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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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iHeartMedia or this station. Welcome to Shamelessly Chante with your
host Shanta Lundy.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Good morning.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
You're listening to Shamelessly Chante and I'm your host, Shantay Lundy. So, y'all,
I travel a lot for speaking engagements, for events. Uh
content uh getting that's even a word, but to get
content for our launches and activations, and I'm finding that
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finding a makeup artist is challenging in different cities and states.
I have my go tos in Los Angeles and New York,
but these other cities, I'm like, oh my goodness, what
am I gonna do? Who's gonna Who's gonna Who's going
to make me feel good in my skin? So recently
I was in I'm not gonna say the city, but
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I was in a city and we had to find
a makeup artist, okay, and you know, we had a
selection of maybe three, but when we looked at their profiles,
the makeup was all looking the same. The women had
the same eyebrows, same technique. But it was what it
was because we were in a smaller city. So anyway, we
booked this makeup artist and she comes very pleasant, easy
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to talk to, and it felt good and safe to
be around her. So she starts the makeup application, and
I say, hey, you know what I want my skin
to shine through. I have some moles that I really
love to shine through. Don't cover them up, but if
you cover them up, bring it back and so forth.
So I give her a direction because I get my
makeup done so much, I know exactly what I want. Anyway, she's,
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you know, doing her her setup and doing her powders.
I put my contact lens in and she's on my
face and I'm talking five later, five layers of powder y'all,
and literally blotting my eyes to put on I don't know.
It wasn't a masket, it wasn't an eye shadow, but
maybe it was an eye shadow. Long story short, she
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goes to put on some lashes or something, and I'm like.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Man, I can't see. Did I bring hazel contacts? Because
I wear contacts in glasses and at the moment at
that time, I had on glasses. It was time to put.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
On a context and I was like, I can't see
because I'm a context I can't see.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I was like, did I bring my Halloween context?
Speaker 4 (02:37):
This?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
For Halloween?
Speaker 3 (02:38):
I had my face done and I had a Hazel context.
I'm like, there's no way I bought Hazel contexts. So
she's gaslighting me, like, yeah, they're probably the Hazel context
that you brought. No joke, okay. And then also we
started at four forty five, it's now seven o'clock. I
needed to be at the event for seven fifteen. I
kid you not, okay. So anyway, I take out the
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contact and there is makeup all in both contacts, and
I didn't bring an extra pair, so two contacts. I'm
cleaning with the solution. I even had to put soap,
which is crazy for a contact to get the makeup off.
And y'all do you know, the makeup did not come off.
So I had to go to the event almost blind,
couldn't see. So finally she realized it was makeup. She
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did apologize, which I appreciate it, but I was just
concerned on that skill set, on how do you get
makeup in your client's eyes? For all these years, last
six seven years, I've been getting makeup done that has
never ever happened to me, and this next guest. She
is she used to be a celebrity m UA and
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she's gonna give us some tips and trip tips and tricks.
And I can't wait to tell her this story because
it is wild Kimberly like. And you know, and I
had my Black Girl Sunscreen with me too. I have
my Vanilla. I ordered it from mister Carr.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yeses. So what's going on a blackson's screen.
Speaker 5 (04:02):
Well, talking about appearances, you have one coming up that
we're really excited about. You are going to be on
the one thousandth episode now of the Tamman Hall Show. Okay,
So it's a big milestone for her and she's doing
something a little different. So it's coming at the tail
end of International Women's Month, and she's highlighting women entrepreneurs,
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business founders, and she wants to talk about business. So
for you, this is going to be an opportunity not
only to talk about Black Girl Sunscreen and your journey
in business, but just what's going on right now, the
state of the business in terms of what's happening around us,
it's having an impact, and how black businesses need to
be supported in ways that they currently are not.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Well.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
First of all, I'm eager about all that stuff, right,
because that's a conversation was in itself. But oh, Tammoran
is fabulous. We were just talking about makeup, and her
makeup is on point all the time.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
This are you here?
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Cut to this and fashion listen all of it.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Listen, y'all gonna send me on TV, So tune in
to Tamers. How when does the episode air?
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Three thirty one, faith thirty first.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
See thirty one, okay, sweet thirty one, three thirty one,
B three one. I don't know what that means anyway,
I'm excited for that opportunity. Let's see how I do
you know I'm gonna come with the fit in the
hare and to make up because I make a person's
in New York. We ain't gonna have make it with
my eyes anyway. You're listening to shamelessy chante.
Speaker 6 (05:31):
Hi.
Speaker 7 (05:32):
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Speaker 6 (05:46):
Crack a dozen black people get sign burned too.
Speaker 7 (05:49):
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that for a man and how this summer streets or not?
And got the bee some beg fifty side of that
dry white cash. You should set your metal. You could
still get melanoma. It's made wicked avocado and her home
and its moldy Parker. You could use it for your
lowest woman. Let a son, make it mad, make it go.
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You go what you got it? Start the show. If
you want to present your skin queens, make sure you
get some.
Speaker 6 (06:18):
Black girls sun screen your.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Girl. Okay, Kimberly, So who do we have sitting next
to us? I'm so excited? Yeah, Okay.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Our guest today is a powerhouse, an entrepreneur, reality TV star, singer, author,
and multifaceted business woman who knows exactly how to command
the spotlight. You may know her from the Real Housewives
of Potomac, but her influence extends far beyond reality TV.
She's a singer, an actress, a pageant queen, and a
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thriving business owner who's building her empire on her own terms,
from entertainment to entrepreneurship. She does it all with lamer, grace, grit,
and a little bit of shade when necessary. Please welcome
the Unstoppable Candice Dillard Bassett.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
We are so excited.
Speaker 5 (07:15):
I'm so excited to me, yes, So we got a
lot of talk to talk about, but we want to
jump right inten our listeners because a lot of women
want to know, how did you get on the.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
Show in the first place?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Housewife? Oh this is a good story.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
So season one aired, and you know the d the
d MB or the DC Maryland Virginia area is it's
a it's a microcosm. It's big, but it's small. Everybody
kind of knows each other. So when the show first started,
I was like, wait a minute, what where was I
when they were making these calls?
