August 7, 2025 • 15 mins
Mike opens up about a personal conversation he had with his wife, Ali he’s wondering if it's selfish to ask her to stay home with the kids a little longer instead of going back to work. Aly jumps in with her thoughts, and the phone lines light up as listeners weigh in with their own stories and opinions. It's a real, honest conversation about parenting, partnership, and the tough decisions families face every day.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Hey, y'all, sounder, get down with your favorite moaning show.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It don't matter if you at home. More y'all already
for a good time.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Three moaning shoes.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Michigan's number one for new country be Naughty three. It
is the b Natty three Morning Show. I'm Ali Max
and I'm Mike. Today we are talking about something that
Mike opened up about and we're getting a little vulnerable
today on the morning show.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
These are my least favorite conversations because I can't like,
I'm not joking, I'm not being silly, I'm not being
like I feel not only uncomfortable, but I feel.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
And I'm wrong.
Speaker 5 (00:47):
That's real life, man.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
I know and I'm wrong, which is the worst.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
I don't think you're necessarily wrong. I think that this
is a really tough decision that a lot of couples
and families have to weigh the options and just decide.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
Like there's not a right or wrong answer here.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
No, but I feel I do feel selfish in this one.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
So for probably since my second child, my wife has
been able, she works in the dental field, she's been
able to stay home. Well, they don't work Fridays, so
she's had that day and then we gradually added a
day each year. Every time we kind of saved for
it and prepared for it and budgeted and did all
the things.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
Like it's been tight for like five six years now.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
But it was always a goal of ours to have
one of us be home with the kids as they're little,
because we know a daycare is expensive, but b those
moments are are only you only get like one through
four or five ish, and then they're off to school
and then you're only seeing them a portion of the
day and so and then summertime obviously, but and so
(01:53):
those moments we wanted to hold on to, you know,
I wanted her to.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
She wanted to as.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Well, to to capture everything, to be there to remember
it so that when they get older we still have that.
And I never really had that a kid as a kid,
and her mom worked in daycare, so she kind of
had it growing up. Anyways, we've had that for the
last couple of years. My youngest is two now, so
he's still home and she's still home with him, but
(02:20):
she there might be an opportunity presenting itself in the
next It could be a year from now, it could
be you know, it's it's been put out there that
this is a future opportunity where she basically goes back
to work pretty much full time. She'd get out when
the kids get out of school pretty much full time.
And as a and this is where I feel selfish,
(02:42):
I am happy for And this is what we wanted,
we want, we wanted when the kids went back to school,
or when the kids went to school period, when all
of the when we're in school, this was the goal.
Is she wanted to go back, we could, we would
financially become in a better place where we're not so
tight on everything and and and kind of move forward
looking towards our future now. But it has happened a
(03:03):
little bit faster than we expected m hm. And she's
pretty excited about it, and I genuinely kind of am hesitant,
like I I don't obviously I'm not going to tell
her no, like don't do this. It's her journey, it's
her it's it's kind of her thing, right, But I've
definitely expressed like this is our last.
Speaker 5 (03:23):
This is our last baby.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Yeah, he's not going to be a baby anymore.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
And I selfishly would love it if if that took
its time to happen.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Yeah, and that's where I feel selfish.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
And this is something I feel like I hear parents
and couples talk about. This is like the question of
the century, Like do you go back to work and
make a little bit more money, but then you're spending
a little bit more money because the kids got to
go to daycare if they're not technically and in big kids.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
School yet, Yeah, he's got a couple of years.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
Or do you save the money that you'd spend on
childcare and stay home? And it's not this black and
white decision, it's just what is the right answer?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Yeah, I think, And I I don't know. What did
you when you were growing up? Did you were your
parents home at all?
Speaker 5 (04:15):
Or they both worked?
Speaker 3 (04:17):
They both worked? They both worked, Okay.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
My mom had when I was young, Like in elementary school,
my mom had Wednesdays off, and oddly enough, I would
always get sick on Wednesdays because I just like I
wanted to be home with her. And it was like
a running joke, like the office ladies knew my game.
They were on to me and they were like okay,
(04:40):
like no, and like we still joke about it to
this day in my family. But yeah, I didn't have
stay at home I didn't have a stay at home parent.
