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
The second friend. Oh my god?
Speaker 5 (10:03):
Whoa Like, oh wow, all right, but you've experienced some
friend breakups to some disappointments.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
Yeah, I mean it does especially I don't know if
it's la or what, but I experienced two right as
it was two here. Yeah, and most recently. I mean,
you know the situation. This girl like just I don't
know she she I was warned about her, and I
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was told, like, you know, this is somebody that you
don't want to be around. This is somebody that you
don't want in your life. Run by my mentor by
my co workers, like so many people were like, Yokayla,
she's not a good person. She's mean, she is a
cloud chaser, she's this, she's this. I heard she's I
want to get into her. She's just not a great
person and she's going to backstab you.
Speaker 5 (10:50):
And the first time I met her because you was
we went over your house for one of the things
for the weekend.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 5 (10:56):
She was a little bit like attitude toward me, Like
it was like at a like I don't know what
she was doing, but she was just kind of taking
passive aggressive shots or like subtle jabs. And I didn't
feed into it because I'm a happy person and I
don't give it towards you were other people to me.
For me, I remember you were like, cause I peeped it.
I didn't think these girls were going to like each other.
Like she was doing something like over complimenting my sister, Like,
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you're so quiet, what's your sign? I like, how peacefully
you are because you I'm not really quiet or chill.
I think that was like a subtle dig at me
for like I don't know coming in and being talked to.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
When you told me that, I thought she was saying
things to you about other people at my party.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
Not happing. That happened to me.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
So I mean she gives off this energy that's just
like mean, I'm better than everybody. And I like getting
to know her, Like I know where that comes from.
It comes from trauma, and she doesn't necessarily mean it,
and this is meant giving her the benefit of doubt.
But like her her appearance when you first meet her,
it's just so hard and like not inviting and not warm,
and I'm the exact opposite. And but also then you
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tell me that she's sitting at my party and she's
like whispering things in your ear and talking about my
other guests, Like I don't really like that either, And
then people come to me after the party talking about
like yo, like she is just like what is up
with her? Why is she like this? Like she is
a standoffice, she's rude, d d DA whatever. But I
saw a different side of her. She started inviting me
to church, and I, you know, really got to know
her for who she is, and I really liked the
(12:19):
aspect that we could pray together and that she was
encouraging me to with my walk in the Lord. And
I was like, wow, like, I'm seeing a different side
of her because she is at rock bottom right now.
She had lost her job, she had lost all her friends,
and the old her that everybody else knew to be
like this bitch and this evil person was no longer
there because she lost it all, and so she's rebuilding,
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and so I was there for that rebuilding phase, and
I was like, you know what, I'm gonna give her
a chance because there's probably narratives about me, but like,
I would want people to give me a chance, a
clean slate. So that's exactly what I did. And in
the end, I was burned.
Speaker 5 (12:51):
And you know what, her nice side was really really
nice once you get past that exteriors, Like, wow, this
girl is a real pleasure to be around. So it's
super unfortunate that you get calm in that. I don't
want to call it a facade. Maybe the good side
of her. But I guess the bad side is always
going to come out, the side that people are warning
you about.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Right, I mean, I just like she just would latch
on to me. I could also tell that she wanted
to get in with my job and stuff like that
and get back into the industry. And I didn't really
know what was authentic. But she was just very very
She was just a lot, like a lot clinging and like, well,
I mean, we stop being friends because she went out
on a date with the guy that I expressed interest
in and then told her I like, so, I mean,
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we don't even get he needs to get into the
nitty gritty. It's so irrelevant because we had both met
that guy just recently. You know it. It's a random
n a random night out. But she completely betrayed my trust.
She knows what she did. She tried to turn it
back on me and said, well, he didn't even like you.
He didn't even care to cater to you all night.
Speaker 5 (13:47):
That's just like, even if there's a misunderstanding where okay,
we're both interested in the same guy on a random
night out, I would never put you down in order
to make you feel like your feelings aren't justified to
have it. Feelings for this guy in mine are like,
that's just red flag.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Right, she just went off went off with me. I
don't know. And then I just but I just decided,
you know what, you know what, I don't want to
be your friend anymore. I'm good off this relationship. Like
I'm okay, you didn't.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
Seem hurt by that. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
I wasn't I be pulling away from her anyway, because
she's just a lot and so draining and exhausting and
so yeah, I truly don't. I truly didn't care. And
again I put my reputation on the line being around her, right,
and like she would always wonder why I wouldn't repost,
repost her stories and stuff like that. I truly didn't
want people to know that I was hanging out with her. Wow,
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Like I hate to say that, I truly hate to
say that, but like she just was she was just
negative energy all the time. So when this ended, I
was like, I was just waiting for the ticking time
bomb and I didn't care. We don't even friends like
six months. I was like, I think I'm good off you, right,
And she didn't take that well, d But I say
all this to say, like it's just life that what
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we're going through, you know, it happens, and you know
you lose friends, you gain friends, but also it's important
to you know, be careful with your energy.
Speaker 5 (15:06):
And we're more than halfway through the year, right, and
we've both both been burned in friendships this year, relationships,
job opportunities.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
I'm sure more or less.