Speaker 2 (07:50):
No one called me to be on the show. And
I remember watching.
Speaker 6 (07:54):
How Dare you?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Like?
Speaker 6 (07:56):
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (07:57):
And so you know, I watched everyone because it was
the only the second iteration of a Black Housewives franchise,
So I was very excited about that. I lived at
the time in the DMV for over ten fifteen years
at the time, So you want to see who's on
the show, Where are they going to go, where are
they going to eat, who are they gonna see? So
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I'm watching with my boyfriend at the time my husband now,
and we get to season two and I'm like, this
is like I should be on the show. And I
remember thinking, this is the perfect vehicle to catapult me
into all of the dreams and the goals that the
Lord has put on me to do. And so I prayed.
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I literally remember, because I would always pray. I had
a couch at the foot of my bed where I
would pray, and I would. I got down and I
just I said, Lord, if this opportunity is meant for me,
I promise that I will do my best.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
I'll try to use it to glorify you.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
And literally kim the maybe. Like a couple of months later,
I was helping my husband open a restaurant, Myron mix
Ins at the time, and I got an email from
a casting director about doing the show. And I remember saying,
this literally feels like Housewives because they don't say in
the in the in the subject, it's very like clandestine's
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very like an ensemble cast.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Is looking for dynamic women. Blah blah blah. I was like,
this sounds like Housewives.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
That's crazy, and I responded I had my first casting
call and then I had like a myriad of calls
after that, and the rest is history.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
That's amazing.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Wow, okay, so you haven't looked back Nope. Okay.
Speaker 5 (09:37):
So one of the reasons you were so great on
the show is because you gave shade like nobody else
I did. Yes, you did, and yes, yes and even
with thanks for look though me when you would do
the confessionals and it seemed like you were saying something
nice about somebody and then right at the end, yeah,
you do call.
Speaker 4 (09:57):
Out somebody's forehead. Well you know who I'm talking.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
About, Ceial is there?
Speaker 6 (10:00):
Yes? Yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
So I have to ask you.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
You're no longer on the show, correct, Do you still
maintain relationships with any of those women, in particular Karen,
who's going through it right now? Yes, Like, are you
guys still in touch?
Speaker 4 (10:14):
How is she doing?
Speaker 6 (10:16):
So?
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Yes, I do still speak to some of the women.
I actually just had a very long lunch with Wendy
because I haven't had a baby, so it's hard to
get away. And it just so happened that my husband
was off that day and we were supposed to go
to lunch at twelve, and we got there at one
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because we're late, and we were there until seven, and
Chris is like, are you coming? How I'm like, sir,
be seated with my child and relax, like, I don't
go out, so let me be out. We just talked
and because I hadn't talked to her like at length
and so long, so it was nice to catch up.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Karen I have not spoken to as of late for
obvious reasons.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Prior to her going away, I had been keeping in
touch and checking in, and she was checking in on
me throughout my whole pregnancy. She was checking in and
making sure I was okay and seeing how I was
feeling when I had yet we kind of kept it
very close to the vest, and she was like, I
feel like you had the babies and you don't have
to tell me, but I feel like you did, so
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if you did, just know that I'm excited. She's always
been that supportive person for me. So this turn of
events is devastating to say the least. And you know,
and I say that in the same breath that I
also say that, you know, drinking and driving is never okay,
It's never right. But I also say that in general,
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I hate a pile on with anyone for any reason,
and I just just resent greatly how intensely the public
has decided to pile on to a woman who is
dealing with demons much in the way that we all
deal with demons. Everybody in the world, everybody in this
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room and listening to the sound of my voice right now,
has their stuff. And you are lucky or whatever you
want to call it enough to not have to have
your demons played out for the world to see. Therefore,
you think you're better or worse than someone. Karen has
stuff to deal with, and she will have time to
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sit and think about it and deal with it. But
to crucify her when instead we should be helping her
and helping her to uplift is you know, sort of
where I sit with it. Yeah, what were your favorite
moments while doing that project? Oh God, I like how
you said that that project, because yes, it was certainly
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a project. I always reference Karen the wig shift moment.
That will probably always be one of my favorite moments
that when reacting, well, my wig is tacked down to
my four it's not gonna move, okay. But yes, Karen,
we were sweating. We were doing bubble Soccer. That was
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my first season, that was my first all cast event,
so I was kind of nervous, like, oh, my gosh,
how am I going to do this?
Speaker 2 (13:13):
And that was toward the end. We were eating.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
We didn't have napkins, which I did not live down
for many seasons. And yeah, she Karen is just so easy,
easy to create entertainment. So she she's sweating and the
wig is the shifting.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
We call it a wig shift, her wig. It was
her wig shift moment.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
And you know, I'm sitting next to her, so I
can see that it's doing a slide, it's regressing, and
I was like, ooh, and she I see she's trying
to fix it, but she's not doing that.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
So I'm like, oh, let me. So I'm like, do
I touch it?
Speaker 3 (13:49):
I don't, you know, I'm just meeting these women, so
I don't want to get to, you know, too intimate
into the people's wigs. And it just became this like
moment that I, to me, is the most hilarious moment
on the show.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
She's eating while.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Yes is doing its own dance. Yes, so are you
the wig shifter?
Speaker 6 (14:09):
Now?
Speaker 2 (14:10):
So if you see somebody's wig, well you yes, it's
the girls.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Girl in me is not ever going to let a
black woman walk around with a crooked wig. If I
can help it. Yes, No, if I don't like you
be crooked all day. But if we're if I see
good in you, yes, I want to help get the
wig together. Yes, yes, okay, So you are looking fantastic.
I'm looking I'm loving this purple on purple.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
You're very welcome. So I know you have some big
events tonight, I do.
Speaker 6 (14:42):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Is this the gland for tonight? This is the glam
for tonight.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
It was also the glam for yesterday's Yes.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
So you know.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
I'm a pageant girl. I'm a former Miss United States.
One of the things that you learn in the pageant
space is how to do your own makeup because a
lot of times you have to do your own makeup backstage.
