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September 25, 2025 12 mins
Aly’s dealing with some serious aunt guilt this week — she missed one of her niece’s big events and can’t stop thinking about it. Now she’s on a mission to make it up to her and earn back her “favorite aunt” status. Mike weighs in on how to handle the guilt trips from family and shares how he’s tried to make things right after missing an important moment too.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Billy Currington on ninety three point seven B ninety three.
It's the B ninety three Morning Show. I'm Alli Max.
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
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Speaker 1 (00:17):
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forty five. You ever had a moment where one of
your kids like said something and it just made.

Speaker 2 (00:26):
You so sad.

Speaker 1 (00:28):
Yes, absolutely, it's happened with my niece this past weekend.
I just I dropped the ball. I actually think it
was a collective effort a couple of us, just like
we're not on top of our communication.

Speaker 3 (00:39):
Oh yeah, she.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Had this big like debut of this like dance cheer.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
They do this every once in a while with the
high schools.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
The elementary school kids get to like cheer with the
cheerleaders and the dance team at halftime at the football game.
It's usually towards the beginning of the year. And last
year my niece Charlotte got to do it. She's like
the first grandkid, first niece or nephew for anybody, so
we were all there cheering so loud. I did not
realize that same thing except for her little sister was

(01:11):
last Friday, So I was.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
Not there, was anybody? Was it just you?

Speaker 1 (01:17):
No, her parents were there, but like it was kind
of a collective fail on me, my other sister, Like
we were all at Charlotte's last year, and we just
like we were not at Violet's the gold Rush game,
that's what they call it. Oh yeah, and uh she noticed,
Oh yeah, she noticed. She wanted to know why, Like,
how come everybody came to Charlottes last year and nobody

(01:39):
came to mind? I cried.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
I cried. I felt so terrible.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
It's tough communication issue, scheduling issue.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
It's not like I couldn't have gone. I definitely could have.

Speaker 1 (01:53):
I didn't have anything going on on Friday night, so
I could have just sipped over there for a couple
hours and watched her at the game and come home. Yeah,
and it just it didn't happen. And I feel like
this is my hope. My hope is that that moment
stays with me much much longer than it will stay
with her. I hope that she's just back in her

(02:15):
routine and she's not gonna remember that.

Speaker 3 (02:17):
Yeah, or you establish it now you say, well, I
just love your sister more so's I'm kidding, I've joking.
I'm joking. As I said it, I didn't even like
the joke at kidding.

Speaker 1 (02:27):
Yeah, but yeah, it just it ripped my heart out
and I felt like the world's worst aunt.

Speaker 3 (02:34):
No. I know, that's tough. That's tough, and as a
as a dad of three, like you can only get
it right so many times. There's gonna be mess ups.
There's gonna be but when they when they throw those
little things at you, yeah, it just rips your heart
and soul out. And she'll grow and she'll realize that
you didn't mean to but like it will stick with you.

(02:57):
In my opinion, if the fact that you can this
much right now and this is like the first time
it's ever happened, You're gonna be just great. You're already
a great ass.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
And like she's the middle child and her family and
like middle child, and I'm like worried about that now,
and I'm like, Okay, you gotta send me the soccer
schedule so I like can't miss a game for the
rest of the season and I can.

Speaker 2 (03:18):
Come to stop if I just know what's happening.

Speaker 3 (03:21):
Well, what uh, what I've done in the past is
I've tried to overcompensate for it. So next thing, you know,
because I don't want to same with my my son
Milo is like he's the middle child, so I don't
want him to have that whole middle child syndrome. But
like so if I miss something or screw something up,
or if if something like that happens, I'll opever compensate

(03:43):
for it, And next thing you know, he's coming out.
I got toys, I got Legos in matchbox cars and
all these other things that it doesn't it doesn't need that,
I know, but I get it. I understand the feeling
one hundred percent.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
Oh man.

Speaker 1 (03:59):
It's just like there are not many moments as an
aunt or as an uncle that you just feel so
defeated and deflated and just like bad right because I'm
not the parent. But the fact that she like specifically
asked like, hey, you went to Charlotte's last year. You
did not come to mind this year? What is the deal?

(04:19):
And I was like, yeah, you're totally right. And then
I went to call her on Saturday and be like
I'm so sorry, and she my sister was like she's
having a rough morning.

Speaker 2 (04:30):
She doesn't want to talk on the phone.