My grandparents lived right next door to us, so they
were always kind of there. But both my parents worked.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Yeah, I think that's what a lot of people do,
is most parents work, and we've been fortunate enough to
at least do a couple days a week. We couldn't
ever do a full But like as a kid, I
never I never really had that. My parents always worked,
and then when I was old enough, they did. You know,
it didn't really matter. But I always thought it was
really cool to have the parent home because, ay, you
(05:17):
get to spend those bonding moments at bonding time with them,
but you are saved day cares.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Day cares expensive, super expensive.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
But if my wife feels comfortable where she's she's ready
to kind of at least entertain the idea of going
back sort of full time.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
I mean it would be four days a week.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
She's done at three, then I almost feel like I
don't have the right she's put in her time, Like
she's put in the work, like three kids been home
a couple of days a week, She's filled in the
gaps where I you know, I've had to be here
doing things like she she always like she felt uncomfortable
because I was making the money and she was, you know,
(06:00):
only working two days a week. And I had to
tell her, like, that job is six jobs in one.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
You're you're the I mean, you're the daycare, you're the
you're cleaning the house.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
You're doing eight million things that are are are worth
way more than any amount of money. And I think
she just wants to get back and we can get
into a comfortable place again.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
Yeah, I totally get that. I don't know, I totally
get that. And it's like, there's no there isn't a
right answer. It's just whatever works for you guys. Obviously,
I'm not a parent, so this isn't something that I
have really had to think or wrestle with or whatever.
But I have seen it all around me, my sisters
and their families and their kids, and my friends and
(06:42):
their families and their kids. But yeah, it's it's a
tough one. Six one six two four to two. Ninety
three ninety three is Michigan's number one for new country
B ninety three.
Speaker 5 (06:54):
It's the B ninety three Morning show.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
I'm Alli Mack and I'm Mike Today we're talking about
something that I think is like the conversation of the century,
especially with families and parents, and you kind of opened
up a little bit earlier and shared with us.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
But I don't. This isn't like dramatic or scandalous. This
is just real life.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
I just feel incredibly selfish for feeling the way that
I do, and I've I obviously would never tell my
wife not to pursue whatever makes her happy, right, But
long story short, my wife has been home for a
couple of days a week for the past few years.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Because we got little ones. They're going back to school.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
My youngest is two and so he's got a couple
more years and that was just our way to kind
of bond with the kids.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
And it was only a couple days a week, but
it still was.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
It was something, and she's we've always talked about her
going back someday, but that someday always felt like when
they were all in school, and.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
It might be here sooner than I think.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
And it's gonna be good for our planning for our future, right,
It's gonna be good to pay off some things that
we've slowly been tacked, but to do it much faster now,
but it takes away what I feel like was really
really cool that we were doing, and it was kind
of having that at home bond with the kids and
saving us money in other areas, like it saved us
(08:11):
day care money, it saved us, you know, gas money.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
She wasn't, you know, saving all those little things.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
You mentioned earlier that you kind of knew this was
going to happen eventually.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Eventually, yeah, because the plan was that she would go
and then get out of work at the same time
with kids get out of school, so we would have
more time because right now she doesn't get home till
later in the evening, so like we're two three days
a week.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
We aren't even really having dinner together.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
So perfect world scenario. When were you thinking that this
was going to happen?
Speaker 1 (08:40):
When when my youngest, Sebastian, who's two, started school.
Speaker 5 (08:45):
Okay, so a couple more years, it would.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Have been three at least three or four years, got it, okay?
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Which is Tough's I mean, we're already we're I know,
it's tough to even have a parent home a couple
of days a week. A lot of people aren't even
doing that. We've been able to do a couple of
days and still budget. We've been living tight for me
going on eleven years now.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
I guess, yeah, childcare is no joke. Yeah, it's no joke.
Six one six two four to two ninety three ninety three.
I think that this is a conversation that parents and
families have every single day. Not necessarily a right answer,
because it's not black and white. It's a little bit
different for everybody.
Speaker 5 (09:21):
Really.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Yeah, and I'd like to hear what choices you made
or didn't make, or wish you made.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
All those things are great to hear. I don't.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
I mean, ultimately, it's her decision, right, and I support
whatever she decides.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
I'm just being if I could.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Be selfish, If I could be selfish, that's what I
would say.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
Good morning, welcome to the B ninety three Morning Show.
What's your name and where you're from?
Speaker 6 (09:42):
My name is some danger and I live.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
In all right. So what's you got a piece of
advice for me and what I should do here?
Speaker 6 (09:50):
Well, typically most of the time, and I know you
saw that it's like worth more than what money can value,
but you can actually value how much work she's doing
based off of and most.