So I learned very early and from watching my mom
as a child, because she was like a makeup girl,
how to do my own makeup. And it has served
me well most of my life.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
So you know, I I don't have time to sit
in the chair every day.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
It's so tedious and daunting to have to sit for
an hour and a half to two hours while somebody's
like stabbing you in the eye and getting fall out
all over your face.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
It's too much. It's too much.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
So whenever I can, I do what's called a face preservation.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Tell us more.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
And you know, I honestly I don't recommend this. This
is not for everyone, okay, because everyone's skin is not
created equal. Okay, everyone in here has beautiful skin. We
are all melani most of us are melanated, yes, and
we have beautiful skin. So I don't don't do this
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and then call me and say, Candice, I have a
because of you.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
That's not my fault.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Yeah, I mean, because really, what we're getting into right
now is is sleeping in makeup.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Okay, let's talk. It's not. It's not. I don't recommend it.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
However, if you want to be gangster, how do you
do it?
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Okay? So I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
Yes, Okay, So number number one thing is you need
to you should be doing this anyway. You just sleep
on a satin pillow king, which you should be doing anyway,
because it's best for your skin. It's great for your hair,
it prevents breakage, it helps to promote oil production, and
keeps your skin from drying out. But especially for this
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preservation process, the makeup does not transfer as easily on
the satin as it would on cotton. So you want
to sleep on satin, but you're laying with your head
to the pillow though, No, you can lay on your side.
So what I do before I go to bed, first
of all, it's it's important to have a good first
makeup application. Make sure that you are setting between layers
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your spray and you're powdering down. You want to like
slack the face before you get to the next day. Okay,
So this is a great makeup application. Shout out to
d D Kelly. She beat my face yesterday. Before you
go to bed, blot blot your whole face. I will
then take a pressed powder and just dust it all over,
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and then I will do a setting spray. Well, I'll
do a like a rose water and then a setting
spray and then you let it ride down and you
pray about.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
It and go to sleep.
Speaker 6 (17:32):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
So the prayer is probably the most important part, because yes,
because I tried to.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
This was.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
What's that Off the Run Tour by Beyonce on the
Run on the Run? Okay, she came to Miami. I
was in Miami and I had to go to Cuba
the next day, and so my makeup was on point
for the concert, and I said, I'm gonna wear this
makeup to Cuba.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
My flight was at like seven in the morning. Yeah, okay.
Got home from the concert about one o'clock and I
try to go to sleep.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
My face was itching. I said, oh damn, I gotta
take this off. Yeah, I gotta take it off. And
since then, I've never ever slept in it. But you know,
I struggle with putting on lashes. You can see one
of my lashes is a little crazy, very natural, thank
you very much. So if somebody does my makeup, you know,
a couple yesterday, a couple days ago, I tried to,
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you know, keep.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
The lashes Jack. Yes, I will do that, but my
face it has to.
Speaker 6 (18:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It's like I said, I don't recommend it. It's literally
you have it. It's for the gangsters.
Speaker 6 (18:33):
A black don't crack it doesn't. Black people get sign
burned too.
Speaker 7 (18:38):
As my cousin skimming skin and this little woman for
man on how this summer streets?
Speaker 6 (18:43):
Oh no, I got the beach streets and beach yes
or black.
Speaker 7 (18:46):
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the owner shot Lundy. She the skin Queen. She gave
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take your skin from hyper pimentations for every occasion. Use
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Speaker 6 (19:03):
Bring a bottle with you on you on that sun sunscreen, Sae.
See on you girl, you look amazed.
Speaker 7 (19:10):
If you're going up and take your skin, crane, make
sure you get some.
Speaker 6 (19:13):
Black girl sunscreen.
Speaker 7 (19:16):
Your gang just d on your black girl sunscreen. Black
don't crack it doesn't black people get sun burns.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
We gotta talk about skincare here because you're talking to
black girls sunscreen, right, and you in full clam So
I have to assume I could be wrong that there
wasn't an application of sunscreen this morning. There was not
this morning, okay, Yes, however there was yesterday, Okay, okay,
So what's your relationship with sunscreen?
Speaker 6 (19:45):
So?
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Growing up, I my father, My father is a physician,
and my my father was very much like, oh, we're black,
Sure we don't need sunscreen.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
What type of physician. He's emergency medicine.
Speaker 4 (20:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:02):
And this was like twenty years ago, and so I
remember that was my first introduction to sunscreen. It was like, oh,
that's for white people, we don't need Your dad will
tell you this. Yeah, my dad, my family. What was
it from his experience like an er or why? I
think that was just his experience as a man. I
don't think it was tied to anything medical because I
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don't know that he he's not dermatologist. I don't know
that he experienced skin ailments. So yeah, so that I
believe my dad and just in my culturally around me,
that was the conversation. Oh, that's for white people. Sunscreen.
We don't use sunscreen. The darker you are, the less
you need it. That was the rationale.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
How are you feeling about it now? Oh?
Speaker 3 (20:47):
Now, as a self proclaimed skincare guru, I recognize fully
and completely the importance of using a sunprotected as a
skin protectant, not just for your face.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
There's a.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
The nail salon I go to. Someone started doing this
and I followed the trend. I put sunscreen on my
hands before I cure them in the UV lamp lamp. Yeah, yes,
black girls, sunscreen. We have UPF gloves right and Google.
That will be in your It may be in your
package today, so when you go get your nails done. Yeah,
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it's preserving all this skin, because you know your hands
and your neck will tell your age. Yeah, yes, So
how often are you in full glam daily? You know,
I had this baby, so I've I've been looking real
pedestrian of late, not pedestrian with nothing.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
In my face.
Speaker 3 (21:43):
But I'm getting back into a space where I'm going
to be in full glam often, Like this is so
you like being in full glam?
Speaker 2 (21:55):
No, I used to. I used to love it. I
don't mind.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
It's hard now with a baby because I want to
like be in my baby's face and I want to
kiss him and he's like headbutting me and he so
makeup is getting everywhere, So it's becoming a bit of
a challenge now. But makeup is fun and yeah, I
love how you can sort of change your face and
you know, create a mood with your makeup. So yes,
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like there'll be a part of me that always loves
the glamor of it all. Okay, thank you for sharing that,
because we definitely have conversations on makeup very often here.
You know, if men should be able to request if
you wear makeup? Yeah, because men like to talk about
women in their makeup and see you in your natural state.