Speaker 5 (15:17):
What are things that you want to change or implement
going forward for the next five four months of the year.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Well, I definitely like I'm gonna this has been a
very hard month for me, and we all know it's
because the majority I was sick, right, and so that
just took a toll of my mental health. And so
in doing that, I realized, like I just need to
be more scarce with my time and my energy. And
I think like I have always been a people plaser
and been obsessed with being liked right, and I've gotten
out of that as I gotten older, But I'm always
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like doing things for people, right and Minchu. When I
got sick, my tribe showed up for me, like the
people who love me came through for me. But I
do realize that I'm always like, Hey, do you want
to do this? Hey, come with me to this. Oh,
let's go here, like inviting everyone everywhere, Oh you want
to go to dance class, you want to do this,
but nobody, Like certain people never reach out to me,
(16:05):
didn't reach out to me when I was sick, don't
invite me places, don't even call to check in on me.
Why am I continuously inviting certain people to do things
with me and to have a good time when if
the roles, the roles aren't never reversed, it's like a
one sided friendship. So I just I think going forward,
I think I'm just going to be treasure the friendships
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that are equal and equal and not one sided, and
focus on those. And if that means you don't hear
from me, that's fine. Like one person reached out to me, like,
i'n't heard from you in a long time, Well, why
didn't you reach out to me? Why am I always
the one to do you know what I mean? And
so I think I'm just going to be more intentional
with the people who like, do show up for me,
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do actually text me, invite me places?
Speaker 3 (16:51):
You know?
Speaker 5 (16:52):
So I think that's that's important. One sided friendships are
so exhausting. You don't realize it until you take your
energy away and you're like, wait, how come I'm not
getting any This reciprocated to that point. I also have
been in the space of just protecting my space. I
haven't really left the house at all this week, to
be honest, barely left my room.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
I've dived into books. I got like six new books.
I just want to read. I just want to journal.
Speaker 5 (17:16):
I just want to get back in touch with myself
because one thing that this has taught me is people
are experiences, not possessions, which I think I've said before,
and I gotta appreciate what I do experience with people
without allowing it to take from me if that person
ever decides to move in a way that I wasn't anticipating.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
I'm just in the.
Speaker 5 (17:34):
Space of protecting myself, protecting this light that I am
in the world, and appreciating the people that appreciate that,
and not treating me as though I'm disposable, because that's
so hurtful.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Yes, Kayla, you are an amazing friend. You always thank you,
you always show up. Like I know, I keep talking
about this, but the day I found out I got
cheated on and like how you just wrap your arms
around me and continue to do so, Like that's was
a moment that I realized that you were a great friend.
And I know how you are with all your other friends.
I mean, you take care of your your other best
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friends like done, like you know, you always show for
the people. And then the two girls that in this situation,
you were great friends to them, you know, And so
the fact that this could have been solved with a conversation,
which also is crazy to me because I didn't even
know those two were close.
Speaker 5 (18:21):
Yeah they are, they are, and it's damn yeah, just
super unfortunate, man, It's super unfortunate.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Well, I hope this doesn't like dim your light and
also make you feel bad about yourself in the way
that you are a friend to other people. This just
literally happens. Take it from somebody who knows it. Just
it literally happens.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
You know.
Speaker 5 (18:39):
That's why I'm song didn't do anything wrong. That's why
I don't take friendship too lightly. That's why I have
a trial here before I let you in, because I
don't like this feeling of being so hurt. Like even
this this week, I got invited to an amazing event,
and I didn't go because I had no friends to
go with.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
You did have friends. Everybody was just busy. Well it
was on a week day.
Speaker 3 (19:01):
No, I know you're a busy girl.
Speaker 4 (19:02):
No.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
I don't want you to think that about yourself too,
because I would get in that mental state too. It's like, oh,
I don't have anybody. But the thing is like, you
know you do have people.
Speaker 5 (19:10):
Yeah, you're right, you're right, but but but I when
I first moved here, I was more much more confident
of just like going out by myself and exploring La
with just myself and really gaining a really strong relationship
myself and then finding such an.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Amazing community here.
Speaker 5 (19:24):
I've kind of lost that strength that I've had because
give that opportunity to me about three years ago, I
would have went by myself, no, no questions asked. Everybody
was there, girl Magic Johnson's kill O'Neil.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Like everyone he was there.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
Whatever, neither hear nor there.
Speaker 5 (19:39):
So yeah, So I'm just trying to get that relationship
back with myself again because I'm getting wrapped up in
this relationship. I'm getting wrapped up in friendships falling apart,
and I'm just forgetting like what's your relationship with yourself?
And I think that that's what I need to work on.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
I think this is a great time to just stop
pause and you can still nurture and water those friendships
and the relationship that you're in, but also make yourself
more of a priority these next few months, you know,
and like it's exactly what you're doing. You're diving into
reading and what else do you like to do? You know,
like think about that. I started taking myself out on
weekly dates. So after I go to pilates on Wednesdays,
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I'll go to urban cafe and I look forward to
that time where I can just sit outside with my salad,
on my phone on TikTok, and it's like a time
of self care for me. Maybe you just you need
something like that, but also just remember that this is
just life and that's how it goes. And unfortunately and
maybe these friendship will come back, you never know.
Speaker 5 (20:34):
I feel kind of good. I'm kind of good once
people treat me that way, I'm kind of good. I
don't like to be treated that way.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
M M. So I'm good.
Speaker 5 (20:41):
But I will say I definitely think that you and
I should just have like more ent happy hour at
least bi weekly or.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
Something just to vent.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
Yeah, that healthy time, so I don't get too captivated
in just I only have myself in this world.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
No, girl, you know you always have me, and like
I know, our lives are been so busy and you
have so many opportunities coming. I mean, I'm just fucking
proud of you. Like it's like every time I turn around,
you were with fucking John Sally that was I say this, No.