Speaker 7 (10:04):
Of the time.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
If you have a good enough job at outweighs working
outweighs the price of those things.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
I feel you there one hundred percent. And I did
sit down with her at one point.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
We went over like she's she's like the manager of
the house, and it's.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
A pretty yeah, it's pretty important. And I think her
thing is like, we are a little tight our money,
and we do budget pretty pretty heavy to do this,
and I think we have other things we have to
take care of and handle and plan for our future.
So I think eventually she and she wants to when
the kids go to school, wants to go back. So
I think that this opportunity was going to happen eventually.
(10:40):
I just didn't think it was going to happen as fast,
you know.
Speaker 6 (10:43):
Yeah, it's also good for her mental health to be
able to like disassociate from the kids sometimes and yeah,
correct for min and get her own time.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
That's a great point, great point. Thank you so much
for the call.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
Have a great day, six one, six two four to
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Speaker 5 (11:03):
This, because it's such.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
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and where are.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
You from Okay, I'm coming at you as someone who
was a stay at home mom okay, and is a
daycare teacher.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Oh let me yeah, let me hear it. Yeah, let
me hear it.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Okay. I would not have given up my time at
home with my kids.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yes, but I'm thinking that's what I thought. She wants
to go back.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
I am very much like, stay home as long as
you can, as long as you can.
Speaker 7 (11:37):
Here's the well, here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Okay, my husband and I sometimes.
Speaker 7 (11:43):
Didn't see each other all week long, and that that
made it very, very tough on our marriage. Oh, I
have her stay home, but I'll tell you at the
same time, she's gonna need a break.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
She's gonna need some time.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
I think that's great advice.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
I think, like, is it possible that like she goes
back because she wants to go back to work, but
then kind of realizes that, Like, Okay, I tried it,
it's not for me. I actually want to be at
home for the next couple of years. Like, do we
have that option to?
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Like, her job is incredibly flexible, it is probably that's
why she's able to do the two days a week.
Speaker 5 (12:23):
That's really nice.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
This position would actually be a shift in what she
normally does to more of like a front desk that
she's the face when when you walk into the it's
all everything she wants, everything she wants. Yeah, so I
don't know that that will happen. But my fear with
doing that, yes, it's to answer your question, yes, it's
one hundred percent possible she could should shift and come
(12:46):
back to what we're doing now is you can't get
like it won't matter every decision I make is is
it gonna matter five years from now? Yeah, it's gonna
matter a year from now, six months from now, whatever.
Five years from now. Will it matter that she took
this job now or or that she waited two or
three more years and then took the job. Sure, But
on the other end of that, will it matter two
or five years from now if she goes back to
(13:08):
work and doesn't have that time with the baby five
years from now? I don't know that it Either one
of those are answerable. I don't know. That's the tough
part here, because it might not matter other than she
won't get that time back with our youngest Sebastian, right,
and then that's just gone. But it's not like he's
going anywhere, Like it's yeah, it's tough.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
It is. It's so tough.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
And I don't have kids, so I mean this is
something that I can only sort of think about as
being a child of parents. Both my parents worked full time,
multiple jobs when I was growing up, and I will
tell you I don't feel like.
Speaker 5 (13:47):
I missed out on anything with them.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
See, And that's a great point though. That makes me
feel better about this decision.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
And you know what I feel like, because my mom
worked multiple jobs as I was growing up, it provided
a really great example for me, Like I don't think
I would be where I am in my career. I
don't think I would have the work ethic that I
had if I if she didn't like do that.
Speaker 5 (14:15):
But I don't know, because.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
There's nothing to say I wouldn't be where I am
if she stayed at home, right, But I just like
I remember her, you know, getting up for work every
day and putting on her like you know, fancy work
clothes and going into the office and being like that's
so cool.
Speaker 5 (14:30):
Yeah that's what I want to do, you know.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
See these are great things to hear, though these are
I never had it either, Like I never had my parents.
Maybe maybe they stayed home when I was younger, younger,
and see the fact that I don't even know and
won't remember means that it was just it's just a
u not selfish, but sort of parent decision where they
just want those times that time, in that moment, rather
than it really affecting a kid.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Not one time have I ever said to my mom
or even thought, I wish you would have stayed home
with me. But I also, like, I don't I didn't
live that. I didn't live with a stay at home mom,
so I also didn't know, you know, the other side
of it or what I may have been missing out on.
But I can tell you, like, I don't have this
huge regret from my childhood that.