So without a lash without a foundation, without who.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Are these men?
Speaker 3 (22:45):
Men that have opinions? Oh yeah, men that have opinions?
They should keep them. You know, what does your hair
look like? So then they can determine if they want
to proceed in a relationship based off of your natural
appearance and not the facade.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Well, I that's that's a that's a that's a take,
that's a that's a way to think.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
What do you think about that? Do you think a
man should have a say? I?
Speaker 3 (23:15):
I think that if if I meet, if we're so,
are we like meeting at a bar.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
Maybe first or second date?
Speaker 4 (23:22):
Sex?
Speaker 3 (23:23):
Second date, you bring a wipe to the tate to
the day and wipe. He might request, come with come,
come as Candace. This is Candace. Okay, this is natural Candace. No, no,
no makeup, and what's your hair look like? I'm not
asking you, but that's the request.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
I mean, I can.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
Given the the the creativity, and this just how how
well we have progressed technologically with makeup and hair.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
You really can create like a whole different version of yourself.
I mean, like my hair under here, my here is darker.
I have like darker highlights and a darker color. This
is a blonde wig, but underneath it's it's probably closer
to what you have on your head now.
Speaker 3 (24:10):
And yeah, I eyebrows can change your whole face. This
is these are facts as well. Contour can change your face.
But as a man, you're why are you in women's business?
That's always been my thoughts. That's that's women's business. Like
I'm not asking you to take off your beijing. Okay,
we're not talking about you know, those holes in your beard. Okay,
(24:30):
it could be, but if it is, very sorry, let's
go to the dermatologists. But if it's not, I'm I'm
gonna take you as you are with with your beijing,
with your your beard. That doesn't connect. I'm not like
I want to know, like what's your four okay? Looking
like okay, like what's what? What are your financial plans?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Okay? How how do you raise children? Okay?
Speaker 3 (24:55):
What how do you do you save money? You asking
about my eyebrows? I'm talking about the future. So we
are not yo, So I'm ready to go. That's what
I would say.
Speaker 5 (25:04):
Wow, but you clearly found your partner, because let's.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Let's do a little shout out to Chris.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Hi Swan yes, wait wait wait, hold on, okay, can
I can?
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Is that a correlation to the complexion? It is complexion?
Speaker 3 (25:23):
No, okay, interesting, No, it's do you know the movie,
the Adam Sandler movie is it Billy Madison.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Where he's like, what are you doing? Swan? One day
he just was like, he said that to me, like,
what are you doing? Swan? I was like, what is that?
Speaker 3 (25:39):
And we just started calling each other swan And then
from Swan he started calling me Swannisha, and then.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
From Swan Nisha. What do you call him?
Speaker 3 (25:50):
I call it swan cracker, I should, yes, he calls me,
and then it just became niche. So now he just
calls me nishe and it's from swaneeh banter. Yes, great, yes,
yes that's nice one.
Speaker 4 (26:04):
He has always had your back on the show. Yes,
always had and you always had his bag.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Yes.
Speaker 5 (26:09):
You guys have always been very open and honest about
your journey.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Yeah. You wanted a.
Speaker 4 (26:14):
Baby, yeah, a baby.
Speaker 6 (26:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (26:16):
Now his life changed with motherhood.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Oh my gosh, motherhood is ghetto.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
Yeah, motherhood is it's it's it is the most beautiful
and complicated hood that you could ever belong to. But
really postpart of this ghetto motherhood. Motherhood is cute. I'll
take motherhood post pardon part. We need to talk about her.
She's she's raggedy, but having because my husband has children already,
(26:49):
so I've seen him as a father and he's a
great father, but to see him with a brand new
baby that we made together is like such a It's
just a special position and it's I feel so I
feel lucky to get to experience this with with Chris.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
He's he really has.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
He's taken on like such a leadership role, especially because
when I gave birth, I was sick for a while.
I had a blood clot that like had me just
down and out. I was in a lot of pain.
I had to take blood dinners to dissolve the clot
and I was really like no good.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
I couldn't hold my baby. I couldn't do anything.
Speaker 3 (27:35):
So Chris really stepped up and was the the mom
and dad for a long time. And he's he all
of the like the nuanced details of taking care of
a baby that I was privy to because I had
read about it or seen all my friends who have
kids go through it. He just he was so ready
(27:56):
to take on. He's like the bottle washing whisper for
he gets all the formula, he makes, all the bottles,
he watches all the bottles, watches all the everything. He
just bought Jet this bouncer thing, and my mom sent
me a picture of him and this bouncer, and I'm like,
oh my God, Like he's he just he he has
his own plans and ideas for our son, which I love,
(28:20):
Like I love that they have their own independent situation
and he's it's it's just it's been so cool to
watch him be a dad. Yeah, I love it. Do
you have an extra set of hands support in the family?
Every now and then, my shout out to my mom.
My mom is actually home with Jet now. She lives
(28:41):
in Atlanta. She flew up for this weekend so that
I could come out here and work when I was out.
Every time I've come to LA for work, this is
my third trip since I gave birth. My mom flies
up and then my sister Crystal will come over and
help my mom. So yeah, I I feel really blessed
to have that village because one of the things I
(29:02):
remember hearing from all of my friends that have kids
is childcare is so daunting. It's challenging people, you know,
going through nannies like Kleenex. Yeah, that's what I was
getting to. Yeah, right, just because of what the schedule. Yes,
and if you don't have the family, but you do, yes,
and that's very helpful.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Yeah. Lord, simme the nanny and tune.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
In for the rest of Kandas's you see episode next week,
y'all because it gets even better.
Speaker 6 (29:31):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
The proceeding was a paid commercial by Black Girls Son's
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iHeartMedia or this station. Welcome to Shamelessly Chante with your
host Shanta Lundy.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Good morning.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
You're listening to Shamelessly Chante and I'm your host, Shantay Lundy. So, y'all,
I travel a lot for speaking engagements, for events. Uh
content uh getting that's even a word, but to get
content for our launches and activations, and I'm finding that
(00:44):
finding a makeup artist is challenging in different cities and states.