Speaker 5 (21:07):
But it's okay, but listen, Yeah, it's all good and
the same with you. Like I just I love seeing
your growth. I love seeing the verification.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Because we got we got new things on the horizon miss.
Speaker 4 (21:19):
Blue Check.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
And does period.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Officialists fuck and more things coming. I'm just so proud
of y'all both out here. I love you.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Girl.
Speaker 5 (21:31):
Did you see what Cameron did to freaking Omar Gooding?
Speaker 2 (21:35):
No I didn't, Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (21:36):
So Omar Gooding is Cuba Gooding Junior's brother, and apparently
Cameron called Omar Gooding Omar Gooding Junior. He got really
upset about it, apparently, and Cameron did the pettiest.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Thing that being said, I want to start off with
this donkey right here. Omar Good. He's a dickhead, all right.
So for the people that don't know, I said something
about Omar Goodding a while ago. I did this, right.
I was talking about the B class actors, how they
don't get paid a lot and they got to sit
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around and make wait for a director somebody to call him,
and they don't did a lot of films. And I
was like, I felt bad for them. And I called
him Omar good and Junior by accident because his brother's
Cuba good In Junior, and I was like, he got
mad about He's like, y'ah, ain't no fucking Junior, and
I'm like, damn, I forgot. I'm sorry. So he went
(22:30):
out and did three records this and me and I
was like, yo, dude, what is this about. I don't
understand what it's about. So I got a new thing
now that I'm doing. It's called book My Ops. And
what I did was this, I know somebody that know
somebody that know him, And I'm like, yo, how much
(22:50):
he charged you for a day to shoot a movie?
He said, he charged me like twelve hundred dollars. And
but you know, I could probably tell him you need
a fair I said, tell him I need a fait
a time. We got three thousand dollars for him, so
my man called the nigga that knew him, and I
booked the nigga and he came to shoot a scene
for a movie for three thousand could have gotten for
(23:11):
fifty hundred. I gave him a bonus for three thousand dollars.
And it's no movie coming out, but I got the
footage and I got the paperwork, and you signing off
on me posting this today. So everybody's gonna see Omar
Goundon right now in a minute, shooting a scene for
a movie that's never coming out. Because I was bored.
Speaker 5 (23:33):
I didn't have nothing, so push ups with his shirt
off and him laughing at them.
Speaker 3 (23:39):
They were watching the videos.
Speaker 5 (23:41):
He's very cute. Cameron or Cameron, Oh my gods, I
love that. I love Fine as well. Okay girl and Patty.
So yeah, you booked him for a movie that's never
coming out.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
That's hilarious. Okay, I'm giving mine a little tay uh. Basically,
she said that women over twenty five who have nine
to five still our failures.
Speaker 6 (24:02):
If you're over the age of twenty five and you're
still working in nine to five, you are a failure.
Like by then you should have already made your bag,
and ladies, every single one of you should drop the
link like me, Like.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Just literally just make your bag.
Speaker 4 (24:15):
Who gives a fuck?
Speaker 6 (24:17):
What anybody thinks?
Speaker 4 (24:18):
Screer family.
Speaker 6 (24:18):
My family kicked me out, I got disowned. They don't
talk to anymore, they don't me, But who gives a
I can literally buy their whole life if I wanted to.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
I can't stand that low girl until she died, she
came back. Okay, I think Cameron gets it, because Wow,
booking a whole movie thing that doesn't exist.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
And making this take a shirt off and do push
ups is crazy. Work.
Speaker 5 (24:41):
Book in my ops, I'm gonna give it a camera
and watch that theories.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Wait, where is that? Where can I find that.
Speaker 3 (24:47):
Book in my ops dot com? I made that up
book in my house?
Speaker 4 (24:52):
Yeah yeah, okay, camera.
Speaker 5 (25:06):
Now let's get into some petty mail Hikayla and Kayla.
I need your brutal honesty, your brutal honesty, possibly petty wisdom.
I have a friend, will call her Jess, who I
love dearly, but lately our friendship feels one sided. Every
time we talk. It's a full on emotional download from her.
Her job is stressed with her boyfriend's annoying, her cat
has seasonal depression, and somehow I become the go to
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support hotline. The thing is, I'm happy to be there
for her. That's what friends do, right, But when I
try to share my stuff, like even a mild inconvenience,
she either changes the subject or says like ugh, that's wild,
then pivots back to her issues. It's like a friendship monologue,
not a conversation. So here's the petty question. Am I
being too sensitive or for wanting some reciprocity? Do I
(25:49):
gently say something? Or do I just start change charging
charging her cope? Is this a friendship or a part time, unplayed,
unpaid counseling.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Gig lord, have mer thanks?
Speaker 3 (26:00):
Feeling used and emotionally.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Dreamed, definitely say something. You know, this is what we
were just talking about this whole episode. It's like friendships
should not be one sided. It should be fifty to fifty.
Both people should be putting equal amount of effort. And
it doesn't even seem like she cares about your problems,
So she really even care about you? So I think
it's worth a conversation once. You shouldn't have to tell
somebody how to treat you multiple times or how to
be a friend multiple times. So it's a hey, like
(26:23):
I have a you haven't really been, you know, there
for me in the way that I would like you
to something like that, and if it doesn't change, then
it's a rat for the friend.
Speaker 5 (26:32):
Yeah, because I don't like that draining my energy and
just taking all the having me fill your cup and
then just walking away with your cup full while I'm dreaming.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
So exactly, yeah, exactly what Kayla said. No, no, no.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Notes, yep, all right, what do you got coming up
this week?