Speaker 1 (04:31):
And I was like, great, so I she's she's five,
severing ties with me.

Speaker 3 (04:38):
She's five. I know she's five, and she's probably just
had a rough morning.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
I know. But in my adult brain, she.

Speaker 3 (04:46):
Clearly hates you, and you have you have changed the
course like butterfly effect. You have changed the course of
the history of her life.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
Now, so I gotta be on it for the rest
of this year. Man, Yes, I take that seriously.

Speaker 3 (04:59):
I see that, and that's amazing to see. But I
promise you, after some therapy, she will get over. She will,
she will get through.

Speaker 2 (05:11):
I did another bad Okay.

Speaker 1 (05:13):
My niece, my second niece, had her big like cheer
dance debut at the high school football game last Friday. Okay,
they do this with the kids like once a year.
And her sister, her older sister, did this last year,
and like we all went.

Speaker 2 (05:29):
This was like a big thing, like we all got tickets.

Speaker 1 (05:32):
We watched her at the halftime and like it was,
you know, big family event. And her little sister, my
second niece, did that last Friday, and I wasn't there.

Speaker 3 (05:43):
So it's your second niece. So you've done this before, yes.

Speaker 1 (05:46):
You know, and she noticed she wanted to know, like, hey,
how come everybody came last year for Charlotte's and nobody
came this year for mine? And I just, oh, man,
twist that knife right in my heart.

Speaker 2 (05:58):
Violet.

Speaker 3 (05:58):
It's uh, I'm not saying you're the start to her
middle child syndrome.

Speaker 2 (06:05):
That's what I'm worried about.

Speaker 3 (06:07):
I know it is. It is tough. It is, especially
when there's you're you're trying your hardest to not obviously
obviously you're not. You don't want to miss it, obviously. Yeah,
it was just mix up and you can't explain that
to a five year old, right.

Speaker 1 (06:18):
So now, like what do I do because now the
only thing I'm thinking of is like middle child syndrome,
and like she's already starting to like maybe not figure
out those dynamics quite yet. Yeah, but she definitely noticed
that we weren't there and we were last year for
her sister.

Speaker 3 (06:34):
Yeah. It's honestly, it's it's the hardest thing about being
an aunt and an uncle but also parent aunt and uncle.
You can bop in a little bit more and I
think you, I think you're gonna be Okay, you can't
miss anything. You better not miss anything.

Speaker 1 (06:50):
Right, I'm like, you got to send me the dance schedule,
the soccer schedule, like I am on it for the
rest of the year.

Speaker 4 (06:56):
Man.

Speaker 3 (06:57):
So how beautiful? I mean, you do have to make
up or I don't know how you gonna do it.

Speaker 2 (07:00):
I don't know how I'm gonna do it either, But.

Speaker 3 (07:02):
How beautiful is it that she cared that much that
you were there?

Speaker 2 (07:06):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (07:08):
I wasn't, but wow, but I was this time. That
will not happen to give or or this is this?
This probably just start to therapy. This is probably just
where therapy. My aunt is one thing, she's five.

Speaker 1 (07:25):
But seriously, that is kind of what I'm worried about.
Do your kids notice stuff like this? Like do you
already see the birth order dynamics? Like them just noticing?
If so, what do you do?

Speaker 2 (07:37):
What do I do now?

Speaker 3 (07:39):
So one of my uh, one of my things that
we do every morning is I write the kids a
note on the counter, put them a sticky note on
the counter. Yeah, I started with sas and it's usually
just like, you know, have a great day. It's separate
for each one. But like Milo can't read right, just yet.
He's in kindergarten, so he's kind of learning, you know,
letters and how to read and stuff like that. So

(07:59):
I just didn't write him one, Like I just I
wrote one for Sas and said, hey, just read this
to him.

Speaker 4 (08:04):
M m.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
That was not the movie.

Speaker 3 (08:07):
Oh that was not the move. Oh daddy. I just wondered, like,
do you not like it was a whole sit down,
and he didn't. I don't think kids like know that
they're doing that, they're breaking your heart. I don't think
they I don't think your niece knows that she's doing that. Oh,
but she knows exactly what to say and it's just
pure honesty. And yeah, so I went out and bottom

(08:29):
a lion shirt and I go to is like my bad.

Speaker 1 (08:35):
And you're the obviously the parent, so you have a
lot more like face time with them to sort of,
you know, take him to do something special to sort
of make up for it.