I have my go tos in Los Angeles and New York,
but these other cities, I'm like, oh my goodness, what
am I gonna do? Who's gonna Who's gonna Who's going
to make me feel good in my skin? So recently
I was in I'm not gonna say the city, but
(01:06):
I was in a city and we had to find
a makeup artist, okay, and you know, we had a
selection of maybe three, but when we looked at their profiles,
the makeup was all looking the same. The women had
the same eyebrows, same technique. But it was what it
was because we were in a smaller city. So anyway, we
booked this makeup artist and she comes very pleasant, easy
(01:30):
to talk to, and it felt good and safe to
be around her. So she starts the makeup application, and
I say, hey, you know what I want my skin
to shine through. I have some moles that I really
love to shine through. Don't cover them up, but if
you cover them up, bring it back and so forth.
So I give her a direction because I get my
makeup done so much, I know exactly what I want. Anyway, she's,
(01:53):
you know, doing her her setup and doing her powders.
I put my contact lens in and she's on my
face and I'm talking five later, five layers of powder y'all,
and literally blotting my eyes to put on I don't know.
It wasn't a masket, it wasn't an eye shadow, but
maybe it was an eye shadow. Long story short, she
(02:16):
goes to put on some lashes or something, and I'm like.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Man, I can't see. Did I bring hazel contacts? Because
I wear contacts in glasses and at the moment at
that time, I had on glasses. It was time to put.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
On a context and I was like, I can't see
because I'm a context I can't see.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I was like, did I bring my Halloween context?
Speaker 4 (02:37):
This?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
For Halloween?
Speaker 3 (02:38):
I had my face done and I had a Hazel context.
I'm like, there's no way I bought Hazel contexts. So
she's gaslighting me, like, yeah, they're probably the Hazel context
that you brought. No joke, okay. And then also we
started at four forty five, it's now seven o'clock. I
needed to be at the event for seven fifteen. I
kid you not, okay. So anyway, I take out the
(02:59):
contact and there is makeup all in both contacts, and
I didn't bring an extra pair, so two contacts. I'm
cleaning with the solution. I even had to put soap,
which is crazy for a contact to get the makeup off.
And y'all do you know, the makeup did not come off.
So I had to go to the event almost blind,
couldn't see. So finally she realized it was makeup. She
(03:22):
did apologize, which I appreciate it, but I was just
concerned on that skill set, on how do you get
makeup in your client's eyes? For all these years, last
six seven years, I've been getting makeup done that has
never ever happened to me, and this next guest. She
is she used to be a celebrity m UA and
(03:44):
she's gonna give us some tips and trip tips and tricks.
And I can't wait to tell her this story because
it is wild Kimberly like. And you know, and I
had my Black Girl Sunscreen with me too. I have
my Vanilla. I ordered it from mister Carr.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yeses. So what's going on a blackson's screen.
Speaker 5 (04:02):
Well, talking about appearances, you have one coming up that
we're really excited about. You are going to be on
the one thousandth episode now of the Tamman Hall Show. Okay,
So it's a big milestone for her and she's doing
something a little different. So it's coming at the tail
end of International Women's Month, and she's highlighting women entrepreneurs,
(04:24):
business founders, and she wants to talk about business. So
for you, this is going to be an opportunity not
only to talk about Black Girl Sunscreen and your journey
in business, but just what's going on right now, the
state of the business in terms of what's happening around us,
it's having an impact, and how black businesses need to
be supported in ways that they currently are not.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Well.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
First of all, I'm eager about all that stuff, right,
because that's a conversation was in itself. But oh, Tammoran
is fabulous. We were just talking about makeup, and her
makeup is on point all the time.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
This are you here?
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Cut to this and fashion listen all of it.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Listen, y'all gonna send me on TV, So tune in
to Tamers. How when does the episode air?
Speaker 4 (05:10):
Three thirty one, faith thirty first.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
See thirty one, okay, sweet thirty one, three thirty one,
B three one. I don't know what that means anyway,
I'm excited for that opportunity. Let's see how I do
you know I'm gonna come with the fit in the
hare and to make up because I make a person's
in New York. We ain't gonna have make it with
my eyes anyway. You're listening to shamelessy chante.
Speaker 6 (05:31):
Hi.
Speaker 7 (05:32):
If you want to protect your skin, cry, make sure
you get some black girls sign screen black girl, your
one gud dot some sign bass. Just put on your
black girl sign scream black alright, black, don't.
Speaker 6 (05:46):
Crack a dozen black people get sign burned too.
Speaker 7 (05:49):
As my cousin, I'm skimming skin this little women and
that for a man and how this summer streets or not?
And got the bee some beg fifty side of that
dry white cash. You should set your metal. You could
still get melanoma. It's made wicked avocado and her home
and its moldy Parker. You could use it for your
lowest woman. Let a son, make it mad, make it go.
(06:11):
You go what you got it? Start the show. If
you want to present your skin queens, make sure you
get some.
Speaker 6 (06:18):
Black girls sun screen your.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
Girl. Okay, Kimberly, So who do we have sitting next
to us? I'm so excited? Yeah, Okay.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
Our guest today is a powerhouse, an entrepreneur, reality TV star, singer, author,
and multifaceted business woman who knows exactly how to command
the spotlight. You may know her from the Real Housewives
of Potomac, but her influence extends far beyond reality TV.
She's a singer, an actress, a pageant queen, and a
(06:50):
thriving business owner who's building her empire on her own terms,
from entertainment to entrepreneurship. She does it all with lamer, grace, grit,
and a little bit of shade when necessary. Please welcome
the Unstoppable Candice Dillard Bassett.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
We are so excited.
Speaker 5 (07:15):
I'm so excited to me, yes, So we got a
lot of talk to talk about, but we want to
jump right inten our listeners because a lot of women
want to know, how did you get on the.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
Show in the first place?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Housewife? Oh this is a good story.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
So season one aired, and you know the d the
d MB or the DC Maryland Virginia area is it's
a it's a microcosm. It's big, but it's small. Everybody
kind of knows each other. So when the show first started,
I was like, wait a minute, what where was I
when they were making these calls?
Speaker 2 (07:50):
No one called me to be on the show. And
I remember watching.
Speaker 6 (07:54):
How Dare you?
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Like?