Speaker 5 (15:13):
Is, I wish my mom would have stayed home. But
that's just my experience.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Yeah, No, I like that. Thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 5 (15:19):
Six one six two four two ninety three, ninety three
Hey, y'all, sounder, get down with your favorite moaning show.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
It don't matter if you at home. More y'all already
for a good time.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Three moaning shoes.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Michigan's number one for new country be Naughty three. It
is the b Natty three Morning Show. I'm Ali Max
and I'm Mike. Today we are talking about something that
Mike opened up about and we're getting a little vulnerable
today on the morning show.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
These are my least favorite conversations because I can't like,
I'm not joking, I'm not being silly, I'm not being
like I feel not only uncomfortable, but I feel.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
And I'm wrong.
Speaker 5 (00:47):
That's real life, man.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
I know and I'm wrong, which is the worst.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
I don't think you're necessarily wrong. I think that this
is a really tough decision that a lot of couples
and families have to weigh the options and just decide.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
Like there's not a right or wrong answer here.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
No, but I feel I do feel selfish in this one.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
So for probably since my second child, my wife has
been able, she works in the dental field, she's been
able to stay home. Well, they don't work Fridays, so
she's had that day and then we gradually added a
day each year. Every time we kind of saved for
it and prepared for it and budgeted and did all
the things.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
Like it's been tight for like five six years now.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
But it was always a goal of ours to have
one of us be home with the kids as they're little,
because we know a daycare is expensive, but b those
moments are are only you only get like one through
four or five ish, and then they're off to school
and then you're only seeing them a portion of the
day and so and then summertime obviously, but and so
(01:53):
those moments we wanted to hold on to, you know,
I wanted her to.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
She wanted to as.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
Well, to to capture everything, to be there to remember
it so that when they get older we still have that.
And I never really had that a kid as a kid,
and her mom worked in daycare, so she kind of
had it growing up. Anyways, we've had that for the
last couple of years. My youngest is two now, so
he's still home and she's still home with him, but
(02:20):
she there might be an opportunity presenting itself in the
next It could be a year from now, it could
be you know, it's it's been put out there that
this is a future opportunity where she basically goes back
to work pretty much full time. She'd get out when
the kids get out of school pretty much full time.
And as a and this is where I feel selfish,
(02:42):
I am happy for And this is what we wanted,
we want, we wanted when the kids went back to school,
or when the kids went to school period, when all
of the when we're in school, this was the goal.
Is she wanted to go back, we could, we would
financially become in a better place where we're not so
tight on everything and and and kind of move forward
looking towards our future now. But it has happened a
(03:03):
little bit faster than we expected m hm. And she's
pretty excited about it, and I genuinely kind of am hesitant,
like I I don't obviously I'm not going to tell
her no, like don't do this. It's her journey, it's
her it's it's kind of her thing, right, But I've
definitely expressed like this is our last.
Speaker 5 (03:23):
This is our last baby.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
Yeah, he's not going to be a baby anymore.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
And I selfishly would love it if if that took
its time to happen.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Yeah, and that's where I feel selfish.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
And this is something I feel like I hear parents
and couples talk about. This is like the question of
the century, Like do you go back to work and
make a little bit more money, but then you're spending
a little bit more money because the kids got to
go to daycare if they're not technically and in big kids.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
School yet, Yeah, he's got a couple of years.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
Or do you save the money that you'd spend on
childcare and stay home? And it's not this black and
white decision, it's just what is the right answer?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Yeah, I think, And I I don't know. What did
you when you were growing up? Did you were your
parents home at all?
Speaker 5 (04:15):
Or they both worked?
Speaker 3 (04:17):
They both worked? They both worked, Okay.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
My mom had when I was young, Like in elementary school,
my mom had Wednesdays off, and oddly enough, I would
always get sick on Wednesdays because I just like I
wanted to be home with her. And it was like
a running joke, like the office ladies knew my game.
They were on to me and they were like okay,
(04:40):
like no, and like we still joke about it to
this day in my family. But yeah, I didn't have
stay at home I didn't have a stay at home parent.