Speaker 3 (26:44):
She's session my mental flight together. Life's crazy. Yeah, I'm
going through.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
A girl pray for Kayla. I mean, I have a
pretty easy week, but me and Kayla are gonna maybe
next weekend, we're definitely gonna catch up. We're gonna have
some Kayla and Kayla time.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
We need it.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
But we love you guys. Thank you as always for supporting.
Make sure you like common, subscribe, share the podcast, let
us know what you want to hear, and we'll talk
to you next week.
Speaker 3 (27:08):
Bye bye t
The Petty Ish Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Welcome back to another episode of Petty Ish. I'm Kayla,
I'm Kayla, and it has been a week. Yes, it
has been a week. When we are here, you look amazing,
you look beautiful.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
You look beautiful. Now you've been clubbing? Girl?
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Are you? Are you?
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Are you in your twenties again?
Speaker 4 (00:28):
No?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Okay, listen you twenties. That was for one day, nice
and I will not do it again because I still
feel sick. And that was like three days ago.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
What club do you go to?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I don't know, Jordan. You guys are our producer, Jordan.
She wanted to go to l Shitty It's in Hollywood,
and I wasn't gonna go because before that, I was
at another bar because my friend was playing like her
band was playing there. Oh I saw yeah, and she
was like she's always been like killa, you never you
never come like and it's always because something always comes
up or I work or something. And so I was
(00:57):
like I need to go to this and support her.
So me and my other friend went and that was
a good time. And then you know me, at this time,
at this age, at ten o'clock, I'm trying to go home,
but I was like, Jordan always shows up. She's always
out all my parties, she does our social media. This
is her birthday. I'm a big birthday person. Let me
just go. It's a fucking club. I can just go
for a second whatever. I went, and it was a
(01:18):
lot of fun, it looked like but everybody was buying
me shots and shit. So so yeah here I am
mus stomach so fucked up. But yeah, so one and done,
no more.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
It looks fun. I went to the movie twice this week.
I saw weapons. Did you see the commercial for that?
Speaker 2 (01:32):
The little kids that are running around.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Like it is exactly?
Speaker 5 (01:35):
I saw it with my my bestie, and I saw
it again with my sister and.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
I heard it was better than Sinners.
Speaker 5 (01:42):
That's just okay, falls like I feel like I was underwhelmed.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
I was super under Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
The first person that I hear saying, I.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
Know everybody is a sheep.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
Like it was no twisting turns, pretty cut and dry.
I mean it was a lot of jumpy parts. It
was scary, but the storyline as a whole.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
I wasn't a fan, but you should see it.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Okay, because I was going to. But then now I'm like,
should I just wait? Till it comes out on Netflix
or something.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
You might enjoy it.
Speaker 5 (02:09):
My sister said she liked it more than I portrayed
it to be, so maybe you would like it, but
I was not a fan. Did you have any time
to do anything petty this week?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
The only petty thing that I kind of did it
wasn't even really petty. I needed to do this for
my mental health. And this is get into what we
want to talk about later about just like protecting your
peace and just you know, starting fresh. The guy that
I used to talk to about like three months ago,
I finally like unfollowed him. He popped up on my
timeline and I was like, why do I still follow him?
And I think, like, usually you know me, when I'm
(02:40):
done with somebody is blockation.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
That's say.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I think like we ended on okay terms. There's no
bad blood, it is what it is. He just is
a shitty person when it comes to dating and whatever.
He admitted that that we went our separate ways, So
I think I like, I still kept like following him
because I didn't want it to seem like I was
upset or anything or bitter, you know what I mean,
Because sometimes unfollowing can come off as like, oh she mad,
(03:05):
But I was never mad. I really don't care. I
never really wanted to date him anyway. He wasn't all
that great. But I unfollowed him today and I removed
him as a follow because I don't want himollowing me
because sometimes when I'm not like when I'm not talking
to a guy anymore, like I don't want to think,
or is he looking at my stuff? Is he you know,
like if he sees some one of my posts pop up?
(03:27):
What is he thinking?
Speaker 3 (03:28):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Like I don't want to ever consider that, and not
that that was the case. But he did pop up
on my timeline for the first time in like a
long time, and I was like, why the why why
do I still follow him? Like there's no I will
never see him again, I will never talk to him again.
I don't care to have him in my life. He
was a non factor. Unfollow and you don't get to
see anything of.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Mine either, period.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
But not blocked nine, Okay, I respect that I had
something Petty done to me, and I feel like that's
going to also get into our roundtables talk.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
So I'll say, Petty is our listener's done? And then
I'll let you know what happened to me this week.
Speaker 5 (04:03):
Okay, so our listeners, I gave the social media number
of my abusive ex to a homeless guy.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
I changed two lives in one day.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
Stah that well if he was abusive, right right, lies
in one day.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
I love that this troll.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
This troll comments mean things to on all of my videos.
I DMed her husband and asked him out on a date,
and he agreed. I sent her the screenshots of our
messages and told her if she does it again, I'm
going to sleep with it. If she blocked me, dang,
if your husband is that easily like swayed by a
woman on social media just asking for it, Like that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
That is crazy.
Speaker 5 (04:41):
But that also tells me why you're being a troll,
because you're not happy because your husband is so gettable?
Speaker 2 (04:46):
That's Ain't that the truth? Because I'm gonna say this
just because like a lot of my videos have gone
viral and people have said things about me as well,
like oh why she why is her mouth so big?
And I truly believe and like at this when I'm
used to it, but at this point, I truly believe
people who like go and bully people on her comments
truly are like so unhappy with their life. They got
(05:08):
probably got something going on that they are They're just projecting, right.