Speaker 6 (07:56):
What do you mean?
Speaker 3 (07:57):
And so you know, I watched everyone because it was
the only the second iteration of a Black Housewives franchise,
So I was very excited about that. I lived at
the time in the DMV for over ten fifteen years
at the time, So you want to see who's on
the show, Where are they going to go, where are
they going to eat, who are they gonna see? So
(08:20):
I'm watching with my boyfriend at the time my husband now,
and we get to season two and I'm like, this
is like I should be on the show. And I
remember thinking, this is the perfect vehicle to catapult me
into all of the dreams and the goals that the
Lord has put on me to do. And so I prayed.
(08:41):
I literally remember, because I would always pray. I had
a couch at the foot of my bed where I
would pray, and I would. I got down and I
just I said, Lord, if this opportunity is meant for me,
I promise that I will do my best.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
I'll try to use it to glorify you.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
And literally kim the maybe. Like a couple of months later,
I was helping my husband open a restaurant, Myron mix
Ins at the time, and I got an email from
a casting director about doing the show. And I remember saying,
this literally feels like Housewives because they don't say in
the in the in the subject, it's very like clandestine's
(09:19):
very like an ensemble cast.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Is looking for dynamic women. Blah blah blah. I was like,
this sounds like Housewives.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
That's crazy, and I responded I had my first casting
call and then I had like a myriad of calls
after that, and the rest is history.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
That's amazing.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Wow, okay, so you haven't looked back Nope. Okay.
Speaker 5 (09:37):
So one of the reasons you were so great on
the show is because you gave shade like nobody else
I did. Yes, you did, and yes, yes and even
with thanks for look though me when you would do
the confessionals and it seemed like you were saying something
nice about somebody and then right at the end, yeah,
you do call.
Speaker 4 (09:57):
Out somebody's forehead. Well you know who I'm talking.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
About, Ceial is there?
Speaker 6 (10:00):
Yes? Yeah.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
So I have to ask you.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
You're no longer on the show, correct, Do you still
maintain relationships with any of those women, in particular Karen,
who's going through it right now? Yes, Like, are you
guys still in touch?
Speaker 4 (10:14):
How is she doing?
Speaker 6 (10:16):
So?
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Yes, I do still speak to some of the women.
I actually just had a very long lunch with Wendy
because I haven't had a baby, so it's hard to
get away. And it just so happened that my husband
was off that day and we were supposed to go
to lunch at twelve, and we got there at one
(10:36):
because we're late, and we were there until seven, and
Chris is like, are you coming? How I'm like, sir,
be seated with my child and relax, like, I don't
go out, so let me be out. We just talked
and because I hadn't talked to her like at length
and so long, so it was nice to catch up.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Karen I have not spoken to as of late for
obvious reasons.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
Prior to her going away, I had been keeping in
touch and checking in, and she was checking in on
me throughout my whole pregnancy. She was checking in and
making sure I was okay and seeing how I was
feeling when I had yet we kind of kept it
very close to the vest, and she was like, I
feel like you had the babies and you don't have
to tell me, but I feel like you did, so
(11:19):
if you did, just know that I'm excited. She's always
been that supportive person for me. So this turn of
events is devastating to say the least. And you know,
and I say that in the same breath that I
also say that, you know, drinking and driving is never okay,
It's never right. But I also say that in general,
(11:41):
I hate a pile on with anyone for any reason,
and I just just resent greatly how intensely the public
has decided to pile on to a woman who is
dealing with demons much in the way that we all
deal with demons. Everybody in the world, everybody in this
(12:03):
room and listening to the sound of my voice right now,
has their stuff. And you are lucky or whatever you
want to call it enough to not have to have
your demons played out for the world to see. Therefore,
you think you're better or worse than someone. Karen has
stuff to deal with, and she will have time to
(12:24):
sit and think about it and deal with it. But
to crucify her when instead we should be helping her
and helping her to uplift is you know, sort of
where I sit with it. Yeah, what were your favorite
moments while doing that project? Oh God, I like how
you said that that project, because yes, it was certainly
(12:45):
a project. I always reference Karen the wig shift moment.
That will probably always be one of my favorite moments
that when reacting, well, my wig is tacked down to
my four it's not gonna move, okay. But yes, Karen,
we were sweating. We were doing bubble Soccer. That was
(13:05):
my first season, that was my first all cast event,
so I was kind of nervous, like, oh, my gosh,
how am I going to do this?
Speaker 2 (13:13):
And that was toward the end. We were eating.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
We didn't have napkins, which I did not live down
for many seasons. And yeah, she Karen is just so easy,
easy to create entertainment. So she she's sweating and the
wig is the shifting.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
We call it a wig shift, her wig. It was
her wig shift moment.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
And you know, I'm sitting next to her, so I
can see that it's doing a slide, it's regressing, and
I was like, ooh, and she I see she's trying
to fix it, but she's not doing that.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
So I'm like, oh, let me. So I'm like, do
I touch it?
Speaker 3 (13:49):
I don't, you know, I'm just meeting these women, so
I don't want to get to, you know, too intimate
into the people's wigs. And it just became this like
moment that I, to me, is the most hilarious moment
on the show.
Speaker 4 (14:03):
She's eating while.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Yes is doing its own dance. Yes, so are you
the wig shifter?
Speaker 6 (14:09):
Now?
Speaker 2 (14:10):
So if you see somebody's wig, well you yes, it's
the girls.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Girl in me is not ever going to let a
black woman walk around with a crooked wig. If I
can help it. Yes, No, if I don't like you
be crooked all day. But if we're if I see
good in you, yes, I want to help get the
wig together. Yes, yes, okay, So you are looking fantastic.
I'm looking I'm loving this purple on purple.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
You're very welcome. So I know you have some big
events tonight, I do.
Speaker 6 (14:42):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Is this the gland for tonight? This is the glam
for tonight.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
It was also the glam for yesterday's Yes.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
So you know.
Speaker 3 (14:52):
I'm a pageant girl. I'm a former Miss United States.
One of the things that you learn in the pageant
space is how to do your own makeup because a
lot of times you have to do your own makeup backstage.