My grandparents lived right next door to us, so they
were always kind of there. But both my parents worked.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Yeah, I think that's what a lot of people do,
is most parents work, and we've been fortunate enough to
at least do a couple days a week. We couldn't
ever do a full But like as a kid, I
never I never really had that. My parents always worked,
and then when I was old enough, they did. You know,
it didn't really matter. But I always thought it was
really cool to have the parent home because, ay, you
(05:17):
get to spend those bonding moments at bonding time with them,
but you are saved day cares.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Day cares expensive, super expensive.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
But if my wife feels comfortable where she's she's ready
to kind of at least entertain the idea of going
back sort of full time.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
I mean it would be four days a week.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
She's done at three, then I almost feel like I
don't have the right she's put in her time, Like
she's put in the work, like three kids been home
a couple of days a week, She's filled in the
gaps where I you know, I've had to be here
doing things like she she always like she felt uncomfortable
because I was making the money and she was, you know,
(06:00):
only working two days a week. And I had to
tell her, like, that job is six jobs in one.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
You're you're the I mean, you're the daycare, you're the
you're cleaning the house.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
You're doing eight million things that are are are worth
way more than any amount of money. And I think
she just wants to get back and we can get
into a comfortable place again.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
Yeah, I totally get that. I don't know, I totally
get that. And it's like, there's no there isn't a
right answer. It's just whatever works for you guys. Obviously,
I'm not a parent, so this isn't something that I
have really had to think or wrestle with or whatever.
But I have seen it all around me, my sisters
and their families and their kids, and my friends and
(06:42):
their families and their kids. But yeah, it's it's a
tough one. Six one six two four to two. Ninety
three ninety three is Michigan's number one for new country
B ninety three.
Speaker 5 (06:54):
It's the B ninety three Morning show.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
I'm Alli Mack and I'm Mike Today we're talking about
something that I think is like the conversation of the century,
especially with families and parents, and you kind of opened
up a little bit earlier and shared with us.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
But I don't. This isn't like dramatic or scandalous. This
is just real life.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
I just feel incredibly selfish for feeling the way that
I do, and I've I obviously would never tell my
wife not to pursue whatever makes her happy, right, But
long story short, my wife has been home for a
couple of days a week for the past few years.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
Because we got little ones. They're going back to school.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
My youngest is two and so he's got a couple
more years and that was just our way to kind
of bond with the kids.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
And it was only a couple days a week, but
it still was.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
It was something, and she's we've always talked about her
going back someday, but that someday always felt like when
they were all in school, and.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
It might be here sooner than I think.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
And it's gonna be good for our planning for our future, right,
It's gonna be good to pay off some things that
we've slowly been tacked, but to do it much faster now,
but it takes away what I feel like was really
really cool that we were doing, and it was kind
of having that at home bond with the kids and
saving us money in other areas, like it saved us
(08:11):
day care money, it saved us, you know, gas money.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
She wasn't, you know, saving all those little things.
Speaker 4 (08:17):
You mentioned earlier that you kind of knew this was
going to happen eventually.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Eventually, yeah, because the plan was that she would go
and then get out of work at the same time
with kids get out of school, so we would have
more time because right now she doesn't get home till
later in the evening, so like we're two three days
a week.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
We aren't even really having dinner together.
Speaker 4 (08:36):
So perfect world scenario. When were you thinking that this
was going to happen?
Speaker 1 (08:40):
When when my youngest, Sebastian, who's two, started school.
Speaker 5 (08:45):
Okay, so a couple more years, it would.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Have been three at least three or four years, got it, okay?
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Which is Tough's I mean, we're already we're I know,
it's tough to even have a parent home a couple
of days a week. A lot of people aren't even
doing that. We've been able to do a couple of
days and still budget. We've been living tight for me
going on eleven years now.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
I guess, yeah, childcare is no joke. Yeah, it's no joke.
Six one six two four to two ninety three ninety three.
I think that this is a conversation that parents and
families have every single day. Not necessarily a right answer,
because it's not black and white. It's a little bit
different for everybody.
Speaker 5 (09:21):
Really.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Yeah, and I'd like to hear what choices you made
or didn't make, or wish you made.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
All those things are great to hear. I don't.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
I mean, ultimately, it's her decision, right, and I support
whatever she decides.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
I'm just being if I could.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Be selfish, If I could be selfish, that's what I
would say.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
Good morning, welcome to the B ninety three Morning Show.
What's your name and where you're from?
Speaker 6 (09:42):
My name is some danger and I live.
Speaker 3 (09:44):
In all right. So what's you got a piece of
advice for me and what I should do here?
Speaker 6 (09:50):
Well, typically most of the time, and I know you
saw that it's like worth more than what money can value,
but you can actually value how much work she's doing
based off of and most.
Speaker 7 (10:04):
Of the time.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
If you have a good enough job at outweighs working
outweighs the price of those things.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
I feel you there one hundred percent. And I did
sit down with her at one point.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
We went over like she's she's like the manager of
the house, and it's.