I don't even take it seriously anyway, Moore. Before I
would like literally cry.
Speaker 5 (05:15):
Right, But now you see the type of people that
are doing it exactly miserable.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Last one I found out my situationship is sleeping with
someone else. I slept with someone else and took a video.
When I saw my situationship, I told him to look
at my camera roll for a screenshot, just so he
could see the video evidence. Okay, I love the pettiness. Yes,
please get into.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Your petty thing.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
I had something kind of petty done to me. So
I went out with a friend that I haven't seen
in such a long time, and we just were having
super raw conversation. She confided in me about some things
that I would never repeat. I thought I could confide
in her as well. And we recently had something happen
within our friend group where two friends no longer friends anymore.
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I took the side of one of the friends, and
I told this other friend when we were at lunch, like,
you know, I kind of side with the other friend,
but this is a safe space, right She confirmed it
was a safe space. The next thing I know, two
days later, I no longer have the other friend's location,
I have my text messages being ignored, and I can
(06:18):
no longer see the girls Instagram stories. We still follow
each other, but she just clearly blocked me and my
sister when stories. I'm just like, oh, okay, all right,
So I just feel One, if it was me and
I was offended by something that this friend who cut
me off had said, it would definitely be a conversation
because I just held her to such a high esteem,
(06:39):
like there was so much love there. I don't move
like that with people I love or my friends. Right
and two, like I just don't even want to talk
to the front I confide it in anymore, Like I
don't trust you.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
You're not a safe space.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
So you don't feel the need to confront her, like, hey,
did you say something? Did you break our trust?
Speaker 3 (06:56):
And I think the proof is in the pudding, Like
it's obvious what you did.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
And I guess I'm talking like, oh, I would give
this personal conversation, but her actions don't really deserve much
of a conversation from me.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
And you know, what you did and right, cool.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
I think I am also in the era of just
letting things go. And I don't know if it's maybe
because we're just getting older, I'm maturing, but I think
I'm really scarce with my time and who my energy
and who I give a conversation to and if things
bother me. Is it worth, you know, reaching out? Is
it worth the confrontation? Is it worth all that stuff?
(07:32):
And so maybe you're just realizing like it's not. Was
the friendship not like worthy enough of a conversa? Okay,
because you guys were friends for years.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
I feel like I think now I definitely like it's
just I feel like I don't know you. I feel
like that's not something the person I thought you weren't
in my mind, would have done. So I don't really
feel like I got to give you that, right. It's
kind of like, wow, okay.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
See you, but you haven't gotten confirmation exactly that this
is the person. This person said something to this just
the context clues.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Context clues.
Speaker 5 (08:04):
I hung out with this one girl two days ago,
we had the conversation, and.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Then a two days later, and you just put together.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
Exactly, yeah, exactly. So it's a little hurtful.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
It's heartbreaking.
Speaker 5 (08:16):
It's I'm more hurt broken by the friend that that
cut me off, Like again, like this is somebody I
genuinely loved, Like I wish you would give me a conversation.
But at the same time, you know, I don't beg
people to be my friends, like okay, and I and
I do think that you weren't right in the situation.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
And if I can't say that without being cut.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Off, and did you already say that to her so
many words?
Speaker 5 (08:36):
Like I think that it's worth more than whatever you're
giving it. I think that you know people are going
to do things like whatever I said, Like I I
didn't let her know, like girl, you write protect your piece,
like I didn't say that.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Let me check and see if I'm blood.
Speaker 5 (08:50):
Girl Maybe maybe girl to community. She took got my
whole community child day.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
I mean, yeah, I'm sorry. There's nothing worse than friendship breakups.
They hurt just as much as real relationships as well,
and especially when it comes out of the blue, Yeah
you know, something that you weren't expecting. And also when
trust was broken, like I don't think that was fair
because knowing you, you never talked shit if you were
saying something, it was never out of like malice of like,
(09:19):
it was like just stating your opinion because you were
in the middle of this situation and you didn't ask
for two of your close friends to be beefing, you know,
so it's kind of they both put you in a
hard spot essentially.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
Yeah, And I try to navigate it separately as best
I could, But it'd be unrealistic to think that I
wouldn't have an opinion about the overall situation. And if
my opinion doesn't align with what you agree with, then
I don't need to be in your life.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
It's crazy work. That's crazy work and.
Speaker 5 (09:47):
Also accepted, I suppose, like, all right, yeah, this new
reality is accepted. But I'm not necessarily used to friendship breakups.
Like I probably lost maybe two friends in a span
of ten years. The first one nine and give a
fuck about she Listen, I'll give a fuck.
Speaker 3 (10:01):
The second friend. Oh my god?
Speaker 5 (10:03):
Whoa Like, oh wow, all right, but you've experienced some
friend breakups to some disappointments.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
Yeah, I mean it does especially I don't know if
it's la or what, but I experienced two right as
it was two here. Yeah, and most recently. I mean,
you know the situation. This girl like just I don't
know she she I was warned about her, and I
(10:29):
was told, like, you know, this is somebody that you
don't want to be around. This is somebody that you
don't want in your life. Run by my mentor by
my co workers, like so many people were like, Yokayla,
she's not a good person. She's mean, she is a
cloud chaser, she's this, she's this. I heard she's I
want to get into her. She's just not a great
person and she's going to backstab you.
Speaker 5 (10:50):
And the first time I met her because you was
we went over your house for one of the things
for the weekend.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
Mm hmm.