So I learned very early and from watching my mom
as a child, because she was like a makeup girl,
how to do my own makeup. And it has served
me well most of my life.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
So you know, I I don't have time to sit
in the chair every day.
Speaker 3 (15:18):
It's so tedious and daunting to have to sit for
an hour and a half to two hours while somebody's
like stabbing you in the eye and getting fall out
all over your face.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
It's too much. It's too much.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
So whenever I can, I do what's called a face preservation.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Tell us more.
Speaker 3 (15:36):
And you know, I honestly I don't recommend this. This
is not for everyone, okay, because everyone's skin is not
created equal. Okay, everyone in here has beautiful skin. We
are all melani most of us are melanated, yes, and
we have beautiful skin. So I don't don't do this
(15:57):
and then call me and say, Candice, I have a
because of you.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
That's not my fault.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Yeah, I mean, because really, what we're getting into right
now is is sleeping in makeup.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Okay, let's talk. It's not. It's not. I don't recommend it.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
However, if you want to be gangster, how do you
do it?
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Okay? So I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
Yes, Okay, So number number one thing is you need
to you should be doing this anyway. You just sleep
on a satin pillow king, which you should be doing anyway,
because it's best for your skin. It's great for your hair,
it prevents breakage, it helps to promote oil production, and
keeps your skin from drying out. But especially for this
(16:38):
preservation process, the makeup does not transfer as easily on
the satin as it would on cotton. So you want
to sleep on satin, but you're laying with your head
to the pillow though, No, you can lay on your side.
So what I do before I go to bed, first
of all, it's it's important to have a good first
makeup application. Make sure that you are setting between layers
(17:01):
your spray and you're powdering down. You want to like
slack the face before you get to the next day. Okay,
So this is a great makeup application. Shout out to
d D Kelly. She beat my face yesterday. Before you
go to bed, blot blot your whole face. I will
then take a pressed powder and just dust it all over,
(17:22):
and then I will do a setting spray. Well, I'll
do a like a rose water and then a setting
spray and then you let it ride down and you
pray about.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
It and go to sleep.
Speaker 6 (17:32):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (17:32):
So the prayer is probably the most important part, because yes,
because I tried to.
Speaker 4 (17:39):
This was.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
What's that Off the Run Tour by Beyonce on the
Run on the Run? Okay, she came to Miami. I
was in Miami and I had to go to Cuba
the next day, and so my makeup was on point
for the concert, and I said, I'm gonna wear this
makeup to Cuba.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
My flight was at like seven in the morning. Yeah, okay.
Got home from the concert about one o'clock and I
try to go to sleep.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
My face was itching. I said, oh damn, I gotta
take this off. Yeah, I gotta take it off. And
since then, I've never ever slept in it. But you know,
I struggle with putting on lashes. You can see one
of my lashes is a little crazy, very natural, thank
you very much. So if somebody does my makeup, you know,
a couple yesterday, a couple days ago, I tried to,
(18:22):
you know, keep.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
The lashes Jack. Yes, I will do that, but my
face it has to.
Speaker 6 (18:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It's like I said, I don't recommend it. It's literally
you have it. It's for the gangsters.
Speaker 6 (18:33):
A black don't crack it doesn't. Black people get sign
burned too.
Speaker 7 (18:38):
As my cousin skimming skin and this little woman for
man on how this summer streets?
Speaker 6 (18:43):
Oh no, I got the beach streets and beach yes
or black.
Speaker 7 (18:46):
Girl side screen found in twenty sixteen. Shout out to
the owner shot Lundy. She the skin Queen. She gave
me the black Print song going land, stay mortialized, but
take your skin from hyper pimentations for every occasion. Use
that's yes, you're around b g yes for every persuasion.
Speaker 6 (19:03):
Bring a bottle with you on you on that sun sunscreen, Sae.
See on you girl, you look amazed.
Speaker 7 (19:10):
If you're going up and take your skin, crane, make
sure you get some.
Speaker 6 (19:13):
Black girl sunscreen.
Speaker 7 (19:16):
Your gang just d on your black girl sunscreen. Black
don't crack it doesn't black people get sun burns.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
We gotta talk about skincare here because you're talking to
black girls sunscreen, right, and you in full clam So
I have to assume I could be wrong that there
wasn't an application of sunscreen this morning. There was not
this morning, okay, Yes, however there was yesterday, Okay, okay,
So what's your relationship with sunscreen?
Speaker 6 (19:45):
So?
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Growing up, I my father, My father is a physician,
and my my father was very much like, oh, we're black,
Sure we don't need sunscreen.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
What type of physician. He's emergency medicine.
Speaker 4 (20:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:02):
And this was like twenty years ago, and so I
remember that was my first introduction to sunscreen. It was like, oh,
that's for white people, we don't need Your dad will
tell you this. Yeah, my dad, my family. What was
it from his experience like an er or why? I
think that was just his experience as a man. I
don't think it was tied to anything medical because I
(20:24):
don't know that he he's not dermatologist. I don't know
that he experienced skin ailments. So yeah, so that I
believe my dad and just in my culturally around me,
that was the conversation. Oh, that's for white people. Sunscreen.
We don't use sunscreen. The darker you are, the less
you need it. That was the rationale.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
How are you feeling about it now? Oh?
Speaker 3 (20:47):
Now, as a self proclaimed skincare guru, I recognize fully
and completely the importance of using a sunprotected as a
skin protectant, not just for your face.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
There's a.
Speaker 3 (21:02):
The nail salon I go to. Someone started doing this
and I followed the trend. I put sunscreen on my
hands before I cure them in the UV lamp lamp. Yeah, yes,
black girls, sunscreen. We have UPF gloves right and Google.
That will be in your It may be in your
package today, so when you go get your nails done. Yeah,
(21:24):
it's preserving all this skin, because you know your hands
and your neck will tell your age. Yeah, yes, So
how often are you in full glam daily? You know,
I had this baby, so I've I've been looking real
pedestrian of late, not pedestrian with nothing.
Speaker 2 (21:42):
In my face.
Speaker 3 (21:43):
But I'm getting back into a space where I'm going
to be in full glam often, Like this is so
you like being in full glam?