Speaker 3 (08:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (08:45):
I lived two and a half hours away, So by
the time I get the opportunity to like make up
for it, does she even know or remember like what
this is making up for?

Speaker 2 (08:57):
Like what do I do now?

Speaker 3 (08:58):
Oh? That is a tricky situation because she might not.
They Usually they're kind of like and then.

Speaker 1 (09:03):
Do I say to her like, this is because I
missed your gait, and like pointed out again.

Speaker 3 (09:09):
No, she will for you.

Speaker 2 (09:10):
What do I do?

Speaker 3 (09:11):
She will for you?

Speaker 2 (09:13):
All right, Angela, what do I do?

Speaker 3 (09:14):
You see? I told you that's the aunt and uncle
move right, that's.

Speaker 4 (09:19):
The that's the ant thing to do.

Speaker 3 (09:21):
Yeah. How big are we talking here? Like ten to
fifteen bucks?

Speaker 2 (09:25):
Yeah?

Speaker 4 (09:25):
No, probably I'm closer to fifty.

Speaker 3 (09:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:28):
So I was thinking, yeah, all right, well, oh send
her if somebody said send.

Speaker 2 (09:35):
Her flowers, I love that idea, that would be cute.

Speaker 1 (09:38):
But then I didn't. But then I didn't do that
for her sister last year. So then is it just
like this never ending?

Speaker 3 (09:46):
That's the thing. It's like, you can't you You're.

Speaker 4 (09:48):
Not gonna ye this one.

Speaker 2 (09:51):
Yeah, and just hope that they understand what's going on.

Speaker 4 (09:55):
Yeah, my grandkids get it. When I get one something,
then the other one doesn't, and then they get it
the present. They know exactly what it's for.

Speaker 2 (10:06):
All right, Angela, good advice. Thank you, You're welcome.

Speaker 3 (10:09):
I have a good day.

Speaker 2 (10:10):
YouTube by who's this and where are you from?

Speaker 3 (10:12):
Hi?

Speaker 4 (10:13):
Gary from Muskegan calling, in.

Speaker 2 (10:15):
All right, Gary, what's your advice?

Speaker 4 (10:17):
Boy? I don't know if I have advice, just the observation.
No longer just an uncle, but I'm a grandfather. I
guess I would offer, do you wanna do you want
to have that special relationship with your niece? Right? Yeah,
she's five years old, she's a little person. She's definitely smart.

(10:40):
She own it. You make the apology that you couldn't
make it to the game, but maybe offer to pay
herson or do something special just just with her, do
and her one on one.

Speaker 3 (10:52):
Yeah. I had to do that one time with Uh.
That's a great advice. I had to do that one
time with my son. We'd taken her sister to something.
Long story short, I took him to a movie, a movie.
He loved it. It was just him and I day,
and he completely forgot about the thing that happened in
that moment.

Speaker 4 (11:11):
Sure, there's gonna be disappointments in life, but if you're
there for him, as you said, you spent the time
with him with this movie, that's that was a great
thing to do.

Speaker 1 (11:20):
All right, I'm gonna take that advice and run with
it and keep you guys posted.

Speaker 4 (11:27):
They know that you love them, and they and they
see it when you spend the time with them.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
Okay, well I hope so because I'm feeling bad.

Speaker 4 (11:36):
Don't don't feel bad. Just just be there for him.

Speaker 2 (11:40):
All right, Thank you, Gary, appreciate you too. Bye.

Speaker 3 (11:45):
I also go half on that therapy bill. I'm just kidding.

Speaker 2 (11:52):
That's gonna cut. But what I'm hearing is that this
was an expensive mistake.

Speaker 3 (11:57):
It teaches us as as aunts and uncle as parents.
We don't want to make that mistake again. Obviously for
the right reasons, but also.

Speaker 1 (12:08):
And I don't just want to be the aunt or
the uncle or whatever that just like buys them stuff,
you know, like oh, well she she always got his
gifts and stuff like I want to be like, oh
she was there, Yeah, she was there. And this was
just totally totally my bad scheduling issue, but not really
because I didn't have anything going on.

Speaker 2 (12:26):
I just yeah, it happens. It happens, But it is.

Speaker 3 (12:30):
Not the first. It's not the first, it's not the last.
It won't be the last.

Speaker 2 (12:35):
It won't It might be the last.
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