Speaker 5 (10:56):
She was a little bit like attitude toward me, Like
it was like at a like I don't know what
she was doing, but she was just kind of taking
passive aggressive shots or like subtle jabs. And I didn't
feed into it because I'm a happy person and I
don't give it towards you were other people to me.
For me, I remember you were like, cause I peeped it.
I didn't think these girls were going to like each other.
Like she was doing something like over complimenting my sister, Like,
(11:18):
you're so quiet, what's your sign? I like, how peacefully
you are because you I'm not really quiet or chill.
I think that was like a subtle dig at me
for like I don't know coming in and being talked to.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
When you told me that, I thought she was saying
things to you about other people at my party.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
Not happing. That happened to me.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
So I mean she gives off this energy that's just
like mean, I'm better than everybody. And I like getting
to know her, Like I know where that comes from.
It comes from trauma, and she doesn't necessarily mean it,
and this is meant giving her the benefit of doubt.
But like her her appearance when you first meet her,
it's just so hard and like not inviting and not warm,
and I'm the exact opposite. And but also then you
(11:57):
tell me that she's sitting at my party and she's
like whispering things in your ear and talking about my
other guests, Like I don't really like that either, And
then people come to me after the party talking about
like yo, like she is just like what is up
with her? Why is she like this? Like she is
a standoffice, she's rude, d d DA whatever. But I
saw a different side of her. She started inviting me
to church, and I, you know, really got to know
her for who she is, and I really liked the
(12:19):
aspect that we could pray together and that she was
encouraging me to with my walk in the Lord. And
I was like, wow, like, I'm seeing a different side
of her because she is at rock bottom right now.
She had lost her job, she had lost all her friends,
and the old her that everybody else knew to be
like this bitch and this evil person was no longer
there because she lost it all, and so she's rebuilding,
(12:39):
and so I was there for that rebuilding phase, and
I was like, you know what, I'm gonna give her
a chance because there's probably narratives about me, but like,
I would want people to give me a chance, a
clean slate. So that's exactly what I did. And in
the end, I was burned.
Speaker 5 (12:51):
And you know what, her nice side was really really
nice once you get past that exteriors, Like, wow, this
girl is a real pleasure to be around. So it's
super unfortunate that you get calm in that. I don't
want to call it a facade. Maybe the good side
of her. But I guess the bad side is always
going to come out, the side that people are warning
you about.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Right, I mean, I just like she just would latch
on to me. I could also tell that she wanted
to get in with my job and stuff like that
and get back into the industry. And I didn't really
know what was authentic. But she was just very very
She was just a lot, like a lot clinging and like, well,
I mean, we stop being friends because she went out
on a date with the guy that I expressed interest
in and then told her I like, so, I mean,
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we don't even get he needs to get into the
nitty gritty. It's so irrelevant because we had both met
that guy just recently. You know it. It's a random
n a random night out. But she completely betrayed my trust.
She knows what she did. She tried to turn it
back on me and said, well, he didn't even like you.
He didn't even care to cater to you all night.
Speaker 5 (13:47):
That's just like, even if there's a misunderstanding where okay,
we're both interested in the same guy on a random
night out, I would never put you down in order
to make you feel like your feelings aren't justified to
have it. Feelings for this guy in mine are like,
that's just red flag.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Right, she just went off went off with me. I
don't know. And then I just but I just decided,
you know what, you know what, I don't want to
be your friend anymore. I'm good off this relationship. Like
I'm okay, you didn't.
Speaker 3 (14:12):
Seem hurt by that. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
I wasn't I be pulling away from her anyway, because
she's just a lot and so draining and exhausting and
so yeah, I truly don't. I truly didn't care. And
again I put my reputation on the line being around her, right,
and like she would always wonder why I wouldn't repost,
repost her stories and stuff like that. I truly didn't
want people to know that I was hanging out with her. Wow,
(14:35):
Like I hate to say that, I truly hate to
say that, but like she just was she was just
negative energy all the time. So when this ended, I
was like, I was just waiting for the ticking time
bomb and I didn't care. We don't even friends like
six months. I was like, I think I'm good off you, right,
And she didn't take that well, d But I say
all this to say, like it's just life that what
(14:56):
we're going through, you know, it happens, and you know
you lose friends, you gain friends, but also it's important
to you know, be careful with your energy.
Speaker 5 (15:06):
And we're more than halfway through the year, right, and
we've both both been burned in friendships this year, relationships,
job opportunities.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
I'm sure more or less.
Speaker 5 (15:17):
What are things that you want to change or implement
going forward for the next five four months of the year.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Well, I definitely like I'm gonna this has been a
very hard month for me, and we all know it's
because the majority I was sick, right, and so that
just took a toll of my mental health. And so
in doing that, I realized, like I just need to
be more scarce with my time and my energy. And
I think like I have always been a people plaser
and been obsessed with being liked right, and I've gotten
out of that as I gotten older, But I'm always
(15:44):
like doing things for people, right and Minchu. When I
got sick, my tribe showed up for me, like the
people who love me came through for me. But I
do realize that I'm always like, Hey, do you want
to do this? Hey, come with me to this. Oh,
let's go here, like inviting everyone everywhere, Oh you want
to go to dance class, you want to do this,
but nobody, Like certain people never reach out to me,
(16:05):
didn't reach out to me when I was sick, don't
invite me places, don't even call to check in on me.