Speaker 3 (10:19):
A pretty yeah, it's pretty important. And I think her
thing is like, we are a little tight our money,
and we do budget pretty pretty heavy to do this,
and I think we have other things we have to
take care of and handle and plan for our future.
So I think eventually she and she wants to when
the kids go to school, wants to go back. So
I think that this opportunity was going to happen eventually.
(10:40):
I just didn't think it was going to happen as fast,
you know.
Speaker 6 (10:43):
Yeah, it's also good for her mental health to be
able to like disassociate from the kids sometimes and yeah,
correct for min and get her own time.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
That's a great point, great point. Thank you so much
for the call.
Speaker 4 (10:57):
Have a great day, six one, six two four to
ninety three, ninety three. If you want to weigh in on.
Speaker 5 (11:03):
This, because it's such.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
It's so real, Good morning, be ninety three. Who's this
and where are.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
You from Okay, I'm coming at you as someone who
was a stay at home mom okay, and is a
daycare teacher.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Oh let me yeah, let me hear it. Yeah, let
me hear it.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Okay. I would not have given up my time at
home with my kids.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
Yes, but I'm thinking that's what I thought. She wants
to go back.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
I am very much like, stay home as long as
you can, as long as you can.
Speaker 7 (11:37):
Here's the well, here's the thing.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Okay, my husband and I sometimes.
Speaker 7 (11:43):
Didn't see each other all week long, and that that
made it very, very tough on our marriage. Oh, I
have her stay home, but I'll tell you at the
same time, she's gonna need a break.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
She's gonna need some time.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
I think that's great advice.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
I think, like, is it possible that like she goes
back because she wants to go back to work, but
then kind of realizes that, Like, Okay, I tried it,
it's not for me. I actually want to be at
home for the next couple of years. Like, do we
have that option to?
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Like, her job is incredibly flexible, it is probably that's
why she's able to do the two days a week.
Speaker 5 (12:23):
That's really nice.
Speaker 1 (12:24):
This position would actually be a shift in what she
normally does to more of like a front desk that
she's the face when when you walk into the it's
all everything she wants, everything she wants. Yeah, so I
don't know that that will happen. But my fear with
doing that, yes, it's to answer your question, yes, it's
one hundred percent possible she could should shift and come
(12:46):
back to what we're doing now is you can't get
like it won't matter every decision I make is is
it gonna matter five years from now? Yeah, it's gonna
matter a year from now, six months from now, whatever.
Five years from now. Will it matter that she took
this job now or or that she waited two or
three more years and then took the job. Sure, But
on the other end of that, will it matter two
or five years from now if she goes back to
(13:08):
work and doesn't have that time with the baby five
years from now? I don't know that it Either one
of those are answerable. I don't know. That's the tough
part here, because it might not matter other than she
won't get that time back with our youngest Sebastian, right,
and then that's just gone. But it's not like he's
going anywhere, Like it's yeah, it's tough.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
It is. It's so tough.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
And I don't have kids, so I mean this is
something that I can only sort of think about as
being a child of parents. Both my parents worked full time,
multiple jobs when I was growing up, and I will
tell you I don't feel like.
Speaker 5 (13:47):
I missed out on anything with them.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
See, And that's a great point though. That makes me
feel better about this decision.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
And you know what I feel like, because my mom
worked multiple jobs as I was growing up, it provided
a really great example for me, Like I don't think
I would be where I am in my career. I
don't think I would have the work ethic that I
had if I if she didn't like do that.
Speaker 5 (14:15):
But I don't know, because.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
There's nothing to say I wouldn't be where I am
if she stayed at home, right, But I just like
I remember her, you know, getting up for work every
day and putting on her like you know, fancy work
clothes and going into the office and being like that's
so cool.
Speaker 5 (14:30):
Yeah that's what I want to do, you know.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
See these are great things to hear, though these are
I never had it either, Like I never had my parents.
Maybe maybe they stayed home when I was younger, younger,
and see the fact that I don't even know and
won't remember means that it was just it's just a
u not selfish, but sort of parent decision where they
just want those times that time, in that moment, rather
than it really affecting a kid.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Not one time have I ever said to my mom
or even thought, I wish you would have stayed home
with me. But I also, like, I don't I didn't
live that. I didn't live with a stay at home mom,
so I also didn't know, you know, the other side
of it or what I may have been missing out on.
But I can tell you, like, I don't have this
huge regret from my childhood that.
Speaker 5 (15:13):
Is, I wish my mom would have stayed home. But
that's just my experience.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
Yeah, No, I like that. Thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 5 (15:19):
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