Speaker 2 (21:55):
No, I used to. I used to love it. I
don't mind.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
It's hard now with a baby because I want to
like be in my baby's face and I want to
kiss him and he's like headbutting me and he so
makeup is getting everywhere, So it's becoming a bit of
a challenge now. But makeup is fun and yeah, I
love how you can sort of change your face and
you know, create a mood with your makeup. So yes,
(22:22):
like there'll be a part of me that always loves
the glamor of it all. Okay, thank you for sharing that,
because we definitely have conversations on makeup very often here.
You know, if men should be able to request if
you wear makeup? Yeah, because men like to talk about
women in their makeup and see you in your natural state.
So without a lash without a foundation, without who.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Are these men?
Speaker 3 (22:45):
Men that have opinions? Oh yeah, men that have opinions?
They should keep them. You know, what does your hair
look like? So then they can determine if they want
to proceed in a relationship based off of your natural
appearance and not the facade.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
Interesting.
Speaker 3 (23:04):
Well, I that's that's a that's a that's a take,
that's a that's a way to think.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
What do you think about that? Do you think a
man should have a say? I?
Speaker 3 (23:15):
I think that if if I meet, if we're so,
are we like meeting at a bar.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
Maybe first or second date?
Speaker 4 (23:22):
Sex?
Speaker 3 (23:23):
Second date, you bring a wipe to the tate to
the day and wipe. He might request, come with come,
come as Candace. This is Candace. Okay, this is natural Candace. No, no,
no makeup, and what's your hair look like? I'm not
asking you, but that's the request.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
I mean, I can.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
Given the the the creativity, and this just how how
well we have progressed technologically with makeup and hair.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
You really can create like a whole different version of yourself.
I mean, like my hair under here, my here is darker.
I have like darker highlights and a darker color. This
is a blonde wig, but underneath it's it's probably closer
to what you have on your head now.
Speaker 3 (24:10):
And yeah, I eyebrows can change your whole face. This
is these are facts as well. Contour can change your face.
But as a man, you're why are you in women's business?
That's always been my thoughts. That's that's women's business. Like
I'm not asking you to take off your beijing. Okay,
we're not talking about you know, those holes in your beard. Okay,
(24:30):
it could be, but if it is, very sorry, let's
go to the dermatologists. But if it's not, I'm I'm
gonna take you as you are with with your beijing,
with your your beard. That doesn't connect. I'm not like
I want to know, like what's your four okay? Looking
like okay, like what's what? What are your financial plans?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Okay? How how do you raise children? Okay?
Speaker 3 (24:55):
What how do you do you save money? You asking
about my eyebrows? I'm talking about the future. So we
are not yo, So I'm ready to go. That's what
I would say.
Speaker 5 (25:04):
Wow, but you clearly found your partner, because let's.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Let's do a little shout out to Chris.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Hi Swan yes, wait wait wait, hold on, okay, can
I can?
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Is that a correlation to the complexion? It is complexion?
Speaker 3 (25:23):
No, okay, interesting, No, it's do you know the movie,
the Adam Sandler movie is it Billy Madison.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Where he's like, what are you doing? Swan? One day
he just was like, he said that to me, like,
what are you doing? Swan? I was like, what is that?
Speaker 3 (25:39):
And we just started calling each other swan And then
from Swan he started calling me Swannisha, and then.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
From Swan Nisha. What do you call him?
Speaker 3 (25:50):
I call it swan cracker, I should, yes, he calls me,
and then it just became niche. So now he just
calls me nishe and it's from swaneeh banter. Yes, great, yes,
yes that's nice one.
Speaker 4 (26:04):
He has always had your back on the show. Yes,
always had and you always had his bag.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Yes.
Speaker 5 (26:09):
You guys have always been very open and honest about
your journey.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Yeah. You wanted a.
Speaker 4 (26:14):
Baby, yeah, a baby.
Speaker 6 (26:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (26:16):
Now his life changed with motherhood.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Oh my gosh, motherhood is ghetto.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
Yeah, motherhood is it's it's it is the most beautiful
and complicated hood that you could ever belong to. But
really postpart of this ghetto motherhood. Motherhood is cute. I'll
take motherhood post pardon part. We need to talk about her.
She's she's raggedy, but having because my husband has children already,
(26:49):
so I've seen him as a father and he's a
great father, but to see him with a brand new
baby that we made together is like such a It's
just a special position and it's I feel so I
feel lucky to get to experience this with with Chris.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
He's he really has.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
He's taken on like such a leadership role, especially because
when I gave birth, I was sick for a while.
I had a blood clot that like had me just
down and out. I was in a lot of pain.
I had to take blood dinners to dissolve the clot
and I was really like no good.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
I couldn't hold my baby. I couldn't do anything.
Speaker 3 (27:35):
So Chris really stepped up and was the the mom
and dad for a long time. And he's he all
of the like the nuanced details of taking care of
a baby that I was privy to because I had
read about it or seen all my friends who have
kids go through it. He just he was so ready
(27:56):
to take on. He's like the bottle washing whisper for
he gets all the formula, he makes, all the bottles,
he watches all the bottles, watches all the everything. He
just bought Jet this bouncer thing, and my mom sent
me a picture of him and this bouncer, and I'm like,
oh my God, Like he's he just he he has
his own plans and ideas for our son, which I love,
(28:20):
Like I love that they have their own independent situation
and he's it's it's just it's been so cool to
watch him be a dad. Yeah, I love it. Do
you have an extra set of hands support in the family?
Every now and then, my shout out to my mom.
My mom is actually home with Jet now. She lives
(28:41):
in Atlanta. She flew up for this weekend so that
I could come out here and work when I was out.
Every time I've come to LA for work, this is
my third trip since I gave birth. My mom flies
up and then my sister Crystal will come over and
help my mom. So yeah, I I feel really blessed
to have that village because one of the things I
(29:02):
remember hearing from all of my friends that have kids
is childcare is so daunting. It's challenging people, you know,
going through nannies like Kleenex. Yeah, that's what I was
getting to. Yeah, right, just because of what the schedule. Yes,
and if you don't have the family, but you do, yes,
and that's very helpful.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Yeah. Lord, simme the nanny and tune.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
In for the rest of Kandas's you see episode next week,
y'all because it gets even better.
Speaker 6 (29:31):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
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