Why am I continuously inviting certain people to do things
with me and to have a good time when if
the roles, the roles aren't never reversed, it's like a
one sided friendship. So I just I think going forward,
I think I'm just going to be treasure the friendships
(16:27):
that are equal and equal and not one sided, and
focus on those. And if that means you don't hear
from me, that's fine. Like one person reached out to me, like,
i'n't heard from you in a long time, Well, why
didn't you reach out to me? Why am I always
the one to do you know what I mean? And
so I think I'm just going to be more intentional
with the people who like, do show up for me,
(16:48):
do actually text me, invite me places?
Speaker 3 (16:51):
You know?
Speaker 5 (16:52):
So I think that's that's important. One sided friendships are
so exhausting. You don't realize it until you take your
energy away and you're like, wait, how come I'm not
getting any This reciprocated to that point. I also have
been in the space of just protecting my space. I
haven't really left the house at all this week, to
be honest, barely left my room.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
I've dived into books. I got like six new books.
I just want to read. I just want to journal.
Speaker 5 (17:16):
I just want to get back in touch with myself
because one thing that this has taught me is people
are experiences, not possessions, which I think I've said before,
and I gotta appreciate what I do experience with people
without allowing it to take from me if that person
ever decides to move in a way that I wasn't anticipating.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
I'm just in the.
Speaker 5 (17:34):
Space of protecting myself, protecting this light that I am
in the world, and appreciating the people that appreciate that,
and not treating me as though I'm disposable, because that's
so hurtful.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Yes, Kayla, you are an amazing friend. You always thank you,
you always show up. Like I know, I keep talking
about this, but the day I found out I got
cheated on and like how you just wrap your arms
around me and continue to do so, Like that's was
a moment that I realized that you were a great friend.
And I know how you are with all your other friends.
I mean, you take care of your your other best
(18:05):
friends like done, like you know, you always show for
the people. And then the two girls that in this situation,
you were great friends to them, you know, And so
the fact that this could have been solved with a conversation,
which also is crazy to me because I didn't even
know those two were close.
Speaker 5 (18:21):
Yeah they are, they are, and it's damn yeah, just
super unfortunate, man, It's super unfortunate.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Well, I hope this doesn't like dim your light and
also make you feel bad about yourself in the way
that you are a friend to other people. This just
literally happens. Take it from somebody who knows it. Just
it literally happens.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
You know.
Speaker 5 (18:39):
That's why I'm song didn't do anything wrong. That's why
I don't take friendship too lightly. That's why I have
a trial here before I let you in, because I
don't like this feeling of being so hurt. Like even
this this week, I got invited to an amazing event,
and I didn't go because I had no friends to
go with.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
You did have friends. Everybody was just busy. Well it
was on a week day.
Speaker 3 (19:01):
No, I know you're a busy girl.
Speaker 4 (19:02):
No.
Speaker 2 (19:03):
I don't want you to think that about yourself too,
because I would get in that mental state too. It's like, oh,
I don't have anybody. But the thing is like, you
know you do have people.
Speaker 5 (19:10):
Yeah, you're right, you're right, but but but I when
I first moved here, I was more much more confident
of just like going out by myself and exploring La
with just myself and really gaining a really strong relationship
myself and then finding such an.
Speaker 3 (19:23):
Amazing community here.
Speaker 5 (19:24):
I've kind of lost that strength that I've had because
give that opportunity to me about three years ago, I
would have went by myself, no, no questions asked. Everybody
was there, girl Magic Johnson's kill O'Neil.
Speaker 2 (19:35):
Like everyone he was there.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
Whatever, neither hear nor there.
Speaker 5 (19:39):
So yeah, So I'm just trying to get that relationship
back with myself again because I'm getting wrapped up in
this relationship. I'm getting wrapped up in friendships falling apart,
and I'm just forgetting like what's your relationship with yourself?
And I think that that's what I need to work on.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
I think this is a great time to just stop
pause and you can still nurture and water those friendships
and the relationship that you're in, but also make yourself
more of a priority these next few months, you know,
and like it's exactly what you're doing. You're diving into
reading and what else do you like to do? You know,
like think about that. I started taking myself out on
weekly dates. So after I go to pilates on Wednesdays,
(20:14):
I'll go to urban cafe and I look forward to
that time where I can just sit outside with my salad,
on my phone on TikTok, and it's like a time
of self care for me. Maybe you just you need
something like that, but also just remember that this is
just life and that's how it goes. And unfortunately and
maybe these friendship will come back, you never know.
Speaker 5 (20:34):
I feel kind of good. I'm kind of good once
people treat me that way, I'm kind of good. I
don't like to be treated that way.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
M M. So I'm good.
Speaker 5 (20:41):
But I will say I definitely think that you and
I should just have like more ent happy hour at
least bi weekly or.
Speaker 3 (20:47):
Something just to vent.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
Yeah, that healthy time, so I don't get too captivated
in just I only have myself in this world.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
No, girl, you know you always have me, and like
I know, our lives are been so busy and you
have so many opportunities coming. I mean, I'm just fucking
proud of you. Like it's like every time I turn around,
you were with fucking John Sally that was I say this, No.
Speaker 5 (21:07):
But it's okay, but listen, Yeah, it's all good and
the same with you. Like I just I love seeing
your growth. I love seeing the verification.
Speaker 3 (21:14):
Because we got we got new things on the horizon miss.
Speaker 4 (21:19):
Blue Check.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
And does period.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Officialists fuck and more things coming. I'm just so proud
of y'all both out here. I love you.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Girl.
Speaker 5 (21:31):
Did you see what Cameron did to freaking Omar Gooding?
Speaker 2 (21:35):
No I didn't, Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (21:36):
So Omar Gooding is Cuba Gooding Junior's brother, and apparently
Cameron called Omar Gooding Omar Gooding Junior. He got really
upset about it, apparently, and Cameron did the pettiest.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Thing that being said, I want to start off with
this donkey right here. Omar Good. He's a dickhead, all right.
So for the people that don't know, I said something
about Omar Goodding a while ago. I did this, right.
I was talking about the B class actors, how they
don't get paid a lot and they got to sit
(22:09):
around and make wait for a director somebody to call him,
and they don't did a lot of films. And I
was like, I felt bad for them. And I called
him Omar good and Junior by accident because his brother's
Cuba good In Junior, and I was like, he got
mad about He's like, y'ah, ain't no fucking Junior, and
I'm like, damn, I forgot. I'm sorry. So he went
(22:30):
out and did three records this and me and I
was like, yo, dude, what is this about. I don't
understand what it's about. So I got a new thing
now that I'm doing. It's called book My Ops. And
what I did was this, I know somebody that know
somebody that know him, And I'm like, yo, how much
(22:50):
he charged you for a day to shoot a movie?
He said, he charged me like twelve hundred dollars. And
but you know, I could probably tell him you need
a fair I said, tell him I need a fait
a time. We got three thousand dollars for him, so
my man called the nigga that knew him, and I
booked the nigga and he came to shoot a scene
for a movie for three thousand could have gotten for
(23:11):
fifty hundred. I gave him a bonus for three thousand dollars.
And it's no movie coming out, but I got the
footage and I got the paperwork, and you signing off
on me posting this today. So everybody's gonna see Omar
Goundon right now in a minute, shooting a scene for
a movie that's never coming out. Because I was bored.
Speaker 5 (23:33):
I didn't have nothing, so push ups with his shirt
off and him laughing at them.
Speaker 3 (23:39):
They were watching the videos.
Speaker 5 (23:41):
He's very cute. Cameron or Cameron, Oh my gods, I
love that. I love Fine as well. Okay girl and Patty.
So yeah, you booked him for a movie that's never
coming out.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
That's hilarious. Okay, I'm giving mine a little tay uh. Basically,
she said that women over twenty five who have nine
to five still our failures.
Speaker 6 (24:02):
If you're over the age of twenty five and you're
still working in nine to five, you are a failure.
Like by then you should have already made your bag,
and ladies, every single one of you should drop the
link like me, Like.
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Just literally just make your bag.
Speaker 4 (24:15):
Who gives a fuck?
Speaker 6 (24:17):
What anybody thinks?
Speaker 4 (24:18):
Screer family.
Speaker 6 (24:18):
My family kicked me out, I got disowned. They don't
talk to anymore, they don't me, But who gives a
I can literally buy their whole life if I wanted to.
Speaker 2 (24:26):
I can't stand that low girl until she died, she
came back. Okay, I think Cameron gets it, because Wow,
booking a whole movie thing that doesn't exist.
Speaker 3 (24:38):
And making this take a shirt off and do push
ups is crazy. Work.
Speaker 5 (24:41):
Book in my ops, I'm gonna give it a camera
and watch that theories.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Wait, where is that? Where can I find that.
Speaker 3 (24:47):
Book in my ops dot com? I made that up
book in my house?
Speaker 4 (24:52):
Yeah yeah, okay, camera.
Speaker 5 (25:06):
Now let's get into some petty mail Hikayla and Kayla.
I need your brutal honesty, your brutal honesty, possibly petty wisdom.
I have a friend, will call her Jess, who I
love dearly, but lately our friendship feels one sided. Every
time we talk. It's a full on emotional download from her.
Her job is stressed with her boyfriend's annoying, her cat
has seasonal depression, and somehow I become the go to
(25:28):
support hotline. The thing is, I'm happy to be there
for her. That's what friends do, right, But when I
try to share my stuff, like even a mild inconvenience,
she either changes the subject or says like ugh, that's wild,
then pivots back to her issues. It's like a friendship monologue,
not a conversation. So here's the petty question. Am I
being too sensitive or for wanting some reciprocity? Do I
(25:49):
gently say something? Or do I just start change charging
charging her cope? Is this a friendship or a part time, unplayed,
unpaid counseling.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Gig lord, have mer thanks?
Speaker 3 (26:00):
Feeling used and emotionally.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
Dreamed, definitely say something. You know, this is what we
were just talking about this whole episode. It's like friendships
should not be one sided. It should be fifty to fifty.
Both people should be putting equal amount of effort. And
it doesn't even seem like she cares about your problems,
So she really even care about you? So I think
it's worth a conversation once. You shouldn't have to tell
somebody how to treat you multiple times or how to
be a friend multiple times. So it's a hey, like
(26:23):
I have a you haven't really been, you know, there
for me in the way that I would like you
to something like that, and if it doesn't change, then
it's a rat for the friend.
Speaker 5 (26:32):
Yeah, because I don't like that draining my energy and
just taking all the having me fill your cup and
then just walking away with your cup full while I'm dreaming.
Speaker 3 (26:38):
So exactly, yeah, exactly what Kayla said. No, no, no.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Notes, yep, all right, what do you got coming up
this week?
Speaker 3 (26:44):
She's session my mental flight together. Life's crazy. Yeah, I'm
going through.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
A girl pray for Kayla. I mean, I have a
pretty easy week, but me and Kayla are gonna maybe
next weekend, we're definitely gonna catch up. We're gonna have
some Kayla and Kayla time.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
We need it.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
But we love you guys. Thank you as always for supporting.
Make sure you like common, subscribe, share the podcast, let
us know what you want to hear, and we'll talk
to you next week.
Speaker 3 (27:08):
Bye bye t
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